Tim Humble – The Muslim Family #37 – Children and Their Worldly Education

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			leeuw and hamdulillah lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Abdullah he was solely Nabina
Muhammad while earlier he was so happy he made as salaam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh. As
always, we begin with the praise of Allah azza wa jal, and by asking Allah to exalt dimension and
add peace, to our messenger, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, to his family and his companions,
we've been speaking about the tarbiyah of our children. And remember, all of this is in the context
of the Rights of the Child over the parent, and the responsibilities and obligations of the parent
towards the child. And we came to the right, the responsibility of tarbiyah, of nurturing,
		

			preparing, and educating our children. And having spoken about some of the principles behind
tarbiyah examples of tarbiyah, we now came to talk about educating our children in terms of Islam,
and Alhamdulillah, we finished whatever Allah made easy for us to finish in that regard. And now we
come on to the topic of the worldly world, the education,
		

			a lot of people might be tempted, and even I sometimes find myself tempted to use the expression,
secular education. But actually don't think this is a very good expression to use, because it
indicates the word secular indicates that this education has nothing to do with the religion, and
isn't governed by the religion. And that's not true. The religion of Islam is one that calls you to
the best of this world and the next, and it calls for your children to have the best of this world
and the next, and therefore the religion of Islam governs the matters of our worldly lives. it
governs what we're allowed to do and not allowed to do. And it also directs us in worldly benefits,
		

			just as it directs us in our acts of worship, and coming near to Allah subhanaw taala. So I don't
really want to call it secular education, I'm instead going to call it worldly matters. And Allah
subhanaw taala he criticized and he rebuked the one whose knowledge is no more than the worldly
matters, worldly education. allies, which has said in sort of room Yeah, Ala Moana vorherigen
mineral hierarchy dunya wa hemani Earth erotic oncofetal they know what is apparent from this
worldly life. But as for the Hereafter, they are unaware of it. Look at how Eliza rebukes the
disbelievers. And I believe this is an idea that is very applicable to the disbelievers today. So
		

			many people. Yeah, I know more navall here on meaner hieratic dunya they know what is apparent from
this worldly life. And that includes things like science, science deals with observation, primarily,
things that can be observed and tested and repeated. And ultimately, that is the hero that is
vorherigen Minar, hierarchy dounia. That is what is apparent from the worldly life. As for the
matters of the Hereafter, they are unaware. So whatever you teach your children from the matters of
this worldly life, it should never ever be at the exclusion. Or it should never be to the exclusion
of the religion of Islam so that they become people who know so much about the hierarchy dounia but
		

			they don't know anything about the euro.
		

			And that's all sad to see some Muslims falling into this and we know the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam told us Let it be unnecessary no man can accomplish. You're going to follow the ways of
the people who came before you. We see so many Muslims suppiler excelling in the sciences, in
mathematics, in languages, in their careers, becoming spal, at the forefront of of their field, pass
upon a lot becoming more and more ignorant about Islam, and more and more ignorant about the
archaea. And that's not what we want to see. If we want for some of our children to excel in
different fields, different sciences in the worldly life, then we want them to do so as practicing
		

			Muslims. And that's ultimately what we want.
		

			For our kids, in the sense that, you know, we talked about the kids becoming scholars, and we said
they're not every child will be able to do that. We want every child to have the minimum knowledge
that every Muslim needs in terms of their Islamic knowledge and every child is going to be able to
become a scholar, not every child is going to is going to choose to study the voluntary aspects of
tolerable and the voluntary seeking of knowledge, no matter how virtuous it is. So if our children
do go into matters of the worldly life, if they become business people, if they become scientists,
if they become experts in whatever field they are in engineering and medicine, whatever field it
		

			might be, they become experts in that field. We want them to do so as practicing Muslims, as Muslims
who fear Allah azza wa jal, we have to understand as well, that the world the sciences, should be a
servant to the religion. And it's not the case that the religion should be in a state of servitude
to our worldly life. What do I mean by that? these worldly sciences? Why do we pursue them? Why,
what is our intention? What's our near behind it? Is it just this higher to dunya? If that's the
case, then we'll lie, we have wasted our time. There is nothing beneficial from that. But if it's
the case, that we do this worldly sciences, and we study them and learn them, and there is there are
		

			benefits for that in our religious obligations and our religious life, then this is where the
benefit, this is where the benefit comes in. So for example, a person learns a particular science
and uses that science to benefit Islam and the Muslims, or even on a much simpler level, a person
learns a particular worldly science, and then they achieve a job through that. And through that, by
the permission of Allah, they're able to give sadaqa to feed their family to take care of your
responsibilities to avoid debt, to avoid Haram, income, and so on. So all of this is beneficial.
When your worldly life is something which is a
		

			Its job is to serve you in your religious obligations and your religious life. And that's how it
should be and if you keep that near, you can even be rewarded for your studies that you do in the
worldly life, you can even be rewarded for those, if you're near is, and you're at a sub your
expectation of reward is that Oh Allah, I am doing this action for a more lofty purpose, more
important reason than just for the sake of the needs of this life, something more than that, maybe
it is so that I can fulfill obligations that you have commanded me to fulfill Allah. So if a person
keeps their intention, sincerely for Allah Subhana Allah, that I'm learning these things and I'm in
		

			this worldly life, doing these worldly sciences, for something that will initialize an obligation
that is put upon me to relieve a burden or to support me in my religious obligations and and and to
support the Muslims in general. And this can be something which can be of benefit in short, Allahu
Allah. And we have an evidence for that, from the evidences for that is the hadith of ebihara or the
Allahu and the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said and what mineral kawi higher on
what I have put it alarming meaning life where he could inhale his alarm. I am Phalke was there in
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			abohar, ala narrated from the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said a strong
believer is better and more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, and both of them have good in
them.
		

			And now we come to the part the showerhead that we want from the statement it had a silo may be keen
for what will benefit you. Be keen for what will benefit you always be looking for what will benefit
you. This here and never here is not restricted to the matters of the religion. Rather, it
encompasses the matters of the religion, and the matters of the dunya. But when those matters of the
dunya are nerf er, they're beneficial. And that's what we want to bring as a delille here for the
fact that the worldly matters when they are of benefit in your religion, or towards your religious
obligations. They can be praiseworthy to a certain extent if you have that near and actually sad
		

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			the Prophet solo sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he didn't limit this benefit to the matters of the
dean. He didn't say for example, it had his itma and federal COVID Dean became for what will benefit
you in the religion, rather he kept it open. Anything that will benefit you from this is an evidence
of the permissibility of teaching our children, worldly matters. If those matters are mid May and
fat, while liable from the matters that benefit and they don't harm their beneficial. So from the
beneficial matters, it is permissible based on this Heidi's it is permissible for us to teach our
children beneficial worldly matters. It helps LMA and folk be keen for what will benefit you
		

			weststein Billa and seek the help of Allah and suppiler Look how the religion is integrated into
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			The religion is integrated into everything that we do. Even if you are seeking a benefit for the
worldly life in the worldly life, you still you still seek the help of a lysogenic Western Billa
seek the help of Allah because Allah azza wa jal is the one that controls the matters of the dunya.
And everything is in the hands of Allah, and you can't achieve anything without Allah's help. We
talked about that in the hadith of Ibn the ambassador of the Allahu anhu, Amanda tarbiyah, the
prophet SAW some give to him while attaches. Don't ever feel that you can't achieve it. Don't ever
feel you've been defeated. Don't ever give up, stop working and say that
		

			it is I can't do it. I can't do it can't be done, have big lofty goals. But make sure that you're
not getting diluted also, in the dunya. Make sure that you know sometimes we have such lofty goals
in the dunya and such high aspirations but we don't have those aspirations in the deen. And we trick
and lie to ourselves. We tell ourselves lies we tell ourselves that it'll, you know, I'm doing this
to benefit the Muslims. I'm working 14 hour days to benefit the Muslims and in reality is taking you
away from more important things like knowledge and so on. Well attach is don't ever feel that you
can't do it. Well in a solid back cache on and if something happens to you don't say if only I did
		

			this, it would be like this and this, or see if this happened, it would have been like that, if only
like this, it could have been like that. But say it was the decree of a lion he does whatever he
wills, Cardinal law, he was fine. Because seeing if only opens the door to the actions of the
shapefile. So I believe this Heidi is a fundamental principle as it relates to the issue of teaching
your children everything that benefits them, including matters of the worldly life, as long as those
matters of the worldly life are beneficial. And those matters of the worldly life are matters that
inshallah don't harm them and don't bring them away from Islam, but they are matters that are from
		

			the things that everybody has to deal with. We know in the Mid South humbler sad Robbie Allahu and
he may mentioned, he said that when we are with the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
knew that Corona binetti Well, Jenna, he reminds us of the fire and he reminds us of Paradise, as
though the two of those things are in front of our eyes. And when we leave from the Messenger of
Allah, he said to the prophets, I said, for either halogen ended when we leave from where you are,
our personnel as well as your will, will lead what by Earth,
		

			fantasy neck athira he said that we become busy with our wives and our children, and our worldly
life, business and so on. We forget much of what the prophet SAW Selim said.
		

			And the prophets I said to him, he altered all morning Allah Mehta corn on our end, what physical
loss offer had come on mela acre. He said that if you were to remain in that state that you are
like, when you are with me, the angels would shake your hands on the roads and in your beds. He
said, Well, I can Yeah, humbler? Sir. It was a little humbler. There is a time for this. And there
is a time for that. And he said it three times. So a lot what it was, I'm sorry, sir. I don't want
Sorry, sorry. Sorry. There's a time for this. And a time for the time for this and a time for that
time for this time for that. So that's from the evidence that there is an allowance. Well, I tend to
		

			see becoming a dunia. Don't forget your portion of the dunya. There is an allowance for the worldly
life. And educating your children as a relates to the worldly life is not a bad thing, as long as
that is at the right place at the right time, and in the right way. So it's the right place, the
right time and the right amount. It's not
		

			Excluding the religion, so they become like those people that Allah said about them. Yeah, I don't
want to avoid I'm in Ohio to do a home and accurately home off the road. They know the apparent
nature of this world but they're unaware when it comes to the hereafter. And it's the right amount
and the right time and it's from those things which benefit them is LMA and Phalke look and be keen
for what will benefit you. And we have another evidence in the statement of Mr. Bob robiola one. He
said I lemo I will add a Seba Rami Well, foreseer. He said, teach your children swimming,
		

			and our rummy which is archery or shooting,
		

			and l furusiyya. Horse riding. And all three of these things are from the worldly life. They are
matters of worldly knowledge, but they are matters of worldly knowledge that have the potential to
benefit in terms of Islam. All of those have the potential to benefit the Muslim either to benefit
them in their personal life, like swimming, which could be an essential skill, like an essential
life skill. So from this, we could take the importance of teaching our children worldly skills that
will benefit them in their life. Life Skills could be things like leadership, or things that might
help them in terms of keep them safe, like swimming, for example. Or it could be anything that is,
		

			you know, beneficial. That is a beneficial skill that a child can learn from the matters of the
worldly life. So to teach them a syba ha teach him swimming. And as for a Rami, Anil furusiyya visa,
both related to war, because the Muslims in that time, that's what they used to fight upon. They
used to fight upon horses, and they used to fight with art with archery, firing bows and arrows. So
ultimately, an army is a general word for anything that is anything that shot, whether it's an arrow
or anything else. So ultimately, these are things that are in the worldly life, but they're things
which relate to the religion. So you're teaching your children something which will benefit them in
		

			their life, or will benefit Islam and the Muslims one way or the other. These are the kind of
worldly, beneficial things that we should be looking to teach our children. And so I would say from
the most important of the worldly knowledge that you can teach your children is one of two things.
Number one, the things that will benefit them personally in their life could be a life lesson could
be a life skill, like leadership, or working as part of a team.
		

			Or it could be a skill of like presenting your ideas, or something like that. It could be something
like swimming, and likewise, anything which will benefit Islam and the Muslims from it. Because if
you look at the statement of armor here, it's either something which will benefit them personally in
their life provided proved to be a great benefit to them in their life or something which will
benefit them Muslims, like the examples that Omar gave here of a Ramy and Al foreseer and also even
the issue of things like exercise and keeping fit and healthy are still things which are beneficial
for you in your deen because if you can keep your children healthy, and they are fit and they
		

			exercise well then you should allow to Allah This is more likely that they will be able to worship
Allah azza wa jal for longer they will be inshallah to Allah more healthy into an able to do their a
badass in a better way with the permission of Allah subhanaw taala so these are the kind of worldly
things that we should be giving the most concern to things that will benefit them in of themselves
and things that will benefit Islam and the Muslims.
		

			So now I want to come in the last part of this episode to talk about our children and school and in
the next episode, inshallah Allah I'm going to talk specifically about homeschooling and we had some
questions on that from some of the students who are following the course. They were asking about
homeschooling, and what is your advice about homeschooling? So inshallah Allah I'm going to give a
naseeha he shall lie in the next episode, as comprehensively as I can, as to how to start
homeschooling children and some of the benefits of homeschooling inshallah, but right now I want to
address in this episode, the majority of of our children go to school.
		

			And I want to start with an idea in terms of my advice to the parents whose children go to school. I
want to start with an ayah Eliza which I said yeah, you highlight Hina M and qu and for second what
alikum Nara or you believe Save yourselves
		

			Your family from a fire walk hold your hand as well hey john, whose fuel is men and stones Aya
Subhana Allah Allah azza wa jal commanded us to protect our families to the maximum extent possible.
And Eliza gel told us for Tekel, la her Mr. Barton, have Taqwa of Allah as much as you can.
		

			And I believe these are two essential elements of how a parent can nurture their child in the
worldly sciences when the child is in school.
		

			The first one is saving your family from the fire. The second one is having as much taqwa as you
can. So when it comes to saving your family from the fire, we're talking about protecting your
children from the things which could cause them to be from the people of the fire. And ultimately,
there are two things which cause a person to be from the people of the fire, if we categorize all of
the sins into two categories. And they are sherawat and chahat. They are the desires that come from
the neffs. And the shape Han stalks them up in an F cellar a model to be sought. The soul is
constantly inclined towards evil, the desires for things that are wrong, and things that are evil
		

			and things that are blameworthy. And then there are schawbel hat and the shadow heart are confusion,
misconceptions, things that are they have Sheva hahnville Huck, they resemble the truth but they're
not true.
		

			Sort of, you can call them false notions, misconceptions misguidance. And these really are the two
that are alluded to, in the statement of Allah azza wa jal in the Arab Emirates are SMRT one of the
big bad that they know how shocking I mean, how hemella * insane. In the whole Kerner vaalu,
manga Hall at the end of Salta has up that we offered the responsibility to the heavens and the
earth, and the mountains, they declined it. They were fearful of it and mankind took it on Indeed,
he was incredibly oppressive and incredibly ignorant. The oppressiveness is when you know something
that you know it's wrong, you understand that it's wrong, but your desires you crave it. And as for
		

			the ignorance is when you become confused by doubts and misconceptions and misguidance. And this is
also alluded to in sort of 230 layering boulby la him What are bioline not the path of those whom
your anger has, that your anger has come upon Allah, and those who are less anger has come upon
those who know the truth, and they continue in the false hood
		

			and the DI lien, they are those people who don't know the difference between what is true and what
is false. So, ultimately, there are two things that misguide men mankind in general, the first is
sherawat desires and craving for things that are wrong. And the second are Chabot hat, which are
misconceptions. misguidance. And we need to do our very, very best to protect our children from
that. And there is something that I sometimes hear people say, and it is from the worst and from the
the greatest examples of ignorance. And the worst examples of foolishness that we hear people say is
they say expose your children to some of the haraam saw that you know like they won't they won't go
		

			out of control and they won't go into the heroin after that you know give them a little bit of
heroin so give them something don't restrict them from the Haram completely and is enough to refuted
a statement of Eliza gel yeah you have Latina M and o CO and fossa como la Who are you who believe
save your family your Save yourselves and your family from a fire whose fuel is men and stones. How
does this how do you reconcile between this and between allowing your children just to do you know
allow them 20% of the haraam to save them from the 80% which of the Sahaba did this which of the
tablet you know the seller was silent? They told you that this is the manager of tarbiyah
		

			admin No, none of them not even what this is just nothing but the the confusion and the deception of
the shaitaan
		

			rather Your job is Allah as as allies which I said for telco law, Mr. Potter, have as much taqwa as
you can. You don't know the sin that is gonna put you or your children into the fire. It could be
something very small. The Prophet sighs I'm so glad to hear I mean and marital officiate I don't
belittle any good deed, have actually commented on this Rahim Allah to Allah and he said, a person
doesn't know the good deed that will
		

			That could be the one that brings them to gender or the sin that could be the one, even the small
sin. That could be the one that puts them into fire. So it's not for a person to belittle the good
deeds or to belittle the sins or to see the sins as being too small. And the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam he told us, er, comm one more hub Porat a zoo Nope. He said, Keep away from the
sins that people consider to be very, very small, very insignificant. So ultimately, we have to do
everything we can to protect our children in every way that we can from the shadow art, and from the
sugar hat. But ultimately, when we're talking about the setting of schools, and education
		

			institutions, it's often not possible to get things the way that we would like them to be perfectly.
And that's why my advice genuinely is to all parents. Now see how sincere advice for me is that if
you're able to homeschool your children do it. Because I don't know anything which corrupts children
more than the current state of schooling and education in the world today, in every country. It is
from the biggest of the supporters of the shape on and the biggest of the things that take our
children astray. And I think anyone who opens even one eye to this will see it anyone who is even
remotely honest, we'll see that the education system in the world today is destroying our children.
		

			But at the end of the day, for tech law homeschool, apart from fear Allah as much as you can, not
everybody can homeschool their kids, we understand that. And that's why we don't say that it is
obligatory because the simple situation is that we don't we know that most people or many people
would not be able to do that. But if you're putting your kids in school, for tullahoma, still have
as much taqwa as you can. So first of all, you choose the best school that you have option, an
option or an availability to take, you know, Subhan Allah, some parents, they look at the school for
what it does in the dunya. To be honest, I wouldn't even give any concern for what the school does
		

			in the dunya. Only look, is this school going to be a reason to put my child into Jana? Or is the
school going to be a reason for me to go to Johanna, because there might be me that gets blamed in
the sense that I'm the one that chose it for them. They didn't choose it for themselves. Or look at
a school because it has good grades or because it has good teachers or a good report from the
education, watchdog or observer. Don't give any consent to that your only concern? Yeah, you Halina
Amman are cool and forsaken. Welcome now to save yourselves and your family from a fire.
		

			Choose the best school that you can, and then know that whatever school you have chosen, it is still
going to be a great fit enough for your child, even if you have chosen the best school that is
available in your country. And you've chosen the most friendly to Islam and supportive of Islam.
Still, there are so many trials and tribulations that happened there. Because even if the school is
at a very high standard in terms of Islam, ultimately, the children who go there are still going to
be children who not every parent is going to have the same high standards that you do. So your
children still mixing with kids from the school that are even though the school might have an
		

			Islamic ethos, or it might teach Islamic subjects or may even be a quote Islamic school. But
ultimately, the other children who are there may not all share the same values that you want for
your children. And they may not have the same habits that you want for your children. And that's why
when I say this will lie, this is the advice of someone who has seen this, and advice of someone
will or who wants good for you and for your kids. The I've been in the situation I've seen the
situation. I've worked a long, long time with young kids from different schools. I've seen kids from
Islamic schools, from non Islamic schools. And ultimately all of them have been exposed to severe
		

			trials and tribulations fitting and tests and trials from the education that they received in those
institutions, even the best of them. Because if it's not the education, then the danger is the
people around them. We know the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said a model Adda
Dini highly valuable I have to commend you highly. A person is upon the religion of their close
friend. So let everyone look at who they take as a close friend, the people your children mix with
so Paula, sometimes the education system might take your children away for seven hours in a day, or
more or less than that suppiler all that time they're mixing with people. Those people are having a
		

			huge influence upon them as it relates to shout out
		

			As it relates to shout out also the mixing of the boys and the girls that co Ed schools where the
boys and the girls mix.
		

			This is no doubt opening the shout out for the kids, opening the desires and might see all my
children are young. But ultimately it's setting a standard and a habit that will carry on for them
when they are older. And that's why when we have the kids, even when they're young, we prevent them
from what is hot, cool emphasis. Now save your families, yourselves and your families from a fire.
So that is one thing from the Charlotte. And then the second thing that we worry about as it relates
to all of the schools, whether they have an Islamic ethos or not, are the shubo hat.
		

			And the shubo hat are those misconceptions and confusion, doubt that creeps into our children will
let anyone who is involved working with kids has seen the increase in atheism, in agnosticism in
rejection of Islam in reduced apostasy among young boys and girls in schools today. And this is a
calamity while like it is more Seba. It is a great calamity that we are suffering today in schools
with young boys and girls, leaving Islam, committing apostasy, expressing doubts about Islam, and
understand that this situation is an extreme example of Shahada. tentu bohat. That's what it is.
It's an example of Shahada and chahat. And this is happening even in Islamic countries. It's an
		

			example of desires and doubts.
		

			And I used to believe in the beginning that the issue of doubt was stronger, the Geneva Chabot heart
was stronger than China of the Shahada, the desires, that actually when I came to speak to these
kids, and to understand why they felt like they had to leave Islam, I came to realize that the
journey of the shadow what can be stronger for many of them, that their desires, they so much want
to, you know, to, to where they see their friends doing and to be able to do it, that they even
reach the level where they are fearful, or they they they feel that Islam doesn't have what they
need for for that. And then they when they feel that when the shape and gets them from dough
		

			sherawat What does what how does the shape on cement it within them? How does the shape on make them
stick to it through what through chahat So the example of this is, the child wants to part he wants
to drink wants to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend wants to do some kind of harm. And then next
craves it and the shape pint tells them and their friends tell them and and it builds them up like
that.
		

			The first time, second time, third time, but eventually it reaches a level where they craving they
wish they could live that life like the non Muslims are living. And then along come show bohat
misconceptions. Tell them actually not. You know, you think that Islam is true, and you think it's
You're so sure about it. But did you know, dot dot dot, and then they justify their Shahada through
the shadow heart. They use the shadow heart to justify their desires. So they say art yet so you
meet them and they say I don't want to be a Muslim anymore. So why this? I don't want to be honest,
because I don't agree with the way that Islam treats women, for example. See, really that's your
		

			reason, when you go into it, and you delve into it. That's the justification that allows their
desires to run free, as what the shaytan has told them to allow their desires to run free. So how do
we protect our children from the chahat if the protection from the Shahada is whatever we can give
them. We do our best for top alarmists apart from the best schools, we try to keep them among the
best of friends, any negative influences that happen, we try to counter them with positive
influences at home and through the masjid, the Islamic centers and so on. We do our very best to to,
to help them and to give them permissible alternatives for their desires. And the desires don't have
		

			to always be matters of the heart, you know, matters of, of the opposite gender, whatever they can
be, you know, desires can be matters of just desiring to do anything. That's how long we look for
alternatives. We try to keep them busy. We try to give them permissible things that will benefit
them in the worldly life. But ultimately what comes and of course, we teach them tests get naps, we
teach them to purify themselves and the Toba and is too far and turning back to Allah. But what
happens? How do we deal with the Chabot hat? How do we deal with misconceptions, confusion
misguidance
		

			Especially when it can be so powerful in these days the way it can be presented, the tools to
present misguidance have, in some ways never been more powerful. In that sense, even if the plot of
the shape line is weak indicator shape hiney cannot waver the plot of the shape line is ever weak,
but the the availability to tools that reach into our homes, videos and so on, that are able to
spread misguidance I will give a few points that I would recommend to the parents from the point of
view of naziha as to how they can filter this and controlling. First of all, I would advise you to
take your responsibility as parents seriously. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said
		

			Allah, Allah Kumar and or kolloquium, meserole Anambra Yeti, all of your shepherds, and all of you
will be asked about your flock. So make sure that you are
		

			observant of what is happening, you're aware of the information that your children are taking in.
And you take it as your responsibility to try to keep them away from the things that will harm them
as much as possible. And when you see that a harm has touched them, you try to remedy it, and you
try to correct it through the means that Islam has given you. The from the major things that a
parent needs to do, in terms of protecting their children from the Chabot heart is to talk to your
children, to talk to them, and to know them and their personality. And there are amazing examples of
this, to be honest, that you find when you speak to people, of parents who know their children, and
		

			also Hello, when the child starts doing something wrong, that parents straightaway sees there's a
change in my child, I can observe something isn't right. And then they address it. And this leads me
to my third piece of advice, deal with issues quickly and decisively. Don't delay, don't be from the
people who delay the issue and say, I will deal with it tomorrow and tomorrow. Because these are
issues that get bigger and bigger and bigger, the black dots become on the heart until the heart is
sealed, or the desires becomes so much that it leads the person to shrivel heart and confusion, deal
with the issues as they come. And number four, as we mentioned, about being pre emptive. And ahead
		

			of the curve. So try to anticipate the matters that are happening. Be aware of what's happening to
kids, other kids who are a little bit older, and some of the issues they're going through, be aware
of it inshallah, it'll help out your friends who have kids who are a little bit older, and be aware
of what's going on. So you can anticipate the kind of things that might happen to your children, and
be observant. Because ultimately, if you're responsible, that means you have a you have the
responsibility of observing what is happening, of observing what the children are watching.
		

			And one of the things I would advise sincerely is to control your children's access to the Internet,
and to gadgets, iPhones, and iPads and tablets, and whatever else people have. keep it under
control. Ultimately, we're not going to say that you should prevent your children from this
completely, because ultimately, there is a place for everything, and the world is moving in that
direction. And Alhamdulillah but a person, a parent, you've got to be your your muscle you're
responsible. So you have to keep a degree of control over that. Keep an eye on things, learn the
technology, so you can learn how to keep an eye. And it's not about you know, you being intrusive.
		

			It's not about you, you know, sort of being over the shoulder view of your children, because we
spoke about teaching your children the markaba of Eliza, which a lot of teaching them to fear a lot
teaching them that Allah is watching them. But to be aware not to be laughing, not to be unaware of
what's going on. Be aware, keep an eye on things. Keep a look at things and and keep it friendly
with your children like to let your children know that that's going to happen. And to let them know
and make them feel you know that it's part of your responsibility. And silicate I wouldn't be a good
parent, if I didn't keep an eye on you and look after you. So I'm not going to restrict you to the
		

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			you know, I'm restricting you from what's halal or anything like that. But what I'm going to try to
do is just be aware of what you're doing. Keep a little eye on what you're doing and give you advice
and be like a companion to someone who is alongside you. Like allies, which I mentioned was wahiba
who malefic Dunia marowak accompany then your parents accompany them in the studio in a good way. So
there is a kind of a swiper that is a kind of you know being around them and accompany Have a look
at especially as they get older and looking after them and giving them sincere advice and when you
see
		

			They slipped up as everyone does, we slipped up. So panela when we were younger, and indeed when we
were older, and at the same time saw your children, but you teach your children the tools that they
need. And that's why in this series we mentioned the Islamic education before I mentioned the
worldly education. Before we came to these matters, if you've taught your children the maraca of
Allah, you've taught your children to be aware that loves watching them, and you've taught your
children, the how to make Toba and instead for how to turn back to Allah, and how to repent, and
you've taught your children the danger of doing sins in private, and you've taught your children the
		

			danger of boasting of sins in public, and so on, then these are things that will help them as they
approach these dangers. And you kept to control you fear Allah as much as you can, you try to keep
them away from the harm as much as possible. And I would say to any of the kids who are watching, or
the young adults and the teenagers who are watching this video, and they might feel sad, sometimes
that their parents are restricting them, or they might feel upset, they might feel like, I don't see
why I'm not allowed to have such and such when my other friends have it will lie you don't know the
good that your parents are doing for you. You don't know a lot a good day and suppiler perhaps yomo
		

			piano you it will take you will realize, Paula on the Day of Judgment, what your parents are doing
for you by protecting you from those things. And ultimately, if it means you have some restrictions,
but those restrictions are the reason for you to enter gender than what they are excellent
restrictions. And it's um, it's full of restrictions, Islam has sort of huddled limits, things you
have to stay within. So a Muslim shouldn't feel upset, to have some restrictions placed upon them.
And even in this wallet, I advise adults to restrict themselves, not just children and door feel,
you know, for the teenagers, they might feel like oh, Mohammed, Tim, you, you know, we tell our
		

			parents to control our internet access, and be careful about the gadgets Subhanallah I would say the
same for the adults. And the last point I will make on this is be careful about using the gadgets in
the TV as a way to get rid of your children just to you know, get a break from your children like
oh, you know, like, I can't just kids are just all around me all the time, just put something on the
TV. Because upon light, you don't know what that's putting into the mind of your kids. And if you
see the cartoons, movies, the songs that our kids are exposed to. And I don't recommend you watch
them or listen to them. But if you just go to for example, Wikipedia, and you just look at the plot,
		

			or the lyrics for them will lie you would see every kind of Kabira from the Cabal, every major sin
from shirk. polytheism Xena
		

			evil words and speech the most evil alpha Ishmael vihara mean, how am I walking, every kind of
immorality, what is apparent and what is hidden, you would see all of it in this music, and these
movies, in their plots in their scripts, in the words that they use. And even in the cartoons for
young children receive from shark and see her magic and disbelief. What only Allah Subhana Allah
knows how bad it is. So Pamela, so my advice is, don't feel that just to get away from your kids and
get a break, you put them in front of the TV or the iPad or the YouTube unlimited without any
control over what they're watching and what video comes next. So Hannah, this is this is really a
		

			really big, big issue. So this is just some advice. As it relates to a matter of children who are in
school. Of course, it does also apply to children who are not in school as well. It's not only
limited to that, but I I started this from the point of view of the child who is in school, because
they have a greater exposure to the Shahada and the super heart to desires and to misguidance
because they mix with a larger group of people in a very uncontrolled way. In the next episode,
inshallah, to Allah, we're going to talk about homeschooling. And many parents have asked advice
about that how to begin some of the pitfalls and problems people fall into. So from the point of
		

			view of the statement of the Prophet sallallahu, we'll send them a dino we'll see how this religion
is about giving good advice. I'm going to try to give whatever advice that Allah makes easy for me
to give on the topic of homeschooling, and that's in the next episode in sha Allah, and Allah is
originales best wa Salatu was Salam ala nabina Muhammad while early he was happy, he may as salaam
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