Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2021 J02-030D Tafsir Al-Baqarah 223

			The next is Nisa oakum Hello through Lacan fit to Hausa calm and now Schichten your wives are a
place of sowing of seed for you to HERSA calm and now she tunes so come to your place of cultivation
however you wish Nyssa Oh calm hello so Lacan what is health health is a place of sowing seed a
place of cultivation okay, like for example, cultivating ground like a field or maybe in your
backyard, you have a vegetable patch, okay. So that place of cultivation the place where you will
plan to your vegetables, that is health and health it also applies to cultivation itself. So the
harvest okay, that also is health here what is meant by how is the place of cultivation okay. And
		

			this is basically a euphemism, okay, where something has been said in an indirect way. And what is
meant is that to help sakam And now sheikdom that come to your place of cultivation, however you
wish, and this is basically where men are being instructed to only have * in the * and not in
the back. Okay? Meaning this is another way of saying that * Texas something not permissible.
Okay. So Nisa, oakum Haussler comfort to health and now Schichten and where it is said that come to
your house, wherever you will, you will, this is talking about any position. Okay, so now, there's a
couple of things over here. First of all, some people think this is very derogatory, Why are women
		

			called House a place of cultivation? Like I mentioned, this is a euphemism and basically, what is
being said is that * should be in the place of fertility. Okay, the place from where a woman gets
pregnant, okay? Not in the back. So Nyssa Openhouse Allah comfort to HERSA co ownership. This is the
reason why the word house has been used because men are being directed to place off fertility, the
place of pregnancy. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, in a hadith we learned this hadith
and a Buddha would that Malarone on men a camera photography duty that cursed is the person who
comes to his woman in her double in her back in another Hadith in a Timothy we learned lions are
		

			Allahu Allah Rajan Uttara Jhulan away ma attend fifth double Allah who will not even look at a man
who has annulled * with another man or a woman does a hadith and Timothy, so, this very act is
forbidden, because it also leads to other sins right if a man will do this with his wife, he can do
this now with another man. So it will lead to other sins. So this act is forbidden All right. And
when it is said that come to your house, and now sheikhdom however you wish, however you wish means
that the position and the time does not matter as long as it is in the place of fertility. Okay,
meaning in the *. And there is a reason behind the revelation of this ayah there's a hadith
		

			there's a hadith and Timothy and that Anselmo de la noir inherited that the unsought okay of Medina,
they were any you see in every culture that there are certain taboos, right. So in their culture
because remember, the unsalted were from Medina and the Jews used to live in Medina, they used to
think that there is only one position of having * where a man comes to his wife from her front,
okay, meaning from above her, and the Jews would say that those who have * with their women from
behind meaning that the position is such that he's facing her back, their child would be cross eyed.
Okay, so when will had your own came to Medina, and they married the inside women, and the people
		

			off Macau were different in the way that they would have *. So some there was a woman of the
inside who refused to allow her husband to have * with her in a different position. So she
actually went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam but she spoke to them Salah model de la hora
and her and she asked her, and on selama asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on her
behalf, and this idea was revealed. Okay, that Nisa oakum household Welcome to wholesale calm and
now shito however you wish the position doesn't matter. And the prophets of Allah who already has an
edit over there sui Mammon wa heathen as long as it is in one place. All right, meaning the *.
		

			That's the only rule otherwise the position does not matter. So, to have that come on now shito
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			also reported that the Jews would say that whoever goes into his wife's * from behind her than
his children will be cross eyed. So this was a superstitious belief that they had in different
cultures, people have different superstitious beliefs. All right. And sometimes these concepts these
false beliefs come in because people don't know what the halal and what the Haram is, you know, we
don't talk about these things we don't teach even, you know, subhanAllah people who are married
don't know what is permissible, what is not permissible. And they stay in confusion. They don't have
clarity on these matters. They don't know whether what they're doing is halal or not. They do some
		

			Google searches, some internet searches, and they're still not clear on many matters. We don't ask
questions openly. We don't teach these matters openly. But you can see how the Companions would go
to the Prophet sallallahu Ordo cinnamon inquire, right, this woman, she went to the Prophet
sallallahu on Islam in order to ask whether, you know, certain * positions were permissible
Subhanallah because, you know, she was not sure because in her culture, they were considered
harmful. So we need to learn about these matters to house inertia. And inertia, Tom also means
whenever right so the position does not matter, and the time does not matter. So basically, it does
		

			not matter what time of day, or night it is, because some people think that they can only be
sexually intimate with their spouse in the night during the day not allowed, or they've just made
this rule for themselves, and mash it on whenever you want. There is no fixed time, okay? You see
the purpose of marriage, the purpose of Nika is to have sexual freedom with one spouse. Okay? And
what this means is that the person does not need the permission of their spouse, in order to have
* with them, of course, they should be aware of, you know, their state, their mood, you know, if
they're willing at the time or not. But generally speaking, permission is not needed. But another
		

			thing I want you to realize is the use of the word helps, okay? How does if you're handling, you
know, your harvest, your plants, your flowers, that you have grown, or your vegetable patch,
whatever, you have to be very deliberate, very gentle, even with your plants, you cannot handle them
roughly, you cannot be violent with plants, because if you're violent with plants, if you're
negligent of them, you're not attentive, they will die. Right? And a lot of people will use for
example, this part of the eye, and they will say that a man does not need to, you know, take
permission from his wife, and so he can have * with her at any time. And so he can be rough and
		

			violent also. And there is no marital *, and things like that. And okay, yes, he does not need
her permission, but it doesn't mean that he should be violent with her. Okay. It doesn't mean that
he should not be attentive towards her emotional, her mental her physical state, and it does not
mean that all day he ignores her. He threatens her, he emotionally abuses her. And then in the
night, he goes in a has just enjoys her sexually. You know, once the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said that how can one of you beat his wife? How can one of you beat his wife? Like you beat
your slave? And then at the end of the day, you have * with her? Any what kind of a person are you
		

			if you do this, so far to HERSA Come on now she don't. Okay. Yes, you don't need permission. And
there is no you know, time which is forbidden, but that doesn't mean that a person is careless and
that a person does not care about their spouse. All right. And then it is said what a demo Lee
unfussy calm and put forth righteousness for yourselves. And put the Molly unfussy calm this is
understood in a number of ways. First of all, it is said that a demo put forth any send ahead, any
do something first. This is referring to foreplay. Okay. Any before engaging in sexual *
with your wife engage in foreplay, because this is not supposed to be a one sided act, that one is
		

			just seeking pleasure for themselves, and the other is only facilitating that by participating in
it. No, a man should ensure that his wife is also sexually satisfied. And that will only be if he
engages in some kind of foreplay. All right. And secondly, Kadeem only unfussy calm. It has also
been said that this means that before sexual * say what you are supposed to, and you do
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			seek refuge with Allah. In a hadith we learned this hadith in Sahih Bukhari that if anyone intends
to have *, he should say Bismillah Allahu wa Januvia shaytaan what gender be shaitana
models of Putana in the name of Allah or Allah keep us away from Shaytaan and keep shaitan away from
what you have bestowed upon us. So, at that time also Bismillah take the name of Allah and ask Allah
subhanaw taala to protect you from the harm of the evil of shaitan. Thirdly, a Denali unfussy calm
also means send ahead for yourselves, meaning seek children, all right, when you engage in this act,
and again, this is only possible with vaginal *, right? So seek children. Why so they are a sadaqa
		

			jariya for you, but the Mali unfussy calm. And also fourthly, it has been said continually
unphysical meaning do good deeds, send those ahead for yourself, right. So do this in the right way,
even when it comes to your sexual relations. Do them in the right way so that you are rewarded,
right? And also focus on other good deeds, any for example, a person's focus shouldn't just be to,
you know, spend their night in resting and you know, enjoying their spouse. Yes, that is permissible
and that is perfectly fine. But it should not come at the cost of Fajr Salah or basically never
praying tahajjud never waking up refrigerant time because by the time they wake up, you know, they
		

			have to take a shower and then they have to pray and there isn't enough time left cloudy, moody
unphysical. Think about other good deeds as well. What the Pula And fear Allah, Allahu Akbar, fear
Allah. This has been mentioned where in the context of matters related to sexual relations fear
Allah fear Allah in the bedroom, Walsall in your most private matters also observed the fear of
Allah. So do not engage in unlawful sexual activity. And part of this is that you also honor your
spouse, and you give their hug as well. You see, if a person you know, for example, if a man
neglects his wife, in the sense that he never helps her. He's never there to for example, look after
		

			the children or for example, he does not give her any money. Okay, if a man does not give his wife
any money, people would tell him fear Allah because people can see that he is neglecting the right
of his wife. Okay. But when it comes to her sexual, right, okay. People may not know about that,
that she is being neglected. And sometimes sexual, right? Doesn't mean that he's not sleeping with
her. No, sometimes it means that he is intimate with her, but he doesn't let her enjoy. He's only
focused on his enjoyment where he finishes and turns over and goes to sleep and she is just stuck
crying, wondering Is she ever going to be sexually satisfied with this man? So fear Allah regarding
		

			that? This is her Huck, you're not just concerned about your own sexual pleasure. Be concerned about
her sexual pleasure as well. What the cola and why Allah mu and Nicola ko who know that you will
meet him, you will meet him and Allah will question you regarding this. So Don't disobey Allah, even
in this matter. Also fear Allah regarding the privacy of your spouse, okay? There is a Hadith in
which we learned that the worst of people in position before Allah on the Day of Resurrection is the
man who has * with his wife. And then he spreads her secrets as the fiddle, this is a
Hadith in Sahih Muslim, he there are some people who will, you know, for example, without their
		

			spouse knowing, they will, for example, take their photos, even if they have their photos with their
permission, they will use those photos as blackmail than that, I will spread this I will share this
I will tell people about it. This is terrible. The worst of people in position before Allah on the
Day of Judgment will be such a person who spreads the secrets in the private matters of their
spouse. So because sometimes it happens that you know people are married and then their marriage
begins to deteriorate, and then they use photos and things like that. These private matters as
blackmail. So what the cola war Alemu a Nicola coup, you should know that one day you're going to
		

			meet Allah and Allah knows your most private affairs. Well, but she did meaning and give good news
to the believers. Allahu Akbar. How can the ayah is ending like this well, but she didn't want mean
and what does it even mean that give good news to the believers. What good news. Now, what good
news. The good news itself has not been mentioned anytime.
		

			Some been said give them good news of paradise give them good news of reward that has been left
unmentioned, because it's too great to be mentioned over here, okay? And when something is not
specified, then you take a general meaning. So give them good news of what have good things, good
rewards in this world and in the Hereafter, good news of rewards that they cannot even imagine.
Okay, that is great. So well, but she didn't mean and give them good news. Why? Why is this
mentioned over here, because you see, when it comes to sexual relations, a lot of people associate
that with guilt or with sin, or with shame, that it's shameful. And it's as if they have done
		

			something wrong by being intimate with their spouse. So they're trying to hide that they try to
pretend like it doesn't exist. And this is because of the different cultural taboos that we have, at
the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam this was something so normal, okay, where people
could be seen in the middle of the day, it was very obvious that they had just taken a bath, and
water was still dripping from their hair, okay, or there was a part of their clothes that was wet,
because only that part of the coats had been washed because there was discharged that had fallen
over there. And there is in fact, Hadith, in which we learned the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		

			sallam, you know how I shall do Longhorn, who would just wash that part of his garments that had
become, you know, wet with sexual discharge, okay, and he would go to the masjid while wearing that
garment, while it was still wet. So it was very obvious that he had been intimate. All right.
Sometimes people could be seen, you know, with water dripping from their hair, meaning that they had
just taken a shower, they had just washed themselves. So we associate this part of our lives with
guilt and shame and almost, you know, as if it's something bad, no will change that mindset where
she didn't mean, fulfilling sexual desire, in a lawful way, in a permissible way is not something
		

			wrong. Just as enjoying good food is not wrong. Okay? When you eat halal, you know, chicken, all
right, that was prepared in a very fancy way. You don't feel bad about it. Right? You feel grateful
for it. You don't feel ashamed? You don't feel guilty? No, you feel grateful you feel happy. So what
does she mean? Enjoying sexual pleasure with your spouse? This is not something to be ashamed of
something to feel guilty about. Know what should follow is gratitude towards Allah subhanaw taala.
In a hadith we learn that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that every does B is a
sadaqa, meaning every time uses Subhanallah All right, you get the reward of sadaqa and every tick
		

			Veera meaning every time you say Allahu Akbar, you get the reward of sadaqa every time either every
time you say Alhamdulillah, you get the reward of sadaqa every Leela every time you say La Ilaha
illa Allah you get the reward of sadaqa. He said commanding, the good is a sadaqa, forbidding an
evil is a sadaqa. And then he said, Well, if he bouldery, a hottie come sadaqa meaning in the sexual
act of each one of you there is a sadaqa when you engage in sexual activity, there is reward. So the
Sahaba were surprised they said, yellow suit Allah, any do we get rewarded for fulfilling our
Shaohua fulfilling our sexual desire? How could there be reward in that? And the Prophet sallallahu
		

			already said and replied, that do not see that if a person were to act upon their desire in an
unlawful manner, then they would deserve punishment? Would they be punished if they fulfilled their
sexual desire in a haram way? In a sinful way? Yes, there is punishment. So this means that if a
person fulfills their sexual desire in a lawful way, in a permissible way that there is reward well,
but she didn't want me mean, there is no guilt in this. There's a reward in this if you do it the
right way. And this is why it's important that a person learns about what is permissible, what is
not permissible. And again, I asked you if there's any question that you have regarding this matter,
		

			feel free to ask if you want to send it separately privately. Feel free to do that in an email also,
through your group in charge, feel free to ask questions. Inshallah. A question regarding
* if that is how long there is a very good video by Chef Yasir qadhi addressing this
question in detail any there is a difference of opinion among the Aloma, the majority understand
that this is something forbidden, all right. And the reason being that
		

			At this would mean that a person does not need their spouse than right? They don't need their spouse
and then their spouse will be neglected and what that means is that now, they need something for
arousal and this is where it leads to more sin, you know, looking at things which are impermissible,
perhaps, you know, listening to things which are impermissible and things like that. So, definitely
the majority believes that this is something forbidden. Okay, can a woman engage in sexual activity
when she's menstruating? Good question. Yes, the only thing that is forbidden is sexual *
in the * and otherwise, like we learned in these verses, * * is also something forbidden.
		

			So that means that any other way is permissible. Okay. When it comes to oral *, again, there is a
difference of opinion among the ultimate because the mouth is supposed to be a place of you know,
dignity, but there is one thing should be known that there is no clear prohibition. So basically, is
people's preferences, right. So in any other way, it is permissible to engage in sexual activity
while she is menstruating and using the hands whatever, for both the husband and the wife
		

			if the period has ended, okay, meaning the bleeding has stopped. She can only engage in vaginal *
after she has taken a horse Okay, not before the hosel all right let's listen to the recitation of
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