Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P18 178B Tafsir Al-Nur 27-28
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The importance of privacy in relationships is emphasized, especially in public settings where people should be aware of their behavior. Personal behavior is also discussed, including not entering someone's private space without permission and not entering a private space without permission. The importance of acceptance and privacy is emphasized, along with proper etiquette for entering a house and not allowing anyone to enter without permission. The speakers provide advice on proper etiquette for entering a private space and emphasize the need for everyone to be aware of rules and not allow anyone to enter without permission.
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Let me show a little gem number 27. Now from this i onwards, several commands are given. And all of these commands, they basically close any possible door to Zina. Alright, because there was an accusation of Xena. All right, in the story that we learned the context of these IR. So, here we are given certain commands, that if we observe them, if we follow them, then what will happen? Any door that leads to Zina that will be closed or any distrust in relationships, Inshallah, that will go away any misunderstandings that could come up in relationships, they will also be avoided. And, of course, these commands will also teach us about the etiquette of, of living, you know, happily
properly in a society so that you are safe, others are safe, there's peace in the society, people don't feel threatened from one another. They're safe in their homes, their privacy is respected. So this is what the following commands are about. And remember that all of these commands that Allah subhanaw taala has given over here, what are they? What did we learn the first I have sorted the news.
So rotten, and the Lucha were followed in there, so there are fog. And when their fault, they're an obligation, what does it mean, we don't have any choice with regards to them. That means we have to observe them. When we have to observe them, we better know them properly. And in order to know them properly, what is necessary that we pay attention to what is being said over here.
Now remember, that of the objectives of Islamic law, is preservation of people's property, and protection, preservation of their lives. So for example, in our religion, theft is something that is forbidden. Why? Because then people's property is not safe, their belongings are not safe, their wealth is not safe. Right? Likewise, people's lives are also sacred. And this means that we should not frighten others. We should not threaten them. Right? Why? Because it could affect their health.
It could seriously affect their health. You know, somebody showed me this video of a prank. All right, that was being done and they basically frightened a man and he fell. He basically had a heart attack.
He had a heart attack because somebody scared him in the park.
Now yes, you are getting a lot of laughter out of scaring somebody and uploading those videos and people are watching those videos and having fun watching them. But
people's lives are in danger. Their health is in danger. You know how these we learn it is not appropriate for a believer on Euro wear that he frightens He scares his Muslim brother or sister Why? Because that is a threat to their life, that is a threat to their health, their safety, their well being. So over here, we see that Allah subhanaw taala is teaching us the etiquette the other off is the then what is the then is the then is from even. And even is permission is state then is to seek permission to ask for permission. And this is the there must be observed when we are entering someone's house or their private space. Don't just walk in, don't just go in without
permission. Because if you do that, first of all, it will scare them. They will feel threatened by your presence. Right? And if somebody sees you in their house while they were gone, and you just came into their house, they come inside and they find you inside they wonder what have you taken? Right? Why did you come? What have you done in their house? So they're gonna lose their trust in you? Correct? Likewise, respecting other people's privacy. If a husband sees his wife constantly going through his phone, what is he going to feel she doesn't trust me?
Right? She doesn't trust me. If a wife is constantly being questioned about where did you go? And how long did you stay in? Which grocery store did you go to? And where did you park and who was behind you and who was with you? I mean, what is the children is no trust in relationship respect other people's privacy, their private space respected. So this is what is the plan is all about when you enter someone's private space, their home, their bedroom, seek permission before you enter. This ensures safety of lives. This ensures safety, preservation of wealth, and this also ensures safety or preservation of relationships, which is very important for a healthy society.
So what do we learn over here? Allah subhanaw taala says yeah, Johan Medina, Amma no all you have
believed Latha dahulu boo YUTAN do not enter Wii U turn houses were used as a plural of bait. And bait remember, is a Muskan meaning a residence a place where a person lives because bad thing or Beto is to spend the night somewhere. So bathe is a place where you spend the night. Right. So it could be your house or in your house. It could be your bedroom. You understand? So for example, in one situation bathe is the house. So for example, a man his house is which one the house where his wife lives at the house where his children they've that is his house, that is his base. All right. But for example, for you as a teenage girl, right, your bathe is what the room where you sleep in.
So before your brother enters into that room, it's not his room. Right? Before he enters that room, he needs permission. You understand? So let that the Hulu Wii U turn, you understand the meaning of the word boot bait. It's the place where a person lives and specifically where he sleeps. This can apply to a bedroom, this can apply to an entire house depending on who it is. All right, that is coming in. So Allah says do not enter houses, which houses Leila will you take home which are not your houses?
The house that is not yours, the room that is not yours. So for example, you are entering your parents bedroom,
you are going to your sister's house, you are going to your friend's house, you are going to your neighbor's house, or in your house, you are going to your brother's bedroom. What does Allah say do not enter a house a room that is not yours? This doesn't mean you're not allowed in there at all. Had that until meeting only enter after, after what had the first of all the staff nisu. And secondly, what to suddenly move Isla Alia to etiquette we're being taught over here. First of all, the stat new suit, the study, so it's from the letters Hamza known seen on and what does ons mean familiarity. So that's that new Su from the word st NAS is the nurse is to seek on to seek
familiarity, meaning, acquaint yourself familiarize yourself.
All right, meaning the people who are inside should know that you want to come in, they should know who you are, and what you're doing over here. They should know. Don't just barge in, don't just go in, don't just walk in the star nisu familiarize yourself acquaint yourself, let them know you and is the nurse had that the staff knew. So this can be understood in two ways. Firstly, it means is the van Meaning seek permission. So the star nisu what does it mean? The step be no meaning do not enter except after you have taken permission. So seek approval before entry. So for example at home, right? It's nighttime, you want to go talk to your mom, your mother is in her room, the door is
closed, don't just go open the door and walk in. You can't do that. What do you have to do? This that new Sue?
And what does Destiny Sue mean? seek permission first.
And the staff needs to secondly can also be understood as a steer lamb? Is their land from meaning make yourself known. Make yourself known before you enter. So for example, you're going into your mom's room. All right, it's nighttime, and the doors closed. So the first thing you have to do is you have to take permission. But come on, it's your mom. You don't just not enter say, Mom, may I please enter? Right the lights are on. All right. So what can you do? You can say something like before you enter him on, mom, you know say something so that she knows you're coming.
You understand? She knows you're coming don't just walk into her private space and shock her and frighten her and scare her Don't do that.
So depending on who you are, depending on where you're going, depending on what time you're going at, either you will need permission before you enter or you will have to make yourself known before you enter
is this clear?
Mm.
Like, for example, my father, this is what I've always seen him doing. Even when he would come into our room, right? What would he do? He would cough.
He would cough always my Quran teacher, whenever he would come to teach us Quran at home, we would hear his keys, right? He would check his keys and the keys they meant, okay, our Quran teacher is here. Right. And even inside the house, once he's been admitted into the house, as he's making his way into the room where he's going to teach us, he wouldn't just go in like that, because it's quite possible the person who's inside the room or who's in the next room, they don't know he's here, because they didn't open the door. They didn't hear him coming. They didn't see him coming. So a woman might come out without her hijab, all right, without realizing that he's outside. So what
would he do always, when he would be in our house going from one place to the other, his keys would constantly be moving constantly, so that any person anywhere in the house, you know, they would know he's here, this is what is there alone, making yourself known making your presence known. And especially men need to learn this etiquette. So my dear sisters, teach this other to your boys from a young age and inshallah we will learn about this, that teach your children about this etiquette. Remind your husbands also, because many times it happens that, for example, in a workplace where there are women and men working, men just walk in, all right. And it's difficult, or, for example,
at home, or at a sister's party or a women's gathering, you know, a person in the house, for example, your son, big son, he's at home, he's upstairs and he needs to go without even making his presence known. He just comes down the stairs and all the girls are dressed up with their, you know, hijab off their hair out. And what happens? He just comes in, or he just comes down the stairs, and he sees everybody and all the girls have a QA running away.
Right? It's awkward.
So when he's coming down the stairs, teach him he should make his presence known.
All right, I remember this friend of mine, her brother, let's assume his name was Abdullah. Okay. He would always say of the last coming in, over the last going in the kitchen of the last going upstairs. Right? Because whenever we would be over all the girls, I mean, he wouldn't be restricted in the room because that's not fair to him either. Right? But at the same time, girls are free at the house. They're sitting in the living room or whatever. So they should know if a man is coming or going.
Right. So this is part of our deen.
This is part of our deen, because you know what we've done? We've gone to extremes. Either we observe no hijab, or we don't observe this is T than a ticket at all. You know, men women are together everywhere, nor hijab, no respect for other people's privacy, or there is 100% partition between men and women. So a man is like 50 feet away, brother is coming. Everybody cover up head to toe, and brother, you look down and you don't even talk to anybody and you go away from here. This is not our deen.
This is not a natural way of living. What is the natural way of living, that a woman when she's somewhere at home? She has a right to dress the way she wants. We know of course it has to be appropriate. But I mean, if you go to somebody's house, it's not fair that you have to keep your buyer hijab on and keep your face covered the whole time. It's not fair. Nor is it fair to the men of the house that there are locked in one room, or kicked out of the house. That's not fair either.
Right, because it's not practical in every situation. This is not how life is meant to be. Our religion has taught us how to coexist, not to cut off from one another. And we need to learn how to coexist inside the house as well in a workplace as well and this is the other that we are being taught that before you enter into somebody else's house, you must not enter except after the step nisu. So what are the two meanings of destiny? So, either is the van or is there lamb? In some situations you will have to take permission or in other situations you will have to make yourself known before you enter secondly, what do we have to do what to sell Lemo and also say salah, say the
greeting Allah Neha upon its people, which people the people of that house, meaning when you're coming in, you've been granted permission. Right? Or you have made yourself known. And now you're coming in, say Santa.
Santa want to suddenly more earlier. Don't just come in and go in mind your own business and go away. When you come in, says hello. Alright because sometimes what happens in a women's gathering and a man has to come and do something and he comes
And he act as if you're not even there. You don't even exist. We're not saying that he should have a very casual funny conversation with every woman over there. But there's absolutely no harm in the man coming in saying once alarm to everybody doing his stuff and going away. There is no harm in doing that. To suddenly more or earlier say Salam to the people who are inside and also when going home when going to anybody's house when you enter, say a Salam or Aleikum, right greet everybody. Valley come highroller come that is better for you. better for you than what
then entering without permission or entering without making yourself known or entering without saying the salam Valley compiler looking what Allah has taught us is better for us law Allah come to the Quran, perhaps you will be reminded meaning remember the good in this conduct and observe it for Indian if lambda g do you do not find fear in it? Were in that house. So for example, you're going to your neighbor's house, right? You don't just open the door and go in. What do you do? You knock on the door in order to take permission. And you say a salam Wa alaykum so that they hear you they know who you are.
But what happens? You knock no answer you knock no answer, you knock no answer. So if you don't find anybody inside, then what should you do?
force your way in?
Yeah, you go to your mom's bedroom, and you're knocking on the door. And you're saying Mom, Mom, can I calm? That? Can I come?
If there is no answer? What does Allah say?
start banging the door.
Break the door, just go in anyway. No Falletta the Holo, then do not enter it. Do not go into somebody's bedroom, do not go into somebody's house without permission. If nobody's there, permission has not given them just go back. Don't go in. Do not enter Hector, you then Allah come until permission is given to you.
So what do we learn over here? At any cost, do not enter somebody's house, somebody's bedroom without permission without a stick, then do not do that. Because if you do so what will happen? You might see something that is not correct for you to look at. Right? People inside may get annoyed, they didn't want you inside of that time. They were having a private conversation or they were doing something and they didn't want to be disturbed. They didn't allow you to enter and if you enter any way, you're going to offend them. You're disturbing them. Right? And if let's say nobody's inside, and you got no answer, you realize that nobody's inside, you're like, but I just have to put this
inside. I just have to give her dishes. So you open the door, and you go in, you know, from the back door or something. And you put the dishes inside and as you're walking out the owner of the house comes in.
Is that nice?
No, they're not going to trust you. They're not going to consider you as a friend anymore. What were you doing in their house? So at any cost? Do not enter somebody's house without permission. Hector, you gonna come? Okay, another scenario? What if you go you knock? You know, she's inside, but she's not letting you in? Or she says I'm busy right now. Can you please come five minutes later? Can you please come after half an hour? I'm sorry. I cannot answer the door right now.
So if somebody doesn't allow us to enter what should we do feel offended? And then when they come to us we say go away. Do not enter my room. You know like siblings do right? This is my room you see this line? It's my do not step on this carpet if you do so. You're not safe. Right? I mean finding I've done this too and I'm sure many people have done it. You know and then you play around you're like here Here I stepped into your right. So you know we take revenge. Somebody didn't allow us and we say okay, I'll never allow you and what does Allah say? We're in Akela calm but if it is up to you, if zero go back return, meaning don't come in right now. Then get offended. No, Allah says
fougere route and callback. Go back. Don't insist. Don't force your way in.
Go back. If somebody says they are busy, don't say but only two minutes only one minute. Only 30 seconds and use ask for 30 seconds then you take 10 minutes. Don't do that. If you're told I'm busy. Please go later inshallah. Then do not get offended. Fold your goal who is gonna come that is pure for you. cleaner for you. What is cleaner for you
to accept that rejection. It's cleaner for you. You are not granted permission. Accept it.
an NGO that is cleaner for you. How is it cleaner?
If you get offended in your heart? Is that clean for your heart? No way. If you force yourself in, you might see something which is not appropriate. Right? And that is not clean. If you insist No, no, please let me in. Please. I'm telling you just let me in open the door. I'm ordering you. And if you don't understand this will happen. Well, your relationship with them is is ruined.
May I mean, of course, they've asked you. Right. So that is an exceptional situation.
Yeah, I mean, if they've told you, like, for example, your mother, she's going to sleep. And she tells you Please wake me up at this. And this time? I mean, she's told you wake me up. How are you meant to wake up by knocking on the door? She might not hear that. Right. So, again, waking somebody up that should be done properly as well. Right? Because sometimes we wake people up in in such a way that they get frightened.
Right, go ahead.
It depends. So for example, parents do they need permission before entering into their daughter's room. So for example, a father, if he's coming into his adult daughter's room after a shot, or even during the day of her bedroom door is closed, she might be changing insight. Right? I mean, she's closed the door for a reason you shouldn't just barge in.
All right, of course, if the son or the daughter is married, then for sure they need permission before entering right. So who is gonna come that is pure for you will love will be met are marooned on him and Allah is Aware of whatever you do. So when you enter somebody's house or somebody's room without permission, nobody's there, nobody's watching you. Allah knows what you're doing. So fear Allah.
What do we learn from these two verses that it is not permissible for a person to enter someone's private space without permission? Right? Now forget about entering physically. All right, it is also not allowed to enter your vision into somebody else's house or private space without permission.
In a hadith we learn this hadith isn't Behati that wants a man he peeped through a round hole, right into the house of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. So there must have been a hole somewhere, maybe in the wall or something. And he was looking through that hole inside the house of the prophets of Allah is Allah and the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he had this comb, you know that he was passing through his hair. So he was brushing his hair. All right. And the prophets all along and said them, he said, Had I known that you were looking, he realized afterwards that man was looking inside his house, he said, Had I known that you were looking through the hole, I would have pierced your eye
with the school,
I would have struck you with the skull directly at your eye. And he said, Verily, the order of taking permission to enter has been enjoined, because of the sights, that you shouldn't look into somebody's room, you shouldn't look into somebody's house, when the door is closed. When the windows are closed, a person is in his house. He's in his private space, relaxing, whatever he's doing, it's none of your business. You shouldn't look inside in the material and stay there. I mean, Agilent bizarre. Estate then has been ordained because of vision.
And this means that we shouldn't be looking into other people's house, through doors, through windows, right from between the shutters or from under the shutters. We shouldn't be doing that. Because sometimes this is what many people are obsessed with, you know, being outside and just looking inside other people's houses, neighbor's houses, right or neighbor's apartments or people across the building their apartment, or I think the TV's on. What's on the TV. Is it the gear? What does that got to do with us? Right or looking into other people's houses? Oh, I think that's a bedroom.
That means that four bedrooms. Oh, okay, that looks like a bathroom. Pretty big window for a bathroom. What have you got to do with their private space this is not allowed. Remember that. This is also a sin looking into somebody's house without permission. In a hadith in double Morford, we learn that it is not lawful for a Muslim to look inside a house until he has been given permission.
It is not lawful for a Muslim to look inside somebody's house until he has been given permission. And if he does so, meaning if he still looks into their house, then he has entered than it says though he has entered and he has entered without permission. He has entered his vision without permission. So it says though he has entered and he has done
COVID Allah subhanaw taala now what is the etiquette what is the conduct? How is it that we should take permission? We learned that once in a hadith and Sunnah document, a man came to the prophets of Allah Muslims door. Right? And he said, I need you.
I need you. May I get in? And I'll lead you BlueJ it doesn't just mean enter it means you see balloon is to insert one thing and another.
All right, like Allah makes the night enter into the day. All right, yeah lead you he makes the night enter into the day and the day enter into the night and the word will which is also used over there. So you understand like, may I just get in? May I get in? So he said early do the prophets of Allah Islam said to His servant, He does not know how to seek permission, go and tell him that he should say a Salam or Aleikum at hello.
Go and teach him that he should say a salam Wa alaykum may I enter this is the etiquette.
So for example, sometimes when we're going into somebody's house, open the door
open
Alright, we're just yelling. No, salaam no adult. Any this is something that does not fit decent believer. Right? Go ahead.
Yes, yeah. Instead of nicely knocking, banging, or kicking. Forget about banging kicking the door. Right? And if nobody is at the door within two seconds, then there was the doorbell. It's like your your hand just froze there.
You know? And if, if nobody's come in, then going to the window of the window is open. Hello?
Can somebody open the door? This is not the ticket. What's the ticket? A salam Wa alaykum. That's the first thing that you should say Salaam. I mean, I come in manter.
Right. So seek permission properly. In another Hadith we learned that a particular companion who embraced Islam very later, and this is after the conquest of Makkah. He entered upon the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and he did not say the salam nor did he seek permission. So you just walked in. All right. And the Prophet sallallahu sallam said it a year go back for calling then say a Salam or Aleikum.
Go back and say a Salam or Aleikum, may I enter? So that companion he went back? And he said a Salam o alaikum? May I enter and the Prophet salallahu Salam allowed him to enter? So what does it teach us that when we're teaching children also, right? children or people who are newly learning these etiquette? Teach them how to do it. All right. One more thing that we should remember is that when we are taking permission, right? When we are, for example, knocking on the door, or we want to speak to the person inside, what should we do? We should
not stand right in front of the door.
So that when they open, we're in their face, and we're looking straight into their house. No, what is the etiquette and Hadith I would I would return a man came and he stood at the door, and he stood facing the door.
All right. Remember, when you hear the word door, it doesn't just mean a wooden door with a knob on it and you open it. Alright, Bob is basically the place of entry. So at that time, doors, had curtains on them. All right, it wasn't like a door that you open and shut the door meaning an entryway with a curtain on it. So this man came and he stood facing the door meaning facing the curtain. And the Prophet sallallahu sallam said to him away from the door, meaning don't stand in front of it. Either stand on this side, or stand on the other side, stand on the side. asking permission is meant to escape from the look of the eye. Meaning if you're standing in front of the
door, then as soon as the curtain is lifted, and you look straight inside. And the point is that you don't look inside otherwise just come in. Otherwise there is no need to have doors and curtains and other headaches. And we learned that when the prophets of Allah Saddam came to someone's door. He did not face the door. lumea stuck Bilal Burba mental energy. This was his advocate, he would not face the door he would not have his face in the direction of the door. He would not be standing in front of the door. Rather he would be on the right or the left side of it. And he would say a salam Wa alaykum wa salam or Aleikum so that he would be known to the people who are inside. So this is
one etiquette right? Don't stand in front of the door. All right. Another etiquette is that the person who's seeking permission he should let himself be known. All right. So for example, you knock on the door, and you don't say anything, just a knock. And the person inside is like Who is it to for example, you're knocking on your sister's door. She's like, Who is it?
Me?
Who? Me
Who? Me?
Well, who does she know what me is Who me is? Right? So this happened with the Prophet sallallahu Sallam also once that he was, it is our somebody knocked and he said mundra, who is it? And jab, it'll blow on who he said Anna. I and the prophets of Allah Islam said,
as if he disliked it. Right meaning meaning, don't say that. Don't just assume that the person recognized you. Let yourself be known. If they ask you Who is it, don't get offended that they didn't recognize you, by the way you knocked or from your voice. Okay, if they didn't recognize you, you know, sometimes on the phone, what happens? Right? Somebody starts talking to us if they know you from 100 years, and you're like, who am I speaking to? Oh, you see if they didn't recognize me, guess. Guess?
I hate that game.
I think it's very evil. Anyway, the prophets, Allah loves him did not like that. So let the other person know who you are. All right. One more thing we should remember is that when we are seeking permission to enter, we should do it a maximum of three times not more than that. So for example, you go knock on the door. Once no answer. You said Son, Mr. Lika. Walter, no answer. So you're not second time with us. And Mr. lako? No answer. You know, the third time with the salam aleikum, no answer, then what should you do?
Keep knocking and keep knocking and keep knocking? Right? Just keep knocking on the door until the person gets so annoyed that they let you know a maximum of three times. And this also goes for calling people please. Because sometimes you look at your phone 13 missed calls from the same number. Oh my God, was there an emergency? You call back immediately? Uh, where did you put the chocolate cake? upstairs or downstairs? Seriously, you call me 13 times while I'm in class to find out where the chocolate cake is.
Like you would think somebody's in the hospital or something because they called 13 times. So keep it to a limit of how many times three times because this is the other that the prophets of Allah sent out in a hadith we learned that once of Musa Arshad he went to remodeled alone more on whose house and he knocked. He said Salam may I enter once no answer. So basically the three times no answer, he went back, and then after some time are muddled lower, and who found out that have also had come to see him. So he asked him that Why didn't you ask again? I mean, if I didn't hear you three times, maybe I was busy, you should have asked again, he said, Because I heard the prophets on
a lot. And I'm saying that if any one of you asks the permission to enter three times, and permission is not given that he should return.
Then he should return. Don't ask more than three times because a person might be busy inside. Right? And you don't want to keep annoying them. Or keep disturbing them by knocking, knocking knocking. It's not appropriate. All right. One more thing. Is it possible to allow some people to enter like without permission?
Like can you make an exceptional case? For individuals? Yes, you can. So for example, the prophets of Allah Azam, he told our beloved Miss Ruth, I'm delivering Miss Ruth was related to him. He was young, right? So he told him that the sign that you have been permitted to come into my house is that you raise the curtain. All right, you raise the curtain, and you hear me speaking. Meaning when you raise the curtain, I don't say anything to you. I continue with my conversation. I don't stop until meaning unless I forbid you.
Right, unless I forbid you. So in other words, he was giving him the permission to come in without saying a Salam or Aleikum.
All right. Well, he was making an exception for him. And he said that when you're coming in, you just lift the curtain. All right. And if I don't stop you, then that means you can come in and I carry on with my conversation. That means you're allowed. But if I stop talking, and as you're lifting the curtain, I say who is it? Then that means you need to ask me.
So what do we learn from this, that if there are certain people who are allowed to come in into your private space into your house all the time, then you can come to some mutual understanding, so that each time there is no inconvenience in a Salam or Aleikum? May I come in a Salam or Aleikum? May I come in? You understand? All right. Another thing we learn is that it then is necessary on entering a house other than your house. Right? This is what we learn in the
later on, we insist on knowing why.
That's really Yes. Does that qualify for bringing that up? That if you know somebody wants to come in and you say I'm busy right now, you tell them that come later on. They ask you why what
you doing? What are you doing? Well, there's certainly something that they're doing that you have nothing to do with, which is why they didn't let you in.
Right? So don't invade into other people's privacy.
All right, so it's the line is necessary on entering the house other than your house. Will you to come? What are your houses? There are the man have defined your house is the house of your wife, meaning for a man his house is the house of his wife, whether it's a house or a room, you understand a house or a room.
Okay, so those were singles. For them, what is their house, the house in which they live, or the room in which they live? Right. So when we are entering somebody else's room, we need permission. When we're entering somebody else's house, we need permission. It was Rudra Lauren, who he said our Aleikum and desta the Nuala Omaha article, you must take permission from your mothers before entering their house. So, for example, if a son is not living in the same house anymore, and he goes to his mother's house, for instance, you should take permission before entering, not just walking. So she's scared. Who is this man? Right? Don't frighten him. Or likewise, if he is living in the
same house before he enters into his mother's room, what does he need? What does he need? permission? Saying goes to the sister?
I thought he said that I asked even our bus. Should I seek permission from my sisters before entering?
And he said yes. He said, but they live in the same house? And he said, Yes. Would you like to see them while they are undressed?
You wouldn't like to see that. So before you enter, seek permission.
And you see sometimes it's very normal that a woman is in the house. A girl is in the house. All right. You know, for example, as a family grows as a family members increase, the daughter is married, the son is married. All right now the sons wife is not my home to the daughter's husband. Is she? They're not my home right. Now. The son's wife is at home. She's doing dishes, for instance, in her in laws house, she's doing dishes. And for that she takes her hijab off. She rolled up her sleeves. All right, or she's mopping the floor. So she even rolled up her pants, for example. And now what happens? For instance, a daughter's husband has to come in. He's going to his in laws
house, if you think about it, it's his in laws house, should he just walk in without permission? No, he shouldn't he should take permission before coming in. Because he's not the only one who lives in that house or who's visiting that house. There are other people as well.
Right? Even between a brother and a sister, it's possible that you are doing your dishes and you take your hijab off and your shirt is kind of not that loose, or the neck is not that high, and you're doing dishes, and you wouldn't want your brother to just come in and see you in that state. Is it appropriate? It's not. So when you're living with other relatives, or you are going to a house where there are many relatives, don't just think you can walk in like that. And this is especially for men, if you think about it. Right? It's especially for men. Go ahead.
Exactly. That it's not just that a man should take permission before entering into house where his mother is or where his sisters are, even where his wife is. He doesn't need permission there. But he needs to do is the alarm over there. So for example, we learn that whenever the prophets on a lot of them would be traveling, and he would return to Medina. He wouldn't just go to the house like that. What would he do? First, he would go to the masjid so that everybody would know. Okay, the Caravan has returned. The men are here. All right. In Hadees, we learn that if you enter at night, meaning after coming from a journey, do not enter upon your family. Just like that. Give them some time so
that they can prepare. When the man goes to his house. What should he do? He should say salam ala Miss Ruth Wibsey nebrodi, Lauren, her she said that when Abdullah would come back from some errand, and he would reach the door, he would clear his throat.
And then he would come in.
And then he would come in, because sometimes even a wife could be in a state where she doesn't want her you know her husband to see her like that. Her hair is all over. She's messy. Right? She wants to be you know, in a good state when her husband walks in.
Of course, of course that even when it comes to conversations, right, Eavesdropping is something that is not appropriate. If we're not allowed to look at other people's private possessions enter into their private space, then how can we be listening to their private conversations?
In a hadith in other Bulma fraud we learned
Musa even though he said this is very interesting now he said that I entered where my mother was with my father. So Musa even tell her Musa is going with Malhotra Heizo his father. He said, I'm going with my father to a place where where my mother was, so maybe it's the room or the house. So he said he went in and I followed him.
So he turned and moved me back.
He turned and moved me back. And he said, Will you enter without permission?
It's okay for me to enter without permission, because she's my wife, but she's your mother. And you need permission from your mother before you enter into her room into her private area. All right, because I mean, she is in her private room, she may be not wearing her hijab properly. It's not appropriate that her son just walks in like that older son, I mean, children, it's different Inshallah, we will learn about that as well. And remember that this command is not just for men, it's also for women only, as she said that we were for women who would often visit Aisha low on her.
But before we would enter, we would seek permission. If she gave us permission, we would enter otherwise we would leave. So for example, your sister's room. Don't just walk in Oh, girls. Alright, So Kim, she's changing in front of me. No, it's not okay.
Who said it's okay?
It's not acceptable. When you enter into your sister's room out of the door is closed. That means she wants you out of there. So before you enter, take permission, you're going to your friend's house, take permission before you enter. Right? And now one more thing, how to take permission how to knock on the door. We learned the Hadith, Anas ibn Malik although I knew he said that people would knock on the door of the prophets of Allah and Islam using their fingernails.
fingernails. Why? Because when you knock with the fingernails, that is enough for the person inside to find out that you're outside. All right. Now these days if you knock with a fingernail, and somebody's upstairs, they will never know. So in that situation, what is sufficient is ringing the bell once class. Don't just keep ringing it again and again and again.
So what do we learn from this we need is to then before entering right? Now one more thing is the then taking permission is also necessary before leaving.
So when you go to somebody's house, you're eating
and then all of a sudden they go to get dessert and they come back and you're not there. What happened?
Don't just go away from the party without telling them you need permission before leaving also.
All right, and inshallah we will learn about that later in detail intro to neuron 62 We learn that in the moment we don't Alladhina amanu Billahi Razali were either can Omar who are Allah Emery Jameer in La mia who had died yesterday? No, they take permission before leaving. All right. So this is the etiquette of entering into somebody's private residence. The following is about entering a public place. All right, Inshallah, we will look at that. Let's listen to the recitation of these verses. Yeah.
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