Al-Ahzab 49-52 Tafsir 49
Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 22 – L223B
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The speakers discuss the use of "verbal" language in relationships, including couples who have a man or woman they want to marry and the importance of having a woman in a waiting period. They also touch on the legal system for divorce cases and the importance of avoiding couples' abuse and handling the situation. The speakers emphasize the need for men to give something to women at the time of divorce and the importance of considering the importance of "verbal" language in various court cases. They also discuss the history of marriages and the responsibility of men to handle the situation.
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Yeah, you have Lalita amanu all you who have believed, either an actual movement it when you marry believing women, some men are lucky to ohana and then you divorce them when men probably entoma Suhana before you touch them, meaning before you have any physical contact with them for Manoj Kumar, la hindlimb. And
then there is not for you any waiting period to count concerning them. But what you do at the time of divorce from A to ruhuna was suddenly who who not Salahuddin jameelah. But provide for them and give them a gracious release. When you're sending them away, send them in an honorable manner.
In this ayah Allah subhanaw taala is addressing Who? The believers and what is the ayah about divorce. So what does it show to us the address? Yeah, and you have Ludhiana Avenue. This is a reminder that following this command, observing this command is something that is a requirement of Iran. That if you're believers, then you have to observe this. Your Eman requires you to do this. And when you will observe this, then what's going to happen? It will be a means of strengthening your email. And if you neglect this in any way, this is a sign of weakness of email.
Yeah, you are levena Manu, even a cattleman would mean it when you marry the believing women. The word nakatomi is from noon gaff Ha. And what is Nick? I mean? Literally, it means of them agenda to join two things together. This is the literal meaning of the word nigger.
And what does Nicaragua do? A marriage contract. It joins do individuals together in a relationship. They had absolutely no connection before no relationship before. And now because of the nicca they are joined to one another, they're connected to one another. They have a relationship. Whereas right before the Nikkor they were done more harm to one another. Isn't it so and the word nigger is used in two ways. First of all, it is used for sexual relationship. And secondly, it is also used for marriage contract.
do things the word * is used for however in the Quran, the word * is only used for marriage contract.
The word * is only used for marriage contract. So he then a capital movement at Nika over here What does it mean? When you have married them meaning when you have had the contract only over here It refers to only the only the contract and we learn in the Quran at various places where the word nigger has been used, it refers to the contract. Like for instance, well then get all mushy. Kathy, what do you mean? Don't get married to them. Similarly, zanni lei en que el es enitan oshika. Over there alternate means the contract. Then in the case where a man if he divorces his wife three times for input naka falletta Hello hoomin Bardot had that tanky her zolgensma over there alternate means
contract. All right. So is an actual minute when you have married the believing women.
Now we have learned earlier that Muslim men they are allowed to marry believing women and who else?
The women from the unknown kita. But over here only Minato mentioned.
You understand? You understand the question the point that I'm making over here that only Minotaur mentioned over here where as a Muslim man is allowed to marry Who? A Muslim woman as well as a kitabi woman. So why am I not mentioned over here? For two reasons.
First of all, because this ruling only applies when a man gets married to a believing woman.
If he gets married to a katavi woman, then this ruling does not apply the ruling that is given in the ayah that's not relevant in that situation then, in that case, so it's only applicable in the case where a man marries a man or woman.
And secondly,
believing women are only mentioned over here because men act or be mentioned over here as opposed to wish the guy
remember that marriage to mostly Catholic women is forbidden, isn't it? So men are believing women when you get married to and although marriage wicked
Women is permissible. However, it is still preferable that a person gets married to a movement.
You understand
why men are mentioned because it is preferable that a Muslim man gets married to her.
Because a person who has a man, then what quality will he look for?
He will look for email is in itself.
And if a person is interested in something else, then that's the quality that he's looking for. So, yeah, you have Latina, M and o are being mentioned. So a person with a man What will he prefer for himself? Amen. Either in a cattle movement and when you have married believing women,
some men, then meaning after the marriage contract, what happens? for luck to move on? You have divorced them. You got married, but you happen to divorce her for luck to move from Pollock. And what does it really mean to let loose to release and literally the word for lack is handle.
What does it mean?
to imprison to restrict, right. So how to release meaning to open up the imprisonment you understand, to open up the lock to let go to let loose to release to set free.
So so much are locked in ohana when you have divorced them, men verbally before and Tama Suhana. Before you touch them. There must be one meme scene scene must and must literally means to touch. However, many times in the Koran the word must is figuratively used for what sexual contact between a husband and wife.
And there are many other words that are used for this purpose as well. That figuratively it is hinted direct words are not used. Sometimes it is denoted by the word if not. We'll call the F bar bar leukomalacia. Sometimes it is denoted by the word etn. etn is to come. Sometimes it is denoted by the word the rashie to cover. And Musk is also used some in public entoma Suhana mess over here means physical contact, meaning sexual relationship between the husband and the wife. So you got married but you happen to divorce them before any sexual relationship. There was absolutely no physical contact. So in this case, what's the ruling family icon, then there is not for you? meaning
for human, you do not have to count. I lay hands upon them, meaning for them concerning them. Who concerning the women that you have divorced men or that in any waiting period?
Meaning a woman who has been divorced before any marital relations were established between her and her husband, then she does not need to sit for any further. You understand? There is no data for that woman.
Typically, what is there a different woman in the case where she is divorced? salata to Kuru, remember, three menstrual cycles. We learned this in the Quran Surah Baqarah Ayah 228 that while mocha, la cartuja, Tara burstner B and fusina fellas that are Kuru, that divorced women they remain in waiting for how long? three periods, three menstrual cycles. And for a widow, a woman whose husband has died how much is her
four months and 10 days so little vichara I do 30 for that one Latina Uto a phone and men can wear the Luna as virgin, yet on a bus maybe unfussy in a bar that I shouldn't wash law. They have to wait with themselves for how long four months and 10 days. Now in an idea, what is a woman supposed to do?
What is the woman required to do in her?
What are the restrictions that are imposed on him?
Okay, staying within the home What else?
Okay, she should refrain from beautifying herself what else not accept any proposal not get married. Remember that it the A woman is not allowed to get married.
So for Manoj Kumar, laying him in such a woman, Allah subhanaw taala says that you don't have to count any Ada for her.
Not one month, not one day, not 10 days, not four months, nothing, no waiting period whatsoever.
So in this case, what's going to happen?
if let's say the marriage contract took place immediately she was divorced. Can she get married the next hour she can
Can she get married the next day? She can. Why? Because only the contract took place. That's it. There was absolutely no physical contact between the husband and the wife.
And because of that, there was no attachment. You understand? And there was no chances of her being pregnant either. Because what is the objective of?
What's the purpose behind the
two reasons? What are they first of all, do check if there is pregnancy, right? Is the bra
that if she is pregnant, then it should be known.
And secondly, like in the case where the widow, she has to sit for four months and 10 days, right? It's not three menstrual cycles, how much is it four months and 10 days? Why is that? So to get over that relationship that she had with her husband, you understand to get over that attachment. Because when a man and a woman have been in a relationship, emotionally, they get attached to one another, especially the woman.
So she needs time to get over it. However, we see that in this case, which is mentioned in this ayah that a man and woman got married, there was absolutely no physical contact, they got divorced, no chances of pregnancy and on top of that, no feelings of attachment either because there was no physical relationship.
And because of that reason, she is allowed to get married soon after that. So what is mentioned over here from Allah como la hidden them in that in that Duna, Darth aduna, that you count it that aduna from the reflectors I in del del at that, and what does that mean to count to number, so you do not have to count any further
for material, but you should benefit them. Who should you benefit? The woman whom you're divorcing, you got married to her? No physical contact, you divorced her. Now, at the time of the divorce, you have to give her some kind of benefit material one. Material one meme de matar, as you know, is used for benefit, such benefit that is material that is worldly, which is why it is also understood as temporary benefit because any worldly benefit any material benefit, what is it? It's temporary. It's not eternal, it ends very soon.
And material one over here would be in the case where no matter has been fixed.
Where no matter has been fixed. We have learned this earlier as well, that if at the time of nica, the mother was fixed.
And the woman was divorced before physical contact, then that she takes him or her with her. She takes half of what was fixed. You understand? When in the case where the mother was fixed, so let's say the man gave her $2,000. Now, after one hour, he realizes No, no wrong choice, wrong decision divorce, okay. But he said $2,000. Now, what is he supposed to do give her 1000 he has to Why? Because of the emotional injury that he caused.
And let's say there was no matter that was fixed, you understand? What is that the model was fixed, the other is that model was not fixed at the time of nikka. Now, in this case, material,
it has been left open, you have to give them some kind of benefit, some kind of benefit, and this will be determined by what by what the man can afford.
You understand this will be determined by how much ever the man can afford. And this methodic can be anything. It could be money, it could be clothes, it could be jewelry, anything that is of value, and it will be determined by the financial ability of the man.
We learned through tobacco. I a 236 that led you know how Aleikum involucrata manisa Amal anthemis to hoonah I will definitely Lula who never do
that there is no blame upon you. If you divorce women you have not touched nor specified for them. Amma Have
you have not touched them, and you have not even specified a moment for them. But what are you supposed to do? Well, my dear one, but give them a gift of compensation. And how much is it? Arlen musi Reekado lol mk de cada Who? The wealthy according to his capability and the poor according to his capability.
Each person is required to give according to how much he can afford, whatever that he's able to give.
And this Allah says Mata and Bill Murphy, how can I learn more since this is an obligation on work?
On who those who do exam,
the exam has been mentioned that it's up to you how whichever you want to do whichever extent you want to do give to the woman
and otherwise also at the time of divorce, what is a man required to do? He must give some kind of matter to the woman.
In the case where the matter was fixed, or it was not fixed, the marriage was consummated or not consummated. We see that the man is required to give some kind of matter to the woman at the time of divorce.
When we learned that from were from sort of UCLA i a 241, that we're living with alacati, Matera and Bill Maher, aloof, how can I clean for all divorced women, any kind of divorced woman? For all of them, there is a provision according to what is acceptable. And this is a duty upon who those people who have Taqwa
so Allah, Allah says over here for material one, then give them something was certainly hoonah. And when you're releasing them, when you're sending them away, how should you send them sarahan jameelah in a beautiful way, suddenly who have not seen or had the city, what does this leave me to let go of something. And the city is also used for divorce. So we're certainly who wouldn't nestled our hand jameelah, set them free,
set them free, in a manner that is beautiful, in a manner that is very decent, in a manner that is very gracious.
What does it mean by that? Meaning without inflicting any harm upon her?
Because typically, at these times what happens? Both parties, they falsely accused one another of things that have never been done.
They speak very ill of one another. There's a lot of fighting, a lot of arguing a lot of insulting. But what do we see, a lot of panel data says to the men that were suddenly who witness our hand, Jamila send them away beautifully, gracefully, without any insult without any beating or any fighting and the arguing. And also sort of hand demeanor that led her way open, meaning let her go don't prevent her, don't hinder her. That just because you were in a contract with me, therefore, you cannot get married to anybody else. No, no, Sarah and Amina let her go beautifully, graciously, without imposing any restrictions on her without making her life difficult.
And one more thing that we learned from years was suddenly humaneness or our hand Jamila, that we see that the men and women that had no physical relationship yet,
but still, the man is required to let her go beautifully.
Now it's quite possible that both of them were living separately. You understand that that took place, the girl is still with her parents. She never moved in with the men understand they were living separately. But still, we see that the woman is under Who? under her husband, even if she's living away from him, even if there has been no physical contact, which is why the men are being told suddenly Hoon, now let them go. Release them. Sara Angelina, in a beautiful manner.
So what can we learn from this ayah
we learned many, many things. That first of all,
we learned from this ayah
about the importance of the issues concerning nikka. And Paula,
that they're not ordinary issues. They're not such matters that should be treated very casually. No, there are serious issues. When it comes to marriage when it comes to divorce. Both parties should be extremely careful not to violate the rulings that Allah subhanaw taala has said,
Where do we learn about this from about the importance of these rulings? That Yeah, a human Medina.
command is being given by what neither they're being called the believers are being addressed. And in this ayah, rulings concerning nikka and Pollock, they're not ordinary rulings. They're not ordinary matters. They're serious matters. Because look at the detail with which Allah subhanaw taala is explaining them. Look at the detail and how many times has he mentioned them in different different ways? different different scenarios he has presented.
What does it show to us how important these matters are?
That when it comes to these issues, we have to see what Allah Subhana Allah has commanded us to do.
Because many times in these situations, what do people follow their desires?
Isn't it? whatever they're being emotionally driven to do.
They're angry, they will not care about any rules. They're overcome by love. Again, they will not care about any rules. But we see that Yeah, you're Latina, ermanno, the believers are being addressed. Yeah, you heard, there's helped me that we chose that these commands are extremely, extremely important. And a person must be very, very careful about them.
Also, we learn from the side, that observing the rules of the shittier. The legal rulings that allows the panel data has given to us whether they're about family law, criminal law, business, any kind of laws that Allah subhanaw taala has given, observing them as what is a part of a man?
Because remember, what is the definition of a man does the baboon and in the submission, so this is where submission comes in. That when you accept and acknowledge the fact that Allah is your Lord, then how are you to submit to Him, that whatever rulings he gives you, you accept them, you observe them, you follow them.
And part of these rulings is also of nikka and Bala.
And the stronger the amount of the person, the stronger his adherence to these commands. Remember that the more careful he will be. And the weaker the man, the weaker his adherence, he will not be careful. So when a person's a man is stronger than what does he want to do? Do everything the way Allah wants him to do? It's an evidence of the strength of his Eman. And if a person does not care about the laws that Allah subhanaw taala has given then what does that show weakness of his fate? That he's not concerned about what Allah has said? Because it's only a un Lavina amanu? Who will be careful about this.
Also, we learn from desire that Allah subhanaw taala says, Yeah, you and Medina terminal, he then a minute. So
what comes first nikka then comes, then comes on up. So this shows to us that there is no Falak before nikka
you're like, obviously, right? There is no Pollock before nica.
There are people who say if I get married to so and so I divorce from now.
Meaning I'm never going to get married to her and they say, if you want me to get married to her, I already divorcing
or people say that enters a wedge to keep her in necrophonic that if I were to get married to you, then you are divorced already. And they think that because a man has said the statement with regards to a particular woman. If he gets married to her that automatically there is no, there will be no Falak You understand? Because sometimes people they don't want to marry a particular person. And this if I get married to her, I divorce her. Now he has said this statement before he actually got married. So when he gets married to her, there is no divorce. You understand? When he will get married to her there is no divorce because he said those words when before even getting married. So
those words have no meaning. When he gets married to her, and if he wishes to divorce her, then only Can he get further.
So there's no follow up before nikka.
All right, and words of divorce before nicca What are they invalid? They're useless. They don't carry any meaning they're not effective at all. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that last time Erica Coble, Annika there is no divorce before marriage, even merger. Another Hadees a Muslim man, that lautoka Livni, Adam, a female I am legal. There is no divorce for the son of Adam with regards to which he does not possess. Meaning if he's not married to a particular woman, then he cannot divorce her.
You understand? He cannot divorce her. Because sometimes people use these emotional ways to, you know blackmail other people, or to show that I'm never going to accept her as my wife. But the fact is that no matter what you say, it's irrelevant. It doesn't mean anything, unless and until there is a marriage contract.
Ultimately and from desire, that about the permissibility of Pollock, that it is permissible to give Pollock,
it is not how long it is not something that should be looked down upon. Why? Because Allah has permitted it.
Allah has allowed it
because sometimes what happens just because a woman is divorced, just because a man is divorced, what happens? people treat them as if there's some other kind of creation that they
Absolutely no concept of thinking about getting them remade, thinking about proposing to them. There's no such thought in some people, but we see that when Allah has allowed Allah when it is permissible, then who are we to object? Who are we to look down on people who have taken this option for whatever reason.
Then we alternate and from the cya about the permissibility of,
of giving divorce before physical contact between the spouses
that it is permissible to give the last before the men and women have had physical contact.
Now, what does it mean by mass? mercies? What does it mean by that? Technically,
some scholars, they understand Mercy's must as a technical term to be sexual *.
And other say that no, this applies to even halwa what is called woman being alone.
So, if a man and woman were alone after nikka, they just sat together, that's it just exchanged a word or two, no third person was there.
Even if they didn't shake hands, this is understood as muscies this is understood as physical contact.
You understand? There are two opinions.
One is that their sexual * must have taken place. Secondly, the other opinion is that even halwa being alone is considered as mercies. Okay, both opinions are there.
And we see that the Prophet sallallahu sallam, once we see that he got married to a particular woman, and when he went to her, she said,
I seek refuge from you.
She didn't accept the Prophet sallallahu Sallam as her husband says the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to her that you have sought refuge with one who is great, so go home, it's okay. He sent her he divorced her immediately. And he said go and he told the people that they should give her two white linen dresses as Mata. So she did not accept Him as her husband and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam What did you do? he divorced her immediately. And we said there was no death for her. Okay.
So it was only halwa You understand?
There was no physical contact, it was just the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and her they were alone as soon as he went, she said, that's it.
So, this is why some scholars say that although in the Quran, the word must has been used must does not necessarily mean sexual *, even if the two have been alone,
that is what
understood as lessees, okay?
And ultimately learn from this is one more thing, that
at the time of divorce, a man is required to give what to the woman,
some kind of mother, half of the mother in the case where
the mother was fixed, and if the marriage was consummated, and how much
all of it, okay, and if the marriage was not consummated, mother was not fixed, then what? matter? We learned this in sort of the Baccarat 237. The last panel data says we're in for luck to move on. I'm incredibly anti Suhana. We're calling forward to Laguna de La Fenix format for ella funa, a year for Olivia de ropa, de Nika that if you divorce women before you have touched them, and you have already specified for them an obligation, then give half of what you specified unless if they forgive, or the one in whose hand is a marriage contract forgives it.
Meaning the woman says it's okay I don't want to keep it all with yourself or the man says it's okay. I won't keep one half you take all of it. You understand both have the right to forgive.
We also learn from this ayah about the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala towards the servants
that he has commanded the men to give some benefit to the women at the time of divorce. Isn't this a las pantallas mercy that this is great comfort for the woman who has been divorced that obviously she has been emotionally hurt. Even if there was no physical relationship between the man and the wife. There was still you know the attachment of the name that so and so is now married to so and so.
And getting divorced at that moment is not something small.
So it has caused her some emotional turmoil.
Because of that, Allah subhanaw taala out of his mercy, what has he commanded the men to do? That they must give some kind of matar to the women at this time?
Also, we learn from the saya about the obligation of the three Jamil
that when a man lets go of his wife at the time of divorce, then how should he send her?
How should he send it in a beautiful manner in a gracious manner? Respectfully, not while insulting her.
We also learned from this ayah that there
is the right of the husband.
There it is, what? The writer who? The husband, the ex husband? Where do we learn this from?
Family Law comb, Family Law, calm What does lamb denote for possession that you have the right, right? So it shows that there is there is the right of the man, that the woman must sit in it that she must not get married to anyone until there is over? Because this is the right of the man How is it the right of the man that he has the right to know if she is carrying his child? Whether it is divorce, or it isn't the case of that right although the man has died, but still his child should get whose name his name even if he has passed away.
Then we also learn from this that the men are responsible for keeping count of their
where do we learn that from?
From Allah como la hin Let me read that in Tata, Dona who is being addressed over here, the men.
Now, a woman, obviously she knows what's going on with her body when she starts her menstrual period to when she ends it but the man, he has to be extremely careful about this as well. He cannot say Oh, yeah, you just let me know when it's over. No, he has to be careful. Because this is his right. And he needs to know when there it is beginning when it is coming to an end. Even in the case where the fallout is luxury.
It's a remarkable divorce. And the marriage was consummated between the husband and wife, right? They were living together, the man divorces a woman, it's the first divorce, the woman is living in the house of the husband. Even in that case, who is required to counter the
the man the man is required to counter it. And what is the responsibility of the woman that she should not lie concerning it?
You understand we have learned earlier that will act on Mr. hakala, who feel that they should not conceal what Allah has created in the rooms.
And all of these rulings, when do they apply when a man has gotten married to a believing woman?
And not a kitabi? woman? Because at the time a woman? Will she care about the laws of Islam? Obviously not she will not be concerned about it. So these rulings cannot be enforced on her Rather, they are to be only in the case where a man gets married to a believing woman
is the Hadees that I mentioned that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam got married to a woman and she sought refuge with him. That doesn't necessarily prove to us that hallway is must. However, this incident has been reported as the reason behind the revelation of this verse. Okay. Because you may wonder that how come this is being mentioned all of a sudden desire from where? Because these eyes are not about marriage and divorce, isn't it? Oh, and all of these rulings have been mentioned earlier. But these I asked what do they speak about the marriages of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam? In the previous ayat what was mentioned the marriage of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam with Xena
building. In the following I add more marriages will be mentioned. And this ayah refers to the incident that took place when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam got married however, there was no physical contact and that's the Prophet Solomon symmetrical. Okay, let's continue