An-Nur 58-64 Word Analysis and Tafsir 58-59
Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 18 – L185B
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The importance of privacy and the age of puberty is emphasized in private areas, including the age of women and children who are still in their early teens and the age of men who are still in their early teens. The use of words like "by definition" and "by rule" in describing the age of men is also emphasized. The importance of privacy in the church's culture is also emphasized, including the need for privacy in public settings and the importance of giving children proper privacy education. The speakers stress the need for parents to teach children how to handle privacy and avoid sexual behavior.
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lesson number 185 Soto to North I am number 58 to 64
Yeah, are you Hello Dina Amano all you who have believed
Leah's vincom let him seek permission from you who I levena Malika, a man who calm those people whom your right hands possess, meaning the slaves that you have. And who else? One levina and those individuals who lemmya below will Hello, ma'am income, who have not yet reached the age of puberty among you.
So who must seek permission? First of all slaves, and secondly, who those who have not yet reached the age of puberty, meaning young children, they should also seek permission
when for what Salah Some are watching three times,
meaning there are three times during the day and the night when, if your slaves want to enter your private area, or if your children wish to enter your private area, they must seek permission when in these three particular times. And what are those three times? First of all, men are really solid till February before the budget Asana. Why because typically at that time, what is the person doing? He's sleeping, he's in his private area.
So if children wish to enter upon you at that time, they must seek permission before coming in. Similarly, the slaves also they must seek permission before coming in. This is the first time
secondly, we're hain at other una sia welcome, mina zahira. And at the time when you remove your clothes, when, because of the heat of the midday sun. So during the day when you're taking a nap, at that time, also, if your children wish to come, if your slaves wish to come, what do they have to do? They must seek permission before coming.
And thirdly, one embody seletti Russia and after their initial Salah. Why? Because that is a time when people go to sleep. They're in their private bedrooms. So again, at that time, they have to seek permission.
And these three times a lot of panel data describes them as sellers who are law Telecom, there are three times of privacy for you. These are three times of privacy for you.
Now, let's go back to the beginning of the year, and look at it in detail.
Yeah, you have Latina armano a command is being given? And how is it being given? Who is being addressed? Those people who believe what does this show that observing this command fulfilling this command? Following this command is a part of Eman? And if a person neglects, then that is one deficiency in his email, it's going to negatively affect his email.
So in order to perfect in order to complete in order to secure when he man What must he do? He must follow the command that has been given over here. And what is it that children and servants must be taught some basic rules?
And what are those rules? That least they know come least they know from the root letters, Hamza that noon? And what does even mean permission. And is it then or is it then is to seek permission.
So before they enter into your private bedrooms, before they enter into your private areas, they should seek permission and Medina may look at a mannequin. And remember, this includes both the male as well as the female slaves. And remember that although this is only for the slaves, because at that time, whoever servant that you would have, you would basically own that servant. However, if today if a person has a servant, they're not a slave, but they're a servant. You've just hired them. And let's say it's a live in nanny, a nanny who lives in the house with the family. So again, she has to seek permission, any servant of the house, any person who is living in the house, what do
they have to do? seek permission before entering at these particular times.
And one ladina lamea below one Holloman and those people among you who have not yet reached the age of puberty.
The word shalom is from the letters hair lamb me, her, me
and her lamb is basically used for the age of puberty. And it is said that the word is derived from Hill.
What does help mean? Hill haleem What does help me tolerance
Right forbearance patience, that when a person sees something going against his mind when a person witnesses something that may anger him, but he does not react angry. Rather, what does he do? He is patient, he is composed, he behaves himself well. And we see the children sometimes what happens if anything goes against their desire, immediately, they'll start yelling, immediately, they'll start crying,
isn't it.
But as the child grows older, what happens? His patience level, his tolerance level increases, he learns how to behave in people.
So alone is the age when a person develops him, you understand?
and help him is the age when a person develops help, when he can control his anger, when he can be more patient.
And generally, this has to do more with a person's maturity with one's article. Not necessarily with age. Remember that? Because sometimes what happens people are very old, but still, they don't have any help.
And sometimes there are children who are very young, however, they have a lot of health,
isn't it? So? So it has more to do with the majority of the mind than to do with one's biological age? So and how long as a term, what is it used for? maturity? puberty, and typically, when a child reaches the age of puberty, then that is when they learn how to behave themselves, they become more composed, they can tolerate.
And what do we think that if a person is a teenager, then they're allowed to do whatever they want, they can behave however they want, they can misbehave, they can yell, they can scream. And what's the explanation that is given? She's a teenager, this is not appropriate.
It is also said that the word of her loan is derived from Hello myeloma, which is to have a dream, remember, of la sua hilum,
mixed confused dreams, which are meaningless. And it's from the word, the lamb and the lamb is to have a *.
So the age upon which a person starts seeing such dreams,
especially in boys, or for example, his sexual desire has awakened, has become alive, then that is the age of puberty.
Now, what is this age, it varies from culture to culture. In some areas, children reach the age of puberty, they get the sexual awareness at a very young age, children who are eight years old.
And in some families, in some cultures, children, they reach their late teens as well. And many times they're not exposed to such concepts at all.
You may have seen that the kinds of things that your children may be talking about these days when you were their age, you had no idea these things existed, isn't
the kind of things that little children are exposed to today, when you were that age, you had no idea about the things that are out there in this world. So this age, when a person's sexual desires have awakened, this varies from culture to culture, as well as place to place as well as time to time.
This is why we learned earlier that the women when they are taught to hide their Xena,
they're not allowed to show it to those children who are aware of women's private parts.
And children who are not aware of the women's private parts, then a woman may expose your Xena to such a child.
And again, over there, I mentioned to you that the sign of puberty, the age of puberty has not been mentioned, rather this description has been given in particular, because it's possible that a boy's voice is not cracking, yet, it's possible that he doesn't have any facial hair. However, the kind of things that he's become exposed to his thinking has changed, his feelings have changed and recently actually somebody was telling me that when a boy reaches the age of eight or 10, that is when generally such feelings begin to arouse, typically a child that he begins to view other people differently.
So, aluminum is the age of puberty, and it varies from culture to culture, it varies from time to time. This is why if you look at the different opinions of the scholars, you will find a lot of differences. Some scholars have said eight years old, some have said 15 years old, others have said 17 years old. So there is a huge difference of opinion Why? Because this age varies from culture to culture.
However, of the signs of puberty amongst men or who amongst boys are worried that they will develop facial hair, their voice will change their size will become bigger.
And as for the girls, what is their sigh of purity, that they begin to menstruate.
So over here alladhina lamea blown Holloman calm
It refers to both boys as well as girls who have not yet reached the age of puberty.
So for example, you're talking about a six year old child, you're talking about an eight year old girl. And it's possible you're talking about an 11 year old girl as well.
So basically, those children who have not yet reached the age of puberty, and remember, it also varies from family to family. It varies from person to person as well. It's possible that one girl, she gets her first menstrual period when she turns 11. And her sister gets it when she's 13. So it varies.
So those children who have not yet reached the age of puberty, if they wish to enter your private room, what should they do? They must seek permission before entering.
Because what goes on in the private bedroom should not be exposed to everybody, not even the people of the house.
But unfortunately, what happens many times people say it's only a child, what's the big deal? What do they know? Or for example, people will say they see this all the time on TV. So what if they see it live? This is inappropriate, this goes against higher This is not the way that Muslim families should be. This is not the way that Muslim households should be.
So the children also when they come to the private bedroom of the parents, what do they need to do? seek permission before coming.
And this is not all the time anytime they wish to come to their parents bedroom. They need to seek permission no in particular seles
at three particular times, and the word model art is the plural of Mala. mala means time selesa Murat three times in particular. And first of all men communist philosophy legit before the federal solar. Secondly, we're heinous Allah una ciudad de una from the root letters. Well, what I what are what is what are mean to put something down to remove something? So we're hanaa tilbyr. Una siakam. NCR is a plural of
thorlo. So
why do you take your clothes off? Minerva hero at the time of new Ella hero is from the new fetters law her.
Angela healer is the time of rehearsal. Ah,
it's the time of Uppsala. So basically, it's the time of noon, right at noon time right after that, when the heat is very intense, when the sun is extremely bright. And it's extremely hot at that time.
And it is said that in winter afternoon is not called the hero. Why?
Because it's not hot. So heat is primarily used for a hot afternoon, hot afternoon when it's very, very sunny. But over here in the context of the hero refers to the time of the day, which is the time around noon. Now the Arabs, generally they will take a nap at this time and that nap is known as by Lula. They will take a midday nap.
But because of the intense heat of the desert, what would they do? At that time, they would remove their coats all or part just so that they could relax just so that they could cool down. And obviously they will do that in their private bedrooms in their private areas where they would not be exposed to other people.
So for example, it's extremely hot. A father wishes to shake a nap. Now he's not dressed properly. He's removed part of his clothes. Now all of a sudden, if the servant walks in, all of a sudden, if the doctor walks in, it's not appropriate. So he let other owners come in as a hero. At that time, I'll say if they wish to come What do they need to do seek permission.
And the third time is when embargo selected Russia and after their issues.
Now these three times a lot of panel data says they are selasa allottee local
art is the plural of our water and our water is from the newsletters I nyrr. We have done this word earlier as well. And basically it's from the word out are is embarrassment.
So, I will is something that if you expose it, if you display it, if you show it to others, then it would be a cause of embarrassment for you.
You understand
that if it is shown to someone, if it is laid open before someone if it is made bare before the other, then it is a means of embarrassment for a person.
So basically Allah is the private part. It is the * of a person. It may also apply to the places as well as the times of privacy.
The places the parts of the body
That must be kept private. And it also includes the times of privacy, meaning such times in which a person stays in private, he does not go before others others do not come before him.
Do you understand? So these three times are of privacy for you, that you must have the freedom to relax and the way that you're dressed, to relax and the way that you're sitting in the way that you're lying down in what you're doing in what is permissible. So selesa Allah tilicho
laser Aleikum, there is not upon you, whenever I lay him nor upon them Janardhan any blame? There is no blame upon you. Nor is there blame upon them by the hoonah after them after when,
after these three times, meaning outside of these three times, if your children walking, if you go out, if you go to each other's private bedrooms, there's no blame upon you outside of these three times.
And why in particular, because the word foreigner alaykum. Bara will come and about. The reason is that when people are living in the same house than what happens, they are the webform the web phone is the plural of the web. And who is the web, mobile one who does a lot of work and the wife is what to go around. So for a foreigner and a co borrower to come, Oliver, some of you, you come and visit each other repeatedly again and again throughout the day, isn't it? Like for example, typically, this happens with mothers, that whether they're in the bedroom, or they're in the kitchen, or they're in the laundry room, what's going to happen? Children will come ask one thing go, children
will come show one thing go away, isn't it repeatedly, they're coming and going. And especially little children, what happens to them, they go to one room, they go to the other, they go to the bathroom, they go upstairs, they go downstairs all the time, they're just revolving around the house, going around the house.
Similarly, the servants because this is not just speaking about the children, but also the servants who live in the house. Even they visit every person in their bedroom, in the living room in the kitchen time and again, repeatedly why for the purpose of to provide service, or to give messages or to do some work. So Paula funaro alaykum via lucam and above.
And if it was obligatory that people should seek permission before entering each other's rooms within the house, even then what would happen, life would become very, very difficult, isn't it.
Just imagine, if a child is living in her parents house, she has to go ask something for my sister, she has to knock on the door every time she has to ask her mother something knock on the door every time it would make life very difficult.
And you see develops a kind of the color amongst people that they begin to fake themselves and, you know, unnecessary distance between people. And this is not appropriate when people are living in the same house. So Paula funaro eleiko Barlow Kumar lever. And this is why, also, if, for example, during the day, outside of these three times, if you are free, if you know if you're not doing anything, when you're trying to be private when you're trying to hide something from other people, because it should be something done in privacy. And otherwise, what should you do keep your door open. Why? So that it's not awkward for the other person to come and walk in to come and ask you
something to come and speak to you about something, keep your door open, if not fully open, slightly open so that it's not awkward for others. And if your door is closed, then obviously that means that you're doing something important and if they need to come they need to seek permission before we come in.
So you understand. We can do something like this and just do whatever is possible within your own household
can only pay you by univa Hola, como estas Allah clarify to you the verses, will love already when Hakeem and Allah is Knowing, and he is wise.
Now earlier in the same sort of, we learned about the command of St. Van, isn't it? This command was given earlier as well. But that command in particular was about what? That when you come to each other's houses, isn't it? When you go visit your parents house when you go visit your daughter's house when you go visit your brother's house, then what do you need to do before walking into somebody else's house? You need to seek permission? You need to say Salaam you can't just walk in thinking, Oh, it's my daughter's house. It's my parents house. No, you must seek permission before coming.
Over here in this ayah the command is regarding the people of the house the people who were living in the same house.
Because you see in the house of a person. It's not just typically him the man and his wife we learned earlier.
debates the house of a man is which one, the house in which him and his wife live.
However, in the same house, it's possible that your children also live, isn't it? Similarly, it's possible that you have some servants in the house. And in some cases, it's also possible that there are other close relatives such as a person's parents, for example, a boy, he lives with his wife, and he also lives with his parents. Similarly, he lives with his parents, he lives with his brother, correct? It's possible. Now we learned earlier that in our religion, the encouragement is that each person should give a private space to his wife, because it's not appropriate that the wife is living in the house. And when she walks out of her bedroom, she has to put on a hijab, because there are
non Muslim men living in the same house. This is inappropriate, it goes against the religion, it goes against the teachings of the religion. So this is the rule. However, if due to some reason, if people are living together, even if they're not living together, your children are living in the same house, then we are taught some more rules, we are given some more instructions.
Because in the same house, people have their private areas. Like for example, the parents have their bedroom, the son has his bedroom, the daughter has her bedroom, the mother in law, she has her bedroom. Now every person has their own bedroom, can you just walk into other people's private areas without permission? You can't do that. So these rules are being given? And what is that rule? The basic rule is that three times are of privacy,
three times of privacy. So you cannot walk into your parents room. At these three times, you cannot walk into your brother's room, especially when he's married at these three times, nor into your son's bedroom, especially when he's made during these three times.
Other than these three timings, what do we learn that we can go and see one another, we can go and visit one another in their private areas. But in that as well, we should behave in an appropriate manner. And what is that? They're not silently walking, and then go boo and the other person gets frightened. know, when you're walking in, it'll make your presence known.
If you think of it, even when a cat enters a place, what does it do?
It produces a sound or it comes and makes its presence known somehow or the other, isn't it? So even I will do that. So if enabled to do that, then why shouldn't we do that? Why should we walk in as thieves into other people's private areas, as people who are haunting them, people who are frightening them, this is not appropriate. So in the house, what is the rule that in the three times of privacy, you must not enter except with permission, but other than the three times you may enter without permission, however, definitely, with making your presence known and felt by the other?
Now, we see that the command primarily in this ayah is for who
it is for the slaves and the children.
But they're not given the command directly,
isn't it? It hasn't been said, Oh, children, when you enter your parents bedrooms, this is what you must do. Or slaves, this is what you must do, no. Who is being addressed? The parents, the guardians, the adults. Why? Because the children, they're only able to understand, if the command is given in the Quran, will they be able to read and understand and comprehend everything by themselves? No. Similarly, servants, slaves, generally, especially at that time, there were so occupied with whatever work that they were given, their level of understanding was not the same. Their mental capacity was not the same, because they had not been exposed to different things in
life which would enhance their minds which would enhance their intellect and understanding. Therefore, the level of understanding was level.
This is why the guardians the parents are being addressed that you must teach this etiquette to those who are under you,
you must teach this etiquette to to those who are under you.
Because if they do something wrong, who is responsible, you are responsible.
If they do something wrong, then you are responsible. And finally, you are also responsible to provide them with proper education and training.
And part of providing proper education and training to young children is that they should be taught these etiquettes from the very, very beginning, from a very early age.
Now if you look at it
When it comes to a child, until a child turns two, typically a child is being breastfed by the mother, as an actor, which is why the child will be in the same room as the parents. But we see that these are three times the privacy's when these children continue to seek permission, how is the baby meant to see permission?
You see, at that time, a child does not really understand what's going on much, he doesn't have a full understanding of what's going on around him. This is why until the age of do, a mother is told to nurse her child. And you know that nursing involves exposing the private parts of a woman's body.
However, it is allowed, why, because a child does not understand much, but after two, it is inappropriate. Why? Because at that time, a child begins to notice these things, you understand? He begins to notice these things. So after the age of two, the child's bed must be separated from the parents bed.
Because if the child is still sleeping with the parents, now, the parents their halaal upon one another, if they're doing something, and the child wakes up, suddenly seeing what the parents are doing, this is inappropriate, what is he going to think? What are you training him? What are you teaching him, this is inappropriate. So first of all, since children, they must not be exposed to these times of privacy when the husband and wife are together, this shows that when a child turns to then his bed must be separated, even if it's in the same room, it should be separated, it should be separated. And after some time, when the child grows older, when he can walk off his bed easily,
then, if possible, the room must also be separated.
And if that is not possible, then the parents must be very, very careful that they should not expose their hour before their children.
They should not use the washroom before their children, they should not change before their children.
Similarly, the husband and the wife must not do any kind of intimate thing between themselves in front of the children. Because we think children don't understand anything. However, after the age of two, they begin to notice these things. And it's very, very inappropriate, that such things are done before children.
I remember once somebody came complaining to me, that her husband does not care whether you know, he has sexual * with her in front of their child.
And she says, I do not know what to do, because my child is freaking out at that moment. And she does not understand what's going on. And she gets angry, she gets upset. And although she was only around two years of age, okay, even if she was Nursing at that time, this is inappropriate. What is being fed in that innocent child's mind.
So after children turn to a woman is not allowed to breastfeed the child, what does it show that a person must not reveal his or her private parts before his children when they reach this age, even if a child is four, even if a child is five, it is inappropriate.
So first of all beds and rooms must be separated. If that is not possible, then a person must be very, very careful in how he behaves himself in front of the children.
Now, we see that over here, when the children are told that they are not to enter the private areas of the parents, in these three times, these private areas may be understood in two ways. First of all, as I mentioned to you, it may be understood as the bedroom, within the house, the bedroom.
But in some places, it is also possible that people have only one bedroom house is just a single bedroom, which is multipurpose I myself have seen some houses which are just like you open the door, you walk in, and it's just a single bedroom. That's it, you eat there, you sleep there, you change there, you do everything over there, there may be a washroom. However, everything that you do isn't the same room. That's your drawing room. That's your guestroom. That's your sitting room, that's your living room, that's your bedroom, everything is in one place.
So at this time, what should be done if the children are outside, because typically what happens children don't like to stay inside, especially in such small places, right? They will tend to go outside and play perhaps out in the streets.
So if the children are outside, the servants are outside if they wish to come in at these points during the day in the night, what should they do? seek permission. So first of all private bedrooms, and secondly, the house even even if it's just one bedroom.
And this command in particular is for who? Little children who have no
To reach the age of puberty, and who else? The servants.
But this teaches us a very important thing that if this command is for little children, then what about adults? What about those who have reached the age of puberty, the same thing goes for them as well, isn't it?
If little children are not allowed to enter their parents bedrooms at these points, then definitely older children who have reached the age of puberty, even they're not allowed. So for example, living in the same household, when you go into your brother's bedroom, when you go into your parents bedroom, being an adult, don't just walk in, don't just walk in, seek permission before going.
And we also see that three times have been specified for privacy. Three times have been specified for privacy.
Meaning that children, adults, servants, whoever it is, they must not enter without permission. Why these three times in particular, why these three times if you look at it, these three times are when people are generally asleep, right. And when a person is sleeping, he is not fully aware of his physical state.
It's possible that part of his body is not covered. while sleeping. It's possible.
A person's shoulder a person Sutter is being exposed, it's possible to the private parts are also being exposed. Why because the person is sleeping, and he has no idea how he's appearing to be.
Similarly, it's possible that a person is sleeping in their bed clouds in their night dress, and they do not wish to go in those clothes before others.
Do you understand? It's possible. And sometimes people say, Oh, you shouldn't have that much higher. No, this is a part of higher This is a part of decency, that if a girl for example, is wearing her pajamas, even if they're fully covering her, she feels embarrassed walking in front of others in those coats. Maybe she feels embarrassed, maybe she doesn't feel comfortable.
So at these times, people are in their bed cloth. at these times, people are wearing light clothing, it's possible that their Southern is being exposed, it's possible that a woman is wearing, you know clothes that are very short. So it's possible. It also may be possible that a person is changing their clothes at this time to get ready for bed.
So these three times are times of privacy.
And remember, that even if the couple is not there, like for example, the mother and the father, only the mother or the father is not there. Should you just walk in no again, you should not walk in even if it's only your mother.
Similarly, if your brother is married, he's only in the room his wife is not there, can you just walk in No, you should not walk in like that. Similarly, if your son is in his bedroom, his wife is not there, can you just walk in No, you should not walk in, these are three times of privacy,
three times of privacy, where a person is allowed to relax in the way that he is dressed in the way that he is lying down in the way that he has covered himself he should have this freedom.
Because if people are not given this freedom, then what happens? It builds up anger and frustration in the hearts of people.
Isn't it so, when people are not given their privacy when people are not given a private space in which they can relax, it builds up anger and frustration in their hearts.
So, we see that these three times people are allowed to relax Therefore, we must seek permission before walking.
Similarly, the time of pallulah as I mentioned to you, that in extremely hot temperatures, people would lighten their clothing in order to take rest. And after Isha again a person wishes to relax he wishes to undress. So, that time it is dislike for a person to remain in a state in which other people should not be seeing him.
And if you notice, it has been said over here mimbar the selected Russia after their issue of solar,
which means immediately after Why?
Because bedtime begins when
immediately after Isha. It does not begin five hours after Isha. When does it begin? Immediately after Isha? Because the Prophet sallallahu Sallam disliked if people should stay awake after Asia unless for a genuine purpose. So once a person has created a shot, they've gone into their bedroom, do not go in without permission. Because all these three times our times of privacy are locked in and no one should invade somebody else's privacy.