Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 18 – L172C

			One levena and those who whom they are only lonely from ill speech more or less alone, one to turn
away another very important characteristic, very important quality. And what is it, that the true
believers, those who will be successful or who, those who turn away those who avoid a novel,
		

			what is a love,
		

			love is every word and every action, it could be a word, it could be an action, that is useless, in
and of itself, it is idle, it is nonsensical, it is meaningless,
		

			useless, nonsensical, meaningless, it does not produce any benefit.
		

			And it is such that it is not conducive to achieving one's goal or purpose in life.
		

			Meaning it is not something that will help a person achieve some goal of is in this dunya nor will
it bring any benefit to a person in the hereafter.
		

			So, what is love,
		

			it is something that is vain, that is idle, that is useless.
		

			And it does not benefit a person in achieving his goal in the dunya. Nor does it bring any benefit
to a person in the hereafter.
		

			So, love is that which is useless, purposeless a waste of time, it eats away our lives, it brings
nowhere for us neither in the dunya nor India.
		

			Now, the word love has been used in a number of ways this is a primary meaning it has been used in a
number of ways. First of all long has been used for a thoughtless utterance something that a person
says without even thinking, something that a person says without even thinking.
		

			For example, we have learned earlier that law you have the common law, who beloved Wi Fi, a manual,
that Allah will not see is you will not hold you accountable concerning the love in your oaths. And
what is that? that a person and every single statement, he says will lie he will lie, but I will lie
he lauhala he. So this is what a thoughtless actions.
		

			Similarly, people have certain words that they say very often in their day to day speech.
		

			And those words don't have any relevance. They don't even give any meaning in the context. They
don't even give any emphasis. For instance, some people have this habit of saying like, like in
almost every statement. This is what a love statement. It's a love word. does it bring any benefit?
Does it give any emphasis? Does it does it please other people? It annoys them for sure. Right? So
this is what love is. Secondly, love also includes for hash,
		

			meaning love is also used for such speech that is indecent. That is indecent.
		

			Because if a person is talking about indecent stuff, does it bring him any benefit in donia? No.
Will it bring him benefit in the era Not at all. Rather it will be the other way around. It will
bring the person harm. So low also includes for her in decent talk in decent actions. In decent
words. This includes swear words. This includes watching harangue, listening to how long this is
what love includes
		

			30 Thirdly, love is also used for talking frivolously talking continuously very noisily so that the
speech of the other is drowned.
		

			So for example, when a person has extremely loud music on so that even when other people are trying
to talk, they cannot hear one another. They literally have to yell at one another. That sound is
what
		

			what is it? Love, no matter how beautiful it may be? matter how much people are dancing at its tune?
What is it? It is love. So love is used in a number of ways. What does a lot of parents say over
here? That the believers are those who turn away they're more alone. They're ones who turn away,
they avoid they keep away from love.
		

			If no Josie he said that love includes ship. So any kind of ship, they stay away from it. It
includes mousey sense
		

			because the same is for her. A same brings a person no benefit neither Indonesia nor India. It
includes Kevin, what does that mean? Lies false statements. Other words that would hurt others
shutdown swear words cursing. And as the judge he said that love includes co Larry will love every
Larry and every laugh.
		

			You are familiar with these words that ravens play lowers amusement. So it includes every large and
loud.
		

			So the true believers, they stay away from it.
		

			Insert a hedge at the end, what did we learn? What Jay do filet? How could you hear the now as
believers, Allah subhanaw taala has imposed a very important task upon us, isn't it?
		

			And when a person is given an extremely difficult work to do, or an extremely important task to do,
		

			then he needs to fully focus on it,
		

			isn't it?
		

			Like, for example, if a person is trying to become a doctor, and he just missed classes the way we
do, Kenny, can you just skip a day here a day they're not show up for class? Miss one practical miss
one presentation? Miss one professor's lecture. Can you do that? Kenny? No, he cannot. Why?
		

			Because if he misses one thing here there, will he be able to become a doctor? Can you just say Oh,
forget about this book, I won't purchase it. Like we do sometimes with the course. This book is not
that important. I'm not going to buy it. I'll just shared with somebody else. Can a doctor do that?
Can a medical student do that?
		

			Can he say forget it, I won't go for this week, I'm busy, I'm going on vacation. No, he cannot do
that.
		

			So when a person has a very important task to do, he has to fully focus on it fully, completely.
		

			He will avoid social gatherings, he will avoid going to the mall, he will avoid watching television
even he will avoid sitting with people just talking. He will avoid many, many things. Why? Because
what he's doing is extremely important and it demands a lot of work from him. And if he gets busy in
other things, he will not be able to do his work, he will not be able to study and if he does not
study, if he does not do well, he will not be able to become a doctor.
		

			So for us, in order to give the heart of striving in the way of Allah subhanaw taala we need to
become extremely focused and extremely serious about it.
		

			Because only when a person is focused on his objective, then he can accomplish it. And only then his
heart will not be occupied with other things. Remember that when you're focused on your work, then
your heart will not be occupied with other things. You will not think about them, you will
completely forget about them. Because you're so busy. You're so into it.
		

			Like for example, sometimes it happens with people that they're talking to somebody. They're
talking, talking, talking all of a sudden they look at the time, it's been an hour and a half and
they didn't even realize, isn't it? Why? Because we're so busy in that conversation.
		

			Similarly, person goes to the mall, he goes to one store, the other story has to buy one thing after
the other. And all of a sudden when he looks at the time, it's been two hours, he didn't even
realize it had been two hours. Why? Because he was so busy into it. Did you think about other things
at that time? No. So when you are focused on something, then you don't think about other things.
		

			And this is something that is required of us. This is something that is required of us that if we
want to have horseshoe in Santa, if we want to do what Allah subhana wa tada has asked us to do,
then we must, we must leave useless things. Because if we don't leave them, we cannot do our work.
We cannot accomplish our tests, we cannot accomplish our goals.
		

			We learn in sort of for fun, I number 72. That one leadin aleisha don't azula worry, there will be
lovely model kiralama and the rebel Rockman. There are those who do not testify to falsehood. And
when they pass by ill speech they pass by with dignity.
		

			Meaning if they're going by somewhere, and somebody is saying love words, somebody is talking about
nonsense things, or somebody who's watching something that is completely nonsensical, that is not
relevant to them at all. What do they do? modelu kiralama they just passed away from there with
dignity. They don't stay over there. thinking okay, what is coming on the television? What is this
person talking about? Okay, what are they listening to? Let me concentrate Let me see there might be
some good maybe I will learn something. Now. They know that it's love, and they stay away from it.
So we see that avoiding love is extremely important. Because if a person does not avoid love, he
		

			cannot achieve his purpose.
		

			We learned sotto casa, sign number 55
		

			What are some of your level are available on who. And when they hear ill speech, they turn away from
it. When they hear ill speech, they turn away from it, they don't dance to its tune. They don't take
any interest in what's being said what's being discussed so that they can also pitch in that
conversation. No, they just turn away from it. Who can do this? Who can turn away from love? Who can
do that?
		

			A person who realizes that his life is precious, that his life is valuable. A person who knows the
value of his life, he knows how to use his life. He knows how to use his time, he will not waste an
hour here, two hours there three hours watching a movie, do ours is walking around the wall, just
window shopping. One hour just talking to a friend chatting about things that just happened today.
We just start by saying no a person who realizes the value of his life, he will not waste it on
these useless things.
		

			Many times we confuse the concept of relaxing, the concept of taking a break with what? indulging in
love. we confuse between these two things. Relaxing, taking a break is extremely necessary. Because
if you do not relax, if you do not take a break, you will not be able to work for too long, isn't it
so you need a break.
		

			However, taking a break does not mean killing those two hours. Taking a break does not mean wasting
a chunk of your life. Taking a break means doing something different. That is easier on your mind,
easier on your body that will make you happy. Like for example, you go for a walk. That's what
taking a break means you go for a walk you look at the lovely trees, you look at the lovely flowers
uses a Panama you do think you're not reading a book, your eyes are not straining, you're not
staring at the screen, your eyes are not getting strained. This is what it means by taking a break.
Whereas if you go watch the TV for two hours, tell me are your eyes going to hurt more? Definitely
		

			is your head going to hurt more definitely, with all the noise, your head is going to hurt more.
		

			Whereas if you go outside, take a walk that is definitely much more beneficial for you.
		

			So we do understand the difference between love and relaxation.
		

			Love is something that wastes your life.
		

			waste your life, it does not bring you any worldly benefit. It does not bring you any religious
benefit. This is the criteria from
		

			no worldly benefit, no religious benefit.
		

			If you think about it, you know sometimes we say that, but I have to watch this comedy show because
otherwise I cannot mentally relax. Think about it. How did this help us survive without watching
comedy shows? Do they have sessions in which they would just watch comedy shows or have people
cracking jokes one after the other so that they could laugh for hours? No, the profit sort of all
the sudden discouraged us from laughing excessively.
		

			So if they could survive, can we not survive? Of course we can. And if they avoided it, that is why
they were able to achieve so much. Because we do not avoid love. This is why we cannot have
assurance Allah. This is why we cannot do our work properly. This is why we cannot focus in our
work. This is why we get distracted so easily. So we need to expel love from our lives.
		

			It's amazing that such shows. For example, if a person watches a comedy show or person watches, some
kind of a show, even if it's supposed to be related to medicine, it's all about a doctor. There's so
many things that are against the
		

			there's so many things that are set against God, the respect that God deserves the respect that
religion deserves. There's no doubt at all. There's disrespect, there's insult constantly, there
derogatory comments concerning the religion, and not just AI but there's so much for Hush, there's
so much indecency. Now how is it possible that we read in the Quran, that when people say that Allah
has a son, the goddess of our creative autonomy, that the heavens would split asunder, the Earth
would split asunder, and we listen to those things and we have a good laugh.
		

			we tell ourselves Oh, we shouldn't be laughing. When we have a good laugh.
		

			Those same words, they come into our speech, the same way of thinking becomes a part of our lives.
And sin does not seem like a big deal to us anymore.
		

			So many times love it includes for Hush, remember that? This is why when Latina whom Annie lovely
morigaon they have no interest in it. They don't like it. They cannot bear it. They cannot
		

			tolerate it, even if it comes before them, even if somebody gives them the opportunity to listen to
watch or something like that. They say no, I'm not interested, I'd rather do something else.
		

			If you have to watch something, watch something that will bring you benefit. That is not love. That
is not a waste of your life that is not killing your time. You could watch a documentary on food.
You could watch a documentary on some animals, on geography, on discoveries. There's so many things
out there, what something that will be beneficial, not something that will eat away your time that
will kill your time, that will take a big chunk of your life away from you that we will regret over
on the Day of Judgment.
		

			We learn the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, I mean personal Islam in Mali, Darko malaria, and he
that out of a person being a good Muslim is his leaving What does not concern
		

			that we must leave all those things that do not concern us. We must leave all those things that do
not concern us that do not bring this benefit, neither in this dunya nor India.
		

			And sometimes you see that, in our conversations, there's so much love, so much love that. We're
just talking, talking about what what I saw what the other person said. The Prophet sallallahu
Sallam said that in the law called curry Allah coontail will call Allah dislikes for UPL. And call
this was said and that was that. He said this and she said that, and that was that. This is dislike,
this should not be a part of our conversations. If we do have to talk to one another, we should talk
about things that are beneficial, that will benefit one another. Why do we have to talk about other
people? Why do we have to keep commenting on children? Why do we have to keep commenting on the way
		

			that a particular person had dressed up on the way that a person had cooked a particular food? Can
we not get above that? Can we not have a higher purpose in our lives? Is that all we see? Is that
all we see? And is that all that we can talk about? Remember that a person who has a higher goal
than his life, he doesn't have time for useless things. He doesn't have time for useless
conversations. He does not like such conversations, he will not find any interest in them. So when
Latina whom, and a lovely model. Now give me some examples of law.
		

			Going on Facebook, and just looking at other people's pictures. Tell me, what do those pictures have
to do with you?
		

			Or the pictures of your husband? Or the pictures of your children? Are there pictures of your
sister's wedding that you missed? So you must see them? Are they have any relevance to you? Not at
all? Are they have pictures of nature, something that Allah created of beautiful mountains and
beautiful trees so that when you see them? You were happy to see them and you pray the loss of
penalty, you increasing your hesa net? Are they no? What are those pictures about? Weird things that
people have written on pieces of paper. And they have taken a picture of that weird things that
people are doing weird poses that they have made weird clothes that they're wearing. And this is
		

			what they're displaying in front of the whole world.
		

			That's the time that we have that we can go on each and every single person's album and we can see
one picture after the other. Really, that's the time that you have. If you have that much time come
to me. We'll give you lots of work.
		

			There's so much work to be done. And there you are sitting clicking on one picture after the other.
There's so much work to be done. How can you sit idle and waste your time like that?
		

			This is not fair. This is not right. Neither to yourself nor with other people. Go help your mother
in the kitchen instead, who's standing there since morning, washing one thing after the other
cooking one thing after the other fulfilling your desires. This is not fair.
		

			What else is included in the
		

			window shopping?
		

			window shopping.
		

			Let me just go and see what's new. Maybe I'll find something that I can buy. I don't have money for
it. But I'll just go see. I don't intend to buy but I'll just go see. Let me see what's in. Oh,
that's so beautiful. That looks so nice. I wish I could have that. Somebody was actually telling me
that the social media, like Facebook and Twitter when people see the kind of pictures that other
people have put up or the kinds of things that people are saying, like I'm so happy I went to the
mall I bought this. I went to that store, I went in this mall. I went here I went there, it actually
causes depression in people's lives. It actually makes other people depressed because they think
		

			that their lives are so miserable and everybody else is so happy.
		

			What else is included in law
		

			discussing lives of celebrities or people who have nothing to do with you. They're not sure
		

			uncles and archery relatives. They're not your aunts. They're not your in laws, nothing. They're not
related to you. They're not professors. They're not researchers, they're not scientists. It's not
that they are teaching something beneficial to people, discussing their lives, discussing their
affairs, discussing their dresses, discussing their words, discussing their new hairstyles, this is
love. And not just discussing, but spending hours watching that, oh, this person bought this lovely
dress for their wedding. And this is how much time they spent in choosing the perfect dress. Are you
going to go to that wedding? Are they going to give that dress to you?
		

			Are you going to sell it and make profit from it? No. It doesn't bring you any worldly benefit. It
doesn't bring you any religious benefit. And when you watch other people, what will you be thinking
I can't afford that dress. Even if I want to work, my parents will never let me wear a white gown in
my wedding. Because unfortunately, we're so traditional. It will make you unhappy. It will make you
depressed, you will compare your skin with theirs, you will compare your finger with theirs, and you
will become depressed.
		

			No benefit only loss, no happiness, only misery. What else is included?
		

			Talking about politics. Very true. You're not a member, nobody's representing your community anyway.
You don't vote, you discourage other people to vote. And there you are discussing politics. As if
you can really make a huge difference. You don't even have much knowledge about it. But just
discussing what else is included in
		

			taking too long to cook something taking too long to dresser taking too long to fix things in the
house. This is what a waste of time. This is killing your time wasting your life. What else is
included?
		

			Going to or being interested in contests in beauty contests, commenting on the new designs or
commenting on what people are wearing? What else is included in the
		

			very true I agree with it 100% watching games matches and discussing them and watching their reviews
and watching their where they have panel discussions over them.
		

			Honestly, what relevance does it have in your life?
		

			Okay, if you're reading about it, perhaps you will improve in your, you know, your English, perhaps
you will improve in your writing style, if you read about it, if you do, but if you're just sitting
and watching for four hours, two or three hours, if the when you're not going to get a single penny,
you know that
		

			you're not going to get a single penny, if they win, if they win, they're going to make money,
you're not going to make a cent. So it's a total waste of life. And if you are really interested,
you can always check the scores, you can get the updates on your phone even, it's not difficult, is
your life really that cheap? Is your life really that cheap that you can just give for hours like
that? Watching looking at the cheerleaders, the way they're dressed or the way they're cheering
other people, or watching other people playing and the way they're moving and analyzing their
movements and their throws and their kicks and the run. It doesn't have any relevance. no relevance,
		

			no worldly benefit nor religious benefit.
		

			If you're involved in it, if that is the source of your income, okay, it may have some relevance to
you. But other people, no relevance. I wish we could spend that much time in improving our
recitation, in improving our knowledge of the team.
		

			And we recently somebody was telling me about they were supposed to go somewhere, but they said that
no, this person is going to be studying. This person has to study and it was a weekend. I was amazed
that on the weekend, even this person studies, this is why they're exciting. This is why they're
moving ahead. While people of the same age, people have the same ability. People who have the same
time are not accomplishing even a third of what they're accomplishing.
		

			Each person has been given the same amount of time. Each and every person, it's up to us how we use
it. It's up to us how we value our lives, what we invest in retirement. Typically Muslims don't do
that. I'm talking about things that happen in our houses in our lives so that we can see them and we
can avoid them. What else is included in love?
		

			For example, what is that called? surfing the net, surfing the net, as if you're surfing on the
scene, clicking on one thing after the other and ending up from reading about some war in history to
the celebrity that's very popular today. Taking on one thing after the other.
		

			If you ask people let's go to the park. Let's go to that beautiful place where there's a beautiful
fall or they're beautiful mountains or a beautiful lake. They don't have time for it but they are
		

			have the time to watch something for hours on television, they have the time to chat with somebody
for two hours. What else is included in the
		

			sleeping tomorrow?
		

			That is also a waste of life. It doesn't bring worldly benefit. It doesn't bring religious benefit.
But remember that sleep deprivation on the other hand is also not that good. But if a person sleeps
excessively, then what happens? It has a negative effect on one's body. You will notice that if you
sleep excessively, you wake up, your head is hurting, isn't it
		

			Your eyes are swollen, and you cannot do anything it takes you so long to get out of that sleepy
state.
		

			So, what ladina whom I love way more you don't Why? What's the reason? Because they have a higher
goal in life.
		

			When a person has a goal to achieve, then all of these useless things, he will get rid of them. They
will not be a part of his life anymore. backbiting that is also low.
		

			Because it's only adding to a person's sense. It's consuming his good deeds away.
		

			So what Ludhiana home anila little one can that be when a person has a focus in life?
		

			That's the sort of the recitation of these verses
		

			which we learn