Tahir Wyatt – The Etiquette Of A Muslim
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on the long line, very profitable Walmart lady was telling them I said, a wall has made it unlawful for you to be them doodle to your mothers to bury your daughters alive, to refuse other news and to demand things from others and he hates for you engaging in gossip, asking many questions about people's affairs and squandering property.
The
third 2017 corresponding to the eighth on the line 1438 We start with the Hadith of
the Prophet it is silent. Sadam
hates for you certain things and has made unlawful for you other things. And these things are six in total, there are six things in total that the profit is
mentioned in this study. The first is okay, so three of them,
the prophet is likely to sit and do the work, how to love like, such and such a law has made hard for you these things.
The second tab, which is the last three things, what the * is that?
Okay, he dislikes for you three things. Now,
here so we have terminology before we actually get into the headings, it's important to understand what we're talking about, because we have gone and we have met, right, Kenny?
What is hot? What does that mean?
It's forbidden if the Prophet is allowed to sit in for betas from doing certain things, and they're not for profits. And as we talked about it other heavy he forbid one from drinking yet had
people from drinking while standing. Right. We mentioned that the scholars say that this is not a hot winner. It's not
forbidden.
Even though the probably some of them said it was permitted. It is not hard on so what I mean something other than forbidden, what does it mean? sinful? sinful? Okay. That's closer. Because what it does mean is that is something that we've been prohibited from doing
that if you do it you are considered to be sin, that is the that is what is hot. So, you subjected yourself to lust that is punished an iron because you had done something that you are strictly forbidden from doing. Whereas that rule does not love, the person does something that is what rule. Okay, it doesn't mean that they've done something that they are sinful for having done.
However, what this terminology become prevalent in Islam and this is something that we have to be clear about. The Prophet is alive. Today, the companions didn't use the same terminology that the later you know, scholars have assumed with us. So, they have this, you know, categorization of the actions that we do once upon a time and must have
been must have been the back row and column, right. So these are the five categories, but here and the language of the texts
when you see the word ketty, however, but it doesn't usually mean that anybody memorize sort of a slot,
anybody, scientist, nobody else.
Okay, and other places.
So until Islam
data says that it is forbidden for you to
kill innocent person.
It is forbidden for you to
come close to Xena nanny committing adultery. Don't even go close to it.
Right, it is permitted for you to be haughty and arrogant. And none of us know that it says at the very end of all of these things that he's mentioned, including killing someone who can say you interrupt me
with
all of these things,
according to your Lord are met rule is it means to kill somebody.
kill somebody.
That's what that means, or committing Zina
doesn't mean the way that the scholars have to fit, have used my group and later turns. Here, when Allah says Allah says that something is but who is hot?
There is harm. So we shouldn't get confused with later categorizations and then juxtapose them on the sunopta profit idea. So it was to them or the vernacular of the grind was very important that we understand that point. So here what then is the benefit? And he
said that how Ramallah alarming Hassan these things, and he detested these other three things. What's the benefit if they both mean the same thing? The scholars say that sometimes
the private it is allowed to sit and people do this in their speeches, in general, use synonymous terms, just to break the monotony. And it actually causes you allows you to focus more. So you know that these three will have on how long Allah Allah make them a loved one. That allows you get those three down. And then Allah ATP states with the test of these are the three things that you get those three down is easier than memorizing six altogether. This is why yesterday, when we said okay, what's the first Heidi from keytab? Oh, Jasmine. And
we said that the problem is my son said that the duties that are Muslim Oh, so another six? Everybody was trying to think most we get three, four, but all six, no, but if we can categorize them three and three, then perhaps that is one of the benefits with the private equity side was and as mentioned in this study, like
the first thing that the problem is
that this ID is being unduly equal to your mother's
to your mother's instead
of both
the mother and the word, because many of you know the terminology with a valid name, right? Enter the opposite of that, which is being with your parents. The opposite of thing is
unwinding, which comes from the word appa, which means copper.
And I mentioned in all of that, because yesterday, we took the hockey player.
Right, the same
guy is the one who separates the ties will not intergender.
So similarly, here, similarly here, ricotta Luma, had to be on duty for two years, your mother's means to sever the ties, it means to separate the time
to cut off, which is what happens when a person has a child. After seven days. What do you do?
Play what's it called an error? What's that call?
From app which is just the cut off? Okay.
Yeah, because there's a story that happens like here. The Prophet alayhi salatu. Salam specifically mentioned, mothers, we know that it is impermissible to cut ties with anybody in your family,
with your fathers as well. But
because the mother has such a special place in Islam, the prophet alayhi salatu salam mentioned there are new we know that
the men who went to the province the line that was Southern and he said to said to him, men about any who shall be righteous to and then some narrations who has the most right to my companionship to my good companionship. The promise of my mother.
Mae said then, perhaps I shouldn't say your mother said that. He said, your mother.
The man that said the process of aligning the seven said then you're fine. Then you find so many of the scanners and some of them even mentioned consensus of them on this point. Is that the
Mother is to be honored
three times as much as the fun
but more love The first
of those who explains how the party wishes this. And he mentioned that there is in fact, among some of the scholars and some of the scholars have mentioned that there is now a consensus amongst them on this issue, that the mother takes precedence
over the father, even though they are both deserving.
You're being righteous to them and being dutiful to them.
And there's an interesting story, a man came to me and Malik rahimullah.
And he said to him, my father is the student.
And he wrote me a letter asking me to come join him. So that
was the man man, I think
you should
be America's here movie.
The Matrix in America, he said, My father told me to come, he wants me to come to Sudan with him. He's in Sudan. But my father, my mother, doesn't want me to turn down. My mother prevents me from not apparently she was an idiot.
So he had to
obey your father and not disobey your mother.
Like, how does that work?
What does that mean, obey your font and no discipline? How can you possibly obey your father and not disobey?
Sorry.
Take both of
me.
Very good fight. So the issue here, some of the scholars say that this is an indication that even Atlantic like both of you said that he sees that the rights of the parents are the same.
So you have to figure out a way to please both. But another way of looking at that. And I don't I don't know that that's even a Malik's position, nor, I think for some, that he's encouraging this person to use some Hickman to have some wisdom, and figure out a way to persuade one or the other, right, that either stays or to do or he goes to. So then that can use some type of wisdom, perhaps make them talk it out. So they come to a conclusion between the parents, why are you tearing me apart as the child right? magnets, we'll use those words. But the point is to come to some type of resolution that would be, you know, pleasing to both your parents in the case that there is some
kind of
contradiction in the world of the two.
The second thing that the prophet SAW to say we'll talk more about because the next heading
also talks about better lighting, gain or being booted up your parents, and we've talked before about being dutiful to your parents when that time comes. But here again,
specify mothers, because of the great write that they have, and that their writing takes precedence over the rights of fathers. That's number one. Number two, is that usually, usually, fathers are going to take their rights from the children. And they tend to be a little bit more harsh and stern, than the mothers. So the mothers are the ones that usually get disobeyed. And the person talks back to them, you know, something like that. Whereas the father tends to be a little, a little more harsh, and it's going to take what is rightfully his. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is, you know, shedding light on the fact that it is haram to be unduly equal to your mother to sever the ties with
her. The second point is the promise of lie to someone says that a lot how wrong that he made unlawful is very, your daughter's alive.
And this was the practice.
Some of the Arabs of January and before the time of the Prophet it is selected,
that they would bury their daughters alive.
And some of them said that the way that they would do that is that the they will take their wives
away from the city to give birth
and they will take a home.
And if the wife gave birth to a girl,
then they would throw the girl in the hole and tomorrow.
And if it was avoided, they would keep her
and some of them said that another practice of the Arabs was to wait to the
girl was six years old, and that they would take her out to the desert as if they were going on some type of, you know, family trip to Cuba
until she got close enough to a well, and they would tell it look down in the wall, look at the water. And when she looked they would push her Oh,
what are you that
was
one of them was given the glad tidings of his daughter,
he would become dark and gloomy.
He would not be pleased with the fact that the last kind of guy that blessed him with a daughter, which is absolutely illogical, because if his mother wasn't somebody's daughter, he would have never been born.
But this was the apprentice some of them said that
it started with the mending plates to the house, and that to me.
And he from from JD, before the Prophet is alive, they said that one of his enemies,
they were four, and one of his enemies,
took his daughter
as a prisoner of war camp.
And then he married her. Then he married the daughter of teeth place
when they came to a peace treaty,
place gave his daughter the choice to either stay married to this man who was his enemy, or come back and be with your people. And she chose to stay with the man who were thinking her as a character have arisen.
And place about that if he had any other daughter.
He looked at this as being betrayal, he found that if he had any other daughter, they would bury her. And the arrows follow him in this
particular manner. But she said various other scholars as well knows best the authenticity of it. But without a doubt, that was the practice of many of the errors in design. The analyst has animations in the wind when he doesn't know. So he that is the daughter that has been buried alive is as big enough.
Who was in when you kill that. So this was the practice. And this is without a doubt Iran from two angles. Number one,
because it is taking the life of an innocent person unlawfully.
That's from one angle. And we all know the crimes that are the punishment for killing a Muslim intentionally in Islam,
which is eternity into Hellfire, as mentioned before,
or spend a very long time now fine. And the second reason why it is time is because there is severing of the ties of kinship.
Your children are from your kinship, that it is way too for you to keep good times. But
that doesn't mean that you have to do everything that your children wants you to do. That's the mistake, that is actually cheating your children because they don't know what's best for them
means that you nurture them that you raised them that you guide them to what you know to be best for them. But to kill your child, this is without a doubt, haha from both of those angles, because you have shed mud unlawfully, and because we've got the ties of kinship, the third thing that the Prophet sallallaahu son have said that alarm has Rama may unlock this heavy is meloneras warheads, refusing
and demanding. Right minute needs to review something and have right has been that you are demanding something you're asking.
And what this refers to, is to refuse to give people the rights that you owe them.
This time, someone has the right over you.
Whether that is your spouse, your children, because it is wiser for you to spend on YouTube.
If you loan some somebody to some money and you haven't repaid that debt, they come to you the time is up. You have the ability to pay them and you don't this is Monday and so you are refusing to give them what is rightfully theirs. Whereas the other half of that is to demand what is not rightfully yours to demand. What is not
frightfully York and this happens a lot. And in this part of the world
and where prices are not fixed, for example, all right, so you go in, and you want to Akito finance. And you said,
Give me Just give me one more, on top of this demanding what is rightfully yours,
demanding what is not right with you. But there are many other
ways that this has manifested in the lives of people. The point is that this is haram in Islam. And that by this and then this by some of the scholars mentioned that this Heidi is a very important heavy for the ethics and the moral code of the Muslim
and that we should live like this. We don't refuse to give people their rights, nor do we demand. What is that?
Like that's the first half of the heavy who remembers the first three? Those things that approximately seven said a law means yes.
To be unduly for your mother's to disobey them? Yes.
It's a very adored as the law.
So two reviews, what is rightfully to give the rights to others, it's a demand for the not right to do those three, we got down the next three. Now, you'll see and I think that this is also important to mention, you'll see that the last three about what's the probability, so don't use the word carry. All right, they're not as serious as the first three, they're not and that that doesn't mean that they're not caught on, we should realize that. And it's fan, just like the things that we are commanded to do our obligations, our various levels, right? So for example, we are commanded to pray five times a day.
Is that like the command of heights? So on the same level?
Sorry, right, they both got it? Yes, they both follow. But this is my point. Are all funds are all obligations on the same level? No, this is why that bandit came to the promise of light. It was someone who said what action is most beloved to Allah. The prophecy sort of says select,
praying at its most beloved to Allah. So though we have many obligations, they're not all on the same level, and not on the same level.
Likewise, those things which have been prohibited in this land, even though they may be hot, they're not on the same level. And it is, for example,
a been unduly fool to your mark, something that's hard without a doubt. What is it like killing someone? Notice that it's not on the same level. So we have to that's part of having faith in your deen
is that you understand
the different levels of firearm and different levels of biofeedback.
And perhaps we'll deal with this point a little later. But one of the reasons why it is important to know is because something that is a combat if like we talked about yesterday, from the major sense of Islam, by let me give you
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
As salam
o a select, we select what you want to eat and do
what our mind you know, our mind katha it needs Maybe no one
is it's too deep or too bad. From one select to another select. And you'll find daily prayers and from one to more x in the next few months from one to my prayers for the next year, my prayer for one Ramadan. So the next Rama line service is expiation for the sins that were committed in between them.
With the condition that one eat it's 20 bucks in the bank, if major sins are avoided, if major sins are not avoided, and what we understand from this study, if major sins are not avoided, then those sins are not wiped out.
So the major sins require that you repent from them. That's why it's important to know. Okay, Alina gadgets any warning caballo on this one, so age 11. I was in Dallas but those people that have been forgiven, the ones who stay away from the major sense and
From obscenities, any lemon, except for the small things that one may fall into here.
So the point here is that sins are of different levels. And what we'll see here is these last three that the promise later someone mentioned, do not seem to be on the same level as the first three, but that doesn't mean that they're not come on rather they are alright. So, the first one
that the province would like to sell them says is
a p one.
Now, they they translated it as gospel
that translation is,
is only a partial translation, because what it actually means is talking too much.
To talk too much, somebody might say, why is talking too much? How was what's the problem, he's just somebody he's, you know, he's friendly. And, you know, we like that, with the prompts I sent him is referring to here.
cleaner and calm, okay? Are the Arabic words for the passive verb in a,
an active verb round.
So in other words, this is somebody who goes around to people and he says, you know, such and such was said, this particular thing, we heard that this thing happened, or so and so said this, and so and so said that.
So this is like a literal translation of pilo upon. But as the scholar said, it needs to talk too much. Because a person who talks too much, in general, is going to make all types of mistakes, normally, because he's not going to be concerned about the veracity of what he's married.
It's true, it's not true. He just wants to talk for the sake of
this because he doesn't like silence for whatever reason.
So he's just going to, as long as someone else has been talking to he's going to talk just to fill up the air with his voice.
And the
apology if men and you have to have equal demand, is enough for a person to or is enough to be considered a sin, that a person narrates everything that he hears.
This goes around talk.
And this is not a quality of a believer in the lawn, the last thing he wants to do, how can you say someone doesn't believe because the Prophet is itself said, mechanic
will hire
somebody or
whoever believes in a lot in the last day, they let him say what is good, or Be quiet. And he had this is, this is your option. And we believe in a lot the last day, say what is good? Or be quiet type question.
Some people hear this heavy, and they remain silent for hours, as long as they can think of the heading a point.
I want to talk
is it better?
To talk, but to be sad?
Depends on what you're going to say.
Yes, life.
No doubt, it is better to talk.
But as the brother mentioned,
if what you're going to say something good.
And that's why the process of learning will suddenly upset. Whoever believes the last the last days. And let me say that which is good. He started out he didn't say, but yes, they let him be quiet or say that which is good. He said, let him say that which is good. For BYU. If you don't have anything good to say, then you should be quiet. But it's better to say that which is good. But the best thing is that a person can say anything that is going to make them parent, his parents happiness is going to happen to teach other people about the pain of a loss of parents. And this is without a doubt one of the best things that you can do and the best things that you can say. So call others to the Dean
of Allah, woman accent opponents, women die in the lung, who was better in speech than the one who calls to Allah.
So especially for those of you who live in our society, and learn enough about Islam, that you can talk to someone else about this thing. You don't have to know all of the details and the intricacies.
But enough about Islam
messenger that you can convey the meaning correctly, of 99 a month so
that you can take this to the people
because that is better for you than climbing into a hole in your house and locking yourself in and not speaking. And then say when someone whoever is silent will resist will be saved and delivered from abasement. That is fun.
So, here the Prophet is alive, is instructing us to say that this is good, but not to talk too much. Because normally what happens when a person talks too much is that they want to fall into the hands. So they don't want to speak. Anything wants to say something about someone that that person doesn't like, what's that call?
That's called back by. Even if it's true. You said something about someone that was true, but they wouldn't like for you to say that about them. And they're not in your presence that's backed by
or you're going to wind up
doing what is worse than that. saying something about someone
that they don't like that is not true.
Which is not what
slander, slander slandering. When they the prophet SAW you said, I'm sad to that Eva is mentioning your brother with that, which he doesn't like to kind of have
mentioned something about that he doesn't like they said,
What if it's true, he said, if it's true, that lever.
And if it's not true for a head to book 10, right, just to standard.
So talking too much is the first thing that the probably some said that allies who don't dislike particular heading
like the
next thing that the promise of lightning just sort of says, Catholics.
Catholics
have expected
asking many questions about people's affairs.
ask too many questions about people's affairs and why
it's important, I'm glad we're going through this translation, because this is the translation of global bond that's available in English. But as you can see, with the term massive, that doesn't cover the meaning of
what the probability someone says that he says she's she said, or we're talking too much. Likewise here, asking too much, is not restricted to asking too much about people's affairs. So Matter of fact, that's one of the last things that this guy was mentioned, when it comes to what this particular mean. So if we leave it General, asking too much, asking too much about what
this can say, asking too many questions about things that haven't happened.
So that's, that's one of the main So, a person goes up what shape what if this What if that such and such What if such and such happens in another country I
used to despise when people would do that. And he was saying that the people I
talked to match me I, my time came when I reached the people of this city. And their only knowledge was keep having some this is what he said, the only knowledge was the Koran and it shouldn't have the Prophet it selects a synonym. And when something happened, they call it in the 50 terms. They call it an asthma Gani, a contemporary issue that may not have a specific direct text is the Brian and the sooner that he was with him. He said, If there was a contemporary issue that came up, then the Amir would gather up the scholars,
they would talk about the issue from a template while he suffered whatever they agreed upon, then that is what the Amir would implement.
And it was set amongst them.
Don't like some of those guys who say don't ask me about what hasn't happened, though. There's someone who asked him, What about this?
The scholar was saying, did it happen?
And if they said no, they wouldn't answer the question. But you know what, my
school is nowhere behind me perhaps the scholar who was asked about it will be given to me by a lot of data to answer the question in a manner that is appropriate. So that is one form of that which is not like the discipline to ask too many questions. Now, that is not
unrestricted, or that doesn't mean that there's no qualifications to them.
Some of them ask even offense or the amount of data
poisoning
sorry,
the scholar of The Omen
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When did he live 100 years ago, 20 years
ago at the time
he was one
he explained to Brian
Brian. He died 20 years
ago
He was so happy and your mental state
it was from the Sahaba, who are this I have
the companions of the messenger. So the lighting the southern Yeti heat the rectly took his knowledge from the mouth of the Prophet is what I was saying he was the one in the proxies applied, was he related to the browser,
it was his cousin.
He was the one the privacy light, it was suddenly
grabbed and said, along with physical 15, wireless hotel, Wi Fi and lower market from an understanding of this theme, and teach them the tax lien, meaning teach them the interpretation of the Quran
is one of the most knowledgeable of the companions.
Even though he was young, I wanted the alone time. And I know at this time he would bring it when I was a young man at that time,
he would bring him to sit with the older campaigns.
And even at best will be one of the most knowledgeable promos.
Perhaps one day, we'll get a chance to do a lecture just on the biographies that are best, because it's inspiring,
very inspiring, as a matter of fact, and this is something that you should tell your children,
you know,
when he went out to seek knowledge, and he was very young, and the other, the others who you know, who were in his peer group, or what are you going in, you know, sitting at the door of a school for these other companions, and tried to ask them about this little knowledge, who needs you need to live that I wanted to know,
the devil, but Kevin, I don't even know.
The rest of these great campaigns, who needs you, young man, right.
But it wasn't deterred by that.
And he went out, and he sought knowledge until he became one of the most, if not the most knowledgeable of his peer group on this error.
And this is something that we should always, you know, when it comes to our children, our younger brothers, we look at them, don't look around and say, Oh, we have this great styling plan, and this breaks down or this one, and that one, nobody needs me. Oh, one day, they owe me each.
And you have to prepare now, you prepare for
before the time of peace, right? You don't wait until someone actually needs you. And then you begin to prepare, but it's too late, then.
No. So encourage encouraging your children the best. The point is they asked him at one stage of his life.
How did you get so much knowledge? When I first said, PD said in some developing our own coding, he said and
he said within attentive parts,
right? Meaning he paid attention to things
will be the same. And so with an inquisitive, inquisitive tongue.
So someone might say here, but the process I saw, so we don't like a lot of questions.
It doesn't mean those questions, which you are asking to actually gain more understanding of your theme. So that you can remove ignorance from yourself so that you can implement what you are learning so that you can teach others it doesn't. It is not inclusive of that. Because even the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said, in the mastery path.
As soon as I said the cure for ignorance is the question. How do you how do you learn if you don't ask questions, but here we're talking about capital letters. So it's when you go overboard in question. That is as it relates to him. But many of the scholars say that this happy was also inclusive of asking people for the wealth
and asking people for their wealth. We have even party, a testament with the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that a person will continue to ask
until he comes on yo when they asked him for what until he comes on Yeoman pm and he doesn't even have a piece of flesh on his face.
I Muslim the sensor is not permissible for one to answer unless they are in dire dire poverty, they are in extreme debt or if there is a
person who has been
trained anybody know?
Next time. The point is that it is a very strict system.
waste that it is permissible for a person to actually ask.
And that a person should not make this his habit, that this is something that has been prohibited by Allah subhana wa Tada. And in fact, that is when you look at the example of the believers at the moron, Marius, Illumina NASA inhabit, even those who have situations where they need several more than jack up in the Gunny, they are not up here they are people who are in need of Australian dollar says you actually want to jack up in the I mean, it's awful. But those who are aware of this situation, believe that they are wealthy. And some somebody I need to think that they're suffice that they will also Why?
Because they don't go out asking people, they carry themselves with dignity
to the point that other people will look at them and think that they have everything they need
gladius unless it has lost friends and said about that they don't ask people demand the demand from people and be persistent, in a consistent manner, or at all.
My course.
And he mentioned not begging them for anything, not even at that level, way before the level. They're not even to the point where they are openly asking anyone for anything be.
So we have asking too many questions
about the religion
that are not beneficial. We have the issue of asking people for their money. And then we have the issue of what they mentioned her as they translated, which is asking people about this
many questions about people's affairs, okay about their affairs.
So you just someone you don't have that kind of relationship with. And you begin to ask them things that are inappropriate as that would cause as if we're getting some animosity between the two. So how's everything? So how much do you How much do you get paid? What you're seeing here and in the Arab world that's very common.
In other parts of the world is to the west, that's considered to be very bad man.
Oh, Mashallah. You got a new car? How much do you pay for your car?
You just keep asking. Yeah, okay, where do you get it from? Again?
It doesn't concern you.
And from the professionally of Muslims practice of the DEA is to leave off, that doesn't concern.
You don't start asking people all of these questions that make them uncomfortable to the point that
either they turn away from you. They just tell you stop asking me, or they have to answer you very vaguely. So you get the point that they don't want to talk to you about that, or whatever. It's just an uncomfortable situation. But even worse than that, even worse than that.
And we should we should recognize that this comes down to this hugging biocatalysis law. isn't what Muslim invites you to eat with them? You say? Where do you get your meat from? Is it from Brazil?
Where does that mean for
Muslim invite you?
The basic rule is that you don't ask those types of questions.
Because it comes down to this heavy ask too many questions.
And you should eat from
whatever they serve, you know,
that Muslim is a device, you know, that is very flexible in some areas.
The brothers question is,
is very flexible in certain areas, you know, that maybe, that if, again, these are the type of things that if you want to establish that from the, from the onset, that that's one thing, but you set the invitation, don't put him in a situation where you are going to ask those type of questions. So before you even know, and just tell him listen, make it a brother doesn't know.
Really, honestly, maybe he doesn't even know where to get haloumi from
maybe you could give him some, you know, he wants to write to you to give himself so you can put that or whatever.
I mean, as long as he's not feeding you something that you know is it's not putting a workshop in front of you or something like that. And at that point, you know, we're not going to
fight.
The
third and final part of this heading is wasting wealth and here out of
translate, squandering poverty, wandering property.
Wasting wealth is for what the prophet is referring to here. And the majority of scholars considered this to be when we say wasted wealth, the same thing that we talked about earlier, when we talked about swap, which is to go overboard to be wasteful to be extravagant in certain circumstances. This is something that has been prohibited in Islam.
All right, and how do you know that it is a waste of wealth, and it's fine, you know, I think that a lot of times, we don't recognize
that we are wasting wealth.
Now, there are some things that are very clear, if
we because there are three areas here,
there is the issue of spending your wealth on something that is not permissive.
That is a waste of wealth, no matter what that thing may be, no matter how much pleasure it may bring to you,
no matter how much it makes you write on the weekend, at the end of the week, you you want to find
some intoxicant or something like that.
That is not only is the thing that you are purchasing hon. But you also fall into the wood, especially the prohibition mentioned this happening, which is wasting your wealth,
a large hotel bless you with that, well spend it in a manner that is permissible.
Otherwise, you may be subjecting yourself to that wealth being taken from you, because you are not showing any gratitude to lots of fans out there for him.
So that is, the second way that you can spend your wealth is in manners that are good, whether they be obligations. So there's never a waste, if you're spending your wealth or something that is an obligation. Taking care of your family is an obligation putting a roof over their heads, it's an obligation spending all your parents as they need you to spend on them as an obligation
All right,
building a best team in your area.
There's no other messages there then it becomes an obligation for the Muslims to put their wealth together to establish the house of Allah hands out
these are spending this is you know, spending your wealth or something that is an obligation that there are those things which are not an obligation, but they are presumed to have been something that is you know, recommended or encouraged for you to do. So, someone needs some money
and you give the charity to them, you give a charity to that person from your wealth,
this is something that is good as long as your charitable actions do not make you neglect your responsibilities.
Right.
So, this would have been the third thing is spending your wealth
on permissible things, they're not caught on
or something that is disliked nor is it something that is waiting for you or was to help
and hear hear
what the science says that this becomes this goes back to an issue of being what is relative to that particular person. So, is it permissible
to what is it expensive bar
savings or savings? Is it permissible to buy a Mercedes does this come into the first category is that hot to buy a Mercedes
is it Why is it for you to buy environment safe? Okay. So, this comes under the move ahead for those permissible things, is it permissible to buy a receipt?
Yes. And it depends on the customer. Exactly. If a person has to take all have their money. This is not the type of person he says you know, working class comes from a working class family. And to get a Mercedes he has to save up you know, half a year's salary
is going to neglect other things. He can't maintain the car even he can maybe buy it, but if anything goes wrong with it, and he's not going to be able to maintain it for the scholarship. This is this one. This comes with being wasted.
Spent according to your needs.
If one was a lot, this is one of the greatest calamities of this era that we live in, is that people live outside of their means.
You know, and not to comment too much on social issues, but we have a lot of Muslim women
who are unmarried.
And a lot of Muslim men
who shouldn't be taking them as second ones. This is better for society to not only go on a tangent, right, I want to go on a tangent.
But the reality is, is that a loss paradigm prescribed
or legislated, and permitted
the system of polygyny, because it is better for society as a whole, it doesn't mean that for every single man, it is better for them to live, it doesn't mean
but for society as a whole polygyny is better
than its alternatives, which is going on.
And we should realize that that is a a principle in our theme. So the last pelletizing did not legislate anything, except that it is purely good, or that the good outweighs the harm. So might say is there harm and polyphony? This says the first one. Yes, there's no harm in religion, there's,
the children are not going to be able to spend as much time with the, with the Father, in most cases, and some other things that come up. But but it doesn't just look at that this thing looks at the pros and the cons. There's no doubt that for society as a whole, that the benefit outweighs the harm. Whereas if we look at other things, such as getting intoxicated, is there some benefit in life.
That's
not logical data set in the
field that is going to be
on the NES, the last field that is said about intoxicants and gamble, that there's great synonyms, there's some benefit. There's some benefit. So a person needs to forgive is best for, you know, whatever just happened, and he gets it, there is a benefit in being able to just forget things. It's
true.
But it's still hard. Because if you woman at the bottom in every event, because the sin of it, the sin that is in the the kind of the heart of intoxicants far outweigh far outweigh any good, that isn't.
Quite so how do we get on this point? Is that
waste?
wasted my a nap? So the issue of of being wasteful? Yeah, because the point was that people live beyond their means. If people would simplify their lives just a little, and live within their means, because you have somebody could say, well, they can't afford to take on another family. Because the one next you have,
again, we're trying to do what keep up with the Joneses. And we talked about in an earlier lesson, you are trying to be like this particular person or trying to keep up with societal standards or whatever they may be.
So instead of getting a home, that is sufficient,
you want to pick match, instead of a car that is sufficient, you want the newest that the fastest and the you know,
to the end of so person is living outside of their means.
And this causes people to go into deaths. And we know that the Prophet is saying one of his companions died, and he had debt. And it wasn't even that much to the promise my children used to pray over. And he ordered the rest of the debates to pray over him. But to show the seriousness of someone dying in depth, why are you taking the dead? Is it because something that you actually need? Or is it because you aspire to live outside and beyond your means? Want to realize this, the bar to map this is something that last time was added to tests that you waste your money. Because what is going to happen when you wasted you're going to subject yourself to the thing that came before which
is causing them to sweat. So now you're going to have to go around and ask people because we have systems that are set up today. No, you don't have to go ask this person or that person that's shameful. But walking into the bank and taking out a loan is actually
So we think, even though you're going to wind up paying them back for that you borrow and fall into another hot, which is to take interest bearing loans without any necessity whatsoever.
And that person is we know is that for what the lines of adjustment, and I don't, there's no one
at war with the last kind of data that is going to win.
So finally, realize that this issue of wasting wealth is important, the Muslim should be very in tune to his finances.
budgeting, how to spend this is something that's probably spent, you shouldn't look at this as being something that too far towards No, this is from Islam, as promised.
And we should implement this in our lives. Learn how to spend your money
in a way that's going to benefit you. As a matter of fact, some of the scholars say
that, one of the things that falls under wasting your wealth is to let your wealth just sit without using it without gaining any benefit from it.
Without putting it to work for you, as we would say, find a way to invest halau
halaal invest.
Otherwise, to just allow your wealth to sit there, then what's going to happen is that after a year, you want to make 2.5% on all that surplus well, because you're going to pay the cat. And it's just going to sit there and it's going to decrease and decrease make your money work for you put it in society put people to work.
Turn that money around, otherwise, we are wasting our money. So just to go back over this caddy, which took us all day. And I know that I wanted to move on. And but this heading is very important, in fact, to the point that some of the scholars of Islam said that it is the most important howdy
in the area of Venice, and there are others that disagree. But the point is that it is a very important tip when it comes to the mannerisms of the Muslim when it comes to our ethics and our moral code and how we behave. So to go back to the Prophet ideological sense.
said that a lot as well. As made haram for you three things. What are those three things? Not this one?
Yes.
If you want
one of the three things that are that allows me a lot worse.
Sorry.
That is the that's the second part. Yeah, disobey your mother to be undoable to your mothers or to cut the ties with a hook aluma hats, right? Just cut them off. separate those times by second day. Where your daughter's alive, very thing and ask for
prevent somebody from right.
to refuse to give somebody what is rightfully theirs for to demand. What is not rightfully yours. Right. That's the first half the second half of the heavy the profit on a select was synapse that we're heading for that. But
and he has been testing three things for you.
What are those three things?
Like
personally, for them?
Yes, talk too much, talking too much. talking too much. Second thing with what you said, asking too much, and not just asking too many questions. or asking too much could be related to the dean as an asking too many questions about the religion that don't have any practical benefit or can be asking for for someone's money. And then the third thing
is wasting your wealth, wasting your wealth and Allah subhana wa Tada, those of us we're going to stop here today because you're taking too much time. Any questions?
Any questions about? Yes?
Like, from what I understood from the question is, is smoking heroin or is it a group
or sending money or smoking? Okay, now, so
some of the contemporary scholars actually mentioned that in their explanation of this honey, that besides the fact that smoking is impermissible because
It pays to your demise. And physically, there is also harm because it is a waste of money for two reasons.
First of all, purchasing anything that is fun is a waste of money in and of itself. The second thing is that there's no benefits of soaking the soil.
And so it is purchasing that which is not beneficial, which is considered to be a waste of money. No.
Yes,
sir.
I want to know how to because we stay in the country, most of them they are using their consent.
Now, if they say, the non Muslim nearby to come eat, they are dabbling a little bit about
how you can display that mixed mixed Arabic In English, and I wasn't sure that it was the same.
Good of
like, Okay, so now to answer that question that Brian said that was fine. When did he know
that the food of the People of the Book is permissible for you. So we keep coming down and say that that was done in this town, the Christians at the time of the Prophet is allowed to select word Trinitarian. They believe that a trinity just like the Christians of today, because Allah cansada described them in the world as being such. So we can't go missing other other Christians that really, what should be cool. So food is not for the good of the people in the book, because they worship three, they worship three and one at that particular time as well, that was fantastic considered them to be from out of town. So the food of the People of the Book is permissible for you
that is the origin or the base rule, if you will, okay. If you know otherwise, if you know otherwise. In other words, you have certain knowledge, and you have no doubt about that.
That a certain fast food chain
uses
lard as in big fat to cook their french fries. For example, no, you can't eat their french fries. Because you know, that that is, if it was a Muslim, if it was a Muslim, who was giving you something that has important products in it, you couldn't eat. And he's a must. So the issue here is that, in general, the food of the People of the Book is halau for you, if you know otherwise, you will know that it has not been slaughtered.
Meaning that it has a distorted, meaning that the the neck has not been cut such that the blood drains out. Alright, so it was killed. like they do in many of the factories in the west where they actually kill a cow, they shoot the cow in the head or with the not just to study, not just disconnect, it actually dies, it goes brain dead before they saw her friend, in this case, if you know that to be the case that you don't have
any other
by one second, please, if one of you have the ability to write down a question and send it up, it saves time because then I don't have to repeat the question. It can be read over the microphone. That's number one. Number two, if you refuse to write your questions down, please raise your voice so that I can hear or have someone do.
So can we get away?
Can you give away the earnings of interest to the poor was a
private one.
But the question is about haoran earnings. Okay, not permissible earnings. So this specific question is about interest. You have a portion of your wealth that has accrued interest. Let me give you an example. To give an example. I'm glad you asked the question Zach along.
For many people live in the West, and Manchester was a person who has a certain amount of wealth has to put that into a savings account.
They won't let them put that amount into a checking account, for example, if it goes into a savings account, which means that it is going to accrue interest.
All right. Now the way that that works, just so that you clears that basically, and this is a very elementary, you know, basically you're putting the money into the bank.
In this type of account, the bank knows that you're going to keep
That money in long term, the bank in turn left and turn lend that money to someone else at a particular rate, let's just say 6%.
That they give you 2%, for example of, of that, of the of the money that they loaned out the interest
what you left in the bank, they're going to give you a 2% rate on that, for example. So let's just say, let's just say you have a successful business or company that you have million dollars in the bank, and they're going to give you annually 2%, which is how much $20,000 All right. So at the end of the year, you have 20, you have accrued $20,000 in interest, that is not your money, period, this, let's just be very clear that money is not permissible for you, it is not your money. Now, I'm saying that for a reason. That means that you have to get rid of that money. Now, if there was a treasury, like we had, you know, like they used to have the Muslim lands, the base amount, if there
was a treasury, that money would go directly to the Treasury. And the government would use it for what they call it. Masada, DeLand, those things which are benefits to the general welfare of the society. Nothing that has anything that is pure, it's not gonna be used for building messages. It's gonna be used to build the roads and the restaurants along the way, you know, these types of things like maybe hospitals, if there's no shortage of funds.
And this scenario, where you live in a place where you can just go, I'm not going to show up to the Treasury, you know, here's 20,000. Oh, interest is money. They don't know, if you have to get rid of it. I suggest, my suggestion is to find a trustworthy Muslim, someone you trust, not a not an organization, an actual human being that you trust, and you tell them listen, this money is interest based money, take it and give it away to whatever situation is deserved. And yes, it is permissible to give it away to for people as well, it is permissible. But I don't suggest that you do that. And here's the reason why
they would
you go.
And you start giving away this 20,000.
You give 5000 to this poor person. And he's so shot,
below halen, and that was really for what, it's not your money. It doesn't belong to you.
And what happens now is you start to feel good about something that you have the right to feel good about. And then what's going to happen is, now you're not going to give charity, there are people who there still are the people who need to set it up there with a million dollars in the bank. But in your mind, you already gave away 20,000.
But you haven't given away anything.
Because it's not yours. So if you just give that to someone else do you trust
a Muslim who may be in charge of the community or something like that, but someone trustworthy, who you know is not going to put it in a pot
that you forget about it that when you haven't seen the way it was spent, you don't even know if it was spent, you give that responsibility to someone else. And now be in line with the next support person actually comes up and they need $100 or $200. You give them what they need.
And you spend for the sake of the last minute data for the mention or otherwise, because you have literally forgotten about that $20,000. But if you're in charge of going and giving that away, you really will start to feel like you've done something. And you have because that's not your wealth to begin with money that is acquired by impermissible means is not yours, you have to purify your wealth. You have to feel fine, man.
Why?
Okay, the reason why I suggested 90 organizations unless there is an organization that is specifically set up for that purpose, and your area, which I do recommend, recommend that we have absolved that can
go on and on about but I will say that I do recommend that we have those because we have situations where we can use those funds to take care of debt that has been approved by Muslims that is interest bearing. So we have this big issue by for example, in the United States, is it permissible to take out student loans so that we can study as we add this type of funds, we would never have to ask that type of question simply applies to the fund.
You give them from this money that is impermissible to pay for the school, for example.
Here
the reason why I mentioned not giving it to an organization is because most organizations have heavy administrative fees. So a lot of times it's hard to ask for that one is not going to get to the people that actually could be abused is going to be swallowed by the organization, unless it's a very efficient organization for many of the charitable organizations are just not efficient enough, number one.
Number two, is that you don't want that money being mixed with Southern
here because it's not the same. You know, so a lot of times these organizations are involved in building this attitude and when you don't want this money mixed in with the with that kind of money that is being used for your projects that you will
research, for example, to Syria to the refugees camps and stuff like this.
Each situation has its
has its own challenges. So if you find someone that you trust, give them the money, someone they'll do what they need to do with a baby got the best interest the most babies 530 appointments that used
to be like tomorrow shala we'll be back. And any questions that haven't been answered when answers have never been in that chat.