Suzy Ismail – #46 AlWasi

Santa Monica, it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring the

divine into the daily by understanding how we can

incorporate the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala. And the

characteristics of those names into our daily lives to improve

our relationship with our spouse and with our children. The name

that we're going to discuss today is adware serif, which means the

boundless, the all encompassing.

When we think about being boundless, it goes hand in hand,

of course, with the concept of boundaries. And that's a concept

that every parent and every spouse has probably at some point

traversed or thought about or contemplated. Now, what does it

mean to have boundaries and to ensure that you as a parent, or as

a spouse, are not boundless? Because of course, the

characteristic of being boundless belongs to Allah.

So with our children, many times, it can be very difficult to

recognize or understand what boundaries work for us as a

family, what boundaries work for our child, what boundaries, give

enough space for growth and individual exploration to a

certain extent, and what boundaries may be too strict or

too restrictive, and will cause the child to rebel in later years.

So recognizing or understanding the importance of boundaries is

critical in therapy. Yeah. When we look at therapy, and we've

mentioned this previously, as a three stage process, we understand

that in the first stage of therapy, yeah, this is the age

where our children look up to us. This is the age where we secure

love. And we provide that foundation of security for our

children, as they enter the second stage of therapy, which

encompasses the tween and teenage years, that is the stage where our

children need boundaries. And even though they may not ask for the

boundaries, or they may complain and you know, put up quite a

fight, when you give them boundaries, realize that they need

those boundaries just as much as we need to implement them.

Now with our spouses, when we talk about boundaries, the one of the

most important boundaries to develop in a marriage relationship

is the boundaries that encompass husband and wife, but also that

allow there to be an understanding of relationship and interaction

with parents, within laws with friends with community. And those

boundaries can sometimes be very, very difficult to draw, especially

when it comes to the boundaries with parents or within laws. But

at the end of the day, understanding as husband and wife,

that you are a new family, that you are beginning, a the process

of building your own family, those boundaries are so important to be

implemented. It doesn't mean that you ever disrespect a parent, it

doesn't mean that you disrespected in law. But it means that you

understand that there are sometimes decisions that are going

to be made, you know, concepts that are going to be addressed,

time that is going to be spent, that will belong to the husband

and the wife and the children possibly. And there are going to

be times where there is a more all encompassing viewpoint towards

family towards in laws, but creating those boundaries, knowing

yourself, knowing your family, knowing what works best ensure

that there is that solid foundation in your life. That is

what will help you in terms of creating those boundaries, whether

with your children, with your spouse, with your family, with

your community. So I pray that Allah subhanaw taala and WESA

allows us to have that ability to understand and that hikma to

implement the boundaries that work best for our families. And I pray

that Allah subhanaw taala really blesses all of us with the

boundless amounts of blessings and note and Baraka in our homes and

in our families, because I come a little higher and I look forward

to speaking to you again, as we continue to bring the divine into

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