Suzy Ismail – #46 AlWasi
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The speaker discusses the importance of boundaries in therapy, as it is crucial for healthy relationships and individual exploration. They explain that boundaries are critical in achieving the desired end result, and that boundaries are also important for healthy relationships and creating a "baller hoop" in one's life. They express hope that the guidance they receive from Allah will help create boundaries and allow for more family-friendly environments.
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Santa Monica, it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring the
divine into the daily by understanding how we can
incorporate the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala. And the
characteristics of those names into our daily lives to improve
our relationship with our spouse and with our children. The name
that we're going to discuss today is adware serif, which means the
boundless, the all encompassing.
When we think about being boundless, it goes hand in hand,
of course, with the concept of boundaries. And that's a concept
that every parent and every spouse has probably at some point
traversed or thought about or contemplated. Now, what does it
mean to have boundaries and to ensure that you as a parent, or as
a spouse, are not boundless? Because of course, the
characteristic of being boundless belongs to Allah.
So with our children, many times, it can be very difficult to
recognize or understand what boundaries work for us as a
family, what boundaries work for our child, what boundaries, give
enough space for growth and individual exploration to a
certain extent, and what boundaries may be too strict or
too restrictive, and will cause the child to rebel in later years.
So recognizing or understanding the importance of boundaries is
critical in therapy. Yeah. When we look at therapy, and we've
mentioned this previously, as a three stage process, we understand
that in the first stage of therapy, yeah, this is the age
where our children look up to us. This is the age where we secure
love. And we provide that foundation of security for our
children, as they enter the second stage of therapy, which
encompasses the tween and teenage years, that is the stage where our
children need boundaries. And even though they may not ask for the
boundaries, or they may complain and you know, put up quite a
fight, when you give them boundaries, realize that they need
those boundaries just as much as we need to implement them.
Now with our spouses, when we talk about boundaries, the one of the
most important boundaries to develop in a marriage relationship
is the boundaries that encompass husband and wife, but also that
allow there to be an understanding of relationship and interaction
with parents, within laws with friends with community. And those
boundaries can sometimes be very, very difficult to draw, especially
when it comes to the boundaries with parents or within laws. But
at the end of the day, understanding as husband and wife,
that you are a new family, that you are beginning, a the process
of building your own family, those boundaries are so important to be
implemented. It doesn't mean that you ever disrespect a parent, it
doesn't mean that you disrespected in law. But it means that you
understand that there are sometimes decisions that are going
to be made, you know, concepts that are going to be addressed,
time that is going to be spent, that will belong to the husband
and the wife and the children possibly. And there are going to
be times where there is a more all encompassing viewpoint towards
family towards in laws, but creating those boundaries, knowing
yourself, knowing your family, knowing what works best ensure
that there is that solid foundation in your life. That is
what will help you in terms of creating those boundaries, whether
with your children, with your spouse, with your family, with
your community. So I pray that Allah subhanaw taala and WESA
allows us to have that ability to understand and that hikma to
implement the boundaries that work best for our families. And I pray
that Allah subhanaw taala really blesses all of us with the
boundless amounts of blessings and note and Baraka in our homes and
in our families, because I come a little higher and I look forward
to speaking to you again, as we continue to bring the divine into
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