Suzy Ismail – #46 AlWasi

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The speaker discusses the importance of boundaries in therapy, as it is crucial for healthy relationships and individual exploration. They explain that boundaries are critical in achieving the desired end result, and that boundaries are also important for healthy relationships and creating a "baller hoop" in one's life. They express hope that the guidance they receive from Allah will help create boundaries and allow for more family-friendly environments.

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			Santa Monica, it's nice to see you
again as we continue to bring the
		
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			divine into the daily by
understanding how we can
		
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			incorporate the 99 names of Allah
subhanaw taala. And the
		
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			characteristics of those names
into our daily lives to improve
		
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			our relationship with our spouse
and with our children. The name
		
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			that we're going to discuss today
is adware serif, which means the
		
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			boundless, the all encompassing.
		
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			When we think about being
boundless, it goes hand in hand,
		
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			of course, with the concept of
boundaries. And that's a concept
		
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			that every parent and every spouse
has probably at some point
		
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			traversed or thought about or
contemplated. Now, what does it
		
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			mean to have boundaries and to
ensure that you as a parent, or as
		
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			a spouse, are not boundless?
Because of course, the
		
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			characteristic of being boundless
belongs to Allah.
		
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			So with our children, many times,
it can be very difficult to
		
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			recognize or understand what
boundaries work for us as a
		
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			family, what boundaries work for
our child, what boundaries, give
		
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			enough space for growth and
individual exploration to a
		
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			certain extent, and what
boundaries may be too strict or
		
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			too restrictive, and will cause
the child to rebel in later years.
		
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			So recognizing or understanding
the importance of boundaries is
		
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			critical in therapy. Yeah. When we
look at therapy, and we've
		
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			mentioned this previously, as a
three stage process, we understand
		
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			that in the first stage of
therapy, yeah, this is the age
		
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			where our children look up to us.
This is the age where we secure
		
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			love. And we provide that
foundation of security for our
		
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			children, as they enter the second
stage of therapy, which
		
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			encompasses the tween and teenage
years, that is the stage where our
		
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			children need boundaries. And even
though they may not ask for the
		
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			boundaries, or they may complain
and you know, put up quite a
		
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			fight, when you give them
boundaries, realize that they need
		
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			those boundaries just as much as
we need to implement them.
		
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			Now with our spouses, when we talk
about boundaries, the one of the
		
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			most important boundaries to
develop in a marriage relationship
		
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			is the boundaries that encompass
husband and wife, but also that
		
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			allow there to be an understanding
of relationship and interaction
		
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			with parents, within laws with
friends with community. And those
		
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			boundaries can sometimes be very,
very difficult to draw, especially
		
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			when it comes to the boundaries
with parents or within laws. But
		
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			at the end of the day,
understanding as husband and wife,
		
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			that you are a new family, that
you are beginning, a the process
		
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			of building your own family, those
boundaries are so important to be
		
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			implemented. It doesn't mean that
you ever disrespect a parent, it
		
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			doesn't mean that you disrespected
in law. But it means that you
		
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			understand that there are
sometimes decisions that are going
		
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			to be made, you know, concepts
that are going to be addressed,
		
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			time that is going to be spent,
that will belong to the husband
		
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			and the wife and the children
possibly. And there are going to
		
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			be times where there is a more all
encompassing viewpoint towards
		
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			family towards in laws, but
creating those boundaries, knowing
		
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			yourself, knowing your family,
knowing what works best ensure
		
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			that there is that solid
foundation in your life. That is
		
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			what will help you in terms of
creating those boundaries, whether
		
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			with your children, with your
spouse, with your family, with
		
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			your community. So I pray that
Allah subhanaw taala and WESA
		
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			allows us to have that ability to
understand and that hikma to
		
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			implement the boundaries that work
best for our families. And I pray
		
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			that Allah subhanaw taala really
blesses all of us with the
		
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			boundless amounts of blessings and
note and Baraka in our homes and
		
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			in our families, because I come a
little higher and I look forward
		
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			to speaking to you again, as we
continue to bring the divine into
		
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