Sulaiman Moola – Reflections – Desiring Good For Your Former Spouse

			Bismillah he was salatu salam ala rasulillah his sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was that we all talk
about justice. And of course, if justice can reign on the earth, then there is meaning to life. When
said naramata, the Allahu anhu was resting beneath the tree, and
		

			a diplomat had come to me and said, Now I'm only allowed one angle. And he asked the people in
Medina, where is your leader? So they said, there's the outside, just resting beneath the tree, and
said, Now I'm early olana obviously had this ambience around him and had this all around him that
you would be gripped by the all, although he was clad in a simple dress, there was nothing lavish or
flamboyant, or there was no palace to the ameerul momineen. But just his presence itself was so
inspiring. So when this diplomat came and he seen said naramata, the olana resting beneath the three
he said three words he said at Delta for a min de fer named while at Delta for a min for named Omar,
		

			you have executed justice in its true form for a mentor. So you are peaceful and the citizens of
you, of Medina, a peaceful for nimitta, so you can sleep so peacefully and in so much ease and
comfort. But it's very difficult to advocate justice when it involves their own right. So you could
say no, no, you know what justice needs to be meted out, and they must be no nobody's above the law.
And they will face the full might of the of the law and all these slogans we can turn, but the day
my own partner or my children or my sibling or my associates, then how many of us can execute the
justice and that's what the Quran calls us to the loo be just one hour Allah and forsaken a will
		

			Wiley Dany will carabin be just even if you have to confess you are wrong, or you have to admit that
your parents are wrong. And Allah says in another verse of the Quran, that while I uh, god man, calm
Shannon Coleman, Allah en la de leeuw, let not the hostility or the belligerence, or the antagonism
of a nation provoke you to injustice.
		

			In a like manner, we all speak about kindness, kindness is good kindness to your parents, to your
children, to your siblings, to humans, to fellow creatures, to animals, etc. But how many of us can
display kindness to someone with whom we had a hostile relationship? Someone who was a foe to us
someone with whom we have difference of opinion. And where I'm going with this discussion, I want to
share with you a very rich tale from the Quran, and that is kindness to your former spouse. Wow,
have you ever heard of someone speaking, everybody speaks about kindness to your wife's kindness to
your parents kindness to your in laws, but our faith also teaches us to be kind and caring to
		

			someone who you were previously married to? Of course it ended. So the fact that it was dissolved it
cannot leave a very pleasant feeling or flavor or you know, or, or atmosphere, within the family
circles, etc. And I'm referring to none other than the deal of Xena vintage yahoshua the Allahu
taala Hannah, so she was the cousin of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Her initial name was
Barbara for some mahana bu sallallahu wasallam zeyneb nobody's allowed him then give it a name
Zainab candidate middle mahadji karate Oh, well, she was amongst the first people that had migrated.
So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam tones a number of the alarm on ha that I want you to get married
		

			Tuesday either the Allahu Allah speaks about this in great detail in the 22nd Jews of the Quran,
Zainab Ravi Alanna expressed her reservation and she said, No, I'm not comfortable. I'm not too
sure. I don't think I want to wet him etc, etc. Now, there was a stint of slavery in the lineage and
the ancestry of Zadar, the Allahu anhu. And that was also wrongly brought upon him. So the number of
the Alanna had her apprehension, that probably our lineage is not compatible. We're not on the same
page, etc. Allah revealed the verse in the 22nd Jews of the Quran in Surah Al Azhar wama con la
Mola, Mineola, Amina Eva Kabbalah hora pseudo Emraan, a gonella, Julio Tommy Emery him, it is not
		

			befitting of a belief in male or female, that when a line is gonna be decreased, something for them
to
		

			Ask concession time choice. I'll get back to you know, when our line is maybe decreased then the
spirit of a believer is compliance, like Allah describes the companions in another verse of the
Quran in situ in Surah to Luke in the 18 Jews in America Anna Colella, meaning either Doru Illallah.
He also de Kuma baina, whom a guru semi I know that when they invited they oblige, so she retracted
her reservation. She obliged, and the marriage between Zainab rhodiola and the cousin of the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam and Xavier the Allahu anhu, the former adopted son of the Prophet sallallahu
wasallam was solemnized But fate had it such that after the marriage was performed, shot at Hekmat
		

			Allahu Allah, Allah tala for crusade was a net Phoenix rahima
		

			that things were not compatible. So there were feuds there were arguments, there were differences of
opinion. And can you imagine how challenging This is because a number of the olana I had my
reservation, I did not want to wet the man from the inception, I was on the backfoot the Robinson
alarmism encouraged me and I obliged and unseen to my young brother and my young sister they often
they are girls that had a very clean slate or a boy who had a very clean slate, and then they got
married and unfortunately they had to contend with challenges and then they start asking themselves
questions, but I did not date I did not go I was not, you know I did not perpetrate any act of
		

			promiscuity or any crime. Why have I been subjected to challenges in my marriage? So the wisdom of
Allah subhanho wa Taala we will never be able to comprehend. Look at look at look at the outcome in
the life of a number of the Alanna. She had her reservation the prophet SAW some exalted the verse
was revealed she are blind she got married, the marriage was rocky the marriage was turbulent. The
prophets Allison would say to say that the Allahu anhu as the Quran says, I'm Sacre la casa de COVID
de la, la casa de COVID, 13 la, just keep your wife and don't divorce her and don't dissolve it and
just hold on. And the profits a lot isn't what tells enough, just persevere, just endure back and
		

			forth, up and down. But internalize them realize now it's just a matter of time, and this union will
be dissolved. So in his heart, he said to himself, if this marriage gets dissolved, then the only
way I can mend the heart of my cousin is by me reading her, because she took this bold step against
her own choice. And she waited for my likes and my desire, and she respected my sentiments and faded
such that the marriage is not taken on it's just been turbulent and rocky from the word go, what the
phrasing of say Kamala Hall MOBA de Shanaze. And Allah says this year what took faith enough say,
and you concealed within yourself, mala who MOBA de which, that which allow is going to reveal,
		

			however, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam had one apprehension. Now, in the custom of the Arabs, if
you adopted someone, then it was viewed as your actual son. So he his wife is viewed as your
daughter in law. So it was a taboo in the Arab culture to when the former spouse of your adopted
son, but Islam came to put an end to that particular myth that existed because in Islam, forbidden
for a man to marry is the daughter in law of his son that is born to him from his loin. As the Quran
says, What hyla no abana a como la Vina mean a Slavic look at the beauty of our faith. Look at the
holistic nature. forbidden for you is the wife of your son who's born to you from your loin. And he
		

			was not born to you from your law is not your own son. He's an adopted son, then his former wife is
not your daughter in law and you can read her. The marriage was then dissolved. The lab was given
during the period was over. And then Allah subhanho wa Taala made it such that the Prophet
sallallahu wasallam gets married to the Nevada law. But now understand this year when the prophet
SAW some intense marrying his cousin who's the former spouse of Xavier the olana. Do you know what
my brother and my sister, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam sends her ex husband Xavier the alarm to
sign up and say Stella, Zainab, I am proposing to her my word. So you have Zaid, because generally
		

			when the marriage breaks up, then each party feels you're not going to get better. Well, okay, let's
see where your daughter gets. Let's see what your son gets here. You had the best you couldn't value
it. Tough luck. You can dream wish, hope and fantasize you'll never get another woman like this.
You'll never get another man like this. Yeah, that's these are the notions we have. And it's
difficult to wish well for that family. Often we put blockages
		

			In hurdles in prospective proposals that come people say, Listen, you were married to so and so I
intend getting married now don't ever get married to her or don't ever get married to him. Of
course, if they are married complaints they need to be addressed. They need to be addressed more how
to foster a new goal. The Prophet sallallahu wasallam speak when a woman proposed said two men have
proposed to me so the province alarmism said no more are we are these are the issues with him that
he has absolutely no financial, you know, stability at this time, what I'm about gentlemen, and with
regards to Abuja him, either it could mean he travels a lot, so he will not be around, or they could
		

			be a fear of some type of physical abuse. So the prophet SAW some caution that particular Sahabi and
not to marry either of the two in the proposals that had come to her. So if they are merited
complaints, it is correct for you to address it, but just to be malicious, just to be nasty, just to
be candid. No, that's not the teachings of Islam. So yes, either the olana goes to the number of the
olana. And he says a machete as aina ozanam. I've come to give you glad tidings and the narration
says as he comes, she's humbled, she is shy, she turns around, and he says, I've just come here to
give you glad tidings in the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam yabuki, the prophet of Allah is
		

			proposing for you. So the scholars of Hadith right for her that they beloved me my water had been a
who have been as a club, despite the differences despite the marriage broke up. The Prophet of Allah
sends him there. He has amin al hikmah, Anima jacobina, zol, Janie, mina frattin, was enough in some
metadata in La Jolla, Tucson, yakun Romanian ministry. And so gentlemen, after that, despite the
feuds, the differences, the arguments that families might have, and marriages might dissolve, that
does not give you the license to inflict harm on your former partner or spouse or family, you should
still continue in the spirit of benefiting them and bring in good to them. And that's what we learn
		

			from this great incident. And the comfort for Xena and the comfort for you my sister, that look at
she oblige. She obeyed. And then her marriage broke up. But then Allah substituted her with the
greatest of husbands. You cannot compare the pain she had to contend with the honor that Allah
conferred upon her. And in addition to that honor that she waited the greatest of humans she used to
boast to her co wives and the other spouses of the Prophet sallallahu send them and say to our Isha
that you're dead, Abubakar, where did you end to have said that you're dead on top of the olana
Where did you but my marriage the Quran says that Allah wedded us, as the Quran says, Phantom cavas
		

			I don't mean a whopper on the virginica, Haleakala Hakuna, meaning
		

			that after they'd had divorced we wedded the messenger sallallahu Sallam to say No brother your
loved one Haha, so that the believers do not encounter any apprehension or reservation if they
choose to wed the former spouse of their adopted sons because they can take comfort from the fact
that even the prophets of Allah Allah will send them delete. My message is continue being kind, be
it Friend or Foe beat your spouse or former spouse, but you know what's the best part? The more you
bring good to others, the more divinely good will fall in your lap.