Sikander Hashmi – Who Are Your Friends KMA Friday Message

Sikander Hashmi
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The speaker discusses the impact of socialization, particularly online, on reducing the risk of children being misled and socializing. They emphasize the importance of finding friends in person and online to have a positive and risky experience, and warn of the potential risks of online friendships. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of avoiding negative environments and protecting privacy, and advises parents to do an audit of their friends and stay away from trouble. They stress the importance of finding good companies and being proactive in helping children grow up.

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			Respected elders,
		
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			dear brothers and sisters,
		
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			my young friends,
		
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			We begin by praising Allah
		
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			the lord of the universe,
		
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			our creator, our nourisher, our protector.
		
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			And we begin by sending peace and salutations
		
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			upon his beloved messenger,
		
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			Mohammed,
		
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			the son of Abdullah,
		
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			the final messenger of Allah, sallallahu alayhi, wa'ala
		
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			alayhi, salam.
		
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			I have a question for you today, and
		
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			that is
		
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			how many people have been missing their friends?
		
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			How many people have been missing their friends?
		
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			It appears
		
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			that
		
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			one of the reasons
		
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			that, inshallah, many of my young friends
		
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			have been,
		
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			wanting to go back to school in person
		
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			and not online
		
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			is so that they are able to see
		
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			their friends again. Of course, they wanna study
		
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			as well, and I know there are those
		
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			who are have been missing,
		
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			the opportunity to study in person with their
		
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			teachers.
		
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			But I think a major part of it
		
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			is actually being able to,
		
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			see friends again, in person.
		
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			Because one of the things that many children
		
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			and even adults have been missing
		
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			is socialization.
		
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			And with the easing of restrictions,
		
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			we know that, you know, social activity
		
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			has gradually increased
		
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			over the last 6 months, but overall it
		
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			it's not at pre pandemic levels.
		
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			So, you know, some people depending on the
		
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			family and their situation and their views, you
		
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			know, some people may still be quite,
		
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			careful,
		
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			about, you know, having people inside their home
		
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			or not part of their family or their
		
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			household.
		
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			Others, maybe not so much. Perhaps you have
		
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			been, you know, meeting outside,
		
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			especially during the summer in parks, or in
		
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			backyards,
		
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			you know, in outdoor places.
		
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			But there's no doubt that the level of
		
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			socialization
		
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			we had,
		
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			before,
		
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			the pandemic started,
		
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			overall, it's not at the same level because
		
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			of the existing,
		
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			restrictions.
		
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			Now Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has created us
		
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			human beings
		
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			as social beings.
		
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			Right? We need socialization. We are social beings.
		
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			That's why, you know, we are part of
		
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			families,
		
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			and we crave for the most part, most
		
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			people,
		
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			you know, crave friends or or,
		
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			socialization
		
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			to have someone to talk to, to spend
		
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			time with,
		
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			you know, to meet,
		
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			different people and to discuss different things and
		
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			to play together and spend time together, do
		
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			activities together.
		
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			So, generally, Allah has created us as social
		
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			beings, and most people need to have some
		
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			friends or at least some people to, socialize
		
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			with.
		
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			Now
		
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			regardless
		
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			of whether, you know, we are, truly
		
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			friends in person because, of course, we know
		
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			there are different types of friends. There are
		
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			people who are, you know, your true friends.
		
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			You have people who claim to be your
		
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			friends, but then they're not really your friends
		
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			when you really need them.
		
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			There are people who become friends online.
		
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			Perhaps you've never even met them, and in
		
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			some instances,
		
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			you know, if those friendships are genuine,
		
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			it's great when you actually get to meet
		
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			in person. You know, if that person is
		
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			a good person,
		
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			and, you know, there's no danger to you
		
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			and you've gotten to know them,
		
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			it can be a great thing. However, it
		
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			can also be very risky as well because
		
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			many times
		
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			people portray themselves as something else online
		
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			and in reality, there it's, it's a completely
		
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			different reality to the point where, you know,
		
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			there's a great risk for children,
		
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			online because sometimes there are people who pretend
		
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			to be children their age, who pretend to
		
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			have the same or similar interests,
		
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			but in reality, it is someone very different
		
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			behind the screen. It might be, you know,
		
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			an adult,
		
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			an elder. It could be someone who's, you
		
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			know, of a different gender in a different
		
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			place. So people online may be completely misrepresenting
		
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			who they actually are. So this also presents
		
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			a great risk and a great danger, especially
		
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			to young people. But the point is that
		
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			regardless of whether we are truly friends in
		
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			person,
		
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			you know, or you say it's your BFF,
		
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			BFL,
		
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			or your besties,
		
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			or your friends online,
		
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			their point is that friends
		
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			can have tremendous influence upon you.
		
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			Your friends
		
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			can have a tremendous
		
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			and often will have a tremendous
		
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			influence upon you. If a person says
		
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			that they grew up
		
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			without any influence
		
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			from anyone. Now that likely won't be accurate.
		
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			If a person says no, I grew up
		
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			and nobody influenced me,
		
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			I didn't socialize with anyone. Yeah. I had
		
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			some friends, but I didn't really care about
		
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			them. You know, for for most people, that
		
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			will be an inaccurate statement. But, of course,
		
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			you know, our parents,
		
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			our siblings have an influence upon us.
		
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			But as we grow up, we're not with
		
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			our parents and our siblings all the time.
		
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			Right? Yes. Maybe during the pandemic, you have
		
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			to have stayed with your parents and your
		
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			siblings, you know, with your family. But the
		
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			reality is is that when we're growing up
		
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			and through the course of life, we don't
		
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			spend our entire lives with our parents and
		
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			with our siblings. We interact with other people
		
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			as well. And more often than not, a
		
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			good portion of our life is spent with
		
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			our friends.
		
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			And even if the time that we spend
		
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			with them isn't that much, because maybe, you
		
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			know, you're someone who doesn't spend too too
		
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			much time with your friends. I know some
		
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			people spend a lot of time with their
		
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			friends. But maybe you're someone who doesn't really
		
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			spend that much time, just know that there
		
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			is much to gain and to lose with
		
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			our friends. Right? So even if the time
		
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			is is not that much,
		
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			the influence of that relationship, of that friendship
		
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			can be tremendous. The prophet
		
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			has told us that
		
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			The example, right, the parable of a good
		
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			friend and a bad friend. So here the
		
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			prophet, the prophet, the son of a sudden,
		
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			just said, you know, there's gonna be different
		
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			types of friends. There's gonna be good friends,
		
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			or or. Right? There will be bad friendships.
		
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			Right? So there will be these types of
		
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			people, you know, these types of friendships that
		
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			people end up having. The prophet gave the
		
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			example of the carrier of musk. Right? So
		
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			nice perfume
		
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			and a blacksmith. Blacksmith is a person who
		
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			works with iron. Right? Metal makes things, you
		
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			know, and by burning them,
		
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			by making them hot. So works with fire
		
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			and, you know, and and things that that,
		
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			you know, they burn, get black, there's smoke,
		
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			there's fire. So the prophet
		
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			said
		
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			that the carrier of musth
		
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			will give you some
		
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			or
		
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			you will buy some
		
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			or you will notice a good smell. Okay?
		
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			So if you the example of your friend
		
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			is like the carrier of musk, like someone
		
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			who carries perfume, deals with perfume.
		
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			So what will happen? That they will give
		
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			you some
		
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			or perhaps if they're not that close, they
		
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			won't give you, but you'll buy some from
		
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			them. Or at the very least, you will
		
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			notice a good smell. So they don't give
		
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			you any they don't you don't buy any
		
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			from them, but you you are in a
		
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			good environment. It will smell nice.
		
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			Right? It will be a good,
		
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			person to be around.
		
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			But as for the blacksmith,
		
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			right, because he's working with
		
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			fire and smoke
		
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			in that type of environment,
		
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			you will burn your clothes or you will
		
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			notice a bad smell. So either it will
		
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			have an impact on you, meaning you will
		
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			get burned, your clothes will get burned, or
		
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			at the very least you will notice a
		
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			bad smell. Right? So the environment that you're
		
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			gonna be in is going to be
		
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			not so great. It's not going to be
		
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			very pleasant.
		
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			Now, of course, this is just to give
		
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			an example. You know, it's nothing against blacksmiths
		
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			and, you know, blacksmiths can be very honorable
		
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			and good people.
		
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			They can give you gifts as well. You
		
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			know, this summer, I had the opportunity to
		
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			visit, Upper Canada Village.
		
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			And, while at Upper Upper Canada Village, there
		
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			was actually a blacksmith,
		
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			who was working there, as part of the
		
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			village,
		
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			as part of the experience. And he's a
		
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			very friendly gentleman.
		
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			You know, I tried to say salaam. He
		
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			was not Muslim or Arab, but, you know,
		
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			he said salaam and tried
		
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			to, welcome us and, and even made a
		
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			little, you know, a little hook,
		
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			as a little gift and and, gave it
		
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			to us as well. So nothing against blacksmiths,
		
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			and they can give you gifts as well.
		
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			But, yes, the environment
		
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			that blacksmith is working in, right, and this
		
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			is, of course, just an example, is one
		
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			of
		
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			smoke and heat and fire and and and
		
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			soup, you know, which is, you know, can
		
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			get dirty and and can cause damage.
		
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			So the point is that if you keep
		
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			around people who are into burning right? What
		
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			does burning signify? Causing damage,
		
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			right, and destruction
		
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			to people,
		
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			to property,
		
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			to the dignity of people,
		
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			right, who are into,
		
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			you know, disregard of the guidance also, and
		
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			rules and regulations,
		
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			we will end up hurting you too.
		
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			Right? So this is an example. Right? To
		
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			say that if you're around such people,
		
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			if you have company, if you have friends
		
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			that are into these types of things, right,
		
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			into causing destruction,
		
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			who have disregard, who will cause,
		
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			you know, the who who who give up
		
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			negativity or work in negative influence in society,
		
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			in the community, in the world,
		
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			then you too will end up getting hurt.
		
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			Right? Either you will get hurt or if
		
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			they smell bad, meaning in terms of their
		
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			character. Right? It is bad. Your attitudes are
		
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			bad. They are negative. They are toxic. Then
		
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			you too will get impact. Right? So the
		
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			whole point here is that the type of
		
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			environment we put ourselves in, the type of
		
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			people we put ourselves around, they will have
		
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			an impact on us. Right? And if they
		
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			are negative, if the environment is negative, if
		
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			it's toxic,
		
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			it's smelly, then that will have an impact
		
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			on us as well. Right? And, of course,
		
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			if the environment is positive,
		
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			then the opposite impact will be there as
		
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			well. And this happens all the time. We
		
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			find, you know, bad friends,
		
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			you know, who are into doing bad things
		
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			for others and eventually, at some point, that
		
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			same happens to them. Right? You can find
		
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			numerous examples. Maybe even some think of some
		
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			in your own life as well of people
		
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			you dealt with or people that you knew,
		
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			that, you know, they were into doing things
		
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			which were bad to others.
		
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			Right? They have bad character. They were doing
		
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			things they were into doing things which were
		
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			negative, which were wrong to others, but eventually,
		
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			they turned on themselves. Eventually, it actually happened
		
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			to them as well. Protect
		
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			us all.
		
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			At the time of the prophet
		
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			there
		
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			was a man
		
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			by the name of
		
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			Uqhba ibn Abi Moiit.
		
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			And he was one of the chieftains, one
		
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			of the chiefs of the mashriqin of the
		
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			polytheists in Makkah.
		
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			And it was customary with him
		
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			that whenever he would return
		
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			after an expedition,
		
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			used to invite
		
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			the noble the nobility of the city to
		
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			dinner. Right? So the noble the widows of
		
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			the of the of the city would invite
		
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			him to dinner. And he would also use
		
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			to call upon the prophet
		
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			frequently as well. When he presented food to
		
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			the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
		
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			he said to him that I cannot eat
		
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			your food until
		
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			you proclaim that Allah is 1 and that
		
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			no one can be associated with him in
		
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			worship and that I am his Rasool. Right?
		
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			Essentially, until you declare the shahada.
		
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			So Ubba
		
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			recited
		
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			the shahada,
		
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			and then the prophet
		
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			ate the dinner according to his promise. Right?
		
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			So he promised them that if, you know,
		
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			I'm not gonna eat until before the shahada,
		
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			You know? And so that was a condition
		
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			that the prophet said.
		
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			And, it is said that, you know, Oba
		
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			didn't like, you know, to have any animosity
		
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			and negativity. So, you know, you wanted the
		
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			prophet to take part in his dinner.
		
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			So he decided the shahad that he declared
		
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			the shahad.
		
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			Now
		
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			his friend,
		
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			Ubayb al Khalaf, was one of the sponsors
		
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			enemies of Islam and of the prophet sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wa sallam.
		
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			And he got word of this that his
		
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			friend, Uqba,
		
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			had actually accepted Islam or had at least,
		
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			you know, recited the shahada.
		
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			So he got word of this and he
		
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			was enraged. He could not believe it. Now
		
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			how come my friend because remember, he was
		
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			one of those not just enemies of Islam
		
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			and of the prophet,
		
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			So he couldn't believe it that his friend,
		
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			his close friend, Uqba, had actually done this,
		
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			had actually
		
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			said that, you know, he accepted,
		
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			Allah
		
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			alone and that
		
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			that Mohammed
		
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			was his messengers. He couldn't believe that.
		
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			So he came,
		
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			obey him running to Uqba
		
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			saying that have you turned away from the
		
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			religion of your forefathers, Uqba?
		
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			Have you actually done this? Have you turned
		
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			away?
		
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			So Uqba tried to defend himself by explaining
		
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			that, you know, Hamad salalahu alaihi wa sallam
		
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			was an eminent person of the Quraysh.
		
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			Now if he had returned without having his
		
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			meal at his place, he would have been
		
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			very degrading for Uqba. He would have, you
		
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			know, he would have felt bad, he would
		
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			have looked bad.
		
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			So, therefore, in order to please the prophet
		
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			he had just repeated
		
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			that the sentence meaning the words of the
		
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			shahad.
		
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			Now Ubayy ibn Khala did not accept this
		
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			explanation,
		
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			and he asked Ubayy ibn Khalaq to do
		
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			something,
		
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			terrible, especially to anyone, but especially to the
		
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			prophet of Allah, who
		
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			chose to go
		
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			and to spit on the holy face of
		
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			the prophet,
		
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			if he was truly ashamed about what he
		
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			had done. Okay. So you can see,
		
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			that, of course, here the consequences
		
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			and the action itself is is terrible, very
		
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			serious.
		
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			But you can see how peer pressure works.
		
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			Right? Friend is upset. Now how could you
		
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			do this? Challenges a person, you know, you
		
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			know that people exchange dares as well and
		
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			take them very, very seriously. So it's something
		
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			along those lines where he says, okay. If
		
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			you really didn't really mean it, if you
		
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			really felt feel bad about what you did
		
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			because I'm so upset and this this was
		
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			wrong what you did, therefore, you go and
		
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			you do this terrible act.
		
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			Now,
		
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			Upa didn't want to lose his friend in
		
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			Ubay.
		
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			So he stood at the corner where the
		
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			prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam was going to pass
		
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			by, and it is said that he did
		
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			what Ubayhi had wanted him to do. Allah
		
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			disgraced him in this world,
		
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			and, of course, he will be disgraced in
		
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			the hereafter as well. But after he had
		
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			done this evil action,
		
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			the commentators of the Quran say that the
		
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			prophecy will say that Allah
		
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			revealed
		
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			these verses.
		
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			Talks about that day that the day
		
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			that the wrongdoer will bite at his hand,
		
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			will bite at his hand out of regret,
		
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			and he will say
		
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			that, oh, or that I had taken a
		
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			straight path with the messenger.
		
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			At that point, he's gonna regret that he
		
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			had actually done this action. And even though
		
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			he had expressed,
		
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			you know, or testified
		
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			to Islam, at least by time, you know,
		
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			he had come this close,
		
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			but yet it was the friend who had
		
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			then let him astray from that or the
		
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			the friend who had, you know, acted as
		
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			a a,
		
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			a source of, demotivation or a source of
		
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			turning away from what he had already
		
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			declared.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Woe be to me. Woe is me. What
		
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			that I had never taken
		
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			such a person, such a one for a
		
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			friend. Right? So on that day, on the
		
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			day of judgment,
		
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			right, he will be regretting
		
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			the fact that he had this friendship with
		
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			this person.
		
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			He led me astray from the message of
		
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			Allah after it had come to me. Indeed,
		
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			Allah said, indeed, Shaitan is but a disgrace
		
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			or betrayer
		
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			to man, to the human being. Right? To
		
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			the insan.
		
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			So the message have Allah had come to
		
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			him. He had declared it with his tongue.
		
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			Yet because of his this this wretched friend
		
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			of his or this evil friend of his
		
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			because of this evil friendship,
		
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			he you know, that became a means for
		
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			him to turn away from that which he
		
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			had come to him, meaning the message of
		
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			Allah
		
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			which he had even declared with his tongue,
		
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			and he turned back on that simply because
		
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			of peer pressure, simply because of this
		
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			friend that he had. The scholars of Quran
		
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			who relate this story, they say that these
		
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			verses are not limited to.
		
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			It's not just limited to. Right? And they're
		
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			the the the point of the lessons and
		
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			the stories that Allah mentions in the Quran.
		
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			Yes. Many times they are they they were
		
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			revealed for a specific incident,
		
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			but there are lessons there to be learned,
		
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			right, for all of time. And here,
		
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			right, the scholars say that it could apply
		
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			to anyone who's influenced by bad friends.
		
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			Anyone who is turned away from the truth,
		
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			whose friends
		
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			act as a barrier to reaching,
		
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			goodness and to reaching the truth. Right? That
		
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			person will regret or could be regretting on
		
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			the day of judgment that they had taken
		
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			such friends.
		
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			Right? Because in this world, we fall into
		
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			pressure. We fall into
		
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			following our friends and, you know, the pressures
		
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			that are around us
		
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			even for things many times, unfortunately, which are
		
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			wrong. Right? And during this moment in this
		
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			world, we seem like it's not a big
		
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			deal, But perhaps it seems like we're doing
		
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			the right thing. But on the day of
		
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			judgment,
		
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			right, on the day of judgment, a person
		
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			who has taken wrong decisions because of their
		
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			friends, who has taken wrong who has made
		
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			wrong choices and taking wrong turns because of
		
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			their friends, they will be regretting that friendship
		
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			on the day of judgement. May Allah
		
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			protect us all. Now the story of Allah
		
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			may seem extreme,
		
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			but that's exactly what negative peer pressure is.
		
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			Right? Which comes from friends many times because
		
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			the person wants to maintain good relations with
		
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			their friends. Right? You want to be part
		
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			of that social circle. You want to be
		
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			in. You want to be accepted. You don't
		
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			want to be, you know, made fun of
		
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			or to be left out. Right? So that
		
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			pressure is immense. That pressure of trying to
		
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			maintain
		
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			friendships and relationships. And if a close friend,
		
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			you know, wants you to do something and
		
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			applies a bit of pressure, there's a good
		
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			chance that you're gonna end up doing it.
		
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			Right? That's just the way friendships work. Right?
		
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			If you're really good friends with someone, you're
		
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			close to someone, and they put pressure upon
		
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			you, right, to do something, and even if
		
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			you don't wanna do it, if they put
		
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			a lot you know, some pressure, especially if
		
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			they put inserting, you know, they start exerting
		
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			a lot of pressure, there's a good chance
		
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			you're gonna end up doing it. And even
		
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			if it's not direct peer pressure,
		
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			what your friends are like and what they
		
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			do
		
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			will rub off on you in some way.
		
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			Right? Because it's the environment that you're in.
		
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			It's the things that you're exposed to. It's
		
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			the type of things that you're hearing and
		
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			that you're seeing, the types of things that
		
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			they're sharing now, especially on social media. Right?
		
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			So those things will have an impact on
		
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			you. Right? Whether you like it or not,
		
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			your company, your environment will have an impact
		
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			on you. Just as if a person is
		
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			living in an extremely polluted place,
		
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			right, where there is a lot of smog
		
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			and a lot of pollution in the air,
		
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			right, where the water is dirty and the
		
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			air that they're breathing is dirty and the,
		
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			you know, the vegetables that are growing, the
		
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			fruits that are, growing in the environment are
		
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			dirty, are tainted.
		
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			Right? That will have an impact on that
		
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			person's health. Right? Simply by virtue of them
		
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			living and operating in that environment. So similarly,
		
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			when we have bad company around us, right,
		
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			when we lack positive company around us, then
		
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			that too will have an impact on us
		
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			even if it's not direct.
		
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			So the question is, if your friends, you
		
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			know, are going somewhere and they pressure you
		
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			to go to go with them,
		
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			are you able to say no?
		
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			Right?
		
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			And even if there's no pressure, are you
		
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			able to say no to your friends?
		
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			Now are you able to stand up for
		
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			what you believe in and what you believe
		
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			is right? Or do you feel
		
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			pressured either directly or indirectly to go along
		
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			with your friends?
		
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			Will your friends be respectful of your choices?
		
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			Or will they make fun of your choices?
		
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			Right? That's a question I always ask myself.
		
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			That if a person
		
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			who claims to be my friend cannot respect
		
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			my choices and my beliefs, then they don't
		
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			deserve to be my friend.
		
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			They don't deserve to be my friend. Right?
		
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			Because if they can't respect who I am,
		
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			if they can't respect my choices, my preferences,
		
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			and my beliefs,
		
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			then why should I be their friend? Right?
		
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			Why should I give them my friendship?
		
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			If they're using bad language, you know, if
		
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			they're backbiting about others,
		
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			if they're gossiping about others, if they're involved
		
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			in illicit relationships,
		
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			if they're involved in consuming,
		
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			you know, illicit,
		
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			substances,
		
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			watching things which are haram, you know, talking
		
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			about things which are haram, there's a good
		
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			chance that you're gonna become a part of
		
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			it too. Right? Even if they're not telling
		
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			you to do it, but you they're just
		
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			doing it in your presence and you're hanging
		
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			out with them and you're exposed to that,
		
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			then you're seeing them do it, and you're
		
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			you are considering yourself to be their friends,
		
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			there's a good chance you'll also become a
		
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			part of it as well. If not right
		
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			away, then gradually.
		
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			And it's not just for children. Right? Adults
		
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			too. We have I mean, this the story
		
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			of, of Okla,
		
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			is, is, of course, you know, a story
		
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			which had to do with,
		
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			adults. Right? Okla and Kobay were not children.
		
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			Right? That was peer pressure of
		
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			adults. So adults are very much, you know,
		
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			at risk of this as well. Pressure from,
		
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			coworkers, from your peers, from your relatives, from
		
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			your friends. Right? All of that is a
		
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			reality.
		
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			And, in some cases, you know, the corrupted
		
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			beliefs
		
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			and attitudes of friends
		
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			has turned people into criminals,
		
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			you
		
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			know, even murderers,
		
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			you know, and has also negatively
		
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			influenced their faith as well. Right? There's some
		
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			very, very tragic stories, you know, of young
		
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			people who are growing up, who in their
		
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			childhood were, you know, were good kids.
		
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			They weren't in trouble. And as they were
		
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			growing up, especially if they're going through their
		
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			teen years, especially when that big switch comes
		
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			from middle school to high school, and as
		
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			they're going through that those tumultuous years,
		
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			well, they're tumultuous for for for most youth.
		
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			You know, a lot of things that are
		
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			going on, they end up with the wrong
		
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			crowd. Right? They end up being taken advantage
		
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			of even in some cases. Right? Terrible crimes.
		
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			Even against several family members.
		
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			Right? At
		
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			the due to the influence
		
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			of their friends. Right? And, of course, the
		
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			prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam has told us
		
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			that
		
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			that a person
		
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			is upon the deen, right, upon the religion,
		
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			the path, the way of life of his
		
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			close friend.
		
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			So beware of whom you befriend.
		
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			Beware. Pay attention to who you are making
		
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			your friend because whoever you're making your friends,
		
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			you are giving them a pass.
		
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			You are giving them a ticket to influence
		
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			you.
		
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			Okay? So you look at the types of
		
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			people, pay attention, and who are you getting
		
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			close to? Who are you spending time with?
		
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			Because those are the people who you are
		
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			most likely gonna become like. Those are the
		
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			people whose actions will rub off on you
		
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			and you will start
		
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			believing and acting like them as well.
		
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			So this means that a person will be
		
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			upon the same methodology,
		
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			the same ideology,
		
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			right, similar beliefs,
		
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			way of life
		
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			as their friend,
		
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			the same path as their friend. So be
		
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			very, very careful
		
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			about whom you'll be friends. We also have
		
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			the example
		
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			of
		
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			Abu Dali, the dear uncle of the prophet
		
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			sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam, who helped him so much,
		
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			who helped the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
		
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			tremendously.
		
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			Right? Who protected him? He was a rock
		
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			for him essentially. Maybe uncle of the prophet
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, Abu Talib. Right? Great
		
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			man in terms of his contributions to protecting
		
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			the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam and helping
		
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			the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
		
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			Yet, on his deathbed,
		
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			the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam found out
		
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			that he was on his deathbed, that he
		
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			was likely going to
		
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			pass. The prophet
		
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			rushed there. And out of out of compassion,
		
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			out of love, out of mercy,
		
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			kindly encourage them just to say that, ilaha
		
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			illallah.
		
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			Right? To accept that Allah
		
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			is 1 and that he is the middle
		
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			of Allah. Few words that could have changed
		
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			his fate forever.
		
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			Subhanallah.
		
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			Prophet
		
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			told
		
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			us. Right? A person who says.
		
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			Right? So just a few words, you know,
		
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			something that he would just have to say
		
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			seemingly very simple, to change his
		
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			faith, you know, tremendous like, drastically
		
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			in the hereafter.
		
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			And so he pleaded with him.
		
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			You
		
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			know, please. So he pleaded with him. Oh,
		
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			my uncle.
		
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			You know? This is so but it was
		
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			the pressure
		
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			from his close friends.
		
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			It was pressure from his close friends.
		
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			Who? Abu Jahan. Those type of friends. Right?
		
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			Enemies of Islam that haunted him and alas
		
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			he didn't accept.
		
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			You know, that risk
		
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			of doing something which will, you know, which
		
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			will offend
		
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			the friends
		
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			and and and leave, you know, a a
		
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			a legacy of this betrayal of friendship
		
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			forever.
		
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			That is
		
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			what seemingly held back Abu Talib
		
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			from
		
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			reciting that,
		
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			and he died in that state without saying
		
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			that.
		
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			So a a a terribly, you know, sad
		
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			state of affairs, a sad end for someone
		
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			who had, you know, done so much and
		
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			had so much potential and was so close.
		
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			But because of that built relationship, because of
		
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			that friendship
		
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			mainly,
		
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			right, we find that
		
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			that acted as a barrier.
		
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			Now peer pressure, of course, can be positive
		
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			too. So if your friends, if your acquaintances,
		
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			if you have good company and they're doing
		
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			something positive,
		
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			you know, they're praying on time. They have
		
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			good manners. They're coming to the message. They're
		
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			staying away from trouble. And I've seen, you
		
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			know, young people love that. Now I've seen
		
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			I witnessed myself
		
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			bless, all of our youngsters, all of our
		
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			youth, protect
		
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			them all.
		
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			And you have seen, you know, young guys,
		
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			masha'Allah, who are, you know, they they vow
		
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			themselves.
		
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			That Saturday mornings, they're gonna come to the
		
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			masjid.
		
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			Saturday mornings, they're gonna come to the masjid
		
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			for Fajr. Now the group of youth are
		
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			coming to the masjid for Fajr
		
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			on Saturday. What does that mean? It means
		
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			that they're out of trouble on Friday night.
		
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			Otherwise, they will be coming to the masjid
		
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			for Fajr,
		
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			by themselves,
		
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			willingly wanting to come, and they wanted to
		
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			study something afterwards.
		
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			You know, I've seen I've seen young people
		
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			like that in university.
		
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			You know, I'm sure there's many other examples
		
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			as well. So if you make good friends,
		
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			if you find good company that can elevate
		
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			a person, you know, they've been friends who
		
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			came together in university, and they all decided
		
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			they're they after they graduate, they wanna go
		
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			study SNAP. And they all did that, masha'Allah.
		
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			You know? So and, of course,
		
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			you know, you can find numerous examples, boys
		
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			and girls as well. So if you find
		
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			you a good company and you you are
		
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			together, then that could be a great influence
		
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			as well-to-do
		
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			good things and to become a better person.
		
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			So point is that
		
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			if you have good friends,
		
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			either they'll give you something beneficial,
		
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			either they'll give you something beneficial
		
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			or you'll give something and they'll give you
		
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			something or at the very least, you're gonna
		
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			stay away from trouble.
		
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			Even if you don't gain much, at the
		
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			very least, you're gonna stay away from trouble.
		
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			And if you have bad friends, if you
		
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			have evil friends,
		
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			right, you will get burned one way or
		
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			the other.
		
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			And at the very least, your character,
		
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			your faith,
		
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			your intellect, your behavior, your attitude
		
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			will all look smell, will all look
		
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			and smell
		
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			and feel that.
		
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			Right? Because if you're around people who's, you
		
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			know, who stink, and I don't mean physically
		
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			any stink, you know, like, whose character is
		
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			bad, right, whose behavior is bad, then you're
		
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			gonna start thinking as well. Right? And same
		
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			thing goes online as well because, you know,
		
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			oftentimes we think of friends that are, any
		
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			that we have face to face contact with,
		
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			but even online friends. Right? If you are
		
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			around
		
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			bad people.
		
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			Right?
		
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			And your your friends are bad,
		
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			online,
		
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			you're following people who are into bad things,
		
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			then your news feed is gonna be filled
		
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			with bad things. Those are the alerts you're
		
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			gonna be getting. Those are the notifications you're
		
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			gonna be getting. You're gonna be seeing inappropriate
		
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			and dirty comments and material and pictures and
		
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			all types of things and thoughts, and that
		
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			is gonna influence you most likely. Right? They
		
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			will have an effect on you. So my
		
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			brothers and sisters,
		
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			a few things. So first of all, do
		
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			an audit of your friends.
		
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			Now are they helping you become better? Right?
		
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			Your friends and the people you're around, are
		
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			they helping you become better? Or are they
		
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			the types of friends that discourage you from
		
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			doing good things?
		
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			Right? Which type of people are you around?
		
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			Do you do they encourage you? Just simple
		
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			question to answer for yourself. Do they encourage
		
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			you to do good, or do they encourage
		
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			you to do bad? Right? Are they respectful
		
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			respectful of your beliefs or not?
		
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			Secondly, when you get together,
		
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			what do you do?
		
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			What are the things that you do? What
		
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			do you talk about?
		
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			Are the things that people don't wanna hear
		
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			about that, you know, you don't want people
		
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			to hear about? Are you doing things that,
		
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			you know, are you doing things and talking
		
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			about things that you don't want other people
		
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			to know about?
		
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			What are the things that they're involved in?
		
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			Right? Are these things that you're ashamed of
		
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			telling others, especially
		
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			for younger people, your parents, your teachers? Right?
		
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			Is it something that you're ashamed of that
		
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			you don't want people to find out about?
		
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			And I also think how can you encourage
		
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			your friends towards positive and good and clean
		
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			things? Because sometimes within a group of friends,
		
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			yes, maybe will someone will have a bad
		
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			idea. Someone will have an evil thought. No
		
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			one's perfect. Right? But it's the job of
		
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			good friends to help guide one another, to
		
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			help support one another, right, to the best
		
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			of their ability, to guide a person away
		
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			from making wrong choices.
		
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			Right, to try to help them make the
		
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			right choices.
		
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			In the end, the most important question is,
		
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			are you going to be happy
		
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			that you had these friends in this life
		
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			on the day of judgement,
		
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			Or are you going to regret and be
		
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			upset at them for all the trouble that
		
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			they got you into when you are around
		
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			them?
		
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			Right. On the day of judgment,
		
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			when you think of your friends on the
		
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			day of judgment, are you going to be
		
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			glad that they were your friends? Or are
		
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			you going to be biting your hand in
		
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			regret?
		
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			Yeah. Saying those type of words, regretting
		
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			that you had taken someone as your friends.
		
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			And for parents,
		
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			you know, of course, try to have good
		
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			company yourselves. Be on the lookout for changes
		
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			in behavior.
		
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			Right? Pay attention to the types of friends
		
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			that your child is hanging out with, and
		
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			be proactive before things get out of hand.
		
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			Right? Whatever steps need to be taken. If
		
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			something's not working,
		
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			you need to fix it. What's What's it
		
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			saying? If it's not broken, don't fix it.
		
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			Okay? If it's fine,
		
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			But if it's not working,
		
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			keeping status quo is not gonna help the
		
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			situation. Right? So whether it's changing schools, neighborhoods,
		
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			or your social circle, or whatever is possible,
		
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			all options need to be on the table.
		
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			Will Allah please bless us with good company
		
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			and surround us with good people.
		
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			Will Allah please protect us from evil company
		
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			and evil companions.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please beautify our conduct, our attitudes,
		
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			our beliefs with the beauty of iman.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please guide those who are on
		
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			the path of misguidance and harm.
		
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			Oh, Allah, our youth, our children,
		
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			adults, oh, Allah, whoever is on the path
		
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			of misguidance,
		
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			oh, Allah, please guide them to guidance, You
		
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			Rabbil Alameen. Oh, Allah, please cure all of
		
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			our brothers and sisters of all types of
		
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			illnesses, whether they are spiritual or physical or
		
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			mental, You Rabbil Alameen. Oh, Allah, please cure
		
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			all of our brothers and sisters who are
		
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			sick, who are physically sick, especially our elder
		
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			sister who are suffering from illness and pain,
		
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			our brother and sister who are suffering from
		
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			long term pain and injuries, all of those
		
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			who are ill or at risk of becoming
		
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			ill. Just heard about the mother of our
		
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			dear mother, Rahil, who is once again ill.
		
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			Oh, Allah, you are the protector and healer.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please grant them a speedy recovery,
		
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			You Rabbal Alameen. Oh, Allah, please protect them
		
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			and all of us from all types of
		
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			illnesses and pain and suffering, and grant them
		
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			a state of peace, Oh, Allah, please bring
		
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			relief to all of those who are in
		
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			pain, all of those who are in grief,
		
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			all of those who are facing stress and
		
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			anxiety.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please replace all of these worries
		
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			with happiness and peace and joy.
		
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			Brothers and sisters who are at home, please
		
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			go ahead and offer 4 o'clock, or
		
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			if you have registered for Friday prayer, please
		
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			come at your allotted time tonight. We'll be
		
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			having, family game night at 7:45 PM. Everyone
		
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			is welcome. Please do log on with your
		
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			families,
		
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			at 7:[email protected]/live.
		
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			You will be able to find the link
		
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			there. Look forward to, seeing you inshallah.