Sikander Hashmi – The Tragic Reality of Suicide KMA Friday Message

Sikander Hashmi
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The speaker discusses the increasing death toll in Canada due to COVID-19 and the high prevalence of suicidal thoughts and suicidal tendencies among Muslims. They emphasize the importance of suicidal thoughts and suicidal tendencies, as well as the potential link between medical conditions and these tendencies. The speakers also emphasize the need for men's rights to be respected and the potential consequences of suicides and suicidal thoughts. They stress the importance of avoiding suicidal thoughts and actively seeking help for people facing difficult situations.

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			Respected elders,
		
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			dear brothers and sisters,
		
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			my young friends,
		
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			We begin by praising Allah
		
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			the Lord of the universe,
		
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			our creator,
		
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			our sustainer,
		
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			our designer,
		
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			our nourisher,
		
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			our protector,
		
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			and we begin by sending peace and salutations
		
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			upon his beloved messenger, Mohammed, the son of
		
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			Abdullah. I pray for Allah
		
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			that you're all well by his mercy and
		
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			his grace.
		
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			I hope that school is going well for
		
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			my young friends
		
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			and that my,
		
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			brothers and sisters and my elders
		
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			are all safe and healthy by the mercy
		
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			of Allah
		
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			My brothers and sisters,
		
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			as we know,
		
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			autumn is here, fall is here, and as
		
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			I was coming here, I was noticing how
		
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			beautiful the leaves were looking.
		
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			And, you
		
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			know, we see
		
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			this beauty right before the end of the
		
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			season for the trees and the leaves.
		
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			So they are beautiful today,
		
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			more so than they were in the summer,
		
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			but soon we know that their end is
		
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			coming.
		
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			And similarly, for us as human beings as
		
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			well,
		
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			we know that our end has to come
		
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			one day. And today, I will be talking
		
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			about
		
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			a topic which is related to this, which
		
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			is important,
		
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			also which is somewhat disturbing,
		
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			but nonetheless, it is important that we talk
		
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			about this topic
		
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			because due to its nature, it is often
		
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			not talked about and not discussed at least
		
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			in our communities.
		
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			Now we know that there's a lot of
		
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			concern, first of all, regarding COVID 19
		
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			and the rising death toll. There have been
		
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			over 9,000
		
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			deaths in Canada attributed to this virus,
		
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			including a number of our brothers and sisters
		
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			in this country and in many other parts
		
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			of the world as well. We ask almighty
		
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			Allah to treat them,
		
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			to welcome them them as marchers, and to
		
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			grant them the best place in Jannah.
		
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			What we are talking about today, my brothers
		
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			and sisters,
		
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			is
		
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			not COVID 19, but the 9th leading cause
		
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			of death in Canada.
		
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			And we know
		
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			that most things that have to do with
		
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			us
		
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			are actually not in our control. You know,
		
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			as human beings, we like to believe
		
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			that we have control, that we have a
		
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			lot of control, and that we wanna continue
		
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			to increase our control
		
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			over matters, over things. But the reality is
		
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			that most things that have to do with
		
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			us or that impact us, we actually don't
		
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			have them in our control.
		
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			And that includes
		
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			when and where we were born. Right? Did
		
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			anyone ask you where you wanted to be
		
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			born or when you wanted to be born
		
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			or who your, you know, who you wanted
		
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			your parents to be? Of course not.
		
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			And among those things that we do not
		
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			control are also where and how we are
		
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			going to die. This is something that Allah
		
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			has
		
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			already decided for
		
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			us, but it is only in the knowledge
		
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			of Allah
		
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			and this is something that he has not
		
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			shared with his creation with his servants.
		
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			Now sadly and unfortunately,
		
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			there are numerous instances
		
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			where people, for one reason or another,
		
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			decide that they no longer want to live,
		
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			or they feel that they cannot continue with
		
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			life.
		
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			And as a result, they try to cause
		
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			their own death
		
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			instead of leaving it up to Allah
		
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			Now, of course, Allah
		
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			is the one who has decided
		
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			and who has ultimate control over this. Sometimes
		
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			a person tries to attempt to take their
		
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			life
		
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			and the decree of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			agrees with that choice or matches
		
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			and the person dies. But in many instances,
		
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			a person tries to take their own life,
		
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			but it does not match with the decision
		
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			or decree of Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala, and it is the decree of
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala which supersedes that person's
		
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			choice
		
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			or, you know, overcomes that person's choice and
		
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			that person does not end up dying. And
		
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			this happens almost every single day.
		
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			Now sadly, Muslims
		
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			are not immune from such thoughts and actions.
		
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			Many times we like to think that, you
		
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			know, these are,
		
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			problems that face, you know, certain societies and
		
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			that as Muslims who are believers in Islam
		
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			and the beautiful teachings of one as messenger
		
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			that, you know, we are immune from these
		
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			types of things and we don't have to
		
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			deal with them and they're not of concern
		
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			to us.
		
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			But my brothers and sisters, there was a
		
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			survey that was con
		
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			conducted in 2018.
		
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			This was done by Naseeha,
		
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			which is a mental health organization for Muslim
		
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			youth.
		
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			And out of a 162 youth surveyed,
		
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			62%
		
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			said that they had suicidal thoughts
		
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			and 19% had actually attempted to take their
		
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			own lives. We're talking about Muslim youth here
		
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			here in Canada, North America.
		
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			And these numbers
		
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			were higher for females than males.
		
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			70% of females having,
		
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			thoughts having suicidal thoughts compared to 40% of
		
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			males.
		
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			22% of females actually attempting to take their
		
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			own lives, attempting suicide
		
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			compared to 12% of males.
		
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			So what we saw was that these types
		
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			of thoughts existed in both young, males and
		
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			females,
		
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			but the numbers were higher for females.
		
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			And also, 87%
		
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			of those who had engaged in self harm
		
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			according to the survey, meaning who had hurt
		
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			themselves somehow,
		
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			rated religion as as important to very important.
		
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			So it was not that these were young
		
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			people who did not care about their religion
		
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			or who were, you know, completely distant from
		
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			their religion, but rather they felt that their
		
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			religion was important to them or very important.
		
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			Yet, they had still engaged in these types
		
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			of, they still have these types of thoughts
		
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			and they did still engage in these types
		
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			of behaviors.
		
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			Now overall, in Canada, the numbers are actually
		
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			quite shocking.
		
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			Males
		
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			account for over 70% of suicides from age
		
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			15 onward.
		
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			And the highest suicide rate across lifespan,
		
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			according to Statistics Canada, observed
		
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			is observed amongst males 45 to 59 years
		
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			old. But, subhanallah, the the numbers there are
		
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			huge in terms of, you know, it being
		
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			the leading cause of death,
		
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			for,
		
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			for young people,
		
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			for young males, you know,
		
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			all the way through to, or, you know,
		
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			one of the leading causes of death
		
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			all the way, up to, like, you know,
		
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			age, 45. So
		
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			or even higher than that. So I mean,
		
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			it's, it's something that is a widespread phenomenon,
		
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			unfortunately.
		
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			You know, 10 to 11 people a day
		
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			in Canada,
		
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			who died due to suicide.
		
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			Women are actually more likely to try to
		
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			take their own lives,
		
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			perhaps even 3 to 4 times more likely,
		
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			but men are more likely to die from
		
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			it.
		
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			So the point there is that both have
		
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			those types of thoughts. Women probably have more,
		
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			they have more attempts, but for some reason,
		
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			and there's and the researchers have talked about
		
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			why this may be the case, but men
		
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			are more likely to actually,
		
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			die from it. So when you see the
		
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			numbers that say that, you know, it's very
		
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			high for men, it doesn't necessarily, you know,
		
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			it doesn't mean that women are not thinking
		
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			about it or not attempting it. It's just
		
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			that men are more successful,
		
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			unfortunately, in in committing this act. Now September
		
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			is suicide prevention awareness month
		
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			and it is important for us to discuss
		
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			this topic openly.
		
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			So we know that, you know, it is
		
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			a serious issue that impacts both males and
		
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			females.
		
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			Although men are more successful in carrying it
		
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			through and therefore are ultimately,
		
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			impacted,
		
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			in in a greater way.
		
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			My brothers and sisters, this is an issue
		
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			that has been addressed in the Quran and
		
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			the sunnah of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
		
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			Allah
		
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			says in the Quran,
		
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			Quran.
		
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			Says and do not kill and
		
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			is translated understood in both ways. That do
		
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			not kill each other, that we collectively don't
		
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			kill each other,
		
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			but also
		
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			don't kill yourselves.
		
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			Allah says, surely Allah is ever merciful
		
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			to you.
		
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			And, the prophet
		
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			has also told us, in there are numerous
		
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			hadith.
		
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			So for
		
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			example,
		
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			that whoever kills himself with something
		
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			in this world will be punished with it
		
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			on the day of judgment.
		
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			And
		
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			said that the messenger of Allah said
		
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			that that a man among those who came
		
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			before you was wounded.
		
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			He panicked. And what did he do? He
		
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			took a knife,
		
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			and he cut his hand.
		
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			And the bleeding did not stop until he
		
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			died.
		
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			Allah
		
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			said, my slave hastened his death.
		
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			I have forbidden paradise
		
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			unto him. Allah
		
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			protect us. Now the prophet
		
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			refrained from offering the janaza prayer. Right? The
		
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			funeral prayer. And that's a big thing because,
		
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			you know, when the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
		
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			is around, of course, everyone would want him
		
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			to be,
		
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			to have his dua, to have him, lead
		
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			the prayer, to participate in their funeral prayer,
		
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			their final rights. But the prophet refrained from
		
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			offering the funeral prayer for the one who
		
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			had committed suicide.
		
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			But it was permitted for others to offer
		
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			it. So it's not like the the janazah
		
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			prayer was not offered, but the prophet sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wasallam refrained from leading and participating in
		
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			the janazah.
		
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			Now it is important here to note
		
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			that there are, you know, certain mental illnesses
		
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			that can lead to such thoughts, such as
		
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			major or clinical depression,
		
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			post traumatic stress disorder, bipolar disorder, and, of
		
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			course, you know, certain type of medications as
		
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			well, antidepressants that can initially,
		
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			you know, or at sometimes cause,
		
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			you know, suicidal thoughts, or, you know, cause
		
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			that has a side effect.
		
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			So medical conditions can also be linked to
		
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			depression and suicidal thinking
		
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			such as chronic disease or chronic pain, terminal
		
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			illness. This is what the doctors and the
		
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			research tell us. Now if a person, you
		
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			know, commits it
		
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			and they were mentally ill or they were
		
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			truly in severe difficulty,
		
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			then they would have still committed a sin,
		
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			but we hope for Allah's mercy and forgiveness
		
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			for them. We make the ad that Allah
		
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			deals with them with compassion and mercy and
		
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			forgiveness
		
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			due to the circumstances
		
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			they were in. And at the end of
		
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			the day, Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, has most
		
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			just Allah does
		
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			never, wrongs,
		
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			or, or commit suppression against any of his
		
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			servants.
		
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			Now while it is a major sin,
		
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			it is not suicide is not an act
		
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			of disbelief.
		
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			So if a person who due to their
		
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			circumstances or or their their wrong choices or
		
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			whatever the case may be, ends up, you
		
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			know, committing suicide, it does not mean that
		
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			they have committed an act of foot for
		
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			it or that they have left the full
		
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			of the stamp. This is an incorrect belief,
		
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			that seems to be around.
		
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			Now suicidal quants have many causes. You know,
		
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			most often,
		
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			they are the result of feeling. Like, you
		
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			can't cope
		
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			when you're faced with what seems to be
		
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			an overwhelming life situation.
		
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			Now a multitude of problems or a a
		
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			challenge, a struggle which is so great,
		
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			and and a person, it feels like they
		
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			they cannot cope with it. They just don't
		
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			know how to how to deal with it
		
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			or how to process it. And
		
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			they may be feeling that there's no hope
		
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			or there is no way out or perhaps
		
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			they are feeling worthless. Perhaps something has happened
		
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			and they are feeling, you know, so so
		
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			down and so worthless. So they're feeling that
		
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			they're not good enough.
		
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			Perhaps feeling lonely or maybe fearing consequences
		
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			or embarrassment.
		
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			So there could be multitude of reasons or
		
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			thoughts that can sort of lead a person,
		
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			in that direction.
		
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			And, ultimately, you know what it is, that
		
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			if you, you know, if if a person
		
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			doesn't have hope for the future,
		
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			they may be inclined to give up
		
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			and, you know, they may mistakenly think
		
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			that taking their own lives, that committing suicide
		
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			is a solution.
		
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			Right? Because there's no hope and there's no
		
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			way out and and and they can't take
		
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			it anymore and they're giving up and they
		
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			want to get out of that situation.
		
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			So death is seen as a solution
		
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			and, of course, which is it is not.
		
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			You know, a person may experience a sort
		
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			of tunnel vision where in the middle of
		
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			a crisis, like, it's like a person who's
		
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			in the right in the middle of a
		
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			storm,
		
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			and,
		
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			you know, they believe that taking their own
		
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			life is the only way out and the
		
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			reality is is that there's always something that
		
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			can be done. As Sayna Yaqub alaihi salam
		
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			told his sons,
		
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			and do not lose hope in the mercy
		
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			of Allah. No matter how, you know, sad
		
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			or depressing or difficult the situation may be,
		
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			we should always have hope in Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala, in the mercy of Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala, and this is what we learn.
		
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			And we have, you know, multitude of stories
		
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			of inspiration,
		
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			where people turn to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			in the depths of hardship
		
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			and difficulty and help of Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala came. Now doctors say that there may
		
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			also be a genetic link to suicide. So
		
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			people who,
		
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			who complete suicide or who have suicidal thoughts
		
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			or behaviors are, according to doctors, likely to
		
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			have a family history of such behavior as
		
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			well. So that is also a possibility. Now
		
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			whatever the cause,
		
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			it is important to always remember, always to
		
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			remind ourselves
		
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			that, you know, ending life is never the
		
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			solution to a problem.
		
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			It is never the solution to a problem.
		
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			In fact, it might actually end up being
		
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			the beginning
		
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			of much greater problems. So a person is
		
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			facing challenges, and it's not to say that
		
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			their challenges are not great. It's not to
		
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			diminish the severity of their struggle or challenges.
		
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			But a person may be thinking thinking
		
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			that, you know, if they, they can escape
		
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			their, you know, their problems, their situation through
		
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			death, but in reality,
		
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			they're causing their own death. But in reality,
		
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			that may just be the beginning of even
		
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			greater problems. And perhaps, you know, this is
		
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			one of the reasons why Allah
		
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			made it harm. Right? To protect us from
		
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			the consequences of suicide in the afterlife.
		
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			Right? So by by Allah making it haram
		
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			and the prophet
		
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			giving these severe warnings, it's really to be
		
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			a deterrent to us that, you know, don't
		
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			contemplate this. Don't go down this road because
		
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			if you do, then you actually won't be
		
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			getting out of your out of your problems,
		
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			but you will be creating greater problems for
		
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			yourself in the afterlife. Allah
		
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			knows best. But, nonetheless, if a person has
		
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			such thoughts,
		
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			it does not make them a bad person.
		
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			If a person has such thoughts, it doesn't
		
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			make them a bad person. It just means
		
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			that they really need help.
		
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			A person who struggles with such thoughts, it
		
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			doesn't mean that they are a bad Muslim
		
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			or a bad person. Right? A person
		
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			may be someone may be a person of
		
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			faith
		
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			who is faced with such great struggles and
		
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			emotional pain
		
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			and trauma that it overwhelms
		
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			everything that they have learned from their faith
		
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			and that they believe in. Right? It's possible
		
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			that in the in the thick of crisis,
		
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			right, they are suddenly overwhelmed in such a
		
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			great way that, you know, everything that they
		
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			know and they believe in, they'll say it
		
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			too. At that point, in that pain, in
		
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			that in in that moment of difficulty,
		
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			you know, everything else, may just become covered.
		
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			Right, by that by by the the stress
		
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			and and the the the the severity of
		
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			that that challenge and that struggle. And, of
		
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			course, it'll be even harder for those who
		
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			have no faith.
		
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			Right? People who have no faith and no
		
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			no,
		
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			you know, structure to deal with problems and
		
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			challenges
		
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			spiritually and mentally,
		
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			it can even be harder for them. Right?
		
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			So, ideally, it shouldn't happen, but it can
		
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			happen. Right? It can happen really to anyone.
		
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			Now a person can feel overloaded
		
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			to the point of wanting to quit life
		
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			when problems start piling 1, you know, piling
		
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			up one after the other.
		
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			Okay? So,
		
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			you know, you become overloaded and just wanna
		
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			quit. And, you know, a lot of times
		
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			that's what we do in life. Right? I
		
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			mean, you know, a person, you know, they
		
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			not able to cope with their studies. It's
		
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			just too much burden. Okay. They'll they'll quit
		
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			school. Shouldn't do that, but I'm saying, you
		
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			know, that's what happens. You don't like your
		
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			job, too many problems, okay, you wind up
		
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			quitting.
		
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			You know, something's not working out, we quit.
		
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			We're playing a game, you know, don't wanna
		
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			continue,
		
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			you know, you're doing really bad, you quit.
		
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			Restart. But you can't, you know that's not
		
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			an approach that we can apply to life.
		
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			Right? But sometimes that is the thought process
		
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			when a person is feeling overloaded. You wanna
		
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			quit life when there are too many problems
		
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			that are, that are priming up. Now there
		
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			is a concern, I have to say, amongst
		
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			mental health professionals
		
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			that the situation that we're living in right
		
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			now, this pandemic,
		
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			may actually lead to an increase in suicides
		
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			as well
		
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			because,
		
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			know, there are many people who are sadly
		
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			and fortunately losing work, losing their businesses especially.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Losing their homes as a result, losing their
		
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			investments and the the things that they have
		
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			built up over time.
		
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			And this is on top
		
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			of other, you know, everyday problems or other
		
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			problems that people face everyday, you know, that
		
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			have to do with debts or, you know,
		
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			family problems, broken
		
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			relationships, divorces, you know, lack of access,
		
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			to children, especially for fathers. This can be
		
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			a big one, You know, abuse, addictions, you
		
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			know, just to name a few of a
		
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			few. So the situation that we find ourselves
		
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			in right now is on top of all
		
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			the existing, you know, problems and struggles and
		
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			challenges that have already been there.
		
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			So that's why there is big concern especially
		
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			at this time amongst, medical experts. Now it
		
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			can also be let's face it. It can
		
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			also be whispers from Shaitan because, of course,
		
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			Shaitan loves to inspire us
		
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			to do that which displeases Allah
		
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			Right? What does Shaitan love to do? Shaitan
		
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			loves to inspire us
		
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			to do things which are displeasing to Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Right? That's his mission. Right?
		
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			That's what he's adopted as his mission. So
		
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			he's always gonna be trying to get us
		
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			to do things
		
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			which Allah has forbidden, which are bad for
		
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			us, which are harmful for us, which are
		
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			displeasing to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Right? So
		
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			many times, they could this this could be
		
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			a major factor,
		
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			as well. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect
		
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			us
		
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			and our loved ones, our community members, all
		
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			people from all forms of evils and trials.
		
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			May Allah
		
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			grant us all belief and strength.
		
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			Now hopelessness
		
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			and despair. Right? So when a person feels
		
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			hopeless
		
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			and desperation, they're they're they're they're
		
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			feeling hopeless and and and desperate, they're in
		
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			despair, it can lead to thoughts of giving
		
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			up.
		
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			But the reality is that this dunya is
		
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			a place
		
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			of tests
		
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			and trials.
		
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			Each person is tested in their own way.
		
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			And on the day of judgment, each person
		
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			will be judged in proportion to what they
		
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			were faced with in this world.
		
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			Each person
		
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			will be judged with, will be dealt with
		
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			in a manner that is in proportion to
		
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			what they face in this world. For those
		
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			who are blessed in this world
		
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			and who hardly faced hardships.
		
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			Right? And there are people like that. Has
		
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			blessed them. Right? Regardless of who they are,
		
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			Muslims or not, it doesn't matter. Has blessed
		
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			them.
		
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			And, they hardly face any hardships,
		
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			right, then they will likely be judged more
		
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			harshly.
		
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			And those who have lived with hardships and
		
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			struggles
		
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			will likely be shown
		
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			ease or dealt with with ease by Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. At the end, Allah Subhanahu
		
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			Wa Ta'ala is the judge and Allah knows
		
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			best. But we got an indication
		
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			because the prophet told
		
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			us that he shall gather on the day
		
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			of judgment,
		
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			and it will be asked,
		
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			where are the poor and the destitute of
		
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			this nation?
		
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			Where are the poor and the destitute of
		
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			this nation? And they shall stand up, and
		
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			they will be asked,
		
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			what did you do in this worldly in
		
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			the worldly life?
		
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			And they shall reply,
		
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			you rob, our lord,
		
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			you tested us,
		
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			yeah, and we bore it patiently.
		
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			Our lord, you tested us,
		
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			and we bore it patiently
		
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			when others were given wealth and power.
		
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			What was happening to others? They were given
		
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			wealth and power, but we bore,
		
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			your test patiently,
		
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			and Allah
		
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			will say that you have spoken the truth,
		
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			so they shall enter Jannah, enter paradise before
		
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			the others.
		
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			And those who are endowed with wealth and
		
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			power
		
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			will receive
		
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			a severe reckoning. What's the word? Those who
		
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			are endowed with,
		
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			blessed with wealth and power will receive
		
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			a severe
		
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			reckoning. So Allah
		
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			will deal with people. What we learned, the
		
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			indication is Allah will deal with people according
		
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			to
		
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			how what they were given in this life
		
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			and the circumstances that they faced during their
		
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			lives. So my brothers and sisters, giving up
		
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			is not a real option. And in fact,
		
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			as someone beautifully said,
		
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			recently in a session that I was, in,
		
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			that it is a permanent solution
		
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			to a temporary problem.
		
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			What is suicide?
		
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			It is a permanent solution
		
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			to a temporary problem. It's not really any
		
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			it's not exactly a solution, but it's it's
		
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			a it's a permanent app to deal with
		
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			a temporary problem. And every problem is temporary
		
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			either in this world, so either a problem
		
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			will go away in this world.
		
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			And even if it is permanent in this
		
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			world, it is not permanent in the hereafter.
		
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			A person who is living with the struggle
		
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			in this world,
		
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			that struggle will not continue, will not transfer
		
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			into the hereafter.
		
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			Right? The problems and the trials of this
		
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			world are for this world.
		
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			And now I know this is easier said
		
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			than done, but the reality is that Allah
		
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			has
		
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			given us each
		
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			strength
		
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			to bear with whatever he test us
		
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			with. Right? When we go through a struggle
		
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			and a challenge and we feel like, you
		
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			know, we we can't deal with it, we
		
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			can't cope with it, know that you have
		
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			the strength
		
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			and you can find that strength.
		
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			Right? It is inside of you. It is
		
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			there, but perhaps it's a matter of, you
		
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			know, talking to someone who can help you
		
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			harness that strength. Somebody who can help you
		
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			think differently or approach your challenges in in
		
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			in a perhaps a different way, who can
		
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			help you, cope with that situation.
		
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			And and about, you know, digging deep inside
		
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			of us ourselves and finding that
		
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			strength. Now Allah
		
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			has also created us for a reason and
		
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			a purpose.
		
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			Every single one of us has a purpose.
		
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			Allah does not create anything without purpose in
		
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			vain. So every single one of us has
		
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			a purpose, a noble purpose,
		
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			a noble reason for which Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala has created us and it is for
		
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			us to try to find that purpose and
		
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			to live that purpose.
		
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			And when we are faced with problems, you
		
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			know, remind yourselves that this too shall pass
		
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			as was famed famously said. And as Allah
		
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			tells us,
		
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			right, that with indeed with hardship come ease.
		
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			Right? And you may not be able to
		
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			see it now or you may not be
		
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			able to see how, but believe that it
		
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			will pass and there will be ease, Insha'Allah.
		
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			So always you know, there's always reason to
		
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			have hope,
		
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			and not to give up. Now Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala does not demand perfection from us.
		
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			Sometimes we are in this mistaken,
		
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			belief that we are required to be perfect.
		
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			And if we are not perfect in anything
		
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			that we do, then that means that there
		
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			is something wrong with us and that we
		
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			have to, that, you know, that we are
		
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			failures and that, you know, we we are
		
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			not good for anything. Right? That's not the
		
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			case because Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala does not
		
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			even demand perfection from us because Allah has
		
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			created us and he knows that he has
		
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			created us
		
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			as imperfect beings in terms of our actions.
		
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			Allah has created us perfectly, designed us perfectly,
		
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			but we, in our actions,
		
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			are imperfect beings.
		
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			So our job is, you know, try your
		
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			reasonable best
		
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			sincerely
		
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			and keep seeking his assistance and mercy and
		
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			forgiveness.
		
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			And, misha'Allah, the help will come
		
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			when Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala decides. Right? But
		
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			feeling down and feeling that I'm not good
		
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			for anything, even in deen, sometimes it happens
		
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			in religion. Person feels that there's all this
		
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			required and I'm not able to do it.
		
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			I'm good for nothing, and it starts, you
		
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			know, going down. Right? But Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala does not expect perfection. Right? He expects
		
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			you to try your best, your reasonable best,
		
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			and turn to him in humility and with
		
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			sincerity,
		
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			seeking his mercy and forgiveness. But it is
		
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			possible, my brothers and sisters, that a person
		
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			still feels that there is no way out,
		
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			that still has a calamity that is so
		
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			used that they're they're just not able to
		
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			process it.
		
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			And they feel like, you know, they they
		
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			they want to leave this zinnia. They wanna
		
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			leave this world because they can no longer
		
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			handle it. So the prophet
		
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			has addressed that because he said,
		
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			that none of you should wish for death
		
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			due to a calamity that has afflicted him.
		
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			That yet if he must do something. Okay?
		
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			So first of all, you should not wish
		
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			for death because of circumstances that you're facing.
		
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			However, if you feel like you must do
		
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			something and there's nothing that you can do
		
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			and you feel like there's no way out,
		
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			you need to do something about it.
		
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			Let him say,
		
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			oh, make this dua that, oh, Allah, keep
		
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			me alive for as long as life
		
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			so long as life is good for me.
		
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			And cause me to die if death is
		
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			better for me. K. So perhaps a person
		
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			thinks that it is better for them to
		
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			die, but maybe it's not. Maybe it will,
		
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			you know, be the source of,
		
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			more hardships and perhaps, you know, if they
		
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			were continuing to to live,
		
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			Allah
		
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			will bless them in some way or they
		
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			will do an act for which, you know,
		
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			that that will be good for them, in
		
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			in the long run. So, you know, never
		
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			assume what is good for you. Ask Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			Also important to reconsider
		
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			how it is also important to reconsider how
		
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			we treat others.
		
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			And so right now, we've been talking about
		
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			people who are struggling, you know, who are
		
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			struggling with such thoughts, struggling with problems and
		
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			challenges. It's also important to reconsider how we
		
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			treat others,
		
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			you know, because sometimes we get into disputes,
		
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			we get into arguments, we get into situations.
		
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			Pushing a person to the point of emotional
		
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			overload can be very dangerous.
		
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			Right? You know, it can be difficult, but
		
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			when you are having a dispute, a struggle,
		
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			a challenge, whether it's family, you know, spouse,
		
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			child, youth, whoever it is, parents try to
		
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			be balanced in criticism and disagreement.
		
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			Right? And especially especially important for spouses and
		
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			parents. Don't put so much pressure on a
		
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			spouse or a child that they give up
		
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			permanently,
		
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			that they feel like there is no hope
		
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			and they just decide to give up.
		
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			And if you feel such thoughts or you
		
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			know someone who is contemplating such actions, such
		
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			as anger doing their lives, then you need
		
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			to get help and know that help is
		
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			available.
		
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			Right? There are people you can talk to,
		
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			and it's not shameful
		
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			to seek help. You know, one of the
		
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			theories why rates are so high and suicide
		
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			rates are so high for men is because
		
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			of the theory is toxic masculinity,
		
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			which prevents
		
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			or, you know, looks at seeking help as
		
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			being shameful.
		
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			Right? So men generally, you know, that is
		
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			seen do not wanna seek help. Right? Because
		
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			they see that it has been something shameful.
		
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			And the reality is that it's not shameful
		
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			to seek help. It's not shameful to go
		
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			to someone that you trust or that you
		
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			can trust and tell them that, you know,
		
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			you are having a struggle and you really
		
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			don't know how to deal with the situation.
		
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			Now sometimes even talking talking it out instead
		
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			of bottling up inside, just talking to someone
		
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			can actually help a person feel better and
		
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			think clearly.
		
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			Now it is not always possible to fully
		
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			resolve
		
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			another person's challenges or problems.
		
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			Right? Sometimes you will be faced with your
		
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			friends, family members, and they're facing such challenges
		
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			and struggles
		
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			that you're not able to resolve it. There
		
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			you know, you, yourself, can't even find, you
		
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			know, a way out.
		
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			But perhaps, you know, we can give that
		
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			person some time. Perhaps we can give them
		
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			some words of encouragement.
		
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			You know, perhaps we can share some, you
		
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			know, show some care and kindness,
		
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			to that person and, of course, give them
		
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			dua and even a smile. Right? Like, all
		
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			of these things can help you know, they
		
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			seem like they're small, but they can help
		
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			bring light to a person who is struggling
		
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			and give them hope and help them get
		
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			through just one more day.
		
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			Right? I've heard this firsthand from people.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So don't underestimate the the the impact of
		
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			positivity,
		
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			the impact of goodness and kindness,
		
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			because you may actually be helping, you know,
		
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			a a person,
		
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			you know, not to go to to that
		
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			extent where they end up taking their own
		
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			lives or doing something drastic. As the prophet
		
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			said,
		
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			Right? That do not belittle any good deed.
		
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			Even your meeting your brother with a cheerful
		
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			face.
		
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			Right? Simple things can can make a difference
		
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			in a person's life. You may think it's
		
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			not a big a big deal, but, you
		
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			know,
		
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			somebody is feeling really depressed, feeling really down.
		
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			They're having some subtle thoughts, and then, you
		
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			know, they go somewhere and someone opens the
		
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			door for them and says good morning.
		
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			That's it. You know, we come here. Somebody
		
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			says salam and just ask them how are
		
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			they doing and spend the moment with them.
		
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			Give someone a smile. Said that it's, you
		
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			know, it's nice to see you. Oh, I've
		
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			been missing you. You know, little things can
		
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			actually help a person, you know, can completely
		
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			change their outlook.
		
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			Maybe not permanently, but at least temporarily for
		
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			that day and help them through their struggle.
		
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			Now if someone you know is talking about
		
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			they're taking their whole life
		
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			and they have the means and they have
		
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			a plan to do so, because it's not
		
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			just talk, like, you know, they have the
		
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			means, they've planned it out,
		
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			and they're, you know, they're they're they're, like,
		
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			you know, in in
		
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			they're, you know, very much ahead in terms
		
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			of, planning to have it planned out, then
		
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			it's time to get them professional help. Right?
		
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			Either, you know, take them to a hospital,
		
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			call the suicide hotline, you know, call the
		
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			ambulance, you do something. If you feel like
		
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			someone is really at the cusp of of
		
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			committing that act, then it's it's it's really,
		
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			really important then to get them help.
		
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			And generally, when dealing with someone, you know,
		
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			who is in this situation, tell them that
		
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			you care about them. You know, don't be
		
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			judgmental and don't try to scare them. You
		
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			know, a lot of times we try to
		
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			help them, we do the opposite.
		
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			Like, oh, why are you feeling like this?
		
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			Oh, you have so much to be very
		
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			grateful for.
		
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			You know,
		
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			you shouldn't be thinking this way and actually,
		
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			you know, you're trying to make them feel
		
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			better but in in in effect, you actually
		
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			make them feel worse. Okay? So don't be
		
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			judgmental. Don't try to scare them,
		
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			and make them feel bad, but instead try
		
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			to be supportive.
		
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			Now tell them that you, others, their family
		
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			members, you know, need them to be around.
		
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			Continue to make dua for them and tell
		
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			them that. Right? Tell them I'm making dua
		
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			for you, and keep checking in with them
		
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			as much as possible. Ask Allah
		
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			to grant ease and relief, to everyone who
		
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			is struggling with any types of challenges.
		
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			Oh, Allah, we thank you and we praise
		
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			you for all of your blessings.
		
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			Oh, Allah, we thank you for the ease
		
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			and the comfort that you have blessed us
		
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			with.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please grant relief to all of
		
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			those who are experiencing distress,
		
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			anxiety,
		
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			grief, and depression, and any other type of
		
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			suffering. Oh, Allah, please grant them relief and
		
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			grant replace
		
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			their their their feelings with happiness and easy
		
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			and peace.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please remove the trials and hardships
		
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			from the lives of all of our brothers
		
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			and sisters.
		
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			Oh, Allah, whether they're in our families, our
		
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			friends, or Allah, our social circle, our community,
		
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			or anywhere around the world. Oh, Allah, please
		
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			remove all of the trials and hardships.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please grant them strength to succeed.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please grant them and all of
		
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			us
		
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			to succeed through all else that have been
		
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			decided,
		
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			for us and for them. Oh,
		
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			Allah, please protect our children. Oh, Allah, please
		
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			protect our youth from all types of evils
		
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			and harms.
		
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			Oh, Allah, especially during this pandemic, please protect
		
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			our children, our youth, our teachers, all of
		
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			those who work in schools, all of those
		
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			who are working in the hospitals, frontline workers,
		
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			and all of us from all types of
		
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			harms and hardships.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please envelope us in your unseen
		
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			protection.
		
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			Oh, Oh, Allah, please cure all of those
		
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			who are ill, who are facing hardship and
		
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			struggles with regards to their health. Oh, Allah,
		
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			our elder sister who is in pain and
		
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			weakness. Oh, Allah, our brother and sister who
		
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			are living with long term pain and injuries
		
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			and struggles. Oh, Allah, our brother and sister
		
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			who have recently had major surgeries. Our elder
		
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			pioneers in the city, in our communities who
		
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			are ill or suffering from cancer and other
		
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			illnesses, oh, Allah, all of those who are
		
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			ill, who are injured, oh, Allah, you are
		
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			the cure and the healer. Oh, Allah, please
		
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			grant them all a speedy and complete recovery
		
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			and back in health.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please grant relief to all of
		
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			our brothers and sisters all around the world,
		
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			especially those who have, you know, who have
		
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			suffered or suffering from, through recent tragedies,
		
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			such as in Lebanon, in Sudan, in Pakistan,
		
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			and many other places. Allah, please remove their
		
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			pain and repair their losses.
		
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			Those who are registered for, Friday prayers, please
		
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			come. That's your allotted.