Shafayat Mohamed – Be GOOD to BAD Relatives

Shafayat Mohamed
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The importance of good relationships in Arabic is emphasized, including the concept of good deeds and the concept of good family ties. Personal development is also emphasized, including learning and practicing. The speaker emphasizes the need to live in a secure, locally isolated community, avoid making the wrong choice, and not commit sin by their tongue. The topic of shake Talk is also discussed, with a focus on avoiding activities that stress family ties and not making the intention that their reason for living is to be away from family and friends.

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			You know, in Arabic, there's a
word was ALLAH, wow, sword Lam,
		
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			which means connection,
relationship,
		
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			bond, and whatever you want to put
with that.
		
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			So when the Prophet sallallahu,
Sallam had spoken to his
		
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			companions about keeping that good
relationship with your relatives,
		
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			he ended up saying
		
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			that good relationship with your
relatives
		
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			does not mean reciprocating good
deeds to your relatives.
		
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			You follow brother Dula. Good
relationship with your relatives
		
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			does not mean reciprocating good
		
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			deeds to your relatives, meaning
you got a relative. They do good
		
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			deed to you, so you do back good
deed to them. He said, No, that
		
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			doesn't mean that interesting.
		
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			Yeah,
		
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			he said. It does not mean that.
		
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			He said, but this was in Arabic.
Go, check it out. Go check the
		
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			Quran Hadith. He says this
relationship that he speaks about
		
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			means relatives that are not good
to you.
		
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			What does it mean, Mister Siddiq,
		
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			relatives that are not good to
you.
		
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			For you to be good to them, that
is what he means.
		
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			Isn't that deep.
		
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			And what do you hear nowadays?
		
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			I don't have anything to do. I,
you know, sometimes I meet people.
		
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			I say, I met your uncle. Say,
uncle? What am I? That's my
		
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			father, brother. That's not my
family. That's not my relative.
		
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			I'm like, What? What are we
saying? My brothers and sisters,
		
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			you know, many a times I remind
myself, and it's very unfortunate
		
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			the time,
		
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			you know, very short. But anyhow,
		
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			many a times I remind myself and I
remind people.
		
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			And
		
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			on the topic of today, a lot of us
read the Quran,
		
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			right? We learn it, we recite it,
we read it, we teach it, but we
		
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			don't live it.
		
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			We read it, we teach it, but we
don't live it. And if we go into
		
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			this Quran,
		
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			we will see how much the Quran
speaks about this relationship
		
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			with your relatives.
		
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			Remember, I always remind myself,
		
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			and I remind our viewers on Al
hikma, TV and social media
		
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			worldwide.
		
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			Islam is not only about salah,
zakat, fasting and Hajj. These are
		
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			just the pillars the entire house.
We gotta live
		
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			what the house?
		
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			Go check the Quran. And we want to
stick a little bit to this topic
		
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			on that relationship, because this
is a disaster in the world today.
		
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			A lot of us think we so very
pious. We've performed hutchin
		
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			times. We fast 30 days in Ramadan.
Oh, we give charity, and we are
		
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			Wow.
		
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			But we have broken major laws of
the Quran, this law of family ties
		
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			and relatives, not just husband
and wife and children. No, no,
		
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			but in the second hood. But
because if I get off with the
		
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			details with it, we will run late,
so in the second hood. But I want
		
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			to remind myself
		
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			and remind you my brothers and
sisters on the Quranic and the sun
		
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			teachings of that relationship
with our relatives.
		
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			We really in the world today
believe that it's only our wife
		
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			and our children or our husband
and children. Islam goes beyond
		
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			that,
		
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			and Islam may be the only way of
life in the world that stresses
		
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			the importance of that,
		
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			that stresses what the importance
of that
		
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			before we get into the second
khutbah. I
		
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			want to recite a verse from the
Quran all maybe,
		
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			if not, 99%
		
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			of the sheiks
		
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			of the scholars
		
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			of the Imams on Friday.
		
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			Days you hear them telling you
bismillahiromani Rahim, a verse
		
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			from the Quran taken from surana.
		
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			Chapter 16 verse 90. Chapter 16
verse 90. We always hear this
		
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			verse. What verse do we hear
		
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			in in Allah,
		
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			evil?
		
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			The yellow verse every week. You
know what that means.
		
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			Chapter 16, verse 19, that Allah
has commanded. Allah has commanded
		
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			that you be just
		
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			in Allah Ali commanded, you know,
he's commanded.
		
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			Allah has commanded. He has
ordered
		
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			that we be just. Yeah, and then he
goes on to say, well, Adley
		
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			walesan, be just, and we be good.
		
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			Good actions, good ways, good
manners, good relationship with
		
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			people.
		
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			And then he goes on to say, waita,
evil kurba,
		
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			and you be good to the people who
are near.
		
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			You know the word Arabic uses
qurba, three
		
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			means, near be good to the people,
your family and relatives, who are
		
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			near to you. You know, what's the
difference today,
		
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			instead of we be near to those who
are near, we are far from those
		
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			who are near.
		
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			Where? What? In Arabic, we say
barid,
		
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			barred min al Kareem. We are far
from those who are supposed to be
		
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			near.
		
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			Maybe that's why a lot of people
go and live in isolation.
		
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			And I have to use brother Azad
place. What's it called? Pembroke
		
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			Pines? What?
		
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			Yeah, we all chew. You ask
everybody nowadays, they want to
		
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			go isolate themselves. They want
to live by themselves. They want
		
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			to live far by far from their
relatives, far from their family
		
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			members. Now, listen, listen,
listen. I don't want you guys feel
		
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			offended, because it's almost
everybody live like that. You
		
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			understand brother Salvador, but
don't say it. Don't commit sin by
		
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			your tongue. Don't make the wrong
intention. Say you want to live
		
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			comfortable, say you want to live
in a nice locality. Say you want
		
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			to live in a secure what you call
		
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			it community, right? Brother,
community. I have to use you
		
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			because, I mean, you're the first
person sitting in front here.
		
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			Say you want to live in a secured
community. Say you want to live in
		
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			a nice community, but don't say
you want to live away from people.
		
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			You really making a wrong
statement. You are saying you want
		
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			to live barred min al Kareem. You
want to live far from the people.
		
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			Allah says you should be near to
		
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			but you answer to a life. That's
your intention,
		
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			right? Brother, shamiana, you all
now you don't live in a Okay,
		
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			okay.
		
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			Like to pick on our boys here. You
know what I mean? These are boys
		
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			here.
		
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			Don't say it. Make the halal
intention. Yeah, you could go live
		
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			by yourself. Ah, and you know,
nothing is wrong geographically
		
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			speaking,
		
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			if we have to go and live in
different areas and places. So
		
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			don't say, I'm telling you, don't
say. Shake shaphard said, don't
		
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			live in in in communities and
close communities and gated
		
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			community. I'm not saying that.
		
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			I'm saying don't make the
intention that your reason for
		
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			living there is to be away from
your relatives and family.
		
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			Because Islam, the Quran right,
Maulana refers, you need to tell
		
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			them allanas That, eh, Islam calls
these people. Kharib
		
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			Allah called them Kareem.
		
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			You know, Allah calls them waitai
quraba,
		
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			and be good to those who are near
to you.
		
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			This is a deep topic. In a second,
we'll continue. This is the topic
		
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			that a lot of. That's why I was
saying a lot of our shakes talk
		
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			about this. Lot of every mom reads
this verse on Fridays, huh? How
		
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			many people live this?
		
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			How many people live this?
		
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			Enemies with brothers and sisters,
enemies with uncles and aunties.
		
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			We don't talk to them. We don't
know them, grandparents,
		
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			grandchildren. We have no
connection
		
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			and Islam command Allah commands,
let me know. Just say Islam Allah
		
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			commands that we keep that
connection so
		
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			we'll continue.