Shadee Elmasry – Mothers’ Hour, Being Mom 1
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A lot of parents don't have that.
That Islamic knowledge. So they send their kids there to know what
they can teach them. They don't specifically implement what they
want them to hear them say it started. Okay, we're good.
Alright, so, okay, so inshallah alright so starting Shalom does
not matter Haman sha Allah so are you going to Nebraska to my last
panel Dallas peace and blessings be upon you. And inshallah today
we're going to start our series about raising children in Islam.
And we're going to try to learn from the prophetic way from Satan,
Mohamed Salah Salem, and try to apply as much as we can as we go
along. But in order to be able to raise Muslim children, as I said,
we have to start talking about ourselves. First as Muslim parents
just I was just telling you, you can't you can't expect to send the
child to home from school. And they're going to be perfect if
they don't come back and you apply or imply the same thing that
they're being taught at school. So we have to start with ourselves
first. If we want our kids to come out in a certain way, we have to
be that way ourselves first. Because we could talk all the
talk, but they kids listen, and they see. And they actually
imitate what they see not what they hear Subhanallah so in order
for us to do so, or to know the value of family, we have to really
sense the importance of what family is, we're talking about
something that's very, very, very valuable. Okay. And I'm sure
you'll tell me of course we know family, something really valuable.
It's important and we you know, people just like yeah, of course
family comes first and so on and so forth. But if we knew if we
started off by knowing how valuable it is to Allah subhana wa
Tala family in general, right, the heavens in the earth, we check for
that. That's how dear or important or valuable a family is that was
Pano to Allah. And Allah subhanaw taala would reward you or be
pleased with you and w you know, reward you double the norm just
for putting towards that family or keeping that foundation going the
way he would like it to. Alright, but why am I saying this? Because
unfortunately, as you know, today, we've become very reckless about
family, and its values. And the amount of divorces that we hear
these days is just ridiculous. And if you look at reasons why people
were divorced, you know, after being married for six years, or 10
years or six months, even the serious the silliest reason
SubhanAllah. And when you ask either spouse after they, you
know, they separate from each other, why did you do so? They,
you know, they say we don't know, we were just stubborn over silly
things. SubhanAllah. But you really, if you think about it, why
is that? So it's because the value of the family has become minut
it's become very small, people don't understand what it is
SubhanAllah. And when you ask a child who is dearer to you, your
family, or your friends, and you find him silent, not knowing what
to answer, because they don't want to embarrass you, you know,
they're not gonna say, Oh, my friends more important, but you
know, for certain that all their secret is with their friend and
not with you, then you know, what has happened to the family values.
And when you find a father asking his son to do something for days
and days, and it's not being done, and the instant his friends tell
him to do the same thing, it's done right away, then you know
that the family value or the value of the family has come down to
this nothing SubhanAllah. And we are a part of doing this because
we don't emphasize this meaning to our own children. We don't show if
we don't act it out in our daily lives, that they are number one
that the house and us together is number one, they're never going to
get that Subhanallah alright.
When you find in another situation, siblings not talking to
each other. Because you know, after their parents died, they're
fighting over inheritance or forbidding their children to talk
to each other, or contacting each other. And, and you see all of
these things. And these are life things that we hear about, you
know, cousins haven't been talking to each other for 10 years and 50
Because I don't know my mom and her mom, and they have nothing to
do with it. Subhan Allah. So if you're seeking a las pantallas
pleasure, if you want the gates of heaven to be opened for you, and
those of hellfire shut, your family has to be the most
important and the most valuable thing to you before anything else.
Because it's the most valuable thing to Allah subhanaw taala The
Lord of the heavens and earth. Okay, so this is where we want to
start off. And where would we really start? Let's go from the
very, very beginning, okay, from the beginning of humanity, if we
look at the very beginning of humanity, who was it, the
beginning of creation, was Adam and Howard Allah himself right?
One family, just one family. You see Allah subhanaw taala could
have started with what many men and many woman and who created
them? Allah subhanaw taala and then they get to know each other
and then you know this marries that and this would marries that
and they could have started like that, right? But no, this earth
had to be built upon one family, Adam and Eve, and she's created
right from him. From the same clay, not from a different clay,
not two different types of clay. The Earth had to come from one
uterus one Rahab SubhanAllah. You see the idea? The first seen
humanity, the entire humanity. The very first thing is what humanity
equals what a family. This is how it started. We as humans have
built many organizations and for
foundations bile and you know different things. But the first
organization that was founded by Allah subhanaw taala, was the
family. And as if it's an order for the Earth to function, its
core that it's structured upon, is the family societies and tribes
and nations all founded on the concept or the aspect of having a
family. And if we look at the bigger scope of the family or the
extended family as a lot, hon like your uncles and your aunts and
your grandparents and so on, so forth, it's all based on the
family how, when Allah subhanaw taala created creation, and before
Adam was sent down to earth, okay era him or Siliconera him right,
keeping your relationship with your family was embodied, or a
soul solidified and it clung to the Throne of Allah subhanaw taala
and they said, Oh, Lord, this is what who seeks refuge refuge with
you from cutting Family Relationship Status looks like you
know I'm clinging on to you, your Allah I seek refuge in you that
they're going to tear me apart. We're not going to have that
relation. You see a parent not talking to their child because
they don't know they married who or daughter not talking to her mom
for I don't know what reasons Subhanallah So, or harm, it just
got embodied and equivalent to the throne sign. Yeah, well, this is
what I look like, I'm seeking refuge in you, they're going to
tear me apart. So last 100 Sally replied, would you accept that I
keep in touch with those who keep in touch with you and Ocilla
masala and to abandon who abandons you? And while I'm on Cuttack,
subhanAllah replacing what, then that will be free? She said, Yes,
yes, you're alive, except that. So he said, then I will accept that,
then that's for you. And this is before we even came down to earth
as a SubhanAllah. This Subhanallah relationships or a him knew what
would happen, knew what the human next would be like and how we
would be with each other Subhanallah and how the, you know,
we have that ego in us, it's me before anybody else, I don't care.
See, she said this about me or he said that to me, then, you know,
no, I'm not going to speak to them. Subhan Allah, how about in
heaven, it's still the family. We entered heaven, but you're in one
level and your parent is in the lower level, or you're in the
level and then your son or your child is in a higher level. You
want to see each other, you miss each other. Intercession of family
comes in here Subhanallah we're Allah subhanaw taala gathers you
all in one level just because of the family intercession Shafaq
what a surah when Allah subhanaw taala says what will Latina M and
Winterbottom Duryea to the Iman, Al Hakuna became the reality
meaning what, and those who believed and whose descendants
followed them in faith, it didn't see a lot of faith, but they just
followed they had some faith, we will join with them their
descendants and we will not deprive them of anything of their
deeds. And this is only for family this intercession only comes for
family. So whilst hundreds 100 shows you here, how do your family
is, you know, Allah does this just for the families, nobody's going
to be separated from anybody, just for having the faith in your
heart. Subhanallah so enough separation enough going into homes
and finding everyone in their own room with their door shut enough
of husbands and wives, you find them they could be in the same
room in the same bed but each one of them is on their own isolated
island Subhanallah because of this isolation and the separation
stops, the family problems whether it's with your child with your
husband, it will be minimal, and we wouldn't please Allah subhanaw
taala the day you strengthen your family ties, you strengthen your
society you strengthen your Islam, you strengthen your OMA you please
the Prophet Muhammad Salah Salem you please Allah subhanaw taala
and you did something great according to the scales in the
scales of Allah subhanaw taala.
And I want to bring your attention you realize when we signed you
know how we signed many contracts in life, the car, the mortgage,
the rent the I don't know what leasing whatever so many
contracts, we go open a credit card, we have to sign a contract,
right? So many contracts. But the only contract that Allah subhanaw
taala calls a firm or a settlement covenant. Right. It's a very tough
a firm, act or contract. He doesn't even call the articles it
what meetup right meetup that the heavens and the earth shakes for
it's such an intense are such an important. It's such an important
topic. Okay. To the point how serious is the nation's use this
term mythique when they have an agreement between each other to
show the importance of what they agreed upon. They don't just say
we have a contract we have a meter Okay. Listen to what Allah
subhanaw taala says when he talks about a husband and a wife. He
says what we're hunting them in commit alcoholism, and we've taken
from you a solemn covenant. The minute a man puts his hand and his
father in law's hands and says I have married you my daughter upon
Allah subhanaw taala spoke and according to His Messenger,
Muhammad sai Salam, this is a very and the husband says I have
agreed. This is a very, very big word. And for men, the day they go
and get married and start this family, don't be little they
cannot be little this word Okay, holding out your hand and saying
that you agree upon this according to Allah subhanaw taala the minute
you hurt your husband or the minute you hurt your wife or hurt
their feelings, then you have betrayed Allah subhanaw taala
spoke
because this is a meetup Allah subhanaw taala didn't just call it
a normal contract. It's something that the conditions in it, this is
what you have to follow. Subhan Allah, okay, so basically it's not
what you
just down to the person in front of you, it's what you've done to
yourself you got yourself into trouble with the loss of hundreds
Anna and we need to have this concept and we go on Insha Allah,
we have to teach our kids this concept as well. They have to
understand what how important marriage is and you know when they
go to older age Inshallah, what they're going into and what
they're promising Allah subhanaw taala to be doing, okay. And by
the way, this word mythical, this was only used to address three
things in the Quran, just to show you how important it is with the
prophets. When Allah subhanaw taala tells the prophets in the
Quran and we took from you like what, like we took your word or a
compliment that had inimical without kind of a reason. And when
he addresses in another point, he addresses Bani Israel and he tells
them you're responsible for the formation of Earth and we're
taking upon you the same What's your word again, meet our
colleagues. And the third time is on the day of marriage mica
collies Subhanallah, cc with the prophets with Bani Israel, and
when you get married, okay, now, after hearing all of this, can you
find yourself hurting your husband again, or belittling him, or
making fun of him specially if it's in front of your children?
SubhanAllah. Because if you do that in front of your husband, or
in front of your wife, in other, you know, other situations, you're
teaching the kids that, you know what, no big deal to make fun of
him. Family is nothing. So how are they going to respect you again?
How are we going to respect your father, the father, again, you
know, whatever differences you have, keep it on the site, not in
front of the children, because they watch and they Subhanallah
they have like recording devices, nothing goes away, they remember
very well. And I'm sure if you were you know, growing up in a
house, and I'm sure you have a memory of one day your parents
were arguing and certain things just don't go away, you know, you
have that, you know, memory of one fight they had or whatever, these
things don't go away. So we have to be very careful what we do in
front of our children. Shala Okay, so this is all beautiful talk yet,
right? But there are theoretical, it's just theories, nothing
practical. And my question is, wouldn't it have been enough that
Allah subhanaw taala, you know, just told us these things for us
to be convinced this is a mythical is and this is what you have to do
and family is important. And then we would have just obeyed, right?
That's the way it is the Sahaba when Allah subhanaw taala told
them something right away, they would do it. They didn't have to
say anything practical, but then it wasn't enough for us. It's not
always enough. Allah subhanaw taala had to give us something
practical things that would remind us of our family. And as we're
doing them or applying them, we will get rewarded for doing them
as well. So he's remembered making us reminders or sorry, reminding
us with these with something that's practical. And it's
something that we have to do and I'm going to come to to it in a
minute. And at the same time, we're not just remembering but
he's also rewarding for it for us immensely. And what is this
something? It's a kind of worship, okay, one of the most life types
of love types of worship for Allah subhanaw taala. That reminds us of
family. Any idea what it is?
No, I know, I was like thinking what is it? Okay, Hush. Hush.
Let's break it down. Okay, now,
it's all about if you look about Hush, it's all about family
relationships. How? Let's look at this. Allah subhanaw taala
commanded us to do something practical, which is harsh. And
every step and heist reminds us or reminds you of your family have a
look at the first thing someone model. Alright, what is it? Wasn't
it a mother's eagerness and worrisome over her son, the mother
of a smile that was running back and forth back and forth looking
for water to quench her baby's thirst so that he doesn't die in
this desert with no people whatsoever around. So she had to
be running, you know, keep running between the two mountains suffer
model seven times each time, half a kilometer, right? What is this
effort exerted. And when she would come to a certain part where she
could hear her baby's cries, she would start running okay? And
that's what we do today. When we go to that, you know, fight if
you've been to San Manuel, there's that green lighted area when you
come to it, you have to start running because that's where it's
mine was near. So she could hear her baby's crying. But when she
moved further away, she wouldn't be be hearing him so she'll be
walking. But every time she heard her baby's cry, she would start
running again. And there's if Allah subhanaw taala is telling
you when you go to do hush or hombre and you start suffering
Madhwa remember your mom, remember your mother? Imagine a mother's
emotions embodied into a form of worship Subhanallah he's reminding
you of your mother. I wonder how are you with your mother? If you
think yourself or you like being doing better with your mother
making sure she's okay if she's around she's not around whether
she's alive or not, you know making job for her asked me about
her making sure her needs are even if you're far away with a phone
call or sending him maybe a gift over you know, once in a while
something surprising her dinner with the parents if she passed
away, then you're you know, visiting her grave, you know,
keeping in touch with her friends making Solokha for her. They're
remembering your mother. Okay. And if you were a father, you know,
who's listening to this and ruin Safa. And Marwa, how could you
deprive a mother from her son or deprive a son from their moms?
Subhanallah you know, did you even perform harsh because if you did
suffer more when you didn't have that concept Subhanallah in your
head then did you really perform your hash? Did you understand what
you were doing and why you were doing it? Subhan Allah alright.
And you understand now why we imitate
harsher, hallelujah. You know, that's Alana and will continue
till the Day of Judgment because there is something called a family
that is very, very valuable to Allah subhanho wa taala. Right.
And if you're a mother who assigned to her kids to the
babysitter, where are you from harsh feelings? How do you think?
How do you feel about this? You know, this lady was running in a
desert. And we just like, oh, yeah, babysitter, okay,
babysitter, babysitter, there's babysitter that, you know, who
where are we? Who are we living leaving the kids with? You know,
what are these babysitters selling our kids? Are they on the same
page as we are? Are they teaching them what we would like to teach
our kids you know, are we entrusting them upon somebody who
we know, you know, is worthy of giving them what we would like to
give them okay? Or and if you're on the other side, a child that
ignores their mother or disrespects them How can you go
into hydro hombre after that when you grow older when you're acting
that way? Subhan Allah, will you even have the ability to do so
thank you so much between Safar Manuel and feel and comprehend
what you're doing, how does it work? It's upon Allah.
Unfortunately, we've come as Muslims we start doing things just
out of routine. We don't even think we pray here. Let's just
pray. Okay, so let's download it. Let's fast fasting is done. We
don't sit and contemplate we have to think what we're doing and why
we're doing it and why Allah subhanaw taala asking us to do
these things. There must be something behind it. It's not just
do so I can do some things are just out of obedience to test this
to see if we're going to listen, even if we're not convinced, but a
lot of the things you have the chance to contemplate and think
why is Allah subhanaw taala asking you to do that. Okay, now let's
look at another part of the Hajj. This is just the first part you
have zamzam the next one, right. What is them zum zum zum is the
prayer for father that was answered. Ibrahim alayhi salam, he
left his wife and his son in the desert, and he scared but Allah
subhanaw taala ordered him to go back where to Palestine, okay. And
here and he's obeying Allah subhanaw taala. So as he is
writing, you know, on his horse or his camera leaving back, his heart
is burning inside. He's leaving his wife and his baby in a desert.
There's nobody there. So he raises his hand up and he prays, but the
Indians can tune into the Yeti b word and hi disease era and the
vertical haram Rabanal up masala, the fragile determiner Nesta who
lay him, what is it? caminata Marathi la la mia Quran, oh Lord,
I have settled some of my descendants in an uncultivated
Valley, near your sacred house, our Lord that they may establish
prayer. So make hearts among the people inclined toward them and
provide for them from the fruits that they may be grateful. And the
gates of Heavens are opened Subhan Allah to fulfill a father's diet
or request, and Gibreel Alehissalaam descends himself from
heaven, and strikes with his wings at the foot of Abraham's infant is
my Alehissalaam and zooms and flows out and drink and drink and
drink till the day of judgments of how long do I have the Father, we
always think about, you know, oh, the mother's diet is always
accepted. Tell your moms to make that for you. And when you think
about it, the father's dies also except to tell your father to go
and make that for you. Go and call your father today. Tell him I need
your dad make dot for me meet up for my family, right. Everyone who
takes a sip from zamzam must know it's due to a father's prayer.
Understand your religion, right family, family, family Family is
very important guys. Another one part of again, off hash, okay. And
remember, when I said it was a worship again, it's not just the
worship, it's one of our five pillars of Islam. This is
something that you know, if you have the money, you have to go do
it. You can't just say oh, I don't feel like doing I'm gonna go to
vacation to France or a Disney cruise. Once you have the money,
you have to go do it. It's just like, you know, praying fasting is
a cat, whatever it is. So it's one of the five pillars. And the whole
idea of it is these are founded on family Subhanallah if you think
about it, just to show you how important family is okay, now, the
sacrificing or the Otay have died. It's a very simple story of a
father and his son did have an unbelievable level of
understanding between one another a father telling his son, Oh, son,
I see myself story in you in the dream. What do you think?
Well, the from the mother Tara, now who treats their children like
that? Right? We feel like we have the authority. Okay, you're going
to the school, you're going to go to the school, you're going to eat
this, you're going to eat this. This is what I pick for you to
work, this is what you're going to wear. No but Satan Ebrahim is
talking to I'm gonna, I'm being ordered to story. What do you
think? He's taking his opinion? Do you see the importance here? You
have to understand that the Prophet Muhammad Hassan, even when
he was dealing with kids, he never ever just said, Okay, this is how
it's done. This is what you have to do? No, what do you think, take
their opinion, even if their opinion doesn't matter to you? You
know, tell him do you think should we go here first, if we go hit
there first. Just ask them always encourage their kid, the kids to
use the muscle called the brain and to think for themselves. Don't
just always, you know, imply things. This is what you have to
do. This is how you have to do it. Let them do it their own way. It
can't be just our way or the highway because that's what we all
tend to do. We want things to be done perfect. It has to be done
this way or it's no way. Let the kids express themselves the way
they need to as long as they're not doing anything wrong and
they're still learning. It's a process. You know what I'm saying?
You have to give them that space and that confidence as well.
Because when you tell them what do you think you're giving the child
the confidence? Even if it doesn't matter to you what they think, you
know, should I wear pink or purple today wear pink mummy, okay, I'll
wear pink, no big deal. Choose two things that you want to wear
though. So don't end up wearing something that you don't want to
wear, you know, but I'm just saying always give them that
confidence and their choice to choose Make them feel that they
can choose not always, this is what you have to do. And that's
it. Okay, now, look at this, if this male had said, I'm sorry, you
can do that. This is what I don't want you to kill me, you know, and
this is God or Allah subhanaw taala is command to bring him out
of his cellar. You know, the brain could have suddenly come from
behind the smile, and just did what he did, right? He's just
following an order from Allah subhanaw taala. But no, because
he's not used to treating his son like that. We are friends. I take
his opinion. That's the way Satan everyman Islam was with a smile.
Now, if we look again, for look at the small freeze funds, or mother
Tara, what do you think books could be written about it from the
impact of it on a child, giving confidence? Making them that know
that they have a choice, making them build their own character?
And think and maybe discuss maybe they chose something that wasn't
right, let them do it is as long as it's not haram. It's not
something you know, just let them do it. Try it out. And then after
that, do you think that was a good choice? I think it would have been
better if we did that. But they could strive for themselves. Don't
just always tell them what to do. Don't dictate them what to do.
They'll never build their own character. And then we'll never
have, you know, great figures like you've seen, you know, I leave
maybe Taalib or all these people like we're going to talk about
them in sha Allah. We see how they were and how the Prophet Muhammad
wa salam entrusted them upon certain things as little
children's seven and five years old. We're not talking about older
kids, if you look at our lives, and we told him he was what he was
maybe 10 years old, when the when the why he came to the Prophet
Muhammad sai Salam and you walked in on the Prophet Muhammad, wa
salam and Khadija and they were praying. So he started watching.
It's like what is happening? And when Satan in Muhammad finished,
he told him, you know, follow me. You know, this is Islam, and I'm
the prophet or the Messenger of Allah. And then he said, and you
cannot tell anybody. He said, No, let me think about this. This is a
10 year old speaking, this is how they will rate he let me think
about this matter. He said, but okay. He said, I'm not going to
tell anybody, I promise, like, I'm not going to tell anybody. And
Hollywood every time sits up the practice, he stays up all night,
thinking, you know, thinking to himself, this little child
SubhanAllah. And then in the morning, he goes back to the
Prophet Muhammad, I send him and he says, repeat to me what you
said last night again. You know, so the Prophet told him, You know,
I'm the Messenger of Allah Spano. Tata and Islam is the religion and
and, and so he said, Okay, and I bear witness that you are the
Messenger of Allah subhanaw taala. And I will keep your secret, a 10
year old.
You give the child the confidence when you give them the choice.
When you make them feel that you can trust them upon something, you
make them become more calm, you build their character, you make
them feel responsible, and then they really become responsible.
Because later on, you'll see how I live in every time I send them a
house I send them assigned him as a 16 year old teenager. He was the
one who was in the Mohamed was like under attack from Croatia was
hiding in the outcome. And basically what was happening, he
assigned people were becoming from other places looking for the
Prophet. I didn't know because he was assigned to sit by the Canada
and sit and study the people and see who really was looking for the
Prophet Muhammad and wanting to learn about Islam. 16 year old
little kid, can you imagine? And you would sit and watch the people
and you want to just go delete anybody to the Prophet Muhammad, I
send them No, you wouldn't do that. You would sit and wait on
them. And you would actually invite them over to their house to
his house. Until you know, okay, what are you here for sit, eat
sleep and you watch him go and he finds a man. And he tells him to
connect the Comm. He wouldn't tell him anything. Until the third
time. I remember one of the Sahaba can remember his name right now.
He asked him Why are you here? He said, You know, I'm looking for
the Prophet, you know, and he said, but what are you looking for
him? So he wasn't just like naive, you know? Oh, you're looking for a
doctor. Okay, come let me take him, you know, take you to him.
Know, these. These kids were taught how to use their brains and
their mentalities. They were given the responsibility and therefore
they became responsible SubhanAllah. Okay. Now, if you
look here, do we go back again to the story of Ibrahim Ismail, and
you look at the response of the obedient son. And this is because
he was raised like this, again, he was raised that I'm going to ask
you, I'm not going to just force you. And we'll discuss, you know,
maybe I will, maybe you'll convince me maybe I'll convince
you, right? And he says, What, oh, Father, do as you're ordered, and
inshallah you'll find me from the patients, okay? This is how our
home should be like control, I pray that we can have these kinds
of relationships between parents and their kids. He takes his son
of his son's, you know, opinion, and he's obedient to His Father.
And the result was that was a sacrifice every year to the day of
judgment. And remember the value okay? Or the valuable relationship
between a father and his son SubhanAllah? No. And in another
sense, now we kind of understand when we do the shahada, we why we
say Allahumma Salli ala Muhammad Ali Muhammad camera so later Allah
Ibrahim, Allah, Allah, you know, have your peace and blessings on
Abraham and the family.
of Ibrahim, okay, because the fact this family is a great family and
the Prophet Muhammad says Helens family is a great family, okay? A
family that while you're praying you're trying to remember the
concept of family every single time you're doing with the
shareholders, you're making solid on this family, because they
taught us a lot Subhanallah Okay, now look at the Prophet and their
families look at one of the prophets mentioned and tell me how
many of them do you know that were mentioned without mentioning
something about their family?
Every single prophet, there's no prophet just like by himself like
that. There's either a mother or father or sister or husband or
something to go quickly through, you'll find one out of five things
either piece of $100 tells you about profits in the form of
founders, you have Adam and Howard, Ibrahim and Sarah or the
human Hydra later on, Musa and his marriage story from you know, the
old man who had two daughters. Then you see stories of fathers
and their children like the wooden Sulayman or Ibrahim Ismail
siblings, Musa and Harun relatives ASA and his his cousin Yahia. Then
you find stories of mothers and their caring hearts for their
children like Musa and his mother are marrying the daughter feminine
and her Isola history, and stories of fathers and their son how they
get along so well, like they wouldn't say men, then you see the
opposite. When a son does not know how to deal with his father, like
in the story of Ibrahim Al Azhar, or the caring father and his
disobedient son in the story of Noah hunt, his son, or the
siblings that betrayed their own brother in the story of Youssef
are the sisters that love their brother in the story of Musa
alayhis salam and his sister who saved him from the householder
frown. Bottom line, every kit kind of scenario you want to find for a
family, you have reference to it in the graph.
If you really think about it, it's all about family relationships.
Father, mother, mother, father, sister, brother, even daughter, so
it's all about family. This is how important if you think about this
is the book that you know, this is the seal of all books. And the
majority of the things is going to be talking about is about what
family you know, subhanAllah if you ever think about it, every
single story of the Prophet has to have somebody with their family
member. It's not because by their own or just them with their with
their tribe. Yeah, some of them with your tribe, but still, the
family members involved in it. Subhanallah okay. For example, if
you look at the relation between siblings, how's it these days? You
know, everyone is there an old you know, they're all worlds you're
here, she's there, you know, we don't ask about except each other,
except tonight. Oh, I can work it. Okay. And if the you know, phone
call goes a little bit longer, you don't even find anything to talk
about Subhan Allah, you know,
you know, which sister these days says, you know, I'm gonna stand by
my brother and support him. Very few. But when you look at Musa
alayhis salam, you know, and when his mother had to place his
sister, right, sorry, when his mother had to place him in the
basket and throw him into the Nile right as she was ordered, or Allah
subhanaw taala how highly he you know, gave her the right and what
his sister followed him till he landed in France castle. And she
was the one who brought him back to his mother by recommending her
as a wet nurse that Grant says, And when the mother of Musa said
to her daughter, follow him walk on the clock to see for the search
for Vasa and Jim wahome lair, Sharon, and she saw him and to the
waters around and she entered following her brother risking her
own life. Because, you know, imagine trout, he's not a very
friendly guy who was killing every single baby boy that was born. So
she's risking her own life, this little girl. So she watched him
aside and no one could see her. Then Allah subhanaw taala says,
and we made all the wet nurses forbidden, right? We prevented
from him all nurses before she said, Shall I direct you to a
household that will be responsible for him for you while you are
there, you know and be up, you know, make it sincere to him.
Okay, so basically the last panel Johanna, you know, honors the
sister of Musa by mentioning her you know, she's like, you know,
she like she steps out and he says his story to show her importance
is Subhanallah and then what happens Allah subhanaw taala makes
the screw of the cause of what having Musa returned safely again
what to her and she's the one who raises her own son as a witness,
but he's actually what her son Subhanallah right. And another
story again you look at the two brothers and Allah subhanaw taala
is ordering Musa to go to frown. So Musa says, My Lord, expand my
chest for me with assurance and ease for me my task and untie the
knot from my tongue because you know, saying the Musa listen used
to stutter except when he was preaching Subhan Allah. And I
never understood that until the other day, somebody was sharing
this video clip of a boy, he can only sing but when he talks he
stutters Subhanallah like he doesn't know how he can talk. He
has some some disease or something. But when he sings, he
sings perfectly so Paula, you reminded me like I never
understood how could Satan was like, when he spoke to his own he
could speak you know, but in general he had he was stuttering.
So that's why he says what was the lock determine lasagna for Korean
and tie the knot from my tongue, that they may understand my speech
and a point for me a minister from my family, Aaron or Harun my
brother, increase through him my strength and let him share my task
that we may exalt you much And remember You much. He didn't say
Give me a good friend that I, you know can be my support and we're
buddies because usually it's your best friend. It's not your best
sister, you know, with handleless some of us have sisters or your
best friends, but it's usually your best friend. Okay? And you're
going to tell me but you know, these stories are not very
realistic, right? You know, these are prophets and this was how they
were I'll respond to you look at their same story again, when Satan
and Musa argues with Haroon unwholesome by his beard when he
left the people of Israel was with him. And they started worshiping
the cough. And, and they asked him How could you you know, let this
happen? He says Carla, no letter could be the Haiti oh son of my
mother. Do you see when Haroon responds to save the movies a year
if not, the first thing he doesn't say Musa is old son of my mother.
That's the first thing he says is what we are, you know, type either
or mother, okay? Do not see me by my beard or by my head. Indeed, I
fear that you would say you cause division among what the children
of Israel and you did not observe. Right? So instantly Musa said what
when he heard it, I'm like, You're the son of my mother. He said what
my Lord forgive me and my brother Bill fairly well, yeah. So this
they were they were brothers didn't have good relationships
with but they also had fun together, you know. So there's
everything. You know, it's not just something that's not
realistic, it's real life Subhan Allah. And again, in another story
that shows things that happen in our daily lives, not the perfect
siblings picture. Okay, the story of Yusuf Ali Salaam and what and
his siblings and how the shaitan enlarge something in their minds.
And that is what your father loves your brother more than you. And
this is a very big thing here. It's a very clear message from
Allah subhanaw taala. To every parent, do not treat your kids
differently. Even if you know, you know, the prime minister says
always says what you know, your children, the dearest one of you
them to in your heart is dealing the youngest until they get older
or the one that is sick, until sizer gets until they heal, or the
one that's away until they return. You know, don't make that an
excuse. Yet, of course, it's understood that these are things
you're allowed to feel like if your son is sick, obviously,
you're not going to be tending to the ones that are healthy, you're
going to be like so worried or one that is sick, or the one that's
farther away from you, your heart's always going to be with
the more than the one that's here, or the one that the youngest, he
still doesn't know how to eat. He doesn't know how to do this. But
still, you always have to work you always have to you can never favor
one over the other. Even if it's putting up a photo in the house
for one of them more than the other or hugging one more than the
other or kissing one more than the other. You have no idea what it
does in the hearts of children. Okay. The Qur'an here shows you in
every aspect of his how it's important even in dealing with
kids, the tiniest things, okay, because it ended up and doing what
Subhanallah they threw their brother were in a well, right. And
then he was sold as a slave. And then he was taken Subhanallah to
the house of the disease. And then after that Allah Spano, Tala
again, you know, he has that, you know, understanding and he says
what he says what the shaytaan he didn't say, No, my brothers did
this to me. No, you know, they said the shaytaan entered between
me and my brothers. This you tell him was the cause of this, it
wasn't them it wasn't there enough. Subhanallah that's how
Satan needs to proceed to be very careful with the kids. We think
they don't realize to kiss one make sure you kiss the other one.
If you hug one hug the other one we bought something for this one
ring for the other one, even if she doesn't need it, because they
compare Subhanallah they won't tell you and it will come out in
another reaction you'll find her acting up or having a tantrum or
whatever it is, or you know, like getting back at you in some other
way by being you know, distant or cold with you. The kids really
does affect upon a life seen it and you know, most people are the
biggest prophets, the prophets, you know the story of Sydney's
Holly Salem and the families embodied in the story.
Going to try to wrap up and chop off.
So basically, if we look at the family, it's embodied in the story
of our Prophet Muhammad Salah and you'll see him as the grandson who
sits initially wearing the shades of the Kaaba and the care and love
of his grandfather. After mortality. You'll see Him as the
Son who stands over his mother's grave after 50 years 50 years and
he weeps and says I took my Lord's permission to visit what my
mother's grave grave and he weeps and the Sahaba all around him
weep, right? You'll see him as
The loving father with Fatima. And the day he was dying, he couldn't
get up to kiss her on her forehead as he was used to doing every
single time that he saw her. Which parents do this nowadays? Do you
kiss your children? No, go home and kiss your children today
please and hug them. And if they like me or tell them come back and
talk to me, I'll deal with them. Okay, so Subhan Allah, He knew he
was going to die. He never saw her unless he can serve. And he never
left Medina to go anywhere. Unless the last house that he stopped by
was the house of Fatima, his daughter, not the house of his
wife. No, his daughter was the last house he'd always stopped by.
And when he came back, the first house he would stop by would be
his daughter, not his wife, Subhan Allah. You'll see him as the
father in law, who does the burial for his daughter's mother in law,
right the mother of four of our living avatar live and he covers
her with his own idea in respect of his daughter and her husband
and even a Vitaly. You'll see him when he says I entered heaven in
the trip of Israel and Mirage, and I heard a hustle going upon, you
know, going on and the servants going and coming and castles. So I
said, For whom is all of this? They replied for heritage, Abner
Norman, for he took care of his mother can abhorrent to Me. So I
said, this is better. This is delicate, but this is what you
know, this is what taking care of your family is or your parents
okay? You'll see him when he and Prophet Muhammad Salim says I
entered Jana and I saw Musa lay him and I said to her, you beat me
to Jana. So it was said to me, she used to please her husband and
support him. See, it's all about family relationships a lot. Family
is very, very, very valuable. Which of us is now ready after
hearing how important family is to Allah subhanaw taala. And you see
from how dear it is to him. He rewards those who maintain these
relationships in a way that no other kind of worship will give
you a reward. Listen, for example, he subhanaw taala says Allah
subhanho wa Taala has a mercy on a man who woke up from his sleep in
the middle of the night and woke up his wife and they pray to
rockers. And you could wake up on your own. Right. You could pray on
your own and you can pray all night. tahajud right. You could
pray all night, but no, to rock us with your wife. Okay, so what's
the reward? Then they are written amongst those who mentioned their
Lord continuously meaning their kids when you wake up in Kouvola
had I'm not telling you to recite total Bacara Okay, get up, pray
with cola hug, go back to sleep again. You are written amongst the
deck colors you register your written and when Allah Spano Tala
writes you so you won't take it back again from you. He writes you
amongst those who remember Allah subhanaw taala continues to which
is a very high rank Subhanallah the highest ranks of Vic, okay, so
basically, I'm telling you, when you love your wife, or you love
your husband, your levels are higher in heaven. Of course,
especially at retirement, we hear about betrayal. And we hear about
all these, you know, different kinds of, you know, weird things
going around to Subhan Allah, the Prophet Muhammad Salim says, an
act of worship in a time of pandemonium or fooling around. And
disobedience is like making history to me, the one who
worships Me, in other words, the one who worships Me, when all
those around are fooling around and losing themselves is as if
you've made his euro to me from Mecca to Medina, can you imagine?
Like, sometimes you're in a place and suddenly find things going on?
Do they remember and always remember, you know, it's the
reward for it. It's just what like, going for him or for the
Prophet Muhammad says, Salah, you know, sometimes you find yourself
caught up in a place like, Oh, my God, what's going on? You know,
and so apologies do take right away. And I know, you could ask
me, but why is family so valuable? And so important to this extent?
Why are we trying to stress so hard on this meaning? You see,
there's a very big idea behind this. Why did Allah subhanaw taala
create Earth? Right? You'll tell me so we can reform it. So what's
expected of us, you know, descend on earth reform it it sounds
simple, right? It's not a big deal.
But no, it isn't. The heavens and the earth and the mountains refuse
to take this what this task, a summary will argue, well, Japan,
what a shock nemenhah They said, No, we don't want to take it. But
who accepted this task? Mankind? What can that incentive would like
it was out of his ignorance, right? When Allah subhanaw taala
offered it to them, they refuse to carry this burden. reformation is
a very difficult task with shaitan and Iblees. playing along and all
the heart diseases and the temptation, it's not easy. It's
not an easy task. It's a difficult task. But along with this
difficulty, Allah subhanaw taala sends a mercy. You know, when
someone jumps just like your son was saying, he jumps out of the
crib. So in order to make you know, the hits a little bit
softer, when he falls, you put what a mattress you put a pillow
to do, what to absorb the you know, to absorb the heat when he
lands. And the same thing with humans, they need compassion. You
can be on a mission of performing earth when there is no quote,
compassion. So Allah subhanaw taala a lot created along with
this difficult task, a mercy that produces compassion and affection
automatically called the family because the minute you know your
child is born, unless you already have the love. You don't have to
go make yourself love your daughter or your son, right. And
he created this within a structure the structure within a group of
affections just as I was going to say
affection between a man and a woman. And it's a very special and
warm relation that he placed in the form of marriage. So they were
brought together through Allah subhanaw taala Allah's law for
life journey in reforming together, right? And then another
form. You guys want to pray or should we finish? Finish?
Okay?
No, I'm good. I'll finish them. Alright. Okay, so basically, they
were brought together and then any other form for this affection ends
up Subhanallah being messy and nasty in some way. Okay? And look
at those who have betrayed us around right? Now. Then they have
kids. So another affection is created motherhood is Palma
something Allah subhanaw taala plans in your heart, whether you
like it or not, you love your kids, right? Then the affection of
fatherhood, then another affection is created. And that's when the
child starts comprehending, and they love what their mother and
their father. So there are four types of affection, right? A man
and a wife loving each other, a mother loving her kids, a father
loving his kids, and the kids loving their parents. And from
these four basic affections, all other kinds of affection,
subhanAllah branch outs, but these are the four main ones, Mother
Father together to each other, and then or husband, your spouse, and
then you have the mother to your children, Father, to the children
and the kids to their parents. That's the base. That's, that's
how, you know, everything is built up on this panel, okay. So this is
where it comes, the idea of the family being valuable, because
this mission cannot be accomplished without a family, you
can't reform, you can't do a salon. And without having this.
And establishing and it's not something easy, but Subhanallah
with the one three child comes and kisses you or give you a hug, or
they smile in your face, or they come in you know, when they give
you give you a flower or something it makes all you know all the pain
go away Subhanallah you know, it makes a difference. It takes away
from our you know how tired we are, you know. And here in the in
the in the West, if you look about it, family is not as valuable.
Unfortunately, we can do without family. That was the concept. But
why? Because when the industrial revolution happened, and they
started development, they started developing in many ways. They
found that sciences developed by renewing, we take out what's old,
and we developed and we get what's new, right? So they tried to apply
what worked in science on social development, family relationships,
and so on. So it was concluded what is not a must to have a
mother and a father, to men can work. Two women can work. No
parents at all could work. 21 or 18. Okay, you can leave your
house, you don't need them. Right. And this was done in a way where
there was no scientific researcher comparing the old with the new
usually, if you're going to develop something, you compare the
old with the new, okay, which way was better? Let's see which way in
science you don't need to compare, because the results of development
are very clear why from rotary phones, you have cell phones from
no internet, then you have internet from, you know, whatever,
I don't know from no computers, now you have computers on your
iPhones and iPads or whatever, you have these cards to travel, I
don't know how much from no flying at all. Now we have rockets going
to the moon. So it's very clear, there's no need to prove which is
better, because we know that it's better, right? But the same method
out of mistake was applied to family relations without comparing
the old with the new Subhan Allah. And things got pretty messy. As
you see nowadays, you see, you know, on TV now, every single show
you watch, there has to be a gay cup. There has to be a gay couple.
Lucky there has to be somebody in every single show that comes out.
And now it's bigger. Oh, it's normal. It's okay. It's not the
norm and it's not okay. Subhanallah All right. And the
message is clear, very clear. Allah subhanaw taala says what?
You have to preserve a las Fidra encroachment how how He created
us, that's the way it's supposed to be. If Allah wanted to
interview with each other, he would have created two men and two
women and then a man and a woman. But Allah created Adam and Hawa.
And that's the way it started. That's if you think about it, the
very first time the curtain opened on Earth. It was just one family,
Adam, and how was Pamela right, we have the best thing that we can
present to mankind, if the West is ahead, and you know, from you
think about the third world countries, the West is ahead of us
in so many ways that we have things that were way, way, way,
way, way more advanced than and that is the family, the family
values. Subhanallah between us lies something that's extremely
valuable our family, our family, our family. So I'm telling you,
I'm going to wrap on that today. Inshallah, we're going to start
with that and then hopefully, I'm going to try to bring it break it
down a little bit more and then we want to go into how the Prophet
Muhammad Salam was specifically you know, through narrations and
so on so forth. So and of course, if you have any specific something
you'd like me to discuss or you know, speak about
in your lives, make the Islamic really available either die or die
it kind of like Yes.
Yes. You never think about it, you never think what are going to do
stuff on Madhwa. And, and the thing is, when I really thought
about spotlight, it's one of the it's not just like you can do to
hatred or do Cleon Lille or if you want to put you know, fast Monday
and Thursday. It's a pillar.
It's a pillar and every single part of it is about family
suffering mother was the Debbie has, it's all about family
Subhanallah and it's a reminder but unfortunately, you see now the
people do have their money.
Mobile phone they were on their cell phones talking and waving to
the camera like just try to focus what you're doing. You know,
forget about the phone right now. And that's what has happened to a
Subhan Allah but it really is important you know and we just
have to try to focus on inshallah up and make dua you know, myself
before you, you know, don't get me wrong here. No, I'm no supermom or
vice versa for anything, you know, I try to remind myself before you
and hopefully we can, you know, try to, you know, support each
other and
we do we all do. I know, no, we shouldn't we try to spend a lot
you know, try to see the best in them. And, you know, and try to
work things out and hopefully inshallah Well, next time we're
going to be talking about some more stories. And again, um, you
know, I'm definitely going to be a lot about kids, but I still have
to always bring us into the picture because we are what our
kids are going to be, you know, you know, you want your kid to be
something you have to be at first I have to I keep saying that, you
know, people complain, you know, our kids are not doing this and
kids are not doing this, like, are you doing it? Yeah, because we're
not doing it. Yes. If you don't show kids the input, for example,
you know, so Paula, sometimes I found it very difficult to get up
and pray professionally or praying on time as soon as you know,
sometimes you're in the middle of cooking or you know, doing
something and you know, event comes if you don't really get up
right there. And then as soon as the event goes, and you go pray in
front of your kids, they will think it's okay to delay the
player. Really, it's a long enough someone say it's really
Subhanallah you're working more, I look at it and you're actually
raising yourself to raise your kids.
That's the way it is. It's not something easy, but Subhanallah
with support, and you know, we eat each other, we talk with each
other and inshallah hopefully it'll been shown that we can
improve ourselves because there's no way other than that we have to
is that or it's the highway. That's not a very pleasant
highway. So