Salem Al Amry – Lesson 9 Weekly Class Virtues of Islam
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The conversation covers various struggles and issues faced by various people in various countries, including depression, violence, and drug problems. The importance of history and science is also discussed, as well as the importance of family and society in achieving healthy society. The conversation also touches on the negative impact of being a woman on her parents' emotions and the importance of learning from history and deeds. The conversation ends with a recommendation to not let anyone convince you to be a woman.
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Take ready when you are insha'Allah Ready
insha'Allah Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim Alhamdulillah
salatu wa salamu ala Rasulullah wa ala alihi
wa sahbihi wa man wala wa baad brothers
and sisters assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
and welcome to our ninth lesson of virtues
of islam with our honorable sheikh sheikh salim
al-amri before i pass the mic and
the screen to the sheikh just a polite
reminder to everybody we are starting these classes
half an hour earlier than usual so it
will be according to uk time please match
your country times with uk time 6 p
.m i know many of you are going
to join us later today assuming it's still
at the usual time so when you catch
up here in this recording please note that
we start half an hour earlier for both
days and also if the co-hosts can
remind everybody towards the end of the session
also now i will pass the mic and
the screen to our bid
'ah today
is our weekly class virtues of islam this
beautiful book by the sheikh muhammad muhammad and
we are in the introduction in the
last session we mentioned the miseries
that humanity go through which
is something inevitable the moment mankind drifts away
from the state path from the path that
his creator our creator wanted us to remain
upon then we have to bear the consequences
and we will be suffering facing adversities
hardships etc now let us go quickly among
through some of these manifestations of of the
outcomes that resulted from deviating and rejecting the
divine guidance a quick glance at any daily
newspaper will tell you what is going on
it will tell you about the miseries the
prides the sufferings among these sufferings which has
became so common and so rampant suicide people
they killed themselves people they killed themselves young
people young and old but to find this
among the young the youngest of the youth
why a young man will kill himself or
a young girl will kill herself when there
is still bright future awaits him or her
because this individual is suffering
is experiencing pain and agony within himself or
herself and he doesn't know he or she
doesn't know how to get rid of that
pain and suffering so he or she decides
to terminate this life because he tried or
she tried many things to remove that
imbalance that suffering within himself or herself but
all these things failed as a matter of
fact the misery intensified and increased if you
just go and write on the google the
suicide rate it will give you the statistics
worldwide worldwide simply
because a human being is not only body
this modern and current civilization takes care of
the body focusing on the body and neglecting
the soul and mind because the
soul is something unknown to us so we
don't we don't know how to interact with
it how to address and respond to its
demands because we are ignorant of its nature
so that's why they just keep focusing on
the body but man is not only body
it's not this only framework this physical being
no it's more than that so when the
spirit is neglected and ignored then this psychological
disorders and issues take place in
many countries everything is is is free drugs
women you can see the drugs on the
menu in the restaurant you can order the
drugs and yet people the youth everything to
satisfy the pleasures of the flesh there
and they tried all that so finally this
young generation decides to they decide to commit
suicide so this is one of the the
evil fruits of this modern civilization civilization in
which we are living another evil fruit murder
killing and this is one of the signs
of the hour the prophet mentioned there will
be a lot of murder a lot of
killing killing every day you'll see
a young a gunman runs to a school
and starts shooting or one of the pupils
one of the students themselves start shooting his
colleagues so this is the the dilemma another
evil fruit is the * women are not
safe women are not safe and you know
recently what happened the the person who's supposed
to protect the people is the one who
committed the crime the policeman himself committed the
crime so * is a serious problem in
many countries so women they are not safe
alhamdulillah for the blessing of islam alhamdulillah and
that's why many of the non-muslims when
they come and live in muslim countries the
first thing they notice is the the atmosphere
of peace and security you can't walk at
night no one will dare to attack you
or to come near to you where i'm
living women they take a walk at night
12 o'clock they're walking in the neighborhood
they feel safe alhamdulillah you can sleep with
the door the main gate is open you're
not afraid of a thief or a robber
no this is a blessing muslim they have
to appreciate this you can go at any
time to any h&m machine and withdraw
money so this is this is one of
allah's blessing on us that he gave us
we have to thank allah for that the
world today is also having many problems social
problems family breakdown child
abuse every day you see these scandals *
homosexuality lesbianism the list is endless old
people the elders who have lost their jobs
are deserted ignored neglected by their children no
one takes care of them economical problems
mortgage riba taxes which is a nightmare for
many people so
the problems are so many so what islam
gave to humanity and then we'll talk what
islam can give today alhamdulillah that's why we
have to be thankful to allah all muslims
remember these blessings because of islam you have
this peace you have red lines you don't
cross even those who are sinners among the
muslims they know they are red lines and
they will not accept what they are practicing
doing they will not accept their children to
do that because they know it is wrong
they know that they know these things are
shameful deeds shameful deeds because these things values
being instilled inculcated within the individual the muslim
even those who are wrongdoers those who commit
sins they know inside what they are doing
is wrong and they know there are red
lines they cannot dare to cross when you
talk to them they say pay for us
we know we are wrong we know this
is wrong and inshallah god willing one day
i'll become a good person i'll quit this
pay for me so see that individual that
means when you say pay for me what
does it mean there's something good within that
individual that's the the iman the weak iman
still there so what islam what islam
gave to humanity some gave the humanity a
lot a lot showed them the way
many of the countries today you see as
muslim countries they were not muslim were not
muslims so that's the biggest gift islam gave
them what you see today this
modern civilization was built it is
a continuation of what our forefathers left the
muslims laid the foundations for them europe was
in total darkness and illiteracy and ignorance in
the medieval ages when spain was having
the universities the streets in spain and delucia
are lit and europe was in total darkness
the elite used to send their own children
to study in the muslim universities in spain
so history tells us about what the muslims
contributed and what muslims gave so we need
to know our heritage and we have to
be part of that so we'll just go
through some of these things glimpses the zero
the muslims gave it to the people if
you read in many books you'll find sifr
which means the zero and what does it
mean zero zero means it is empty nothing
there because all this what we see today
the numbers the numericals the arabic numbers they
call them arabic numbers and unfortunately the arabs
they're using the indian numbers today the numbers
numbering system we arabs use is not the
arab numbering system it's the indian the arabic
number is what you use and the today
known but it's still called arabic number because
the the numbers are based on the angles
how many angles in the number so sifr
there's no angle inside it's round so the
zero was used by muhammad ibn musa who
was the first to use the decimal point
notation decimal point and see the what the
arabic number how easy it's very easy and
when you count to what the roman numbering
system so the sifr the zero was used
by muhammad ibn musa was the first to
use the decimal point notation decimal point the
great historian gibbons he wrote in his fifth
volume of decline and fall of the roman
empire he said that the science of chemistry
science of chemistry owes its origin and improvements
to the muslims to the muslims the
muslims are the ones who invented empiricism the
empirical method the scientific method so
like ibn al-haytham and others so here
gibbon says the science of chemistry owes its
origin and improvement what the muslims added to
it muslims muslims the trigonometry the sign tangent
cotangent subhanallah
the he
developed this in his
famous work which
means calculation by completion and balancing the
muslims the muslims which you study today the
muslims presented 800 examples in the eighth eighth
century in his book you can download it
it's there on the net his work was
translated from arabic into latin and until the
16th century it was europe's main textbook on
the subject they are studying it and teaching
it as the main textbook that's in mathematics
in math in physics subhanallah the
problem my dear brothers and sisters we don't
know our history and unfortunately is not told
to us in schools the story of the
invention of the pendulum pendulum of the clock
and the presentation of a water clock to
emperor chalamain by haruna rahim in the year
807 hijri this
shows what the technological advancements of the muslims
so he sent this as a gift to
the emperor of the franks chalamain he sent
him an elephant whose name the name of
the elephant the father of intelligence and a
clock with a mechanical clock powered by water
powered by water this clock at noon a
weight dropped a weight will drop bells sounded
and the 12 brass horsemen emerged from 12
windows in the beginning they thought it is
uh this is some invisible creatures guineas inside
jinn the camera obscura
called obscura the latin name means dark chamber
dark room dark chamber in the field of
optics camera obscura was invented by ibn al
-haytham 1038 a.d so
that was history what can islam offer to
the world today what can slam offer and
what islam can do today slam provide solutions
for the problems of humanity because this is
the divine guidance the quran as
sheikh ahmad didat used to say this is
the last testament last testament for mankind islam
my dear brothers and sisters provide solutions
for many social issues among these issues is
the issue of the family islam focuses on
this very basic unit the building block and
brick of any community the family what was
happening to the family today in europe fragmented
in the west this building unit is crumbling
the concept of the family is lost a
child reaches 18 he leaves you have to
leave leave leave you live on your own
boy girl you live on your own so
the family is divided that the nucleus family
is not there the nuclear family is not
there the nuclear family is not there where
all members together grandparents children grandchildren
they only meet on christmas when the
family is the most important thing without a
family you will not have a community not
have a nation but if you have strong
family then you have a strong nation so
attacking the family you undermine the whole thing
the whole thing will collapse the whole thing
will collapse so the family is the most
important thing element but the stability healthy family
is the most important component for the stability
of the community so islam focused on that
and alhamdulillah yes there are constant onslaught
on the muslim family from the enemies of
islam because they want us to be like
to be destroyed like them they lost that
concept they want the muslims also to suffer
like that so they are constantly attacking the
family and muslim they have to wake up
and they should feel and sense that the
the the the plan and the conspiracy and
the hidden agenda so islam focus on this
matter the family and protects the family so
allah says in surat ar-rum ayat 21
and among his signs is that he created
for you mates from among yourselves that you
may dwell in tranquility with them and he
has put love and mercy between your hearts
verily in that are signs for those who
reflect and let us reflect so allah draws
our attention to this basic unit building blick
and block the family he draws our attention
and he reminds us about the importance of
this family by saying and among his signs
is that and
the monkey signs that he created for your
mates mates your wife she is your mate
she is your second half you need her
without her you cannot live you cannot multiply
you cannot reproduce yes allah created for our
father his mate adam eve for our father
adam his mother his wife his mate eve
from his own rib woman out of man
that is the meaning of a woman out
of man allah created her from him she's
part of you that's why you have this
affection towards each other you feel you are
one and this is one of the signs
of allah and among yourselves as
well he created for you as well though
which means pair pair and everything in existence
in pairs animals birds trees even
when we go to the atomic level electron
proton positive charge negative charge pass pass pass
so you live in harmony with all the
existence and then allah mentioned the wisdom why
he created mates for us this
is why i created mates for you that
you may dwell in tranquility you will have
peace of mind a man will have peace
of mind when he has his partner his
mate with them his life will be stable
balanced he will lead and she will lead
a pride conduct because all the
needs are satisfied and they complement each other
man and a woman they're not rival at
loggerheads no they complement each other they work
together together in unison in harmony everyone
plays his role a woman has her own
role and it is the most difficult role
to play and the most painful task to
show that yes women bringing up human beings
bearing them and bringing them up but what
the enemies of humanity who are working
around the clock to destroy humanity they program
the woman and tell they tell them if
you stay at home you are jobless job
less you don't have anything to do is
it true he has the most noble task
most difficult one no one can shoulder it
except women to bring up the human being
allah has chosen the novice and the the
most beautiful task which is to deal with
the human being subhanallah and man he deals
with the earth with the dirt he toils
he sweats he has to go and work
and bring bread to the table so you
are not jobless you're very busy but they
program you you don't have anything you are
idle sitting at home come out come out
and do what and work they say if
you are sitting at home the the nation
the community okay is breathing only with one
lung the one lung is breathing the other
is not there because you are staying at
home come out and let the community to
breathe with two lungs that's how they program
you that's how they brainwash you they pull
your leg so you leave your home and
the children start to suffer or no more
children no more children or you don't have
you say i will not have children for
the for a couple of years i have
to secure my future i have to build
up my career and you don't know the
years are passing by and soon you become
old and it is too late to have
children too late for a woman they the
life span the span is so short of
having children because from the moment you reach
the age of puberty until the age of
menopause which is the average 40 years and
every month you lose one egg ovum from
the repository you have you have a limited
number of eggs in your ovary and then
this reservoir this repository is depleted finished so
i cannot have children that's why today many
women they store their eggs in banks so
they can use later see so
they invaded your mind and they made you
to come and leave your real task and
they made you to come out and you
start to suffer you have to wake up
in the only morning and rush to the
washroom and wash your face and brush your
teeth and grab anything from the kitchen oh
my god i'm late my boss will be
huh shouting at me and you are one
minute or two minutes late and because nowadays
you have to swab your car and your
salary will be deducted because all these minutes
are calculated and this will affect also your
appraisal your suffering and you are eight hours
minimum on your toes and you have deadlines
tension Allah saved you from this
and made you a queen sitting at home
everything is you are served you don't want
that so they brought you out to make
you suffer and you
are eight hours with men with your boss
and you know what will happen when a
man and a woman are together but that
is the the hidden agenda and that is
the objective and that's the goal so Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala here he tells us
that the purpose of creating mates for you
is to have this a strong family and
to have sakinah peace tranquility but where is
the tranquility if you are eight hours out
and when you come back you are totally
exhausted you have to drop yourself dead like
a log right so you are you don't
have any more effort to do anything for
your family for your husband the husband also
comes from office totally tired and you are
totally tired what life is this so where
is the sakinah that the husband should have
but if you are at home so the
sakinah will be there so the husband comes
totally exhausted upset tired he finds
you at home receiving him consoling him you
are the shoulder in which he cries you
are the shoulder that he cries on you
are the person that he brings out his
feelings you are the person in whom he
combines so you have this peace and sakinah
that you may dwell in tranquility with them
he made between you husband and wife what
what does this affection mercy compassion
because you see my dear brothers and sisters
the more you live together this love for
each other and affection gets stronger and stronger
because you start to understand each other in
the beginning in the honeymoon and few months
after that the graph of the marital life
is like this the the graph is ups
downs ups downs you know why early days
of the marriage ups down ups and downs
absolutely no stability why because this is we
are discovering each other knowing each other because
a human being is very complex being feelings
moods emotions so to know that it will
require time you need to study so the
smart woman is the one who knows her
husband and studies her husband and knows his
psychology and how he thinks and how he
works and it is true men are from
Mars and women are from Venus okay so
we need to know each other and you
need to study each other there are moments
in a man needs to be by himself
give him that give him room he wants
to be alone not when he wants to
be alone you invade his privacy
he wants to be by himself but you
are not allowing him to be by himself
you interrupt and you're saying what's wrong with
you my darling what's wrong with you sweetheart
what's wrong with you my husband are you
okay and he's boiling aside and he's telling
you leave me alone and you don't want
to leave him alone because the man needs
he has a problem he has an issue
so he wants to be by himself he
wants he's going to take a decision so
he needs to have peace of mind and
you're not giving him that why because you
don't know your husband yet so you need
to study your husband in the same way
a husband should know his wife she's the
prophet he knows his wife and he knows
Aisha in particular because she was the youngest
so he knows when she is upset when
she is happy and he told her i
know when you are happy i know you're
upset with me upset i know you said
how he asked her how he said when
you are happy and you want to emphasize
from something you say by the lord of
muhammad by the lord of muhammad you mentioned
my name but when you're upset and you
want to say something and emphasize upon that
thing you say by the lord of Ibrahim
you don't mention my name see how observant
the prophet was he said yes that's right
i only avoid mentioning your name many husbands
they are not observant his wife is suffering
she has a problem and he doesn't care
he's inconsiderate that's not what allah teaches us
allah filled our hearts with the this compassion
this love and mercy mercy for a woman
her husband is everything she left her parents
and she's with you so you have to
play many multiple roles multiple roles you have
rahmah in your heart she's your sister she's
your wife she's the mother of your kids
she's your mate she's your bachelor she backs
you up she stands by you she supports
you so you have to do the same
thing for her she should count on you
she should confide in you she can come
to you when she has a problem so
this we should have between us the love
and mercy this affection compassion you
often look and ignore her faults and shortcomings
because you are not perfect neither of you
neither you know her is perfect so you
tolerate each other you overlook the shortcomings and
faults of each other so this he
sympathized with his wife Aisha one day she
was having headache and she was saying have
migraine headache said me too i have headache
you are not alone then
allah draws our attention and reminds us again
in that what is mentioned allah plays love
between you and your wife filled your heart
with mercy and love and compassion these are
signs of some of the signs of allah
azza wa jal part of the signs of
allah subhanahu wa ta'ala so he's saying
in that are signs for those who reflect
we have intelligence to reflect because love comes
after marriage my dear brothers and sisters in
Islam it's not before marriage it's after marriage
a woman you don't know and now you
married her and you start feeling for each
other so who instilled and filled your heart
with that feeling with and the jealousy for
you feel jealous over each other who put
that feeling the one who created us so
when you have strong family so Islam
provides this how to have strong family loving
family healthy childhood for your children and strong
community strong community so Islam offers this and
the non-muslims can learn from Islam another
thing Islam offers being
dutiful to your parents dutifulness to parents this
what non-muslims in the west are missing
children left them or maybe only
one of the parents is alive his wife
also died or the husband died and he
is alone or she is alone but see
what Islam teaches us and what they can
learn and this what Islam offers Allah says
in surah and
we have enjoined on man to be dutiful
obedient and kind to his parents his mother
bears him with hardship and she brings him
forth with hardship and the bearing of him
and the weaning of him is 30 months
let us reflect here this is a divine
command from the creator and
we have enjoined on man to be kind
and dutiful to his parents and see the
ayah says every human being should be kind
to his parents and dutiful to his parents
and my advice here for many of our
brothers and sisters who are reverts when you
become a muslim be kind to your parents
and let them see what Islam has done
to you before you are giving them tough
time coming late creating problems outside
and inside and now you became a calm
person well-mannered kind
helpful obedient dutiful you do the washing and
the hoovering and you collect the garbage the
trash you do the shopping so they will
start to wonder what miracle what happened what
happened to our son this is something unbelievable
that is the most effective way of dawah
through actions your parents my dear brothers and
sisters they did everything for you this is
what Allah reminds us here and this is
what we can share with others and tell
them if you want to have happiness if
you want to save your community if you
want to save your nation this is what
they should do not that you teach the
children if your dad or your mom smacks
you to discipline you because you misbehave this
is the number you dial and in no
time police at your door and they take
the children away from you they
want you to leave the child to misbehave
and then whatever he wants no one can
love you more than your parents because they
feel you're part of them and indeed you
are part of them your
father he spent his blind youth working to
take care of you to send you to
school to collect you from school to pay
the fees and the tuition he did that
for you and your mother we
have commanded and joined on man to be
beautiful and kind to his parents then Allah
mentioned here after he mentioned both of them
he singled out the mother singled out the
mother why he singled out the mother and
I mentioned this before and the ulema they
say that because the things our mothers did
for us we cannot recall the things our
mothers did for us we cannot remember because
we were young we cannot remember when we
were two years old or less than that
or during the pregnancy we don't remember anything
and the moment you start to think and
remember we see only what our father is
doing he takes me out okay takes me
to the park okay he brings me candy
he brings me toys I see only my
father how about the things my mother did
for me I don't see and I can't
recall so Allah reminds you about these things
so he tells us what our mothers did
for us his mother
bore him in her womb his mother bathes
him with hardship yes pregnancy morning sickness vomiting
in the early morning and throwing up Allah
tells us about these things that through this
what your mother went through his mother bathes
him with hardship and brings him forth with
hardship painful suffering during pregnancy some mothers
they will be told by the doctors keep
sleeping on your back for months otherwise you
will have miscarry and you will lose the
child and your mother went for months lying
on her back and the
pregnancy the suffering the pain she went through
and then when she gave birth to you
when she was in the labor labor labor
the contractions any mothers they die in
labor that's why the prophet said he is
shaheedah when a mother dies in labor she's
a martyr she's a martyr and she brings
him forth with hardship and
the bearing of him and the weaning of
him is 30 months after you came out
two years she's breastfeeding you 24 months she's
breastfeeding you she wakes up from her sleep
because you are kind and she breastfeeds you
from she's totally deep in her sleep she
hears you crying she wakes up so Allah
reminds us about that this is what Islam
teaches this is what Islam offers so
pregnancy okay and the period of weaning total
30 months we know the period of this
is a an equation an equation formula pregnancy
blast weaning equals 30 months there are two
unknowns here we know the period of weaning
and breastfeeding that is 24 months okay so
we'll take 30 months which is in the
already on the other side we'll take the
24 months to the other side and we
change the sign so now what remains on
the right side the or on the left
side the weaning the pregnancy on one side
and the other side 30 minus 24 is
six months and that's the minimum period of
pregnancy minimum at the time of Sayyidina Uthman
a woman gave birth after six months and
Sayyidina Uthman wanted to establish the haq on
her he thought that this is
she the woman did something wrong because you
cannot have a child after six months Sayyidina
Ali said no you cannot because Allah says
and then another place well the breastfeeding mother
the mother who suckled their children breastfeed their
children for 24 months two complete years that's
24 so 30 minus 24 is six months
this is okay normal a woman can't give
birth after six months so being
dutiful to the parents and the importance of
the parents and being kind to them that
Islam offers and humanity can learn from Islam
okay because by being kind to the parents
this will make a community healthy no selfishness
okay children they take care of the elders
and they will not be the elders will
not be a burden on the state to
take care of them may Allah keep us
remain steadfast on this beautiful Islam and may
Allah guide all mankind to Islam we want
the people to become Muslims we are not
selfish we invite everyone to this hidayah to
this guidance may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
forgive us our faults and mistakes and ignorance
and may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala unite
our ummah on the haqq and guide our
ummah to this beautiful deen and keep them
keep them remain steadfast on this beautiful deen
and may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala unite
our hearts on the haqq ameen and may
Allah reward all of you my dear brothers
and sisters immensely for your patience and attendance
may Allah reward Sheikh endlessly for his efforts
in educating us ameen the admin couldn't be
here tonight so if with your permission if
you can take some questions sure how can
someone balance going to university and seeking knowledge
of the deen at the same time you
need to this person needs to know how
to manage his time okay we have to
learn time management okay so to strike the
balance and also we have to keep in
mind that when we study any particular discipline
of knowledge whether it is medicine engineering whatever
we need to purify the niyyah so that
it will become part of ibadah so while
you are studying this secular knowledge because by
the way we don't have this dichotomy between
the knowledge of the deen and the knowledge
of the dunya or secular knowledge and religious
knowledge we don't have that the dichotomy because
the dunya is for the akhira as well
so when i study engineering my intention is
to serve al-islam so when you are
studying at night and solving all these complex
equations okay malaika they write hasanat for you
if you have that intention or if you
are studying medicine whatever discipline of knowledge you
study okay you cannot say this is only
dunya no in islam we don't have that
way of thinking while you are studying these
things you are also getting hasanat and that's
why when we read our history we see
the scholars he is a jurist faqih and
he's a physician okay and he's mathematician and
he's a logician yeah this is our islam
this is our deal so my advice for
the questioner is to strike the balance and
you will find time you'll find time if
you plan your day and start your day
with reading the quran don't leave the quran
first thing is the quran you begin your
day with that and you carry on memorizing
because this gives you boost your iman and
strengthens it may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
put barakah in your time and enable you
to strike the balance to do both to
study to know your deen and to also
master this particular discipline of knowledge you are
studying i mean next question please i mean
as-salamu alaykum sheikh this one's quite similar
to the previous one as-salamu alaykum sheikh
my question is scholars spent their lab a
large part of their life serving for our
dean how can a student of knowledge or
a normal practicing muslim serve the dean how
can we contribute to islam everyone can serve
the d everyone islam has room for everyone
everyone according to your ability by being honest
and sincere muslim you are serving your dean
serving your dean by just giving live example
of the true muslim practicing islam that how
that is a way of serving the dean
when the people see this outstanding character and
noble character they start to wonder see our
neighbors they are wonderful beautiful muslims are very
nice very good they are respectful they respect
us they are helpful they are kind so
everyone can conserve the d you give
dawah convey on my behalf even one verse
every muslim knows more than many verses every
muslim knows share say this is the concept
of god tell your friend do you know
the concept of god in islam with the
translation so you
know about the pillars of islam share with
others you know the pillars of ima so
every muslim can help even the ulama they
say even children children in school in primary
one they can serve islam they can talk
to their friends because they are so pure
they are still on the fitrah that their
minds are not and their souls are not
polluted once i read a child in
the class started reverse crying started to cry
so his teacher female she want she rushed
to him to console him what's the problem
my darling my sweetheart what's the problem cute
boy what's the problem he said i love
you said i love you too he said
but you are going to * fire see
the words they come from this pure soul
you're going to jahannam you're going to the
nar you're going to the hellfire that's why
i'm crying because i love you i don't
want you to go to the hellfire said
why said you are not wearing your hijab
these words to her heart this
is jawa from this little young one the
child his teacher because this what has been
taught to him in islam that women should
cover up so when he saw this teacher
he laughs he has this attachment is attached
to her and she is not covering her
hair so he started to cry because he
was having this feeling towards her and he
told her this is dawah even the ulama
my dear brothers and sisters they said even
the sinners they should give dawah to each
other sinners they say those who are sipping
alcohol drinking alcohol alcoholics those who are sitting
in the pub they should give dawah to
each other remind each other one of them
might say guys i think it is about
time it's high time enough is enough guys
we are aging we are getting old let
us wake up
enough let us quit drinking let's quit thinking
finish see how many years we've been drinking
let us quit let us leave it this
is dawah they are serving the deed because
they are reminding each other they know that
this is haram so they need to leave
it so every muslim can't serve the deal
because many they think that serving the dean
is by giving lectures preaching no no no
and perhaps someone who is not a teacher
who's not a sheikh and he is in
higher level of the jannah the sheikh if
he enters the jannah he is here and
that one is above him above him subhanallah
when one of the children of imam ahmad
either salih or abdullah asked his father imam
ahmad said the scholars of hadith they say
bishr al-hafi is not a scholar bishr
al-hafi is one of the pious people
pious men very pious very righteous so he's
saying the scholars of hadith they say bishr
al-hafi is not a scholar imam ahmad
said my son why do we study hadith
why do we spend all these years our
aim and objective is to reach what bishr
al-hafi already got to reach the taqwa
and the fear of allah to have this
taqwa and fear and bishr already had it
that's why they said the salaf they say
knowledge is the fear of allah to have
fear of allah subhanallah so let us remove
this wrong notion and misconception from our minds
that i can serve the deen only by
talking and giving talks and no there are
many ways you can serve your deen is
this clear to the questioner masha'allah very
clear beautiful answer masha'allah assalamu alaykum wa
rahmatullahi wa barakatuh shaykh jazakallah khair and for
the reminder it surely did hit home my
question is i am on my way home
and i asked at the train station if
they had somewhere to pray they didn't i
prayed my salah on the train sitting is
this permissible otherwise if i wait until i
get home i would miss the salah please
advise so she prayed on the train inside
the train yes because there was nowhere to
pray at the station so she prayed sitting
okay and by the time she reaches home
the timing the time will be over yes
inshallah there's no harm there's no harm okay
an atheist who is famous and well educated
at a prestigious university said he does not
believe and questioned a god who would allow
a worm to blind the children in africa
who are already poor how should he be
answered what would be the best way to
help him replying i think to be honest
i didn't get it yesterday an atheist is
a famous yes he's a he's a famous
atheist he said he does not believe and
he questioned god who would allow a worm
as a dude to blind the children in
africa who are already sorry sorry what i'm
what was this one no worm dude okay
the worm okay yes to blind the children
in africa who are already poor how should
he be answered and what would the best
way to help him with this question i
think okay the the atheists are really are
the most stupid ones really though they claim
that they are intellectuals because if you are
intellectual and you use your intellect then you
don't see the signs before your eyes you
don't see yourself this complex machinery who made
you who made you did you create yourself
no did you come from nothing nothing no
because nothing gives nothing nothing gives nothing so
you are made by someone oh
mother nature made me what do you mean
by mother nature define it define it for
me what do you mean mother nature what
is nature what you see is this is
the nature plants animals and animate this is
not nature so what do you mean mother
nature created you or do you call the
creator mother nature did you call the creator
who created your mother nature or you mean
these things that we see created remember i
mentioned in one of the talks that we
are the human beings on the top of
the pyramid and all these three things components
that we see around us in animate plants
animals all for us and serving us and
made subservient to us then animate serves the
plant the plants of the animal the animal
serves you and all this they are serving
you and you are the master and you're
being given the intelligence the intellect and all
these three they don't have then you say
these things they created you or man developed
from one single cell who created that cell
we know nothing doesn't come from nothing nothing
gives nothing so if
you really a rational person you would not
when you think about this body in the
different systems this complex machinery as
i was saying that's
one thing another thing to say because of
the suffering people there is suffering people are
suffer there is famine there is poverty there
is evil so this means there is no
god why people are suffering no this doesn't
prove anything doesn't prove that the god is
not there or they denies the existence of
god doesn't prove that you need to have
explanation that's different but first of all how
can you explain to me my existence and
the existence of this complex cosmos and everything
is an odor and billions of galaxies and
science tells us that at one point nothing
was there and then this cosmos came into
being universe so who brought it into being
who brought this into being by itself regarding
the suffering poverty poverty that evil which we
perceive as evil it's not from god evil
comes from the human being evil comes from
from us human beings who's making them the
the the poor countries both countries who's looting
their resources who's taking their oil selfish
human beings who dumps every year hundreds and
thousands of tons of wheat into the oceans
while people are dying because of famine to
maintain the prices of the who's doing that
human beings who dumps the waste
nuclear waste in the lands of poor countries
and the people are will suffer and suffer
from the radiation human beings so the evil
comes from us not from god evil comes
from the human beings when they violate the
teachings of god the creator of the heavens
and the earth as allah said corruption
corruption appeared on land and in in the
sea and in the sea because of what
the hands of human beings earth who's destroying
the ecological system who's causing is called who's
causing the pollution who's doing that human beings
so all
the problems they come from us not from
god evil from us from the human beings
so my advice that when you have an
interaction or discussion with an atheist don't discuss
these side issues address the root cause the
big question that big existential question how do
you explain your existence how do you explain
it it's either you came from nothing or
you created yourself or you are created by
someone and you will never find the fourth
one did you come from nothing nothing gives
nothing did you create yourself no you are
created and if you are created there must
be a creator is this clear to the
questioner inshallah she will give me the feedback
as-salamu alaykum if a muslim proposes to
a muslima that insists upon working what should
he do he insisted upon what a muslim
he's proposing to a muslima but that muslima
is insisting upon working what should he do
okay my advice for him to talk to
her to quit and to tell her that
i am the one who is responsible to
take care of you and i want you
to stay at home if you are working
from home that's different but i don't want
you to work we want you to take
care of our family unless there are some
compelling circumstances like for example she takes care
of her parents so she has to earn
and he's a teacher in school teaching girls
then they need to discuss the the matter
but if he doesn't want then and she
is adamant and she insists then look for
someone who is ready to to stay at
home to stay at home and take care
of her family because no one is forcing
you and you are not forced to marry
this particular sister and my advice for the
sisters when a proper suitor and a proper
husband to be comes don't put obstacles in
the way you will regret i'm telling you
you will regret because the years will pass
quickly without feeling and then you want a
husband they're not interested because you are advanced
in age you know next question please next
question is can a businessman interact with the
opposite * to gather information ask questions and
comments professionally in order to understand their need
okay so he's doing a survey yes for
him what doesn't he doesn't see a survey
but i mean anything yeah to gather yeah
to gather information yes okay so it is
a survey survey can be done in many
ways can be done by giving papers and
people they fill it so if your clients
are women okay you can ask them would
your mind fill this for the sake of
improving the business or online nowadays you can
make the survey online okay and you can
ask the your clients to to fill the
survey so there are many ways many ways
and if you don't have this and they
those clients they come to you okay and
you ask them what are the products that
you like what are the things that we
can improve if they are official and you
ask this question normally and no how are
you and the women sitting alone by themselves
etc but the the shop or the the
store full of employees and workers and this
is normal clients okay and you ask this
simple question to gather information that's fine though
you need to be professional if you make
the survey either in paper form or the
on the net then you can analyze the
the data and see the what the clients
and the customers they they like and also
if you have database where you will collect
the information of the your sales and you
know the commodities that people they buy frequently
so you can know that people they like
this type of product okay is this clear
to the questioner Inshallah they will let me
know what extent should a wife argue with
her husband it's very common today for a
woman to talk to her husband in any
way she feels like please sheikh advise our
sisters My advice that you should not I
mean argue in the sense that first of
all when your husband comes home and you
know he's tired leave him when he comes
home he's hungry he should find his food
ready hungry man is an angry man then
he wants to take nap he wants to
relax give him that then when you are
sitting together and in a comfy and cozy
atmosphere you can discuss family issues of the
family husband is not a dictator and should
listen to his wife and when you discuss
things rationally with wisdom without criticizing each other
the prophet used to listen to his wife
he used to after Isha to sit down
and chat with his wife he listened to
what Abu Salama told him when the Muslims
they were reluctant to remove their she told
him oh prophet of allah don't blame them
just go out and ask your baba to
to start shaving your hair and when they
see you do that they will follow you
and that is exactly what happened so the
prophet he asked his wife Abu Salama what
should I do and and he followed her
advice so this is how we should live
but keep nagging nagging this is what I
meant they don't like the you need to
know the nature of men and I advise
every sister to read that beautiful book which
is free download it now on the net
men are from mars and women are from
venus read it so you know how men
think you should know don't believe the what
the novels and all this or the media
these are imaginary things they don't exist in
reality so you need to face the reality
and know how to understand your partner so
read that book a woman should study and
know her husband she knows from his gesture
she knows she knows him in and out
and that will make their marital life successful
is this clear to the questioner inshallah
sheikh my question is when we talk to
the blind followers deviant sects if we mention
the corrupted things written in their books by
such and such a scholar and then give
them data to the right akida is it
considered as backbiting about the scholar who wrote
that book okay you see
when we talk about something which is wrong
we should not the adam they are in
islam we have etiquettes we have manners we
have adam who have to follow that's number
one number two who should criticize and who
should joke if you are not a scholar
okay and you are not qualified this is
my advice to the brothers and sisters you're
not qualified so let those who are qualified
to do the job to talk but if
as a piece of advice someone asked you
what do you think of this book or
this sheikh then you mention to the questioner
or the one who's seeking the advice what
ulama and scholars said and what they should
mentioned about this particular book and the mistakes
exist therein so you are on the safe
side you are only reporting and conveying what
scholars and the critics said about this particular
book or this particular person but what happens
nowadays find young men and young women and
they are still started practicing islam and they
indulge into this backbiting and slandering and belittling
of the scholars and and labeling the scholar
this scholar is deviant this scholar is that
this color okay so i warn my brothers
and sister not to follow this slippery path
not to walk on this slippery path is
this clear to the questioner yes inshallah there's
also an addition to the question regarding a
sister working what happens if a husband is
not providing was working in the past but
not anymore what should the sister do in
this situation so they are married now yes
married but the husband is not providing at
the moment he was working in the past
but not anymore so i'm gathering that the
sister's working okay and now it is so
the the sister became the bread gainer and
he is the babysitter right things are reversed
now what type of man is this unless
there is reason he's sick he's cannot work
he has something happened to him in this
case they they have to work out what
to do because they need to earn their
livelihood and if the sister they agreed that
he is going to work and the atmosphere
suits her nature as a woman she's working
with women teacher or the atmosphere is a
female atmosphere and there is no risk that
he is going to lose her dean and
the family also will not be affected that's
okay it's up to them they have to
decide and agree and what is the right
way and solution for their problem but under
normal circumstances it is the man who has
to take care of his family is this
clear to the questioner yes yes inshallah sheikh
and that was the last question that was
the last question yes that was the last
question yes alhamdulillah my dear brothers and sister
may allah protect you may allah subhanahu wa'ta
'ala bless you bless your family and make
all your marital relationships healthy and happy ameen
and may allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala increase our
knowledge in the deen and may allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala keep us remain steadfast on this
beautiful deen wallahi it is a beautiful deen
al-islam and may allah reward you immensely
for your patience and attendance and may allah
elevate your status in this dunya and in
the akhirah ameen until we meet inshallah in
our coming session i leave you in allah's
company and protection