Sajid Ahmed Umar – Pearls Of Wisdom – Is Your Marriage Special?

			Marriage is for a lifetime, not just for life. This is the reality of marriage from an Islamic
perspective. It's not just about procreation. It's about
		

			a union that lasts the span of a lifetime. Just like Pamela, the union between the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Khadija Nagila who had that even after she passed away, Pamela, he
would hear the voice of her friend and Subhanallah he would
		

			recollect the emotions that were attached to Khadija robiola one.
		

			That's a marriage for a lifetime, right? That's a marriage in which when one party passes away, the
other lives upon the Sunnah for the sake of Allah, to be the best that they can be yearning to be
reunited with the party that passed away in the year after.
		

			And this is the reality of the Muslim marriage, the Muslim Union, the Muslim family.
		

			It's far more substantial brothers and sisters in Islam, and it has to be because after the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wasallam. There's no other prophet. There's no other messenger.
		

			The solution to mankind is the Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because collectively that oma
carries the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam
		

			and we know that an oma is nothing but a makeup of families. And the family starts with a union
between a man and a woman. If that is substantial, it has a domino effect in terms of substantiality
raising substantial children building substantial communities, which make up a substantial oma, no
doubt this oma is one
		

			that has to be stamped substantial because this is the oma that was sent to give them not to take.
It is the solution for humanity. This oma is the oma of inviting towards good and being advocates
against evil. And that is where Allah subhanho wa Taala says women AR T and Hala Pilar comin and
fusi calm as YG Lita school ilaha illa Bina Kuma datawatch in Luffy Delica, Allah Subhana Allah,
Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah says, from the signs of Allah, from you know, what science from the
science of Allah's existence, and that is the creator, the maker, the Sustainer and he is one in his
lordship and the only one worthy of worship so he's one in his worship, which means he's one in his
		

			names and qualities and attributes subhanho wa Taala from his side from the signs that teach us this
is that he created from us our partner, the Tesco area, so that we may seek contentment from her and
she may seek her contentment from him. And this contentment formulates the base for everything
substantial to be built upon.
		

			Would you ever been a commodity Guatemala places between them love and mercy? So it's God given
panela when it's done right, what is done upon the sun, when it's done with the correct paradigms
when people are in it? Not selfishly, but selflessly. Allah has in it, a divine blessing more than
Rama, love and mercy muda is Subhanallah Love is not a translation really that gives us the, the
true understanding of what moda entails because my word there really represents manifested love
		

			manifested love, such as love that you have in the heart, but it's a love which the other party
feels and experiences when she's with you. She experiences it when you are with her you you
experience it, you experience it in how she maintains your home she experiences it in how you
maintain your relationship with her handler and you both experience it in how the children are
raised and how she is with your in her in laws and how you are with your in laws and so on and so
forth. It's manifested Lavoie Rama and mercy Subhana Allah and some of the scholars have said messy
here refers to the children of that marriage.
		

			The Illa Hydra line Yes, the children can be a mess if they raise substantially as well because
Allah subhanho wa Taala says we're living in Amman with Bertram Doria to whom Be a man and how can I
beat him to reata mama I let him know who mean I met him in shape.
		

			Allah subhanho wa Taala says as for those who believe and they children follow them in faith, they
raise their children well, so the apostle as Muslims as well. Allah says Allah will raise the Allah
will bring the family together in the highest paradise as the scholars of tafsir explained the
stress. That is the children at a higher level of Paradise and the parents at a lower level of
Paradise and the children will be a mercy to those parents for Allah will raise the parents to that
higher level imperative
		

			So they can be together a family in Jannah as they were a family for the sake of Allah on earth.
		

			So this is a brothers and sisters in Islam. Now let's just go a little bit back and focus on this
point in which Allah subhanho wa Taala and said Lita school,
		

			you seek contentment from her, as she seeks contentment from you, because marriage is a union right?
So we understand it holistically.
		

			Whereas this contentment, what does this contentment really mean? It means that together, you become
a means of worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala in a greater way of building your agenda in a way
that you couldn't had you not been together with each other. Because this is where contentment is
brothers and sisters in Islam contentment is in living in the remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala
for Allah says, Allah be the killer, he talked to my envelope. Allah be the karela he taught my
Indian pollute. It is through living in the remembrance of Allah where the hearts find the intimate
and and it finds its contentment and serenity and peace and solace. That's where it is, when both
		

			parties are in this marriage for the sake of Allah alone. And they are a means for each other to
build gender because both understand that from our time on Earth from the time we were born to the
time we pass away, we are in a gender building exercise, and we're going to continue building gender
but in a way that we couldn't do before had we had we been in a relationship before the Nika we
would be burning our agenda and building our agenda. But through Nika we build gender together this
act so Pamela, that we can build gender through that we could never do except if we want that. So
		

			that's a whole long discussion, but just to keep focused on on the idea so we don't lose track the
concept of of this. Nina, this concept of solace and serenity and contentment is for living in the
remembrance of Allah and living in the remembrance of Allah doesn't just mean that you know, you
keep your tongue moist with the remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala it means that but it means
more it means living in a way through which you understand that your purpose
		

			through which you do things and for which you do things is Allah subhanho wa Taala even marriage for
the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala to celebrate
		

			to be a sign from the signs of Allah subhanho wa Taala being one in his lordship in his worship in
his names and attributes and so on and so forth. Right? This is your your you make Allah your
purpose for everything that you do thus you live in the remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala and
there's a wonderful narration in soon in the V dellwood. Narrated by Abu Dhabi Allah one and the
narration is authentic because mmm a Buddha would whenever he mentioned the narration and remain
silent about it, when he considers it authentic and relevant to to use to deduce Islamic rulings
from as we know in his letter to the people of Mk.
		

			He was obviously a scholar of Hadith and he was from the students of Imam Ahmed or him Allah, and
then a man in his own right.
		

			He mentions his relation which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Rahim Allah who are
fraudulent karma meaning late for Salah, a father in Murata hufa in Abbot Nava Houthi YG. He had met
Allah, how beautiful is this? Right? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said May Allah's mercy
be upon a man who gets up during the night and performs salah and then he awakens his wife to pray.
And if she's too tired to she's finding it difficult to he sprinkles, sprinkles of water on her face
to make her get up. sprinkling brothers? No, no buckets of water, no cups of water. Just Just
Brinkley, right? Because this is supposed to be agenda building exercise. Right? Not a volcanic
		

			how eruption. You get what I'm saying? And also the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam says Rahim
Allah Ratan comet middle lane for salat wa a soldier in another heartbeat? What do you heal of same
thing about the female she gets up to praying that she tries to wake up her husband and he's finding
it difficult. So she sprinkles on his face water and they get up in the worship of Allah Subhana
Allah. If you weren't married, you couldn't build gender like this. If you were sprinkling on each
other's faces water at that time of the night. This would be definitely a jahannam building exercise
a Hellfire building program. But if you're married, it's panela. Its agenda building exercise. And
		

			like this, they are together for the sake of Allah in the remembrance of Allah and thus they receive
contentment from each other for each other. And that's a marriage that is built for a lifetime. And
not just for like, I just want to highlight one point help us understand this. Imagine the triangle,
		

			a triangle, right? So you have the point at the top and you have the two points at the bottom.
		

			Imagine writing your name at one point at the bottom and your spouse's name at the other end. At the
bottom and at the top point, right, Allah's name at the top point right Allah is me right now.
		

			Imagine both you and your spouse going up the triangle to get closer to Allah. Imagine that. So
you're both living for the sake of allowing the marriage your wife for the sake of Allah his or her
husband for the sake of Allah, your husband for the sake of Allah, you both going up the triangle
because you're doing it for the sake of Allah. What happens to the distance between husband and wife
as they go up the triangle? Does it did it become further apart or closer together? No doubt they
become closer together Subhan Allah subhanho wa Taala right, so you become closer together, making
Allah subhanho wa Taala the purpose for everything that you do living for his sake alone upon the
		

			Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam Allah bless our marriages. Bless us as spouses we almost
panel with Allah bless us to raise substantial children and create substantial communities so that
we play our part in building a substantial Omar Omar Mohammed Abdullah Abdullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam