Saif Morad – Speak Good or Remain Silent Principles For A Good Life #1
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The speaker discusses the importance of having control over one's emotions and controlling one's behavior in order to achieve success. They emphasize the need for mastery over emotions and the importance of learning to speak the best words in a good way. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of mastering emotions and listening to others' instructions to improve one's behavior.
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Allah created us to know him,
to love him, to worship him.
And we do this by living in this
world, by being a part of society.
We go out and we learn,
And we earn a living.
And we have relationships
with others.
And the Quran and the Sunnah has given
us all the instructions we need to succeed.
It teaches us how to behave, how to
interact with one another, how to speak.
All the principles for a good life are
laid out.
And one of the Quranic principles for a
good life
is to always speak good or remain silent.
Frustrated,
irritated, even angry.
And we're going to want to act on
these emotions.
But a Muslim must always be in control
of their emotions
and always try to speak good.
Not only do we say good
words that have good meanings,
but also we say it in a good
way.
And this is applicable in every area
with our parents, with our friends, with our
spouses, with our children, with our siblings,
when we go out to work, at the
grocery store, in every situation,
we must try our best to speak good.
This is a command from Allah telling us
to speak that which is good, to always
choose the best words in the best speech.
Imam al Khortubi mentioned that this ayah was
revealed regarding Umar bin Khattar
that a man cursed him
and Ummad retaliated and wanted to beat this
person up.
And Allah revealed this ayah telling the believers
to always speak that which is good
because Shaytan wants to cause corruption between us.
He wants to ruin our relationships.
He sees us from places that we cannot
see Him.
He knows our weaknesses. He knows the times
when we're most vulnerable.
He knows our triggers better than we know
ourselves.
And he waits for that moment
that when the time comes he will make
us say that which is bad,
that which will ruin our relationships.
Because Allah tells us that Shaytan is a
clear enemy
for insan, for the human being.
So we need to have mastery over our
emotions, control over our tongue so that we
always speak good. Now this doesn't mean that
we don't get upset, that we don't feel
anger.
Rather it means that we feel this emotion
and we understand what's going on.
We know what emotion we're feeling
and we manage it in the correct way.
This is what's called emotional intelligence
and it is very important that we have
control over our tongue
because how many times have we seen that
one word, one sentence
can ruin a relationship,
can ruin a marriage, can crush somebody,
can ruin a friendship,
and can even get you punched in the
face?
Allah tells us about the Ibadul Rahman,
the qualities of the servants of the Most
Merciful.
When the ignorant people say to them something
that they dislike,
they respond by saying that which is better
because they understand that self control is strength.
You don't let ignorant people dictate how their
emotions are gonna be.
Rather they have control over their moods and
their behaviors.
And they say that which is good in
order to please Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, in
order to be from His special slaves.
And this is easier said than done because
Allah will put us in situations where we'll
be tested
to see whether or not we have control
over our tongue, whether we'll say the right
thing or not, especially with our parents and
our spouses and our children and our siblings
Because
it's easy to be nice outside
at the grocery store, at work, at school.
But what happens when we're tired and we
go home
and we get irritated?
Are we still able to hold our tongue?
Think about how good it would be if
we had control over our tongue,
if we mastered our emotions,
how good our relationships would be if we
only spoke that which is good.
The next time you get upset
and feel your emotions riling up,
remember the verse that was recited
and also try to remember the hadith of
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam in which
he said
that whoever believes in Allah and the last
day,
then let them speak good or remain silent.
If we can't say that which is good,
then at least we should stay silent.
And if we mess up, we should immediately
apologize. We should not delay. We should ask
Allah to forgive us. And then we should
ask ourselves what went wrong
and how can I improve on this? How
can I be better?
Because we never know. One good word that
we say
can be so beloved to Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala that can be the means of Him
showering us with His mercy and His blessings.
May Allah bless every single one of you
guys for listening. Until next time, assalamu alaikum,
marahmatullahi
wabarakatuh.