Saif Morad – How The Prophet PBUH Dealt With Someone Wanting Permission For Zina Deen Coaching

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The importance of avoiding certain situations and not reacting in a negative way is emphasized. The speaker also emphasizes the need to address problems and conditioning behavior. The speaker uses examples of behavior from various people, including his own mother and aunts. The focus is on finding one's own mistake and avoiding pattern.

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			During the time of the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
		
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			Wasallam when he was sitting with his companions,
		
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			a young man came and he asked for
		
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			permission to commit zina.
		
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			We're gonna look at this hadith and see
		
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			how the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam dealt with
		
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			him
		
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			that led to this young man transforming his
		
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			life and never thinking about that again.
		
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			So while the prophet
		
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			was with his companions, a young man came,
		
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			and in front of them, he asked for
		
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			permission
		
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			to commit zina. He said, oh, You Rasulullah,
		
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			will you give me permission to commit adultery?
		
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			And the Sahaba, the people who were around
		
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			him, they all started reacting. He said, hey.
		
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			Be quiet. Be quiet. But the prophet
		
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			he didn't react.
		
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			Instead, he told him to come closer, and
		
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			then he invited him to sit with him.
		
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			And the young man, he sat with him.
		
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			So in this situation,
		
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			this is such a crucial
		
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			situation right here.
		
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			And we need to ask ourselves
		
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			that, do we have this level of approachability
		
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			when it comes to other people?
		
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			Whether we're parents,
		
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			teachers,
		
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			leaders in the community, you know, any type
		
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			of position we have that we have authority
		
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			over other people. Are we approachable?
		
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			Especially for people who are struggling. For kids
		
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			who struggle with certain something, are they able
		
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			to approach us with their problems?
		
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			Because we see here that this young man,
		
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			he knew this thing was because
		
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			he's asking for permission to do it. So
		
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			he knew it is something that Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala does not like.
		
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			But he's overwhelmed with his desire, so he
		
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			comes to the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
		
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			and asking for permission in front of everybody.
		
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			And everyone reacts to him.
		
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			And this is a problem because, you know,
		
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			when we have things that we struggle with
		
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			and we go to people who are supposed
		
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			to be able to help us and they
		
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			react,
		
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			how does that impact us? Are we gonna
		
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			continue? Are we gonna open up to them?
		
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			Or are we gonna shut down? Because we
		
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			start feeling judged
		
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			that, you know, this is a problem. I'm
		
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			getting judged for this. So what's the even
		
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			point of addressing this with these people?
		
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			Well, you see the prophet
		
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			he made this young person come closer to
		
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			him. So he understood his struggle, and he
		
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			made him feel understood without even saying anything
		
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			yet. But he gave him that safe space.
		
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			He allowed him to come and sit with
		
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			him
		
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			before he started to deal with the problem.
		
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			So this is very key that we need
		
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			to ask ourselves that are
		
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			people able to approach us? Are kids able
		
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			to approach us and come to us with
		
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			their problems? Because if they don't come to
		
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			us with their problems, they don't feel safe,
		
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			they don't feel comfortable to do that, then
		
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			who are they gonna go to? And what
		
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			kind of advice
		
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			are those people gonna give them?
		
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			So we have to be careful that when
		
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			something happens,
		
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			we don't react in a way that's gonna
		
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			turn them off. This happened so many times.
		
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			Even when I was younger, I would not
		
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			wanna see a certain person in the masjid
		
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			because
		
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			I felt that this person was gonna judge
		
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			me, was gonna look down upon me.
		
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			So it was more easier to avoid that
		
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			situation altogether.
		
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			Then the prophet
		
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			made him sit down beside him and he
		
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			asked him a series of questions.
		
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			And he said, would you like that for
		
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			your mother? And then the young man responded
		
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			and said, no. By Allah,
		
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			may my life be sacrificed for you. And
		
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			then the prophet
		
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			told him that other people will not like
		
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			that for their mothers as well. He asked
		
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			him, would you like that for your sister
		
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			or your daughter?
		
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			And he said that no, by Allah. And
		
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			the prophet
		
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			said that people would not like that for
		
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			their daughters either.
		
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			And then he said, would you like that
		
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			for your sister? Said, no, by Allah. May
		
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			my life be sacrificed for you. So he
		
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			said people would not like that for their
		
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			sisters either.
		
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			And then he asked him a 4th time,
		
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			would you like that for your aunt?
		
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			And he said, no, by Allah. May my
		
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			life be sacrificed for you. So he said
		
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			that people will not like that for their
		
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			ants either.
		
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			So we see here in this situation, the
		
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			prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam did not react
		
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			to me. He did not start telling him
		
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			that, you know, this is something that is
		
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			haram, you should not do this, major sin.
		
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			This
		
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			this young person, he understood that.
		
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			And this is like the wisdom of the
		
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			prophet
		
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			where he understands the situation,
		
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			and he knows exactly how to deal with
		
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			this person. So what he did here was
		
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			he asked a series of questions that got
		
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			his focus to shift.
		
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			So instead of thinking of himself, because when
		
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			we think about our desires, we become preoccupied
		
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			with our ego. We only care about satisfying
		
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			our desires. We're not worried about the consequences
		
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			that's gonna have on our life and also
		
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			on other people's lives as well. So the
		
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			prophet
		
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			he asked him a very powerful question that
		
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			got his focus to completely shift. So he
		
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			went to one of the most, if not
		
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			the most beloved person to this individual,
		
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			which is his mother.
		
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			He said, no, by Allah, I would never
		
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			lie to Tafrada, my mother.
		
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			That is the natural reaction is gonna be
		
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			like that.
		
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			And the prophet
		
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			could have ended with that question because the
		
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			person he saw But the thing is we
		
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			have to be able to condition our behavior.
		
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			Because sometimes at the first sign, we don't
		
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			get it. The first instance, we don't get
		
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			it. So the prophet
		
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			then start asking about his daughter, his sister,
		
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			his aunts
		
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			to kinda condition that behavior within him to
		
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			start thinking about other people. So through these
		
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			questions, the prophet
		
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			is conditioning his mind.
		
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			He's he made him feel understood.
		
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			He understood what the problem was.
		
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			He directed his focus to something else, but
		
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			then he conditioned his behavior as well to
		
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			be continuously thinking about that. And then the
		
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			prophet
		
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			took his hand and he put it on
		
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			this young man, and he made a dua
		
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			for him
		
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			That he said, Allahumma firdamba,
		
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			wataherqalbaahuwahasinfarjahu.
		
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			Oh, Allah forgive his sin,
		
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			purify his heart,
		
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			and protect his chastity, protect his.
		
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			So here we see the sincerity of the
		
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			prophet, salallahu alaihi wa sallam, wanting good for
		
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			this person. You know, how many times have
		
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			we sincerely made dua for somebody? Not just
		
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			on the surface level, we say, may Allah
		
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			make things easy for you. We actually, genuinely,
		
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			from our heart, ask Allah
		
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			to relieve a person from the difficulties that
		
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			they're going through. And this is the dua
		
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			of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam that
		
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			had an impact on this individual so much
		
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			that after that, he never was inclined to
		
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			any sort of bad terrible behavior.
		
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			And then in another narration, the prophet
		
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			told him that hate what Allah
		
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			hates
		
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			and love for your brother that which you
		
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			love for yourself. So once again, he's shifting
		
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			his focus to a higher purpose to be
		
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			mindful of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. Because when
		
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			we're overcome with desire and we're committing these
		
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			sins, we're not thinking of Allah Subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala. We're not thinking that he's watching us.
		
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			When our mindfulness changes, when our presence changes,
		
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			that we're aware that Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			is watching us,
		
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			then we're gonna be shy. We're gonna be
		
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			hesitant. We're not gonna go towards that sin.
		
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			But when we're overcome with our ego and
		
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			we're only thinking about ourselves, we're not thinking
		
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			about other people, then it becomes very easy.
		
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			This is how shaitan. He deceives us. It
		
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			becomes easy to fall into that sin. And
		
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			then once again, he tells him that love
		
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			for your brother that which you love for
		
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			yourself. Love for your sister that which you
		
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			love for yourself. And imagine we actually applied
		
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			this hadith, this principle in our lives. And
		
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			not just, like, in the community,
		
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			but with our own family members. We spoke
		
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			to them how we would like to be
		
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			spoken to. We would dealt with them the
		
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			way that we would like to be dealt
		
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			with. Imagine the transformation that we would have
		
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			on our relationships, on our own individual life.