Saad Tasleem – Shaadi Season – Episode 09 – Relationship Advice – 5 Tips for the Newly Married

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu. Okay, so five tips for the newly married.
		

			Number one, don't be afraid to disagree. It's common that when people first get married, they're in
that lovey w phase. And when they see something in their spouse, they don't like they don't really
bring it up, they don't address it. And they just live their life in that way, until they find
themselves in a position one day, maybe after the honeymoon phase is over after a year or so, where
they have some type of conflict. They disagree, they strongly disagree with their spouse, and they
don't know how to deal with this conflict. And they don't know how to deal with it is because they
never trained themselves. When it comes to conflict resolution, they don't know how to disagree with
		

			their spouse. And we've had a lot, it's actually, like I said, it's better that if you have a
disagreement or you disagree with your spouse, it's okay to disagree with them. Even in the
beginning of the relationship, what you're doing is you're establishing habits that will continue or
establishing good habits of how to deal with conflict that will continue on in the future of your
relationship as well. Number two, educate yourself about marriage and relationships. If you haven't
done this before marriage, which is actually the proper time to do it. But if you haven't done it
before, at least now, educate yourself about marriage, for example, the fear of marriage, Islamic
		

			part of it, the fear of marriage, and relationships. But even when it comes to communication, and
conflict resolution, educate yourself about this, it's not too late. Do it now. Number three, learn
about the differences between the genders. The reality is that men and women are different. There
are many ways in which we're different. We behave in different ways we deal with issues in different
ways. There are psychological differences between differences between men and women. One of the
biggest mistakes that people make when they're married, is to treat the opposite gender, just like
the way they would want to be treated. And so educate yourself. And like with the previous point,
		

			this should be done before you get married. But if you haven't done it, then at least do it. Now
educate yourself about the differences between men and women. Number four, learn together so that
you may improve together. If you put yourself in the habit from the beginning of your relationship
of learning, starting with Islam, obviously, improving your relationship with last pet together,
this is a habit that will continue on in the rest of your relationship. And this is something
inshallah, that you can pass on to your children as well. If you're learning together, you're
improving together. And the more you improve your relationship with the last panel of data, the more
		

			it will help the relationship between the two of you. Lastly, number five, and this may seem a
little odd to some people. But trust me, this is important. Make a budget. Now you're asking what is
it? What do you mean make a budget? What does that have to do with all these other pieces of advice
that you're giving me make a budget, because one of the and I mentioned this in a previous video
before, but one of the main causes of divorce is financial problems or financial issues. And so from
the beginning of the relationship, if you make a budget and you have your expectations laid out in
terms of how much how much you're supposed to spend, how much what you're supposed to spend on what
		

			you're not supposed to spend on to lay down your financial expectations from one another. This can
save a lot of conflict that can occur later on in the relationship. So lastly, and I know this may
say this may sound strange to you, but sit down with your new wife or sit down with your new husband
and make a budget for your life. And Allah Subhana Allah knows best. Until next time, inshallah Jada
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