Saad Tasleem – Episode 01 – She Said Yes! Wedding Engagement Pitfalls

			Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Okay, engagements.
		

			So first of all, I would like to clarify the difference between Islamic engagements and non Islamic
engagements. Normally, when people think of engagements, they think that basically after the
engagement takes place, a guy and girl can hang out with each other in the way that they couldn't do
so before the engagement, they can go places together, they can do things together. Islamic
engagements, on the other hand, mean that a guy and girl have simply agreed to marry one another.
And that's it, nothing else changes in their relationship, just as before the relationship, they
wouldn't hang out together alone. Likewise, after the relationship after the engagement, they won't
		

			hang out with each other alone, either. There's a lot of dangers when it comes to non Islamic
engagements. For example, people start spending time or another and it's normal for them to develop
feelings for one another. And they may start doing things that are not allowed for them. Because
let's face it, it's an engagement. They're not married. What happened in some of these engagements
is that engagement don't always end up in marriage, because not all engagements work out. So a lot
of the problems that come from dating come up, in this case, too. So just like if you were dating
someone, and you broke up with them, and the problems that would come from that creep into this type
		

			of non Islamic engagement, as well. And I'll just give you one example of that. In a non Islamic
type of engagement, people after they're engaged, they start talking, and they start getting used to
one another, and then they begin to see each other's weaknesses, because let's face it, we all have
weaknesses. And when this person begins to see the other person's weaknesses, they may begin to
doubt whether this person is right for them or not. And the engagement breaks off and the wedding
breaks off. And this person has put themselves in a situation where they went from being all comfy
with this person to you know what, we're not engaged anymore, and we're not getting married anymore.
		

			And so Subhanallah basically, you're in a position where you were emotionally invested, and you were
physically invested in this person. And now what a waste. And that's how a lot is just one example
of the problems that come from non Islamic types of engagements. And this is one of the reasons why
engagement is considered or that type of engagement is considered non Islamic. Lastly, I'll say
this, if you're engaged to someone, you need to be careful of your interaction with that person,
keep it Islamic, keep it Helen and a Lost Planet Allah knows best. Until next time, inshallah Tada.
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