Saad Tasleem – Can You Do Me a Favor

			Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh and welcome to another raw vlog. Now if this is your
first time watching one of my raw vlogs, this is basically a video where I get to be straight up
with you, I get to be open, and just kind of fleshed out a topic that I may be thinking about or
something that I may have noticed. So today, I want to talk to you about asking someone for a favor.
Now the specific point that I want to highlight here, the specific point that I want to address is
asking someone to do something, when we know that they really don't want to do it, but we asked
them, because we know that they respect us, and they'll do it anyway. Or we know that they would
		

			feel bad to say no. And so they would do it anyway. And therefore we go ahead and ask them. Now,
this is not something which is okay. And this is not from good character, that we asked someone to
do something that they may not be comfortable with, and or something that they may not want to do.
But as I said, they feel compelled to do it, because we're asking them, and it may be because
someone is older, it may be because the person respects us or maybe because you know, they feel shy
to say no. And it's particularly crummy on our part. When we know as I said, we know the person
doesn't want to do it. And we know that they're only going to say yes, or they're only do it because
		

			of who we are. Now, as I said that's not okay. And that's from bad character to do that. And I know
some people may say, Well, is that how long is it something which is impermissible. Now, we need to
understand that there's a difference between that which is permissible, and that which is
recommended, or that which is preferred. So you know, the President and he said in the birth to
Lieutenant NEMA slot, he said, I've been sent to perfect, good character. So it's not just like a
average level of character that this is, you know, this is acceptable, we have to be at a higher
level of character, we have to be at a higher level of interaction, especially as Muslims that we
		

			need to be our best. And we need to take into account how people feel. Now, obviously, there's
exceptions. There's always exceptions in these cases. So an exception to this may be like a parent
and their child, for example, a parent tells their child, hey, go clean your room, like, obviously,
the child doesn't want to clean the room, but this is their parent, and they tell them to do it, and
they're gonna do it anyway. Or, for example, we know that something is good for someone, and
therefore we ask them to do it. So for example, someone says, Hey, can you help me make a decision
about something and we say, hey, go pray staccato, right, go ask Allah for help in deciding. And
		

			they're like, Yeah, I don't know if I really want to do that. But here, we ask them to do it, or we
tell them to do it. Because we know this is better for them. These types of situations, these types
of cases, they are the exception. But the default is that we never ever, ever want to put someone in
a situation that they're not comfortable with. We never want to make someone do something that they
don't want to do. And another point here, by the way, it's important for us to understand that
sometimes a person's reasoning may not make sense to us, or we may not fully understand someone's
reasoning for being uncomfortable with something. And therefore we think it's okay to compel them to
		

			do it, right. Like, oh, they don't have a real reason for saying no, or they don't have a real
reason for not wanting to do it. Therefore, it's okay for me to tell them to do it, even though they
don't want to do it just because we don't understand their reasoning. Just because their reasoning
doesn't make sense to us. It doesn't make it okay. And that's a principle for us in Islam, that
taking advantage of anyone is not okay, even if it is in something that is permissible or something
which is allowed the fact that they don't want to do it, or they would feel uncomfortable doing it,
where we sense from them that they're kind of uneasy with it, we shouldn't ask them to do it. So I
		

			want to hear from you. Number one, how do you feel about this situation? I know some people may
disagree. But what are your thoughts on this? And as I said, asking someone to do something, when we
know that they don't want to do it and they would do it only because they respect us or they like us
or they don't want to disappoint us. Second of all, as always, I'd love for you to share your
experiences. Have you ever been put in that type of situation? Or have you ever put someone else in
that type of situation? So put it in the comments below and I'm going to try and get back to people
inshallah Tada. As I mentioned my previous video, I'm trying to get more active in my videos and I'm
		

			trying to respond to people usually, the threshold is about a day or two. So the comments that come
in in the first day or two, I'll usually go in and check out the comments and try to respond after
that. Sometimes it's hard to go back and respond to the comments, but if you leave a comment below
inshallah it's out I'll try my best to get back to you and respond. And until next time, as always a
Lost Planet Allah knows best take care of somebody Kumar Abdullah. He