Omar Suleiman – Why Me #16 Why Do They Get The Life I Want
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The speaker discusses the negative impact of giving things without expecting or requesting, as well as the difficulty of avoiding evil behavior and the potential for hardships to lead to betrayal. They stress the importance of understanding and embracing one's own limitations, as well as peace and happiness for individuals. The Prophet dispatched Alaihi Wasallam's victory in Mecca was far more important than any one had experienced, and he provided blessings and guidance to people who wanted to pursue their dreams.
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How did you get here?
And how did they get there?
How do you resolve a problem when you
feel too exhausted to even confront it?
How is it that others seem to have
the blessings you pursued in all the right
ways?
Whereas you have all these problems that they
promised would go away with prayer.
Why does someone else get to have the
life you wanted?
Why do you always seem to get the
shorter end of the stick?
Abdullah ibn Mas'ud radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu narrates, Inna
la abdilayhumu billamrimina
tijarawal imara. Hatayu yasrallahu
that a servant of Allah will want something
of this world of wealth or status until
it has been facilitated for them.
Then as it's on its way to them,
yamdulullahu
ilayhi fayakuulil malaika
aslihahu wa'an Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta A'la looks
at him and says to the angels,
take it away from
him. Fa inyasartuhulahu
atkaltuhunaar
Because if I give him this blessing, then
I'll have to put him in * fire.
Meaning this blessing is going to cause him
the heedlessness
that's going to end up taking him to
*. Fayastrifuu
Anhu So he takes it away from him.
Now what happens to the person?
Yathalu yatatayiro
yakuul
sabakanifulan
dahanifulan
So he keeps on saying, so and so
beat me to it. This person got the
position or the possessions that I thought I
was going to get.
And the whole time it was nothing but
Allah's blessing upon him. The part of the
narration that I want you to pay attention
to here is not the part of Allah
withholding something from that person for his own
good.
It's Allah actually giving it to someone else
and you being able to see it on
someone else.
And you might start wondering if someone interfered
with your Qadr and got what was otherwise
yours.
And that especially becomes painful if the other
person is someone who hurt you before.
Someone else seems to be living your life
or someone else seems to be enjoying what
you earned.
In every generation of people, there were those
who seemed to be so deserving of an
easier life,
but had to put in the hard labor
to make history.
Whereas others had the fruits of that labor
handed to them and lived comfortably despite their
awful characters.
You give and you give and you give,
and you make sure not to offend anyone
and you try your best to help everyone.
But it seems like no one is affording
you that same courtesy.
The prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said, iyakumulhasabfainal
hasada yaqululhasanati
kamaataqulunarul
hapa.
Beware of envy for verily it burns your
good deeds the way that fire burns through
wood.
But before you let envy burn you emotionally
as well,
first understand that we tend to see other
people's blessings
but our own hardships.
But just like there is blessing in our
hardships,
sometimes there is hardship in their blessings.
For those that are evil, Allah Subh'anaHu Wa
Ta A'la says, fala turjibka amwaluhumwala
a'uladuhum
inna mayurid ullahhu liyaathibahumbiha
So let not their wealth or their children
impress you
because Allah only intends to punish them with
those things.
They're being punished with what Allah gave them
because they have no barakah, no blessing in
those things. And so they feel empty.
And not only that,
their money ends up becoming their greatest source
of worry and leads to all sorts of
betrayal.
Their kids who they didn't even try to
raise with righteousness turn on them with that
same wickedness and cause them all sorts of
pain. But we don't see all of that.
We just see the outside.
And this is especially true in the case
of oppressors.
It can be really hard to watch someone
so evil strut around seemingly without any consequences.
Imagine Ammar ibn Yasir radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu watching
Abu Jahl strut around Mecca for 6 years
after he murdered his parents in front of
his own two eyes. But Allah says, wala'aqibatuh
lilmatakeel
The end victory is for the believers.
And for those that aren't necessarily evil but
just don't seem to be as deserving as
you,
It might be that Allah is giving them
a little more of this world because their
hearts are weaker than yours.
And that's the prescription they need for the
moment that they are at right now.
That doesn't mean it isn't annoying when you're
in a position where you've done the most,
but the person who seemingly did nothing at
all is getting all of the worldly reward
and recognition.
I want you to imagine how the Ansar
who took the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam in
during his lowest moments
felt after Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta A'la gave
the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam his highest victory
in Mecca. These people sacrificed
everything for Islam
and Allah praised them exactly for that. Wayuthiroona
aalaandfusihim
They always preferred others to themselves.
And then here you are after all the
struggle
witnessing the conquest of Makkah which was a
victory from Allah and largely through your efforts.
And now you're expecting that you're going to
be recognized.
Then imagine seeing the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam
turn around and give the spoils of kunayim
to the same people that tried to kill
him. The same people that tortured the Muslims
for 2 decades.
The same people that you defended the Muslims
from.
And most of them just became Muslim after
the conquest and now they're getting the spoils
of all of your efforts.
So yes, the Ansar were hurt and they
thought maybe the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
is going to move back to Mecca and
forget about us now.
But then the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam calls
them and he says, aren't you pleased, oh
Ansar,
that these people go home with their money
and their camels,
but you get to go back to Madinah
and you have Rasulullah SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam with
you.
And that was far more precious to them
than anything
because they had a certain afterlife in mind
that was far more important than any type
of life that anyone would want to live
here. And so they were at peace missing
out on the spoils because they knew that
their Prophet Alayhi Salatu Wasallam was still with
them. And that Jannah was still ahead.
Rabaddatul Nussamat radiAllahu Anhu said to his son,
Oh my son, you will never truly taste
the sweetness of faith. Hata ta'lima annamaasabaka
lamyaqunyahdiak
Until you know that what has come to
you was never meant to miss you. Wa
annama aqpaaklam
yakun yoseebak.
And that which has missed you was never
meant to come to you. So as Iblal
Qayeemahhimaw
Allah said, la buddhaminnu foodal qadr fajnahlisil
Destiny is bound to happen so make peace
with it. We don't realize all the ways
that qadr is working out in our favor
even though we think it seems to be
for someone else.
We get tied up with the means, the
people,
the worldly causes to what we want
and we forget what we actually really wanted
in the first place. You didn't really want
that specific person.
You wanted love and companionship, and you thought
it would be found with that person.
So ask Allah for what you really want,
but open yourself up to new possibilities and
trust in Allah's plan.
And sometimes he will place blessings on your
path from places that you least expected.
Wayarzukumunhaifullahiatas,
he provides for you from places that you
least expect.
Inna maja'alaha
mahlala lil ariari.
Wama'adinaliwujoodal
akhdari.
Tazheedanlakafiha.
He has only made the world a place
of others
and a mind for troubles
so that you would not love it. And
you know what's beyond the rizq that awaits
you?
And as Imam Ghazayrahimullah
says about the verse, Alaisallahu bi kafin Abda,
isn't Allah enough for his servant?
That the one who has Allah will feel
like he has everything.
And the one who doesn't have Allah will
feel like he has nothing.
The life that you have in that Masjid
now, in your reading and reciting, in your
praying and listening,
is one that someone on the outside still
trying to find the true source of happiness
would love to have.
But as you're reflecting deeper now over your
own deeds as you're making peace with Allah's
decree,
you may start recalling some of your past
sins again that you were previously distracted from,
especially the ones you committed against other people.