Omar Suleiman – Ramadan Late Night Khatira 07 13 2015
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The speakers discuss the concept of "overbearing" and the importance of protecting oneself and others from the "brdery." They emphasize the importance of avoiding harm and negative behavior, forgiveness, and seeking forgiveness to restore rights. The conversation includes discussion of a potential business deal, working with a cloud-based workforce management platform, and the benefits of working from home, including reduced costs and flexibility.
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spin out? Did he know he Oberon Amin was salatu salam ala Rasulillah Kareem. Why not only he also can be a dummy. So last time we talked about the prereq or we talked about Toba and we introduced this concept of repentance and what Imam Kodama Rahim Allah Tala talks about short. The conditions of Toba and the prerequisites of Toba. We talked about the virtue of Toba the virtue of seeking forgiveness from Allah subhana wa Tada. The next part of this of this chapter is called Bad PBN exam,
which means the chapter of categories of sense the different categories in regards to sense. And he talks about and this is very interesting, because he talks about qualities of sins, and then he talks about the degree of sin. So, it's important to note this, because when he talks about what causes sin, and then what you know, what, what the severity of a sin is, there, there are two different topics. So, when he talks about some of the note when he talks about the different categories, he says that sins fall into four different categories. And this is in regards to the quality of the sin not in regards to the severity of the sin, the severity of the sin major minor,
how major it is, how minor it is, is one thing, but then you have the qualities of sins, the translation is kind of awkward. So, so he says, first of all, he calls the first category of sins,
see factorable B, which means sins that are overbearing sins that overtake one person and he says, from this quality of sin sleeve out to the will be this this quality or this this degree of sin He says woman how you have to sort of Kimber will factor will not.
He says will Jah will there is what one will is there. He says all of these things that have to do with pride. So they're branches of there's pride. There's conceit, there's arrogance, they're showing off herbalists there, that means wanting people to put you on a pedestal. Alright, so he says this is one quality of sin and he says the problem with these sins is that people are usually unaware of them. Okay, so this first quality of sin, the overbearing quality, these are usually sins that we're unaware of, and they're usually sins that have to do with what with our good deeds. And this is the idea here that as we mentioned in the book that was hurtful to Juma and the prophets
lice and M says we're in the suit and hold up that fairly bad character lafc. Dudamel, camera, you'll see the hull acid, that bad character ruins good deeds, the way that vinegar ruins honey. And what the Prophet slicin was talking about is this concept of ruining your good deeds. Almost all of the sins that we mentioned here are things that have to do with good deeds when your Salam becomes sinful. Okay, when your charity becomes sinful, when your fasting becomes sinful when you're volunteering at the masjid or volunteering for some organization becomes sinful, alright. So when Shavon is able to fool you into turning your good deeds into c into sin, so he says that's the first
quality rule will be he says the second quality
a Sania he says Ceefax, st banya satanic sense. So, the first type is overbearing, and what he means by that will be other things that overtake you without you knowing right? When he talks about shape Omnia, he says the sick the satanic type of sins He says you have an asset, you have envy, you have deceit, you have trickery, you have hypocrisy, you have spreading corruption, right? These are things that are wicked in their nature. So he says this quality of sin is satanic shape on the and then he says the third he describes it as sleep fat, Bohemia, which means animalistic sense, animalistic sense. So he says, you know, this, this is regards to greed.
You know, lust, whether it's for, for for things that are physical or things that he mentioned, Zina, well Liwa was studied law. So he mentioned adultery. He mentioned homosexuality, he mentioned stuff, he mentioned stubbornness, he mentioned things basically that have to do with desire. All right, uncontrolled, animalistic desires, if you will, things that overtake you, and you act upon them, and they're your desires. So they're Bohemia. They're animalistic in that nature. And what he means by that is that there are things that would distinguish us as human beings from animals. Right? Allow could
you know, our intellect distinguishes us from animals. Our purpose of worship distinguishes us from animals otherwise, you know, if we're removed from the bad the quality if we're removed from our purpose in life, then we're no different from the animals. The animals like to eat, drink. They have wild desires, they they act out those desires, right without any accountability, except for fear. And then you have, you know, the idea of being territorial. So the point here that's being mentioned is
These are sins that are just uncontrolled desires, not necessarily wicked, not necessarily pride. It's just uncontrolled desires, your desires get the best of you and so they are Bohemia. And then you have the fourth which he which he calls in the Arabic language, he says asleep at
a seborrhea.
Okay.
And these are the vicious since, okay.
So he says from this, you know, you have anger, hatred, physical violence, murder, right when people become aggressive, vicious sense. All right. Now, when he goes through these four qualities of sins, he says that all of these qualities have some sort of graduation in their nature. Right, it starts off, you know, if I tell you have an anger issue, alright, there's a difference between a person who has an anger issue and because they have an anger issue, they raise their voice and a person who, who physically punches somebody every time he gets angry, right, or if a person has an anger issue, where even if they, you know, they bang their fist on a table, as opposed to someone who will take a
glass and throw it. Okay, so there's graduation within these qualities themselves, within our desires, you know, subhanAllah, we live in an age of sexual deviance. And what that means is, you know, just just listen to what, and we can't shy away from this topic, listen to what, listen to what psychologists write about this concept. Okay? That it's an age of hypersexuality. People watch certain, you know, *, and it leads to a graduation of weird, you know, things weird, fetishes, weird, weird ideas start coming into their head, and then things are not satisfying. And they just keep going on and on and on, and on and on. And there's a graduation of these desires. In
fact, men of many of the things that we see these days that are not, you know, that are not normal, or were not considered normal in the past, for sure, are simply, you know, means of hypersexuality they start off as something small and then they graduate into something way, way, way worse. And you know, there are studies that show that you know, people that start to watch certain destructive things and how it leads to more and more and more and more, and they find themselves watching Weird, weird, weird stuff, right? Because there's a graduation of the desire also with Zina. There's a graduation with the desires in it. Is there a difference between someone that slips and commit Zina
one time, and a person that routinely commit Zina. Now it's all Zina and the sin is the same the sin of adultery is the same, it's a horrible sin but what you'll usually find out is that it started off with something like that. Okay, it started off with a low point in life interacting with someone inappropriately you committed Zina once and then it graduated into going to places you know where you routinely come as in you know, soliciting things and so on so forth. It graduates the desire graduates and it becomes much worse. And so you go through these four qualities so let's go through them quickly in sha Allah Tada the the first one the overbearing quality, if Shavon can't get you
with your sins because you know when Shavon comes to you and he invites you to commit a sin, at least you know, you're committing a sin. Right? At least you recognize that this is something bad I'm weak. No one's watching me right now shape on is calling me to something okay. But one shaped bond can convince you that you're doing okay, that you're doing good mashallah, Alec, once a bond can come to you and praise you and induce a means of self praise and admiration. That's extremely dangerous. When he can come to you and say, you know, mashallah, look at what you do compared to what everybody else does. Look at your Salah. Look at your look at your Saba, look at your
volunteering, you know, some of the statements that we make about people, right, where are they? We we've been doing this, we've been doing that, once a fond can come to you and spoil your good deeds, he has you? Why does he have you at that moment? Because you don't recognize that anything is wrong, you're deluded. You're deluded into thinking you're doing something good and Allah subhanaw taala says, Cool, hold on a bit. We'll ask Serena. Shall we tell you who the great losers are? Alladhina Wallace, Johan filha dunya welcome yas Bona, Anna whom you're seeing on a sunnah. They thought they were doing good. They thought they were taking a path of good but in
Look at the story of Calvin and Hobbes, Cain and Abel Allah azza wa jal did not accept from you. Why are you going to go blame your brother? What is your brother have to do with it? Right. But the idea is, it's a means of escaping your own misery, your own internal void by inflicting it on somebody else. You know, I don't have a happy marriage. I just got a divorce. Let me go ruin somebody else's marriage. Okay, let me bring somebody else down with me. It happens. Look, I'll tell you what,
if you heard the things that me and she asked her here on a routine basis, you'd be like, Man, are you serious? Right, there are people that will ruin other marriages because they just got out of a failed marriage. Let me go take my friend's marriage away to let me go talk to my friend about how terrible marriages and letting go and make them miserable, too. All right, and they don't you know, maybe they don't realize that it's a pretty evil agenda. But at the same time, it is it is what it is. Right? It's I want I want someone to to cope with, I want someone to be miserable with me so I can cope.
Right? So that's, that's one level. It's I don't want to call it an innocent wickedness. But it's a wickedness that that's not as manifest it's not as obvious right? As someone that's, that's purposely going out there to ruin other people shape one wants to take as many people to * with him, he's going to *, no matter what, there's no prize at the end of this. Right? If a pond takes a million people to *, or he takes a billion people to help, he's still going to *, and he's still getting the same punishment. At the end of the day, he has no prize, it's a lose lose situation. But you know what, I'm going down, I'm going to take as many of them with me.
And that is a dangerous state to be in. And shape on usually gets you with that quality in your low points at life. Right? If you analyze the psychology of someone that steals someone that harms others, someone that goes and kills innocent people.
The concept you know, I've heard this argument being made to justify certain acts, they kill our children, so we're gonna go kill their children. What did their children have to do with anything? Right, but the idea is, Misery was inflicted on me by this person, I'm gonna go inflict it on somebody else. So people that like to inflict misery on others, because they themselves are miserable and low in life. That's a dangerous state of mind to be in. And subhanAllah. That's why you know, when you talk about headsets, when you talk about envy, and you talk about,
you know, deceit and you talk about hypocrisy, these are the things that are most warned about. These are the things that are most warned about, right, because again, there is a Satanic quality to it. It's like when the man was a Rahim, Allah Tyra talked about the different stages that people are in. And he said, there's a person that's, that's that's, that has just Albacete. He's just simply ignorant. Then there's a person that has gentle maraca, which means compounded ignorance. So ignorance that's taught, and he said, there's a person that is monitored there. That's an innovator. So they think they're doing good, but they're not really doing good. Then he said, There is alfalfa.
There is a person who's wicked, he knows he's doing evil, and he's okay with it. He feels no conscious. So for example, this person when he Why did them one after thing, let me ask you guys this, the origin of hypocrisy, and we talk about hypocrisy in our own context and our own, you know, 21st century American method context, we're talking about a person that just wants to be praised a little bit. But what was a slovenly fuck, why did people really beat Why did people choose to be hypocrites in the time of the Prophet sighs? What was the idea? Sisters Brothers? What was the idea of being a hypocrite back then?
To destroy Islam, why did they want to destroy us now?
To go back to their old ways, not necessarily.
Power,
right? Power agendas, meaning, these hypocrites when they went to Salah when they went out in battle with the Prophet SAW Salem, they wanted to get all the benefits of being a Muslim,
while internally destroying Islam so that they could get all the benefits of being a Catholic too.
See The idea here? They wanted to marry the Muslim women actually read about that, you know, when the Muslims moved to Medina, you know, they wanted to be able to marry Muslim women. So hey, I'm gonna go pose like a Muslim. You have that informant in, in SoCal, I know we have a lot of people from SoCal here didn't I mean he got married, right and those types of things, people get sick once you're in that warped world, you just start getting sicker and sicker and sicker and sicker. It's, it's, you know, it's there's absolutely no shame to it whatsoever. Take advantage of people trick people, meaning you have no conscience whatsoever. And that's why there are two levels of hypocrisy
by the way, I want you guys to understand the type of hypocrisy that's being talked about here is the type of hypocrisy that involves kofler. Disbelief. Why? Because it's the FAC era tea party. It's theological hypocrisy, you are posing as a Muslim. You're not someone who who's questioning himself. Did I come to Russia for Allah? Did I come to Russia? So people would seem you're not someone who's questioning yourself here. You're someone who knows why you're going to the masjid. You know that you're doing it to fool people. Right? So this is the satanic quality or not that that other type of hypocrisy is not that. But if you notice here, that type of hypocrisy falls in the first category.
Right? That type of hypocrisy is to be out and showing off and humbly meant to handle those types of things. It's in the first category. But those qualities eventually as they graduate within themselves, they move on to the next category, they move on to the satanic quality, where you know what, it's just and look, let's face it,
we might reach points in our lives where we stopped trying.
Right? We just stopped trying, I'm not even going to try to convince myself this is for a lot anymore. I know it's not for Allah. So what oh, well, it happens to people. Right? And then it becomes you know, when the when the effort is killed, that it's just about trying to gain as much as you possibly can. Then you have the third quality, which is the animalistic quality, our animalistic desires. Ramadan teaches us to control our desires, a shallot. When your desires get the best of you. When your sins get the best of you. Or I'm sorry, when you're when your sinful thoughts get the best of you. And you start to justify your sins. What does that make you?
Graduates you into? Satanic?
Right, Adam Alayhis Salam sinned out of desire,
bliss and out of pride. IBLEES justified his action. Adam didn't justify his action. So you understand. So it's one thing when you say I have these uncontrolled crazy desires, it's another thing when you start to actually justify those desires. And you start to say, the Quran doesn't say anything about that. That whole story, that's not true. He start to change things. Alright, we say we see it happen all the time, butchered the religion because your desires got the best of you. And what that tells you by the way, is that you would rather please yourself and destroy your relationship with Allah Subhana Allah to Allah in this dunya then then please Allah subhana wa Tada
and restrict yourself from this world. You will you will, you will even go to the extent of butchering text. And let's face it, you know, when we go to all these Halal haram discussions, when you go to a halal haram discussion, and you're already involved in the the issue at hand,
isn't really going to be a fair debate in your own mind. And in your own heart. You're a smoker, you want to know if smoking is haram or not.
Right? When you go and you read the opinions about smoking, what are you actually trying to do? You're trying to find someone to say it's hella
right. You're trying? Why? Because you're not willing to give up the smoking. All right. So when these desires graduate, then they become that, unfortunately, and they start to lead to a different level. And then you have the vicious quality. The sins that are vicious quality, which was category four, anger, hatred, physical violence, murder, you know, it's one thing when, again, it's one thing when you're showing off, or when you want people to think well of you. And it's another thing where you're actually going to go out of your way to harm somebody at that point.
Okay, so to inflict that misery, let me put it to you this way. Let's put it so let's talk about it from a prophetic context, from the context of the Seal of the Prophets lie some of their own context, okay. In the prophetic context, one person is going to be the Khalifa. Or he's going to be the governor of an area. I want to be the governor of an area. Why do I want to be the governor of an area? Because I want people to praise me, right? I want to have that position. Okay. So because I want to have that position, and that person is about to be appointed. I want that position so bad that I'm going to go and harm that person physically or ruin his reputation,
and in some cases, even killed
because I want that position. That's the prophetic context. And that's probably not a context that we're really exposed to. I would hope that no one would ever kill somebody because they want to be on the Valley Ranch messages work. Alright.
might happen in some massage the way things go in America? I don't know like with the message boards, Aloha, my hope May Allah protect us all. But But what's something that could happen in our contexts you want a certain position, for example. And because you want that position, you want to de legitimize the other person.
So it's going to be anger, you're going to fabricate a lie about that person, you're going to slander that person, you're going to backbite that person, you're going to try to bring them down. Look what happens in the scope of Islamic speakers today. I can tell you about that world.
I'm like, Man, why do you hate the guy so much? Allahu Akbar, the way you write about him? It's like he killed your mom.
Right? What did he do to you got more YouTube hits than you. Come on, calm down. Like Subhan Allah, you know, you are waiting for as you are waiting for this person to misspeak. You're you're waiting on the edge of your seat for him to say something that you can grab onto and you can tear him up into pieces.
And you you can read the hate in these posts. How Allah Can't you you? It's like Allah, what did he do to you? Like, man, you hate this guy. More than you hate, you know, more than you hate, like Bashar or something. It's like he killed he killed hundreds of 1000s of people the hatred with which that you can see seeping through these words. But what is it at the end of the day? I want what he has, why does he have that? He doesn't deserve that. I deserve that. When you get to that level, by the way, you're in all four of these things.
Why? Because number one pride, I deserve to be there. Number two, trickery, hypocrisy, you will fool other people. Right? About who you are and who that person is the reality of that person. Number three, desire, right? You have a desire to be famous so that you can get rich so that people can praise you so that you can so that you know so that people could could could find you more attractive, a lot of what it is desired graduates. Number four, you become vicious. You become vicious. It is the saddest thing in the world to see. It's so disappointing because you know, subhanAllah I'm telling you sometimes I used to hear my Messiah talk about other Messiah and I'm
like Allahu Akbar, man, their faces turn red. And like about to cry like this person like, like polluted the world and like, Yo Milltown was coming because this person did a YouTube video.
It's like, Come on, calm down. But hey, it grows, it becomes satanic, it becomes vicious, right? So when you will resort to actually trying to harm somebody and you will hate somebody. Because you're not confident that you can reach any level of success based upon what you have. You're going to try to make other people fail so that you can gain that success. It happens in the corporate world that happens in the masjid board world that happens amongst Imams, it happens amongst everybody. And at the end of the day, you know why it happens because we're human.
All right, mache, are human beings put it in your minds? They're humans, even if they're even if we are constantly saying God Allah will call a lawsuit and giving you this verse where human beings were subject to our desires were subject to our own corruption. And he might know him Rahim Allah to Allah is a beautiful statement he said if you're going to do to clean of an individual if you're going to blindly follow somebody, make sure you blindly follow someone that's already died.
And they said why he said because a living person is still subject to corruption and desires meaning he might be great today. But you know he's gonna want some position he's gonna want some praise and he's gonna go tear somebody up and he's gonna fall into sin don't put all your apples in that basket and you Michelle on we talked about your mama honey for Rahim Allah, Mohammed and so on so forth, these people are gone. And mashallah, what a reputation they have as far as what we can see. Now several women are sleight of hand Allah knows their actual state but we consider them to be from the righteous we're pretty we're fairly confident that their righteous people they're gone May Allah
bless them and reward them for the effort that they did for this OMA they did not allow apparently they did not allow their desires to to make them unethical to make them vicious and to make them do things to other people or to to sacrifice the amount of that Allah subhanaw taala gave to them. Right so I'm gonna email him Rahim. Allah Azza stick to those people.
Because you know, what? May Allah protect me? Everyone say, I mean, please. But one day I might spoil. May Allah protect me from that, but one day, I might, I might. I'm not even saying I'm sincere right now. But maybe the insincerity that's in my heart would overtake me and lead me to a very dangerous place and then all of you who put all your apples in the basket and said, she home or whatever he says is correct. And you know, don't cry.
Just in the chef and he knows what he's talking about.
If I was to fall then you know what's gonna happen your Eman is gonna fall. Don't put all your apples in that basket. We're all human beings we're all subject to this so let's go back to what had been put down Rahim Allah to Allah says He says all of these qualities have some kind of graduation in their nature he says the animal quality dominates first so asleep fat and that he knew asleep that I'll bet he made the animal quality dominates first what does he mean by the animal quality ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada says method or homecare method and am Allah compares some people to cattle. Okay, welcome Amal. They're even further astray. Allah says methadone for methadone who can methyl
kill intact mentally heal has altered recoil. A human being can become like a dog, where their tongue is always out.
Whether there's something in front of them or not.
Meaning Subhan Allah, you wake up in the morning, you don't even need to commit that sin like you, you started for it. You used to commit those sins to get some some sort of desire, but it just becomes like an obligation. It's like Solana.
You know, there was a brother that I knew very closely. Subhanallah, he would go to the club every single Friday night, he missed the Halacha. And he would go to the club every single Friday night, no matter what it's like religiously. Say, what are you doing that? He'd come to me and confess, but I can't quit? Why?
Right? Why? Hollis, it's just, you're just cattle at that point, you're just a dog. At that point, you just go after your desires, you have no self control anymore. You go after people that gamble, get addicted to alcohol, get addicted to *, unfortunately, it becomes like a religious habit. Like, once the environment is created for that sin, I'm gonna commit that sin, whether I feel like it or not, I'm gonna commit that sin.
May Allah protect us, may Allah protect us, especially our young people, especially our youth, may Allah protect you guys. Because the circumstances creates themselves, you're all alone in that room, and then you've got that computer screen, and you don't even feel like watching that stuff. But you go and you watch it anyway, just because the mood is set forth. So when the animalistic desire overtakes us to that point, he sort of starts off with that quality, the animal quality, he said, then it's followed by the vicious quality, where you actually do things to pursue those qualities and hurt other people sometimes even to pursue those qualities. And he said, if those two qualities,
once the animal quality and the vicious quality are combined within a person, then they become satanic.
And once they become satanic, even the good deeds that they do will be overcome by pride, the wanting to be praised, and so on, so forth. So there is a graduation within these qualities within themselves. And then there's a graduation between these categories as well. And that's when it becomes a you know, very dangerous. So he said, eventually, there are springs, these are the springs of sins, which turned them into the parts of the bodies, so some of them. So he said, some of them stay in the heart. So he said, some of these things just stay in the heart. And he said, such as Call for Bids. And the flock so cool for disbelief, innovation, hypocrisy said, some of them stay in
the heart. He said, some of them become connected to your hearing to your site, to your tongue, to your hands, to your feet, to your stomach, to your private parts, all of the different body parts. And he said, then these sins are divided as follows. So what he's what he means here is that some of those things, some of these diseases don't actually ever physically manifest themselves outwardly, they don't outwardly manifest themselves, some of them become associated with a certain body part. Okay. And that body part controls you.
Some people are controlled by body parts, they're not controlled by their head or by their heart. They're controlled by their body parts. You know, take the tongue for example, we'll take the most kosher of all these examples because we're in Kiama, Leone, but you guys get the point. Take the tongue, for example. Some people just can not be quiet.
They get in the gathering, they're going to backbite they're going to be nasty. So how loud the tongue is just so accustomed to nastiness. It just, you just can't say anything nice anymore. You can't go through a 30 minute gathering without talking about this person and that person. It's, it's become a part of your tongue and the prophets lie Selim. He taught us to seek refuge from Hustla in the Lisa, the harvest of the tongue, like your tongue stores, nastiness, and your tongue just becomes a nasty organ, and your tongue controls to filthy tongue. Filthy tongue will always be filthy so the heart will become filthy as well. Right? You become so accustomed to dealing with
things with your hands, you're just gonna always deal with things with your hands. Right. So, these are the problem whenever it whenever it starts to become connected to the different you know, extremities to the different body parts. Then he said, the sins are divided into two
two categories he says there are the sins that are in regards to a person and another person and a person and Allah subhanaw taala. So things that are related to the rights of people and things that are related to the rights of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada which one is worse?
What do you guys think? Brothers Sisters? What do you think is worst sins related to other people are sins between you and Allah?
Other people
why? Because even he says that the ones between a person and another person are far more repulsive and far more dangerous. Because when it's something between you and Allah subhanho wa Taala there is more hope of being pardoned by Allah subhanho wa Taala than any human being Allah Nica who
Allah's name is the partner.
So there's more hope of being pardoned by Allah subhanaw taala than being pardoned by the people Imams the Fianna 30 Rahim Allah to Allah said, if I knew on the day of judgment that the only person I'd have to answer to is Allah subhanho wa Taala then I would be confident that I'm going to enter gem.
If I knew for a fact on the Day of Judgment, it's just me and Allah, and no one else that I know I'm going to enter Gemma, because Allah is that forgiving. He said, The sins that will most likely enter a person into hellfire are the ones that involve the rights of people. Why because the prophets lice and I'm said, you come on the Day of Judgment with your Salah with your Laila to Qatar, with your car, with your as a car, with your Errante car with the reading, and with your volunteering, with with everything, all of your good deeds.
But all of these people that you hurt, come and start to take away your good deeds, Allah didn't take them away from you.
But Allah subhanaw taala let these people come take their right from you. And that sinks you into absolute bankruptcy. The prophets I said you become mouthless completely devoid of any hassle that Allahu Akbar, like seriously the most frightening thing in the world to me, and I really do mean this how to love the most right, we talk so much these days. And we involve ourselves with people so much. And we have such little alone time, that we're bound to mess up with people so much. And if the prophets lie, Selim said that a man can come on the Day of Judgment, with a whole lifetime of Salah and piano, lead and sadhaka. And it's all avoided by that, in that time. Where does that leave
us? How many people do we hurt with our social media posts?
How many people do we hurt with our text messages? How many people do we hurt with our emails that we just couldn't hold back? How many people do we frequently hurt? So if you had a thought he was saying, if it was just me and Allah on the Day of Judgment, I know I'm going to enter gender because if you look at the Hadith of the Prophet slice of them, you don't find ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. Just taking away your good deeds like that, except because of the rights of people upon you.
Don't hurt people. Don't let your own personal flaws, be projected on people. Don't let your own personal, spiritual void, become a means of you abusing other people.
Don't let your own lack of a relationship between you and Allah Subhana Allah to Allah become a reason for destroying the relationships that you have with people. So when the prophets lie some can with all confidence say about that woman that TOCOM will lead what a sunnah ha she prays at night she does the AMOLED she fast every day.
What a sub duck waterfowl. She gives all kinds of charity. And she does this. But she just has an abusive tongue to her neighbor Lockwood. It's not like this woman is going in burning, burning down the neighbor's houses, or throwing dead cats over the wall. The woman just has an abusive tongue to her neighbors. What about a person who has an abusive tongue to his parents?
If this is the neighbor
Hola, and there is no mention if they're Muslims, and the prophets lie some says with absolute confidence law. Hi raffia. Here, phenom. Her case is close. She isn't held.
There is no good inside of her. That's a neighbor. What about your Muslim brother and sister? What about your kin? What about your parents? What about people that have done stuff for you? You get the point here. This is just the neighbor and this woman has all that. So he says that a person should be very careful to stay away from the sins that involve other people. Don't let your own personal flaws lead to you mistreating people. The best thing you can do with your life. Don't harm people.
DMC Canada and that's the profit slice. Some said if you can't do anything good, don't harm people. Man county you'll be lucky when human asset failure can hire only your smart whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day let them speak well or beat
Quiet, you don't have to give an ultimate to intergender you don't have to give a single HELOC on your life to be able to enter gym. You don't have to give anyone Dara to be able to enter John. But don't say anything that don't hurt people with your tongue.
When Kenny you're gonna be late with the woman after, so the apple hire, only estimates speak well, or be quiet. Don't let it become worse than it already is. And don't go on to do things that you're going to regret for the rest of your life. And that's why the profit slice and I'm says that whoever has harmed another person let him seek forgiveness from him before a day comes where there is no better and no Sheila there is no trading. You can't buy yourself out of harming someone on the Day of Judgment. Look, let me tell let me put it to you this way guys. And I'm gonna you know, there are more categories of the sins and minor and major and so on so forth. But I want to end on this point.
In this dunya you will find people Subhanallah that are incredibly forgiving, incredibly merciful, incredibly loving, to where you can make fun of them in their face and they'll just laugh it off to where if you told them brother sister I backed by, did you? It's okay. Don't worry about it. You might have parents that love you so much, to where if you harm them. You know, if you get into an argument with you because of their love for you, they say don't worry about it. But on the day of judgments, you only a federal government he will only he will be well Sahiba teehee with any a person will flee from his parent from his children. A person will flee from his parents, a person
will flee from their brothers, a person will flee from their sisters, a person will flee from their neighbors. You will flee from them.
No one is going to be able no one will be willing to forgive you for anything on the Day of Judgment. Except Allah subhanaw taala
All right. Unfortunately, many times we wait for people to die to apologize.
Right Subhanallah we put flowers on their grave and we think that's going to make it all better. Why did you have to wait for her to be in a grave to go give her some flowers?
Why did you have to wait until they die to say nice things about them and say I wish that you know nothing would have happened. I know a lot of us mashallah we have a lot of young people here. It will hit you later on in life. And it might even hit you now. Why wait until that separation takes place in this world. Don't wait for people to leave this world to apologize and to reconcile with them.
Don't go to sleep with someone holding a justified anger against you.
Even if it's just something silly, something trivial. You know what what gets people into * on the Day of Judgment is sometimes just one trivial deed. You just need one more Hassanein or there's one say yeah, that dooms you. So don't just pass it off as something trivial. You posted something offensive. Someone didn't like it. Even if you only have four people on your Facebook, and that person didn't like it. And you know that you offended them. Call them up and say I'm sorry.
Learn to apologize. When masa de la Hoya I'm done react when in layer is
the profit slice and I'm says a lot you know, we keep asking Allah for what we're imploring what in these last 10 days. We're imploring Allah's pardoning right. Now just generally speaking, if you want something from ALLAH, if you want, if you want to invoke a certain attribute of Allah, what do you have to do? Reflected Malay or hum la yourhome Whoever doesn't show mercy or Ramadan will not show mercy to him. Okay. You want a lot to be kidding with you to be generous with you. Be a generous individual. You want a lot to be just with you be just with people in Allah you hibel MCSA to establish justice amongst people. You want Allah subhanho wa Taala to pardon you while you are
for what else for who Allah to have one on your feet. Hola Hola.
Pardon and forgive Don't you want a lot to pardon you and forgive you? So you know what the believer does? He lets things go easy.
He's always the first one to start with a Salam the prophets lie. Some says highly recommended that the Salah, the best of you are those that start off with the Salaam. When you get into an argument, the first person to go back and say, You know what, I'm sorry.
Forgive me. You know, let's just put it behind us. Let's bury the hatchet. You are the better of the two.
Hussein or the Allah Tala and
the great grandson of the prophets, the grandson of the prophets lie some of them are saying they'll be a little tighter and who he wants got into an argument with Mohammed and then Hanafi, who was also a son of it, may Allah be pleased with them both. So it Hussein and Muhammad are half brothers and they got into arguments. And Mohamed unhealthier was a great man as well, great scholar, son of it even though we follow the law Tyler and his mother also is a great woman. He sent a letter to her saying on the low tide and when he omitted the salam
and he said
I wanted to bury the hatchet but I didn't want to be the one to start with the salam because you're better than me.
So I'm just letting you know it's done the hatch it's very good. So you come say salam. So he's basically saying salam without Salam because he's saying you're a better person than I am.
I don't deserve to have the ability the right to say Salam to you first Allahu Akbar Subhan Allah. Don't use that now don't get into an argument on boycott them for three years and say, Well, I thought you were better than me. So I was waiting for you to say Sudan because it'd be better for you.
No, no excuse here. Learn to apologize. Rasool Allah sly Selim says one as the Allah who I've done behalf when Allah is Allah will not increase you in that quality except in glory. You'll be a more honored person, you'll be a more dignified person. And by the way, give back to these categories. What usually holds people back from apologizing, pride and the fear of losing their dignity. But what usually ends up happening when people don't reconcile and they when they when they hold firm, quote, unquote, hold their ground, and they keep a war going. They lose their dignity and people lose respect for them. Whereas in the short term, you know, when a person apologizes some people
might be like, Man, why did you upset you didn't even have to apologize. It wasn't your fault. Okay? Let it go. People will respect you, you'll actually gain your dignity, but your lack of pride Allah azza wa jal Subhanallah hopeful lie IG Allah created us in strange ways. Well, Allah created us in a very strange way. Subhan Allah, we are such complex beings.
If you have pride, then you will not be able to apologize and let things go in the first place. And you'll lose your dignity as well. The very thing you hold your pride for. Whereas if you don't have pride, you will easily apologize and Allah azza wa jal will add to your dignity into your glory.
Subhan Allah, Allah created us in that way.
Reconcile with people, don't let there be sins. Don't let there be things that involve other people. If you've hurt people, go seek their forgiveness. If you think you might have heard someone, go seek their forgiveness. If you think that another person thinks that you hurt them, even though you didn't actually do anything to hurt them, go seek their forgiveness. It'll be good for you on the Day of Judgment. Why because you want that from Allah subhanaw taala. So we ask Allah subhanaw taala to purify our hearts to remove the barriers between us and Him and to remove the sins and the things between us and other people that will ruin our relationship with Him and that will ruin our own
hereafter. We asked them once upon a time to grant us what the profit slice and I mentioned Salama, to solder, hearts of tranquility, hearts that are tranquil hearts that are able to forgive hearts that don't bear grudges, hearts that don't hold things that destroy their worship and affect the quality of their abandoned. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to grant us tranquil peaceful hearts that are turned towards him. Always in repentance Lama Amin questions
this is gonna be a loaded question answer session Go ahead. Tell them
if you don't know
you don't even remember.
Like what do you do?
Okay, what about things that were done in the past?
Meaning you harm so many people that you don't know who you aren't? I can't see you being that guy man. You're just too sweet of a guy
had that question?
Look, law you can leave for long enough son in law was a law is not going to bear up on your scope. You know, if you know that you've hired somebody and you know who they are. And you know, you can access them seek their forgiveness.
There is no way you'll be able to trace back everything you did in fourth grade. The kid that you gave a wedgie to though you know you're not going to be able to do this right? But at least like you know you you harm someone high school college you took someone's right away first of all restore the rights to them actually restoring rights as far more as far greater you know, you look at dictators What did they do after they've they've taken their hold of power and they've gone through their military coos and they've gone through their killing people they say let's just have some a Hollis let's just just have a moment of forgiveness and let's all reconciled No, no, no, no, it doesn't
work that way restore the rights of the people.
So that's on the community level and on an individual level as well. If I hurt you, I need to try to undo that hurt to the best of my ability and to whatever is possible. Okay. Now, once that is done, once that hurt is taken care of compensated for. Then at that point, what I need to do is seek your forgiveness. So physically I need to give it to you. If I've taken money from
I can't just call and say forgive me. No, I need to give you back your money.
If I've harmed your reputation, I need to restore your reputation then I need to seek your forgiveness for the lingering effects. Now here's the thing let's say that you try to seek someone's forgiveness but they still wouldn't forgive you you restored their rights and you try to seek their forgiveness law you can live long enough since the law was around. Allah is not going to punish you for that. In normal Armello vignette, you tried. You intended you really tried. You didn't just go to this person that you ruin their life and say, Hey, bro, I just want you to forgive me. No, I tried him to do that. Now like you really beg for their forgiveness and they say no, and you restore
their rights.
House you did what you had to do
enter your question. Okay.
What's your question? I'm gonna go to sisters next time I'm sorry
someone's fighting you should you fight back in self defense? Are your parents here?
I'm really worried about I'm gonna answer this question right.
What are your parents say to do?
ask you that. But what I would say is if you can avoid the fight altogether, it's better inshallah. So if you can defuse the situation, you know, you can say you know what, forget about it. Let's not fight that's better inshallah time. If someone's already throwing punches at you ask your dad what to do. Okay.
Hurry, sisters?
Yes?
Should you continue to do?
Even if?
That's a great question SubhanAllah. Look, nothing is black and white, every situation is different. So keep that in mind. So, especially when you're talking about Teskey, and you're talking about spirituality, there are some specific situations that that are exceptions. What you just mentioned is a very common thing, the guilt trip. So you messed up, you know, you messed up. Now, instead of you just doing this from for to be better. For the next 10 years, you're basically going to be my slave. Until Until I forgive you, then I'll think about forgiving, you know, it doesn't work that way.
Eliza does not going to task you beyond your scope, meaning you do what you have to do. You apologize, you restore whatever it is that you took, okay? But you don't have to live your life with a dark cloud over your head.
So no, it's not justified to subject someone to that.
And keep reminding them of this thing of the things that they did to you. That's a deficiency of apple on that person's part. That's
that's a deficiency on their part.
Alone.
Yeah.
At a certain level, are certain categories. So how exactly
tomorrow on Tala The question is how, you know, suppose a person feels stuck in one of these categories? How are they going to get out of these categories? Inshallah, we'll talk about it tomorrow. Today, I just wanted to go through some of the general the chapter of the categories of sense, but the first one is Toba ask Allah to help you alright Toombul Allah hito button also had that's the whole chapter is sincerely repent to a loss
and the sisters yeah
does have
an option
there to forgive each other
by offering this
drug and at that point to enemies
so I used to wonder like the person who's
not the person seeking forgiveness, but
should that person have an obligation knowing that I will be held to
so what this is talking about, I'm sorry, I want to cut you off.
So this is talking about this is a stage pinbar This is a lot of calls. It's like the last stage before you enter into Jannah. Look, there are inevitably things that we'll say to each other.
That even might not be vital. Like can you imagine if husband
I mean, I held that the
gates have done and they have to go through every argument that they've ever had. They'll never enter Gemina. Right?
Then they'll argue again, because they'll say you made me not intergender, right? No, these are things what this is talking about, by the way,
this is a state where you're not going to have an option to send that person back. Or punch each other or hit each other. It'll be resolved between you before you enter into agenda. One Czarna Matthew could all be him in Lindon. f1, and Allah Sora and Mr. cobbling because Allah says we will take away all the hatred and all the grudges that they had. So you know what, like, you're about to enter into Jana, and Hamdulillah, you're happy that you're entering into Jana, with your husband, but your husband really, really upset you that time.
You know what, just before we get into Jana, and hang out in our palace and go through our gardens, I really just want to get this off my chest. Okay, Allah will take it all out of it's going to be a pleasant gathering. Not going to be like a whole bunch of people bickering and arguing before they get into Gemina. Allah will remove it all from our chests will be purified from it. Why? Because you can't enter Jannah with an unpleasant thought or with a grudge. So these are like the inevitable things is, you know, the way that I'd related is the minor sins versus the major sins. For example, there are sins that you're doing will do and you're doing prayer and they're being forgiven
will calculate all these are things that just naturally expiate the sense. Okay, these little things that just happened between Salawat that happened between you're not really paying attention, Allah Azza wa, JAL forgives them. So don't worry about inshallah.
Don't let it escalate. That's the point.
Yeah. Suppose someone gave you like, verbal forgiveness, like you said, I forgive.
Can you see?
Know If someone tells you, they forgave you? And you did what you had to do to be forgiven?
Even if they can't come on the day of judgment and say, Oh, well, I didn't mean it.
Alright.
If he told you, I forgive you, that's it.
If he verbally said, I forgive you, it's over harmless. But if you know that he hasn't really forgiven you then just try to do more to make up for it. But but as far as can you be held for it on the Day of Judgment? If a person says without compulsion, if a person says fine, I forgive you? No, that's it. Allah is just
sisters.
Yeah.
Okay, can I just make that for someone? So are we talking? Can you be specific about a sin like backbiting for example? Okay, like, for example, I did something harmful with my tongue where I said something I shouldn't have said, can I just make that for the person instead of going to them and seeking forgiveness so that I don't escalate it?
Imam Hassan Abbas Rahim Allah to Allah He actually said you should go seek forgiveness from the person he says because the prophets lie. Some said Whoever has taken something from someone or harmed them and also loss I'm left it general, then let him go to that person and seek forgiveness before a day comes and we find this amongst the Select. We find it amongst the pious predecessors people coming
and saying forgive me I backed by Did you know I'm Akamas Rahim Allah to Allah Allahu Akbar, this man
you know his last days of life. Everyone that lashed him in prison, every guard that tortured him every one that spoke ill of him or they're just coming into his house one by one seeking forgiveness and he's just saying you're forgiven, you're forgiven, you're forgiven, you're forgiven, you're forgiven, you're forgiven. became like a tape recorder just telling people you're forgiven.
But the idea is they did go to him and they thought that forgiveness and we do see it it's a common theme amongst the snowflakes someone will come and say look, you know I backed by Did you however you don't find someone coming and saying what they said
I said, you know, I go up to a person and say look, I said something about you I shouldn't have said it was just something silly. Will you forgive me? If they say well what did you say then?
I'm not gonna say it again. Please just forgive me and make draft for them inshallah Tada as well. And the way that you undo it more than making dua for them, you speak well of them in the presence of the people that you spoke you love them.
So if I hurt your reputation, I need to go restore it. I need to go and say you know what, that was dumb. That person is this that person is that in a good way? You know, mashallah is a good person should have never said that. That was just my own stupidity.
Lon.
Yeah.
A person. It's kind of scary because you can't even recognize that you'd be falling into that. So what measures can we have we recognize that our profession and
the quality that counts
Okay, so the first category of sins How do I protect myself from the first category of sins since they're not necessarily things that I can recognize? The in depth answer will be tomorrow night inshallah. So by the I'm going to do tomorrow night as well and shall associate Yes, we did last two that I'm gonna do these two because there's a continuity between these chapters.
So I'm gonna go in depth with it. The simple answer to that is that's that's why the believer is always on his toes. He's conscious. He's, you know, you can't be heedless when you're doing good and you can't be heedless when you're doing but you're trying to detect the whispers of shape on and good and bad and you're trying to do away with them
a lot and we'll talk about it tomorrow
yeah,
are we two or five? So I'll take one question one more question from the sisters
can you raise your whistle
No, you'll be okay if they told you they forgave you then you'll be okay inshallah any of the sisters have any questions because the brothers can ask and show up right after
or the sisters done
Yes
movies
that someone's
comfortable
that you already have copy.
So I feel like
I just want to know it's not quite relevant, but I feel
the guilt trip.
Yeah, no, no, it's the guilt trip. Yeah, right. I guess what I really want to know is how authentic
it is. Do you attend the Tuesday night Buhari classes?
You can because that hadith is coming up
in a few weeks inshallah. But I'll give you the short answer to that when the prophets lie Selim says, or Salah Salem. I'm not gonna give you an apologetic shot I'm gonna give the shout heavenly mama no, we don't even allow the explanation and I'm gonna call him Allah to Anna is that there are so lost by some said that in the context. He also says like some that women would outnumber men greatly. Period. So he says that UK federal Linari and Nisa were accurate, gentlemen Lisa.
So the majority of Hellfires women in the majority of paradises, women the prophets lie some was trying to actually teach a lesson.
Okay.
Tuesday sahih al Bukhari class inshallah.
So well, because there's a different province, like some said women would outnumber men 60 to one some point. So remember, now we know him on one side that was his shot of the Hadith because the province like someone he spoke about his visions of paradise and hellfire he gave he teach, he uses them as teaching moments. Look, I will say this, there's
it's two o'clock in the morning, I've got to be very careful what I say. All right.
Look, we have become, there are two extremes. One extreme is manipulating words of the prophets lie Selim because I want to beat someone else down to get something out of them to the point that I will make them hate the profit slice of them so I can get something out of them. That's awful. That's in one of these categories. And I see it all the time, like Subhanallah husbands use a hadith on their wives. I'm like, you're making your wife hate the prophets like Selim, because of your own twisted use of that hadith. That's an extreme. The other extreme is that we have become so sensitive men and women that when we hear an admonishment from the Prophet slice on them, it's like a Facebook post
was was was made, and we've got to refute it.
What a Soula Salam. You know, look, when he speaks not number one, my auntie Quan and how he doesn't speak out of his own accord. It's not his own desire to say these things. It's Allah azza wa jal revealing
the prophets lie Selim was a teacher, well, I limo. He tells you things that are harsh at times to teach you a lesson. Men and women, the same way he says, in a manner that compliment Zillertal or aluminum img like a father. Sometimes our dads told us things that were pretty hard. But we knew that it came from a place of love, and they were using it as a teaching moment. And there were things that your mom and your dad could tell you that no one else could tell you. Because you trust them. You trusted them and you had them in that position. The same
way when the Sahaba the way the Sahaba felt about the Prophet slice on them, the love that they had for him and we asked a lot of put that love in our hearts was more than their parents. So when the Prophet slice I'm sat them down and said something like that.
Then they weren't gonna say wait a minute when what? They took the teaching lesson there. Also last lysosome was admonishing the women in this gathering, he's admonishing the men in another gathering, and sometimes he will use harsh examples. Okay, but as far as like the actual population, according to the map and know how to handle lots of the majority of hellfire and the majority of paradise are women
a lot of time and inshallah Tada whenever we get we restart the Tuesday Buhari class at some point in Charlottetown it won't be too long at all, we'll restart it. We'll get to that hadith very soon inshallah. It's going to be sometime in August that will get through the Hadith inshallah.
You can watch it.
I don't record the Behati classes. I want you guys to come.
Because it's a hadith class. I don't like to record Hadith classes when I did on
the acid that hadith people should be here. You want to be a student, you've got to come take notes. So that's my approach to that topic. A lot of time does I can locate on shoutouts you guys tomorrow night. Hello, I'm Nick shadow Laila and a stockbroker to Lakewood Santa Monica from Florida.