Omar Suleiman – Is It OK to Wish for Death

			Salaam Alaikum, warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
		

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			Costa Rica, Mohammed and Salalah
		

			kathira. First and foremost, before I get started with the topic for today, I want to just
acknowledge what has taken place in Beirut unless paratime make it easy for our brothers and sisters
in noumenon that were already suffering through a political and economic crisis, have mercy on those
that have passed make it easy for their families. Truly a very difficult and horrifying, you know,
video to watch. And obviously, it's going to take a very long time for them. So we make it out for
them as well, I was actually just about to write something on Kashmir, and then that popped up. And
it's a reminder of the tragedies that are mounting around the world, we pray for those that are
		

			victims of these senseless tragedies in the suppression wherever they may be. With that being said,
the topic that I wanted to speak about tonight is a very sensitive topic. And I want to seek
forgiveness in advance if I say something that further injure someone that is feeling hurt right
now. And it really stems from the discussion yesterday. Yesterday, I spoke about, you know, this
idea of your improbable birth, how many things could have gone wrong, you were meant to be now what
are you meant to fully do? Right, and all of the the ways that things came to be so that you could
come to be and trusting the Divine Decree of Allah subhana wa tada and then trying to find your path
		

			within that guidance within that contentment. And it was very heartbreaking to, to read some of the
comments of people that said, I wish I was never alive and people that express
		

			their wanting to die. And so I wanted to talk about this. And the topic is hard. The title can't
fully reflect what it is that I want to talk about, nor will I be able to fully discuss this problem
within a few minutes. It is a phenomenon that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told us that there would
come a time that a person would pass by a grave. And because of what they are going through, they
would say, Yeah, leetonia quintos la herb.
		

			Oh, how I wish that I was the occupants of this grave. I wish that that was my grave. And this would
be a person that, you know, on the outside on the surface may seem to have everything going right
for them. But, you know, they, they just don't feel that happiness, and they don't have that
purpose.
		

			Or that willingness, the reason to live, they don't feel it. And I want to start by saying that if
you are someone that is experiencing these things, may Allah subhanho wa Taala cure you and, and
help you through these difficult moments, please reach out to someone to help you. Even if that's
just calling the Suicide Prevention Lifeline, you could look it up and talk to someone if it's
reaching out to someone but please don't suffer in silence, please reach out to someone and talk to
someone and that is part of your that's part of your worship of a loss penalty that doesn't make you
less of a person that doesn't make you a bad person to seek help. In fact, if you're seeking help to
		

			be more whole than that is in and of itself a way of honoring the life that Allah subhanaw taala
gave to you and that's a form of worship. So seek help and don't be embarrassed to seek help and
don't feel like you are you're taking away from yourself by seeking help. This is something that a
loss of habitat has put us on this earth for as well to comfort one another and to help one another
what's also been happy with the loss of the soul to support one another and truth and to support one
another and patients so please reach out to someone in Charlottetown that can help you and and talk
to someone now I wanted to speak about this from a place of
		

			Is it okay to ask Allah to take your life? Is it okay to wish for death in the way that the prophets
like Selim spoke about in this regard? And to express that verbalize that in a do app so we're not
talking about a person that's taking their own life but a person that wishes for death and obviously
when you read the story of Madame Salaam, Mary the mother of Jesus peace be upon them both monogram
it has Salaam as she was driven to the trunk of the tree by the pains that she was experiencing in
labor. She said the elite and the mid to qabalah. Were coming to an ASEAN man see, I wish that I had
died before this. And some of the scholars they said that Madame it has said I'm actually thought
		

			that she was dying. And obviously she's a young woman delivering all by herself. And this is you
know, and you're
		

			asking to hasten her death because she thinks that she's dying.
		

			Anyway, and some of them, you know, said that this refers to the shame that Mario Monti has said, I
knew that she was going to receive and of course, why Islam would respond that mentality alerta has
any, not to grieve, and to give her a sense of purpose and to give her a sense of,
		

			you know, of hope in the midst of great despair. And when things seem to be completely bleak. So
that's, you know, that's something that we find in Amritsar very raw expression. It's a very human
expression, even from a perfect woman, right. And that's something that's profound that this is a
perfect woman here. The Prophet slice Allah mentions are amongst those that perfected their fate.
Allah subhanho taxes in the last arguable hierarchy will stop
		

			me This is the woman chosen above the women of the world and a woman that's an example to men and
women of devotion, and she expressed this pain. Now, this is something for us to talk about. And
there are a few ideas that I want to go through. And then the third part, the supplications, that
are allowed, and that which is not allowed the province license, that none of you should wish for
death, if he is righteous, perhaps he may add to his good works. And if he is a sinner, then it may
be that he may repent in the case that He has given a long life and I'm paraphrasing and just giving
the translation because this this narration will be a lot of time who doesn't have the the drought
		

			part in it. So the prophets lie, some in general talks about this idea of a person not wishing for
the end of their life, because every moment that you live is an opportunity to get closer to Allah
subhana wa Tada, either through a good deed that you add to your record or through repentance, that
removes a bad deed from your record, every single moment that you have, every day that you have is
an opportunity, you say and hamdulillah for that day, you praise the last pans out for that day. And
you do what you can to get closer to a loss of habitat. And so every moment every moment, the
believer is not taught to hate life because life is an opportunity. Every moment of life is a gift
		

			and an opportunity to get closer to Allah subhanaw taala. To do more good and to repent from
whatever bad has been done. So to get closer to a loss of Hannah Montana. And there's actually a
narration where the prophets lie Selim found a person who was wishing for death a young man and the
prophets lie some sets.
		

			Are you wishing for death? And I am with you. surprised a lot I mean, you think about the compassion
of the prophets, I send them to that young man. Right? Are you wishing for death while I am amongst
you? And of course he wasn't wishing for death because he was with the Prophet slice on them. But
perhaps he was not recognizing the great blessing of life and particularly, the blessing of living
when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was alive I mean being a companion of the Prophet
slicin and all that comes with that. And the Prophet slice I'm talking Madeira, and this is one that
you know, the prophets lie. Some also says in the following context, he says, Leah Turman, Nana
		

			hadoken will note min bourlon oslob Let not one of you wish for death because of the calamity that
befalls you. The Prophet slicin um, says in Canada would defer Ilan and if a person feels like they
have to wish for death, like if a person is to a point where they are going to you know, truly
express to a loss of parents out of the desire to no longer live if you cannot get away from saying
something of those sorts instead of just outright asking Allah subhana wa tada to end your life or
that he takes your life the prophets Allah lice and I'm sad for in Canada with the fact he then fell
yakko Allah humma Heaney, mechanical hire to hire only what if any, either candidate was to hire on
		

			leave the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, let that person say, Allah, Allah Allah give me life
mechanical hire to hire only as long as life is good for me. As long as you know that life is good
for me. What telephony and take my life either cannot be left to hide on Lee. If death is better for
me, if you know that death is better for me. This is also by the way, you know very instructive and
that the prophets lie Some said start with life. Right? Start with life. Don't start with asking for
death if it's good for you start with the basics. The basis that Allah has put you here for a
reason, and that there is good in your life to still be done. Right? So start with hyah start with
		

			Allah let me live so long as life is good for me. And then get to the part of and take my life when
you know that death is good for me. And so Allah subhanaw taala knows when you're going to be at
your peak, Eliza knows when you are going to be in your finest form and you know, just like the
story of that young, that young man, that child that's taken in the story of sorts of calf with a
heart that it is salon and Mercedes salon. You know alaris was a new what was good for that child
and a lot knew what was good for those parents. And you might see someone Subhana Allah who is
		

			You know, an incredibly righteous person, and they're taken at a certain time and you say, Subhana,
Allah had they live longer. And it may be that that person was in a state of being with a loss of
habitat of their heart was in a place, their worship was at a place where that was the best time for
a lot to take them. Because Allah subhanaw taala was blessing that person with taking them at the
most righteous point of their lives. And so you see, sometimes very righteous people that die. And
you wonder why they died so young, and Allah knows best, right. And the also the default is that the
prophets lie. Some said good deeds extend a person's lifespan. But it may be that Eliza knew that
		

			that was the best moment for that person because of their righteousness at those moments that was a
person that would ask Allah subhanaw taala for the time, for the best of endings for the best of
their deeds to be the last of their deeds, and a loss of hundreds I took them in those moments
because that was what was best for them. Right? So we don't know. And you see righteous people pass
away young and that could be the reason indeed so the prophets lie. Some said, it is permissible to
say, Oh Allah give me life so long as life is good for me. And take my life when you know that death
is good for me when you know that I've reached the time when death is actually good for me. There's
		

			another element of this, which is that a person you know, sees the way the world is going and a
person fears that the fitna will become so tough for them that trial and dissension will become so
tough for them, that they will not be able to survive whatever fitness coming whether that is the
fitness of an oppressor. That's the fitna of confusion or the fitna, misguidance, whatever it may
be, that a person would lose themselves because of the increase of fitna and this is a Hadith of the
Prophet slice Allah used to do that the prophets lie some indeed use to make so this is something
that the messenger sly Salaam can do he used to make out for this so this is a drought that a person
		

			can say at all times. The Prophet slice I'm used to say a llama Nia Celica fairly little highlight
I'm gonna say it's lower a llama in the Luca, farewell highlight what total Kelvin qalaat will have
been Masaki. Many of you have heard me talk about this part of the draw that all I asked you for the
ability to do good for the ability to shun evil, and for the love of the poor to love the poor. And
then the prophets lie some says what either outright death in nursey fitna, fuck Britney Lake later,
Neptune. And if you have willed that the people will be tested, that there will be some sort of
fitna that will come and that this is a fitna that I may lose myself in or that faith may become too
		

			difficult to hold on to or I might not be able to cling on to it, then bring me back to you, without
being amongst those that are worth doing without being amongst those that fall to the fitness pal.
Lots of beautiful.
		

			Why because a person is not asking for death in that point at that point, because of sadness or
because of gratitude, but because they want to die in a state of gratitude and they want to die in a
place where they're closest to a loss of power. They recognize that this life is merely a means of
converting the best possible outcome in the next life. And so, if a person gets to a point where
this life is no longer serving that purpose, then they would rather not be in this life, right
because if the fitna was to become so severe and Allah knows us, Allah knows our weaknesses. If the
fitna was to become so severe that a person would not be able to cling to faith, that a person will
		

			not be able to cling to purpose, then at that point, fuck a bit in the Lake opha Tiffany Lake,
returned me back to you late on afternoon without being tested or tried in that way. So this is
something that we also find these are two drives that we find to supplications that we find from the
profits I sell them. In general though the profit slice I'm taught us that the life of the believer
is higher, it's good no matter what with the law is with trial is a an opportunity for reward with
test and trial comes an opportunity for reward. And every moment that you have is a moment of either
Toba or testing be repenting for something that you have committed, are glorifying Allah subhana wa
		

			tada for His perfection all that he is bestowed upon you. Every single moment is a blessing in the
Unreal moment. And that's why the affair of the believer is so strange because whether good or bad
come to that person that person is able to convert it into a beneficial opportunity for them for the
sake of Allah subhanaw taala and for the betterment of their aka for the betterment of their
hereafter so the prophets lie Some said hiatal come, the best of you men pada omoto. What hacer una
Okay, mkhitaryan Salatu was Salam. The profit Some said the best of you are those who live long
lives and who increase their good deeds. Again, some people die young and righteous. Allah knows
		

			what's best for us. That's why
		

			We engage in the performance of good deeds, we try to find our purpose and anchor ourselves in that
purpose of pleasing Allah subhana wa Tada. And we trust the loss of hundreds out of that, as we
asked him to give us the best ending, that he will give us that ending at the time that we are in
the best state of faith. We ask Allah subhanaw taala. To grant that to us. We ask a lot of comfort
all of those that are grieving and that are ailing May Allah subhanaw taala help us through our
hardships and difficulties. And I want to end on this note, if you feel it on the inside, if you
feel that, that that leave that that constriction, that is not a sign of low faith, right? These are
		

			things that happen, a person will undoubtedly feel a sense of anxiety in the face of great trial.
It's not about whether or not you feel anxiety, or whether you feel hardship, or whether you are
feeling sadness. It's about how you act upon that sadness, right, that will bring you close to a
loss of Hana to Allah, or be in your favor or not. And so don't feel guilty if you're feeling sad,
or if you're feeling down. Try to use that, however, to gain the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala
and to anchor yourself in your ultimate purpose, your purpose, which is to please allow us to
worship Him and to do good. May Allah help all of us through any difficult times and a loss of
		

			parents out to help those that are oppressed around the world. I know this was a very, very long
reflection. I wanted to do justice to the topic as much as I could, I'd recommend going to the
trauma series on yaqeen institute.org. And you'll find a lot in the trauma series that is a lot more
helpful than aitana. So just Hello to all of you for tuning in. Santa Monica Rahmatullahi wa
barakato