Omar Suleiman – Hypocrisy Two Faces One Destiny 1
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The speakers discuss the scariest topic of Jose Pagan's negativity and the importance of acknowledging one's actions and not wanting to be a moron. They stress the need for consistency in speech, being aware of one's relationship with people, and not wanting to be a moron. The speakers also emphasize the importance of healthy leisure, avoiding alcohol and drinking wine, and finding one's own success in environments that consider it awkward. They advise parents to make time for school and children to be comfortable with their behavior, shaking hands with the opposite sex, and educating others about Islam.
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Somehow last night, the topic of photography is one of the scariest topics that we can speak of, specifically, for any mammal for a public speaker, it is one of the most frightening topics in the world to be quite frank with you. I fear I fear to speak about it to be honest with you.
Not that it is or any of the lots either. When he spoke in his farewell football, a lot of not that Aziz was speaking to a group of over 50,000 people. And he broke into tears. And he says, you know, I'm giving you this advice will not
end, I'm giving you this advice. And I don't know of anyone who has more sense than I have, I would have not been Aziz, I think in the last 50 to 50,000 people in the shower, probably concealed in that 50,000 people, the people that might have plotted to assassinate him, and so on, so forth. So it's a very scary topic. And the more the more that we delve into it, the more that we look at the at the Sahaba of the prophets, I send them we see this huge fear. And I really want to address this topic from a totally different perspective. hypocrisy is one of those topics that you can address from 100 different perspectives, and it will benefit us each and every single time because it is the
most have a lot is the thing that the Sahaba feared so much that it would have been one acre, he says, I'm not 120 companions of the Prophet sallallahu. I didn't listen
to him yet. Enough. So beneath out each and every single one of the companions that I met, was accusing himself of nifa of hypocrisy, as some kind of love the scholars say, you know, he didn't just meet a few of the younger so hovers over the unknown somehow that he might be alone, he met the son of football he met or if not, he met me, he met,
he met some of the giants of the companions. And he was saying that each and every single one of them was sure that he was a hypocrites, he was so positive that he was a hypocrite. And so to start this off from the very beginning, if you're here and you think to yourself, you know, I hope that brother over there, you're thinking to yourself, this doesn't apply to me, because I'm done. I'm not a hypocrite. But I hope that guy that's sitting over there, I hope he's listening very close, because I know he's,
you need to be worried about yourself right now. And if you're not worried about yourself, then you need to be even more worried about yourself. Because the greatest sign of a hypocrite, as the alarm was said, is the one who feels safe from hypocrisy. The one who has decided that I am not a hypocrite, and I have nothing to worry about is the greatest hypocrite is on the aligners. He was asked many tukey who is the one who was the one who's really pious, she said the one who thinks he's a hypocrite. And then she was asked right after that, and who is the hypocrite that she said the one who thinks he's
the one who thinks he's pious. Once you come to that conclusion, in essence, hypocrisy goes beyond react, it goes beyond showing off it goes beyond arrogance. hypocrisy is a whole nother level. hypocrisy is when you have decided to wear two faces. Whenever you have a face with a lot of face with the people of face with your wife, a face with your kids a face with your parents face with people from this group of faces with people from that group. It represents a discrepancy. And the reason why it's so scary, it's got a lot of loss of hundreds, every time he mentions hypocrisy, and he mentions and candidate Kamala says every time hypocrisy is mentioned, right after it, there's a
mention of life, the quality of life, right you look and sort of the muscle of the first description of the hypocrites Allah subhanho wa Taala says what an evil Cavalier can be born, and they will have a painful punishment for the line that they used to commit because of their life. Because let's face it, that's exactly what to face. This is it's one thing to live with your words. It's another thing to live with your actions that's actually living a lie. And you know, what makes the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam so amazing and so great. You know what happens whenever you read the life of a great, you know, not I'm not talking about the scholars of Islam. Let's talk about the
influential figures of history. You read about them, and they're recognized as great history still treats them as great even though they had some demons in the closet that came out. Right? I mean, it's not history still recognize them as great. So for example, Martin Luther King, Dr. Martin Luther King did amazing things. He was great for his leadership, but he had affairs right you lead the life he read about the life of someone like Napoleon or you read the life of, of different people and some how to love you would find that yes, this person was great too.
One aspect of their life, you know, they have all these kings, you just go through the European kings. You go through the founders of this country, when we start reading about George Washington and Thomas Jefferson and those types of things, yes, they were great in some regards. And that's what history recognizes them for. But they also had some very serious demons in the closet. And also last liason did not have those demons. And that's what makes the profit from a lot of the greatest of the greatest, the greatest creation, the greatest human being a leader to ever walk the face of the earth some a lot of a sudden, when he stands up, as Pamela you can be watching, you know, I'm
sure at one time, he said something beautifully said, if you ever watched one of those, and I'm not encouraging anyone to do it, I personally don't do it. I think it's a waste of time I'm saying the Academy Awards or the Oscars or things of that sort. Usually, when the awards are being handed out, you can almost see a look on the face of the family like he doesn't deserve that. She doesn't deserve that. The family sitting there thinking to themselves like yeah, okay, whatever. We know who you really are. We know we really are. And one of the greatest ways to lose your children to your brothers and sisters is hypocrisy. You wonder why your children flee from Islamic mountain, they'll
pay him or him or her loss of nothing causes a person to leave the faith of his parents, except for hypocrisy, nothing like hypocrisy. They see a discrepancy in your actions and what you're saying. Right, you're conveniently strict on some issues. You know, you're conveniently strict on a dress code. Whenever you go to the Muslim ban, messala or a party.
It's all off limit, everything comes off, literally everything comes off the sidewalk, and all they see discrepancies, you say you should not date you shouldn't do these types of things. But then they see you getting very close to heart on it. There's a discrepancy, you know that you say that you need to be this you need to be that you shouldn't be egotistical, you should be humble, you should be respectful to your parents, then they see you as an egomaniac. So what they do is they take your hypocrisy, and that simply manifests itself in a different form. So there'll be hypocritical with you, when they're home, they'll be the masala kid.
Or and whenever it comes time for salon, they'll be good little children, and they'll put on their topis. And they'll roll up their pants and they'll come in, they'll put out their suggestion and they'll pray right next to you and they'll act like the perfect little kids.
And then as soon as they're not in your site anymore.
It's a totally different human being totally different human being why they inherited hypocrisy, they inherited hypocrisy. So we have to be very careful, especially as parents and things of that sort of a look at the messenger. So a lot of it was something else. The prophets a lot. Why didn't you send them when he comes out and he says hydrocodone hydrocodone. The best amongst you is He who is best to his family. the wives of the prophets lie Selim, say and you are the best to them. And even after the profits, I said, I'm passed away on Saturday.
When she wasn't here, this is the best amongst us. He was bused to his wife, she would say some of
you were truthful, a messenger of a loss of a loved one it was some of the demons didn't come out. In fact, we found out we have more reason to love the province Isla when we read about his family life, isn't it? So you know, the moments that really dried close to the province? Aren't they really those moments were isolated a loved one was describing how he was in the home. So a lot of it was his calmness, his his kindness sort of lifestyle, the way that he treated her the way you know, whenever he wanted to break the lid, isn't that what really draws us close to him full of lies and that's what makes us fall in love with him. When we see how transparent he was, and the greatest
statement of transparency is to say that your message is exactly your mission and it's exactly how you carry yourself what you say is exactly what you do. What you say is exactly what you do and I said well the law says what kind of
his character was for and for Adam young she fell out he was a walking poor and that's his wife some allow it was set up who knows and better than that. Who knows him better than that? Unless you have the right strict you know, you think of them you're gonna think of the most he is the most religious person that's gonna go off the face of the earth obviously right? We think of religious people. You don't you think of that.
officer who's always angry, frowning. That's what you think of religious people as a lot. The sheriff is the guy that you don't want to mess with that you don't want to make a mistake and put ads in front of him because he might smack you.
Honestly alongside
brings out the secrets of the prophet SAW a lot more it was from
he says well Lonnie, the prophets I said it was the best of character and he never even once
chastised, he never even hit me. He never said to me, why did you do this? Why didn't you do that? So Pamela so the lawn was always around the province. I sent him his mother in law and put him there to serve the province license. The one incident he says is one time the Prophet sighs I'm starting to deliver something. And you know, on the way I got caught up, I saw some other little kids playing. So I started playing with the little kids and also lost my son just came in he walks. And he said, Why aren't you supposed to be doing something?
The more you learn about the profit slice of them behind closed doors, the more you love him, which means that he was a transparent individual. So a lot of it was set up. And that's why there is a sip. The opposite of the five is truthfulness. There's truthfulness and truthfulness in speech and there's truthfulness. And
when you're truthful in speech, that means that what you say is consistent with what you're going to what you're you know, with reality, you're saying is consistent with reality. And when you are a slob, and you're I'm a saw that in your life saw that in what you do truthful in what you do. That means that what you say, is consistent with what you do.
When you say that, I want to please allow some panelists out, or I'm doing this piece of data, there is absolutely no discrepancy. There. You are, who you are, whether you're in the mustard or whether you're outside the budget, whether you're in front of people or not in front of people. Now, it's very important to hear to mention that there's a certain level of any file, there's a certain level of hypocrisy, we need to be sure that we have none of okay in the sense that we should be convinced that I am not this type of hypocrite, which is the type of hypocrite that's, that's in Cofer in disbelief that actually fools people to get a benefit from faith. Right? Like
they're not actually Muslims, they have no belief in God is just to get some sort of benefit from the need. We're not those types of hypocrites, inshallah, we should always, we should all be sure that we are not not tight with hypocrites, that we might have shreds of hypocrisy in our lives.
And the prophets of Allah, I used to mention something very powerful. Because you know, the greatest way to tell if a person is grateful to a lot. What's the greatest way? What's the greatest indication that a person is grateful to a lot?
What is it
thankful, so who
know what's the greatest indication that he is thankful?
That he's grateful to others.
The greatest indicator that a person is grateful to allies that he's grateful to other people, that the Prophet slicin whoever does not think people does not think Allah subhanaw taala
my life how to help whoever does not show mercy will not have mercy shown to him. The way you interact with people is a direct indication of your relationship with a loss and kind of what's the way you treat people. You're the woman who used to abuse her neighbors, but she prayed too fast and she gave us a couch. He did all that good stuff, but she was abusive with her tongue. And the Prophet size seven didn't just say she's in Hellfire, the prophets license that laugh.
She is devoid of all good, she has no good inside of her.
Despite her Salah despite her sleep, despite her his account. Why because the way you treat people is a direct indication of your relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala. So what did the Prophet sighs I'm saying the three greatest signs of hypocrisy are.
There are three signs of the hypocrite, what are they?
If he speaks he lives.
And if he makes a promise, he breaks his promise.
And if he's given a trust, he doesn't fulfill that trust. That is the greatest sign of a hypocrite and I sense he's not consistent. He's not transparent, he portrays one face, but he does something totally different. You say something that's not true, you make a promise that you're not going to fulfill. And when you make that promise, the other person has the understanding that you're going to do your best to fulfill it, you're not going to fulfill it. You're given a trust because someone sees you as a good person, as a good individual, I can trust you, but you're not that trustworthy person. In essence, the more you are discovered,
the more your demons come out, the more it becomes apparent that you really were a two faced person or a three face person or a fourth forefinger. You know, let's face it today. SubhanAllah there is a message at face there's a work face. There's a home face, there's a school face, somehow a lot
of nasty little ones hate the worst person to a last shot is the one with two faces and where does that leave a person who acts so differently wherever he is?
That's a very serious situation that's why
whenever a someone said that I know this guy on the FAFSA don't say you know someone until what you've done one of three things
you've dealt with him in money, okay, you to identify the devil Medina is I don't care how nice the person is, or how what they appear to be at the National Law person that they appear to be, once you deal with them with money, you'll start seeing that some people are very, very, very sad. What I'm trying to tell you is, whenever you go to do business, don't always just give your business to a Muslim, because he has a beard in law, he has so much noise in his face,
the note in his face might be the reflection of all the money
under the counter, don't be so satisfied, that does not mean that he's a good Muslim, and he's gonna treat you well, you don't know that until you've dealt with him with money you deal with people with money will lie, demons come out, demons come out, or you live with him.
You live with somebody, and then all of a sudden things change. And that's why somehow a lot, it's very easy to be nice outside of the house. And we call and portray a certain you know, portray yourself in a certain way. But then you get home and Subhanallah people see a totally different monster from you.
It's like you're yelling at your wife. And then as soon as the phone comes, you know, the phone rings, a tsunami comb, or you have set alarm, and then you shut the phone and go where were we
back to square one, the monster comes back out, you don't know someone until you live with them. You don't know someone until you live with them. So be careful. Or toggle the alarm and said or you traveled with him. And traveling does not mean that you got in a car and you drove to a different city. Traveling means you spend some quality time with this person. Somehow you don't know people until you're actually with them, you encounter more of them. So what I'm trying to tell you is supposedly my favorite key moments of this idea of the three signs of a hypocrite.
If you have one of those three signs, that is your share of hypocrisy, if you have two, that's your greater share of hypocrisy. If you have three, you are a total hypocrite. You are a complete hypocrite. So even if you just have one of those traits, that's your share of hypocrisy. That is your 75 you've taken a share of the fact. And the point is, if people knew who you really were,
if people saw you were behind closed doors, if people knew the quality of your salon,
if people know the way that you treat your wife and the way that you treat your children, and the way that you talk when they're not around, and the way that you are when you're not in the messages. And the way your relationship with a foster parent I really is would they still give you the same respect? No, probably not. Probably not. Because we change, we change and we're so good at it. So it's become so much more easier to manipulate people's minds. Especially the young brothers, I want you to think about this story for a moment. Again, looking at, you know, looking at news, I want you to listen very, very carefully to this. Looking at the people on the outside. Well, it doesn't
matter how many halaqaat you attend, it doesn't matter how much you do over here.
If you're not treating your own parents, well, it means nothing.
You look at the Sahaba of the prophets, I said it
was a companion of the Prophet slicin them. So it's assumed He's great. He's magnificent. But when he's dying, and everyone's telling him say like I have a lot You can't say that enough bla bla he cannot say that. He's a companion of the Prophet Sunnah. He used to attend lectures with the Prophet. So a lot of it was some what more he said, like, in the hands of Mohammed Salah, longer Islam, the Prophet slicin games. And at the time of his death, he can't say that, you know, the law and the prophets license and go to his mother.
Let's go to his mother
asks her, how was your relationship with a woman and she was not pleased with
how much she wasn't pleased with him. She was upset with him. Because of that Allah subhanaw taala prohibited him from saying that, you know, a lot the time of his death.
I've also lost my son and pleaded with her, I'm paraphrasing, until she said that she forgave him. And when the Prophet slicin and went back to Oklahoma, he was repeating that he left the law until his death.
But let's face it, many of us won't have that opportunity for the prophets license or we none of us will have the opportunity for the prophets license to talk to our parents on our behalf over here and say, Look, forgive your son.
No, no, you better be consistent. The people that are closest to you know you most and Allah knows you more than they do.
So you start off with your inner circle as an indicator of hypocrisy. You start off with the people that know you best your friends that are around you most. And you ask yourself and you ask them you know what, am I am I am I failing? You know, what do you think?
advice, because it starts off with that inner circle, they know you more than anyone else, or else the demons will eventually come out. And he reminded me,
of him a lot. He said that there was an amount of a scholar, a scholar, who was so righteous in the eyes of the people, female, your holiness, as it appear to people, that when he died, the people were crying, I mean, rivers on his generosity.
And then they found that his men bottle became infested with rats.
Whoa, what's going on here.
So how to love they asked his wife and his wife was making against him the entire time.
And his wife was making up for lost contact to take him because he used to abuse his wife. All of that goes to waste. Because the people around you, they know you best. And then after that, Allah subhanaw taala knows you better than the people around you. Because let's face it, we even put on a face for the people around us to we put on a face for our family members also, many times, maybe not to the extent that we do outside. But we do put on faces everywhere.
And in essence, coming to a consistency with a loss of patent, what
were your actions and your words and your being it's all consistent. There's there's a truthfulness in it is something that you have to strive hard for. And the first way is to ference. The second way is to make sure to make sure that what people don't know of me
is better than what people know of me. How many of us can actually say that? You know, it, you know, Abraham old law, he said, first and foremost, the indicator, he said, you're taught is like a spoon into the food, your heart. You know, it's like a spoonful of the heart. You know, if you think about a meal, you're going to get a taste of the food from a spoonful. So you're not going to lessen your tongue is a spoonful of your heart. So it's a good indicator of the state of your heart. That's number one, your tongue. So your actions the way you treat people. But the other thing, just ask yourself, a lot of what's out on the Day of Judgment, he says there's going to be two types of
people, there's going to be the person that's going to be walking around after receiving his book and his right hand and who's going to be saying, How
do you know the person who didn't brag in this dunya he's gonna be bragging and ask, you know, they'll say, look at my book,
look at my salon. Look at my secret.
Look at this moment that I did this, and I made us we have a ticket. Here it is everybody come read my book, How To Grow Kitab, you knew this was coming. I didn't show it off to you and done here, because I wanted the pleasure of a loss.
But now go ahead and read my book.
And the one receives his book, in his left hand would say the Tony lembu. techie tabea
analyst says two things for
VC money. And the last panel, Tyler also says
in his left hand and behind his back, and the scholars explained this, that whenever the person realizes that he's about to get his book of these, it's like he was a liar and a hypocrite in dunya. He's going to put his hand behind his back.
So he can't receive it there. And a loss of power to Allah will allow the book to hit him in the back and will change him that way. And as he walks around in shame, he would say, yeah, Lady Tony, the EU tech Italia. I wish I never got to look
at the map.
And I never knew what my state was. Yeah, I think we all do. I just wish I was destroyed.
I wish I didn't exist.
And everyone is reading and saying, oh,
law, we used to think he was a chef.
We used to think this was a person who comes to the masjid. We used to think this was a person who will give sadaqa You know, he was the most generous at fundraisers that kid he was the one telling everybody else to go to the Holocaust. We thought he was this. We thought she was that.
But you're being exposed Full Exposure on the Day of Judgment. We ask lots of protectors.
But I have a question for you. And on this note.
If the loss of Hannah Woods allowed us to receive our books right now, at this moment,
would you be willing to show that book to anybody?
It's as simple as that.
I know. I wouldn't.
I know I would. You know, would you be willing to take that look around and say this is what I do. This is my life. This is this is who you thought who you didn't know I was? And the answer is no. Usually it's not. And that's why this habit feared it most. They feared if their salon was a little bit longer.
In Jamaica that was at home.
They feared if they were just a little bit better under law, the law. This guy wasn't beating on his wife.
He wasn't this obedient to his parents. He wasn't a crook in his business. He wasn't doing speedy slots on the profit slice and it wasn't watching. He was so convinced he was a hypocrite because he said, I'm not as religious. When I'm not with the profit slice,
he's still the same person. He's still consistent.
But he says one with the profit slice and I'll be honest, a lot when when we're with you. We don't even think about it all we're thinking about his appeal. Then we go home in the family and the kids. What was he worried about?
He wasn't worried about the demons coming out of the closet. Well, he thought they were demons, but his demons would be our asset, not
the amount of Salah he did at home would be our hustle. Not the amount of liquid he did at home would be our greatest day, our greatest day of Ramadan. But they were scared. They were scared because we have to worry about that consistency. If someone was watching me tonight, and watching you tonight,
would they be impressed? Or would they be ashamed? humiliate. And that's why the prophets lie Selim said that the worst person on the Day of Judgment, the worst person in Hellfire is going to be a person. By the way, I don't think this is just a scholar or any mouth. This is each and every single one of us Muslim goers that tells other people how to come close to a lust out of each and every single one of us. Who tells the other guys he comes to the Holocaust
says that that person is walking around the fire of * holding his intestines.
And the people are saying to him,
you used to tell us come to the masjid used to tell us to fear a lot. What happened to you say I was telling you things that I wasn't doing myself.
What I was saying to you was not who I really was.
It's a very scary thing.
The point of this though, is not to make us despair. I know it feels that way.
But I just want to give you a few tips and solace I know I probably have like three minutes left. Just quickly inshallah Thai dear brothers and sisters. The more you pray in the midst of this, the more you should pray at home.
The more you treat people good outside is the more you should treat people good inside of your house.
The more that you appear to be generous on the outside is the more you should be generous on the inside to
try to be consistent start off with your tongue, guests consistency and tongue because a liar is
a person who breaks his promise even he says I promise I'll be there in 10 minutes. That's a promise you just gave a promise. Someone gives you an amount and you don't deliver it until two years later. That's a problem. That's a trust that you broke. Those are signs of hypocrisy
trying to rise up to your expect to the expectations of you and then beat those expectations. Otherwise, we're just like those hypocrites in Medina who would only come to the messages for the awesome and
why? Cuz Feds internatia it's not because the feds It was hard to wake up because it was sleep time. Because during Feds international was pitch black, we didn't have the central IRS who's gonna see me anyway. No one's gonna know I wasn't nothing.
Beat the expectations that people have with you. Do things that people don't know about. Pray to records without anyone knowing. Give it a little bit of sonica without even telling your wife. Because just as the people in your house know you better than the people outside of your house, the one who created you, and is always with you, knows you better than the people that are with you most of the time. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to grant us sincerity.
And truthfulness, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to keep us away from hypocrisy. So keep us away from all forms of showing off to keep us away from an original or self deceit and conceit. And we asked the last panel to make us amongst those who on the day of judgment will be exposed for their good deeds and not for their sins. We asked the last panel to Allah to protect this for our shortcomings to forgive us for our shortcomings and to allow us to rise above them before the time of death and we ask Allah subhana wa tada to leave this world saying that, you know, the law, Mohammed little sola raised up saying that you know, Mullah Mohammed little school of law does not allow a border
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Yes, sisters, if you have any questions you can write, write, write on a piece of paper and Shelton, deliberate.
Any, any brothers have any questions? Yes. I like to review what you said before, what were the three exactly the three signs? Okay, so the three signs of the hypocrite, if he speaks he lies.
If he makes a promise he breaks it.
And if he's given a trust, he doesn't fulfill his trust.
Yeah. You mentioned about the things you mentioned about someone in Hellfire will be walking around with his intestines. And that was someone who would invite others and remind them. So how
are you supposed to avoid doing that? is a solution stepping away from inviting others?
That's a very good question. One thing that you notice with the script, the Sahaba, they never they didn't allow their fear of hypocrisy to render them inactive.
The action continues, and you keep fighting with the intention. As long as you're not explicitly doing the action, with it with a with a bad purpose with a bad intention, then you should continue doing because somehow a lot like the scholar say, the greater the greater showing off is leaving the action out of fear of hypocrisy, because then what are you saying to people? Oh, I'm so good. You know, I'm trying to fight hypocrisy. That's what Stefan wants you to do. He wants you to stop doing the actions. He wants you to stop coming to the mercy, he wants you to stop doing the good things because he wants you to be active at the end of the day, he'll attack you from any perspective. So
the intention is something that changes all the time. And that's why you have to consistently renew the intention and fight with it. But to leave the action is a greater sin. So don't leave the action.
Remember the value in the law. I mean, he he said follow the law. But I love that when we started seeking knowledge in the beginning, he's talking about himself, we were seeking it for something other than a lot. But knowledge refused to be given except for a lot. So I had to keep fighting with myself and keep working.
I mean, until until he found himself doing it. He said he did not so you keep on and then you try to reform your intention in the meantime.
Questions? Yeah.
Sometimes you find like, religious people are
religious, and like, do something good to help me.
Verify with people who are not so religious? And then if they see me, I just say thanks. Because I said,
Well, look, it's good to it's good to make in a setting in an environment. The question was, if I'm with religious people, ice ages actually fed up with not not sort of its people, I just say thank you, because I'm afraid they might, it will just be kind of awkward. It's good to slowly and gradually introduce religion into an environment that considers it awkward, even if it's just you start saying to them, I need you to your friend, instead of what's up. Slowly, slowly ease it in, as long as your intention is not too high. Then gradually ease it in inshallah. I mean, I'll be honest, there's some people that even like, I mean, if I say just like a lot,
but you easily you make it gradually, you know, I had a friend, that's anytime I said, set up, something never answered. Right. But eventually, I started answering. Now he's Muslim, but he just wasn't used to it.
Yeah, yes.
And
I'd like you to relate to us
this quality of
believer because they spend too much time in Facebook, and other things which are
not productive.
Right. And I think the question are you talking about, well, the gentleman in love with those who who stopped idle talk in idle speech.
There is a balance there. Now, the youth definitely one of the things that we have today is that people are obsessed with everybody else's life and you've got Facebook and reality TV and all that kind of stuff. And I mean, it's in essence, you know, you're not able to be productive, you're not able to comprehend anything because you're consistently just involved in nonsense. leisure is healthy.
leisure is healthy. In the long run, we said that we do things that are we used to do. The greatest I had a son and he said we do things that are neither was to happen, nor are they hot off. They're not necessarily rewardable acts of worship, nor they have and that makes me stronger. It might be about that. So finding a good, healthy amount of leaser is good, but just don't. Don't waste your time.
On unproductive things, there's no doubt about it because that leads to so many different sense, you know, leads to more your gaze going the wrong way that leads to, you know more more talking to someone you shouldn't be talking to or getting exposed to things you shouldn't be exposed to and so on so forth.
I know this is irrelevant, but and by the way, don't laugh at this question. Okay. Because I know everyone
will we laugh at questions we come off as insensitive and that's that's one of the problems that's one of the reasons why sometimes the youth are afraid of asking questions. is smoking weed, how long by using a pipe and why?
The answer to that? I said don't laugh, guys. The answer to that question.
To understand properly the word in the Arabic language Hello.
does not mean alcohol. Okay, Hama is what's prohibited right. It does not mean alcohol. Common means anything that serves the purpose of intoxicating.
Any intoxicant in Islam qualifies as hummock. Okay, weed isn't intoxicating ingredients, and it hurts the opposite, which is the
people say no, it's actually productive things of that sort. Yeah, drinking a little bit of wine is actually good for you too. But,
you know, most people are not going to be able to stop drinking a little bit of wine. Okay, so Allah subhanaw taala has made all of these things how long, completely. So even if you smoke weed by a pipe, it's how long even if you try to make an argument that is not intoxicating. Eventually, if you're smoking weed with a pipe, you're going to start smoking weed without a pipe. And people who start smoking weed end up doing harder drugs, it's just that it's just the process of shaping the way he lures you in without to tip your foot on the shape on. So even if you start with a small drug, by the way, that's not very hard. I know, tons of friends that started off with marijuana, and
ended up on cocaine and ecstasy and things of that sort. I mean, it's just a natural process, because eventually you get used to the drug and you're not getting the same high out of it anymore. So it is hot on Absolutely. And it is very, very severe punishment on the Day of Judgment, because it still falls in the category of
my parents are unhappy that I can convert it to a snap.
What can I say to convince them that my heart is committed to this religion?
First and foremost, may Allah subhanaw taala, bless them and make your firm and everyone say I mean,
it's a very, very hard thing to do. And let me just tell them to tell you this much.
Just keep on letting them see the beauty of Islam in your life, how it's changed your character.
It's a slow, gradual process, it doesn't work as fast as saying, you know, just mom say that a lot and become Muslim. But if they see that you're starting to kiss their hands and starting to do extra things for them, you're becoming just an overall much better person that might change their minds. My best friends in middle school, actually, since elementary school since first grade, his name was Joshua, and he converted to Islam in eighth grade. When he converted to Islam. Everyone in his family was extremely unhappy, including his mom. He grew up in a single parents household, so he grew up just as long as they were all unhappy today. His mother's Muslim, his grandmother's Muslim,
one of his answers was one of his uncle's is Muslim. And as long as kids are Muslim, from the law, so it takes time they will come around and savasana if you if you show them the beautiful character Now, also just keep on making dawn
keep on making the railroad the law was coming to the province I sent him he was so sad that his mother was not Muslim. And she was insulting the Prophet. So I said, I'm actually lost. I sort of made the offer and who went home and he found her as Muslim. So inshallah tada all of us, we asked a loss of Hannah Montana yamo polygon group, the one who changes hearts to change her arts and your father as part of your parents parts to Islam, and to bring them close to Allah subhanaw taala and to make them a source of bringing you closer to Allah subhanaw taala everyone say, I mean, so inshallah the doctor, just keep on making grace and showing them the beauty of
the beauty of Islam. How do I seek forgiveness from Allah subhanho wa Taala.
Just very quickly,
number one, there's three conditions of Toba and the fourth which is a conditional condition. Number one is to feel bad for yourself what you've done remorse, but remorse is not enough to act on that remorse to allow that remorse to bring you close to a loss of autonomy so a lot of remorse to make you productive. So remorse that is this fair is not good. Because say gone before you commit a sin tells you how merciful last out is it tells you how great you are after you commit the essentially phone tells you how angry a lot is and how terrible you are. He totally switches up is down. So don't this
spared but feel bad about what you've done. And then after that, you make his default. You actually seek forgiveness you express that you know that seeking of forgiveness you make do ask for forgiveness, you pray to eyes even seeking forgiveness and then you make a commitment not to return back to the sin and if your commitment sincere and you end up returning to it anyway and you go through the same process again, what's the loss, a loss of hundreds out of will not get will not be tired or become fatigued, or loss of Karnataka will not stop answering your Toba until you get you get sick of asking him for us. As long as you're sincere you're trying and short learn
how to directly deal with a relative who was mean to you, but kind to everyone else.
Example doesn't answer even your setup.
Don't allow their bad manners to make make you have bad manners. Teach them good manners. Okay, so you respond it's probably love to hear them respond to their evil with good. Make sure that you always extend the salami even if they never say and I had a relative of mine somehow a lot. There are two relatives that were at war overland used to say that Mr. Equal to his cousin every single day for like 20 years. And then I feel like 20 years this cousin said like, he would like
keep on saying so now, don't be arrogant. Don't backbite them. Just make the art to allow us to reconcile the heart towards you and seek seek consolation from a loss. seek comfort from a loss. If someone hurts you in this life, seek the compensation from a look. Don't Don't be too caught up on it you won't die inshallah.
Okay, it's a comment. Our young generation is living to face life. One for school, one for a home. I think parents should make time or should make their children comfortable as long as they are following their Deen not their culture. So they are not to face? Absolutely. Again, it's you know, how a lot whenever you let me tell you something, brothers, if your kids are not talking to you about their problems, it's not because they don't have problems.
Because you haven't made them comfortable with talking to you about their problems. Okay, it's just a fact of life. So unfortunately, we cling to, and this is, in general, we cling to the superficial aspects of being or we cling to the rituals of being. And we ignore the substance of it sometimes, and again, our children inherit that it's an environment, it's just a formality. But it's nothing real.
What if a person is acting different somewhere
other than home, but not acting bad?
I don't really know what that means to be honest with you. If it means that you're a better person, when you're in the message that you're good at home. And that's good enough, you're naturally supposed to be better sometimes, but what, you know, you're naturally excelled in certain environments, but I don't really know what that means to be honest with you. It's not good to have two faces regardless, I mean, so just completely change your identity. It's just not good. Any other questions? Yeah.
If you do something wrong.
If you're okay, say that again.
If you do something and you know what you're doing is wrong. And someone else asked you what to do. So someone else is doing the same thing. I see what to do.
If you're doing something that's wrong
in a certain situation by doing yourself or doing the wrong thing.
He wants to know the right okay. Yeah, that's my fault. So if you're doing something wrong, and someone else is doing the same wrong, and they're asking you what to do in that situation, you should give them an advice, but not saying use a week.
Okay, we need to change this about ourselves. We need to do this. We need to do that without exposing yourself but just don't be. Don't make it one directional.
Anyone else questions? Yes.
call yourself by
yourself. Well, okay.
Here's what I'm gonna say. And I know what I have to say on this topic because
a lot of people take it the wrong way. I don't believe that a person should change their name when they come to Islam unless there's something objectionable about the name, period.
All right, I know, seems like a cool idea at the time. That's fine. As long as you're not hiding, as long as you don't feel awkward in front of people. That's the point. You know, if that's a manifestation of just you want to make it easier for people. That's your name anyway. But in the message, no, people call you something else. That's fine, shall I mean that you're not doing that as an action of hypocrisy. But generally speaking, I don't believe non Muslims should change their name. I mean, whenever they convert to a song, because that makes the sound foreign to other people. It has more affected that when a person does this on, you know, when there is a person who reverted
to Islam that's speaking to an audience and his name is, you know, we got one of my favorite people in Louisiana, Edward on head, Ah, that's more effective than saying My name is Mohammed. Because that is like me, you understand? So the Sahaba would not change their names, and also last by some would not change their names unless there's something objectionable about the name.
Congratulations.
Okay. There's a question here about shaking hands with the opposite gender?
And if not, is it okay to shake hands with the opposite gender? And if not, how can we deal with such a situation to avoid handshake? Here's what you do. Let me give you a few tips.
Hi, how are you?
All right, keep your hands full. Whenever I go to the bank, you know, if we go to the banquet, I'll take my wife with me always. And we'll have the baby. And if it's a woman, then I'll hold the baby, we see a woman walking.
And if it's a man, she'll hold.
Either way, what I'm saying is, you know, I only do that, by the way, I'm saying it's okay to do that type of stuff. But what I'm saying is, I say use it as an opportunity to educate, and people will not be offended.
I'm telling you, people won't be offended. There will be every once in a while someone who will be but for the most part, you can actually turn that into a very valuable opportunity if
you can, you know what I always say? I say, you know, I say I'm sorry. It's considered disrespectful to women in Islam for me to shake their heads. What does that mean? That's a soft like,
it's the woman the woman is honorable in Islam. What does that mean? Say, you know, in Eastern Europe, and actually that evil Europe, a woman would never shake hands with a man.
Because if she had status, if she didn't have status, she would shake hands with everybody. Until today, Queen Elizabeth does not shake hands with men. It's considered offensive for Queen Elizabeth, no one can try to shake hands with Queen Elizabeth. So I say in our theme, every woman has a queen. Let's go down right? Now religion, every woman's a queen, sorry, you're gonna melt. But then they'll start flirting.
A point is make you know, try to approach the person show confidence in what you're saying. Use it as an opportunity to strike up a conversation inshallah. I mean, if it works, it works. If used as an opportunity, strike up a conversation. Do we have time for one more question? I don't know. Yeah.
You are brutally honest.
That's a good sign.
So the question is on Monday and Thursday, they serve food and you make a little bit of an extra effort to go to the Muslim they're serving food. You are just like 99% of the rest of Muslims.
Because if you want to bring Muslims to an activity, you serve video.
Simple as that, to serve pizza.
What I would say is, look, I mean, there's obviously the social elements of the messages. There's a lot of other things that we like to see the people that we love, it's sort of a relief. You know, it's a refresher everyday. There's, that's those are the benefits, but just make sure your intention for going to the salon is the salon. But there's I mean, look, I mean, you go to Irish every night, especially if you've been at work all day and you've been exhausted. It's nice. It's a nice test to see everybody. There's no doubt about it. It's a good gathering, but make sure that that's not the driving force.
Does anybody else
Yes.
I know what you're talking about.
The fourth characteristic,
the fourth characteristic,
he's confronted he quarrels. It's basically his arguments that these these rough, he's rude whenever he's approached whenever he's, I'm just thinking of the Arabic terminology to be honest with him.
But it's it's argumentative, it's quarreling, it's foul, someone who's found someone who's rough.
Right?
Anybody else?
Yeah. So a lot of teens and even like college students in there, and especially, especially college students, I guess they go through a spiritual phase, or, you know, they go through school, and they're with friends. And they're, when they're at home, they're different, like you said, but sometimes, sometimes this hypocrisy or to fakeness, it troubles them, and they feel like they're not at ease with themselves. And so, one of my friends, yes, he talked to me about this, and I was interested to be true to yourself, but like, Can you shed some light? Yeah, unfortunately. So the question is, you know, sometimes people are troubled, who themselves especially college students,
you know, they go through a little bit of a face, I'll end with this answer in trouble because I think it's a very important answer. Muslims, we tend to think backwards. shavon makes us think backwards. So I'm wearing a job, but I don't feel like I am the person that people think I am. Because I'm like a job. Or I'm not even praying my prayers on time, I'm going to take off my day job, not start praying more often, or praying the right way, and keep my job like, you know, the brothers will say I you know, I can't go to Hajj because my money is hot or not, I'm going to make my money. So I can go to Hajj, or I can't fast and I'm alone, because I don't pray not. I'm going to
start praying so that my fasting can be accepted. shavon always makes us backtrack. So what I would say is you tell that person to fight with their intention to fight with that hypocrisy and make sure they're getting higher. They're ascending, because if they're descending, then they face a loss of parents either with two crimes, hypocrisy and inaction.
Right. So it's better to fight the hypocrisy that because the Sahaba fought the hypocrisy. They felt hypocritical. They felt like they weren't being true to themselves. So they felt that way. That means you should never not feel that way.
But that should drive you to do more good on a personal level
zachman Lafave. I think that's