Omar Suleiman – Dealing with Hardships Late Night Reflections #6
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Got a cattle handler Bill Alameen salat wa salam Vairocana Vienna Muhammad and while early also have your self esteem and cathedra to Mom and Dad, we welcome you back and again at the Vera Islamic center and this 26th Night of the month of Ramadan. So we already past the midpoint of the Last Day natural Madonna Gemma, do you realize that
and that's one of two things, whether we start anticipating aid and just feeling exhausted and let the fatigue takes over and then give ourselves excuses not to do better or it will be the other way around. You realize oh my god that marathon is about to end. That's when you put whatever energy is left in you, you put it right now inshallah and these last few nights Pinilla heater water Katara May Allah make us among those who will be witness who later Khedira Bella Allah mean I mean, it will be take the full reward for the last 10 Out of the month of Ramadan. Tonight we have showhome of course hamdulillah Jimin M and I will be discussing a topic that I believe each and every one of us
we, we go through on a regular basis. We've talked about, you know, when the dua is delayed, why is it delayed and so on. So that's because obviously most of us because we're dealing with some hardships, whether because some of our needs and wants are not being answered, or because of some difficulties we go through. They're not going away anywhere. And as a result, we feel really frustrated with that. So our topic is sha Allah, Allah is dealing with hardships, dealing with hardships, and I'm gonna inshallah read the chapter from the book of Imam Abdul Jabbar, Mr. loudhailer said how to capture thoughts and then we can comment on it insha Allah azza wa jal So
Imam Josie, he says call
my Nazareth V Belia. For them he'll call her failure to Sawalha. Ackerman, mahiya town. He goes, whoever's been afflicted with a calamity. If you've been tested and tried and afflicted with a calamity for another time period, and you really need to get it get it out of your way. You don't want to deal with it anymore. He says failure to Sawalha, Kurama Mahi let him imagine it could have been worse.
And if you do so, to one which means you then you will belittle what you've gone through. But if you always magnify what you're going through bigger than what it is in reality, then it depresses even more and more. But if you imagine it to be less than what it is really no matter how big it is, it becomes easy for you to deal with because now you're belittling the impact of this calamity. Called warrior to hire Saba keep remembering the reward for enduring it. Whatever hamdulillah Adam Mina, Allah let them also anticipate or maybe think of whatever was worse than something bigger came to hit me. Call if you do so like thinking of a better word. And it could be it could be worse could
have been worse. You're a rip have a look disorder Allah you will find that Al Hamdulillah it's a bargain. It's you got a bargain and what you're going through because at least it's still it's still in do you know you can do that. But well yet Allah Masada Zavala, and think how fast it goes away. Because you've been before in some difficulties in hardship, they didn't last forever. They go away eventually confer in Lola, cargo ship, Mirage, etc. It was because if it wasn't for the intensity of the trial, the hope for relief will never come.
You know when things get very intense. That's one realize what is next? What comes after this must be relief. That's what Allah promised in the Quran, Panama, and we're gonna elaborate on that. But here he says if you didn't see it's so hard. You would never think of relief coming very soon. And then he says qawwali Allah, and the mudita mahkamah. And the WHO commodity mocha motif, says look, keep in mind, think about it. The presence of these trials, the length of its stay in your life is as long as a guest is in your house in your hospitality. He says in how often a guest comes to you. That's number one. And how long do they stay when they come? They don't come very often.
Unless mashallah you're very hospitable.
And at the same time when they come, they want to stay forever. Then he says called Follow the fuck God Ha Ha hoo kulula Since your guest is just staying here temporarily. And your guests stay in for just a short short period of time. What do you do with the guest? You keep checking on the guests.
See what the guest is going through what is what he wants, what their needs are and how can you make their stay, you know, enjoyable as before they leave and so forth. Called via Serato and tada kami because the guest doesn't doesn't stay too long. It leaves right away. Why I left that he will be sure he Phil Mahaffey. Yes, the guests stay for a very short
A period of time but the praise you get as a result of your hospitality and how you treated that guests and how you dealt with that guest stays eternity. It goes your praise will be going in all over festivals all over place the place called obituary Phil Mahaffey everywhere you go people talk about your generosity Masha Allah, Cara was full Moodle if he will come and you can always be described as what a very generous host you're a good person with come to difficulties mashallah you're such a very good person, you deal with things, you know, in a good way, perfect, radical moment, such as the example of the believer for al Qaeda Funkadelic and we know for sure that this
is the example the believer during difficulties Jamberry and your eyes that you need to pay attention to these moments.
These moments in your life when they happen to you, where the fuck are the FISA knifes and you should always check on yourself how you're going to be dealing with it. If this happened, what am I going to do? If it's happening to me right now? Okay, where am I right now? What's my interaction with the situation? Is it positive is negative, all worth Allah Maha Jawara and pay attention to your lips and your senses? Maha Fattah and the abdomen Elisa Anika Lima, out of fear that your tongue might alter something that will be kind of like criticizing or some that you would regret as a result of the test that you're going through our mineral called beta salt. And beware of your
heart, exposing itself and showing the socket which means being displeased with Allah Subhana Allah is judgment for can Kudla halfa jewel agile fan jab Allah Elul Bella, it says an analogy is really more of like an abstract example. He goes, Look, when the dawn is approaching and the horizon, you realize that the night of calamity is about to leave. Like when the dawn of hope is on the horizon. When you see the light at the end of the tunnel. What does that mean? The darkness of that tunnel is about to go away. So why not herself a big Ahmed has surgery because deja firma Tala at Shamsul Jezza Illa vaca wa salam, ala Menzies, Salama moody has said, the one who travels during the night
is is the one who takes the advantage of the night and travel during the night. Now that back then when they used to travel on the back of the cameras, they want to go they don't want to travel during the sun during the time of the day because it's a desert, right? So they travel at night, to pass through the distance without seeing where they where they've been. So it makes it shorter for them. Because the same thing, the man or the purse the traveler at night, he will travel throughout the whole night. So by the time the sun comes out, he will see his reward. What is that reward? You've gone through a great deal of distance. You've gone through a great deal of things and
hamdulillah and you will find yourself very near to your safe home. When you say the same thing. Those will always take advantage of strength and their Eman under this condition, the height of their heart before they're hit with these calamities, says look when these things happen. And of handler you start you go straight before things intensify. When they're gone, you realize martial 100 I'm gonna goodhand So this is what Imam mo Josie Rahim Allah explains over here. And it's interesting thing, there's so much talk about how to deal with hardships. And inshallah I want to hear from Mohammed his comment on this chapter first, exactly
how he was talking to my mother. So I want us to build every one of these reflections on the previous reflections. So so far, we talked about the idea of the destination, top of the mountain or bottom of the string. And then we talked about the exhaustion of a good deed not lasting, nor the pleasure of sin, right, because the focus is once again on the destinations. And we talked about the sense of your app, the concept of your app, and this idea of unanswered your eyes and how some of the side of him started to enjoy the closeness that they had to align their hardship to a point that they almost didn't want the hardship to go away, because they were enjoying being in that proximity
to Allah Subhanallah to add. Now, when it comes to hardships, I always think about something that have been missed, literally a lot of data and who said, and then Mr. Woods had a hard life, hard life very hard life before Islam after Islam. And he said, well, the Allahu Taala and hope that most people enter into Jannah not by a good deed that they do, but by a hardship that they endure. Most of the people that enter into Germany do not enter because of some good that they do, but because of a hardship that they endure. And that matches of course, the Hadith of the prophets of Allah Harney was ceremony, he mentioned that the majority of the people of paradise are the downtrodden and the
oppressed and the wronged and those that were generally marginalized and so
Scientists, that's the majority of Jannah, when you show up man last Canada and make us from those that enter into, and for those that are under Allahumma Amin make us from a savvy opponent. Oh, and when you show up in Jannah, it's gonna be a lot of those people that didn't have any type of stature or status in this life. That's the majority of them, not the privileged. However, at the same time, we're taught not to seek out the poverty, not to seek out the hardship. It's a very interesting concept. Because just like in your app, you know, we talked about being multi-dimensional endure, focus on the one that you're calling, not what you're calling him for. The same thing is true, Allah
doesn't need to put you to hardship or you don't need the hardship to get the rank. You're not asking Allah for the hardship, you're asking for the rank. Just like when you're making sure you're not focused on the club, you're not focused on the Ask the request, you're focused on the one that you're asking from. Likewise, when it comes to hardship, it's not that we seek hardship. We don't seek poverty, we don't seek oppression. We don't seek You know, these situations yet. The reality is that the majority of people of Paradise would have been people that went through a lot of hardship and they patiently endure, so there's a drought that comes to my mind. It's one of the most
beautiful there is I ever came across Schiff said you're out from Salem multi year. Will the Allah Tada and ricotta Saddam Allahumma. In Quinta, beloved, I hadn't been able to slide in Delta jet and be Bella Bella Disney Hubble. Afia
Allahumma in Quinta, beloved, I hadn't met everybody outside in dollar jet and be Bella Fabella ligny Hubble Afia. Can you all repeat it in sha Allah Houma in Quinta. But after I hadn't met, anybody can sign ahead.
data that can be better than the Bella Bella Donita, the mafia, which means Oh Allah, if you caused someone to reach a certain rank, through a hardship through a trial, that allow me to reach that rank with Afia and safety and being spirit, that's the personal one. And Allah the good expectation, you have Allah when you ask of him, right? So your app should be, oh, Allah give me the rank, and not necessarily the trial, and should Allah choose to test you with the trial, then I'll be patient because my focus is on the rank, not on the hardship or the ease, my focus is still on the rank. So should Allah still respond to that and say, you need this medicine, you need this hardship to get
you to that rank, you're asking and hamdulillah I'm going to be pleased with that as it comes to me. But oh, Allah, give me the rank the donnager that I am seeking. So here Subhanallah in this chapter, it's a short chapter. But it's a deep, deep, deep chapter. It's probably like I have the long chapters. I have to read a lot tomorrow. I was looking at the chapter or reading tomorrow. It's a short chapter. But it's so deep, because look at how, look at the analogies he uses for hardship. He describes hardship as a guest, as a guest thinks of hardship like a guest, a guest that enters upon your house and give the hardship it's a cook, it's writes what show cut on to the hardship shown,
you know, honor the hardship while it's with you, because it's a short time. On one hand, he's talking about how many times did a hardship come to you and you thought, I'm never going to get out of this? How many times did it get so dark that you could not see the light at the end of the tunnel, and now you look back on it and inshallah to Allah you have the lessons learned and the reward attained, you look back on and you said, Hamdulillah, I made it I persevered only by Allah Subhana Allah but I thought when I was in the middle of it, this is it. I thought this was my breaking point, I thought this was my thought of Allah brought me out of it and Hamdu lillahi rabbil
aalameen How many times that happened, and if you if you did proper,
you know, DISA, if you did proper accounting, accounting of yourself, then you would have got the lessons which will benefit you in this life, and the reward which will benefit you in the afterlife. But it couldn't be that you were so you know, desperate to just get it over with that maybe you didn't benefit from either. So you said things you shouldn't have said and the submittal Allah you had a chance at that first strike to save hamdulillah and boom, a house in paradise and you've got it, but you missed out on an opportunity. So next time a solid metal ruler comes to you. I learned Okay, last time it hit me the first strike hit me I didn't say Alhamdulillah. I didn't respond the
way I should have. And you learn a suburb
little Sol, which is actually the definition they give to the concept of DISA. FTEs that means to seek the reward. Federal tax bill, while the prophets lie Selim said, the task will be patient well tested and seek the reward. The sub, the scholars of Sulak say a sober Mirada, Philip, it's when you're patient with the hope of a reward from Allah subhanaw taala. So you're taking your patients to ALLAH SubhanA and saying, Yeah, Allah, I'm being patient because I want the reward from you. Now the last thing I'll say
And Sharla Tada we can we can go line by line chef, the concept of a guest
to a host. And the hardship is visiting your house so give it its right. I remember asking our chefs or had someone had to have the whole lotta Allah about a yo Barney has set up. There's an interesting thing that happens with a yo Barney's salon where his wife comes to him.
And she says to him, Jana be Allah. Oh prophet of Allah. Why don't you just ask Allah to remove the hardship?
Why are you burying this tremendous beat down? I mean, this is a beat down health, wealth, family. Why are you enduring all of this this way?
And why don't you just ask a lot of lifted from you?
And he responded, and he said, A Kemba cane fslr? How long were we in good times? How long did we have years of ease? How many years of ease did we have?
She said 80 years?
And he said, How long have we been in Ebola? How long have we been in hardship? So she said 18 years. So he said once I reach 80 years of hardship, Alaska, last printouts are lifted from me. And one of the things that are Schiff said happy to Allah and he said that a ubani his salon rod and you hacked it, elements, it. He wanted to properly benefits from the moment that he was in, he knew that Allah azza wa jal was sending him a time. And he wanted to give that hardship. That's right. So he wanted to honor the hardship in a way that, you know, look, Allah is putting me through something right now. Let me make sure I'm doing things right. Like I'm not really in a rush to get it over
with. But I am eager to do it right. I'm not in a rush to get it over with I'm eager to do it right. Not that it doesn't hurt. Not that it's you should ask Allah for hardship. But when the guest is with you, honor the guest don't be so quick to try to kick it out. You know, the guests showed up for a reason. Let me try to do what I can so that I can get the greatest reward out of it. And it's just interesting that the emphasize on how he tried to use of course, the abstract concept of using or treating that calamity as a guest. There is also another message there is that whenever you receive a guest, at least back in those days when hospitality was an honor in the society, and you
have to understand the context of this why he is speaking about hospitality to be a big deal. Because of handle hospitality. For us today is no big deal. If anyone comes in unannounced, we just simply just order pizza and we're done. Hello, ziana. But back then most of these guests are unannounced anyway, because they come from the desert. As a matter of fact, people in order for them to honor these guests what they do they anticipate the presence of guests by lighting fires outside of their houses, calling these guests to come over.
So imagine if someone is calling into the calamities to come over, right? It sounds like someone who wants to work wants to prove to God to Allah subhanaw taala My Lord, I'm worthy of your Nam your blessings, timing.
But that's not what he's asking for is not what he's saying. He's just saying that the fact that whenever you have a guest, you put every possible resource that you have to deal with that guests in the best way possible. So that the outcome of that hospitality is something that will be honoring for you in the dunya and that's what it means. So deliver the guest of course providing food, shelter this that, you know, companionship, child and talk with them and so on. Dealing with calamities, of course dealing with what what how are you supposed to be doing we were going to come to the show the four stages and how to deal with calamity acting. But prior to this point, you
remind me what you mentioned about how enduring the hardship is in itself. Of course,
pursuing the hardship itself is not a goal, right? We're not supposed to pursue the hardship. However, if it comes your way, then your obligation is to in theory,
solicited in itself No, as the professor someone keeps asking us to do this and Allah Allah, always ask Allah for safety hamdullah for good health and wealth and so on, ask Allah for these good things. But don't risk it don't try to try ALLAH SubhanA Matana although in sunnah Tirmidhi the Prophet Salah Sam says in the Hadith, in either monjasa Iman Edom il Bella, that the magnitude of your reward is in correlation to the magnitude of your punish of your of your try trial and calamity, which means you get reward as much as hardships you go through which was also mentioned clearly In another Hadith I showed the Allah Tirana when she was complaining about the hardship she
was going through during Hajj during Hajj. She was going to complain because it was hard as this. The Prophet saw some was reminding her it was yeah Isha. Listen, she's gonna actually listen to me. Educate Anna Kadena Cebu, okay. Your reward is equivalent in proportion. Basically, it's equivalent to the hardships you have to endure and go through. But once again, that does not mean
means that you should be pursuing these hardships. continuation of the Hadith of the Prophet Salah Salem when he talked about the magnitude of the reward, the size of the reward is equivalent to the size of the opponent. The trial you go through. He said, sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam Khan were in the lie they had bakoma patella. And if Allah Subhana Allah loves the people, they will put them to a trial test. Because you can just claim that you're your servant of God and then that'd be trusted, which was made extremely clear on the Quran in surah. Branca Buddha Allah subhanaw doses Alif Lam Meem has a Vanessa you to call your Kulu Amma normally afternoon, what people think that they're
going to be left to say we believe we're not going to be tested. Which is so ironic today when people are tested. What do they say? Why me?
And I always tell people, This is not the right question you should ask. The question is, why not?
Because Allah didn't make it a secret. He said, I'm gonna be testing each and every one of you when it's on his terms, not your terms. So therefore, when a trial comes, that's when the judge is trying to say, treated as a guest. It's not gonna last forever, you've been told you have a guest coming over already in the crime multiple times. You've been told that this guest is not going to be an easy guest. It's gonna be one of those nasty guests. So therefore you need to do that and deal with it in the best way possible. So the Prophet says I'm confused the Hadith he says in regards to how to deal with this hardship because from Andrade of Allah or Rila woman Woman socket of salt. If you
express River, which means contentment and satisfaction, you shall receive satisfaction from Allah subhanho wa Taala as a reward for you for your satisfaction for this product, while man socket of Aloha salt. You want to show that being displeased with Allah as GOD, ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada will show the same, he's not gonna be pleased with your actual reaction to it. Which means choose for yourself. You know, ALLAH SubhanA is gonna give you a reward based on what you express. If you express contentment and acceptance and so forth, then Allah will give you that as well as the reward. And philosophy is with you and accepting you, as Paola would accept from the most generous
subhanaw taala. Similarly, if you're going to be saying, No, that's not what I signed up for. Then Allah subhanaw taala says, Okay, fine, you're on your own. So be careful with that. So that's one thing, that so now that we know that the reward is so huge because my calamity my trial is so huge as well too. Then why not then
even ask for it? The answer is no the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he was asking us to seek safety that's number one. Number two, this hadith and abuse Allah Salman dua, there will be repeating after Saudi rasa every single day here. The nervous system says called Allahumma inni are all the weaker men Dr. Shaka
Allama Allahumma India oh the bigger man Jaya del Bella Baraka Shaka WOSU Allah wa Shama
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who is telling us the reward for enduring hardship this great is still asking us to say these words, your hola I asked you to protect me, man Jadwal Bella, from the from the fatigue that is caused by the trial. I don't want to be fatigued when I go through the hardships my Lord. Well, what Dr. Shaka and that misery catches up with me as a result of that. We're so we're so caught up and that they are Allah I seek refuge in You from Aqaba, that brings me hardships and evil. And then share marital adda and your Allah protect me for my enemies to
to find joy and happiness in my misery. So we look at this dua is so profound as well, too, even though the prophet is telling us look enduring hardship is gonna get you a great reward. But he's telling us don't ask for it. But if it happens, that's when you read as a guest. And you know, I think Subhanallah and a lot of times people ask, well, what's the methodology here? Is there a methodology and sometimes the methodology is right in front of you. You're just, it's applying it, right, the application of it. And so he mentions these things, and they're very important. So just like when we talked about looking at the past to get to the future, the first thing we said which he
mentioned, is look to your past hardships. You got out when you thought you weren't going to get out, you made it through, you learned some lessons and inshallah to Allah, you got the reward. That's number one. You made it through when you thought you weren't going to make it through that was Allah's blessing upon you, Lola for the lie Alikum had it not been for the blessing of Allah upon you would have never made it through. Right, you would have cracked, you didn't crack and Hamdulillah you made it through could have been a more perfect answer. But you'll perfect it next time in sha Allah Tada. So the first thing is look at your previous hardships. The second thing is,
look to those who have greater hardships than you.
The story of resilience is one that often needs role models.
I mean in anything, right, someone that's hit some hard, you know, some hard obstacles in their business and they're
career, and they started reading about how people and their trade got through, got through some a similar tragedy, made it through and that inspires them and sometimes also gives them some of the science behind overcoming that obstacle, right, your workout obstacles, your, your your life goals, you know, looking at someone that passed the test resilience is a trait, it's actually something that is deeply human and deeply beautiful. It's actually what we're gonna be talking about tomorrow. So tomorrow's topic, by the way, is why humans can be better than angels. And this is one of his longest chapters, ironically, subhanAllah, but it's so human. And so beautiful, so profound. You
watch the stories of these people that could have given up in life. Right. And you know, someone, for example, who's has no arms, no legs, but somehow finds happiness and joy and resilience in life and finds ways to achieve everything that they can in life and has a big smile on their face and has such a real law, that sometimes that pleasure is not even just, or that that pleasure is not even for any type of reward in the hereafter. It's just the joy of being able to overcome because there's joy in that that's one of the rewards of the good deed in this life that as I thought Rahim, Allah said, when you look back and you look at something that you conquered, you feel good about yourself,
Hamdulillah I got through it. So that's a person sometimes that doesn't even have anything that they're looking forward to in the Hereafter. And they feel good, they feel a sense of accomplishment, and that's it, human yield. That's something that's also a gift of God that you have that yield of accomplishment that I overcame. But then the the main one that he says what gets what him no Zula or Allama minha Jakob have a desire to actually sit there and to try to immerse yourself and the reward from Allah subhanaw taala. If I get this right.
The believer has to have this to someone, they have to have this ability to sit and to contemplate and to and to actually imagine the reward of an athlete at home up knowing they have European certainty in the reward certainty in the hereafter certainty in the desert like yeah, Allah. Jana. Wow. You know, like, if I get this right, these these few moments, right, Jana, based on you some beta Hunt, a home called the House of praise for me, these rewards all of this for me the companionship of the prophets, Allah, Allah Azza wa sallam eternity. Now test macrophylla Allah here, you're not going to hear any type of bothersome noise, nothing that's going to distract you
nothing that's going to bother you. So you actually sit there and you think about that desire, you think about that reward. And you put yourself in that position. And you say, this is so worth it. This is so worth it, to go through these few years that I probably won't even remember. And on the Day of Judgment, SubhanAllah. And this is also, you know, when it comes to the past, when you look at the past, how many times do you look at a past hardship when you were in the midst of it, it felt like an eternity. But now you look back on it, and it feels like it passed pretty quickly. You know, but when you were in it, it felt like it was never ending, right? And then what happens on the Day
of Judgment, the life of this world, for the person who lived an easy life or for the person who lived the hard life, both those both of those people are going to be saying, The Bisnar Yamuna about Leon
felt like we only live for a day or in part of a day.
Like you're standing on the Day of Judgment, just the standing of Yama, Yama, and you'd be like it felt like it was just a day or less than a day even whether you live the most beautiful of life lives or you live the most difficult of lives. That's what you're going to come to in terms of a conclusion. So you have that, that hope that that ability to see the goal, failure to come and sit there and to really desire it and to exert your energy towards it and say, Yeah, Allah. I'm in the midst of this. Yeah. Rob. Grant me, Jana. Ya Rob. Grant me on for the dose. Yeah, Rob. Someone is slandering me. Someone's hurting me. Yeah. Rob. Grant me the honor of the ocular Yarraman I lost
something of this life. Yeah. Rob, grant me the reward of agenda grant me the treasures of agenda. Yeah. Rob. I've lost some companions, some people that I miss, out of grant me the companionship of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. You know, take that pain that you're feeling and to channel it into a dura and say, Yeah, Allah, grant me something in the hereafter. I have to end with this check. Subhanallah in this regard, I know it's a long transit and I apologize Shekinah Asya always blows my mind. It has Salam, the one word that are the few words we have from her in the Quran. It was mentioned yesterday. Rob divinity or in Dhaka, beta and Phil Jana, my Lord grant me with you a
house in paradise with the elements say this is the perfect form of a T sub. Like if you want an example of suburb you look at Mario Monti has some patience, right? If you want an example of ft sub and of course money
Did it serve as well she sought the reward of Allah but like the perfect words of empty sob are actually found in the words of asiyah this is if you want a methodology if you want to summarize the sub seeking the reward in patients it's Asya Why is over the frown for people to see the wife of frown so as you said, Rob divinity and duck Oh ALLAH build for me with you. With you I E in place to fit our own.
Replace the company of fit our own with the company of God.
I have endured the company of this tyrant grabbed me your company and stuck before she asked for the house. She asked for that. Yeah, Allah I lived with Fidel and I want to live with you.
and Duck Beighton fill Jana I lived in the palace of the Pharaoh. I want the palace of paradise. So in this one sentence and her dua, she expressed that he served in the most beautiful of ways, replace all of this with these two things and I'm good. What are the last penance I give her? Allah azza wa jal showed her
showed her her place in paradise
while she was being killed.
So what did she do? You know, for their own torture, his torture tactics were the sickest tactics of them all. The sick man. demented man tyrants tend to get very sick and evil and they lose all sense of humanity. And they would even torture their own family members. You see this? You know, I remember Subhanallah the, the they said the North Korea had come he through his uncle to a pack of wild dogs and watch them eat him devour him because he accused him of treason. Like he made his wife, the wife of his uncle, sit there and watch the dogs devour him a wild pack of dogs. Tyrants can get really weird and demented and sick to their own your wife, your wife, and you're gonna have
all of these strange people. You know, humiliate her, beat her whip her and then drop a boulder from the top of a cliff to shred her to pieces. Where's your decency? Where's your humanity? Where's your manhood? Where's your anything? Right? No conscience.
But Subhan Allah.
She saw Jana, for Allah He cut. She laughed. And they thought she was a crazy woman. They're whipping her. They're torturing her, which shows you that if you really can see the Jezza the Bella does not matter. If you can see the reward. The hardship becomes literally so insignificant that in the midst of her beating and her torture, she laughed, and she was staring at Jana, and they're whipping her and beating her and she's laughing. And when the boulder comes in falls on her Allah takes her soul and the prophets lie Selim said that the believers soul exits from you know the believer soul exits from the mouth and they see their soul leaving with their eyes. So the believer,
the soul comes out and the eyes watch lucky but it watches the soul leaf
And subhanAllah the boulder falls down on her and crushes her body to pieces. But Allah azza wa jal spared her and the prophets lie Selim said that Shaheed the martyr, sees their place in Jannah with the first strike, the first strike they already see their place in Gemini so Subhanallah This is the beautiful example of the sob that sort of brings together do and I think hardship of these two chapters. So go for Shiva focus on what you mentioned earlier, it's all about at that moment of anticip when you hope for the word from ALLAH SubhanA wa that if you endure that moment, when a trial comes which is exactly the meaning of Hadith and abuse of Allah Salam in NA sobre under
submitted Allah that patience is recorded, which means your reward for being patient is recorded at the first strike. You know, some people they go through some difficulties and what do they do? They complain to everybody starting online, of course, yeah, but all the rounds online. And then after some time, what do they do they've handled it.
Well, what happened? You will have no one in the neighborhood but the new about your situation and the whole world and the internet, you know, what you've been going through and all that stuff and so on. And after you just kind of like vented and just get everything out, then you realize there's nothing I can do about it. So what do you what do you say Alhamdulillah Allah, may Allah reward you for it. Well, may Allah reward you for it, I mean, anatomy, but you lost the greatest reward and the first trait. Why because that moment of endurance is extremely extremely important, which is what Imam given Josie rahamallah is zeal for radical movements such the effort of the believer, he says,
Should you embark on your eyes? During times of hardship and difficulty you need to watch for these moments. Because watch for this moment because he says look, they're gonna happen.
Those moments, they're not secrets. Allah Trump has said that he's going to test you. He's been saying in the Quran over and over again over and over again. You are going to be going through some difficulties.
He says of Hanoi is going to test it with what what diminishing of wealth and health and family and then feed and all these kinds of things. What is your sabe and give the good news for those who persevere impatience. Alladhina Saba Tomasi.
For those who want to afflicted with a calamity, what do they say? In that Allahu Allah is Roger. That's all those are the people who would always go back to Allah subhanahu Madonna and seek His pleasure. So we need to make sure to stay firm at the time of the calamity. Now, how can do this? We talk about this later even time has a interesting actually caught on this matter. But prior to this, he shared with me Rahim Allah, Allah, He says the position and the stance of the believer, when it comes to the subject of calamity, says the believers that are not the people in general, he said, people in general, they go through one of four stages, or you could send him a while. Kind of like
more of like an affair of the heart. You go through one of those four, and choose for yourself. Where do you want to be? When someone's afflicted with a calamity when someone is tested the trial, the first the first category, those who express what assault? What a soft mean over here, displeasure, like I'm not happy with it. And they don't just feel it in their heart. Now they express it. They complain, why me? Why this why that they just keep complaining about not just the calamity itself. They go up in way and beyond all the villas are complaining about Allah himself. subhanaw taala.
And we have seen and heard people speak like this, they speak to Allah as if he is an equal to them just like me, why me?
I can why not?
Well, I'm the good girl, I'm the good guy. I'm this and that it doesn't matter. So some people in a moment of calamity, they break down. So that very important moment where they're supposed to endure the impact of that hardship that gives them the ultimate reward for it is gone. Because the last time
the second category, he said, Rahim, Allah Allah, Maha mas sobre.
The station and the condition of patients. What does patients mean over here? Patience in itself, it just means that you.
You don't have to accept it in your heart.
Instead, you only hold yourself from reacting negatively to it. So you don't complain. You don't whine about it. And if you do, you don't whine about Allah azza wa jal.
You don't worry about Allah subhanaw taala. You just whine about your affairs. It's so hard, I don't know. But still, you're not saying anything bad about Eliza.
And you're not doing anything bad about it. You simply just hold yourself patiently to this.
So they say a sober is when you kind of withhold yourself from reacting negatively. But you still in your heart, you're displeased with it, you're not happy about it, and you're trying everything in your power to remove that pain that is caused by this calamity. So that's called patients and there's nothing wrong with that Allah. Allah says, in the MO for Cibona Jahangir, so those who persevere impatient shall get the reward from Allah azza wa jal without measure. So that's a virtue. But is that the best virtue? The answer is? No, there's something better than that. What is that Alma? Camarilla?
The condition of the station of a river. And what is the riddle? I mean, over here, it means pleasure and satisfaction, contentment, like I'm content right now. Because Allah azza wa jal test me. I don't know why, but I trust his judgment.
I don't know why. But I trust his judgment. Subhana wa taala. That's called rideaux. Like, sometimes I wonder why Allah subhana put me through this. I'm not questioning his judgment and his wisdom. I'm just wondering to myself, what can I do about it? So I am patient. I'm not yelling or wailing or screaming or, or cursing or cuz none of that stuff? No, no.
I'm very patient with that. And I also am not in a rush to remove that pain. Why? Because I know Allah has Heckman wisdom for me to go through this. So I am going to trust his judgment and, and ask Allah to guide me to go through it easily.
So I'm trying to somehow but accept Allah's judgment from me. And that's the example of the profit or the loss prevention. So it will KEF about the parents who lost their child the story of a mother and Musa alayhis salam. When moose will herder He ended the life of that child of this parent. Now these parents, they will, they would probably never know who killed their child, never find justice for their child at all. And they were gonna go through the pain of wondering what happened to my child and who did that to them throughout their life. But what made them move forward with their life?
Meaning his parents were believers. So they trust Allah's judgment. And you know, there's a hekman wisdom behind it, which they didn't know at the time. But Allah was hiding something better for them, which is a child that is going to be better than this one. So that's my camera, right? So we have a soft being displeased with it. You
then being patient, and now being pleased and content. Okay, is there anything better than this? What did I say? Is there any station? Even better than that? What do you think?
What would they what would that be
anticipation of the reward?
He said MACOM Schuco being grateful what does that mean? Knowing that is near manda
you going through hardships and just like Alhamdulillah Allah, Allah knows about me, Allah system. You know, it's a test and it's hard. But you know what, you're not just patient. You're not just accepting and content about it. And with it, no, you're seeing things other people don't see a blessing in disguise. I don't know what it is, but I know Alhamdulillah my lord handler Berman. And these are the examples here that you said some people will be going through some hardship like they don't even they lost their sight or maybe they lost a limb persona accident and so on. And when you come and talk to them, they said hamdulillah I'm still alive.
Are you kidding me? I mean, you just lost an arm. hamdulillah what's an arm I'm still alive. I can still make thicker. I guess the worship Allah subhana wa Tada. What an unbelievable state of mind and heart to be going through such a hardship but it's only see what Anam and the blessings of Allah subhanho wa taala. That is mcommerce sugar that everybody know anyone can get there unless they of course in a true level of imminent belief, which is higher than the result of a certain movement. Strange is the affair of the believer.
In number how Kula will Ohio everything the believer goes through his good in our Sabbath vasara have been blessed with with prosperity and goodness, they will show gratitude. And that's good for the believer. When our Sabbath Fedora server, and if they go through a calamity, they show and express patience. And that's good for the believer. And no one can handle this, except a true believer. Finally, shawanna mentioned something about forgiving even Timmy Rahima louder in regard to this matter. Because look, you guys have to understand, we talked about enduring at the moment of the calamity of like the impact moment, that's when everything counts the most. Remember that as
your mind. When you hear the news, when someone gives you a call says this happened. When you see something that affects you immediately when you realize you got laid off or fired or this or that. It's suddenly you feel the whole world is collapsing. All right. Some people they go my loving is it for them through or through divorce, for example, this whatever, lot of hardships we go through a lot of hardships of Hannah, at the impact the moment of impact of that this is where it matters the most. So I've been playing Rahim Allah says look, and they'll masiva yet huddle inside insert or annual URL.
At the moment of calamity, there was the calamity, the insan becomes extremely heedless of the knowledge, like what you know, become useless.
Which is actually Subhanallah coincides with the theory of human psychology today is that when you're in an extreme emotional state, your rational state goes down a deal to the emotional state. When you're too emotional, your rationale goes down, because had you really had to yield to this. So that's why I don't make any judgment until you read, you recalibrate, and you balance them both again, that's when it's best for us to make a judgment. But here he says, When you're in a moment of calamity right now, you don't even remember your name, let alone you know what you learn from the shape and teacher and this and that and so on. So the knowledge actually goes out of the window. He
says what helps people in this moment, Carl, imagine
the strength of your Eman will be the thing that will hold you together.
That's why in my personal experience in life, Subhan Allah and I'm a human being as well, like everybody else. We've seen some students of knowledge in a moment of calamity, they fall apart. surge of knowledge to them, like you say these things, you know these things. But because they're too emotional in that moment of calamity, the rational drops down because they're Eman probably was not in the position where they can endure the hardship. And what helps you strengthen your Eman and that's here, the core moment for everybody to learn is the practice.
The more you practice of what you know, the higher you mangoes, and the less you practice of what you know, it goes down. So it's extremely important what you guys gained in this month of Ramadan. Don't let it go to waste.
Really do not let that moment of Eman rush that you get in Ramadan, go to waste, you make sure that you get the best out of it in Charlottetown there are a few things that came to my mind what you just said inshallah we can we can then take it to the questions
at the moment.
Subhanallah again, the story of resilience. So you have in the moment. I mean, I know people again when a car accident happens and they're asking What's your phone number?
phone number of someone close to you can't even recall like a phone number can't recall like a basic name. Where do you live? What's your address? And you're in such a heightened state that you don't know.
And in the grief when the angels come, Monroe book ha ha. So to prophesy some said, personally saying Ha ha, I don't know what this is a Muslim, a person who grew up online and Allah right, but they didn't use to pray. They didn't use to hold on to their salah they didn't use to practice their faith and so at that moment when these angels show up and they shake you hmm, man Rob buck, Medina UK. Allah Subhanallah What's your religion?
What's your religion?
Who's your prophet? Hmm? The Prophet sighs I'm literally made the noise by the ha ha. That's what people are gonna be saying in the grief. And that's what's called the greatest fitness. It is the greatest fitness greatest test. May Allah give us the best. Give us firmness and love Martha Bittner in this one. Oh Allah grant each and every single one of us steadfastness.
That's why it's so hard to pass that test because this is not something that you can you know, you know, the bearing, sometimes you call out and you say, you know, there's a fabricated Hadith of the prophets lie. Some did this with a son with Ibrahim. It's a fabrications, mold or and it's deeply problematic, because it's an assumption, I call out to them and say, when the two angels come to you, and they ask him to book say, Allah, and when they asked you, that's not gonna benefit that person. Because you know what, when those angels show up, all this is,
this is another world though, right? That's not going to benefit you have to have solidified that in a deep, deep, deep place in your heart. So Rasulullah sallallahu I knew he was some of them.
You know, I know it's hard for us sometimes to come to these moments, but
it makes me love the profit slice. And I'm so much more when I when I read about how he struggled with his kids. Like, honestly, it's some of the most endearing moments of the profits, on the lines and on some of the things that make you love him most is when he's in pain. Because our natural instinct, the empathy as you want to comfort someone, especially someone you love, and like you also I want to hug you when I want to hear about you crying about Ibrahim and Xena and the Sahaba NTRs will allow you to yell Rasulullah because when Ibrahim was in his in his in his hands, I mean, he wasn't just kind of crying. It wasn't like a awkward moment of silence where a few tears were
falling. The Prophet sigh sums beard was soaked. The tears were falling on the corpse of his dead child.
Think about the scene. I mean, that's an intense It doesn't get more intense than that when you can see the tears of a father falling on his baby boy in his hands.
Are you falling apart? Not you went to * Sula, you to yell Rasulullah. But the prophet sai son was able to give the most perfect answer. Like had the prophets lie some set on the men bar in the rain and Verily the Ayesha tears, the heart feels pain. And we are sad when we lose something. But we only say that which is pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala had the Prophet sighs Some said that on a member in a completely calm tone. That's a great methodology what a rule of patience, right? That's profound wisdom. The fact he was able to recall that and say that while he was crying holding his, his dead son.
It makes it even more profound that means he's he's pulling this out some from somewhere sobre la jolla some that cannot be contained in immediate rationale.
And some HaMashiach I witnessed this in my own lifetime. And I won't elaborate because I'll probably fall apart. But my own mother might have known when she came out of a coma now could recite verses of the Quran before she knew the names of her children.
That's, that's, that's karma. That's like miracles. And I've heard of other people that have been through that, like can remember coming out of a coma, I add to the Quran before they can remember the names of their children, I saw that I witnessed that. That's not rational. That's Allah and that's when I think about like a lot as a gift some people with guidance with he died and said that, like that's why we asked him at the end of the day. You know, if if,
if we're students of knowledge and you know,
sometimes I feel like there's an impostor syndrome here because we know teachers that are way, way, way way. I know teachers that are way ahead of me. I know Sheffy Aster is way more knowledgeable than me. And I'm not just saying that in his face, I should have been. I'm positive I think so.
But like, at the end of the day, what are we all doing? You're asking Allah for guidance. The person that that that doesn't have you does that and doesn't know how to even read these texts. But they have a deep connection with Allah subhanaw taala and they're asking Allah for the day a day and night. They're asking a lot to solidify that to plant that in a very deep place in their hearts and in their in their minds. And it may be that Allah gifts you with that and Allah does not give someone that knows the time
talks about he died much, much more than you.
You know, this idea of, of someone knowing that's an enemy. Listen and be careful not to rely on the mathematic Rahim Allah said knowledge is not the ability to quote narrations, an element or to nor that allows you to analyze the quality movement that Allah puts in the heart of the believer. And knowledge is a light that Allah puts in the heart of the believer. And that light grows when you're able to withstand these moments of darkness, and recommit yourself every time to Allah subhana wa. Tada. So, that's
very important. Subhanallah I think, I think it's important for us to understand here, I'm gonna elaborate on it once again, when it comes to the subject of knowledge is not really about how much you read and how much you attend in terms of sessions and videos. And this and that's not really doesn't show knowledge that just shows what we call in the Arabic Maratha, which means you have the information. That's all just like when you go to college. And by the end of you're done with your four years, six years, 10 years, whatever many years that you go to school, they give you a certificate, you only been certified not educated.
Education is different, different thing.
It's a whole different game, when it comes to education, similar would come to the subject of demand versus knowledge. You attend all these Halaqaat and all what you get is the information. How much of that information is going to translate into making it knowledge that's up to you? And that's why sometimes bedwin Really, who doesn't doesn't even know how to do them right? Could have could be only Allah azza wa jal could be the volume of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada one of the friends of Allah subhanaw taala knew that spending days and nights and years and studying knowledge entertainment books and so on, not even close.
Why? Because that bedwin He learned something simple. And it became so profound to him to make a connection with Allah subhanho wa Taala met his Eman so strong, he can endure hardship better than you. The student did knowledge. And that's the example of the man the Bedouin when he was asked, How did you know about Allah? subhanaw taala? He goes, What are you talking about? Alba Laurel guy, I saw the droppings of the camel, I realized the camel must have passed through this place. And so footsteps as a human being must have worked through this. And now you told me that all these amazing magnificent domes of the sky and and the past in this earth. Shouldn't there be enough evidence that
there is a Hakeem and Hubby, knowledgeable all wise who create something like this? Hannah? Tara, What an unbelievable, you know, knowledge coming from an IRA or two and his man, this man who has raised his knowledge to words, to drop bones of a camel and footsteps in the desert? That's knowledge edema. That's a profound knowledge. But us today no, it has to be sophisticated. If I don't, if I'm talking from a book, and put so many titles to it, and make fancy you know, sub sub subject and this and that is if it's not philosophical enough for me. It doesn't sound like knowledge. No, that's called information. Okay? How much of that translate into your personal life
to make you so soft in the heart? That's the profound knowledge and that's what the mind actually is going to be all about. So may Allah subhanaw taala grant you all that profound knowledge of Bill Alameen then felt will find its effect in your heart hear a lot in your life. Listen, let's take crucial Shanita 30 seconds just 30 seconds the end of it because I don't want to lose the analogy female talara chumps Jessa Illa wakad wa salam ala Manzella salam to treat your ease the the reward as the sunrise to your darkness, which is the night your hardship, which is the darkness of the night. And of course, what he means here is the certainty of the desert, the reward coming to you as
a certain as you are, when you go to sleep, that the sun will rise, not that you'll have to find the light somewhere, the sun will rise. And so the desire to think of your hardship as a moment of sleep, darkness of the night, understanding that that is not the reward is that sunrise in the morning, we lost friends that allow us to see I'm gonna have to another 30 seconds.
I'm sure
there's a lot there's so much we can go back and forth on this matter. But what Jesus said, remind me with candlelight Avantika with Allah will lelee Either as was so pray that Allah subhana says well laid, I swear to you by the night when it comes to a dark, darkest moment, then you will see the breakthrough of the Fajr which means when the day breaks, so what does that tell me? They say look, you cannot see you're not gonna see the morning light unless it gets too dark first. That's one. Number two. Allah described the break of dawn as what he says tena fest, which means what sort of breathing so breathing what does that mean? Is it like being suffocated? Like the night was
suffocating you this trial was suffocating you and then Subhanallah suddenly stopped breathing, giving you life back. So rest assured, if you trust Allah subhana judgment, and you elevate yourself instead of going through salt and being discontent to being patient, to have Rila and then all the time see the blessings of Allah and everything around you. Even in calamities when you get to that mahkamah Shaka, you're there, but you're not going to get there unless you have that profound no
Lunch, not just information how much of I know I'm practicing that affects my heart and eventually draws into my personal life. Wallah. No more 30 seconds. That was a beautiful 30 seconds
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When going through a hardship, one of the questions that I had was when it comes to confiding in other people as opposed to, you know competing with Motorola, what does a healthy balance of that look like in order to make sure that you're not you know, relying in the wrong place? Gotcha. So the question is simply the value if there's a question, what differentiates between me complaining to Allah complaining about Allah zillion, right? Like when you go to talk to people about what you're going through? Am I being my whining about right now? Am I really not being patient enough or not showing gratitude to Allah subhanaw taala ALLAH SubhanA wa gave us the example of the story of use
of Ali salaam When Yahoo his father, what did he say? Call it in a mirage, Kuba Theva has an in Allah, I only disclose my grief and my sorrow to my Lord. So he was complaining to Allah subhana wa Donna, not about Allah azza wa jal. If people complain to others, you go to a counselor, you go to a friend, you go to a family member, and you try to give them what you go through. And you tell them the pain that you're going through, if that kind of complaining or at least addressing the issue focuses on why me and how Allah is doing this to me and this and that, then you're in trouble.
But if you're just about you know, this so hard for me, what can I do about it? How can I do this? How can I do that? Alhamdulillah you're still in good in good position. But are you at the level of radon, which is better than patients now, which is bring me to the to the to the development they argue. So what is the obligation of a believer, there is no doubt as soft as haram.
Showing the displeasure of Allah's judgment is not acceptable. That's that's prohibited. So if you do it, that's actually a sin itself. The second thing patients they say it's an absolute obligation, an obligation to be patient, but showing satisfaction they say it is highly recommended. So if you don't show that a satisfaction, you're not gonna don't escape the beam being patient, Allah Donna
says there's no question this is a side show read this.
So a question I came, what does it mean, if you're a patient at the first strike would start to lose patience and Eman as time passes? It's actually a really important question because some people do better in the beginning and deteriorate, and some people do horrible in the beginning and then settle, we have different means of grief, in different ways Subhanallah that we react to these types of things.
So just a methodology. And I give a clip about this recently, measuring patients by progress, the short term measure of patients and the submitted ruler at the first strike is whether you said Hamdulillah, and in alignment rod your own and you you held yourself. The long term is did you progress in your journey to Allah subhanaw taala? Did you increase in obedience and decrease in disobedience to allies, that's how you measure patients in the long term. Because that means you learn the lessons from the patients from the from the hardship, and so you grew in your relationship to Allah subhanaw taala. Now, the grieving part of this, because we're such complex beings, and we
get tested in different ways. It doesn't mean, it doesn't mean you're not patient, if it starts get harder as time goes on, you know, especially by the way, when it's a type of tragedy, where people surround you in the initial phases, with with comfort, and then it gets really, really, really lonely. And I remember reading in, in one of the grief grief books, or listening to someone I forgot, but something that really stuck with me, was the idea that when you lose someone that you love, the hardest time is actually usually not in the very beginning, but it's after everyone else has forgot about it, but you haven't forgot about it. So everyone else has kind of moved on with
life. Other people have lost loved ones at that point. Communities moved on extended families moved on, but you're sort of you're really starting to feel the void, the void becomes even more permanent in your life. That's natural, that's natural. And so for the person of Exxon, by the way, the person of excellence who wants to comfort and console reach out to people after some time has passed, when most people have forgotten and say hey, I was just thinking about you and thinking about this one check in if you need anything, I'm here for you. That's number one. But when you're going through these types of tragedies, these types of hardships
every single time you feel the pain of it. That can be another supplement. That's another supplements another
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and respond the way that you responded the first time remind yourself and hamdulillah and ally when a rod your own and keep on trying to make progress to Allah subhanaw taala and don't feel like you're unnatural or that you are a sinful being because it starts to hurt more as time goes on. That just means that you process things differently. And we all process things very different
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So for the past two days from the live guys had a theme of dark going on. I just have a question about that with diet or the etiquette of diet. Are there certain things to keep in mind when making dark kind of like as Abdullah with the Quran, and Sunnah Allah Allah, which many people do before a part of diet and etiquette of diet? You know, the
second, the second part of the question is, then Allah Allah. So if you if you so actually the night cartoons that I've been doing in total, we were all around advocate of your app. So we went through a smart city fat calling upon Allah with as Matt has names, and then history for art, and then his attributes, and then a valley he has doings and then I'll handle thinner or taller.
In Kisara, Chef Yasser also spoke about lemcke sort of if declared to be broken in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala. So enrich your dirt with the mention of the names of Allah subhanaw taala. reading the Quran can also be a form of proceeding that that's fine because it's a good deed within the dirt, and a means of connecting you to Allah subhanho wa taala. Reading your apps from the Quran is blessing. So from the etiquettes of dua, is to enhance your DUA with the names of Allah subhanaw taala. And particularly connect the names of Allah and the attributes to Allah to the request that you're making of Allah subhanaw taala. And so that's something that is open as their intimate say,
the matter of your art as well, sir, it's very, very broad, very expansive. And sometimes people get so caught up in trying to say things exactly as it's written, as opposed to saying things with their heart being most present. And then that's the greater priority endure, is letting some of these things sometimes flow natural as well. So using the springboards the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave us with some of these foundational your eyes that we then you know, leap into our own personal guys and see where your heart and your tongue take you at that point alone. If I might add one more thing actually from the Erica with that as well too is to start with the praise of ALLAH
SubhanA wa Tada before you start with your request is a very impolite will you raise your hand you say you're giving me this. So we actually just said Al Hamdulillah Allah monocle Hyung you My Lord is admit your you know your weakness you need and this and that. Just like you know grabbing the door and just go through the door and enter the someone's house before even saying salam alaikum Can I come in?
So the etiquette of that should be with the president Allah you raise your hand you praise Allah Subhan Allah with, like Sharon was mentioned mentioned the Beautiful Names of Allah subhanho wa taala, saying Hamden and sugar of Allah azza wa jal, and then slowly and gradually, then you start making the request of Allah subhanaw to give you give me this, give me that and so on Allah Tala. Now.
So I'm gonna
just say for these late night heartstopper just going back to the story of prophecy that you're going to see them were in conversation with his wife. He said that he will wait another 80 years before asking for ease and their situation.
And what you mentioned, that when the guests of hardship and trial visits, we must endure it. And that Allah subhanaw taala has mentioned in the Quran that we will be tested. So connecting this back to last night about multi dimensional duels
and focusing on the last one our data than the actual ask itself. So when we are tested with trials outside outside of exercising patience, should we then ask for ease and comfort in our plans? And then what does a multi dimensional dua look like in that situation? Excellent question. So Zack, Allah has actually when I teach the course on the UBI, Islam, I go into all of the different scholarly interpretations of that, that incident with him. And there are a few of them. And that's why I was even talking to Shehata about an asking his opinion on it. Right. And he mentioned, you know, one of the things that the scholar has mentioned that he really wanted to
make the most of the men's of the station. One of the reasons for that, that the scholar has mentioned with a Yubari Salaam is that the nature of the tests of the prophets were all of one nature, which was to raise their their rank, whereas the nature of the tests that come to the rest of us, could be the raising of the rank could be the purification from a sin could be a reminder for us because we're starting to become heedless, and forgetful so the nature of tests for the rest of us is of a more diverse nature than the nature of tests of the prophets. When Allah tests the prophets, he's testing them and raising their hand
So you Ronnie has set up, understood that and so the prophets understood that this was not a form of punishment. Rather, it was a form of raising the motto about the rank that we were talking about last night as well. So that's one interpretation. The other thing that some of the scholars mentioned is that we do find some examples.
And in fact, I'm Ron Hussein all the a lot of time and one particular who was in a similar situation. And in the, you know, I did an episode about Emraan, Hussein and the
angel season two, I talked about him because it was very interesting because he mentioned that
he felt such a closeness to Allah subhanaw taala. And the angels, there was a miracle that was given to him, which was that the angels gave him set up
a miracle for him until the Allahu Tada. And when it was said to him, you know, why don't you ask Allah to remove this biller? And he gave a similar answer to your body some so some of the scars they said from that, that a person does not necessarily have they don't have to ask Allah to remove the hardship. That's one one interpretation. Some of the scholars also made a point to say that a you buddy Sam was in the fall, and seeking forgiveness and the profit slice and I'm saying that whoever seeks forgiveness and lezzy minister for whoever is consistent seeking the forgiveness of Allah subhanaw taala then Allah will remove their hardship and so he was actually implying the
removal of hardship. Even if he wasn't directly saying remove this hardship or remove that hardship which lines up with the drought of newness it is set on La ilaha illa Anta Subhanak, Indian quantum and a lot, I mean, which is a drought of Toba. Right? It's really a form of seeking forgiveness, and it removed the hardship from him. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that whoever makes you out with the drought of Yunus is named in the hardship will be removed as well. So that's one thing that we learned from it. Also, I'm going through all the interpretations, I should probably just get to the point. The point of this is that there are multiple ways to look at this
book, the guidance we take from Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that ask Allah for the removal of the hardship, but make sure that the priority is the realization of the reward that Allah reward you, and that Allah removed the hardship. And so, for the believer, those two things are not in contradiction. If I might just add one more thing, actually, is it even?
Is it possible even if it recommended for a believer to avert hardship? Like if you know that hardship is going to come your way? Is it permissible for you even recommended for you to try to avert that hardship by getting out of its way? The answer is yes, absolutely. You shouldn't be welcoming any hardships really. But if it comes then in this case, you endure it. And and the example of this happens in the story of a very the honorable Jura gelato. animada. And I'm Pablo de la whenever Aveda was the commander of the Muslim
population armies and in the sham invited me to come somewhere to meet him in a certain place so I'm gonna hop on his way he heard that there is a plague raving in that area raging in that area. So as our VEDA meet me outside, so I can actually get so stay away from from the situation from from the plague over somebody that doesn't have a hotdog cart at the federal and federal law. What are you going to run away from Alaska? So the answer Roman was brilliant. He goes, Yeah, I feel Roman Tada. Hola. Hola. Cuadrilla, I'm running away from one quarter of Allah to the other quarter of Allah. Which means the color of Allah you're asking me to go into is the color of sickness and illness and
even danger, right? I'm asking you to come to the color of safety. So yeah, just because we say that look, when there is a calamity, you have to endure it. You have to do this. You have to show patience and so on. It doesn't mean to open arms for these calamities. Yes, we say it's like a guest. But if it happens, we have to deal with Allah now.
To get them set up.
So my question was, when you go through hardships just like time after time and back to back and you're just being like, torn apart by these, but you still live in a good surrounding like it handled and now you have a roof on your head and a handler or your family members are live in with you. But life just keeps throwing these punches at you. Is it considered being ungrateful or complaining? When after a certain period of time you start to get emotional about it? Or does it mean you have better Eman? Because Allah keeps testing you or is Allah punishing you for something with these hardships and tests?
It's not a sign of low Eman to feel the pain of the test at all. It's a sign of high Eman to channel the test into supplication and closeness to Allah subhanaw taala.
Again, we're deeply complex beings, some of us are more emotionally intense than others honestly. And there's also a sense of, and I guess the human psychology element of this too.
There's a
A chef chefs and men are happy to have autonomy Alas, pants are free him from his from his tribulation. And all of the scholars that are unjustly imprisoned. I mean, and I remember someone that was working with him, like he that they're saying he doesn't cry much anymore. And he mentioned something along the lines of like his tears dried up with the amount of just pain he was going through, right, you're enduring one trial after the other, it's sort of like, it's harder to get emotional for him. Because at some point, there's a numbness that can overtake the person. I've heard that from other people that have been through severe trial, that there's a numbness that can
overtake a person, that numbness is not a numbness to a loss of Hanoi to it necessarily, but it could be sort of almost a numbness to the pain or a defense mechanism on the inside of you, right, that you psychologically react in a certain way.
You know, as a means of protecting yourself when something happens. And some people, you know, they talk about ice in the veins, right? Like, some people in some in a very intense moment.
They can they can do in car, as their intimate mentioned, like they can deny their hearts, they can they can completely forbid, the emotional elements from overtaking them, and then they just fall apart like the next day.
So it's like delayed grief, you know, like in the beginning, like, deal with it, and very, like almost stoic and then next thing, you know, when they're alone, it's like, Whoa, it hits them really hard, right? And that's when they're able to sort of sit with themselves and they allow themselves to go through their emotions. So people are going to react in different ways at different times. How do you channel it? How do you channel it, so long as you channel it to do so long as you channel it to an increase in good deeds than benign to Allah, you're in a good place.
And so long as you don't assign any assumptions as to why it's happening, that are along the lines of Su Alana and Alas, pounds, you know, and expecting bad from Allah subhanaw taala assigning some sort of deficiency to Alas, parmesan, then bid the night out, it's all praiseworthy, and there's nothing to worry about. You shouldn't feel like Allah is punching you. You should feel like Allah subhanaw taala is raising you, based upon your response to the nighttime.
Bother, I just want to just add one more thing here. Sometimes all these trials and tests are just relative really, meaning what you consider to be a test for other people. It's a blessing. I mean, I remember one time we went to a refugee camp, and we were helping some of the families there was some, some some stuff that were brought to them food and things and so on. Subhanallah the man dignified family, they insisted that we come into the tiny little space that they have, he has a home for themselves. Here's a insist we you guys have to come in, we have to you know, you're our guests, we have to get you something. And subhanAllah we've gotten there in that into that room, and
they serve this tea. And even we look at the the tray itself is bent, the cups are everywhere every cup is looks different. And nothing really I need to say presentable in a way that to make perfection about it. And you look around in the house and the room that we were in, there will just maybe a couple of questions we were just sitting on, and maybe a few tenths of zero and they're in that room as everything was in that room. Basically, they everything they their possessions were all there. And as we were done Hamdulillah he was entertaining us for this conversation talking about just the spirit is unbelievable. Really. It puts you to shame. And then as we were leaving with
anything we can help you with. He goes Alhamdulillah we have everything.
And I swear I was looking at the gas would mean just look around what what he's talking about.
What is he really talking about? There is absolutely nothing in that room. But all their position was in that same room that we were sitting in. And for him he just let that handle we have everything.
Now that level of really of understanding of Eman in that moment, then us we're talking about puts us really to shame when it comes to dealing with hardships as we see them in our life. But again, like I said, the pain and the trials are relative trials for some what you consider to be a trial you're going through, they will tell you you gotta kill me. And Hamdulillah I mean, that's a blessing. So may Allah make it easy for Azerbaijan?
Question.
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so sure if you have mentioned earlier how, remember Josie gave the analogy of how to deal with a trial should be the same way how you should deal with the guests. And then she called her later on and has talked about how, when someone who's trial, he doesn't necessarily see the light at the end of the tunnel until later on in life, or whatever the case is. And then so the question here is Allah azza wa jal in the past couple of days y'all mentioned Allah azza wa jal has tested Emended, New Jersey with his own son. And so the question is, how did those you deal with that test considering the fact that his son wasn't necessarily a momentarily thing more than it was an ending
thing until either one of them dies or whatever the case is? work alone.
Now if I'm going to comment on the story of his of his son
Actually, if you remember from our chapter last night, when we talked about the delay of the DUA, so even even Josie Rahim Allah, He presented in that chapter, it says, and I've been through something he said, I've been through my own personal trials. That's what he said. Right? Another thing he wanted to make it explicit, but I believe he was referring to his trial with his son, which I mentioned briefly in the introduction of the book. And the author of Camelot, Allah has sun was one of the students at least on the path of seeking knowledge. And then at some point, subhanAllah, he just switched path completely. And you can imagine the trials upon Allah and he just lost it to the
extent that he used to steal his father's books, and then sell them in the market to get cash and money. Finally, his father made dua against him really. Now, we don't know what the circumstances were back then, Allahu Allah. But as you can see, humans have their own limitation as well to the humans have limitation of their own. And it's interesting because we might say, wait a second, I mean, he's in his car and people repent and cry when he speaks. What about his son? Why didn't his son you know, speak and cry. It's a phenomena which is across, you know, the line of all the students of knowledge and aroma and teachers and Imams and schewe and so on all these things. You
always hear about great Shinola money moms, but rarely, you will find their kids follow in their footsteps. And the other mother spoke about this phenomena from before. And they said, look, it's Pamela. Many cases, the reason why the kids don't follow suit in the path of their parents, because when they were kids, the people give them special treatment.
That they felt becoming entitled to it as they grow older, without the need for them to work for it like their parents did before. Like for Ireland to be recognized yet to go through a long long arduous journey to be recognized. His kids, they get easy pass because of their father.
But when they were kids, people give them that special treatment. But when they become adults, now what happens that the same the same people give them special treatment when their kids what did they do right now? They demand from them now? A different return different yield from from the treatment. And this case didn't probably maybe put the effort to do it in that way. So that's a trial of urban Josie Rahmatullahi Dona Ana, how did he do it? To what extent? Allahu Donna, now my kids are Hersha otters here. So you got to talk about I'm not talking about
it's not about her.
It's Paola. Um, and she has also realized that Allah Salam said in the Hadith, yeah, Algebra bootcamp. Insha. Allah said, lo saba. If I use or a child grows through life from being a child, to going through adulthood, without rebellion, that's a great blessing.
Can you imagine that being from childhood to adulthood without rebellion, that's a great blessing guidance from Allah subhanaw taala, which means it's expected in the youthful age that they will rebel. Now, to close the story of Joseph Mo, Allah. There were some reports, not sure about the reliability of these reports, that later on in his life, this young man actually, he recalibrated and came back again to a better position in life. Allahu Allah, I can't confirm or deny this report. Now I'll just share on that, by the way, subhanAllah on that note, you know, Monica Rahim Allah, sometimes it's the same parent and then, you know, one goes this way, the other goes this way. And
it was baffling. You know, my mother called him Allah had a daughter that was just stunningly immersed in, in his knowledge to the point that she memorized his mawatha. And she would check his students. So when his students would be reciting, and if they made a mistake, she should knock on the door. Like she was listening to the students recite them what the other father the collection of Hadith, and by the way, Mama Shafi Rahim Allah said the most authentic book in the world after the Quran, this is before the compilation of Sahaba it was more water, most of the Hadith and water made themselves made their way into the into Sahadi. But, you know, imagine his daughter was so dedicated
to that energy, knocks on the door, when someone makes a mistake when they're reading the Hadith, and she memorized them what must be intimidated? Yeah, seriously. So it's, it's and then you have another son that didn't pan out that way. So I think what it shows you I mean, to connect it to the broader topic, is that this deen and this guidance needs to be wanted. You've got to want it at some point, you have to make that decision, especially for those that grew up with religious parents. Forget about scholars, you're not just religious parents practicing parents at some point. You've got to want it yourself. And if you don't want it yourself, then it's not going to land in the
heart. And so that's why this is an individual track. And Eliza does not wrong any one of us. So just because the parents are religious doesn't mean that they're going to
ventually follow them this path. Absolutely a reminder to all of us Subhanallah I mean, we have the example of new holidays in the last panel where they made him one of the top five messengers of the in the Quran or azmoun Russell, but then he met his wife and his son the top examples of disbelief for longest time. There is no guarantee luxury Amazon till you want it yourself. Allah. Yes.
Question Brother, brother from the sisters. Okay.
What is your advice on Muslim struggling with their faith due to the hardships they see going on around the world like in Philistine, Syria, Lebanon, etc? And how do you explain to a non believer that it could be a test from Allah?
Just for the sake of time, I did a hotbar a few years ago, when when the first one held up, I remember very specifically, there was a massacre and had in Aleppo, Syria. And so if you actually go to the pain channel, why do the innocent suffer? I broke down quite a bit of that just just for the sake of time, I will enter you but just to go through that and shelter as well.
Sure, Sheikh Mohammed has done now he actually has a paper as well on the pain. Why do innocent people suffer, which we had him that someone embraces? So I'm actually very recently after reading that paper?
How do I explain it to an unbeliever you actually can't.
Because if they don't believe they're not going to get it.
Tribulation in this world doesn't make sense, without something that is outside of this world, both in the sense of control. And in the sense of consequence, tribulation will not make sense in this world without the existence of a power outside of it, and a world outside of it. Because if you have to justify everything within it, you're gonna fail, you're gonna keep on running into a wall. And what you can do as a result of that is you could, you could just say, You know what, forget about all of it. None of it makes sense. And I'm going to just close my eyes and just deal with the consequences if there is something after this. And if there is a God outside of this. That's not
very smart. It's not very smart. Or you could try to explore the existence of that power outside of this realm. And the limited the unlimited outside of this, these limitations that we are familiar with. For the believer that struggles, suffers.
It's important to understand that empathy is a good thing.
To care about your own not to care about people being oppressed, that's a gift from Allah subhanaw taala. Remember, we talked about hardships that are disguised as blessings, that pain is part of what makes your heartbeat and softens it, keeps it connected to Allah spines and connected to your OMA, which is a sign of faith, because to not care about your Alma is a sign of the lack of faith.
The point is, is that you go back and this is where some individual trials and hardships, say look at the past. Look at the current and focus on the future. Sometimes Subhanallah, which if he also just mentioned, I've experienced this myself, you talk to people in Gaza, and they're not having the faith crisis that you're having on their behalf.
It's interesting, you know, he talks I've been in the Syrian refugee I've been in Syria. I've been to the Syrian refugee camps multiple times. They're not having the faith crisis that you're having on their behalf. sterber Nizza, yeah Allah, Ya Allah, Allah. I mean, gruesome, brutal, Bosnia. The mothers of Srebrenica serve Anita who, I mean, witnessed horrors, unspeakable horrors and have the most beautiful smiles. And like their content, not that it doesn't hurt like crazy, but their content. So it's important for us to take a step back and say, look, they understand their desire.
We too should understand that Allah azza wa jal will distribute his desire, his reward accordingly. We also understand that in past times, more righteous people were tested with more difficult circumstances, generations that came before.
Right, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned Eman is in Yemen.
And Imani Imani
is Pamela you see what's happening over there? The Prophet slice I mentioned about a sham that the angels of Allah spread their wings over Sham.
Right, and you see what's happening while the angels spread their wings, their bombs falling upon them as well, because there's something in the hearts of the believers that cannot be taken away from bombs or drones or tragedy. And that is a kingdom in the heart of the believer. And so let them you know, focus on their reward and you focus on removing the bombs but don't question the wings of the angels. You focus on lifting the hardship. Allah subhanaw taala will reward you for that in sha Allah to Allah, but you have to believe in something outside of this
Otherwise, if you are so focused if the removal of limitation, and the removal of punishment is the cause by which you believe and don't believe, then you're always going to be in turmoil. Because the world is never consistent in that regard. If there isn't a problem here, there's a problem there. And last thing, I'll say, my 30 seconds.
Social media has made it impossible to imagine a time where you're not going to be hyper exposed to tragedy. It's just it's a fact now Subhanallah that? Look, I mean, there was a time when if you lived in and you look at the turn of the 20th century, in particular, the Islamic movements that came out of that, they tended to be very geographically focused. And so revivalists in this part of the world when they tend to when they tended to think about OMA OMA meant something to them, which was really mainly what they were exposed to. So if you were living in India, if you were living in Egypt, if you were living in, you know, the Gulf or the Arabian Gulf, if you were living in Africa,
you're really when you say, Amma, you're thinking about the Muslims you've been exposed to naturally. Now it's like
it's constant exposure, right? You have to take all of that exposure and funnel it through a singular lens.
Otherwise you won't catch up. And that lens is the lens of certainty and Allah's decree.
I believe actually the time is up right now inshallah double question is akmola Karim Allah subhanho wa Taala Can you love your banana meaning, we ask Allah Subhan to protect you all and keep you safe in this dunya and fill me with a lighter America.