Nouman Ali Khan – Surah Yusuf #64 – V99 Both His Parents
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The use of "naughty," in Arabic language, is discussed, as well as the importance of "has" and "has been" in Arabic language. The speaker also touches on the idea of the mother of all children and the potential consequences of the Bible's teachings on one's emotions, particularly in acceptance of grief and family acceptance of loneliness. acceptance of one's grief and acceptance of family members' loneliness are emphasized, along with the importance of not giving up on promises and acceptance of one's loneliness.
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publisher it suddenly we're silly. Dr. Melissa Nia Oliva hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was a huge man I'm about once again everyone Somali come to light Allah Gatto. Today I have a discussion plan for you that's revolving I am number 99 of circus of all translated First, it seems pretty straightforward at first glance, but there's a what seems like a slight but I think it's a deep enough conversation necessary. That desire should be discussed on its own.
I would say to start off that in order to grasp what we can from this idea and to share with you guys what we've come to learn and what can be a benefit for myself in all of you trying to, you know, extract as much wisdom and guidance we can from the Quran. This was quite an exercise for both myself. And so Haven, it was actually pretty rewarding. So I'm grateful that we have each other and that allows Oh, God has given us this opportunity to do this kind of southern border and this kind of reading and research. So let me first start off by translating we're at the scene now. Where the parents have arrived in Egypt. So for llamada, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah usofa, when they all came
into entered upon use of literally entered upon use of would mean that perhaps it means they came into the court of use of early settlements. When they entered, that means all of the sons of Jacob, all of their families, the wives, the children, the jacobellis, Islam and his wife also, apparently, right. So this large family gathering has now come into the presence of the ruler of Egypt, which is use of a nice setup. There are narrations surrounding this moment about how there was a procession 1000s of soldiers and how even iacobelli some saw him and said, is that the pharaoh because that's that wasn't a bad word at the time, right? Is that the pharaoh? Or is that the Pharaoh of Egypt and
what he was told no, this is Yusuf Ali Salam. So, you know, in the course of all of that, there are other things that have been said in the narrations that I'm going to skip a little bit but get to, you know, what we can what we need to definitively discuss. So they came into the company abuse of the entered upon him, first thing our la he about way he, he pulled both of his parents towards himself, and the word pull towards yourself, our la he is the same verb that was used for when he pulled your Binyamin towards himself in order to protect him. It's the same verb that's used in the Quran to describe the young people who took pulled themselves into the cave to protect themselves,
though the root letters comes out. Wow. And yeah, and the Muslim is iliyan, a we and the final version is Eva, this word actually means to stick to something for because though, if you go into a cave, because you're too weak to withstand the cold, or the way, the winds or whatever else, then you've engaged in the act of a weak, meaning. You stuck to something for protection. But it could be you cling to someone because you're sad or you a baby clings to the mother because it needs comfort. So every time the weak or the needy cling to someone for refuge for comfort, for ease, then that's the verb that's used. And the verb used here suggests that yako the use of alley slam can't wait to
be the comfort for his father. Like he can't wait for that moment where he gets to comfort him. So our La Jolla by the way he but the challenge here is about our la he, he he pulled both of his parents towards himself, he both he pulled them in to give them refuge to make them feel safe to give them comfort all of that included. But it doesn't just say that about Yaqoob. It says it about both of his parents. And this is peculiar, because so far in the story mom hasn't been brought up at all except by passing reference when the dream was mentioned, right?
Because the sun in the moon represents the mother and the father. Right? So this is a curious thing. Mom has been absent throughout the story. And now she's being implicitly brought up again, because of a way the pair form in the Arabic is basically a combination of an own. Right. So mom and dad is is included, and they're both his parents. That's why I titled the talk today in this way. So the first thing that I'd like to maybe help you understand is why is mom missing in the story? Obviously, when you lose a child, then the the tragedy of that and the devastation of that would had both parents and arguably even more so the mother so what are
argument is that the mother had already passed the actual, you know, biological mother of use of Islam had already passed away. But before we get into that conversation, let's look at the bronze formula for telling stories. You see, you and I are used to hearing the story or hearing an event and we want all perspectives. We want the we want the full account. And it's fair to ask the question, because we have the sensibilities of how stories are told, how come the mom's not being talked about. But let me tell you something about taco Ron's formula for telling stories, the current agenda is actually not to tell a story. First and foremost, the current agenda is to give us
lessons, guidance and principles that can be extracted from parts of the story, a lot of considers timeless, that have timeless value. Right, so he wants us to learn something from these events, but not every single detail of these events. These are a few decades in the making the story of use of a system. But we have a few pages, if not, not even volumes, we have a few pages, capturing those decades. So what I did is he took bits and pieces from that story that we need for guidance. And everything else has been omitted not because it's unimportant. It's important historically, obviously, it happened to these same people, every single day that transpired in the life of Jacobi,
Sam has value. Every minute he spent every prayer he made his value. But there are some things that Allah considered of timeless value that represent guidance for for all human beings that will seek guidance from Allah until Judgment Day. Having said that, what Allah does in the Koran, is that he compromises telling you about all the characters in the story or everything about any one character, he only focuses on the things that go towards that heart, that higher purpose. So it might come across to you if I was personally telling you a story. And I skipped out on the mom, you'd say, what about the mom?
God isn't doing that. The Quran is not interested in telling you a story. The Quran is interested in guiding you that can be useful of our equity, he is on his side. And it's actually the same reason that in the story of Musa alayhis salaam, the father is pretty much entirely absent, even though he has a father. He's entirely absent from the story. And even if you don't think about the father and the mother,
you know, there are there are elements like how gnarling salaam was his younger sibling, or older, older sibling, right? But he's missing from the story in the beginning, too. And his sister has to go get him by the water. So there's other interesting questions, let's skip some details in the Quran. Because he wants our focus on other things, right. So that having said all of that, and that is the formula of the Quran really, like in any, you'll notice in the storytelling in the Quran, more is missing than a said, that's actually the formula. So you have we have very little that's been said. But the little that's been said, is so valuable, and so powerful. And what's even more
interesting is that when you compare the volumes, like exponentially larger text in the whatever transcript of the Bible, we have now the Hebrew Bible that we have now, that covers this same story, it's exponentially bigger in the Bible. It's huge in the Bible. And in the Quran, in the much more skimmed, arguably skimmed version, you shouldn't have the kind of detail that's in the in the Bible, but actually, the Quran is talking about things the Bible didn't even touch. The Quran is addressing things that were never known even by the Israelites, they just want to known. So this is a remarkable feature of the Quran. But regardless, now, it's important to bring up that Allah decided
not just to say that he pulled his father who was stricken with grief, he says he pulled both of his parents in, right. So that's going to require a little bit of a conversation. So and at the end of all of that, we're going to try to try to help you think through what could be the benefit in US hearing that from Allah, the the both parents comment, because every word has a value, right? So it's a it's a peculiar addition to the story, and it definitely deserves attention. So we're gonna do a little bit of that in sha Allah, or maybe a little bit of that, and then we're gonna get to the rest of the site. So and I won't even translate the rest of it yet, because that'll fit in once we
have this discussion in place. So first, I'm going to walk you through a summary of what our scholarship Muslim scholarship has had to say about how they can fill that gap. What is it what's the purpose or who is being referred to by the mother? So I'll read some things from the Nevada first and backfill a welfare mirage. Because he about why He called on the when it comes to both his parents there are two views there are two things that have been said, and I will Mirage abou Hua mobile. The first meaning is what is meant by this is his father and his biological mother. Well, I know how to appeal and based on this, what's been further substantiated is in now
Ma who cannot attend at 11 o'clock that his mother was still alive up until that time
wakita in the Haqqani admitted and it's also been said that it she actually had already passed away Illa and Allah Allah has accepted Allah brought her back to life. Well inshallah I'm in poverty her and pulled her out of her grave had surgery that LaHood can you get the use of honey syrup, so she can do the sajida, you know, to confirm the dream of use of honey syrup. So our mocha saloon because we came to hear from reliable Israelite sources that the mom had actually passed away. This a while must have brought her back to life. Right in order to fulfill this dream because it says both his parents, so that must mean her and by the way, her name from the biblical version is Rachel. Okay,
so we're going to use that that name, I'll call 230. And then morada Whoo hoo. Holla to the second position has been Muslim scholarship, that the meaning here is his mom and his dad and his mom's sister has holla. Okay, the unknown Muhammad Fini fast v. Binyamin because his mother died while giving birth to Binyamin Benjamin, the younger brother, well, Kyla Binyamin, we'll skip that part. Well, no matter who does it, and when the mother died, then the father married her sister. So that's the the scholarship view Muslim scholarship view on this or the opinion that's been found, for some some Mahalo to Allah.
So Allah named her one of the disappearance because the another rub back to the Omen lippia mihama comment on, because the one who nurtures and takes care, because when when Rachel died, the one taking care of both kids was the sister and her place. So she was taking playing the role of the mother. And in Arabic, the role of the mother, whoever plays the role of a mother is also called mom. And that's actually a contemporary thing to when you're raised by somebody, even if they're not your biological mom, you're still gonna call them mom. Right? You just kind of custom to that. And that's, that's a normal thing.
Only on one comma.
So So, or it could be that the aunt in ancient language is actually considered a kind of mother just like the uncle is considered a kind of father. And that's actually true in the Quran, because what you know about Abraham was married, what is Huck, just to give you a little bit of timeline because some of you aren't as familiar with this stuff where it's not settled in your head, so bear with me, okay. So Ibraheem alehissalaam has a smile on his harp. Right, Ishmael and Isaac. Isaac has Jacob, Jacob has 12 sons, right? So Ibrahim, then is Isaac, Abraham, Isaac, and then Jacob, and then the 12 sons, Ibrahim is half and then Yaqoob and Islam and then the 12 sons of jacobellis. Okay, when Yahoo
was dying, he told his sons, what are you going to worship after I'm dead? And the Quran says they responded, we will worship your God, and the God of your fathers, Ibrahim,
and a smile and his heart.
So when they were talking about their fathers, their fathers or your dad telling Jacob your father's right, they didn't say your father's ebrahimian is hoc? Because that would be father and grandfather. Right? They included uncle in it. Because what is this Marielle to jacoba a salon. He's his uncle, but included what word the God of your fathers in America, Ibrahim was Marilla is Huck. So what you find as a career as an evidence in the Quran, and also in language is sometimes the uncles or the odds were actually also referred to as father or mother. And this is actually what is also been claimed about Ibrahim alayhis salam his father, because the Arabic word used for him in
the Quran is be
his father. And this is an interesting side conversations about the by he mentions in his stuff here.
And some of you will have an allergic reaction because I call it about tobuy. Because it's not a Sunni source. I read Western literature, I'll read an atheist about the Quran, I will read Christian literature on the Quran, I will read anything I can on the Quran, if I find evidence or reason in it, or I want to hear what the other argument is, I will keep an open mind and study and read. So I have my own convictions and faith, but I don't discriminate when it comes to seeking information or seeking knowledge. You know, if we if we take that approach, then for example, if I want to study linguistics or Arabic, then one of the most remarkable Pinnacle works in Tafseer studies is uncashed
off by a machete. Anybody who's worth anything interfere knows that but he's known to be marked as elite. And I don't carry more physically views and in terms of understanding theology, and that is a very, you know, obscure, you know, view
The Akita of Islam, and yet he's still the gold standard in grammatically analyzing and rhetorically analyzing the Quran and so many after him who hated his guts for his views, his beliefs, actually took knowledge from him when it came to Arabic analysis, and in many cases even plagiarized him. So there's that. So I don't personally discriminate when it comes to looking at different sources and what has been said, and how has it been, you know, argued and substantiated. The thing at the end is our loyalty is not to an author, our loyalty is the to the divine author, and anybody who makes an argument, we look at what is being said more than who's saying it. Right, and which is exactly what
a judge is supposed to do in court before they look at what statement, you know, who's making the statement, they have to look at what is the statement itself, they have to value the word itself, right. And that's what true research should be about anyway. So tabatabai is discussion. Thank you for bringing that to my attention.
I'll give you the basic version of it is that Ibraheem alehissalaam the, by the end of his life, he makes this draw in which he says, My, my master, forgive me, Valley Valley, and forgive both of my parents. Forgive me and forgive both of my parents, even though there's an injunction in the Quran that he's not allowed to pray for his father.
Okay, that that cannot happen anymore, and that there isn't, it's not given in the Quran. So there seems to be this, like reconsider, like this, this conflict, but actually, it's resolved by tabatabai, in his view, by use of the word up and Weiland, that while it is the maternal biological, or the biological father, and up is actually the one who raised him, which is why so many of us don't say that Arthur was actually his uncle, who raised him. So there are two different things up is the father figure you can even call it the father figure. And sometimes the biological father is the father figure. Other times the biological parent has passed away, or he's absent. And the uncle
is the father figure, or somebody else becomes the father figure. They don't become the wallet, but they can become the hub. They can be the hub, and this is the word that's being used. And this is a way he, right, so it's the one that plays that role is actually being highlighted in the word of a way. So that's what we got from the FSC. There's, there's a couple other comments here that I want to read to you. Well, keila anahola matsuzawa How about the button solder drop button? Use of and it's also been said that he when he married her that after some time, she became the caretaker for use of Elisa, Vanessa lotman zealot, and on that she was given the status of a mother niccone
hamdulillah fiso Jia till up because she is in the place and being married to the Father, but the Yamaha mahkamah ha, our raba to the Omega lm cocoon holla. And the caretaker can be called the mother even if she be even if she wasn't the aunt, or we are an ebony Ibis or the Allahu taala in Houma and Murata, boo hoo, hoo hoo.
Even our boss has been attributed this has been attributed to him that this means his father and his grandmother, well, meaning the mother of his mother, Hakka has saharawi. So there are these different, you know, kind of views in Islamic literature. But in order to really grasp this better, I think we have to turn to the genealogy that's mentioned in the Bible, and how things kind of played out. This is gonna take a little patience from you guys. And I pray Allah gives me clarity and presenting this to you, because I think it'll really help and then inshallah we'll tie it all together with what I think we can benefit from this is okay, so if you can bring that screen up
already. Thanks. So I'm going to tell you a little crazy story. And those of you that watch like boxing dramas and stuff you bought to get a treat. So
there's a man named Levon and the band had his youngest daughter, her name is Rachel, he had a daughter older than that bill, her, and another one zilpah. And the last one, Leah. So he's got four daughters. Notice two of them are in gray, because they're considered handmaidens. In other words, they were daughters from a servant or, you know, from a slave woman or a servant woman. So they're not given that full status. What what happened in ancient society, apparently, in ancient Hebrew society, is that when you had multiple children, and some of them from a wife, and some of them from a servant, then that was given to you. Then the children of the servant become servants of your
other children. So basically, the red become the, the or the grays become the servant of the reds, according to this. Okay, so zilpah and bilhah are servants to Rachel and Leah. And the way it used to work is, if you haven't, like Rachel is younger, and Leah is older. So the younger girl, the younger servant, will serve the younger daughter, the older servant will serve the older daughter, okay? That's just how things used to work now. It so happens that there's a young man named
Jacob Yaakov alayhis salam, who has a twin brother in the Bible. His name is Sal. Okay. He is a un English spelling, okay. And he is basically what you can call an evil twin. He's, he's, he's older, so he came out first. And he is an idol worshiper. He is into adultery and fornication. He does all kinds of evil things, but they are twins. And it's so bad between them that one point Esau tries to kill Jacob he tries to kill jacobellis salaam and Jaco by some escapes, and comes into this town. And it was or when he's escaping, even before then it was already known that Jacob and you know, jacobellis. I mean, he saw the two brothers are going to get married one day, and the family that
was primed to marry them was Lebanon's family. And the idea was, the younger son will marry the younger daughter, and the older son will marry the older daughter. So I'm giving you the basically the broken down version of this genealogy from the Bible, and it's gonna seem like it's a lot, but inshallah it will make sense why I'm telling you all of this in a couple of minutes. Okay, so the idea was, since Yaqoob is younger, he's supposed to marry Rachel. And since
Esau is older, he's supposed to marry Leah, when Leah finds this out that the word is that you're supposed to marry ethos. She's like, he's a thug. He's a gangster. She was crying all the time. And the and she's so distraught, and she's constantly praying to God to change her fate. Okay, because she doesn't want to end up getting married to this guy. It's like an indian movie for some of you. Okay? So she's just losing her mind. Because she doesn't want to marry when she's praying that God changes her fate. Yaqoob. Again, the biblical version, Jacob comes to this family, he completely falls in love with Rachel, he wants to marry her. He asked for her hand in marriage. lavonda father
agrees. And when you marry, then your servant comes with you. Right, so belhar Zopa, whichever one's younger will come with Rachel because the younger one with the younger daughter, remember the younger servant with the younger daughter, okay, so she'll keep her servant. When she gets married. lavon plays a trick he, you know, cuz they're, they're veiled when they get married as customary clothing. So he wants his older daughter to get married first. So even though he says that you're marrying Rachel, he actually puts Leah in her place, and Rachel stays quiet about it, even though she wants to marry Jacob. And she's really happy about it. The father says, No, the older daughter
has more right? She's gonna marry him. Just don't tell him anything. We'll talk about it after it's done. And in order to complete the deception, even though layers older, and her servant is supposed to be the older one of the two behind zilpah, he put the younger one of those two, next to Leah had her covered and thus deceived, Jacob jacoba, a salon, and they got married. And when it's unveiled, it's the one whose eyes are baggy from all that crying, and she's not the Bible would describe Rachel was pretty and he really liked her. And he really wanted to marry her. And he comes to, and by the way, the the men have the dowry was that you're going to work for me for seven years. Right?
So you can get married to her now, but to pay me off for marrying the marriage gift is you're going to serve seven years. He says, Well, you know, yeah, I did that. But you know, older daughters should really get married first. And if you still want to marry Rachel, you can, by the way, in Islam now. That's how long until tomorrow Brain Octane in lambda console of the Quran talks about this. You cannot marry two sisters, except for what's already happened. But apparently pre Torah, because this is not even the days of the Torah. This is the Jewish civilization before will be considered Judaism because the Torah was revealed to musala Islam, generations later. This is before
the days of that, right? So this is from Abrahamic times, early times, right? So some of these rules and regulations aren't there. Anyway. So he says, Well, you wanted to marry Rachel, I understand. But I really wanted my older daughter to get married first. That's why, you know, I duped you into getting this year shadiness October of two holgie. Right, there's done. So now when it's done, he's like, well, if you want to marry Rachel, you still can just add another seven years to the deal. work for me for 14 years. And you can marry Rachel too. So basically describes that in a matter of days, are very short period of time. Jacob got married again. So now he has two wives. He has Leah
and Rachel. And the seven girls came with them to serve each of those wives, right. And this brought Leah great deals of depression because she felt like she's not the first choice. She's not the one he truly loves. He she's prettier. She's younger, he likes her more. And then the Bible describes that God so made it that to compensate her for her sorrow, that Leah was the one who could have kids and Rachel couldn't have kids. For the longest time Rachel could not have kids. So let me show you what happens next.
So Leah, right. She has a son named Ruben. Then she has a son named Simeon. Then she has a son named
Levis, then she has a son named Judah, Mashallah his four boys, for boys are born. And the idea is, there's also literature about how they were competing spiritually, they knew that they're married to a prophet. And they're part of the noble legacy of Ibrahim alayhis salam, and they want as many sons with him as possible, because that noble legacy will pass on, and they have a share in that good deed. So that spiritual sort of legacy was a matter of pride back then for them. So Leah has four sons. Meanwhile, Rachel can't have any children. So she comes up with a plan. She tells her husband Jacob, they're both married to him, right? She tells her husband Jacob, why don't you take bilhah
meaning she's giving her hand off to her husband. You know, my mother got a monochrome you can be with my servant girl. This is this was allowed back in the day. And so you can marry her and have children with her. And I will raise them as my own because she's my servant. So he does that he's with her. And then they have two kids, Dan and Naphtali.
Now, Leah, find, you know, when as this is happening, she's getting upset because she wasn't having kids in the middle. So she says, You know what, take my server and golden give me additional kids too. So now jacoba Islam, from the from the biblical version has gotten nationality, they've got eight kids. And after they have eight kids, Leah ends up happening having the ninth and the 10th, and even a daughter. So it's like our Zulan. And Dina always gets out. So now you know what could go wrong. You've got four women, you've got three of them with multiple kids. There's no room for any possible jealousy of who's the favorite child or which one matters more or whatever. Obviously, it's
all good in the hood, right? Everything's okay. But at the end of the day, if you think about it, the contest between Leah and Rachel, if you understand this, this contest, Leah felt like what's the edge she has over Rachel? Well, he loves her. And she's clearly the younger one and the prettier one but at least I gave him all the kids. Right. And even if she gave him kids through the survey, while I even the score there, too, so I still maintain my advantage, at least the the powers, you know, the, there's no disturbance in the Force. Okay, so far. Then what happens is Rachel finally gets pregnant and has use of, she gives birth to Joseph. And then sometime later, she dies giving birth
to Benjamin. So the one thing that Leah had over Rachel, which was that she couldn't have kids, at least directly, and every in every other way she was compensated for now that advantage is gone. And what's the reminder of that use of end. Binyamin now I want you to think about the psychology of this if the suns are constantly seeing this feeling this, you know, towards their, you know, toward Youssef, and Binyamin because of this existing rivalry between Leah and Rachel which hasn't been talked about in the Quran clearly, but the Bible does talk about them competing with each other. On the other side, Bill ha and her two sons were perfectly fine. They were all of these, by the way
from one all the way to 10. All of these 10 are basically okay with each other because, you know, they, you know, everything's fine, but now even bill has kids done in the family are like, well, we thought we represented the Rachel side of the family, but now she has kids of her own so they're becoming team the rest are also in the only ones isolated our use of Elisa Lam and Binyamin now, when you read the Quran and you read, Yusuf and his brother are more beloved to father than we are. So the woman that he loved all along has died and the only remnant of her is Youssef and Binyamin, you understand plus, not to mention their character, which is that what the Quran highlight, the
Quran didn't highlight he loves them more because of Rachel, the Quran highlights he loves them loves you surprise him because of his character. So this is a different version of the story. Now I gave you all of this background for a reason to tell you that the Quran didn't say any of this.
The Quran said none of this. None of it. Why not? Why in the world not. So let me talk about that first before we get to the both parents, both parents conversation, believe it or not, so you can take the screen away now.
Here's the thing about why the Quran didn't bring all of this up. Once you understand this entire family dynamic like watching a soap opera, you're like, Oh, that's why they were jealous. Oh, that's why no wonder he hated use of No wonder they hated me. Oh my god, their mom made them do that it was these aren't these man. You had all this like you start coming up with an entire scenario of how this would work and how this plays out in families. What does the Quran do? The Quran makes all of that irrelevant to teach us something that is it is irrelevant. The situation the drama, The tension, the rock
rivalries, all of that is actually just a facade. The real thing is the devil shaytaan creates jealousy, shed line creates the need to overcome or to look down upon someone else. Shetland does all of that, not human beings, not the human beings fall into the worst worst option, and Allah did not endorse that. So what is the who's the enemy? in the Quranic depiction of this entire family drama? You know, none of this drama has been talked about in the Quran, what's the drama brothers, a brother? That's the tension that Quran describes. And what's the cause? The devil got to you. If you study the Bible, it's not the devil that got to them. It's this family dynamic. That's the reason
you understand. So you've got this human psychological kind of reasoning. And the Quran says, No, you need to understand the underlying spiritual problem. The underlying spiritual problem is how the devil is able to manipulate your emotions. You see what a profound higher road the Quran has taken in describing the story. Right? It's, it's, it's a mind blowing thing that the Quran has done here, by not describing all of this. And when you study it, you're like, Oh, no. Now this gets even more interesting, because Rachel dies while giving Benjamin birth, right.
And then, when she dies, according to the according to the Torah, and according to Jewish history, and I tend to have, personally,
I tend to have more confidence in Jewish genealogy more than anything else, because their genealogy really matters to them. So when they document who's the son of who and who's the, all that stuff, that I have more confidence in what the prophets said, and did I have less confidence, I take that a little more of a grain of salt. But when it comes to their genealogy, because their their identity as a people is so rooted in who's fathering who, who's the mother, where they come from all that stuff, that's super important to them, so that I put some stock into, right so now if you understand that, then you know that jacoba, a salon theoretically now has four wives. One of them has died.
Yes, one of them has died. And the others have sons that all hate who
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Whether it's bill Howe, the servant, or Zopa, or it's Leah herself, they all have sons that are that are not no fans of use of artists from all those years, whatever the drama may have been, that's been omitted, we know that the drama existed, the tension existed, right. And one of them is still alive. Now Rachel is past, it could be that Leah is still alive. Because the the Bible describes that she was buried back in the homeland. And it could be it doesn't say it could be that they made it all the way to Egypt. When she died, Jacob said that we should bury her back in our ancestral home. And that's where I want to be buried eventually to when maybe he took her back from Egypt and
got her buried there. But there's no mention of her coming to Egypt, there's only mentioned of where she got buried. So one theory is Leah was in fact alive. And she's the one being talked about when he says he pulled both his parents into the refuge. Because the person married to your mom is actually your parent now or has the respect of your parent, you should treat them as the kind of courtesy you owe to your parents. Right. So we'll talk about the implications on the ayah itself. But let's talk about the who. So one possibility is its layout, the other possibilities either zilpah or bilhah. Which is interesting, because Jewish feminists today are talking about how zilpah
and Bill Howe who history doesn't know much about are not are not getting the credit they deserve, because Jewish women tend to be forgotten in history, but they are the mothers of the Jewish people. Four of the 12 tribes of Israel come from them. Yet we don't know because there were servant women that were handmaidens. We don't know much about them. We don't care anything about them. But we should consider the matriarchs of Jewish society. Now. So what's the Koran's take on this, the colossal explicit about who it is, it's we can pretty confidently say it's not Rachel. But we can say it's either build towers above which are both servant women, or Leah, the wife.
Now let's look at both possibilities and what we can learn from that. If it is the mother of the sons, Reuben, Simeon, Levi, Judah is a kazoo sibilant, this is, you know, six out of the 10 sons that wronged Yusuf Ali Salaam,
his father has been suffering, but it's also quite possible. And we don't know we don't know if Leah is also suffering or not because of the rebellion of her sons are deep down inside, she endorses their emotions, we don't know. So we're not gonna throw her under the bus. We don't know. So we don't know. Good enough, just like we would give benefit of the doubt to somebody who's alive, right unless we have some hint that they've done something wrong, or we have evidence to that we have no reason to suspect
intentions and if the Bible saying there was rivalry among them, that's the part I'm not going to take openly. You know, that's that's the part I'll be skeptical about genealogy I'll take character assassination not so much. You know, even though I described it all to you, I'm not gonna say that I'm completely convinced that that was exactly the story, right? But let's just say it is the mother of the sons that abused use of honey, salaam, hurt the father and all of that. What do you think our emotions are, as she's walking into see the son of Rachel, up there on the throne. And he's gonna, he's gonna want to give dad a hug, right? Because that's his real family, right? That's my real
family. Y'all are all together, I'm family with Dad, give the shirt to my father, remember. So she's gonna feel like, she's not included. Or she's not, she doesn't have the place in the heart of use of that yaku has. And your good buddy, Sam has the presence of heart and the presence of mind to know, in this moment, I cannot let this woman feel deprived, or feel neglected or ignored. Because she sits she's in the position that my mother used to be in. She is the wife of my father. So I will honor her just as I would honor my own mother. So he pulls both of them in and hugs them and makes them feel safe.
Even in this moment, he's thinking about the feeling of someone else.
And you know, when he saw that dream, the sun, the 11 stars, the sun and the moon, it may also be that at that time, maybe the Binyamin has just been given birth or the mom is still alive, it's still possible that his mom was still alive. And he doesn't know that that's not going to be the mom, that's going to be out, you know, that the one that's gonna come back, and when that's such that happens eventually, and this whole dream gets interpreted. He could just say to dad, that's what the dream meant. I thought it would be my mom. He could do that. Right? But he's not gonna do that. He treats her as if it's his own mom. And What message does that sense to use us brothers who
hated use of all along because of who his mother is? Right? Because he comes from a different and that's the whole basis of hating Youssef and Binyamin and now they see their own mother being honored in this way.
Their own mother's being treated like it's his own mother's he, he holds no grudge. He's so loving towards her, you honor mom and dad just the same. He didn't just hug dad. And
so they come to you too.
There was none of that. It's a remarkable moment in what use of an Islam demonstrates. And the Quran captures it so beautifully by calling both of them his parents, even though it is clear to anyone who understands even a little bit of Jewish history. That's not his biological mom. So that's one possibility. He sent the shockwave message to his brothers and to the stepmom that you're you're my mom, you married my dad. You're the you're the life partner for my dad, your relationship with my dad is blessed. And I will honor you because you are sitting in that position. And the prophets are some even said the highlight of human mechanical arm of humans a little on the maternal aunt is the
status of the mom.
You have to honor her like your mother, you would honor your own mom. What's the other possibility that zilpah and Bill Howe who were servant women handmaidens, one of them is alive, and everybody else has passed away. And he comes with one of them. And he puts them on the throne. He pulls them in and honors them. And what does that tell you? It tells you how these labels that we have that she was a handmaiden or she was a servant and all of that none of that actually played a role in the treatment of people. It's also evidenced by the fact that Zopa and belhar gifts give birth to sons but they're not any less sons because even the Quran says all of them are the ones that come from
Leo and the ones that come from the handmaidens are all just sons. It's not lesser sons or second category sons are second class sons and things like that. It's not like that. So there seems to be some kind of a distinction. It's pretty interesting that the Israelites except all of these brothers have user friendly Salaam as equal brothers and the patriarchs of the Israelite people. But when it comes to Abraham, are they still have and how do they use the same logic to say he's not really the son? It's pretty funny that if he's not really the son then for your tribes are out.
Because by that logic, you should be the eight tribes of Israel, bro. You know, so our cousin, it doesn't work. That doesn't add up any But anyway, the discussion of why is mine Allison is actually a legitimate and full fledged son, according not just to the court.
But the Bible itself is something I've talked about a lot. But anyway, so this is, this is kind of an overview, I wanted to give you about the the mention of both parents and pulling them in and comforting them, like Yusuf Ali Salaam understands. And this is what you know, the lesson I take away for myself personally and for all of you.
One of them is that, you know, Allah has put different people in our life and we're responsible to them. We have you have a responsibility to your siblings, you have a responsibility to your parents, you have a responsibility to your kids, you have a responsibility to your spouse, you have a responsibility to your co workers, employees. But before all of that, let's just talk about just in your family, you have responsibility and different rights towards people. And the first right really is to treat people with dignity, with respect, so they don't feel humiliated. Right. So he is he's the living model of that people who humiliated him, he took the higher road. And he didn't make
somebody guilty by association, you're their mom, therefore, I hate you. You know, none of that. Or even if he knew of drama between his mother and her, that's all gone. Nuts. He's not bringing that into the equation. What they do and how they carry themselves is on them. But I will treat people right. And that's a recurring theme in the surah. That use of Elisa will treat people not in a naive way. But he will give people he'll do right by people. He'll do right by parents, you'll he won't make her feel ignored for no reason. She hasn't done anything to him to deserve that.
And she deserves that play. She deserves the benefit of the doubt. So he's going to give her that and he does away lay here bow he and now there's the rest of the family. There are you know, let me tell you the names again. Reuben Simeon, Levi, Judah, issachar, zebulun, God Asher, Dan neftali. And their wives and their kids are all watching as both parents have been hugged. And they're like,
Oh, this is confusing. I thought he'd had Jacob in, give us all a good yelling. I mean, he said there's no harm, but
is he really this nice? or What does he say? And there may be feeling a little nervous because they used to be abusive to jacobellis lamb, right? Weren't they just we didn't we just learned that they were calling him last and diluted, not too long ago. They were the ones being abusive to him, the extended family, all of them. And now they're standing in the court of the king of Egypt, who just you know, hugged his father that they were just abusing so they kind of got a heart in the you know, the heart in the throat a little bit
of yoga. And what is he turns to them now. So he's First things first, honor the parents. Give them a hug, make them feel safe. And now that they've been dealt with, then he turns to them laqad Hulu Misra in sha Allah who are many enter Egypt, if Allah wills safely, if Allah will safely if Allah wills will deal with separately, let's just talk about safely enter Egypt, amin safely meaning it's as if you just got to the airport is the first building you've been to. But you can go to Egypt anywhere your safety is guaranteed by the Prime Minister himself, you're safe wherever you go in Egypt.
You can go freely wherever you like,
you are not going to be put in a well.
Welcome to Egypt. Here's a place where you shall be safe and the one promising safety is the one that they will be scared of. He's the one giving them safety so they have not and he's the one who ensures the safety of the entire country.
So he's offering them safety or do you think peacefully also, amin can also mean that you carry no grudges, and you come here safe and you don't have to worry about any previous thing that will be held against you. You're completely settled and at peace. Now and this is how perhaps it also means come into Egypt, Armenian peacefully, meaning if you have drama, leave it behind. Leave it and come on, let's start over.
I mean, so what is in sha Allah hear me in sha Allah means this is the first lesson here with in sha Allah insha Allah, let's talk about how we use in sha Allah, we use in sha Allah.
The wrong way we use it is when we're not really sure about what we're going to do like, hey, so I'll see you at seven o'clock like you promised regularly, shall we? Which means I'm not sure or don't hold it against me. And if I'm late, we'll just blame Allah. So, that's not how you're supposed to use inshallah. inshallah is a statement about your hope in the future that's in Muslim culture, not in the sacred text, in our culture. It's become a phrase we use when we are hopeful about accomplishing something in the future. You know, I'm I'm going to graduate in Charlotte.
I'm gonna go through you know I'm gonna pass this exam and childlike cetera et cetera. So the word child has become a word for optimism placed with a lot. Originally, inshallah was actually not that in sha Allah was I have hopes of accomplishing this and but I know that will only happen if Allah wills it to
which is different from prayer. This is why the prophets I seldom advise this against using inshallah, when we pray,
you don't say you know and we say this because we associate inshallah with optimism right? So we innocently say sometimes May Allah give you Gemini inshallah and you're like, yes, inshallah. The problem with that is me Allah give you Jenna if he wants to.
Because inshallah means if Allah wills you're like, yes if he wants because if he doesn't, then
we're not supposed to say that. This is why we don't say in child law with prayers. So what's inshallah doing here? if Allah wills enter Egypt if Allah will safely use it for the Salaam is knows more than anyone that even if you have a large promise that Allah will Allah has chosen you and He will teach you all kinds of speech and complete his favor upon you. Remember all of that.
Because only
you only will come into the Metallica Kamata, Masha, Allah awake, I pray, you know, Abraham always hug
all of that mean company rahima was hacked. All of those promises that alone, that yaku told him that Allah has planned for him,
but was not told to him is all the trials in between before you get to that, right? I mean, it happened eventually. But you don't know you don't even have a guarantee of the next moment. I as the ruler of Egypt, am telling you, you are safe wherever you go. But even I, the ruler of Egypt, cannot override the ruler of all rulers, I can will Herky mean, if he wants your safety will end in the first step outside.
I know I was in the safety of my home one day, and in the depths of a well in another. I know I was in a prison rotting forever, one day, and now running Egypt The next day, when if Allah will something that happened, what we think will happen can completely transform and I'm a living example of that. So I'm never going to say anything about the future without adding word. inshallah, that's only if Allah wills. I recognize Allah is decree here. And this is also an interesting echo with what yaku Salam said to his sons. You know, if, if Allah wills, you know, and I want you to go to Egypt, from you know, enter Egypt from different doors, and I can benefit you against the law as
well in any way. In other words, yes, I'm hoping you stay safe. But inshallah, that's only if Allah wills it to be. So just take this road and in sha Allah, if Allah wills it will be like that. The other meaning of in sha Allah who I mean can also be when you give an instruction to somebody, and you add a last name to that instruction. It says if you're endorsing it, like, you know, come over inshallah, you say, Come over inshallah, or let's talk in sha Allah, you know, what your you've done, you've expressed a prayer in sha Allah can be looked at, in a sense that way, as a prayer, or as a declaration that you have, I've brought a line to this conversation. Because with allies
witness, you're safe, really with allies witness that you're safe. So with holiness, Allah insha, Allah amin is to the rest of the family, you can settle in Egypt wherever you are, safely. This is the shocking moment. This is the first things that these you know, brothers and their children together and their wives who have been talking so much against Binyamin and use of and their father for so many years. And all of those years is now known everything they did is known and they're standing in front of the person they wrong for so many years. And the first thing they see him do is hug both their both his parents and to treat his non biological mom as if she is the mom and then
turn to all of them and tell them you're safe. You this place I will guarantee your safety. I'll make sure that you're safe with Hello Miss Ryan charlo. I mean, it's a remarkable moment. And the thing that I wanted to do before I let you guys go, highlight
is how the Quran actually in this way addresses complex family situations. You've got a man with multiple wives.
Or you've got multiple children from multiple marriages, right? And some parents alive and some not alive. And so you've got half mom, or, you know, adopting mom or not biological mom at all. And you've got all these kinds of, you know, half connections. And so you've got half brothers, or you've got half sisters, and you've got, you know, rivalries that may have come down from a different generation. And in all of that, ally, xojo describes that, when that tension happens, that tension actually comes from shape one.
And it's also really interesting that they'll put on recognize recognizes these complex fine family dynamics as a part of life, that's just gonna happen. You know, we have this picture in our head of a certain view of what a family should look like, right? But since ancient times, families were always complicated, and they're always going to be complicated. If any of you and your extended family is completely normal, let me know, I'd be really happy to know about this exception on planet Earth, because they nobody's family, normal. Everybody's got some drama in their family, some complexity in their family, and everybody who has a complexity, their family wonders, why is our
families all messed up? Why are we so weird? Why do we have these? Why do we have a Reuben in our family? Why do we have
you know, why do we have a Leah and Rachel situation in our family? Why do we have this? Why do we have that? Well, that's always been there, because Sharon's, always been there. It's also teaching us that shaitan is an enemy. Yes, he's an enemy to Islam, and he wants to eradicate Islam from the face of the earth and all of that. One of the ways to eradicate Islam is to eradicate Muslims from within. And what better way to destroy Muslims from within is than to destroy their families, to get them to hate each other. How is this Omar going to be united, when people that share the same last name with you can't be united. People that live under a roof can be united, and you're talking about
the oma being united. So you destroy the brick, their buildings never going to be built, right? That's that's such an easy game, such an easy strategy, and it works. So it's so much easier for us to be kind and understanding and empathetic to strangers that can cry about their roles. And the only people we cannot be empathetic towards our patient to hear what they have to say or try to understand their point of view or be forgiving is our own. Our own we can't forgive everybody else. Hey, man is going through a lot. I understand Poor guy. This is why people are so eager to give charity to strangers, and to watch a video and feel bad and you should. But when your own uncle will
ask you're not going to give that uncle no Remember last feed him. Awesome. Please, I know what I know everything about him. There's no way I'm helping him, etc, etc. Right, whether it's siblings or cousins or uncles or sometimes parents, whatever it may be. This is why what are homi Bhabha, whom I will be battling, it could have been the people of the womb, the relationships of the womb, the people that are tied to you through the womb, they get priority over other people in the last book. Take care of those relationships. First, what does hola hola de de Luna, he will have harm. Be mindful of Allah whose name you use to ask each other for stuff and be mindful of the wounds,
meaning all blood relations and all religions that extend from blood, be mindful of them. Be careful about them. It's so beautiful that you know, period children are being taught to be respectful to the parents, even if one of the parents isn't your biological parent. That's what children are being taught through the example of about our La Jolla buoy, be respectful, even if it's not your biological father, be respectful, even if she's not your biological mother.
They're still they still deserve respect. There's still a lot placed them in the same place. However, here buoy it also tells you that the role of a son or a daughter in the older age is to provide refuge is to provide comfort. Because as we get older, we get weaker. And we need comfort just like we were babies and we needed comfort. And in the in the arms of our mothers and the protection of our fathers. Our time comes where they need our protection. They need to feel safe around us. They're getting old, their back hurts when they sit down. their knees hurt when they go up the stairs. They have to go from one doctor's appointment to another appointment.
They can't you know, they can't stand up as long as they used to be able to their eyesight doesn't work there. They can't remember things the way they used to. Their skin is getting wrinkly and wrinkly or they can't drive on their own. And as they become like that, yeah, they get crankier they get harder to deal with. They test your patience more. They have more wisecracks. Now they've been working on them for decades. So they test your patience more now than they ever did before. But you know what? You're supposed to be like you and I are supposed to be like us of autism, our array of a way he he pulled his parents into his refuge.
Even the parent that he had no biological connection to, and arguably possibly even had a grudge to hold because she was competitive with his mom, or our kids are the ones that made his life * and she did nothing about it. You can make all those arguments. Again, we're gonna give her benefit of the doubt. But inside family giving benefit of doubt is hard, right? That's difficult. But he does it. He does it. It's also interesting in the Quran earlier on, I'll be fine use of time alone. We find him lonely. We don't find him turning days like muscles. I saw him when he got overwhelmed. He turned to his wife, right.
That's what happened at habia. jacobellis sam is married. So when he's being overwhelmed in grief, you should find the presence of mom. Karen misses that. Now what what possible reason could there be you can look at it two ways you can say, Well, she didn't really care. She was like the wife of Luke or the wife of new etc. That's one way you can possibly look at it. I prefer not to another way you can look at it as she felt helpless. her sons are grown, they're out of her hands. And something and let's just say she was an extremely loving wife to jacobellis. This will be my last thought for you. Let's just say she's an extremely supportive wife, whether it's layout or zilpah, or bilhah,
whichever one and she's caring for him. She's, he's concerned about him, even if she's all of those things. Sometimes a person is going through grief, and they're going through something, they're going through a sadness, that doesn't matter how much you love them. You can't take that sadness away.
Just like you cannot actually make someone happy.
You cannot get rid of somebody else's sadness. You can you're not responsible to make someone else okay. his grief with use of his his grief with use of you don't get to say as his wife. I'm here. I love you. Why are you still upset? Yes, I love you, too. That's amazing. And thank you. But I'm still devastated about my baby.
That still hurts me. Well, why does it hurt you? You have so many other things you should be happy about? No, that's, you have me? Yes, I have you. But that's still there. And even if someone doesn't get frustrated with you, because why are you sad? It may also be that they feel helpless, like I wish I could help I wish I could get rid of that sadness for you. Because when you feel hurt, I feel hurt. But there's also an acceptance that some aspects of our grief are ours alone to carry. Nobody else can carry them for us. Some parts of those sadnesses cannot be shared with anybody. They're just taken to a line now shuba theva has made a lot. It could be that that's that's one of the ways
to look at that is that there are some aspects of grief that no matter what human support you have, it can maybe mitigate it a little bit, but it can't get rid of it. It can't be addressed that way. And maybe that's the role. That's why she's not been mentioned. Perhaps a lot is teaching us something about that, that sometimes you can be as supporting and as loving and as you know, as present as you can. But the * the situation still can't be helped because it's beyond your control. accepting that we are not in complete control of every situation. And every emotion that the people we love feel that acceptance is a really big part of moving on in life. And to have to
have meaningful relationships in life. And to understand a law who controls the movement of every leaf controls the beat of every heart.
Now we can't change that we can make someone love something make someone hate something. We can't make someone happy.
One thing we are capable of allows Mason's capable, we can give someone grief
that he's given us, you know, we can we can hurt someone with our words, we can we can give someone we can do right by someone we can make be a source of comfort for them. We can be kind towards them, maybe we can bring them joy with our words, but understand that at the end of the day, we cannot control how someone else is going to feel. And we cannot alter how someone else is going to feel that's going to have to be sometimes between them and Allah, they have to find their way. You know, and that they have to find that relief from a larger agenda. Even jacobellis some had to find that relief with a large religion. You know, he being married because you know, that's what surprised
both me and say, Hey, at the end of all this story, he pulled both his parents in Wait, he was married all the time. But he was so alone.
I mean, while I was there on
all those, all those pages, he was alone. He was married that whole time. What was the missus? Well, that's my take on the missus. You know, I'd rather not not give her benefit of the doubt the Quran didn't cast a doubt on her goodness. The Quran is completely silent about her, which means we should either be silent or think good. Right? That's that's my take on it. We should either be silent because no one has been given or we should think good of her. So that's my two cents on
What I've come to understand about is number 99 of the sola
Eliza which have given us all healing through buzzwords and ease our situations and give our hearts comfort and knowing that a lot put his most beloved slaves through trials like these, and inshallah we have reached ir 100 101 and 101 are technically the end of the story, not the surah but the end of the story, and I think 100 is going to take me a couple of days to finish I must speak my epic exit, as I leave you barakallahu li walakum wa salam o aleikum wa rahmatullah.