Nouman Ali Khan – Surah Yusuf #55 – V87 – What Needed To Be Said
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proficiently. Somebody recently looked at me lasagna poco de hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam O Allah, Allah Allah Allah he was at age nine mavado everyone once again Somali come to light Allah Ricardo. So tonight I try to cover with you. Some things I've come to learn about it number 87 of salt use of this is a solar which kind of represents a contrast from what we've been reading thus far. We saw a pretty heated and a pretty intense exchange between
the sons of jacobellis Ram and himself where he drew boundary and I talked about that at length yesterday. This entire exchange begins in Iowa number 84. So in Iowa number 84. You know, when they gave their story to him, he responded to them sablon Jimmy lasala and yet he beat him Jimmy I may be a level bring them all to me. And then in the next I his grief over took him for the villa on home, whatever land home or Kalia as a family use of we talked about that. Then they lost their cool and they started you know having an outburst against him, in which they said the LA heat of Colorado law heat after water cooler use of hatha kouwenhoven otaku novella halycon. And he responded what we
read about yesterday, Paula in America, Betsy was de la la. So it seems like he started with this this conversation. And hopefully a lot will bring, you know, all my family back. But then his grief took over. Then they had an heated exchange. And then he walked away from them. And he said, just and when you're yelling at me don't because I'm only talking to a law, not you basically. Right. There's a lot more to it, that we've already talked about yesterday. But now it seems like, you know, he's distancing himself from, you know, his sons who've hurt him so badly. And he's, he can only really talk about his pain to Allah. But in this ayah, we see that he turns back to his sons.
So he they've got a moment where they part ways he literally turned away from them. And they're not on good terms, or that the conversation didn't end well, clearly. But he's still there, dad, and he's still going to give them advice. And you may have tough conversations with family. But that doesn't mean that I'm no longer your dad and you're no longer my kids, I'm still going to tell you what needs to be what needs to be said. Right. So now he's going to come back and speak to them. And interestingly, he's going to speak to them lovingly. So let's read a you know, a basic translation of this ayah and then we'll dive deeper into some of its profound wisdom. Yeah, but he had Tabata
has assuming us with our he he my sons go and seek out find any clue you can regarding use of and his brother without a asuma rohilla and don't lose hope and Allah is loving Allah's mercy and allows relief, the relief that Allah will bring in the hula asuma rohilla he a local McAfee rune. It is it is in fact the truth that none but those who disbelieve are actually hopeless in Allah's mercy, or alleged relief. Okay, so this statement about allows relief and even before then go look for yourself and his brothers. It's quite a few things that need a bit of analysis. So the first thing is this may not have happened immediately after it may have been Moments later, or hours later, or
the next day or something like that, because one conversation clearly suggests that he's not talking to them. And he's walking away from them, right. But the Quran has these scenic transitions. And this transition is pretty important contrast, because like I said in my introduction, even though he's had a conversation with them, in which he had to say, I'm not talking to you, because they were being abusive and unsupportive. Right. But now he's still coming back and talking to them, and speaking with them very directly and actually been speaking to them lovingly. So before we concern ourselves with the content of what he says because the content of what he says is obviously
critical. But the term in the beginning Yeah, Binya My beloved sons is actually an add on because you can speak to your sons without saying my son's you can just say go find use of and his brother. There's nobody else to talk to obviously, they're the audience. And if you're reading Quran and you hear go, he said go, then obviously you're not going to think he went to the neighbors and talk to them to go. He's talking to his sons, but the out of the adding the words Yeah, beneath my son's proclamation, you see, for a child, to hear the word son or my son or my baby or my boy, etc. These are
Terms of Endearment right and they they're not, they're especially Terms of Endearment when you could use their names. Or you could just say Listen up.
But when you use their names, and especially instead of a name, you refer to the relationship. That's actually a hard softener. It's meant to make the child feel closer to the Father. So while they were angry at him, he's gonna say something, but the way in which he says it is still loving. And that's clear from the word Yabba. Nia, he's still spoke lovingly, this itself is a powerful lesson. This itself is critical to note, sometimes people will treat you in family, sometimes people will deal with you in ways you don't deserve.
But that doesn't change who you are and the way you carry yourself. So yes, you can draw a boundary, you can say you're not going to talk to me about this isn't this, or I'm not engaging in this conversation with our conversation with you. But the way in which you speak to them because their family and they deserve love, still, they deserve respect, still, you won't cross that line. And actually, he's the parent, the parent has the right to lash out and do other things that Allah doesn't say about to parents. Don't be harsh to your kids. He says to children, you know, the children. Don't be harsh to your parents. It's the other way around, you know, Lata Coloma often,
but even as a father, you recognizes that he is going to be loving towards them. And what that means is, you will find yourself in situations where your children, for example, are disrespectful to you, you'll find yourself in that situation, you still have to be who you are as a dad or a mom, you're you can draw that line and see you're crossing a line. You can be disciplinary, you can even scold at times, but when they need loving advice, you will still give loving advice. Parents will not or family will not if you're a believer, you won't hold a grudge and say well, other things that I was otherwise going to give you the rights I was going to give you, I will now deprive you of no honest
conversation and speaking, what needs to be said to your children or to other family members still needs to be said whether you had a fight or not. The truth is still the truth. What has to be said still has to be said that this is a problem. Because for a lot of us when we are in conflict situations, we want to run from that conflict situation, not engage in it. Or if we engage in it, our emotions get riled up. And we speak in ways that isn't loving or isn't really the best way of communicating with anyone. We wouldn't want to be communicated with that way. And we're communicating that way ourselves. But we're learning that you know, not take the higher road, take
take the road of subber meaning stay the same. You don't budge from your principles. You know what the manners of speaking are, you know how you're supposed to carry yourself, you stay constant. And you know what happens sometimes the people that you're talking to his sons have disrespected him and disobeyed him, and you know, been dishonest to him and hurt him in the most vile, horrible way, and have denied it and got mad at him instead for so many years. So the question naturally arises, why would they deserve this kind of kindness from him? They don't deserve it. The thing is, with human with family, we don't know when a law will turn their hearts.
We don't know when a kid that's acting up against you when they're a teenager is going to come to their senses five years later, and say I'm sorry about the way I was. I have non Muslim friends who know nothing about religion, know nothing about Islam, whatever little to know about Islam is from me. And they'll tell me when I was when I was a kid man, I gave my dad a hard time every time I see him every Christmas that I see him or every holiday I see him say man I'm sorry of the way I was to you. Like even even a non Muslim child with no spiritual inclination can grow up and later realize I wasn't good to him, or I wasn't good to her. Right? So but you don't want to leave them with the
memory that when I wasn't good to you, you were bad to me also.
Because they won't remember then what they did wrong. They will only remember the part that hurt them what you did wrong, you stay your constant. They they raise their voice they use bad words they some something or the other. While you don't allow them to trample over you. You don't cross your ethical lines either. You stay principle what they will remember is dad always spoke respectfully. dad always said my doors are open that always gave us good advice. He never got mad and even when he got mad, he spoke in a way that we've never seen anybody else get mad other people get mad, they lose their their loser temporarily lose their manners. He didn't lose his manners. He didn't use bad
words. She didn't say this. She didn't say that. That's Yakuza. They said I'm with the Albania. Because after that kind of an exchange, why would you want to have a loving conversation? Because I'm the father still. Because that's my job. That's what I have to be for them. Even as they've grown up and they have families of their own. That's the other remarkable thing. They're not kids anymore. They were already young men when the story started now they're older men and they have their entire families with them. How do we know that when the middle
I put on earlier on this, Laura, remember they said, we're going to go back, get loads of Campbell food on our camels. Why? Because we're going to feed our families. So they're all married, and they're adults now. But at the end of the day, even when they're adults, you're still their parent. And even if your job is not to protect them, and to raise them anymore, your job is still to give them good counsel when there's an opportunity to. And so that's inside Yabba Nia, he says his humble go, all of you go for the hustle, assuming use of our E. So now first, for the first time, Yahoo valet Sam is encouraging them to go. But also because there's nobody to protect now. They're the
ones that need protection from right the ones that are left of them. Now keep in mind, three sons are missing, right? So what does he say for the hustlers who then seek out or look for any clues for the hustle comes from his in Arabic, his has to do with sensitivity or the senses. So when you're looking for clues, like if, you know, if you're smelling something and you follow the smell to the chicken that's being cooked, that you use your his to do that sounds, you follow the sound and you made it to a conversation that's happening, that's using his sight clues, you know, trackers in the woods and things like that, they see a broken leaf, or they see tracks and they follow the tracks
that's also using that's the hustles also, and early scholars would make a distinction between the letters jeem seen seen and heartsine See, so just and his rights are just source and the hassles the justice means to spy on somebody. And the house means to seek out somebody and they're very closely meaning because the only difference they mark is like our Lucien even our children, their commentaries, that when you are looking for someone looking for something secretly you're doing the justice, which becomes spying, right? You're looking for something but you're looking about it going about it secretly. But if you're openly looking for something, and you're actively seeking it out,
then you're doing to hustlers. So he says, go do the hustlers go do this investigation and look at any clue you can find in regards to use of and his brother. This conversation actually wasn't about use of. In fact, the last thing we saw the last mention of use of we saw was they lost their temper when he even said, Oh, what my sorrow, overuse of the sadness, I still feel for use of those words made them angry, remember? And now he's turning around and saying go look for you. So how come? This is an important riddle to solve? Even Ashura? himolla is a brilliant response to this. I was thinking this anyway. And then when I read this from even our children, Chef sohaib shared it with
me too. I was like, spot on. That's exactly what I was thinking. You know what it is, when they came back so many years ago with a shirt that was riddled with blood animal blood, them in Khatib, and they lied to him about use has been killed and eaten by a wolf. Right? When they told that story, I ended when we analyzed those ions, I shared with you that jacobellis I didn't buy it.
He didn't accept a version. But no matter what he said that he doesn't believe them, and you're making up a lie along with that, and allama Josephine, they were committed to their lie. He died, Dad, what do you want us to say he died, okay, just get over and he died. Enough. I can't keep repeating this. It hurts us to talk about it.
Right? So they remain committed on the lie, and he couldn't bring it up anymore. Because even if he did, it would be the same relentless response from them. He died, he died, he died, he died, he died. But in his heart, even though that conversation has been beaten into silence, he's been forced into silence and calm with that conversation. He can't bring it up with them. They shut it down every time it happens.
Even though that's the case. All these years in his silence, what are they pretending they're pretending he bought our version?
He accepted our version. What's the reality inside of his heart that he's been swallowing? I have never accepted your version. I have known it's a lie all along. I have known it's a lie all along. And when they lost their temper over the mention of who you serve the genius of jacobellis ramez.
He knew now that this what they did with him is still bothering them, which is why the mention of his name still bothers them.
It's like the guilty conscience is coming out in strange ways. And their anger towards Why are you gonna keep mentioning he's gonna kill yourself. Stop talking about use of that when they did that. They kind of gave away their guilt even further. But there's also a difference. This time when they came with the story of missing Binyamin. They, in fact told the truth. So Yaqoob is also noticing a difference. There's a glimmer of hope in these young men now. They're actually being
honest with me. I'm upset that I lost my son Binyamin, but there is some change in them. They're not giving me some wool fatum story. They're even saying, corroborate our story and verify what we're saying. You can ask the rest of the caravan Anybody else? They're gonna tell you what we're telling you. This is what happened was a little Isla de cada political mafia, right? I'll create a little local utility gun, if you will, or even a qualifier, like as the entire town that we went to ask anybody in that town or ask the caravan that we traveled with, there was a lot of people all of them saw this incident is not just us. So now he knows that they're actually being honest with him. Well,
if they're being honest with him, it's as if either there are two possibilities for what I'm about to say. Either Allah revealed to him that this is the time that you no longer have to swallow anymore. You can speak up. You need to speak your truth. Now. This is the time or he came to the conclusion using his own wisdom that this is the time the iron is hot. They're actually feeling guilty for a change. For what they've done. Instead of making up lies. They're actually guilty that they lost a brother. And they're trying to make things right. This is the time that maybe I can get them to try to make things right over the other wrong. They've been burying all this time.
So what does he do? He doesn't say go look for your brother. Or go find clues What happened to your brother? He says go look for Yusuf and his brother.
So he even before Binyamin, who did he put use of honey sandwich immediately let them know? Oh, you never bought it?
With you never believed our story.
You're still and even we just we just told you to not bring it up again. Right? We got mad at you. But just in that get them getting mad like that. It wasn't actual anger. It was a defense mechanism. Because for some people, when they do something horrible.
They can't stand having a conversation about it being confronted about what they did. They can't stand it. If you even try to bring it up a little bit. They're like,
what did you say? Oh, yeah. And they'll get so mad at you that you will get scared to ever bring that topic up. You understand that?
But you know what that is? That's a defense mechanism of theirs. They can't have that conversation because they're scared of that conversation. So their way of dealing with that they're the best defense is offense right? So there we have not dealing with that conversation is demonstrates so much frustration and anger that you don't even dare bring it up. Because if you see through that drama of them being angry, and you actually am you know, you you stress on bringing it up. You say no, no, we're gonna talk about this you can get mad we're still talking about it.
Then their, their their fake defense is gonna break. And you might you might even find a real consciousness inside that they've been hiding they've been running from from themselves. jacobellis Ramses a golden opportunity, let me tell you by, you know, this idea of putting up a tough facade, right, a tough act and inside it is someone very shallow, very, very vulnerable. As you know, very guilty. That's actually a really real thing you might find, for example, teenagers that act really tough. They talk really big. They use terrible words. What are you going to do? Hmm? And they'll raise their voice
and if you can stay relentless after a couple of minutes of nothing bothers me whatever I don't care after that I don't care whatever it's gonna crack and you're gonna see someone bawling in tears breaking because you broke through jacoba Lee said I mean his wisdom is now approaching them with love.
Right and in lovingly this time, he's not saying I'm only talking to Alan, I'm talking to you. You're my sons, my sons, I need you to be sensitive and looking for any clue you can for yourself and his brother.
The word sensitivity is also a subtle duality may not be a direct implication of the text but certainly a lot uses words in the Quran that are that have these these flavors right. So to look for someone and to discover someone or to scope out a territory is thick sharp and there are other words you can say it has an unusual fluffy look for use of and his brother, but the hustle from his actually also means to have sensitivity or to be delicate. And part of the subtle implications is not just look for clues, ask people try to find a trace of use of Not to mention his brother, but also means find somewhere in you sensitivity towards Youssef and his brothers. Like it's the layer
of meaning inside that same verb isn't just look for him, but find feeling to
Words then feel something for them. You feel guilty already a little bit. I know it, just stop running away from that feeling and confront it. They did deserve some feeling from you, that has assuming use of our key. Now the question is, you know, if you look at the rest of this idea, without this analysis, you come to a certain kind of a confusion. Because he's talking to sons that have been angry at him, they've been yelling at him, they've done this horrible thing right? in their past and never admitted it. And actually were adamant about it too. And not to mention, I keep talking about this over and over. Because these, these pylons should be mentioned. When when you
mean God, you know, accused of stealing the dragged useless name under the mud Anyway, when they got this for no reason. Because the grudge is still there, right? We talked about that. So they're, they've been harboring a lot of negativity towards use of reducing them. And even as they have maybe some part of them does feel guilty. They're not healthy. They're human beings. They're not devils. When human beings do something wrong, somewhere inside them, something says this is not okay. What I'm doing isn't right. I need to make a change, your conscience will poke you. Somewhere in there, your conscience will poke you, and especially for a Muslim. For a Muslim, they know what Allah
wants. They know what this Deen teaches. They know they have to stand in front of a lie eventually. Oh, they're saying stop.
Save me. I'm your soul in here somewhere. Just let me let me breathe. Because we're suffocating our spiritual self, our soul our rule. When we're doing that, we're not just running away from our guilt. We're running away from our conscience, our our our standard of good and evil, the thermometer for Good and Evil a lot put inside us that gauge. We're running away from it. We don't want to deal with it. What are the words of your Oberlin ceramtec sons that just yelled at him?
First of all, he sees through their yelling and sees there's a guilty conscience in there somewhere. And maybe this is a time because they were even honest now and they are concerned? Well, if they're concerned about one brother, maybe something in them will wake up and they'll say, if I were worried about one, maybe we should be worried about the other two.
For the house assuming use of our he, what are they assume? And don't lose hope. From the mercy of Allah. The relief given by a mile we'll go into the etymology of road in a minute. But uh, why tell them to beat to have hope. They're not the ones that are hopeless. There's lots of things to consider here. One, one consideration is dad, we talked to the governor. We talked to the Aziz. We tried to convince him to take one of us in his place. There was no way he would listen to us. Who are they talking about? Now?
They don't know that. But they're talking about yourself. And they said there is no hope with him. The guy was completely adamant that he will not let Binyamin go, there's no way we can get around that dad. And the words in the Quran earlier word for them stay assuming when they finally reach the state where they had no hope of recovering him. Hello, sooner God went silently and had their own meeting. Right? So if they assume when they lost complete hope. Now you're sending us into a hopeless situation. Even if we go out there, we already tried everything you're saying? How are we going to get use of his brother back? Well, first of all use of how and you guys know, right?
Nowadays, police departments they have like a missing persons department are a few detectives that are assigned for missing persons. When people report a person missing, they say, well, you have to find them within the first 48 hours or 72 hours or whatever how many hours. And every day, every hour after that the chances of them being found starts statistically dropping. So if somebody has been missing for a year, the chances of them being found becomes slim to none. 10 years, most likely, they're dead, etc, etc. Right? So there's because they follow all these cases. So they have all these statistics, right? So they say well, now there's a point 0000 1% chance of him being
alive. Well, this has been gone a long time, right? So what's the most likely scenario? The most likely scenario is you shouldn't have hope that he's going to come back that this missing persons report is way too old. It's a really cold case, it's gone. Right? So in that what I'm trying to get at is their response would be it's hopeless to find use of and it's hopeless to find Binyamin because we tried with Binyamin it's, how do we take on a government?
How are we going to take on the president or the VP of the country and get him to give us use it when we were standing in front of him begging and he wouldn't listen to us? Why would he give him up now? And in response to that thought process pre empting the thought process meaning before you even get to say this, let me tell you, I know you're thinking this and let me respond to your thoughts without you.
When expressing your thoughts, and that's what a parent knows, right? They know how a child thinks. You have real family when you have real loved ones. They know how you think. And this is teaching us we should understand how our family members, even the ones we don't get along with how they think. And what we say, should actually already take into account their thought process. When you say that you can have no hope in your ability to do investigative, you know, inquiry, you can have no hope in the government. You can have no hope in the governor of Egypt. Fine, have no hope in any of them. But don't lose hope in the laws mercy. Allah is the one who created these means and the luck and
create entirely new means. Allah is the one who created this scenario like and create entirely other scenarios. He can make the sky, you know the way held up every day, he can make the sunrise from the east and go down in the West and he can turn that in reverse one day.
He can you're the children of Ibrahim Alayhi Salaam when he wants he can make a fire cold. When he wants he can make a knife refuse to cut. When he wants, he can make water come out of the desert. When Allah wants to give relief, he gives relief. You are and you this is not 1000s of years of history for you. This is your grandpa. Ibraheem alehissalaam that's your grandfather. So you should be the first to know that we we are family we never lose hope and relief coming from Allah. We're not those people.
So he says in the hula, hula rohilla halal common coffee alone. The only people who lose mercy of the fact is nobody loses hope and allows mercy except or nobody has hope and allows mercy except disbelieving people. What does that mean? All it means First of all, you know, most interpretations are well if you don't have hope in a law, you'll be like who disbelievers. But actually the contrast is is is more even more valid. And what's the contrast? The contrast? Is
this believers people who don't have a line their life,
have no hope of Allah giving them relief.
Because they never asked a love for it.
Why would they want to? Why would they get relief from Allah Xhosa? But you and I were not like them, we're believers, we have a line our lives, we have the source of all hope and all relief, the one who gives relief to my lungs every time I inhale. And every time I exhale, he's not going to give relief when I asked him, I should have, I should expect that he won't do that. You know, we take what Allah does for us on a daily basis for granted. The world is now shaken by a virus. How many millions of bacteria trillions of bacteria are floating inside our bodies. How many unknown viruses are right now in this room? How many unseen killers are around me that Allah has sent
legions of angels to protect me from miraculously.
And I have no knowledge of you know how this is functioning. If I was in charge of the maintenance of my lungs,
or the cleaning up of my arteries, if I was in charge of that, then I'd be dead A long time ago. He's the one making the heartbeat he's making, he's making the eyes wet so they can continue to see he's making the ear lobes function. He's making every neuron fire in this brain. Otherwise, this is a dead piece of organic matter. That's all this is.
But there's a miracle happening in the fact that we're alive right now. That's the that's the believers view of a large origin. You know, I used to say a long time ago in my lectures, I believe it was started Sweden who said it in one of his lectures I heard and I was like, well, that's a pretty epic example. He said, I want you to imagine a person from the time they were born until they were like 20 years old. They lived in in a in a house with no windows.
It could never leave that house. There's no they can't see outside. Ever. And 20 years later, they're led out
in the middle of the day. And they look at the sun. What's the reaction?
You can see that?
Oh my god, it's huge. It's lighting up everything. And everybody's like, Are you crazy?
The sun?
You know why it's so normal. Tell us why the sun is so normal because we see it every day.
We take it for granted because we see it every day.
The sky The breeze, the clouds. We see these things every day. So they're just nothing, are they nothing. Just contemplate what they are and how allies produce life on this earth. How can someone contemplate what Allah has done for us and then not have hope in the relief that a level bring the only people who will do that the only people who never even consider having hope and a lot of people who don't know a lot, but you you my sons, you know a lot
You know him, you can't have that.
And Allah will not give relief to those who never turned to him, not in the way that he will give a believer. So and you're believers, you're fortunate you have a lot. What's he doing? remarkably, they use a last name in vain. Not a couple of I article. When they yelled at him about him mentioning use of they mentioned the last name in the beginning swear to Allah, he talking about use of that was a mis inappropriate use of a last name wasn't it?
But he's saying even if you haven't, even if your Iman is this little weak, even if you have no your tongues can mention a last name, but your hearts don't shake when you say his name.
Somewhere in there somewhere in that heart that doesn't shake, there is still one cell in there that has human in it. And that one cell will find mercy with Allah.
Find hoping Allah, I know there's a man in you. It doesn't matter how cold you get, it doesn't matter how hard your hearts get. There's the mind in you. And that image should make you hopeful.
But the question then arises hopeful of what
you should say to use of you should be hopeful when you're in jail.
You should say the Binyamin, you should be hopeful, because you found your brother
hopeful is for people who are in despair. They're not the ones in despair. They're perfectly fine. Actually, they're not all broken up about losing Binyamin, nor about losing users, are they not that much. So what do they need to hear about the mercy of Allah are not losing hope in the mercy of Allah. This is the deep insight from what I can tell, of Yahuwah a Salaam into his sons. He's telling them, you don't confront your sin. And you don't confront what you've done with use of, because you think that if you do, you will come to a terrible conclusion about yourself, that you are monsters, that you're killers, that you're ruthless, that you're bloodthirsty, that you're evil,
that you did something the devil would do.
So you're horrible people.
And he tells them, even though you just yelled at me, and you're angry, that tells me you have guilt inside you. And that guilt means there's a goodness inside you that's still alive.
Don't lose hope and Allah's mercy will look and look and restore you, he can redeem you, you must stop Sure. Go look for him, Go look for use of and maybe that's a way you can redeem your soul. Don't lose hope in the laws, mercy, meaning, if you do that, as you do that, you need to know that you by you doing that maybe Allah will, you know, bring you back in his graces and you don't have to think that Allah has cast me off anyway. I'm a bad person anyway. Right? So what do I do? What do I care? I don't want to think about it anymore. You know, there's a
interesting bit of psychology, when
somebody is constantly guilted. Right? Then the eventually shut off guilt.
Because nobody wants to kiss when you need to feel guilty, you feel bad. Nobody wants to feel bad over and over and over again. Right. So they get rid of the thing that makes them feel bad. Like if they were in a relationship where the the father made them feel guilty for being a drop out of school all the time. This kid runs away from home because he doesn't want to feel shamed and guilted over and over and over again. I just couldn't take it I ran away from home. That happens. It could be a marriage that breaks because one is constantly shaming and guilting the other Can I can't take this anymore. I'm just I'm done being blamed for everything. I'm done being criticized, I'm done
being belittled, I just I need to breathe. And people run from what? From guilt.
And some people run from a less Dean
because of guilt.
Some people say, Well, every football I went to the hotel, you think you're gonna burn in *, you're gonna burn in *, you're gonna burn in *, okay, fine. I'm gonna burn in *, God, this isn't negative religion, I just need to be positive. So I'm going to be around some friends who just want to smoke some weed and think happy thoughts and good, good vibes. So you know, I just want to be happy. So I just want to get away from this whole thing because it's too negative, man. It's just way too negative. I don't want to be around that kind of negativity. There's too much guilting and shame. Now I live without guilt. I feel good about what I do.
We want to run away from guilt. You know if guilt is caused by human beings, it's a bad thing.
When a law makes you guilty about something
it's because you should be guilty about it.
And our religion isn't about beating people over the head with guilt. It's not the profits are slim didn't use to shame people, even senators. Even jacoba Elisa is not shaming his sons over what they did. He's just saying go look for him.
But you know what, sometimes people's guilt is so heavy inside of them. That even if you're not beating it over their head and shaming them, they're shaming themselves so much inside themselves, that they run from confronting a lot. They lose
Hoping a lot they don't want to deal with a lot. And that's not something that logic to them. That's not something some somebody else did to them. That's something shaitaan does to them inside of themselves, that they just lose hope because they don't want to deal with the guilt. You see. So now here when he says to them, don't lose hope, in the in the relief coming from Allah, in the redemption coming from Allah O Allah. Let's talk about the word roer unique word in the Quran wrote on what I heard was in the tuna in a row in Arabic actually is related to the which means wind and roll. His breath is actually a synonym, a close synonym for novice, novice in Arabic also means
breath.
And it's interesting that the word ro, which means breath, or a breath of relief, technically a breath of relief, because from it, you also get the word raha which actually literally means relief. And in modern Arabic, they use stlr for relaxation from the same origin of the word, right? So you know, how we say in English literature, a breath of relief or a sigh of relief? Like, ah, right, that's actually
when someone's troubles are over, and they can finally say, Oh,
you know, that's actually
it's really interesting in Islamic literature that the word ro connected to it and the same etymology is the word rule.
rule, which is the spirit of the human being, which was literally breathed into the human being, wasn't it? The first to be human.
And another another word for our inner self is called our knifes. You may have heard that word before knifes, which comes from the other word nothingness, which means breath. So the word knifes is related to nothingness, which is reading, and the word rule has related Tarot, which is a sigh of relief. So this imagery and this theme of breathing is has a lot to do with the basically the essence of our life and the essence of our soul. Okay, there are other themes connected to it, but in a literary sense, these are things that circle each other, these terms. Anyhow, now that I've given you that it's interesting from a literary point of view that a lot of describe the sadness of
jacoba de Salaam, a couple of I article, and he said for huacaya theme.
Remember I said he was swallowing or choking up
in sadness? Let me read something to you. All. I've know quite a bit about that. Ayah when he's telling you look what Ava said, when you use it, and you're gonna be mad, and Mark Roma and our mum knew when it was in my sub dieterich enough that it must do mean government support is a shut down. He
actually means
Kalima, someone who is having a hard time breathing a sigh of relief, because their air passages passageways are being blocked, or their chest has a lot of tightness, somebody who claims that they have difficulty breathing like an asthma attack, and they can't breathe easy, right? They're also called galim. So the idea of khadim is someone who's just not getting a relaxing breath, they're not cutting, they're not getting a break from from the, you know, the overwhelming terrible calamities that surround them. And then he that same jacobellis around who was so overwhelmed that he couldn't breathe for such a long time is the same yoga lesson from and number 84 is now turning around and
saying to his sons, don't lose hope in the sigh of relief that will come from Allah milho hella
in the hole is tomorrow halo halo for McAfee man, the man who hasn't had a sigh of relief for decades, is telling them never lose hope that the relief is coming from Allah.
And hustle bustle, we actually know him Allah among some other coura.
Early on, actually read this not as rohilla they read this as rubella. Now you know what that means, right? The rule of law blew into into us, the divine breath of Allah that was poured inside of the human being. And in that meaning it would be Don't lose hope in that soul that Allah has put inside you.
Don't lose, hoping that it's got goodness in it. Don't give up on that goodness, I know that it's as if he's saying to them, Allah has put goodness in you that you should not give up on. And that's a very beautiful way of saying I haven't given up on the goodness in you, even though you're terrible to me,
is a powerful statement that jacoba makes nothing assuming rohilla he was in a
coma cafe, by the way. When he let them know, all these years, by the way, I never believed your story about use of
why else would I tell you to go look for who he was right? When he calls him out like this.
And the law already said that he's blind right?
probiota Whoa, look at the irony in that statement, he's the one who's blind. And in this household, he's the only one who can see the truth.
You see the irony, sometimes people can have these eyes, but these eyes become blind.
Right? That my lips are, you know, the, you know, the lettermail absorb, the eyes don't become blinded, like in Tamil kulu, the hearts become blind, their eyes are fine, but their hearts are blinding.
And his eyes are no good. But his eyes his his, his eyes are no good, his heart can see clearly, he can see us,
he can see the truth for what it is. He doesn't have to physically, he doesn't have to have the physical eyes to see that. That's an incredible thing that he sees it. So he says, Go look for yourself and his brother because of that light that is inside him.
And then the other thing that, you know, some things that we should really pay attention to in these words.
He it took a lot of boldness from him to mention use of steam after they had yelled at him.
And this is this is a lesson about confrontation. Right? Because most of us, we don't like confrontation. Now some of us or some people, you know, love confrontation. They only feel important in life when they have some kind of drama, when they have some kind of confrontation. They need it to feel validated because they have nothing else to contribute in life. So they need confrontation to feel like they exist. Right? Some people just they need to cause pain, or even feel pain to feel alive. It's a pretty sad state to be in. But most of us, we don't want confrontation. We just want to be at peace. We want to be in harmony. But sometimes you're dealing with a situation that
requires confrontation.
You need to do it. And sometimes you're dealing with someone when you confront them, they explode on you didn't they explode on Yakuza.
And the agenda behind exploding on you is what to stop you from confronting. And most of the time it works. If somebody yells at you good shames you good for even bringing it up? Oh, yeah, you're going to talk about that, oh, you should talk. And then the day turns on you, they turn on you and they start slamming you. You're like I shouldn't have brought anything up? Well, what we're learning from jacobellis lm is, when people doesn't matter how upset they get, if they need to be confronted about something lovingly, you don't, you don't let your emotions and the way you carry yourself be affected by the way they're carrying themselves. And you confront them lovingly, anyway.
confrontation doesn't have to be aggressive. confrontation can be loving to. It's like what they call now an intervention. Right? That needs to happen. It doesn't have to be a fight. It doesn't have to be aggressive. It can actually start with words of love. It can actually bring about a line how there's hope. It can actually be filled with positive positivity. Yet these words are actually a confrontation because in these words, very clear clears day, I know what you did with you. So it's he didn't say it, but he said it.
When he without saying it, he said it. So he did confront them. And he didn't abandon that subject because they were losing their temper.
You cannot allow someone else's upsetness to take you away from confrontation. If something needs to be said, That's why I call the session what needs to be said. If it needs to be said, find the courage and say, let's say without losing your principal, find it without saying with love, say with respect. Sade with a line mind. Table, the line, you're genuinely, you know, a reference to a love of genuine concern for yourself and for the other. When you save with a class, then it will work. You notice, after the cya, they don't turn around jacobellis and say, didn't we just say stop talking about use of
you have to say it again.
They don't say that. The next IR which we're gonna study later in Sharla is the left. You know what that means? It hit on
it actually hit him. Their guard and their aggressive guard broke. So when he came to them with love, sometimes what you couldn't get through with argument and yelling and you couldn't get through, and some few loving words. And the appears right through right. And maybe it's the mention of a lie in the way that they mentioned that he mentioned to them. Maybe just a true they could have a love for that moment. You know, when you could be a sinful as fit around. But if the mention of the remembrance of Allah, just a little ray of light goes inside your heart, then it could be enough to shatter all the walls. It could be enough to bring you back
To bring you back to your fitrah because it doesn't matter if you're around, or you're, you know, Hitler or whoever or Donald Trump or whoever, it doesn't matter one time, a long time ago, all of us were creatures made of light standing before a lot of room, we're all in front of Allah. And we all said, We worship only you, allow us to become
the worst sinners. You see, the worst people in the world were at one time swearing to Allah that they worship him sincerely. They said this to him. There's there was a light inside them that Allah Himself put, he put it there.
And so we have to be mindful of that. And give advice with that in mind. You know, we talk to people with knowing that maybe that light light will pierce through How do I know? If I can change this dark sky at night into a brilliant morning? How can you not change the darkness inside somebody's heart?
He could makalu one of his names in the Hadith of the prophets, or some of the one who changes transforms the hearts. He could. And that's all it takes, right? If somebody's hardest transform, that's the only thing that will matter on judgment day, it won't matter what they did in the past. And their mistakes won't matter, because snowball does what to all those mistakes and wipes them out in the hula assuming rohilla in the coffee room. But the other thing that I am just so in awe of when it comes to this statement from jacobellis is something that I was discussing with
with Chef sohaib today, and that is that this episode of of the story that's been recorded in the Quran here is clearly the darkest moments of jacoba life, it
is the toughest time in his life. It's so for a man who epitomized this suburb, he couldn't hold his tongue and cry out to Allah with his tongue. His heart was crying to a lie anyway.
But he cried out, and like for a person to reach that level of sadness,
but you know what, for most of us, sadness and hopelessness are married to each other.
So sadness and hopelessness are always together.
You know, what's incredible about him in the depths of his sadness,
he took that sadness, and I will show you the process, he took that sadness. And he put it, he took this, whatever his heart was carrying, and he brought it in front of Allah.
And he cried his heart out in front of who? A lot. And what did Allah give him? When he gave that sadness to Allah, Allah responds to him with filling his heart with so much hope.
Then, even though he's still sad, even though he's more broken than ever before, he is now more unbroken than ever before, to the point where not only is he full of hope, he sees hope and everyone else too.
You know, when you're negative, your world becomes negative.
When you're angry, you find every reason to be angrier.
When you feel like you're a bad person, you see the worst in everybody.
When you are filled with hope,
you fill others with hope. Whatever you have in your heart is contagious to your surroundings. jacobellis Rams heart was filled with sadness, three article, then we read that. And when someone's heart is filled with sadness, and you're around them, your heart will be filled with sadness, too, right?
You see somebody crying, broken, and you spend some time with them, you'll want to cry, you'll be heartbroken. But what there's a difference between his sadness and every other sadness, his sadness was given to Allah, as a treasure that only belongs to be presented in front of Allah. Here's what I bring to your lead. This is what's in my heart. And Allah takes that and gives him this gift, this gift of what hope.
And he will never lose hope in a lot. And he turns back and he tells his son's look for himself.
Just now you said Oh, the tragedy of use of and a few moments later look for you. So look for his brothers. Don't lose hope and mercy.
Don't lose hope in the in the relief, the sigh of relief that will come from Allah, as if I haven't been able to breathe for a long time. But I know an exhale is coming. It's coming for you to you'll be able to breathe, you'll be able to look at yourselves in the mirror. It's coming.
You know, like asuma rohilla, elcon, caffeine. You You come out of the most painful circumstance and you emerge, divinely inspired, optimistic.
Like an optimism that's not humanly possible.
Except to follow in Jackson, you know, there are some chemicals our body cannot produce. There are some, you know, medications we need an injection from the outside for it to have an effect. Our body can produce that medication on its own.
And the same way there are some emotions our human knifes is not capable of, they have to come from a large xojo their divine intervention, like Allah says for Angela Sakina Sakina Allah, Allah will meaning he sent tranquility on to the hearts. He has people who will walk meaning who will lead the Angelus Akita fuku will do Amanda Marie Monahan Oh, was beautiful out in doTERRA. He said he sent down calmness deep into the hearts of believers so they can become more in their faith. In addition to the faith they already have.
Leonardo da Imani they are you already have your mind, but the calm that will bring you your mind is at some other level.
So how do you go from I only take my complaints to Allah, which means I'm feeling negative. And I'm going to talk a lot about it to now being the source of positivity. In just a couple of miles, you see this transformation, that transformation is incredible.
It's so powerful. But even more powerful than that, to me is where this conversation began and where it ends. When this conversation began, when they gave him that story, and he couldn't believe what they were saying, you know what he said first, ask Allah who TMDB him Jimmy Ah, maybe a level bring all of them back to me.
We already read that. That was an eye on number 83.
Maybe Allah will bring them all back to me was there already optimism? There's optimism, but your positivity, but because you're human, the circumstances can make you deeply sad and negative. Then we saw that downward spiral for jacobellis, saddam, and then Allah brings him back up and he's back in a state of hope again.
You know, like the the heart rate goes up and down. It's like that with Jaco Valley Salaam, but he comes back so powerfully strong in the hula asuma rohilla, Illa, como caffeine, and I word I absolutely love the word roller. Which, you know, I've been talking to you about as, as hope, right?
This word is associated in this ayah with being a believer,
right? Like, we shouldn't be negative because disbelievers they have no connection to Allah. Therefore, they have no one that can put all their hopes in. We have a lot, the source of all of our hopes. I feel bad for who the people who don't have this coffee don't write people who deny a lot people who are ungrateful. I started thinking in this surah alkaff Iran only occurs one more time
one other time before this in the hole. So I mean, you would think McCann Quran, Garfield's are going to mention get mentioned a lot, right? You know, where it was mentioned, when Yusuf Ali Salaam was in prison, and he was talking to those two inmates. Right and he was in one of the darkest places of his life.
Right now we have Yakov in the darkest place of his life. There we had who use of in the darkest place of his life. And he said, I left the people who don't believe in Allah and they have their coffee don't have the
capital.
In other words, he held on and he then started in prison, he started talking to his inmates the cellmates about how he is blessed from Allah, because he's from the family of Ibraheem alehissalaam that's a favor Allah has done for us and that favor extends to all people. That's what he said inside the prison. In his darkness, he thanked Allah from not being of the coffee room.
In his darkness, he says, think a lot that I have hope because I'm not from the coffee Don't Don't be like them. Like father like son.
It's so beautiful. Hello, two times, even this word is echoed. There's a similarity. There's the you know, like he makes he has the same thought process as his father
in a similar circumstance.
And there he was giving that hope and optimism to inmates in prison, who clearly have a criminal record. So they've done messed up things, but it's okay. You can come back to a lot, you can be redeemed, and here he is talking to criminals. They've done a crime against you so
and their father and they can redeem themselves. Don't be like the Garfield Garfield don't redeem themselves, you can redeem yourself, you can come back.
This is a
just such a beautiful episode in this solar this entire exchange, which seemed like a very negative exchange, but we reached the end of that exchange now. And this this contrast that I talked to you about the tape what the last takeaway that
I'd like to give you from this ayah is that Allah has taught us that you can be deeply sad and absolutely hopeful both at the same time.
You can be both and neither one of them takes away from your mind. In fact, your negativity will become submerged in the negative feelings, your mission will become beautiful patience. And then when you exhibit that beautiful patience level, fill your heart with hope like no other for the house assuming useful for what he will it as a matter of law. In the home, you lay assume the Rock Hill, a little comic, if you don't. There is one last comment from the Mufasa room that I failed to mention that I should mention.
It seems some thought that because he's so positive, we so how are you even bringing up use of now? Right?
It may be that because he knew that his son's 11 stars, the sun and the moon are going to be doing such that, that maybe he's already starting to put clues together.
Maybe he maybe doesn't know exactly if you serve as the governor. But somehow he sees use of presence he can feel useless presence in what's going on and maybe a less bringing us closer to the fulfillment of that dream. Because early on use, have told him that dream and he knew that dream is revolution and he absolutely believes it's going to happen, right? So perhaps his optimism is coming from that knowledge. Also some of you mentioned that as an possible interpretation of this. I'll conclude with that. barakallahu li walakum Hakeem whenever anyone can build it with him. Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh