Nouman Ali Khan – Surah Al-Jumu’ah #11 To Have True Taqwa

			But what do we do? We say we use Islam to say, oh, parents have all the rights and children have
none of the rights. By the way, the only relationship where one has all the rights and the other has
no rights is Allah and the slave because Allah has all the rights and we are just slaves of Allah We
don't have any rights against Allah everything Allah gives us as a favor from him
		

			but then the Quran teaches you and teaches me how is that an IDA? How was the wind Anya? How is how
is the sun an iron. Without it I could learn a lot about the sun in science class, but I won't
learned that it is what it's an IO. Quran came and changed the world around me and I started seeing
eye art everywhere. And the more I art I see in the world, it takes me back to what he teaches me
about those ayat. And the more I read the Quran, it makes makes me go back into the universe and
explore those ayat. So those Ayat pulled me back towards these ayat and these ayat pushed me back
towards those ayat, and they keep I keep going between the ihat. So when the Prophet SAW Selim is
		

			reciting the IR to them, he's changing their worldview, people now recognize that I author all
around them, right. So it's a very powerful phrase that's used as the opening statement of these
four steps. Now we're going to talk about the second step, we'll use that key him when he purifies
them.
		

			The word Zeca User Key comes from the letters Zach cough, and while and it actually means either
means an even number, so a balance of numbers, or two odd numbers together. When when a land has no
bugs, and you can grow really good plants on it. It's healthy soil, it's called Urban Zakia. Or
Sabina, meaning it grows really good fruits, growth itself, like a child growing, it's also called
zecca. So you know, like, in South Africa, if you have a cattle, turnips and Zakia can be raised
enough sin did you kill a boy was the key I could mean pure, but it also means a growing boy like
he's still he's not grown yet. He's still on his process of growing. So he's innocent. He's pure,
		

			but he's also growing. So as a QA what we use in our, in our Surya like you have to pay zakat every
year, right. So this account means it purifies your money. But it actually also means it grows your
money.
		

			Right, because when you give it, it puts more back and the rest of your money and that grows, right
so and of course you're growing because whatever you spent, you've actually given to your own self
for the asset account, you just transfer from Donielle account to Oscar outcomes, its growth, all
around Zeca che is used as a verb does Kia the verb does. Kia was used in Arabic for two things to
fix something like if you fixed your car, then you did Teskey of your car. And also means to clean
up something to purify something. And oftentimes, fixing something actually requires the first step
of it is what cleaning up like for example, if doctors are trying to fix a cut or an injury, what's
		

			the first thing they do? They disinfect, right? They clean up all the mess and then they they fix if
somebody's trying to fix a beat up old car, that's rusty, what's the first step? They're going to
clean up all the rust to get rid of that then begin the fixing process, right? So the same way zecca
actually means to fix where the first step is actually a cleansing or purifying, okay, now now we
get to the heart of the matter. The second step that is being described is that he purifies them. He
purifies them and usually when we think of somebody being purified, we think in the spiritual sense,
but I want you to take the full picture, what does it mean? That the prophets of Allah, Allah,
		

			Islam, and the Quran is purifying them? Right messengers, purifying these people? Firstly, yes, it
is spiritually purifying that meaning they believed in multiple gods. They didn't, they didn't
realize the damage their sins do to their souls, their hearts, they didn't realize that. So there is
a spiritual cleansing, there's a spiritual purification that's happening. By the way, when we see
that Skia or purification, you should also think of nurturing and cleansing because those meanings
are growth, nurturing, and cleansing offense. So you know what that means. People are being
spiritually developed. They're not just becoming pure overnight, they're being nurtured and
		

			developed, right? You're not there yet, you're gonna get there. Like, for example, in some people
that have a really bad diet, and they want to fix themselves, they want to get healthier than they
go to a nutritionist or they go to a fitness coach or something. And he says, Okay, we're going to
do a detox, or we're going to do this program and you're gonna go on a keto diet, or you're gonna go
to this other kind of adopt diet or whatever they come up with, right? So what are they doing? Do
you get cleansed overnight? No, and is it sometimes you're in the process of cleansing and you're
like, Okay, I'd see a doughnut. I don't know what to do. And then you go back and you do
		

			Do yourself again. You so you make progress and you fall and you make progress and you fall, you
made progress and you fall overall, you should be making progress. But it's not like every day is
progress. Sometimes there's dips, right? Some, some days are not as good as other days. But overall
you're developing. And actually falling is also a lesson and then you learn from that lesson and you
develop again, and you keep taking more and more steps towards furthering. So that's spiritual
development. And that's actually something that many in the Islamic tradition, we've talked a lot
about purification of the heart, right, and the cleansing of the heart and Allah talks about that in
		

			the Quran quite a bit, I have my own unorthodox view on spiritual purification. So I'll share that
with you. Because I'm only here for a few days and then you have to deal with the consequences
yourself.
		

			I do believe that
		

			what Allah revealed to us is right to the point, like Allah does not speak in circles. And Allah
does not speak in abstract philosophy. Allah speaks directly, you know, the shortest distance
between two things as a straight line, when there's a problem. Allah addresses the problem directly,
right? So for example, Allah says, Well, okay, how do you get people say, How do you get duck love
Allah? How do I get Allah says, Okay, start fasting and month of Ramadan? What's, what's it gonna
give you? I love that. What was it? Like? How am I fast fasting gonna give me that flow? Well,
you're gonna learn to stay away from things that are even now. And it's gonna teach you how to stop
		

			yourself. And taqwa in the end is what? Stop yourself. So 30 days of stopping yourself might help
you build a little bit of inability to stop yourself from doing stupid things from doing haram
things. If you can even stop yourself from Halal things, then maybe that's a pretty good training
for you to even stop from haram things. Right? So that's it's a tracer step, and it's not
guaranteed. That means hopefully you'll get some Taqwa out of it. The hope is you'll get out of it.
Okay, well, how do I how do I know if I have turquoise as a duckula? Kulu colon sadita. Be mindful
of Allah and say things in a straightforward way.
		

			Just say say exactly what you mean. Know what happens sometimes when you need to talk to somebody,
you say exactly what you mean. Or do you calculate in your head if I say this, what's gonna happen?
Oh, my God. They hate me so much. I can't tell him. I can't tell him. No, I need to be strategic
about this. We have so much fear of people.
		

			That it overrides the fear of who even Allah says, if you have to love me, speak straightforward.
		

			Doesn't matter who you offend. Doesn't matter if you ended up siding with the enemy, because you're
saying the right thing. Doesn't matter if you are going against the loved one, because you're siding
with the right thing. Just say, if you're really fearful of me just say the right thing. And then I
will fix whatever situation there is use.
		

			In other words, Allah does not give us some Oh, you must first climb on this mountain, and you must
sit under a tree and until you feel the breeze,
		

			you will not know the truth of Taqwa. Okay? There's, there's no, there's no, you know, like when
people go to the sensei to learn Kung Fu, and he says, Just go up and down the mountain 20 times,
and learn this breathing technique before I even begin to teach you or wax on wax off before you
can.
		

			There's no complicated stuff. It's straightforward. That was easy. You want to clean your heart
easy. Don't do leave that complicated. Don't talk about people. Don't slander people. Don't make fun
of each other. Right? Get people's money back. Don't keep people's money, if you will, people money.
Finally come and talk well, Kulu.
		

			But you know what sometimes happens, and I don't blame the entire genre. But sometimes what happens
is the thing that you should do that's right in your face that the Quran is saying do this and you
will be spiritually cleansed. That's too much work.
		

			So I'm going to come up with some vicar that makes me feel so spiritually connected. And when I read
when I listened to this in the sheet, oh my God, I feel like so close to Allah, I know what to hide.
And
		

			you come up with all these exotic ways of purifying your heart. And the thing that he's saying he do
this, and you will be good of hearts? Nah, no, no, I need to I need something more exotic.
		

			I need something more like exceptionals Something's something so special, that this mentor of mine
who knows the secrets of the universe, apparently, he's going to tell me those secrets, then I will
know how to cleanse my heart. This stuff, I believe is what used to be the case before the coming of
the Quran. This thing that some people carry the secrets to cleanse your heart and nobody else knows
them. This was the mentality before Islam. This is what people that used to manipulate people in the
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			And the Quran came to get rid of all of this. But human beings have their own human tendency. So
what did they do over time, they went back to the same tendencies again. And I don't dismiss the
entire genre. And I actually appreciate quite a bit, you know, across a variety of genres in Islamic
studies, including Sufi literature, however, did we develop extremes? Yeah. And are some of them
extremely against the spirit of the Quran? Absolutely. Absolutely. And if you study if you just
read, if you go back to step one, yet you are the MIT, you'd be like, I need to distance myself from
this. This this, this version of spirituality that's actually against the Quran, spirituality. It's
		

			not just cleansing me spiritually, it's cleansing my concept of spirituality.
		

			It's actually purifying my heart. What does it mean to be a good person?
		

			You know, a young lady asked the other day, I feel so bad that I don't fast on Mondays and Thursdays
did Allah and his entire Quran ask you to feel bad if you don't fast on Mondays and Thursdays, the
need for you from that burden. There are some things you should feel bad about. And I'm pretty sure
Allah, the Knower of the unseen and the seen who guided humanity until the end of time. What is most
perfect speech would tell you here are the things you should actually feel bad about.
		

			Right? So it didn't need to liberate me from all the other guilts that I don't have to carry. It's
liberating, it's actually spiritually liberating. Then there's intellectual purification. Or I'm
keep saying the analog on therapy loan that I love them to death for crude. This isn't just a
spiritual religion. It's an intellectual religion. Ibrahim Ali Salam isn't just questioning his
people spiritually, he's gonna He's questioning them intellectually, saying, so why do you follow
this? Why should I believe in this? What is the reason behind this? There's this question, keep
saying go ask questions, explore, go see the Earth travel. As those who you ask the people who know
		

			if you don't know, to learn, inquire what religion tells you to leave the monastery and go explore.
		

			People religions, usually told you don't go out there, you will lose your faith.
		

			Don't think for yourself thinking from the devil.
		

			I've actually met some folks that I talked to about God a little bit. I was like, Yeah, that makes a
lot of sense. But you know, my pastor told me that if it makes too much sense, is the devil trying
to trick you.
		

			As not just some denominations of Christianity that developed that many Muslims, don't listen,
because it's gonna seem like it makes a lot of sense. That's how shaitaan gets you by using your
brain.
		

			Stop thinking and you will be safe. Allah created the best of creation, the human being, and the
best of his muscles is in here. And and you use this to come to Islam. And after you come to Islam,
you tell people stop using this thing. Because now you're Muslim. Now you can be stupid.
		

			The book came to cleanse us intellectually, to make us people have thought and exploration and
learning.
		

			You know, and this is an intellectual cleansing. That's part of, you know, what should I believe
about Allah? Why should I believe that about Allah? What should I believe about the Prophet
selection? And why should I believe that? What should I believe about my relationship with and these
aren't intellectual purifications. And then there's a physical purification. Likewise, give me an
example of physical clarification in this religion. What do we do, and actually, even what we eat,
what we put inside our body has to be good and pure, isn't it?
		

			So the body on the external needs to be pure and also physically, internally also needs to be pure.
And the relationships, the physical relationships we have with other human beings, the spouses has
to be pure.
		

			All of it has to be pure. So it's not just spiritually and intellectually cleansing. It's actually
physically cleansing and our physical cleanliness is tied to our intellectual and our spiritual
cleanliness. And one of my favorites is the Quran emotional purification. I love it. I alluded to it
before, but I'll tell you some more about it. In Arab culture, for example, if a husband and wife
had an argument with each other, and the husband got really mad at his wife, and it was
		

			I hate you so much. From today on, when I think of you, it's like I think of my own mother.
		

			From today, you are my mother.
		

			And she really,
		

			this is called the heart. This was a practice called the how the Arabs used to do this. And that
means forever again, I will never be with this woman again. I will never think about her
romantically again. I will never be in a relationship with her again, because she is now equal to
who? My mother. So it is disgusting. Now for me.
		

			Allah says
		

			Isn't the Quran Allah Xena EULA hereunder? Minister in melanoma team? Are those people who do this
with their women? They're not their mom's
		

			done.
		

			I can't believe he said,
		

			Allah. No, they're not
		

			your allies, mom. You can say whatever you want. Some people are really into drama, right? They say
dramatic things.
		

			Some I mean, I come from South Asia, we're really into drama.
		

			Right? Some moms will say to their son, from today, you are not my son.
		

			I'm still your son
		

			can change that?
		

			Father's? Because if you do this again, you are no longer my son. Actually. I am. Your CAD, the
genetics are still. Yeah, I look like you, Dad, look, look at me.
		

			Oh, no, you can't change that. You can emotionally blackmail people. You can't use emotions to
control people alive and said, you know, and if you I mentioned this before, emotionally, people,
you know, relationships are supposed to be healthy, which means I have some rights. And my wife has
some rights. I have some rights. My parents have some rights. I have some rights. My siblings have
some rights. I have responsibilities. They also have what responsibilities, it's a give and take.
There's a balance between both. But what do we do? We say we use Islam to say Oh, parents have all
the rights. And children have none of the rights. By the way, the only relationship where one has
		

			all the rights and the other has no rights is Allah and the slave. Because Allah has all the rights
and we are just slaves of Allah. We don't have any rights against Allah, everything Allah gives us
as a favor from him.
		

			Every other relationship has what rights and responsibilities. You think of a mother who doesn't
feed her child and throws him out in the trash
		

			and goes to jail because of it. She says but in Islam, I have all the rights. And that baby I throw
in the trash should still treat me with their son. When he grows up one day after he comes out of
foster care.
		

			You think she has the right we think that's what Islam teaches? No, no, there's you have to do your
part. Even in the DUA you make for your parents, for example, you say or they're hungover. My
master. Show them both Rama. You don't stop there. What do you say? kumara baya is the way they
raised me when I was the way they nurtured me when I was small. But if they were beating you up when
you were small, if they were abusing you when you were small, if they were abandoning you when you
were small, if they were drinking alcohol and fighting each other and scarring you psychologically
in front of you when you were small is that robber Jani? The DA say rather Hama,
		

			Rama mafia and whatever they did they did it okay. Yeah, Allah or Brahma, Kamara pion is Rita Quran
rain? You know what that is? That's emotional cleansing. Why? Because now the only emotionally you
only carry the burdens Allah made you carry. And you don't have to carry any burdens and any guilt
that Allah did not make you carry. There are some things emotionally, also in our families, and in
our cultures, there are some things that are wrong. But they're not wrong in Islam. You know that
right? There are some things that are culturally very wrong, but they're not wrong in Islam. And
when you do something that Allah has no problem with it.
		

			Completely Allah, Allah has no problem with it, you're doing the right thing. And everyone in your
family says, This is wrong. We hate you. We can't believe you did this. You're such a shame. Allah
will ask you why Allah, Allah is actually not having a problem at all. You're having a problem.
Allah has no problem. And well within my rights, I didn't violate anybody's rights. I stayed within
Allah's shade of Harada. You know what Allah does? He removes that emotional baggage, he cleanses my
emotions. I don't have to carry those emotions with me. I don't have to carry that guilt with me. If
I owe real guilt, I owe it to someone who I actually wronged according to the book of Allah. If I
		

			actually wronged my parents, I owe that if I actually wrong some fine I owe an apology. And the
other incredible emotional cleansing that Allah did is how many times do you have to make Toba to
Allah before Alexa Toba? Tell me
		

			sincere Toba how many times
		

			and then you have to believe that Allah has what? Forgiven? You have to believe that that's we
learned that in the Quran. Of course you should keep making Toba because we make many sins but if
you sincerely like so for example, you stole when you were a teenager you were stupid. And you know
you you ran away with somebody else's McDonald's fries.
		

			You feel really guilty Now your next Ramadan, you decided to make doba for those fries. We were like
I'm gonna make I remember I ate 18 Fries so I'm gonna make first 18 days of Ramadan 18
		

			printables No, no, no. You could put the whole packet together and just make one doba. Sincerely,
you can move on now. You don't have to live inside that guilt. You understand? You can move on Musa
alayhis salam killed somebody
		

			and he made is too far to Allah. But did he keep on making a step far to Allah He made a step
forward to Allah. That's it now he's doing good things he's moved on. Because he's hoping that Allah
will now forgive. That's it.
		

			What do we do? Human beings? Allah says asked me sincerely, once in a while for a little Virginia,
what are human beings do? Sorry, I did that. That's not good enough for me.
		

			You know, you're not really sorry, right? Yes, I am. I am sorry. I said I'm sorry. Did you though?
		

			And then the next time you're in a bad mood, you remember what you did? Right? But I said sorry for
that. Yeah, you said sorry. You think that's enough?
		

			But I didn't just say sorry. I try. I asked you what can I do to make it up to you? And you said
this, this and this, and I did this, this and this? And you're bringing it up again? Yeah, well, I
can't let it go.
		

			Because I don't think you've paid enough of a price.
		

			I don't think a level forgive you.
		

			Because I'm not happy. Oh, this is the last one I'm gonna share with you on emotional cleansing that
Allah gave us in this book.
		

			You know, some people say until I forgive you, I can guarantee you Allah will not forgive you.
		

			I love that one.
		

			I love that one. So until I forgive you, what's going to happen? Allah forgive you. Oh, I see. So
that means on judgment a doesn't matter how much though by made how much I corrected myself. If
someone is still mad at me in the world who says I don't forgive this guy.
		

			I don't forgive him before I'm about to walk into Gemini. He will start Yeah, Allah Hold on.
		

			I'm still upset.
		

			Angels.
		

			Holloman to *
		

			you think you and I control Allah's forgiveness?
		

			I'll give you just one example to put me and you in our place. Just to put us in our place was full
Allah, Allah, Allah on USANA was in Oxford, and he got injured.
		

			He got hit, he fell unconscious. He wakes up from unconsciousness and he says okay, if I had the
level Coleman How can Allah guide the people that spill its profits blood?
		

			He was upset with the Quraysh who almost killed him.
		

			You know what Allah said to him? They said like I mean, I'm pretty sure you won't. You have no
authority.
		

			You don't have no authority whatsoever. They Celica middle Emery Shavon Oh, yeah Toba, either him or
you as Abraham for in the home for the moon, whether he forgives them except Saratoga or he punishes
them. And and they are in fact wrong when they let him off is similar to my friend and Allah owns
whatever is in disguise and whatever is in the earth. You'll feel the minutia. Well, you are the
Bucha He forgives whoever he wants, and he punishes whoever he wants, will law who will follow him
and ALLAH is forgiving. Allah is the loving and caring one, by the way, who was the one person in
the Battle of war that caused the prophet to bleed actually one person who turned the whole battle
		

			around? You know what that is? His name is Khalid bin Walid.
		

			He was the strategist who saw that Muslims are in a weak position, we can come around flank them
from behind, and that's when everything went bad for the Muslims. What's his name?
		

			Did Allah forgive him? Did he become a hobby?
		

			The one who all the one who was the reason for the Prophet almost being killed.
		

			Right? Allah says, He forgives whoever you want. He punishes whoever he wants, that's up to Allah.
		

			He can tell that to His Prophet. But you think you're gonna tell Allah, that your cousin's not gonna
get forgiven? Because you're still mad?
		

			Whatever Allah does with them, that's between a lion and you have you're dealing with Allah. And
Allah says about judgment as we salute our common meaning. Allah will heal the hearts of believers.
Yes, there may be somebody who has caused you pain. And that you see you feel like they're getting
they got away with it. And maybe they'll just make Toba. thank you notes. Okay, I like this better.
These things make me sneeze more. A lot of the gesture. Okay.
		

			At least I'm not sneezing. So that's all happy about that. Because the amount of angels today, amen.
Okay. Anyway, so now let's move on to financial cleansing.
		

			Here's what's coming up in the next episode, and this deeper look of pseudo Jomar. You know, like,
for example,
		

			in many cultures, you cannot get married until you have this much degree this much money, you've
done this, this, this, this and then maybe we'll think about getting you married. And then once you
are ready to get married, the man has to be this amount and this amount and this amount. And then if
you are going to get married, we have to have this kind of a hall and this kind of catering and
these kinds of gifts and there's like the bill keeps going higher and higher and higher and higher.
And what Allah does
		

			Islam is he made the path to Halal easy and the path to haram difficult. And what many cultures do
is they paint they make the path to Halal extremely what difficult and when you make the path to
Halal is difficult automatically what becomes a lot easier. The haram becomes way easier as this is
so much easier. You know