Nouman Ali Khan – Ramadan 2022 – The Religion of Your Father #29

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about the ayat pertaining to the instruction given to Ibrahim alayhi salam to sacrifice his child.
So the last thing we read was that Allah gave him the good news of a boy that is highly Ismail Ali
Salam has interesting attributes in the Quran. Classically, there was a difference of opinion among
our scholars, Imam Razi, has done a pretty good comprehensive job of collecting the opinions on both
		

			sides of scholars who thought that the son to be sacrificed was his half, as opposed to the son to
be sacrificed. That was a smile. From my own humble opinion,
		

			I find the evidence for a smiler they seem to be far stronger.
		

			And, you know, our historical evidence, textual evidence, what you know, Quranic evidence, even that
points to is, how are they so I'm not being the son to be sacrificed, but rather, it's my this and
I'm being that son, and those evidences can be discussed at a later time. But for those of you that
are that are familiar with the Arabic language, Imam Razi is, you know, synopsis of the subject is
really comprehensive, it's a really good read. Anyway, so now he's, he's got a child who's a boy
now, but then Allah says, fella Bella, who's Syria, when he was when he when the boy reached the age
of running along with him, meaning along with the Father, the Word certainly can be used literally
		

			for running it also can be used for performing tasks, you know, making effort meaning helping with
the chores around the house, you know, taking care of the cattle building, the bill digging the
well, whatever work is happening, right. So, now the boy is, you know, some other might say 13 years
old, other say a little bit even older. But it's interesting, the language that Allah use with the
word ma who, so the first thing we should notice here is something about Ibraheem Alehissalaam
Boozin is very old age, and yet he is doing tasks and his son is doing them with him. Right. So it's
actually the son that became strong enough to keep up with the dad. That's how the language is. So
		

			he's a man in his 80s. And yet, he's running around, and he's hunting and he's doing farming or
whatever the work that he is tasks that he is doing, is what he's doing. From it, you actually get
implicitly a powerful sunnah of Ibrahim on Instagram, of actually being physical, or of doing your
best to remain physically capable, right to actually physically develop endurance to develop
strength and to maintain that strength going into old age, to the point where, you know, what
happens in so many cultures is we have unhealthy eating habits. And we have basically sitting around
all day, barely walking around. And if we somebody walks, 10 steps, they're like, Ah, today was
		

			exhausting. I had to walk, you know, we have that kind of a culture. And as a result of that, there
are lots of joint problems, like lots of dietary issues, lots of, you know, gastroenterology issues,
directly related to psychological issues, too, because your physical health expense, you know,
affects your psychological health,
		

			cardiovascular health, because of our diets, and things like that. And all of that is actually
implicitly against the spirit of the legacy of Ibrahim is he's in his old age, and he's running
around, and his son, his young son is keeping up with him like he gets strong enough and fast enough
to be able to keep up with his dad. So we have to make it a point to actually to do that. If you if
you think about the sunnah of our own prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he receives the rissalah
he receives the message when he's 40, which means the heaviest burdens the heaviest tasks
physically, psychologically, that he had to lift in his life started at the age of 40. And for a lot
		

			of people by the time they're in their 40s, they're like, Oh, I'm done now. My youth is over. You
young people, you know, he's, you know,
		

			Just just to comprehend the swords back in the day, right, the swords were a good 5060 to 80 pounds,
you know, we're talking about 40 to 50 kg sometimes have a sword. And they have to, they can't just
pick the sort of this way, they've got to wield it this way, this way that way, and defend and the
shields were heavy and the armor was heavy. These people were carrying heavy weights and they had
enough mobility and enough, you know, strength and agility to be able to do that, you know, riding
on a camel riding on a horse, right, you have to have an incredible amount of lower back strength,
core strength, shoulder strength to be able to hold on to the reins and that for hours and hours and
		

			hours. For hours, right. So this this is actually something that is
		

			implicit, even in the Quran, where I do like Homer stata to Minnkota and gather for yourselves
wherever you can have any kind of power. Right? And then back in the day, that meant gather swords
gather bows and arrows. But you know, what, if you don't have good background, how you going to pull
a bow? Have you ever tried to pull a bow and you kind of strengthen, you know, endurance it takes
and the kind of muscle, you know, you know, stability, you need to have to be able to do something
like that. Right? So when Allah says gain power, what's what good is a sword? If you can't pick it
up?
		

			You have 1000 swords, you know, so that's not so the point. The first point I'm trying to make is
actually physically remaining active and mobile and agile, to the point where a lot of people are
actually they're much younger than Ibrahim Ali Salaam and their grandparents, right? So because he
Allah gave him a childhood, a very old age, people much younger than that people in their 60s, late
50s, early 70s, they become grandparents, right? And if you're a grandparent, and you're like, Well,
my my, my job is now to sit back on a couch and watch my kid. No, you know what, maybe you should
just get on a treadmill, go for a walk every morning. Do a little bit of exercise. Don't hurt
		

			yourself. But at least even if you're if you're a senior, if you've reached a certain age, it's
never too late to try to fix yourself up. And that's actually something I wanted to emphasize that's
embedded inside of this iron. It shouldn't be ignored. That's inside the words fella Bella Mara who
asteria so now he's reached the age where he can run around. And then Ibraheem Alehissalaam tells
him kala Yagoona Yeah, in the aura film, anime and as the hookah he said My beloved Son, I keep
seeing in my dream I say I keep seeing because the aura is Medallia, which you do analyst in raw, it
alludes to continuity. So use of Elisa rams dream was used with the past tense, suggesting he only
		

			saw the dream once the dream of the 11 stars, the sun and the moon. But Ibrahim Ali salaams dream is
in the present tense form, suggesting a kind of continuity. I keep on seeing this dream that I'm
slaughtering you, and the black polka. And the reason he's telling his son his dream is because a
lovely woman and a surety of humble. The intelligent one can take a hint. He knows his father is a
prophet. And if his father is saying, I keep seeing this in my dream, he knows his son will know
that this is actually revelation. Mind you, this is a 13 year old boy. So we have to take a step
back and say, he's speaking to a boy instead of coming and spelling out to this boy, that Allah has
		

			given me revelation that I need to kill you. This is not for me, this is from Allah. That's not how
he spelled it out. Because you know, a young kid is stupid. So you should try to spell things out to
a young child. No child is pretty intelligent. And what's implicit inside of these ayat is never to
underestimate the intelligence of children. And to actually treat them, treat them with intelligent
conversation, to not coddle them and baby them. It's a very unhealthy culture where, you know,
parents talk to their kids like they're idiots. Or they they you know, from the very beginning I've
talked about this in some videos before we we talk to our kids and when we talk to them we sound
		

			like we have a mental disorder like who would you go to the union? They don't even their teachers
don't talk to them like that at school. Their teachers talk to them normally could even Did you
finish your homework? No, why didn't you finish your homework? How was school? You like what are you
doing? You're you're you're you're actually melting your child you're teaching them not to be mature
around you. You're you're robbing them of maturity and you're robbing them of intelligent
conversation and you know what they develop they develop the sense that my teachers my friends,
others, they can have they can they have the capacity to have intelligent conversation with me, but
		

			my parents don't. My parents will say that was good news. The good Oh, good. That's that's what they
want. That's what I'll give them kids are smart enough to turn into chameleons Yoda chameleon is it
changes colors? Right? It camouflage itself. So your kids you will be surprised some of you who baby
your children. If you were just to hide behind a wall and hear your kids talk to their friends. You
go that's my child. That sounds like an adult. How are they talking like that? I didn't even know
that.
		

			hang out there, that kind of vocabulary. And then when you say, How are you, you know, they turn
into somebody else. Why because we don't have real conversations with our kids. This is the same
thing that happens with you. So Jacoba lay Salam tells us and don't tell your brothers this stream,
he has a very adult serious conversation with his child. Why? Because even though children are
developing, you know, psychologically, they're developing emotionally. That doesn't mean that they
don't possess a great amount of intelligence, and a great amount of analytical skill. But we have to
foster that Allah has the human mind is an incredible thing. It's a sponge, whatever you give it, it
		

			will take that's why kids that are five, six year old years old, can memorize Quran faster than
older kids, they could because their minds are sponges. So we have to, we have to, you know, hone in
on that. So the fact that Ibrahim is I'm turnstiles 13 year old boy says, I see a dream that I keep
killing you. And he doesn't get a teenage response. And I don't have to give you scenarios of what
teenager response looks like. Right? You get teenage responses at home all the time. In fact, you
even get teenage responses now from seven year olds. You know, what are you doing? What
		

			was it the attitude? Why doesn't he have an attitude is this like something Allah just, you know,
some blessing rain came from the sky and dropped on Smiley's around his head, and now he talks like
this. No, he was, he was trained a certain way. He was raised a certain way. He was he was
developed, he was nurtured his his mind his heart, his emotions were nurtured a certain way by his
father, to the point where even when the father brings such shocking news, that he's able to handle
that maturely. You know, adults couldn't handle something like that. But surely, there are adults
who don't know how to handle their own emotions, how to keep their composure. And here you have a
		

			child who's keeping completely composed. And he's so composed, that the father can tell his son
this, you know, by the way, by the way, the Bible does not say this, the Bible, the Quran is
actually contradicting and correcting the Bible in the story. You know what happens in the Bible, he
doesn't tell his son.
		

			He says, we're going to go for a sacrifice. Allah wants to sacrifice on top of the mountain, take
some wood, take some oil, take the stuff, take the rope, let's go and halfway up the mountain, the
son says to the Father, we didn't take a lamb with us, what are we going to slaughter? And he says,
Allah, God will provide us a lamb to us when we get on top. Like he liked his son. And then when he
falls asleep, he ties him up and lays them down to kill them. That's the conversation in the Bible.
Right? Because in that account, what does it seem like the the kid wouldn't be able to handle the
news. The Quran restores the integrity of a smile, Allison restores the credit that is due and says
		

			no, he actually told his son when he when they hadn't even acted on anything yet. He just saw the
dream, and he told his son.
		

			Now the thing is we have we have family situations. Some of you have parents forget children, you
have parents, you couldn't tell them something, because they can't handle it emotionally. You keep
things from them, you have a spouse, you can't tell them openly, because they'll lose their mind.
They can't handle that kind of conversation. If you're having some kind of a serious conversation,
you'll go in the other room and have that conversation. Because if they overhear, there's going to
be drama, because they don't possess the ability, the stability to actually even deal with their own
emotions. And they'll put their own instability on you, they'll bring their chaos and exploded on
		

			top of you. Right. So when we study these ayat, we should actually just look at the human side of
them, too. Like there's a human component here of a father talking to a son, and the son, the
father, actually recognizing as wise as he is that he can share this with his son. Right? Now
compare this to another situation. Jacoba Islaam sons, he tried his best to nurture those kids. They
didn't come out that way, did they? So he can't, they can't even be told basic news. They can't even
be told your brother has a dream. They can't handle that. So there are different psychologies,
right. So there is this incredible dynamic that was nurtured in this remarkable boy. And he has him
		

			in him. He has this forbearance and this maturity, this emotional maturity in him that is able that
he's able to absorb that news. So he says, I keep seeing in my dream that I'm slaughtering you,
funboard mother, Tara,
		

			then you take a good look, think about it. What do you see? What do you think? He's asking a boy
what he thinks when you know, we do we do we honestly take counsel or advice or hear out what our
kids have to say. Like if I if I tell someone to do something, do we say so? What do you think, hey,
I want you to I want you to do this task. I want you to clean up this. But what do you think? I
think I don't want to do it.
		

			There's no room for what do you think you know what you should think you should think that told you
to do it. That's what you should think you should
		

			Think you have 10 minutes left? That's the only thing you need to be thinking. Like it's a very top
down, because I said so kind of approach, right? This is a command from Allah, he could be telling
his son, well, this is from Allah. I can't say anything about it. So you can't say anything about
it.
		

			If I can't even question it, who are you to question? But even then what does he do?
		

			He takes his opinion. He says, Tell me what you think. This is actually a profound lesson in
leadership. Ibrahim Ali Salam is our Father and that and before he's our father, he was a father to
this child wasn't he? And so his role as a father becomes a role model for all fathers and all
people in any power dynamic in any situation, where you have leadership Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
salam was commanded to take consultation from his Sahaba a man who receives what he from Allah
salAllahu alayhi wa sallam, he gets consultation from Allah directly. He doesn't need consultation
from other human beings. But Allah commands him showered him Phil Emery, take their consultation
		

			when you make a decision. Why? Because this is important in giving someone space and making them
feel valued. In fact, if somebody in your family, there are kids that are going through depression,
or you're going through depressions, somebody you know is going through, they feel worthless, they
feel useless, etc, etc. One of the big secrets behind that might even be nobody ever asked their
opinion. Nobody ever values what they have to say. nobody even thinks maybe I should ask what you
think. Maybe I should ask what you consider. You could feel like that at work if your manager never
asked you what you think.
		

			Right? They hate me at my job. They think I'm worthless, because they I saw him asking this one I
saw are asking that when they never asked me because I'm worthless. Right? If you want to
acknowledge the worth of someone, then you don't just ask for the sake of asking. You ask because
you really want to know. And he both words funboard, medalla, Navara and Aurora. Both of these words
are used for seeing. So take a look. What do you see literal translation? Take a look. What do you
see? Right? But looking and seeing are actually figurative words for thought, I want you to think
about this deeply for Navara is actually take your time and look at something. So he's telling his
		

			son, I want you to really contemplate this. I've told you this, I'm gonna give you time to process
this ticket do and then let me know what you think. So it's fun, Voldemort dattara. So he's giving
his child time to process what's been said, and give it a lot of thought and then come back to him.
And so when he does that, gonna, and all of this is one idea. So this is a continuum. He says the
son says, Yeah, but if Alma took Morrow, my beloved Father, do what you've been told.
		

			The son does not say. So you want to kill me? How? Oh, yeah. Okay, first, you leave us in the
desert. And my mom had to go find water.
		

			And now this, you just hate us, don't you?
		

			Like you just want to get rid of us? This is this is you're just the best dad ever. You know what?
You know, you don't get any other. You know why? Because he understands that some things that his
father even did, were never his doing. They were a command of Allah. Right? So he's able to sit,
he's able to, even though the words are coming from his father, the instructions are coming from so
the actions are perpetrated by his father. But there's a distinction between what came from Allah
and what's actually being done by the Father. And a mature human being a mature believer is able to
separate those two things, what is Dean and what is the person
		

			right, and he's not judging his father, for what Allah is telling him. He and him when he's when he
sees that it's from Allah, then he has no person, in fact, he doesn't even have a grudge towards is
that he says yeah, about the My beloved father, like he loves his father, he recognizes things from
an empath. From an empath point of view, he sees how hard it must have been for my old father, who
finally had a child by the way, he's the only child at this point. Right? The only child and now
he's old enough to run around to be the future to be the aspiration that he should have been. And
then on top of all of that, now Allah has told him to sacrifice. In fact, this is the second time
		

			Allah has told him to sacrifice his child. Now the first the first time Allah told him to sacrifice
his child is when he left them in the middle of a desert. Wasn't that sacrificing your child to
		

			that's death? And then when he finally did this, right, Allah does it again says it again. You know,
I'm judgment a human beings will run from their parents, their spouse and their children. Right.
		

			So, you know, mean, we only he will be he will Sahiba he will Bernie he, right. And then after our
kids, the parents, the spouse and the children, look at Ibrahim Ali Salam is like he had to he was
tested with parent, spouse and child and child. All three, all three in this life will remarkable
test. And so when he says yeah, the son says to the Father, Yeah, I bet
		

			The My beloved father, he's actually recognizing things from father's point of view. He's not he's
not drowned in his own feelings. He can actually see my dad's actually having a really hard time and
he's still coming before Allah with a sound heart. I love him for it. I could see what he's doing
for the sake of Allah. So he says, Yeah, birdie, and says, If Alma stockmar, do what you've been
told, Do it Do as you've been, you've been commanded, I know, this isn't your mother not able file
is actually really interesting here. Because he's saying, I know this isn't you. I know this is from
Allah. Now let's bring this to real life situations in your life in mind. Because these stories we
		

			the crew come, these are your stories and my stories, this, the lessons inside of them apply to all
of us. You can have a father who comes home and says, Listen, I know I couldn't find a job before.
And that's why I took this job, even though it's not quite Hallel. But now I found another job, it
pays 30% less. So we're gonna have to make some sacrifices at home, we might have to sell the second
car, we might not be able to go on vacation, we might do this, this, this, this, this, we might have
to move to a smaller apartment. But we'll be in the halaal. But I missed I made a decision that I'm
leaving that job and I'm taking this job, because my conscience is clear. Yeah. And the family
		

			explodes. Oh, you hate us, don't you? You just want us to be miserable. Oh, you think you're just
this, this is not because of Islam. This just because you hate us. They can't separate the Command
of Allah from the person. Right. But if they could recognize if we if we, if we nurtured our kids
properly, and we saw that, uh, that the head of a household is making a sacrifice, but he's doing it
in order to stay within the shade of Allah's command. Right, and you wouldn't, you wouldn't direct
your hatred towards them. You wouldn't direct your spine towards the mother sometimes have to make a
tough decision. Spouses sometimes have to make a tough decision only so they can obey Allah. And
		

			then on the other hand, you don't hear Yeah, but if Alma tomar they don't hear my beloved Dad, do
what you've been told. You're right and doing what you're doing. I know, it's hard for you to, you
know, this is the supportive nature of family that Allah azza wa jal describes in the life of
Ibrahim alayhis salam and this is actually one of the most powerful answers to the DUA, ya, Allah
gave me good people and give me the gift of good people in my life. Right, the good people is that
your family that supports you when you're trying to obey Allah, your family that is supportive of
you when you're trying to obey Allah because the vast he has lived a life where he was trying to
		

			obey Allah His father was against him remember, a new Hyundai salaam his wife is going to be against
him. And luta Ali salaam his wife is going to be her is going to be against him. And also Salam is
uncles are going to be against him. Yakov Ali salaam, his children are going to be against prophets
had families that were against their, their practice of the deen. But Allah answered his daughter
after testing him with that, you know, that antagonism? Allah gave him a child that is surrendering
to Allah like he is. Yeah, but if Alma tomar Certegy Dooney, in sha Allah Who Mina, Siberian, what
you know, and I will conclude with this, what a remarkable expression of self awareness,
		

			you will find, if Allah wills that I will be from those that have suburb.
		

			So he doesn't just say, I'll have somewhere I have somewhere I got this Dad, don't worry about it.
He says you will find if Allah wills that I will have some middlewares theoretically, I'm in
agreement. If Allah this is Allah's command I'm going to do, you need to do what you're told, let's
head to the mountain, and you do the sacrifice that you've been commanded to do. And I cannot
guarantee you that I will continue to have sub i have the intention of it. But I don't know what
weakness will take over me later on. So I'm going to add what words that ensure that the guarantee
cannot come from me in sha Allah, my intention is there, you will find me a cyber, but human
		

			weaknesses, human weakness, you know, to the best of my abilities as far as I can give a guarantee,
I'll be cyber, but beyond that it's in Allah's hands only Allah wills only if Allah wills that I'll
continue to have that sub, the sub the resolve that I have right now, I don't know if I'll have it
tomorrow. And this is again, a very powerful lesson, you and I can have the intention of doing
something good. You and I can have the intention of getting away from something bad. And as you're
sitting in the masjid and you hear a reminder, you make a really strong intention, and you have the
sober to stay with that intention. But a couple of hours later, the weakness comes back. And then
		

			you know, that same resolve that was there that you had made up your mind that resolved that
strength of will is weakened, isn't it? It goes down. And so this these words, acknowledge that I'm
going to try to commit to this as best as possible. So thank God in sha Allah who you know slavery.
You will find me if Allah wills from those that have suffered from Islam
		

			And then finally, when both of them surrendered, one of them surrendered his his incredible love of
child, the other surrendered his love of life.
		

			Who wouldn't want to live a young man with a whole life ahead of him, but he has this incredible
reliance on Allah. And so he they both surrender, what Allahu Allah is like sarara. Right? So he's
he wrestled him down. And he pinned him down little Jabeen Jabeen is your cheek. Right? This is jab
Ha, and this is Jabeen. So when he laid him down on the side of his face, and he's holding his head
down, you know, because and the idea of holding the head down is because when he cuts, it's natural,
if you're cut, you have a jerk motion, right? So you have to hold the sacrificial animal down. So he
says the law who little jump in when he laid him down on the ground with his cheek to the ground
		

			holding him down. And the knife is in his hand. That's implied already. Because the only time you
hold the animal down like that is when you're about ready to cut. When they both surrendered. And he
laid his hand down on the cheek. Can you just imagine the emotions at that moment? The surrender,
they both had to have the fear they both had to overcome the anxiety they both attack overcome. And
whenever they know who Ania Ibrahim, and in that moment, when we called him Ibrahim. So voices heard
Ibrahim are they Sam is about to cut and a voice is hurt. Because it's abductor cancer. Dr. Ruja
you've confirmed the truth in the dream, you fulfill the dream, the vision that you saw, you've
		

			you've fulfilled it, Allah brought him to the brink of the ultimate sacrifice, and then said you
fulfilled the dream. You know, God said doctor wrote, yeah, now the thing about it, I'll say one
Billahi thing here and we'll conclude in sha Allah as lemma. So, in Arabic as lemma is used for he
surrendered, Sal lemma is also used for he surrendered and is this lemma is also used for he
surrendered. So, so you could say as lemma you can say. So, Lemma and you can say is this lemma, but
as Lama also conserve the loom and tidy, what that means is they both surrendered. And it can also
mean they caused others to surrender, or they gave peace to others. And in those words, there's some
		

			very powerful echo, not only the day surrender before Allah, it is their surrender, that became an
inspiration for millions and hundreds of millions to come after them to find it easier to surrender
before Allah. Because what Allah has asked us after that is nothing close to what he's asked of
them. Just think about the comparison. What do we do every year as an OMA that celebrates this
moment, this moment that we're reading about Fela? Muslimah what Allah who will Jabeen one other you
know who Ania Rahim called. So Dr. Ruja. We do this at hajj when we sacrifice the animal. Yes. Now
think about that for a moment. What did Allah ask of of him? And what's ALLAH asking of us? Is there
		

			even a comparison? There's no comparison, like the demand Allah made from our father Ibrahim Alayhi.
Salam and the demand that is made from us. You know what that tells you that Allah showed us that
his our father, Ibrahim alayhi, Salam was willing to make what a remarkable sacrifice. And in
comparison to that Magi, Allah Allah confit Dinniman. Raj, you haven't been given anything hard at
all. So you and I should never find ourselves in a position where we say, oh, life is really hard.
You know, the hardest thing in the life of a Muslim is probably
		

			most money, most second most most difficulty, most exhaustion, right. And there in the end, that
hardest sacrifice that Allah has asked, even then you're reminded this is nothing compared to what
your father had to go through. Allah has actually made things way easier for you. Bye bye, the
blessing and the inspiration of Ibrahim Ali Salam. So he the the Islam of Ibrahim Ali salaam,
actually gave us Salam gave us peace gave us ease gave us comfort, you know. So this is Inaka Dalek
energy Mycenean. And so in the conclusion of the Saya, Allah says, and that is how no doubt about
it. We can't compensate those who excelled as if to say, after that any who tried to do their best
		

			in this team, we will we will, you know fulfill and we will have them overcome the most difficult
trials where they think they're on the worst verge of doing something that is so painful and Allah
will rescue them from it. And this is the kind of desire that Allah will give for all those that
tried to do their best. May Allah azza wa jal makers from Al Mazzini BarakAllahu li Walakum Quran Al
Hakim on a fire anyway, er combine it with the Santa Monica. Right Honorable