Nouman Ali Khan – Ramadan 2022 – The Religion of Your Father #12

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			obviously somebody's silly and we looked at him in the second year of college and hamdulillah salatu
salam ala Rasulillah Le he also have huge money and once again, everyone send money to white Allah
or Ricardo. So we're going to continue talking about the exchange between Ibrahim alayhis salam and
his father as recorded in sort of medium. And the last time we saw that Ibrahim alayhis salam has
escalated the issue with his dad not one statement not true statement he keeps on going first he
says Why do you worship something that can't hear can't benefit can't see then he adds I have
knowledge that you don't have knowledge has come to me that you don't have you need to be following
		

			me I'll guide you to a straightway then now then he added a third yeah but Allah tabula shaytaan
inertia Atlanta Khalil in Canada manual so you don't worship the devil. The devil is has always been
in disobedience to his to his to our to our ramen. Now we're going to keep going. He's going to add
more. He's not done. And he says Alehissalaam Yeah, but the terrible. ISIS Yeah, but he needs a
half. And you must occur at that moment of man. My father, my beloved father died. I love you. I am
afraid that punishment from your master is going to get a hold of you or it's going to touch you.
And yeah, must second one minute ramen first Hakuna Lee shaytani Walia, then you will be a friend to
		

			the devil. Now this could be mean meaning a couple of things, but we'll highlight at least one of
those meanings inshallah. So first of all, he now expresses that he's not having this argument with
him out of rage or out of anger towards his father, he's actually really scared for his dad. And
when you're scared for someone, then that is an expression of powerful expression of love. And we
have to it's a difficult position that Allah has, uh, one of the difficult tests that Allah has
created for prophets throughout history is that they had to,
		

			they had to speak to their family members. And they had to give them the direct message of Islam.
And they did this because they don't want their family members to be destroyed. They love their
family, but their family would respond with hostility. Right? So this was actually a very difficult
challenge that Allah had put the messengers through. So you know, sometimes people take shahada and
their family, their mom doesn't become Muslim dad doesn't became Muslim, etc. I was just with the
moms Rajaraja, last couple of weeks ago before Ramadan started. And he was so happy because his
mother just took shahada a week ago, before I before I met him, and hamdulillah like he's, he's been
		

			giving that what Islam his entire life, his entire life. And his mother, just just a week ago, she
takes shahada and he told us that when he was sitting down so Hala, you know, I believe he she said
it was she was 90 something when she takes her Shahada. So I can only imagine the pain that he goes
through for those years, when he's wishing that his you know, because his mother is aging. And as
she's aging, she's getting closer and closer to meeting with Allah and that, that anxiety that she's
not going to be on the right side of things come judgment day is terrifying. You can exponentially
multiply that with people that are trying to give this message to their family member and they don't
		

			want to hear it. They don't want anything to do with it. And they you know, and those are prophets.
Because it's not only that if you don't listen to a prophet, that you know, you have your your,
you're answerable to Allah, but you're also committing the crime of not listening to a prophet.
		

			Right, which is a bigger crime that if I was giving somebody that when they didn't listen to me,
it's not a big deal, because it's just me. But on judgement day if some if Allah says the messenger
came to you
		

			Ibrahim Ali Salam tried to give you Who better than and you still didn't listen. So they're they
have this unusual amount of pressure on them anxiety on them that on the one hand they are so
terribly worried about their family, but they still have to do what Allah has commanded them to do
to deliver that message right? Now, we also have to understand what Ibraheem Alehissalaam does to
balance that because these emotions are very strong. And these emotions need to be understood
because they're a big part of Muslim life. What happens in many families, for example, is that a
woman who's married lived her life as a Muslim, but kind of a Muslim by name, right. And later on in
		

			her years, she discovers maybe I should take my religion more seriously. So she starts learning a
little bit more, she starts praying five times, she realized that some of the practices, some of the
social gatherings weren't okay. Some of her her habits weren't okay. So she makes Toba from those
things, but she Okay, she's she's going through a change. But that doesn't mean her family's going
through a change, right? Her husband hasn't changed, maybe the husband still has a drinking problem.
Maybe the husband still has a gambling thing. It was no big deal. They used to go to the casinos
together. But now she's made over. And now he still wants to go where He wants to be. They want to
		

			go to Las Vegas or whatever, you know. And then her her children. They never raised them with too
much concern for Islam. Or they took them to Joomla once in a while, or maybe every week, or they
brought them to the prayer. But now that she's woken up religiously, she wants to she realizes that
she was destroying herself and she saved herself. Now she really wants to save her kids, and she
wants to save her husband. So she starts going Ibrahim alayhi salam on her husband every day. Right,
and she starts dropping the Ibrahim rallies, you know, you might have to do malaria spiral, where
you will sit all over the anchor, she ladapo The shaytaan. Like, don't worship the devil you're
		

			gonna burn in * is look, I'm afraid Allah will punish you, etc, etc. Right? So we, what we gather
from that is the person who's doing that is doing what Ibrahim alayhi salam would have done, but
that's not entirely true.
		

			I want you to understand that's not entirely true. Ibrahim alayhi salam realizes the truth about his
deen and he has more gentle ways of teaching and giving the message to you know, his family and
actually what the Quran is recording is the ultimate escalation. There's not It's not recording the
first exchange, like the moment Ibrahim alayhi salam found out that there's or realize that he
shouldn't be giving Dawa to his father, the first thing he did was let Abu the shaitan
		

			like, that's not how this works. But what the Quran records is actually the kind of final episode of
this exchange, how do we know it's the final episode because after this episode, he gets kicked out
of the house. That's, that's actually towards the tail end. So the profits made that were to their
loved ones, but they made that work in a very loving, gentle, you know, progressive kind of way.
		

			And Rasul Allah sorry, salam, if you look at the incidence of people that came in, came into contact
with them and wanted to preach to them, right. It's actually a very, very slow, progressive kind of
messaging. And there are people that come to him and he's they're coming, accepting Islam just by
his behavior, he's not even pushing the message on them just by the behavior just by some some
gentle words, some subtle words, etc. And then Allah explains his methodology, the way that you
deliver Islam to someone, the methodology is explained, for example, in salt and fat at the end by
by way of an analogy, where Allah compares those who Allah say salaam to a farmer. Well, that's
		

			growing crop. Right? So his people are like crop. And the thing with crop is it doesn't turn into to
tall, harvest overnight, you have to water it, you have to nurture it. Some, some plants are more
delicate than others, they need more care, you have to remove weeds from them. There's this gentle
process of the therapy of the sahaba. And you can even consider some people some seeds never grow.
Some seeds just don't grow just like some of the people of Qureshi never accepted Islam, that that
can happen. But that doesn't mean the farmer kicked him out. He's still watering them the same way
you understand like, That's it, there's a beauty in the way that the exchange happened. But that
		

			doesn't mean that the pain isn't there. So there's there has to be a balance between the pain we
feel for the you know, for the lack of guidance of a loved one, right? And the our desire to turn
them overnight, we kind of forget that. We didn't change overnight. Like if you went through a
change, there were lots of years where if somebody tried to give you a message, you would have been
agitated, right. And so Ibrahim Ali salaam now says to his father, this is again, we're talking
about the height of escalation. And he says I'm afraid that man the most loving the most caring.
		

			I'm afraid that some punishment will come touch you from him.
		

			Just, you know, seems like opposite terms, how can punishment touch you from Iraq man. And I'll
acknowledge that there's a new emerging field and in the area of Quranic studies where they're
talking about the etymology, or the origin, or the construct the origin of Arabic words that have to
do with pre Arabic languages, right, so they actually interpret Rockman differently from the Arabic
language, I give that some value, but I don't get can override the Arabic meanings. So for example,
they'll say Rockman is actually already found in Hebrew Rockman. Right is one of the names of Allah
in the Hebrew literature and in Jewish literature. And there, it refers to Allah, the Almighty, the
		

			one who has authority, it has nothing to do with Rama, right? So and they say, Well, look at look at
the places in the Quran, where ramen is used, it's a place where Allah has authority, like here, he
has the authority to punish, right, so it must mean that that's the meaning of Rockman. That's being
highlighted here. I would argue maybe that's the dimension of it that that for those who had that
background, it resonated with them. But the Quran came with the sun and r&b and Moby when it came to
these people. They weren't thinking about the original etymology of that word. When they were
processing the meaning of a word, they were looking at the Arabic meaning of the word, and that has
		

			to do with the Rama and loving care. So that reconciliation is something Allah wants us to have. The
problem becomes, we look at a passage we say, Okay, this is a this is an ayah, about punishment. How
can a man be mentioned in an ayah? About punishment? That must mean we should reinterpret Armand to
mean something else? No, sometimes Allah puts opposite things together. And that's Allah demanding
from me and you to contemplate how can that be? Why would Allah do that? Why would Allah put two
opposite things together, these are actually opportunities for the bar. So one of the things we
learned from this ayah, for example, is just because Allah is loving, just because Allah is caring,
		

			doesn't give anybody free license, or you know, a free ticket away from Allah as punishment.
		

			And he could still be loving and caring and still punish. It doesn't negate it for human beings,
either they're loving and caring, or they are punishing, they can't be both at the same time. But
Allah can be our man and as they come at the same time, and even as the beauty of this, these words
from Ibrahim alayhi salam is that he's telling his father you're gonna get punished by Allah. But
when he says you're gonna get, I'm afraid Allah will punish you. But he still wants to talk about
Allah in the most loving ways, even when he's talking about Allah punishing.
		

			So he from his point of view, even still calls him what a rock man like he can't that's not
something he ever lets go of. Now think about that for a moment. Ibrahim Ali salaam, his
relationship with Allah is such, the way he's discovered Allah the love he has for Allah is such
that even when he talks about Allah punishing, he doesn't erase from his thought process, how much
Allah loves and cares. Like that's still ever present in his mind. You know, today a lot of people
have this crisis. How can Allah talk about punishment so much? Allah? What do you mean Allah loves
Allah cares Allah is Allah Rahim. Look at all these ayat of adab right and have this crisis about
		

			you know, is the god of the Quran is the God mentioned in the Quran really merciful or not? is easy,
vengeful god. And again, one of the one of the beautiful gifts Ibraheem Alehissalaam has given us
just in passing is as he's talking to his father about the fear that Allah will punish his father
he's still referred to the man in the most loving way. So Ibrahim Ali Salaam in this ayah has shown
love to to he showed love to his father and yeah, a birdie and he showed love to Allah with Iraq
man, so beautiful. And he has to balance both of them.
		

			And he wants to he'll never just please Allah and he doesn't want to make his father You know, you
know, face punishment either. So he says, I'm really afraid that you're going to be you know, you're
going to be punished or punishment will touch you from a rock man and even an yamasa addabbo, may
not rock man, the masses. Another interesting word in this ayah. Must is used in the in the
dictionary sense of the Arabic language of Balu. Dora chattel is Saba, like the least amount of
contact between two things is called mass.
		

			So there's, there's Lomasa, there's muscle, there's other words that you can use for contact, but
the most minimum kind of contact is must in Arabic. So he's even though he realizes there's a
punishment, there's a hope inside and that that punishment is minimal. Right. And that's that law
word is highlighting the love he has for his father and how unbearable that thought is. Even though
it's unbearable, he has to face that reality and tell his dad to deal with that reality. If I were
to give you an example of that.
		

			My dad's gonna hate me for this, but I love him so much. I'm going to tell you, so the doctors told
him that he needs heart surgery right? A few years ago, and he's like, no, no, no, these doctors
don't know anything. I don't listen to them. I just gotta eat more bananas. I'll be fine. Like
		

			another doctor.
		

			You're gonna need a sense aren't enough. You're going to need, sir. No, no, no, I'm really it's
understandable. He's terrified. He's terrified. It doesn't want to do it. Right. But then
thankfully, there was a doctor who was mean enough to say, Listen,
		

			if this does, if you don't do this, this is what's gonna happen. I want to spell it out because it
hurt for me to hear it. But he spelled it out to him. And you know, like tough love. Right? I had a
friend like that not in case of my my dad, he was a friend I had and little Arkansas, he's also a
cardiologist. And he used to tell me how he treats his patients like his patients would come in, you
know, oh, so you you need stents, your WHY DON'T NEED since it's okay, I just, you know, what do you
eat, I eat six eggs every morning. And I do this, like cholesterol champion, right? And they're not
changing their diet, and they're going to come back for surgery. Now he goes, Listen, you don't have
		

			to worry about coming back. So you're probably going to die before then. You're gonna die. It's
gonna be painful. It's gonna, I'm pretty sure of it. I would think maybe probably the next week or
two. But I don't think you should get surgery that might be uncomfortable. Death is a lot more
convenient for you. Like he was fantastically like.
		

			And then his patients would get surgery.
		

			All right. Because sometimes you do need tough love. But what we're getting with Ibrahim alayhi
salam is this. He's sharing a harsh reality, but he's still not letting go of his love for his dad.
And he's still he's still speaking about Allah in this most loving way. It's this beautiful delicate
balance that he struck. And the reason for that coonelly shaytani will Yeah, because then you're
going to be a protective friend for or an associate of the devils. And you know, this, what Allah
what he's telling Allah or telling his father is that on Judgment Day, you're going to be counted on
the side of the devil, you're, you're siding with him now that's where you're going to be on
		

			judgment day. That's not what I want for you. Call now the dad heard all of this. The father is
listening and listening and listening and listening. I want you to kind of for a moment, I want you
to pretend to be the dad. Just hear it from the dad's point of view, my son or whatever it is.
You're just you're you're barely holding in the urge to slap your son after the first line. Why do
you worship this? And you're holding it in and he drops another one. You need to follow me then he
drops another one. I you know your don't worship the devil. What did you say?
		

			And they said, I'm afraid that you're going to mind will punish you. And you'll be a friend of the
devils. Like he's just on and on and on. And he has to take a step back as to how am I going to deal
with this boy?
		

			This is no he's not looking at this as let me consider what my son is saying.
		

			That's not what's on his mind. You know what's on his mind?
		

			Wait, so does that mean you're not gonna follow my religion anymore?
		

			Am I hearing this? Am I hearing some insubordination? Is that what I'm hearing?
		

			Like he can't even fathom that son might be saying something of value to the Father. That's not even
the relationship. The relationship is, Am I hearing that you're gonna go a different way than me?
		

			The conversation wasn't even about Ibrahima. They said now, the conversation was about the Father.
Right? The conversation is the father should be changing his direction in life. But the father is
not even considering Oh, should I be changing direction in life? The father's bigger problem is what
does that mean? You're changing direction?
		

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			you're gonna forget about he doesn't even bring up How dare you talk to me this way. Or hard? How
dare you tell me I worship the devil. None of that. Watch this caller. He wound into an early
hottie. Yo Brahim.
		

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			you know, we hear the recitation. We know Allah is capturing a very aggressive moment. The father is
raining down on his dad right down in the sun and he's just, you know, Thunderbolts are coming at
him. And he says it Lampton day. If you if you didn't stop. If you didn't cut this out. I better not
hear a word about this again.
		

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			going now to Joomla Nica I will I swear by, I will stone you to death myself.
		

			And then he adds, okay, if you don't stop, I will I will murder you myself. I'll stone you to death
myself. Why don't you Malia
		

			Get away from me. And don't come back for a long time. Just get out of here. So first of all, he
said, If you don't stop, I will kill you. Right? That's not about the I want you to know that.
There's two things. One thing is the Islam of Ibrahim Alayhi Salam. I want you to remember two
things. One thing is what Islam of Ibrahim Malaysia The second thing is the Tao of Ibrahim Elisa.
		

			When he says if you don't stop he's stopping him from the Dawa.
		

			Not from the Islam of Ibrahim from the Darwin right? If you keep on doing this, though, if you keep
telling me about this, well, what am I going to do?
		

			I'm going to murder you. I'm going to stone you to death. But even the Father already knows the
Islam of Ibrahim are they some is impossible to stop.
		

			He can't stop that one. So what does he do? He does he gives two things to do. One if you keep
giving this hour I will kill you to get away from me. And don't come back for a long time. Just go
make go away free kind of like forever money means that Oh, ILA go away from me for a long, long
time go somewhere I don't I don't want to see your face. What is it you want to see his face because
he can't even tolerate the side of Islam.
		

			So the Dawa to Islam will get Ibrahim is I'm killed. But his Islam alone even if he doesn't give
Dawa is so offensive to the father says Get out of here. But in that there is a confession of the
Father to that the convictions of their of his son are so powerful, that he knows that he will never
ever leave it. So the best thing to fear is not going to work.
		

			Maybe fear will stop him from giving me Dawa. But fear is not going to work in him leaving Islam
because you can't scare somebody to be to be stupid. When somebody has reached a conclusion, you can
threaten them to become dumb again. I can't unknow something. So the only thing I can do now is
maybe I can threaten him with distance from me. I know he loves me. How does he know? He loves him?
He's talking to him even in the most loving way all about it. Yeah. But yeah, but yeah, but over and
over again. And he's afraid for his father. He loves his dad. So he says Get away from me. So now
he's even thinking Abraham will be like, No, I don't want to get away from my dad. I love my dad too
		

			much. Okay, maybe I won't show Islam in front of him. Maybe I'll just go along with it. Right? So he
says, Why journey Malia and the dad is not necessarily saying Get away from me never come back. He's
thinking when I say these lines, that he's gonna come back in line. I mean, I think Buxton is
Indians Bangladeshis, they know this really well. Right? Parents do dramatic lines to get you back
in line. Right? Would you be shocked at the corner of me?
		

			Never showing your face again. You know, why? Because you didn't listen to something.
		

			You know, as the one that way if they were if they're going to do that dramatic line. That's the way
of getting you back in line. Right. So he's hoping that Ibrahim Al Assad is going to come back to
surrender. But Abraham Lincoln was already surrendered to someone else.
		

			And the other thing about this is the observation that I want you to know is that when he made this
this you know expulsion threat to Abraham Ali salaam, and tried to silence him. He didn't respond to
anything Ibrahim Hassan said to anything.
		

			And this is a very powerful tactic of those you love when they are cornered and they know they're
wrong. They know they're wrong. They know they're wrong and they're in what they they're
highlighting something that you know you're is wrong yourself. Later on. We know his entire nation
Raja Willa unfussy him, they looked inside themselves and said in documentable volume on you're the
ones that are wrong, not just him, his entire nation knows they're wrong. But what is the dad doing?
He's flipping it's called flipping the script is turning it back around, and you're the one who's
offensive. Abraham, you're the one that is talking to me. You're You're abandoning our tradition, or
		

			our Hebrew into an alley hottie, Ebrahim? In other words, it has nothing to do with reason, I don't
have to explain why we do it. I don't have to explain to you why you follow this religion. I don't
have to explain to you why we worship this culture. I don't have to explain to you why we continue
this daily practice, whatever those practices are, I don't owe you an explanation. The explanation
is it is my you know, these are my God, and I'm your dad. And that's final. That's why.
		

			And in doing so, he's actually made the ultimate case that the arguments of the son the dean of the
son is based on reason, but the religion of the Father is based on his authority.
		

			Right? And the if you want to be loyal to your father, then you have to give up your brain. You have
to give up your reason. And so that's the position he puts Ibrahim Ali said, I mean, there are
millions of people around the world who get
		

			In this exact position every day, every day,
		

			they stand up for what's right. And their own family comes afternoon says that's not how our family
does things. Who do you think you are? Or you know better? You? How old are you again, you know
better than us. You're gonna teach us get out of my house. You're gonna have this scene play out a
million times in households around the world because somebody took the way of Ibrahim Ali Salaam and
somebody took the way of the father of Ibrahim Ali Salaam. And so inshallah in another session,
we're going to talk about what Ibrahim Al isms final response was to his father, before we conclude
with this passage, what a lovely welcome filter I came whenever anyone here can be it was lacking
		

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.