Nouman Ali Khan – Ramadan 2021 – Real Friends

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			with hamdulillah salat wa salam, O Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah He or savage in Somalia, Kumara, tala
ricotta everybody. We're going to talk today a little bit about one last example of singular and
plural actually, in fact, today it's plural and then singular. That happens in this really
interesting depiction of judgment day from sort of Shara, sort of Shara is the 26th surah of the
Quran. And this is kind of, you know, one of the things when you when you study or read Koran
carefully, you'll find that Allah does these unusual
		

			switches. So he'll switch from past tense to present tense or plural to singular or singular to
plural or third person to first person or past tense to present tense, we've seen a bunch of these
different kinds of switches, right? And each one of them, they're there to get your attention. Like,
why did that happen? Like, if a normal speech was going on that typical speech, then it would have
stayed the same, but something switched, right. And these unusual switches, that's where a lot of
the wisdom and a lot of the subtlety and doctrine lies. And that's a lot of the stuff that kind of
becomes really hard to translate, you know, in a flowing translation of the Quran. And so we visit
		

			when you're reading it in English translation, you just miss those kinds of subtleties. So let me
get right to it and sort of shut up and see what we can learn from this example. If you can show the
screen please. This is the end towards the end not really the end. Not even the end Actually, it's
there's this alongside more than middle of sort of shot up
		

			again, so number 26. Well, what reason tells you Hey, Moodle horween and Hellfire was set ablaze for
those who kept deviating the people who deviated far away. Well, chirala homina Makoto taboo and
it's going to be said to them, where are the things that you used to worship mean doula other than
Allah alien sunako? Are they going to be helping you? Those false gods that you worship Judgment Day
Allah is asking, or angels are asking Oh, you enter serum can they even help themselves? For cube
Kibo v Ha. So they were all silenced? Shut up domesticated Kumbaya and cup Kaaba is also used for
when you take a wild horse and the horseman is able to domesticate and get the wild out the animal.
		

			That's what it's used for to so for cookie raffia it's like their wildness has been tamed. They got
tamed on Judgment they are so wild as disbelievers but on judgment that they got tamed in that
moment and it whole hog wound them and the deviated ones meaning the even the false gods that you
believed in all God tamed to what do you know do you believe Sarge merwin and who else got
		

			tame the armies of the devil all of them all together? Carlo homefree hayase rune and they will all
say in it in *. While they are arguing with each other, the lahi incunabula feeble early Moby and
we swear by Allah we absolutely were lost and obvious misguidance is due so we call Mirabile alameen
when they look at those false gods and say when we made you people, you creatures equal to the
master of all nations, so they're going to the people that worshipped other gods are going to be
looking at those gods and saying, what were we thinking making you Gods next to Allah? How do we do
this? How do we make you equal to Allah? Well, ma Lanai la mujer de mon and none but criminals
		

			misled us. So criminal people, bad people, you know, they're bad company. They're bad influence.
They made us misled. So they're blaming others, right? So now they're complaining that nobody's here
to help them out because their entire mentality was they believed in these false gods because
somehow these guides will help them on Judgment even if there is a cap God with a capital G. These
Gods with the Lord g are gonna step in and say, Hey, this one's with me. This one's okay. Okay, so
that but they're not getting anybody to help them. No, no saviors coming in front of God and being a
shield for them. Right so now they're complaining What are we going to do we have to face God
		

			directly are the consequences so they say for Marlena and this is why I brought this up for Marlin
amin, Shah, if you read enough, he knows what does that tell you?
		

			singular pair plural plural. Plural gentlemen Jeju right Minh Shafi Nina, what a Saudi 10 tamiment.
		

			101, singular, plural. So the singular. So they say and there's no one to put in a good word.
There's no there's nobody to put in a good word and the nobody to put in a good word is plural. We
don't have people to put in a good word for us. When I said you can have him and we don't have any
		

			The intimate friend.
		

			What? So they started with parole, and they went to one, singular. And the meaning is, in some
sense, obvious, but the implications may not be as obvious. There's a lot of people who can put in a
good word for you. Your teacher could say, Yeah, he's a nice student. Right? neighbors can see Yeah,
they're nice people. Right? cashier Can you can favorite the groceries because you can say, that's a
nice customer. Getting somebody to put in a good word for you is that hard. People that know you,
and work people that know you socially, people that know you at the masjid people that know you
casually may have a good opinion of you, they don't know all your dirty secrets, they don't know all
		

			your dirty laundry, they don't know. They haven't traveled with you, they haven't been annoyed by
you. They don't, they don't know all the other sides of you, they know one side of you, right? So
there's a lot of people that can put in a good word for you. Right.
		

			But when and so this means true friend. And Hamid means intimately close. So a friend who is
intimately close to your best friend knows all your good habits and your bad habits knows your
temper tantrums, knows what you'd like to eat, knows who you like knows who you don't like, knows
how you talk about what other people around those how you talk, the way you talk when you're just
you and your friend. Because when you're just with your friend, you talk different people stop walks
in, you're gonna talk different. If your parents walk in, you're gonna have different when you're
with your your real friend, your boy, it's a different conversation, right? It's a different level
		

			of non filter, right? And you have a lot of people like that in life, or just a few feet, sometimes
just one. Right? So notice what happens people that can vouch for you. There's many of those, but
people that are truly a friend,
		

			there is just one, maybe two, very, very few. So that reality got captured by the plural followed by
the singular, and that's a reality in this life.
		

			And in it, there's also now that's the that's the observation. But what's the lesson here? The
lesson here is that first people turn to false gods, then people turn to their social standing,
		

			meaning what people think of them as a shield. And finally, they'll realize that the only people
that they might have been able to turn to our wide, close, intimate friends, but on Judgement Day,
even the closest of relationships won't mean anything. And it's also interesting that another
dimension of these AI artists, we didn't live the kind of life where somebody would actually vouch
for us on Judgement Day.
		

			People were nice to us, we were nice to them. But we lived a pretty terrible life in rebellion to
Allah. So actually, nobody dare speak on our behalf today. And we actually never had a sincere
friend.
		

			We never had a true friend, because a true friend would have pointed us towards the truth. We didn't
have someone who truly cared for us, because if they truly deeply cared for us, they would have
wanted us to be well off in that life and in this life, right? So choose the society that just just
just because people vouch for you in this life, just because people have a good opinion of you and
me in this life, doesn't mean we're good people.
		

			And doesn't mean those people are adding any value, they have some value, if they were able to
actually even stand for you and say this is I believe testified in your favor on Judgement Day.
Because you know, when we did go to someone, they weren't may not even have a choice, they'll have
to testify, this person did good.
		

			Other people's lives, maybe a testimony for what we did on judgment day. You know, and so, I know
the other side. So the I mean, these are the kinds of people that will a level reunite them and
		

			we want to have the kinds of friends we will have the kinds of people that are helping us become
better. They're helping us become more patient, they're helping us become more in control of our
temper. They're helping us become more charitable, we're understanding they're helping us get back
on track, if we're falling off on our prayers, we're helping, they're helping us, you know, manage
difficult situations in a way that's pleasing to Allah. That's a real friend, a friend who's like,
hey, you're doing something that's gonna mess you up in nakara. So let me let me help you. Let's
let's work on this together. Right. That's a Sunday coming. And they're the tragedy on judgment day,
		

			right? One tragedies, they worship false gods and their ultimate lament in the end, the ultimate
tragedy for them is we didn't have a real friend.
		

			What are so different? I mean, come on. I mean, Shireen when I said you can Hamid so holla.
		

			And this this on the on the flip side, is the believer. And unbeliever has also said mthfr. We don't
need Shafi. We need one. We don't need everybody vouching for us. We need a source I said I'm saying
this is a member of my own money, and he or she lived up or tried to live up to the the
responsibility I left them with. That's enough for us. Mandela the ash fell in our endowment
		

			Isn't he? right and that's also a loss. I said, Oh, and then on judgment day when Allah unites us
and we are friends with each other, we actually get to it's really subtle that as we're walking
towards heaven, or we're not we haven't made it yet that we use the plural
		

			robina at mym Lana no runner
		

			as opposed to rob be at mem Lee new re master complete my light. We're actually walking together as
believers. And when the wall was dropped between believers and hypocrites, we as believers speak
collectively. Button dome enforcer, calm what upto ohakune Tara Bastogne, like all those verbs that
are being used for that? No, we you used to be with us, but you did you procrastinated, you didn't
make a change in your behavior, and we're speaking collectively. In other words, there is a
closeness even on judgment day, after all the individual struggles are done, and we're marching
towards heaven. There's actually a closeness and togetherness. You know, that's, that's pretty
		

			powerful. And their togetherness, unfortunately, is what do they have in common? Their togetherness
is in Oh, we picked the wrong gods. And we all got misguided by criminals. Now, we don't have any
real friends there. There's, they're speaking together yet. They have nobody to they can't even
watch for each other. And they're not even friends with each other because other places in order and
they're gonna start cursing each other out. They're gonna start yelling at each other. We are on the
other hand, asking each other, we make an agenda. We're congratulating each other, you know, and yet
alone, we're asking each other questions so how was it for you? Because I died in like, that year
		

			you were still alive right? Was it get easier now? I got harder but humbling.
		

			When I have those kinds of conversations or reunion agenda reunion, right, yeah. Hey, who's that?
He's my great grandpa from the fifth century for the 15th century.
		

			That's quite elegant. Yeah, he's looks young as you man. Yeah, cuz it's gentle, bro. Yeah.
		

			We're gonna have those kinds of reunions. May Allah azza wa jal give us the Shah of His Messenger
sallallahu Sallam on judgment day. And may Allah grant us genuine friends in this life. Having
friends on social media are not friends. instafollowers tik tok followers. followers are not
friends, those are just clicks. That's not a friend, a friend is someone who will be there when
you're in trouble. A friend is someone who will be there when you fall. And they're there to pick
you up. They're just and you're there for them. Their pain becomes your pain.
		

			They're there when you're happy, it makes them happy. When you're sad, it makes them sad. Those are
friends. And those are very few in life. And I pray all of you find one or more of real friends in
your life. You know, because you realize when you're who your real friends are, when things get
tough, or difficulty comes then acquaintances start disappearing. Right friends, brother, and Islam
is the one who calls you to remember it's
		

			Yes, but more than that. calling somebody to the remnants of Allah is beautiful, but it's a part of
the picture. What's the other part of the picture?
		

			A brother is someone who like you know, the unsolved were true friends to the module. You know, your
Buddha Menagerie, like they have a deep love for the people who migrated towards them. But if you do
not other unforeseen, they give them preference over themselves. They're ready to sacrifice for
their brother. You know, they're ready to do something for them rather than like, go out of your way
to try to help somebody. Right? It's what it's easy to it's not like oh, I have a reminder for you
		

			that's cool.
		

			There's also some good powerful reminders but you know what, he was so sincere to people
		

			he was so deeply sincere towards people and helpful towards people and that's that's a
characteristic that makes the reminder powerful because sometimes the person is all talk they can
give you a great reminder but they're not there for you. Right.
		

			So what good is that reminder? Yeah, you know, so let's let's try to be people have sincere deep
friendship and shelter and again, I pray that Allah blesses you with that gift, because that is a
profound gift to have in this life. Particularly welcome So guys, have a good day inshallah.
Remember, do your best and I'll do the rest to what you can retitle this real friends