Nouman Ali Khan – When Muslims Work Together 3 – Volunteer Discipline

			In mini una Latina
		

			he was who he was either Mamma
		

			mia
		

			for either calluna
		

			Jamie I am yet Habu.
		

			Dino
		

			in leadin is the new NACA.
		

			You can let me know Nabila he was Sunni
		

			for either the Luca de bout Leisha and new him.
		

			She temin home was still feeling level mu law in law Haku
		

			propitiously Sabri, we assume the MD moonrock that have been listening, Coco de hamdu Lillahi Rabbil
alameen wa Salatu Salam mahadasha ambia it was Mussolini. He was after he is married to my mother.
In order to introduce this next lesson, I'm going to share with you what seems at first, a very
direct contradiction. I'm going to read a part of the translation of an ayah from Surah to new surah
number 24. This is iron number 62 for those of you that are referencing it, 2462 and then I'm going
to be reading something from Surah totoaba is number 44.
		

			And number 44, and 45. And they'll seem like they're saying the exact opposite thing. So let's
start. The Arabic says in mela lunak hula you can Latina you mean una villa. He was hoody. Those who
are asking your permission it's talking to the Prophet sallallahu sallam. Those who are asking your
permission are in fact the ones who believe in a line is messenger.
		

			Lucky try at least try to keep the English in mind okay. Those who asked the prophets permission are
the ones who in fact believe in him and his I believe in Allah and His Messenger Okay, Philip totowa
lie is that the local Latina you mean una bella he will yummy.
		

			Those who believe in a line the last day Don't ask your permission.
		

			Those who believe in a lie and the last day Don't ask your permission and it goes further. And it
says in Mia Nino, and La Nina la mina Villa he will Yamanaka and those who are asking your
permission, don't believe in a line the last day.
		

			So to do says those who asked your permission. Those are the ones who have you mind.
		

			So the Toba says those who ask your permission, are the ones who have no you might
		

			have no demand. And then there's another apparent contradiction. So so the nurse says, you know for
the new caliber of the chutney him, they'll eventually come in home. If they ask you for whatever
issue they have give them permission. So to do says First of all, if they ask permission, it's a
sign of demand. And if they are asking for some important matter, give them permission.
		

			So Toba says Allah one can imagine de la Soto versus Bella, forgive you. Why did you give them
permission?
		

			Why did you give permission? So the new says give them permission. So why did you do so the new says
if they ask permission that * so the double says if they asked permission, that must mean they
have no demand? Seems like a opposite views or no. So this is what I meant. Specifically, both
passages have to do with permission. Both of them have to do with permission. And I pulled these
passages out because they represent some of the most beautiful examples of Quranic wisdom. beautiful
example of Quranic wisdom.
		

			Now,
		

			this first one is so explicit, it's so awesome in ML meaning true believers are only and only the
kinds of people and levena Allahu alayhi wa Sudhi those who truly have faith in a lion has messenger
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what is that kind of
		

			green mean so beautiful whenever they are with him on some collective mission ambreen Jamia the
entire series today could be called Hoda de amor in Java, guys guidance for collective work. The
Quran actually uses the word collective work and the phrases I'm ruling Jamia is a candle Mahara
marine Yama and whenever there with him on some collective mission, some tasks, some project. Now
it's talking about Sahaba, the companions of the profit. Well, the long run which mine was a little
longer and he was headed. They go with him on some mission. He assigns them to go speak to some
tribe he assigns them to go scout some area he assigns them to go, you know, go learn
		

			You know something from somebody or get some news or whatever, he sends five, six of them, 10 of
them whatever it may be, he gave them a test. That's an analogy. I mean, it could be any task. It
doesn't have to be military in nature, it could be any task. Which means this passage particularly
has great benefit for us. Because it could be any collective task, right? He says lumea, the hippo
has is that they knew they would not abandon that task until they asked the permission of the
Prophet first, solo mahanadi. Center. Let's put that in contemporary times.
		

			So you have a meeting. And in a meeting, we what we love doing, of course, because we're Muslims, we
love meeting committees. Right? Oh, sorry, I mispronounced that committees. Right. So we love making
committees. And this is the the research committee, this is the dialogue committee, this is the
we're going to do something I don't know what it is committee, this is I want to be in a committee
committee. Right, we have committees. And then you have a committee and that committees task is by
the end of this week, you three will get this, this XYZ done.
		

			By the end of this week, and three people will get this done. Each one of those three people thinks
x thinks y will do it, why think z will do it, the things y or x will do it, I don't have to do it,
everybody shows up empty handed the next week.
		

			Because it's three of you what happens in psychology, it's called diffusion of responsibility.
Nobody takes responsibility, somebody will do it. And then when you come back to meeting the next
week, you're like you didn't do
		

			what you were nodding your head was, uh, you will not get more than I was.
		

			Nobody gets it done. But the guidance of foreigners, whenever they are on a collective task, there
is no diffusion of responsibility. They don't abandon that task, unless they explicitly tell
leadership. Listen, I can't do it, I'm sorry, I got a situation at home, my mother in law's here or
something. They've got a situation. So they let you they let you explicit explicitly, look, I can do
it. They don't assume or somebody else will take care of it. They don't assume it is very powerful
guidance, folks. This is the kind of thing that destroys voluntary work. Because the leadership says
the volunteers don't do anything. And then the people say the leadership is not getting anything
		

			done. because nothing's getting done. Because everybody keeps thinking somebody else will do it. And
the whole thing is stagnant. Right? This keeps the machinery from breaking, if you're not going to
be able to do it, come out and say listen, actually, I have a meeting, I have to fly, I have an
emergency, I have a doctor's appointment, I have this, I have that and the other, I can't do it. So
you're gonna have to take care of and be open about what you can and cannot do. And we have we have
to change the culture of, you know, corrupting the meaning of inshallah.
		

			We have to, we have to stop that. That's a sacred phrase. It's a beautiful thing to say in
childhood, but we've turned it into something ugly.
		

			In sha Allah means yes. In sha Allah means never.
		

			In sha Allah means maybe if I'm in the mood,
		

			it could mean anything. And you coming in sha Allah?
		

			mean? Yes. It could be no, it could be I don't like you.
		

			It could be any of those meanings. Be clear in what you can and cannot do. Be clear in your
commitments, especially in committee, tax committee tasks, team tasks, don't put it off on somebody
else, let me
		

			know and by the way, at work, at work at your job. If you have a team, sometimes you have teams or
no. And your team was given a test.
		

			Immediately, as soon as the manager says you three have this job. What do you three? Do? You talk to
each other and say you do this part you do you do? A I do? b i do see right. Immediately. And if any
one of them says I thought you were gonna do everything, that's why I was on vacation this week.
They will never do that if they liked their job. Because they know if they do that what's gonna
happen?
		

			You're gonna get fired. You're gonna lose your job. But you know what, in Islamic work, it's
voluntary when you're gonna fire me. I never got a paycheck anyway.
		

			Go ahead. What you're gonna do? Fine, I won't come anymore. was boring anyway.
		

			So you start thinking because it's voluntary, you can make a trivial, you can make light of it. You
don't have to take it seriously. You don't have to meet the deadline, like you have to do at work.
When you have when you haven't met a deadline at work, what happens? You stay late.
		

			You sweat it out. You order like, you know nasty tasting food and you stay in the office and you
finish the work and you come home exhausted because you have to finish the task. Because you need
the job. There's a serious attitude. If you cannot do it, then just say no. And if you can commit to
it, if you can commit to it.
		

			Now on the flip side, let me tell you something because we have to balance all these equations. On
the flip side, you have an immediate, you have somebody who's in charge of a project, Team Leader.
And he gives you a task and you say you can't do it. And he says, well, Joe, he knew Phil,
		

			who was
		

			strong struggle like it deserves to be struggled for Stop making excuses. Don't make excuses. And
you say, brother, my son is sick, my wife is sick, I gotta take care of them first, oh, in number
two como la, la, La Hoya and done, what
		

			is going to court day and night, your money in your children or if it's not for you,
		

			Allah has the ultimate reward. Let her be sick of I will take care of her you think you will take
care of her have some human go do my work.
		

			Leadership, which we'll talk about at the end cannot be emotionally manipulative.
		

			I cannot do that you can't give your volunteers a religious guilt trip. The Prophet never did it
soliloquies and never did it. He never made people feel bad.
		

			When they came in to give an excuse, never did that. So if you're in a situation where the
leadership is making you feel bad when you come and say, I can't do something, I'm sorry, first of
all, you coming and saying, I'm sorry, I can't do it. Even that was a choice. You didn't have to
come, you could have just skipped out on the whole thing. And when they asked you about it, because
I forgot. But the fact that you made it an effort to come and say, Look, I know this is important,
I'm sorry, I can't do it, please assign it to somebody else. That is a show of how much you believe
in the project.
		

			That is a show that you take it seriously. And that should not be turned into a guilt trip by
leadership. That's bad leadership.
		

			That's emotionally manipulative leadership. And that's the kind of leadership that everybody runs
away from literally left by themselves. And then they say, I don't have any volunteers. Nobody works
with me. Obviously, when you can act like that, who wants to work with you.
		

			I mean, the fact that you were, you know, to machine all the time is probably because your wife
doesn't want to hang out with you either.
		

			Because, you know, that kind of personality. Go home a little, you know. So this is a very important
area of concern, being taking permission seriously seeking permission, when you're the volunteer
yourself, that will be a sign of permission sign of your commitment. And leadership is given advice
at the same time, even though the last session of the day is qualities of leadership, Quranic
qualities of leadership, but one quality right now all mentioned. And that is for investor, the new
caliber Alicia and he him if they come to ask your permission for some of their important matters,
so the excuse should also not be just anything Hey, by the way, I just bought Assassin's Creed
		

			three, and I haven't started it. That's why I can't do it.
		

			By the way, I just you know, you know, Vaughn just came out, and I haven't seen it. That's why I
can't make it to the program. Sorry.
		

			No, if they come to you with an excuse that is legitimate, something serious, that's the word shot.
And it's not just any, it's not just any firin. It's a shot and shot and is a serious matter that
pertains to the person individually a private concern. If that's the case, then I'm in home, give
permission to whoever you want from among them. It's the leaders discretion to give permission and
not give permission. At the end of the day, the leader is told you have the choice. You can give
permission and not give permission. We have to talk about that too. Why does a leader have a choice?
Why come? How come Allah didn't just say, give everybody permission?
		

			Why do you say only who you want, who you see fit? Because a good leader understands the difference
between who should get permission and who should it. So before I go to the next passage, which seems
like it's a contradiction, let me explain how that works. You see,
		

			in a store,
		

			a guy has like five employees
		

			and he's got an employee that's really hard working. Basically that guy is running the store. That
guy one guy and we're single handedly running the store and he's got another employee was like a
nephew or something. You got connection so he got the job doesn't do any work.
		

			He's even he's on vacation even when he's at work.
		

			So now there is you know, one of the the the good employee comes and asks for a day off.
		

			And the lousy employee comes and asks for a day off. Who am I going to give a day off to
		

			all makes sense.
		

			I'm going to give a day off to the lousy employee.
		

			You know why?
		

			Because the lousy employee whether he was here, Salah
		

			is the same for me if he was here, he wasn't here. Work wasn't going to get done anyway, tomorrow,
go.
		

			And the guy who works hard I'm not going to give him a deal.
		

			But you know what, they both walk away the guy who doesn't work at all he walks away he goes, You
know, I don't do any work and I get a day off.
		

			And the guy who works hardest thinking man, I work so hard. I deserve a day.
		

			And he doesn't give me a day of any kill this guy here.
		

			That's not fair. Actually, what the guy doesn't realize is he didn't give you a day off because
you're all the more valuable to him. It's a proof of how valuable you are. So sometimes somebody
comes with a legitimate excuse to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and says, I can't do it. And the
Prophet says, No, I can't give you permission, I need you.
		

			That's a discretion upon the Prophet or subtle salon. But if you can afford to let him go, he will.
If he can afford to let him go, he will. So the leader has to be merciful, but also understand the
needs of the work.
		

			And so you press upon your followers, but don't press so much that they break. That's the balance
between the two. Now let's go to the other passes. The other this was sort of the new, the other one
who remembers what was the other one from doba. So to Toba, from beginning to end is an emergency
situation.
		

			It's the state of emergency of the oma.
		

			Makkah has just been conquered. And we kind of poked at the Roman hornet's nest,
		

			just poked at him. And now there's a big conflict about Hebrew, between us and the Romans.
		

			And so the messenger and they sort of some starts preparing an open draft. This was the first time
in Islamic history in the history of the Prophet's life, at least to some that it was mandatory on
anyone capable of fighting to come join the army. Before that it was voluntary, if you didn't know.
But they were voluntary, as I was voluntary, but but the book was a draft. Everybody has to show up.
And if you don't show up, you better present an excuse. You better explain yourself.
		

			So we're heading to the book we're gonna meet the Roman army
		

			100,000, strong, serious matter.
		

			demonaco in the hypocrites weren't up for it. So they come to the Prophet one of them comes to the
Prophet sighs and says, woman, we're cooler than the will attorney. He says to the promises of
jasola give me permission. You see, I'm a player.
		

			And we're going to go pass through some towns when we get near the book that have really, really
pretty women. And I can't help myself. So I'm going to put myself in fitna and therefore please
don't let me go into battle against the ruins of all the lame excuses you could have come up with
		

			and that to the messenger, some alone and the messenger hears this and he says, okay, you can stay.
		

			He just says okay, you can stay. And to me, that is a genius of the Prophet sighs so that that kind
of a joker would have been a liability on the battlefield, not an asset.
		

			Though Harajuku feeco Masato Camila Habana and even admits, he says if they came out with you, they
would have caused nothing more than disruption.
		

			They would have been a problem. Now that's another solution. Because you know, in an army in the
battlefield, you need the tightest discipline.
		

			If one soldier leaves his position, there can be chaos. Isn't that true? So if you have an
unreliable soldier, why don't you just stay home and cook?
		

			Let's let the real soldiers go. So if he's coming in asking for an excuse, it's better you let him
stay.
		

			But the prophets lie Selim is being taught in a state of emergency. When people come and ask you
permission, don't give them permission. And you will find that even though you didn't give them
permission, they'll still stay behind. And they will prove their disobedience to you and they'll
prove that they're hypocrites this time.
		

			So I don't want you to give them permission. So unless has in a state of emergency, why did you give
them permission? Hector yatabe ana La La Vina. Sadako quwata alkazi been until you can confirm who's
speaking the truth and you can get to know the liars. So in a state of emergency permissions are
dropped. Life and death situation. That's a life and death situation for the entire Muslim ummah.
Then permissions are dropped, then there's no please excuse me, I have some problem No, done. That
will not be given and actually the only people excused were the ones Allah Himself excused and
Serato Toba. Otherwise, nobody was excused. So what we learned is slow to noon is the standard
		

			protocol of discipline. If you have an issue, ask permission, leadership should go out of their way
to try to give the permission. In most cases, they should try to give the permission that should be
the rule, let it go. And that's a show of your courtesy to the volunteer don't make them feel bad
about it. Don't make them feel like they're less of a volunteer, respect them and honor their
request. The fact that they came and asked you permission is a sign that they respect you anyway. By
the way, under normal circumstances did the munafo even ever asked permission? No. They didn't ask
for permission. The only reason they came to ask for permission was because it was mandatory this
		

			time. So voluntarily, they never came to ask for permission. The people who come to ask for
permission voluntarily that's a sign of demand. That's the difference between still too new and
solid atharva. That's the that's the fundamental difference between the
		

			In the state of emergency people who come and start asking, making lame excuses, obviously that's
proof they have no demand for tobacco boom
		

			then their hearts are riddled with doubt. And they are they're going to go back and forth and
they're adults. And by the way, Allah insulted them really nicely to in the Quran.
		

			Allah says I had the courage
		

			to call them out this is not part of our course. But I want to share with you how Allah calls people
out i mean he owned these guys with desire these IRA It was pretty amazing. very entertaining to
imagine the situation. So the guy comes the guy is a sweet talker, right? Oh messenger I was so
ready to come and I was completely coming with you but then all of a sudden my mother in law came
over and I have
		

			you know, I like that example. Okay.
		

			guy makes an excuse but you know, he says I was coming I was ready to go you know me. But just last
minute this thing happened you know, it just happened. I don't know how that happened. It's crazy,
right?
		

			Allah says no. If they really intended to come out with you
		

			they would have packed their bags go check your home how many bags are packed
		

			there's nothing tacked on called him out because all I knew was inside the house on one was all
ready to go let's see how ready you were. Let's take a look. When I can however carry Hello home
Beata home Allah was a lot less disgusted at the thought of appointing these people with you in
battle. Allah didn't want them to come they shouldn't have the honor of accompanying you
		

			that's why they stay behind what we're looking at how long behind the home for third Baba home that
he made them lag behind Loki locker room ID This is the insult in battle in Arabic language parted
or carried on doing so. Okay. In battle party Dune is used for men, women and children that don't go
to battle. So let's ask the locker room and sit back with the women and children who sit back.
		

			That's what he calls them. He insults them with that language. So that was our brief session on
permission