Nouman Ali Khan – How Do I Express My Anger

			So I want to call everyone in the Gulf tour, I received a number of letters, here's another one of
them when someone gets on your last nerve, and you run out of patience, and the person replies This
is because they're shaytaan. How do you respond? You don't respond. When somebody gets on your last
nerve, and you explode. First of all, you shouldn't have been in that position. You should allow,
you know, a lot of times we confuse bottling things up with patients, when you just stay quiet. And
don't say anything. That doesn't mean you're being patient. Patience actually means that you can
remain calm. But when you're being offended, or something wrong is being said, you can respectfully
		

			speak out and say that's not true, or that's not acceptable. That's not losing patience. And if you
did come to the point where you had to snap and somebody took advantage of that, and called, you
shall know that's because of shaytaan. You know what? Maybe they're right. And you know, what, if at
that point, you don't really have any point in continuing the conversation. What are you going to
get out of it? No, it's not yet odd. What are you going to do? Those kinds of those are the kinds of
situation where you say, Salomon piece about we can have this conversation anymore. inshallah we'll
talk another time. Any any situation you're in where you're losing your calm, you should try to
		

			avoid. And if it's getting to that point, you should actually let the other know that they're being
offensive. Or they're, you know, they're hurting your feelings. It's as simple as that. And you
know, when when you think staying silent or not saying anything is the same as patients, that's your
mistake. anybody else's. Human beings can't keep things bottled up. They can't. It's the way in
which you express your frustration. That's patience. You can express your frustration calmly, and
say, This is unacceptable, or you can explode like you do. The person who asked this question.
That's a lack of patience, actually. So I pray that Allah gives us the strength to communicate our
		

			sentiments with respect with love with courtesy, and at the same time, not to, you know, not to fall
into this extreme of anger as a result of bottling things up that certainly, yes, anger does come
from the shape and you know, what the other person is doing is also pretty evil, but you're no less
if you're if you allow yourself to get overwhelmed with anger. melasma didn't protect us from anger,
and certainly protects us from his anger. barakallahu li walakum wa salaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah
wa barakato.