Naima B. Robert – TMC Episode 5 Clip Advice for Muslim Couples on Kindness in Marriage

			If
		

			you are acknowledged, and when you
are acknowledged for doing the
		

			things that you're supposed to do,
and someone says thank you or you
		

			know, they really enjoyed the meal
or you know, any kind of
		

			acknowledgement, it makes you feel
good about having done what you
		

			did, right? So it makes sense to
pay that forward, Mashallah.
		

			Exactly, and, you know, on the
other side, you know, say, if
		

			you're managing people, your
employee, you know, and you want
		

			best kind of service or
performance from them as a boss,
		

			because, you know, as a founder of
martial arts, I'm leading a team
		

			of six, seven women, and often I
have to delegate tasks, because I
		

			can't do everything, you know, I
have to delegate us. And when I'm
		

			delegating, you know, I always say
thank you after saying, Can you do
		

			this, can you do that, And
subhanAllah I must say, you know,
		

			people, you know, they, they, over
time I have observed, that we have
		

			progressed in terms of
academically, but socially we have
		

			gone back, we don't have the basic
skills of being with people or
		

			people skills, we are lacking
people skills, because, you know,
		

			dealing with people is not the
same as dealing with technology is
		

			different technology to switch it
on, switch it off with people, you
		

			have to understand the
temperaments, the mood, the time
		

			the space, and you have to be
sensitive to that, you know, and
		

			you have to have a level of say
empathy when you're dealing with
		

			people and I think people are
lacking that and that's why maybe
		

			there's a lot of discussion about
emotional intelligence because we
		

			are not, you know, in touch with
the human side of
		

			communication, technological
communication, mashallah there.
		

			But when it comes down to dealing
with human and that's what we need
		

			to pay attention to. The
prophecies are he he was the best
		

			of teachers and he taught us how
to be with the people when you're
		

			speaking to people. Maybe they're
going through a very, you know,
		

			rough day, maybe they are going
through some kind of loss. Maybe
		

			they are, you know, going through
some kind of financial stress. So
		

			your tone has to adjust to the
temperament