Naima B. Robert – Finding Your Muslim Match out the Apps! With Baba Ali MUST WATCH
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The speakers discuss the importance of communication in wedding proceedings and the importance of finding a game plan to avoid wasting time. They emphasize the importance of communication and finding oneself within a team environment. The event is designed for non-Malicans, and attendees are advised to apply for the event and show their interest. They also discuss the importance of showing interest and avoiding rejection. The speakers emphasize the need for transparency and finding oneself within a narrow age range.
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Welcome,
guys. Welcome to yet another edition in the
marriage conversation.
Yes. It is season 3.
We're out here. Okay? We've had,
over 800,000
views of the marriage conversation so far.
I just wanna say a big jazakaloha and
to every single one of you that has
watched, that has shared, that has commented, that
has liked, and that has subscribed to the
channel. We are more or less around 40,000.
So alhamdulillah, we keep going, mashallah.
But today, I have a very special guest.
And those of you who've seen season 1
or season 2 actually,
you will recognize his face. Those of you
who were part of the intimacy conversation, you
recognize his face, and you may recognize his
face anyway. It's Baba Ali. Assalamu alaikum, Baba
Ali.
Great to be back on your show again,
I'm excited. I'm excited.
You know, you're the one who's excited, but
I think everyone else is going to be
even more excited because, guys, guess what? If
you lot watched our last conversation, then you
know that Baba Ali is now full on
with helping Muslims get married. Right? With half
our deen, half deen, he's out here connecting
Muslims.
And those of you who actually were you
found your spouses on Baba Ali's platforms. Thank
you so much for your comments. We saw
your comments on the videos, and then it
was so heartwarming.
But if you heard the last conversation, you'll
know that
Baba Ali has, put together a really unique
way for Muslims to meet,
but he's never been to the UK with
it.
And guess what is happening this year? Insha
Allah, in November,
the
special
experience
is coming to the UK, guys. Yes. Yes.
Yes. Baba Ali is coming to the UK
with his special matchmaking
experience, which you're gonna hear more about, Insha'Allah.
Brother, you will tell us more about it,
won't you, later on in the show, right?
Of of of course, I will, Insha'Allah.
Excellent. Excellent. I'm excited.
Yeah. No. No. It's gonna be epic, inshallah.
It's gonna be epic. So, guys, we're gonna
let you know more about the event and
how to get your tickets, and and the
process for being selected
for the for the experience, because it is
a selective process. But before we get there,
I put to you, didn't I, brother Ali,
how,
how, you know, today, in today's day and
age,
there there's so much online,
communication, right? Everybody's communicating online.
A lot of the times Muslims are on
apps, which I know you hate, what you're
like. Exactly.
Swiping left or right, getting the- Exactly.
But I think that we are losing, or
maybe we never had,
the the
the etiquette or the art
of connecting with people, truly connecting with people,
right,
especially if when we're looking for for a
spouse. So today really I wanted to give
you the floor
to help our audience to understand
from your vast experience,
the do's and don'ts of meeting
somebody for the first time, whether that is
in an online conversation or in real life.
We want you to teach us, Sensei. Teach
us. Okay?
The do's and don'ts of this. Exactly. Please,
What do you have to say about that?
Yes. So all of you who've been looking
to get married, you know what you've been
doing. You've probably been doing
swiping, or you've been going into live person
events. And whenever we get into a situation
we're trying to actually communicate with somebody,
the etiquette of communicating is extremely important. Some
of us don't know what to say. Some
of us ask terrible questions. Some of us
don't do things islamically with Barakah in it,
and we've watched things fall apart.
And when myself
learning to experience of doing this for 12
years, nearly 12 years of helping people Muslims
get married, I wanna share with you some
of the tips of, what I found to
be very successful.
One of the things you wanna know is
make sure you have a game plan. You
know exactly what you're looking for. Some of
us don't know what we're looking for, so
we just ask for, okay, what are you
guys all looking for? So generally, you'll say,
okay. I'm looking for a good Muslim
who fast, who does who prays, who doesn't
lie, etcetera, etcetera. But that's basically what everybody
else is looking for. What is making specifically
you are looking for that may be different
than what other people are looking for? So
in order for people
not to give you the answers you want
to hear, one of the care one of
the ways I did it when I was
looking to get married, I came up with
questions that didn't have right or wrong answers,
and that's why I was able to filter
the different people I was speaking to. So
for example, let's say it's very important for
you to
it's very important for you to live
where you are. Like, you don't wanna move.
Right? So you ask a question
asking if you found the right person,
would you
relocate to the to a location of your
spouse
because you found the ideal match? Or even
with that situation, you still wanna relocate because
maybe it's a job that won't let you
move or your parents you're inclined to taking
care of your parents or something of that
situation. So when I ask specific type of
questions that are my deal breakers, I can
quickly filter down the people I don't wanna
waste time with. The biggest issue I've noticed
when Muslims are looking to get married is
they don't filter.
Like, they will pretty much, like, okay. I
think this seems like a pretty attractive person.
Let me start talking to them. And you
start talking to them for a month, 2
months, 6 months, 1 year passes go by,
they haven't met your wallet.
They're not interested in, like, the real conversation,
of marriage. They're talking about some vulgar things.
They're talking about things that girlfriend boyfriends talk
about, not what husband and wife People wanna
be husband and wife talk about, and you
end up wasting so much of your precious
time with a bunch of people that were
not
compatible with you in the 1st place. So
what I do and what I'm trying to
give you guys advice is the first thing
I do is filter. So how do I
fill? For for example, like, sisters, if you're
talking to a brother, ask yourself how far
has this guy come to speak to me?
Like, what has he sacrificed to come and
speak to me for marriage? Like, people come
to my matrimonial events, what do they do?
This brother has joined the website.
My website is not a typical website where
you just have to put your picture, your
first name, and your age. No. People answer
158 marriage questions. They take a personality test.
They take the list of their priorities. They
write their interests. All this information, which takes
about 20, 25 minutes to do, that's a
first level of filter. The second level of
filter is he actually flew down to speak
to you. How many brothers fly down or
drive or come from great distances just to
meet you and your family? Very few. Then
the next step is what? How does he
do it? He does it through the Islamic
way. He does it in the right way.
There's many ways to do things. He doesn't
cut corners and be, like, a little dodgy.
No. He's talk he's ready to speak to
your wally. He's ready to be serious from
the very beginning and ask, like, keep things
professional inshallah.
All of these filters
down to, like, now is worth my time
to give to this person to speak about
marriage. But what we do is we just
say, wow. There's a lot of people looking
to get married. I guess it's worth it.
Let me just talk to these people, and
you end up wasting so much time. How
many you have spoken to people
for months and it went nowhere? Some of
you over a year, it went nowhere. And
your time is gone. You'll never get back
your 26 year old self. You'll never get
back to 29 year old self. 1 year
passes, another year passes, another year passes, and
now you find yourself in a predicament. And
you're like, what am I gonna do now?
Now I can't be as selective as I
wanted to be, and now I've spoken to
so many different people and I really need
to get married. And then you start dropping
your
conditions of what you want. Mhmm. Mhmm. Okay.
So,
first thing I'm hearing is go in with
a game plan.
Mhmm. So whether it's online or in person,
have a game plan. That game plan includes
your deal breakers.
Right? Yep. And ask about the deal breakers
in a way that is neutral, Yandi.
Right? Five deal breakers. Have 5 deal breaker
questions ready to go. Yep. So we want
5 deal breaker questions, guys, out of the
gate. Okay? These
are deal breakers. Mbaha Ali, what is the
definition of a deal breaker?
A deal breaker is if a person says
no from the very beginning, you're not gonna
waste your time with them. For example, would
you marry someone outside your ethnicity? Now let's
say I'm speaking to a sister who's from
South Asia. I'm not from South Asia. And
she says, no. I won't interested in my
parents and myself, we want only someone within
South Asia. Why are we wasting our time?
Carlos. Carlos. You have Carlos. We're not wasting.
Are you willing to relocate?
If I'm a brother and I'm marrying a
sister and I'm saying, are you willing to
relocate? No. I want to live in Ireland.
Okay. I'm not moving to Ireland. So deal
breaker. So what is your deal breaker? It
is done. You know what? Whatever your deal
breaker do you smoke? And the guys guy
or girl says, yes. I'm not interested. Deal
breaker. Whatever this your deal breaker is, you
break those deals down so you don't waste
time Right. At the very beginning.
And so by the way, on on our
website, we do that. We have people have
their 5 deal breaker questions. And if you
wanna talk to me, answer my deal breaker
questions. Let me see your answers first, and
then I'll lose my I'll spend my time.
Okay. With you. Yeah. And I like the
fact that there is actually a numerical
limit on the deal breakers.
So it's only 5, guys. Okay? So all
of you who are going through that long
list and saying not this, not that, not
this, not that, you're only allowed 5, guys.
Okay? So just like pattern up, rein it
in. These are- these are serious things, right?
These are some- these are things I'm assuming
that these are the types of issues that
you are not prepared to compromise on and
will not tolerate. Correct?
Yes. You drink alcohol. Not interested. Right. Like,
all these different things that I'm I'm not
interested. And you see, unfortunately, we see more
and more Muslims involved with alcohol.
And if that's something that that either they're
they do it casually or if you're struggling
with it, I don't wanna even get involved
with someone dealing with alcohol. Like, I'm not
that's not my interest. May may I guide
you to someone better, but that's not my
cup of tea. If that's your world, that's
your world. But I need to spend my
time, my precious time, where people are most
likely to be compatible with me.
But, brother brother, the problem now is that
and this is actually a very serious issue.
Right? Because if
as Muslims,
we can't take those types of things for
granted, we might use up all all our
deal breakers. Right? We actually literally might use
up our deal breakers on, if you don't
pray, no. If you don't fast, no. If
you drink alcohol, no. Okay. I've only got
2 left. So what what do you think
about this? Because I there was a very
interesting,
post that a sister put up online, and
it got a lot of attention.
And she was talking she gave a list
of the things we're talking about, praying, salah,
you know, attending. Jomal was one of them.
Not drinking alcohol, fasting. It was a list
of maybe 6 things, these types of simple
basic things.
And her point was,
sisters are being told that this list is
is too strict, that
sisters need to lower their standards from this
basic list,
and she was upset about it, you know,
to be expected. But, I mean, is that
where we are now, you know, within the
community? Where are we at?
It's it's you have to ask yourself who
is asking to reduce this list. The person
who's asking to you for you to reduce
this list is a pass possibly that person
who qualifies for a bunch of these, and
they feel themselves that they're not
marriageable. They're they no longer fall into categories.
So these are the people saying lower the
list. The practicing Muslims are never gonna ask
you to, hey. You know, lower the list.
Why is why is alcohol such a big
issue for you? So you have to pay
attention to who's who's telling you this stuff.
Right? Yeah. So Yeah. For you, it's Islamic
values, I would never compromise on. When doing
your stuff, is that the stuff you guys
should compromise on? Make it a little bit
easier for you. Okay. Alright, guys. We're gonna
come back to that list, Inshallah. I'm probably
gonna do a show on that list itself
because the conversation
no, the conversation that it started was was
huge. It was a huge, huge conversation. Anyway,
so we are going over the game plan.
We're going in with only 5 deal breakers,
guys. Yeah. And we're also looking you mentioned
something about,
ascertaining so filtering, basically, how serious is this
person? What have they gone through to get
to this stage? Yeah? Okay. Cool.
What else? I'll give you an example of
a filter.
Mhmm. I I just did a matrimonial event
this past weekend. I I walked up to
a brother, and I spoke to him. I
said, how how far did you come to
here? He said, I drove 8 hours. 8
hours to come with the sisters at this
event. I spoke to another brother at a
different table. How far did you come from
this? He said, I came 14 hours of
driving to come to here to meet the
sisters at this event. Right. Ask yourself, when
was the last time someone drove 14 hours
to meet you? Yep. Yep. Yep. Okay. That
brother is far more serious than a person
who's just like, that's how my filter. If
I'm a sister, I'm looking to see what
have you gone through to come meet me.
What are you willing to do? It's it's
not comfortable for a brother to come speak
to your colleague. Mhmm. Mhmm. Because sometimes it
feels intimidating. Right? You don't know what he's
gonna expect. They can be very protective. They
could be very strong. They could be he
can be pushing him to see how tough
this man is, if he's has resilience or
not. And that's uncomfortable for brothers. A lot
of brothers avoid that situation, but a man
a man man a masculine man will not
be intimidated by that situation. He said, no.
I'll go speak to your wallie. I'm serious
about getting married and you. That's how you
filter. But many people don't even let they
they just say, you know what? They listen
to these excuses and they're just like, whatever.
And the guy drives you along. I wonder
if there's something to be said for there's,
like, two levels of seriousness here. Right? There's
Mhmm. Serious seriousness
about getting married.
Yeah. For starters. Right? So how serious is
this person about marriage,
in terms of their mindset, in terms of
what they've prepared, in terms of, you know,
how much they've thought it through, etcetera, right?
And an an example of that is, you
know, coming to an event,
paying to be on a particular, you know,
in a particular place. So investing, right? Investing
in being in a space where he can
meet other people who are serious.
And then the next level of seriousness is
how serious he is about you particularly,
right, which is Yes. As a deeper level.
Right?
Okay. Okay.
So explain I would love to hear your
take on this.
I think a lot of sisters feel
that when they first meet a brother, whether
it's online or in real life
Mhmm. They need to be very businesslike
and professional and and, you know, weed out
the time wasters, exactly as you said, you
know, it's very boom, boom, boom, boom. So
how and and maybe brothers feel the same
way. I don't
know.
But how
what is the correct way, in your opinion,
to allow the person to
see
something of your personality, something of what makes
you, you know, unique or special or different
when you are first having those conversations.
Yani Mu'addarban manners,
but also having a bit of personality so
that you you know, you don't scare all
the brothers away with your kind of, you
know, harsh and tough you know, your your
your hard talk. What are your thoughts on
that? Yes.
So as many people know, you work in
non Muslim environments where we work in a
what we in America, we call the corporate
environment Mhmm. Where men and women are in
in have to work together, developers, programmers,
there's meetings. There's a line that you don't
cross, and every every workplace has its department
just to prevent you, what we call the
Haram
police. It's called the human resources. It starts
with the same letter h, but it's it's
for different. They're called human resources. We call
it haram police. And what they do is
prevent you from crossing the line. Right? So
you are still naturally interacting with one another,
but there's a line you can't cross. For
us Muslims, there's a way you can naturally
contact and communicate with one another as long
as you guys don't cross the line. Mhmm.
Where where problem is most people don't know
how to do anything other than doing what
I call the ping pong. The ping pong
match or the table tennis as they say
Mhmm. Is I'm gonna ask you a question,
then you answer, and you ask me a
question. And we would do this back and
forth, back and forth until we both decide
that we wanna get married. Then you get
married, and you and then 55% of you
will stay married, and 45% of you will
get divorced.
So you great ping pong. And when you
get divorced, what is the number one thing
you hear across the board? You hear, well,
if I knew he or she was like
that, I would've never married them in the
first place. Wow. What happened? They they told
me all the things I want to hear.
Right. Great. So now you have professionals who
know exactly what to tell you, and you
will get married just like the person before
you got married and the girl before you
after you will get married, because some of
us men know exactly what to say to
you for you to say yes.
So my whole thing is what happened and
how did you discover the real them? Well,
after we got married, I saw them in
their interactions,
and I saw a side of them I
would have never seen by just doing this
q and a. Q and a through friends
and family, through online,
through Zoom, through whatever coffee we're having together
with the chaperone, all these different things, I
never saw it because what it is is
a job interview.
When you sit in a job interview, what
are you doing? You are putting your best
foot forward Yeah. So you can make sure
you get the job. Right. That's that is
not your personality. You sitting there sweating, being
nervous in uncomfortable clothes, that is not you.
The real you comes out after you guys
you get a job in this location and
you you need to work in the environment,
and now your personality comes out. Right. They
see the real Niemah. They see you. But
they don't see Niemah in the job job
interview is showing your professional side. Yeah. The
how how professional you can be. Mhmm. But
that's exactly what people do at these speed
dating events. They are putting their best foot
forward. So I'm like, no. Well, I can
tell please tell me yes. Of course. They're
they're just saying everything good much. This is
exactly what I want to hear. Right. When
you're married, get married, and then you fall
everything falls apart. So what I suggest is
seeing people in different environments.
And what I did with my events is
I created these situations where you can see
each other in these scenarios. There's no q
and a, Because q and a, you can
do any time. You don't need to come
to my event to do a q and
a. What people are doing is they're actually
in these scenarios where I put these people
in in a in a situation where they're
in a team environment, where a competitive environment.
I can see how you act, how comfortable
or uncomfortable are you with the opposite gender.
How do you react in a situation where
you're stressed, when you're happy, when you're frustrated,
when you're offended?
Mhmm. What happens when you get angry? I
wanna see the guy when he's angry.
Mhmm. You wanna if you don't see it
at my event, you wanna see it at
at home when you get married with him,
or you're gonna see it at my event?
So I wanna see where you where you
interact. Are you cheating?
Are you overly competitive? Are you dominant? Are
you submissive? Are you like this? Are you
a great key player? What are you like?
And the only way I see that is
through our setup that we've developed, these unique
activities and games, again, staying within the hallow
boundaries so you can see. There's no touching
or anything like that. I designed it very,
very specifically in a way that, hamdulillah,
it works. We've been doing it for 10
years. All of the US and Canada,
it works. But we've never ever done it
in the UK. I've been asked for 10
years to come to the UK,
but I haven't.
And I'll tell you why I haven't. Because
you guys are a 11 hour flight away
from me. And because we're the only ones
in the United States doing it, everyone flies
to us. Right. We'll do an event the
last event I did this this Saturday Mhmm.
16 different states people flew in. Now our
states
imagine that you're Your states are like countries.
They're like countries. It's like Europe.
5 hour flight. It's imagine doing an event
in in London Yeah. And then you have
people traveling from France, people from Belgium, for
people from Holland, people from Spain, people from
all over coming to a monthly event. Yeah.
Yeah. Exactly. And they're like, what? How is
this possible? Because right now, the speed dating
people are watching this and saying, brother, I
can't even get the local person to to
take a tube. One station to come to
my place. I'm like, yes. When it when
it doesn't work,
I wouldn't go either.
But when it works, people would take flights.
Because how much do you spend on your
wedding cake? £500?
A £1,000?
How much are you spending to find your
other half?
Yeah. You can have a you cannot have
a wedding without a spouse.
So save your money, guys. Rather invest your
money. Right? All that money that you're thinking
of, even though we've spoken about this before,
any money you are thinking of spending on
a wedding or anything like that, use it
to pay for something quality. Okay. So I
know the people are, like, dying to hear.
I wanna know a few things. I wanna
know when this event is. We want to
know where the event is. And I would
like everybody to get an idea of the
process to actually,
successfully
applying for the event. Go on. Hit us
with the info.
Okay. So the first and this may be
the only event, but this because, again, you're
11 hour flight away, and people come to
us. And by the way, we have people
as far as the UK come to us.
So far, ala la.
The the farthest I've had was a sister
from Pakistan flying to Toronto, a brother from
India, I think, flying to Los Angeles.
Yeah. Okay. These guys are definitely okay with
relocating. Okay? Something tells me that that's not
a deal breaker for them. And the so
for them, it's like they could be US
citizens as well or Canadian citizens that they
just relocated there, and they're like, oh, there's
this event going on? Where is my next
flight? And let me explain why people do
this. Because as you're probably thinking, oh, we
have a lot of speed dating events. Speed
dating events were not designed for marriage. We're
designed for dating.
Non Muslims don't get married off of it.
Non Muslims do not go in with the
intention of marriage. The only people crazy enough
to do that is us Muslims. It wasn't
even designed for that. It's like taking lotion
and using it for toothpaste. It doesn't work.
It looks the same, but it doesn't design
for brushing your teeth. So my whole idea
but it's white. It doesn't matter if it's
white. It's toothpaste. You need toothpaste. So my
whole idea is that we don't design we
don't take a non Muslim system and apply
for Muslim marriages. Mhmm. It wasn't even designed
for marriages for them. So our system, the
way it works like this. The way let's
talk about what speed dating is for typical
for those who have probably experienced it and
the few of you have that have not.
Basically, the way the system works for non
for the way the typical organization do speed
dating, They say we have the ages between
22 to 40 years old. Right. Right? Anyone
who wants to apply between 22 to 40.
But I'm sorry, sister. If you're 21, you
can't come. Oh, brother, you're 41? You can't
come. So, basically, if you're out of this
range, they've cut you off. You you can
never use our system. That's pretty sad. We
don't do that. But, nevertheless, so 22 to
40. Then when you sign up, it's 1st
come, 1st served. Can you just imagine which
gender is probably be the most
80% sisters? So 80% sisters, and now you
have 20% brothers. Now out of 20% brothers,
what do you got? I got a 22
year old brother, a 23 year old brother,
a 24. Why are we getting these young
brothers? Because they are the having the hardest
time to get married. Because most sisters don't
wanna marry a 20 year old brother, so
that's why they pay to go to these
events. And, therefore, the older sisters are also
applying for this event. So now you have
a bunch of people, 80% sisters, 20% brothers,
and a 40 year old sister sitting with
a 22 year old brother and say,
I have a son your age.
It could be a love match. It could
be a love match.
No. This is awkward for her to play.
So what do you guys do then? What
do you guys do? How do you ensure
the mix of ages and people and everything?
Tell us about your process.
So the way we do it is we
we fill you first fill out a survey.
We ask you questions like, what is the
oldest age you'll consider for marriage? We don't
dictate who comes in. You do. So we
look at everybody's answers. Let's say we looked
at every sister's answers, and we look at
the consensus for the sisters that this is
the oldest age that any sister chose was,
like, 44.
Okay. That means if I'm a 47 year
old brother like myself, almost 48,
I will not be accepted into this event.
Right.
If if the next event, the highest age
was
48, I will get accepted in that event.
So you, the attendees select, not the administration
who just decide no, you get crossed off.
You decide who gets sent and who doesn't.
That's number 1. Number 2, since we know
everybody who's coming because you are applying, we
are handpicking
the men and the women for
equal one to 1 ratio.
So how long we
have tables. Even at each table, we know
where who's sitting. I know there's 4 sisters
and 4 brothers per table, and at this
table's exactly which brother is having which seat.
So every
everything's been planned. Next, every single person that
comes to the event will be a half
party member. If you're not a member, you'll
get a free trial membership. Whatever it takes,
we will give it to you. We're not
trying to make the money off the membership.
We are just giving it to you because
we use it as a tool.
When you get to the event, everyone will
have a 6 digit number on their name
badge. You type in that 6 digit,
immediately, they're from the top up. Comes up.
Oh my goodness. That is absolutely brilliant,
better it's even better than that. It calculates
your compatibility.
It looks like 100
158 marriage questions that you answered and they
answered, and it it tells you step by
step how much percentage you are on religious
views, on, like, finances,
the everything. Then your priorities, your interest, everything
shows up in a overall percent, and then
it breaks down granular level. It gets better.
During the event, if you find someone interested
I saw a game for commercial here. But
if How did it get better though? Question
any better? Oh my goodness.
As you say in the info commercials in
the US, but wait. There's more. There's more.
But what happens is if you're interested in
someone during the event, instead of telling an
admin person or telling so and so, can
you go ask them if if they're interested
in me? And they come back and say,
no. They're not interested in you. They're like,
and then you run away? No. That's not
what happens. Instead, what happens is something completely
different. If you're interested in somebody, you click
on the little green tab next to their
picture, but they don't get notified.
They get no notification. If they click on
you, no notification. If it's mutual, no notification.
At midnight, when you go home and they're
home and you're home, at 12:0:1
AM, you both get an email
notifying you if there's a mutual match.
Now,
sisters, let me explain to you how amazing
this is. Imagine there's a brother in the
community that you see regularly, and you always
want to know if he's interested in speaking
about marriage. You don't wanna get rejected, and
you want you don't wanna be the only
one that finds interest and him not finding
interest. Because imagine you show interest and he
doesn't, and then he knows, and then you
have to see each other in the community.
Oh. Very awkward. No way. So imagine being
able to show interest if he shows interest.
If he doesn't show interest, he'll never know
that you were
I see. Totally anonymous.
100% safe. Rejection
proof. We like that 100%. This is all
the guarantees, guys. This is a spiel right
now. Okay? This is a spiel. 100%
rejection proof. Okay?
Okay. So now the numbers. Now all of
this sounds great, Bob Ali, but how well
does it work? Do really people really match
up? What is the numbers? Our last event.
These are the last three events. The last
three events, we have 62 per 60%.
We have 70%
in Toronto. We had 60%
in Cincinnati, and we had our new record
after 10 years.
83%.
80%?
80 yeah. What happened? 83%. What happened with
them?
What happened this is the second time I've
done that event in that city. So when
we came to the event in that city
on March 5th, the organization on that moment,
they said we are booking you for the
rest of the year. We want at least
2 more events. We want it for on
August 13th, and we want it on November
5th, which hasn't come up yet. But we
want those 2 weeks. We we're we want
this. This is what we want. We just
want you guys to come here 3 times
a year. That's all we ask. So what
happened to the 83%?
What does that man number mean? What is
it what what happened? You've the person you
were interested in and the person they were
interested in, there was a match. Now Wow.
This ain't this ain't the real world. I
come up to you and say, Osambeg, I'm
interested in you. Now you didn't know I
was interested. Now you look at my profile.
You're like, okay. Maybe I'm interested in him.
Now this is a little bit biased.
In our system, since you don't know anybody
who's interested in you and you they don't
know who's interested vice versa Mhmm. It is
totally unbiased because you won't show interest just
because they found you interesting. For sure. Yeah.
Yeah. But but this is different for sisters
and brothers. Some a little secret I'll leave
in for the sisters.
The way for brothers, the way it works
is that we men, if we find you
interesting
and if we if you find us interesting,
you immediately become more attractive.
True. For women, it's not that for men,
it doesn't work. For women, it doesn't work
that way. Just because a guy finds you
attractive, you don't suddenly find him attractive. Yeah.
Yeah. But for men, if you find him
attractive, he finds you attractive.
So if if it's at his matrimonial event,
if you show if if you went to
an admin and you showed interest and he
knows that, he may just be interested because
you're interested. Right. He would've never noticed you
before. But we in our event, he has
to show interest because he genuinely is interested
in you, not because you just like him.
Okay. Okay. The difference is. And that's why
it's it's better quality when you find, when
you do it that way and shut up.
But, yeah, that's a couple different things we've
done, things uniquely. And the reason why we
got 83% is because the first event we
did, we had 61% with that same organization.
Mhmm. And then I came back, everyone heard
about it. Yeah. And I said, guys, I
just ask you for one favorite. And when
I come to London, I'm I'm gonna ask
for the same thing. Trust me. For the
next 4 hours,
try my process.
We're not doing speed dating. We're not doing
q and a. We're not doing the stuff
you're used to. For 4 hours, try this
process that I put together, and you'll see
the same results inshallah that everybody else is.
And people who buy into it, when the
majority do, we get those high percentages. Masha'Allah.
I love it. I love it. Okay. So
I love it too. Let's let's yeah. Well,
if you like it, we love it. So
at the end of the day, we just
want to know how can we apply.
How can we be of the chosen ones
to be there on November. What's the date?
November 12th November 13th, we're doing 2 events,
2 days because there's such a high demand
of people asking. I've only put it on
my Instagram Already 200 something 201 people have
applied,
for the event. Oh. And I just put
on my Instagram I just put it on
my just a flyer on my Instagram. This
is the UK. We don't even have an
audience in the UK. Okay. So so guys,
those of you who are listening, listen. Listen.
Listen. Don't don't don't sleep on this. Okay?
Because if you snooze, you lose. Because I
know that there is an application process, and
there is a limited number of seats available.
Right? So I'll be directly. There's 40 brothers,
40 sisters each day. That's it. Wow. That's
it. Just and and but but before I
say 40, you're like, oh, that sounds silly.
I got a number. No. You don't. Because
there is certain age group at table 1,
another age group at table 2, table 4.
So which age group
fits you? So you may only have 8
seats available not 40. Okay. Because I don't
want sisters, I don't can put you in
an awkward situation where you're sitting with a
brother who's half your age. This is all
comfortable. This
watch my videos on my Instagram and watch
the background. People are like, they're having a
good time. There's just normal. No one's like
like, nervous. Right? They're they're comfortable. Which is
good. I mean, it's yeah. You don't want
people nervous when they're supposed to be. So
there you go, guys. What what do you
want? Okay. All the details are gonna be
in the description.
Guys, if this sounds like it's for you,
please, inshallah, get your name on the list,
and let us know how it went, you
know? And if there are any matches that
are made as a result of this these
conversations,
please come back to the channel and let
us know. Baba Ali, what, where what is
the best way for people to apply for
the London event?
Very easy. The so it's put together by
an organization
called British Muslim Matchmakers.
So the very simple,
URL is britishmm.com.
Okay. That's it. Britishmm.com.
Just go sign it up. There's no cost
for signing up. If you get picked, then
they'll send you a request to make payment.
Once you're given payment, you'll give them the
exact location, and that's nothing we do not
discuss. This is a private event. Right. Nobody
knows who's at the event except for the
people who get in. All you know, it's
on November 12th, November 13th. It's from this
time to this time. It's in London, and
that's it. And everyone's like, where is it?
You can't just show up. Exclusive.
It's it is it is extremely difficult. That's
why people fly in. It is like getting
golden ticket at Willy Wonka's chocolate factory, if
you've seen that movie before. Yes. Everyone keeps
applying, but only 40 of you will be
selected. And that's why that fill remember the
filtering process we were talking about? Yeah. That
is your huge level of filtering because, you
know, every person here was hand picked. There's
no random person here. No additional say, guys?
You certainly cannot,
compare that to that app that you all
know about. Okay? So,
you know, the
Are you talking about mismatch? Are you talking
about salami? I don't know which ones you're
talking about, but We don't mention names around
here. Okay? But guys I'm not
mentioning names either. I'm just saying that there's
stuff we out there. I just know if
this has been working for you, this event
isn't for you. But if you've done this
and you're tired of this and you're messaging
people and it just does not work
responding to you, especially brothers. I'm a tell
you something. Sisters have a different experience. Brothers,
I know exactly how you feel because I've
heard it over and over again. You message
and message and message, no response. You even
match with people, no response.
And you're wondering what's going on? This stuff
is just not working. Well, if you want
to do the same thing, you're gonna get
the exact same results.
Try something different, and I can guarantee you,
you will say to yourself, well,
if it works or doesn't work, you will
100% come back on this. You can say
it in the comments, and you can you
can hear me and save this video clip
that this will be completely different than anything
you've ever tried before. And that's why our
results are different too. Do things differently and
your results will be different. I'm excited as
you can tell. I'm 1st time I came
back to London to do a matrimonial, but
I've always done stand up comedy. And so
since by the way, you do are hosted
by a comedian, it'll be kind of fun
and engaging, and I will, inshallah, try to
make you laugh as well. So we'll go
have a fun time, inshallah.
Guys, seriously, I'm looking forward to hearing the
stats from our 1st London event. You guys
can help to make it a success. All
of you who are serious about finding somebody,
who willing to trust Baba Ali and his
process,
please go to the link. It's www.britishmm.com
to apply
ASAP. Otherwise, those 80 seats are gonna be
gone, and you're not gonna be there. And
Bubba Ali is threatening to say he's not
going to come back to London. That's right.
We're going too far. You're I am in
this way. I was in a little look
at the weather. You may need to be
booking a ticket to Canada or to the
US if you wanna get to the next
one. So make sure you don't miss this
one. Baba Ali, as always, it's a pleasure
to have you here.
And imagine, I just I'm just thinking of
all the reward for you and your wife
and your family and your team
for all the barakah that comes from all
of those couples and these new families that
are created as a result by Allah's grace
of this system.
So as your sister, I just want to
say, you know, that's a really beautiful legacy
to leave in the world.
May Allah accept all your efforts. I mean,
I mean Yeah. I've done a bunch of
different projects that most of you guys know
from my YouTube videos, from my Sam's comedy,
the kids shows. But by far, if I
had to trade all of it in for
this, I would. And the reason why I
love this so much is because, yes, it's
nice to make people laugh and and etcetera,
but it is truly priceless when I see
people come together and they're like, I got
married because my husband or my wife, we
met through you, your program. We met through
your events. I can't tell you how many
times this thing has happened, and that makes
my day. No matter how much stress I'm
going through, because a lot of this looks
easy from the outside, it's a lot of
stress to put 80 people into a room,
to hand select these people, to go through
all the answers and look at their information,
etcetera. It is very, very difficult. It takes
100 of hours, literally 200 plus hours to
do per event.
But at the very end, when you see
the results and you see the people getting
married and you see the it's priceless.
I I I my my my wife asked
her, say, if I became a very, very
rich multimillionaire,
do you think I was still doing half
our dean? And she said, without hesitation, she
said yes. She didn't she didn't even say,
but if I stand comedy, I will give
up in a heartbeat. All the other stuff,
I'll give up in a heartbeat. I don't
I seriously, it's work for me, but this
doesn't feel like work. This there's a great
saying that says, find something that you love
to do and never work a day in
your life. Very true. Very true. Well, I
pray that, I'm gonna be selfishly make duas.
Please also give me a little bit of
that if anything comes from this platform. But
let me let me see it from your
side of it. And, again, this is something
amazing, and this is why I want to
come and announce this on your platform. I
haven't announced it anywhere yet. This is one
of the most amazing podcasts you guys are
gonna see out there, period. Hands down.
This sister, I can't tell you how many
times I have I've I haven't told her
this. She's hearing this for the first time.
How many times your name has come through
of people finding your your amazing podcast. No.
No. No. Hands down. By far, and you
can quote me on this, by far the
most I've heard in anything in the last
16 years I've been doing being Bob Ali.
Whatever you're doing is making an impact on
people. I know sometimes you don't see it
because you may not hear it, but I
constantly hear your name more than anybody else's.
And it's amazing. And whatever impact you're making
is is hurting is is impacting people. It
doesn't feel like it because we're just here
talking to each other, but we don't hear
from the people who are listening. But they
are. They do not. They truly are. They
do not. And I wanna be around people
I wanna be around people that are doing
good because there's a in that, and I
want to be part of that. I don't
know. 1 of the duels, by the way,
I make us I'm done here. I'll say
one last thing inshallah. One of the duels
I constantly make to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
is bringing me towards companions and projects to
bring me closer to you and take me
away from companions and projects that take me
away from you. So I don't know how
I'm gonna be contacted by different people, how
different people enter my world, but somehow, some
way, we connected. We met each other a
long, long time ago on a thing in
Malaysia, and somehow we reconnected again here. And
this is not there is no coincidence in
this dunya.
Right? Whatever reason so if I'm hoping that
if something good comes out, this this barakah
comes out of it, you are sharing part
of this barakah insha'Allah, and we can really
see our fruits of our efforts on the
day of judgment insha'Allah. That's my thoughtful thing.
I mean, I love that. I love that.
May Allah accept all our efforts, guys. May
Allah bless every single one of you
with, you know, a spouse who will be
the coolness of your eyes that you may
walk through this dunya and be reunited in
Jannah Ameen.
Brother Baba Ali, you're literally doing the Lord's
work, so we're gonna leave you to it,
Inshallah. And, guys, don't forget to go to
the link, put your applications in, and come
back and tell us how it was. Maybe
we'll do a debrief afterwards
back on the channel. I love it. I
love it.
Alright.
Everyone. Don't forget to like, comment, subscribe. We'll
see
you
on
the
other
side,
Inshallah.