Naima B. Robert – Advice on Gratitude in Times of Hardship for Muslim Women

Naima B. Robert
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The speaker shares a story about a woman who had a difficult time at a hospital with her daughter, and how her husband turned to her and said not yet. The woman later became a victim of abuse and lost everything, but the speaker encourages those who have had similar experiences to reframe them as grateful for the loss.

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			Smilla,
		
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			has it ever occurred to you to make
		
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			sujood in a time of calamity?
		
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			Not just any sujood, but sujood shukr,
		
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			prostration
		
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			for gratitude.
		
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			In this show up snippets, I'm going to
		
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			share with you a story that I tell
		
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			in my book Show Up A Motivational Message
		
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			For Muslim Women
		
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			and it was shared with me by a
		
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			sister who came to see me while I
		
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			was in the hospital with my late
		
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			husband. And she told me the story of
		
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			a couple who had a daughter who was
		
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			very very ill.
		
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			And every time that they went to the
		
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			doctors,
		
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			their daughter had been kept in. And whenever
		
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			they would give the couple some more bad
		
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			news,
		
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			the husband would turn to his wife and
		
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			say,
		
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			not yet.
		
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			And they would go away, and then they
		
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			came back again, they were told more bad
		
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			news. And the husband turned to his wife
		
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			and said, not yet.
		
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			And this happened a few times, them coming
		
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			in being told ever worse news about their
		
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			daughter's condition,
		
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			and the husband turning to his wife and
		
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			saying, not yet.
		
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			Then the fateful day came when they arrived
		
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			at hospital and they were told that their
		
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			daughter was no more.
		
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			And upon receiving that news,
		
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			the husband looked at at his wife and
		
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			said, now.
		
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			And the 2 of them fell into
		
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			Sajda Tushukar.
		
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			Now the hospital staff was amazed and some
		
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			of them were horrified because
		
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			sajda tushukar is something that we do when
		
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			we are thankful, when something good happens. And
		
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			they didn't understand why this couple was making
		
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			sujood at a time like this.
		
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			And the husband explained
		
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			that
		
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			if Allah
		
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			took their daughter back,
		
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			they would
		
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			immediately default to gratitude.
		
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			That they would display
		
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			their gratitude to Allah
		
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			for having blessed them with her in the
		
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			first place,
		
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			for having allowed them to be her parents,
		
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			to be her care
		
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			givers for the time that she was allotted.
		
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			And I don't know about you, but this
		
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			story
		
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			really affected me very deeply.
		
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			And I made the decision that if,
		
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			Laqadr Allah,
		
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			my husband did not survive,
		
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			I would have the same response.
		
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			And I
		
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			talk about this in the book.
		
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			I describe
		
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			receiving the news
		
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			of my husband's
		
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			anything in your life that you feel
		
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			you could potentially
		
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			reframe
		
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			as something to be grateful for? Sometimes it's
		
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			not the loss.
		
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			We focus so much on the loss because
		
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			we're losing. All the time, every day, we're
		
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			losing.
		
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			This life is a series of losses and
		
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			disruptions to our norm.
		
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			But every time we lose something, there's a
		
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			reminder that we had it in the first
		
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			place.
		
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			And I feel like focusing on the thing
		
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			that you had in the first place, the
		
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			fact that you had it,
		
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			is in itself
		
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			a reason to be grateful.
		
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			If you found this useful, please do share
		
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			it and may it be a source of
		
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			Khair for everyone who hears it.