Naima B. Robert – Advice on Being a Muslim Wife is this insulting

You know when I posted the posters for

the successful

well, secrets of successful wives conference,

happening on the 31st December.

There was a a mix of reactions.

On the one hand, there was so much

excitement.

So many sisters wanting to know more,

wanting, needing to know more about this, either

because they are looking forward to getting married

or they are currently married and just wanna

do better, which is

amazing.

And then there was the opposite reaction where

I sensed that some sisters were

triggered

by the fact that it's a conference all

about being a wife, and I get it.

If you are a wife who is struggling

in this area of your life,

if you were a wife and it was

awful and you're no longer 1,

if you're trying to be a wife and

it's just not happening for you and you're

not finding the right person and maybe you've

been looking for a while,

I can understand why

a conference whole 3 days free conference, right,

about being a wife,

is not gonna feel too good,

and I get that. And I wanna say

to everybody out there who may be feeling

either kind of triggered or excluded or isolated

or just being put off by the whole

idea of

focusing on being a wife.

I'd like to invite

you inshallah to

just check-in with yourself and see where that

feeling is coming from

and see if we can't address that.

See if there isn't a way for us

to move past that. And

to be honest, the reason I'm saying that

is that, you know, if

we

if we truly believe

in the deen the way that Allah has

described it to us,

if we truly take on board the injunctions

about

marriage being half your dean,

about the honor of the husband,

about the role of the wife,

about the rewards of marriage,

about the benefits of marriage and family and

community,

then we we may have some work to

do. You know?

And I I I am fully cognizant of

that. And that's why

one of the things that I wanted to

do with this conference is to have a

really holistic

look

at the whole thing of being a wife.

Right? Before being a wife, while you are

a wife, and potentially after you are a

wife. Right?

So

I guess what I'm saying is

this is important.

This is important.

And even though we live in a society

where being a wife is not given

any status,

except for the wedding, of course.

But we live in a

day and age where being a wife and

being married is not given

any

respect, any importance,

you know, any kudos, really.

And where being a wife itself is is

like it's almost like a lost art.

We know how to be women, I think.

Think. We do.

We know how to be great students.

We know how to be fantastic

employees,

employers,

boss babes.

We are I think we know how to

be moms as well.

I think we put a lot of time

and effort into learning that. But when it

comes to being a wife, I'd

I'm just not seeing it.

Certainly, popular culture doesn't celebrate the role of

a wife,

and certainly doesn't teach us

how to be good wives,

and certainly doesn't teach us how to be

good Muslim wives.

So

even though it may be sound a bit

triggering,

it might sound a bit old fashioned,

dare I say it,

It's important.

Most of us would like to find someone.

Most of us would like to be in

a healthy relationship.

Most of us would like to have a

family of our own, a home of our

own. And I think most of us would

like to

bequeath to the world

children who have grown up

in a loving home

and had healthy,

loving role models. Right? And so if that's

the case,

then

learning how to be a wife, learning what

being a wife is,

understanding what the role requires, and making the

decision to show up for that

role, it's important.

It could even be a game changer.

So I hope that every one of you

has claimed your free ticket already. And if

you haven't claimed it, I hope you're gonna

go and claim it. Because that's what they're

there for. There were 10,000. Now they're only

8,000. By the time you watch this, they

may be even fewer. But I would love

to welcome you to this conference. I would

love for you to

listen to the wisdom and the experience

and the, really inspiring

stories of all the wonderful speakers we have.

Mufti Menck, Mariam Lemu, Hali Banani,

so many other amazing people. They're all on

the on the page.

Just click the link in the description to

go and see for yourself. But I just

wanted to make this short video because I

thought it was important to address

maybe how people some people might be feeling.

And,

you know, we all have work to do.

We're all a work in progress.

So

let's do the work together.

I hope to see you there inshallah.

As always, I'm your sister on the journey.

Naina B Robert signing out. I'll see you

on the 31st December inshallah.