Naima B. Robert – Advice on Being a Muslim Wife is this insulting

Naima B. Robert
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The speaker discusses the importance of learning to be a wife and finding a healthy and loving life. They emphasize the need to address the "tickle of marriage" and encourage people to join a conference to address this issue. The speaker also invites attendees to check in with themselves and share their experiences.

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			You know when I posted the posters for
		
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			the successful
		
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			well, secrets of successful wives conference,
		
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			happening on the 31st December.
		
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			There was a a mix of reactions.
		
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			On the one hand, there was so much
		
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			excitement.
		
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			So many sisters wanting to know more,
		
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			wanting, needing to know more about this, either
		
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			because they are looking forward to getting married
		
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			or they are currently married and just wanna
		
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			do better, which is
		
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			amazing.
		
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			And then there was the opposite reaction where
		
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			I sensed that some sisters were
		
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			triggered
		
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			by the fact that it's a conference all
		
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			about being a wife, and I get it.
		
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			If you are a wife who is struggling
		
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			in this area of your life,
		
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			if you were a wife and it was
		
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			awful and you're no longer 1,
		
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			if you're trying to be a wife and
		
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			it's just not happening for you and you're
		
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			not finding the right person and maybe you've
		
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			been looking for a while,
		
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			I can understand why
		
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			a conference whole 3 days free conference, right,
		
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			about being a wife,
		
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			is not gonna feel too good,
		
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			and I get that. And I wanna say
		
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			to everybody out there who may be feeling
		
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			either kind of triggered or excluded or isolated
		
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			or just being put off by the whole
		
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			idea of
		
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			focusing on being a wife.
		
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			I'd like to invite
		
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			you inshallah to
		
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			just check-in with yourself and see where that
		
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			feeling is coming from
		
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			and see if we can't address that.
		
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			See if there isn't a way for us
		
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			to move past that. And
		
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			to be honest, the reason I'm saying that
		
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			is that, you know, if
		
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			we
		
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			if we truly believe
		
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			in the deen the way that Allah has
		
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			described it to us,
		
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			if we truly take on board the injunctions
		
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			about
		
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			marriage being half your dean,
		
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			about the honor of the husband,
		
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			about the role of the wife,
		
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			about the rewards of marriage,
		
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			about the benefits of marriage and family and
		
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			community,
		
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			then we we may have some work to
		
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			do. You know?
		
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			And I I I am fully cognizant of
		
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			that. And that's why
		
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			one of the things that I wanted to
		
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			do with this conference is to have a
		
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			really holistic
		
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			look
		
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			at the whole thing of being a wife.
		
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			Right? Before being a wife, while you are
		
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			a wife, and potentially after you are a
		
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			wife. Right?
		
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			So
		
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			I guess what I'm saying is
		
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			this is important.
		
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			This is important.
		
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			And even though we live in a society
		
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			where being a wife is not given
		
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			any status,
		
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			except for the wedding, of course.
		
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			But we live in a
		
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			day and age where being a wife and
		
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			being married is not given
		
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			any
		
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			respect, any importance,
		
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			you know, any kudos, really.
		
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			And where being a wife itself is is
		
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			like it's almost like a lost art.
		
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			We know how to be women, I think.
		
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			Think. We do.
		
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			We know how to be great students.
		
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			We know how to be fantastic
		
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			employees,
		
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			employers,
		
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			boss babes.
		
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			We are I think we know how to
		
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			be moms as well.
		
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			I think we put a lot of time
		
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			and effort into learning that. But when it
		
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			comes to being a wife, I'd
		
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			I'm just not seeing it.
		
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			Certainly, popular culture doesn't celebrate the role of
		
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			a wife,
		
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			and certainly doesn't teach us
		
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			how to be good wives,
		
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			and certainly doesn't teach us how to be
		
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			good Muslim wives.
		
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			So
		
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			even though it may be sound a bit
		
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			triggering,
		
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			it might sound a bit old fashioned,
		
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			dare I say it,
		
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			It's important.
		
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			Most of us would like to find someone.
		
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			Most of us would like to be in
		
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			a healthy relationship.
		
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			Most of us would like to have a
		
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			family of our own, a home of our
		
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			own. And I think most of us would
		
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			like to
		
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			bequeath to the world
		
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			children who have grown up
		
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			in a loving home
		
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			and had healthy,
		
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			loving role models. Right? And so if that's
		
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			the case,
		
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			then
		
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			learning how to be a wife, learning what
		
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			being a wife is,
		
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			understanding what the role requires, and making the
		
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			decision to show up for that
		
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			role, it's important.
		
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			It could even be a game changer.
		
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			So I hope that every one of you
		
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			has claimed your free ticket already. And if
		
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			you haven't claimed it, I hope you're gonna
		
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			go and claim it. Because that's what they're
		
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			there for. There were 10,000. Now they're only
		
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			8,000. By the time you watch this, they
		
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			may be even fewer. But I would love
		
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			to welcome you to this conference. I would
		
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			love for you to
		
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			listen to the wisdom and the experience
		
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			and the, really inspiring
		
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			stories of all the wonderful speakers we have.
		
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			Mufti Menck, Mariam Lemu, Hali Banani,
		
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			so many other amazing people. They're all on
		
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			the on the page.
		
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			Just click the link in the description to
		
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			go and see for yourself. But I just
		
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			wanted to make this short video because I
		
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			thought it was important to address
		
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			maybe how people some people might be feeling.
		
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			And,
		
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			you know, we all have work to do.
		
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			We're all a work in progress.
		
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			So
		
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			let's do the work together.
		
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			I hope to see you there inshallah.
		
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			As always, I'm your sister on the journey.
		
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			Naina B Robert signing out. I'll see you
		
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			on the 31st December inshallah.