Naima B. Robert – Advice on Being a Muslim Wife is this insulting
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You know when I posted the posters for
the successful
well, secrets of successful wives conference,
happening on the 31st December.
There was a a mix of reactions.
On the one hand, there was so much
excitement.
So many sisters wanting to know more,
wanting, needing to know more about this, either
because they are looking forward to getting married
or they are currently married and just wanna
do better, which is
amazing.
And then there was the opposite reaction where
I sensed that some sisters were
triggered
by the fact that it's a conference all
about being a wife, and I get it.
If you are a wife who is struggling
in this area of your life,
if you were a wife and it was
awful and you're no longer 1,
if you're trying to be a wife and
it's just not happening for you and you're
not finding the right person and maybe you've
been looking for a while,
I can understand why
a conference whole 3 days free conference, right,
about being a wife,
is not gonna feel too good,
and I get that. And I wanna say
to everybody out there who may be feeling
either kind of triggered or excluded or isolated
or just being put off by the whole
idea of
focusing on being a wife.
I'd like to invite
you inshallah to
just check-in with yourself and see where that
feeling is coming from
and see if we can't address that.
See if there isn't a way for us
to move past that. And
to be honest, the reason I'm saying that
is that, you know, if
we
if we truly believe
in the deen the way that Allah has
described it to us,
if we truly take on board the injunctions
about
marriage being half your dean,
about the honor of the husband,
about the role of the wife,
about the rewards of marriage,
about the benefits of marriage and family and
community,
then we we may have some work to
do. You know?
And I I I am fully cognizant of
that. And that's why
one of the things that I wanted to
do with this conference is to have a
really holistic
look
at the whole thing of being a wife.
Right? Before being a wife, while you are
a wife, and potentially after you are a
wife. Right?
So
I guess what I'm saying is
this is important.
This is important.
And even though we live in a society
where being a wife is not given
any status,
except for the wedding, of course.
But we live in a
day and age where being a wife and
being married is not given
any
respect, any importance,
you know, any kudos, really.
And where being a wife itself is is
like it's almost like a lost art.
We know how to be women, I think.
Think. We do.
We know how to be great students.
We know how to be fantastic
employees,
employers,
boss babes.
We are I think we know how to
be moms as well.
I think we put a lot of time
and effort into learning that. But when it
comes to being a wife, I'd
I'm just not seeing it.
Certainly, popular culture doesn't celebrate the role of
a wife,
and certainly doesn't teach us
how to be good wives,
and certainly doesn't teach us how to be
good Muslim wives.
So
even though it may be sound a bit
triggering,
it might sound a bit old fashioned,
dare I say it,
It's important.
Most of us would like to find someone.
Most of us would like to be in
a healthy relationship.
Most of us would like to have a
family of our own, a home of our
own. And I think most of us would
like to
bequeath to the world
children who have grown up
in a loving home
and had healthy,
loving role models. Right? And so if that's
the case,
then
learning how to be a wife, learning what
being a wife is,
understanding what the role requires, and making the
decision to show up for that
role, it's important.
It could even be a game changer.
So I hope that every one of you
has claimed your free ticket already. And if
you haven't claimed it, I hope you're gonna
go and claim it. Because that's what they're
there for. There were 10,000. Now they're only
8,000. By the time you watch this, they
may be even fewer. But I would love
to welcome you to this conference. I would
love for you to
listen to the wisdom and the experience
and the, really inspiring
stories of all the wonderful speakers we have.
Mufti Menck, Mariam Lemu, Hali Banani,
so many other amazing people. They're all on
the on the page.
Just click the link in the description to
go and see for yourself. But I just
wanted to make this short video because I
thought it was important to address
maybe how people some people might be feeling.
And,
you know, we all have work to do.
We're all a work in progress.
So
let's do the work together.
I hope to see you there inshallah.
As always, I'm your sister on the journey.
Naina B Robert signing out. I'll see you
on the 31st December inshallah.