Naima B. Robert – Advice for Muslim Women on Showing Up in Life

Naima B. Robert
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The speaker discusses the concept of the circle of influence and how it can be a positive and rewarding experience. They suggest that every individual has a circle of influence and that it is important to show up for oneself and others. The focus should be on showing up for oneself and others, even if it is not something everyone is aware of.

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			Are you what they call an influencer?
		
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			Now right now are you thinking about your
		
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			social media accounts? Are you thinking about your
		
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			following following on YouTube? Are you thinking about
		
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			the fact that you're not even on social
		
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			media like that? If you are, then stop.
		
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			Because my question has nothing to do with
		
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			social media or the
		
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			online world at all. It has to do
		
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			with you
		
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			and your life.
		
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			Know this.
		
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			Every one of us has a circle of
		
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			influence. Every one of us has people who
		
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			love,
		
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			respect, and trust us.
		
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			We have a space
		
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			where we can actually make a difference.
		
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			Now the problem with many of us is
		
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			that we spend a lot of our time
		
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			and energy
		
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			in the circle of concern.
		
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			Circle of concern is the things that we
		
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			care about, the things that we are aware
		
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			of. We may even be passionate about those
		
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			things, but we cannot change those things. We
		
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			have no power there. We have no voice.
		
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			Now the circle of influence is the complete
		
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			opposite.
		
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			The circle of influence
		
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			is the people
		
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			who do listen to you.
		
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			The people that you can influence. The people
		
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			that you can affect and change.
		
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			And the difference between focusing your energy in
		
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			the circle of concern
		
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			versus the circle of influence is that
		
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			in the circle of concern, your efforts and
		
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			your focus
		
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			evaporate into thin air.
		
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			There is very little to show for them
		
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			either in this dunya or in the akhirah.
		
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			Aside from dua.
		
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			But when it comes to the circle of
		
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			influence,
		
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			wow.
		
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			If only we would harness our energy and
		
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			our focus and our dedication
		
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			to truly show up for for those in
		
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			our circle of influence,
		
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			to pour into them, to teach them, to
		
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			lead them,
		
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			to make a safe space for them, to
		
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			hold space for them.
		
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			Imagine if we turned our gaze away from
		
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			the things that we can't change
		
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			and started really looking at the things that
		
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			we can change. Starting with
		
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			that woman in the mirror looking back at
		
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			you every morning.
		
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			Because she's in your circle of influence too.
		
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			Don't neglect her.
		
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			Don't neglect
		
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			the people who
		
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			love you
		
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			and trust you and respect you and are
		
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			looking for you to lead.
		
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			You have your circle of influence,
		
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			and it is just as important as anybody
		
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			else's.
		
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			So it's time to show up.
		
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			Show up for yourself.
		
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			Show up for your people.
		
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			Show up for the work you were sent
		
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			here to do.
		
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			And start being the true hero of your
		
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			life story.