Mustafa Khattab – Ramadan Reflections 6 Dont Be Judgmental

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The importance of not being caught in the "hasn't" cycle is highlighted, as it is only 60-90 years old and some Muslims may be struggling with their faith. The speaker advises against being judgmental and showing discomfort when others are around, and to be welcoming and not judgmental when one of one's friends comes to them. The importance of compassion and being welcoming is also emphasized, as it is about fasting and not fasting in certain situations. The speaker also mentions a man who was caught and eaten by the gang leader and how it affected his friendships.

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			Today is the 5th and tomorrow is the
		
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			6th
		
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			and another day is gonna be 1 quarter
		
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			of the month of Magal is gone. And
		
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			before you know it, the month will be
		
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			over. So always keep this in mind
		
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			they say in Turkish which
		
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			translates
		
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			to in Urdu Zendaghi bahu muqtasahi
		
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			Life is short
		
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			And if life by itself
		
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			60, 70, 80 years is short
		
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			the month of Ramadan is also very short
		
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			In the past I used to classify Muslims
		
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			into 3 different types So we have full
		
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			time Muslim, we have what we call part
		
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			time Muslims and we have freelance Muslims
		
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			And I came recently I came across an
		
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			ayah in the Quran that proved me wrong
		
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			I was wrong, so may Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala forgive me We're all Muslim at the
		
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			end of the day, right? So this ayah
		
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			in the Quran we read in Salat every
		
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			single day
		
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			Idina Surat al Mustapim
		
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			First of all, it doesn't say Idini
		
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			guide me, it says guide us. Right?
		
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			And when you say salah, you are talking
		
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			like you are one person and you are
		
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			saying guide us
		
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			Asaraf al Mustaqim
		
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			And also because you are making dua'un to
		
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			every Muslim
		
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			whether they are practicing or not whether they
		
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			live here in Canada, they live in
		
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			Japan, they live in Argentina,
		
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			they live in Philistine, they live in Kashmir
		
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			They are always with you when you are
		
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			pray praying. You're making dua for them.
		
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			And number 2, we don't say Guide us
		
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			to. Ihdina ila salat al mustapim This is
		
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			wrong, and in many translations,
		
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			when you read the translation they say guide
		
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			us to the Salat al Mustapim. It doesn't
		
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			say that in Arabic. Right? It says Iddinas
		
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			Salat al Mustapim. Guide us along
		
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			the Salat al Mustapim because you're already there.
		
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			Right? It doesn't say God has 2.
		
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			And this is why I always recommend people
		
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			to read,
		
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			my translation of the Qur'an. It's more commercial
		
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			than we'll continue inshaAllah.
		
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			It's called The Clear Qur'an.
		
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			If you want to get it, you can
		
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			go to the clearquran.com.
		
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			Or if you're broke, you don't have money,
		
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			you can just get the app for free.
		
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			Go to Quran.com
		
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			and, and and you get the app and
		
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			and just read it for free. Quran.com/apps.
		
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			Look for the clear Quran or my name
		
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			Mustafa Khattab.
		
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			The commercial is over. Alhamdulillah.
		
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			So now,
		
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			guide us along the straight path. And the
		
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			reason is
		
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			all Muslims are on that path. Surat al
		
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			Mustaqim.
		
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			But the difference is
		
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			some of us are driving on that highway
		
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			to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, some are driving
		
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			at 200
		
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			kilometers per hour, some are going at 90
		
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			kilometers per hour and some are going at
		
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			15 kilometers per hour But we are on
		
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			the Surat al Mustaqim according to this ayah
		
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			The reason I'm telling you this
		
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			is sometimes,
		
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			subhanAllah, we come across someone, a Muslim who
		
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			is struggling with their faith
		
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			they're not practicing or maybe when Ramadan comes
		
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			you see them in the masjid but outside
		
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			you don't see them
		
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			Don't look down upon them because everyone is
		
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			on the path to Allah Subhanahu Waqqara. Some
		
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			people,
		
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			they have struggles in life and challenges in
		
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			life that you don't have
		
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			So say Alhamdulillah
		
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			and make dua for them
		
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			Yani Many of us are struggling in their
		
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			life Yani Some youth
		
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			if they start to practice or a sister
		
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			starts to wear the hijab or a brother
		
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			starts coming to the masjid wearing the beard
		
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			sometimes they have issues even with their families.
		
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			They, you know, they challenge them Don't do
		
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			this, you'll be in trouble, don't wear the
		
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			hijab.
		
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			So even the people who are supposed to
		
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			be supportive
		
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			sometimes they stand on their way.
		
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			And there are 2 types of Muslims, 2
		
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			types of people that you come across:
		
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			people who show you the way and people
		
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			who stand in the way.
		
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			So don't be of those who stand in
		
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			the way be among those who show the
		
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			way So if you see someone coming to
		
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			the Masjid for the for the first time,
		
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			you know welcome them, how are you doing?
		
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			And, you know, make them feel at home,
		
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			don't be judgmental
		
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			Your beard is so short.
		
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			Well, I, you know, I just started to
		
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			practice last night or I just took Shahadah
		
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			last week or this sister hijab is not
		
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			proper, you know. Leave them alone, make Dua
		
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			for them, you know.
		
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			So last night we mentioned that even Prophets
		
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			and Messengers,
		
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			they had shortcomings. They made misjudgments and Allah
		
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			turned to them in repentance and Allah, you
		
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			know, you know, honored them above the rest
		
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			of humanity although
		
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			they came from humble backgrounds.
		
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			Right? So if you see a youth,
		
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			they have for example Justin
		
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			Bieber on their, you know, on their shirt
		
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			or their their pants are hanging, you know,
		
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			they're falling down
		
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			You know, don't tell them get out of
		
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			here, you know. Because there are thousands of
		
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			Muslim kids, Muslim youth, tens of thousands of
		
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			them. They're roaming the streets of Toronto in
		
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			the GTA, and you never see them in
		
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			the masjid. If one of them comes,
		
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			it means they have come a long way.
		
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			You should welcome them. Don't tell them get
		
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			out.
		
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			Because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is so happy
		
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			that they came. There's a hadith and bukhari
		
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			and Muslim. The prophet says if if one
		
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			of you comes close to me an inch,
		
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			I'm gonna come close to you one mile.
		
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			If you come to me walking, I'm gonna
		
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			come to you running. Right? So, if if
		
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			the gap between us and Allah
		
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			gets bigger
		
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			we have to keep in mind that he
		
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			didn't move an inch. But if you get
		
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			close to him, he's gonna get closer to
		
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			you. Right? So always keep this in mind.
		
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			And and once the iman goes up, inshaAllah
		
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			wu ta'ala, Justin Peeper is gonna disappear.
		
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			Their hanging pants inshaAllah, once their imang goes
		
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			up, their pants will go up, you know.
		
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			So don't worry about it. Just make dua
		
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			for them and make them feel at home.
		
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			Don't be judgmental.
		
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			Kathalika kumtummaqablufaaminAllahu
		
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			'alaikum. Every one of us, wala, every one
		
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			of us. Imam, not imam, Ustad, not this.
		
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			One day you had Jahiliyyah in your life
		
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			when you were young
		
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			and if people gave you the wicked look,
		
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			if people were critical and judgmental, you would
		
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			have, you know, run away from Islam.
		
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			But we need to be welcoming, insha Allahu
		
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			Ta'ala.
		
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			The I I like to conclude with this
		
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			story. I mentioned this story maybe last year,
		
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			but it's one of my favorite stories,
		
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			and it shows you that compassion
		
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			is the best dawah, even to Muslims.
		
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			So the story of Sahar ibn Saadid to
		
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			study, probably heard it before, but it's a
		
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			beautiful story.
		
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			So this man was a scholar, and he
		
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			was traveling with a caravan one day, and
		
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			he was traveling on the highway, like, 407.
		
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			Then highway robbery happened. They take your money
		
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			in broad daylight.
		
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			407.
		
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			So basically
		
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			basically, the the Chors came and they took
		
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			him. The thieves, the Harsis, they came and
		
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			they took him. Everyone in the caravan, they
		
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			took their money and they took their food.
		
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			And they took them to the gang leader,
		
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			the head of the thieves, the hearses.
		
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			So basically all the thieves, the shores, they
		
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			started to eat the stolen food,
		
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			except for the head of the thieves. He
		
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			was not eating with them.
		
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			And Sarib Nisar came to the head of
		
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			the thieves and he said, oh, mashaAllah, the
		
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			food is good. The biryani, the shawarma, the
		
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			gizlama,
		
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			they are amazing, man. Why don't you eat
		
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			with everyone else? With all the thieves, why
		
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			don't you eat with them? And the man
		
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			said today is Monday and I fast Sunnah.
		
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			So Salih was like Aqizat koi moshkaleh?
		
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			You know, what's wrong with you?
		
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			But he said it inside, he didn't say
		
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			it public, you know?
		
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			But it doesn't make any sense, you are
		
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			a thief and you're fasting.
		
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			And when the thieves, the king of the
		
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			thieves saw this look on Sal's face, and
		
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			he said, I know you are astonished,
		
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			but you know what? I closed all the
		
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			doors with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala I don't
		
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			pray, I'm a thief, nothing to be proud
		
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			of, I don't do Hajj but I left
		
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			one door open between me and Allah
		
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			the door of fasting
		
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			the small door, I left it open between
		
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			Allah and me
		
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			so Sahil said Goallahi 3 years later I
		
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			was in Makadu in Taaf in the Hajj
		
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			and I came across this man, the King
		
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			of the Thieves
		
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			and I said oh, subhanallah, you are the
		
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			yeah, from 3 years ago. He said yes.
		
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			He said what happened? He said wallahi, when
		
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			I left a small door open between me
		
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			and Allah, Allah shard his rahma on me,
		
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			threw this door and he opened all the
		
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			doors for me. Now I pray, I'm not
		
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			a thief anymore and I do Hajj, Alhamdulillah.
		
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			So now, always keep this in mind. If
		
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			you see a Muslim who is fasting in
		
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			Ramadan but they don't pray,
		
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			don't tell them don't fast. Tell them, may
		
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			Allah reward you for fasting.
		
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			But to get more rewards,
		
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			you know, you have to do salah as
		
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			well. But the problem with many also, we
		
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			we own jahannam, we talk about jahannam too
		
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			much. Jahannam, jahannam Allah will not accept your
		
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			fasting jahannam. Allah will not accept jahannam.
		
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			And SubhanAllah, we always talk about jahanam so
		
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			professionally and so beautifully,
		
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			you make me feel like you were born
		
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			and raised there.
		
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			We need to talk about jannah as well.
		
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			Every time Allah spoke about jahanam, He spoke
		
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			about jannah either after or before. So we
		
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			have to keep this balance and we'll continue
		
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			tomorrow, inshaAllah ta'ala. So the question last night
		
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			was the cricket team from Pakistan traveled to
		
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			Turkey to play a cricket game.
		
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			Can they break their fast because they're playing,
		
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			cricket?
		
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			And the answer was the answer is actually,
		
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			they have the option to break their fast
		
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			not because they are playing cricket because they
		
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			have Musafir, they're traveling.
		
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			1,500
		
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			kilometers from Pakistan disqualifies them from Musafir so
		
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			they can break, their fast,
		
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			saver so they can break, their fast and
		
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			shorten their salah as well. Not because of
		
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			playing cricket or soccer.
		
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			And the winner is
		
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			Arawah
		
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			Arua Rovaidullah
		
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			and her grandpa
		
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			was gonna receive the prize
		
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			Arua Rovaidullah?
		
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			Alpha. Alpha Rovaidullah? Sorry? Alpha Rovaidullah?
		
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			The question
		
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			for
		
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			tonight the question for tonight
		
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			So basically
		
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			Onutum,
		
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			I forgot the question.
		
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			Yeah, let me remember. Let me remember.
		
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			Yeah. Yes.
		
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			Iyak and Idina Suraatal Mustaqim Idina Suraatal Mustaqim.
		
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			This was the question. How many times do
		
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			we say this every day in salah?
		
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			It's easy 1, insha'Allah. We, encourage your young
		
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			ones inshallah, boys and girls, to participate. If
		
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			you know the answer, haydearas salat al mustaqim.
		
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			How many times do we we say this
		
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			inshallah fard every day?