Mustafa Khattab – Raising Amazing Kids

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The speakers discuss the importance of taking care of one's body, mind, and soul during life, including education and manners. They stress the need for responsibility and leadership in the house, and the importance of finding a gift for one's life, such as learning to create a Muslim video game or become a doctor or engineer. They emphasize the importance of training children and finding the best in one's life to create a Muslim video game or become a doctor or engineer.

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			And I bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wa sallam
		
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			is the seal of the prophets and the
		
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			final messenger to all of humanity.
		
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			Whoever Allah
		
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			guides, there's none to misguide. And whoever Allah
		
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			leaves astray, there's none to guide. Alright.
		
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			Obakht.
		
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			It has been, almost 3 months since the
		
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			last football game here. I miss you, and
		
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			I was following your news. Masha'Allah. You've been
		
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			doing an amazing job locally and internationally. So
		
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			locally,
		
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			Islamophobic attacks are the highest in history.
		
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			And internationally,
		
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			the diplomatic ties with Saudi Arabia has been
		
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			cut off. Right? So and even here, the
		
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			air conditioning was not working for 2 months.
		
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			What have you been doing? Right? So Alhamdulillah,
		
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			we ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to give
		
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			us, the best in this life and the
		
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			best in the life to come.
		
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			A good news is the school started this
		
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			week,
		
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			and the students are happy, the teacher are
		
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			happy,
		
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			maybe. The happiest in the world, on the
		
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			entire planet, are the parents.
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says,
		
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			Allah is most merciful to people.
		
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			So now if I ask any one of
		
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			you, what is the most important thing in
		
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			your life? You will say, without hesitation,
		
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			my kids.
		
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			This is this gift that you have, and
		
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			you will do anything to make them happy.
		
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			So those of you who are parents, grandparents,
		
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			you appreciate
		
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			the nirmah of kids. So today, inshaAllah,
		
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			I'm gonna pick up from where, Sheikh Alaa
		
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			lift off last week. JazAllahu Fayr, Alaa Sayyid
		
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			Farf Hizna. So, InshaAllah, I'm gonna talk about
		
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			how to make sure that your kids are
		
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			successful in life. How will they become good
		
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			Muslims and successful Canadians.
		
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			To keep this balance between working for Dunia
		
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			and Athra. Good Muslims, successful Canadians.
		
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			And I'm gonna focus on 3 things because
		
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			of the time.
		
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			So once I go past 255, someone is
		
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			gonna shoot me. So I'm gonna keep it
		
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			short and sweet, InshaAllah.
		
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			So basically, we will focus on taking care
		
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			of their mind,
		
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			body, and soul. Their body and soul. And
		
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			also giving our kids responsibility,
		
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			and also finding the gifts in our kids.
		
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			Every
		
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			kid is gifted in a different way. So
		
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			our job as parents and teachers
		
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			is to look for the gift, the talent,
		
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			and development.
		
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			The way the Prophet did with the sahab.
		
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			So this is basically the focus of the
		
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			Khuba today.
		
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			So, taking care of the body and the
		
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			ruh, the soul.
		
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			Most of the time, we take care of
		
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			the body of our kids. When it comes
		
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			to the ruh,
		
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			we don't pay attention.
		
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			So basically, the body of a human being
		
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			is like the hardware of a computer.
		
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			And the
		
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			is like the software or the operating system.
		
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			Windows, Apple, whatever. Right? So most of the
		
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			time, as I said, we take care of
		
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			the body.
		
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			Not the the soul. So the ulama basically
		
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			say
		
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			that
		
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			the the body,
		
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			when we die,
		
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			our bodies that we take care of in
		
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			our entire lives will go to the dirt.
		
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			And our Rooh which we we ignore,
		
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			will go to heaven, to Allah
		
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			So we take care of what goes to
		
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			the dirt, and we ignore what goes to
		
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			heaven. Right? So we need to take care
		
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			of both. So we take care of the
		
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			bodies of our kids, we make sure they
		
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			eat healthy food,
		
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			we give them hot dogs every day,
		
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			ice cream. Yeah.
		
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			But, we also make sure they dress nicely.
		
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			Right? Clothes, and shoes, and everything.
		
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			We make sure they exercise, we take them
		
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			to the Paramount Center, we take them to
		
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			YMCA to play soccer, play,
		
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			cricket, swimming, whatever.
		
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			But when it comes to the Rooh,
		
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			not too much attention.
		
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			And what we need to do for the
		
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			Rooh? 2 things, basically education
		
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			and other manners. This is what we mean
		
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			by taking care of the Rooh, tazkiyatul nafsun,
		
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			so on and so forth.
		
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			Then he talks about your relationship with the
		
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			people. Be humble,
		
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			respect everyone,
		
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			be patient,
		
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			and so on and so forth. And the
		
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			prophet did the same thing with the kids
		
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			around him. When he was dealing with kids,
		
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			he used to teach him about Allah
		
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			and about the people.
		
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			Idasa'al Tafas alillah.
		
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			Samila wakur bi amir He's teaching them matters
		
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			and akhlaat and relationship with Allah
		
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			to keep the balance between working for dunya,
		
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			working for Akhram. Alhamdulillah.
		
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			So this is something that the prophet
		
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			always did.
		
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			In many cases,
		
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			if we take care of Barood, we take
		
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			care of education, make sure that we send
		
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			our kids to some of the most expensive
		
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			schools, Muslim or non Muslim.
		
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			But when it comes to manners and akhlaq,
		
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			we don't have time to teach them, and
		
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			we don't send them anywhere to learn about
		
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			akhlaq. And as I said, the provost
		
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			took care of both.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So
		
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			knowledge and manners go hand in hand.
		
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			So knowledge is like rain
		
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			and
		
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			the, manners, the akhlaq, they are like the
		
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			torbah, the arth, the earth for this water.
		
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			And it says, if the land is bad,
		
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			then what is the use of the the
		
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			water? It will be wasted.
		
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			No one has more knowledge than Iblis. He's
		
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			very knowledgeable.
		
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			He has all the PhDs
		
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			on how to, you know, motivate people to
		
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			do haram. He's very knowledgeable about people and
		
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			their ways,
		
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			but people condemn him, they curse him everywhere
		
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			in the world. Their knowledge didn't benefit him
		
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			without the matter, without the akhlaq.
		
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			The second thing, we need to give our
		
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			kids responsibilities
		
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			in the house. We need to give them
		
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			a role.
		
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			So, basically, I understand, most of us are
		
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			immigrants,
		
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			we come from different cultures, and so on
		
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			and so forth. In my culture, for example,
		
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			we came from a very difficult background.
		
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			Especially the childhood, our childhood was rough.
		
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			Growing up,
		
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			35 years ago, 40 years ago, we didn't
		
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			have computers back then. The first time I
		
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			saw a computer was probably in college.
		
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			We didn't have telephones in the house.
		
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			We didn't have toys as kids, so we
		
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			used to create them.
		
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			So many cases, in many cases, some of
		
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			us, we said I don't want my kids
		
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			to go through the things that I went
		
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			through. I want their life to be easy,
		
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			to the point of spoiling them.
		
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			25 years old, I don't want to wake
		
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			him up for fashion. He's miskeen, like, it's
		
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			6 in the morning. Let him sleep till
		
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			12, noon.
		
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			No. Give him a responsibility. He has to
		
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			wake up. You have to train him. If
		
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			they spoil their food, they should take care
		
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			of it, they should clean it. Like, give
		
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			them roles in the house. They need to
		
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			fix their beds. Why? Give them a role
		
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			to play. When you are about to make
		
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			a decision in the house, talk to your
		
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			wife or talk to your husband, and get
		
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			the kids involved. Like, this is the situation,
		
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			what should we do? You know, listen to
		
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			them. Maybe they have the right nazeeha. We
		
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			know from the Hadith that the Prophet
		
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			made sure with Usayn ibn al Zayed when
		
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			he was 11 or 12 years old. He
		
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			spoke to him, what should we do? And
		
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			he gave nasiha to the prophet
		
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			He should give them responsibilities
		
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			in the house.
		
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			Make sure that, you know, they feel that
		
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			they belong, they have a role to play,
		
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			they have something to contribute.
		
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			Ah, he's still young, they can't do anything,
		
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			you know, they are 45, ah, they are
		
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			still young. I understand, our kids,
		
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			like, when you go back home after 7
		
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			years or something, you see the kids they
		
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			are grown up, Mashallah, they grow fast. But
		
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			because your kids, they live with you, they
		
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			grow slowly everyday, you don't see this growth.
		
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			And for you, till you die,
		
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			your kids gray hair, fallen teeth, they walk
		
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			with a kid, My kid is a baby.
		
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			No! That's because you don't see the growth.
		
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			Because it happens every day slowly, you don't
		
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			see this growth.
		
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			So basically, we need to train our kids,
		
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			they're responsible. We need to give them duties
		
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			in the house, and we need to make
		
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			them feel responsible. I remember, this is a
		
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			true story that happened in the GTA
		
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			many years back. So this brother said
		
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			that my son went to college,
		
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			and I brought him a nice car.
		
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			10,000, 15,000 back then, many years ago.
		
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			Nice car, expensive car.
		
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			And he said, after a week my son
		
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			just crashed the car.
		
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			I said, No problem.
		
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			No problem.
		
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			We must only he bought him another one.
		
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			So he said, after 2 months, my son
		
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			cracked it. He totaled it again.
		
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			So he went to the Sheikh, and he
		
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			said, my son is like a zombie.
		
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			He's like destroying everything. What should I do?
		
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			And the chef said because he doesn't he's
		
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			not responsible. He like, you did everything for
		
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			him.
		
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			He knows that you are providing for him.
		
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			You are buying him a car, you would
		
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			buy him an apartment, he doesn't have to
		
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			work because he will be paying for everything.
		
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			Why should he go to school? Why should
		
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			he graduate college? Why should he appreciate everything?
		
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			Because, you know, he everything is easy for
		
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			him. You know, you should teach him.
		
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			So why should I send him to Walmart?
		
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			To to work then, minimum wage was 6,
		
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			$7 at the time, and from that money,
		
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			he can buy his own car.
		
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			He said, Wallahi, my son started to work
		
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			there, he started to save money, and after
		
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			a year, he bought his own car, like,
		
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			from the 19 eighties or seventies. Old car.
		
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			But he said when I woke up every
		
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			morning, he was washing his car, he's polishing
		
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			it, oh oh, there's a mosquito right there.
		
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			He took care of the car because he
		
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			worked hard for this money.
		
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			It didn't come easy, so he took care
		
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			of it. And he became responsible.
		
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			So make sure, inshallah, your kids, in the
		
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			summer, they work with you, send them to
		
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			work somewhere with reliable people,
		
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			sell lemonades outside.
		
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			You know, teach them to make money, to
		
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			work hard for the money. And, oh Allah,
		
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			this is the way to appreciate
		
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			what they are getting from you. But if
		
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			everything is easy, then khalas, they will not
		
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			appreciate the nema that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			has given them.
		
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			The last point for,
		
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			today,
		
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			is discovering,
		
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			the gift, the talents that our kids have.
		
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			Our kids are gifted. Every single one of
		
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			them.
		
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			Boys and girls,
		
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			abled and disabled, people with abilities or disabilities,
		
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			mentally challenged, physically challenged, everyone is gifted in
		
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			a certain way.
		
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			Your job is to look for this gift.
		
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			Right? Your job is to look for the
		
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			gift.
		
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			So some of you will complain, Oh, my
		
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			kids are like zombies in the house, they're
		
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			ruining my life.
		
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			So for example, my son or daughter, they
		
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			draw on the walls,
		
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			and the first thing that comes to your
		
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			mind, you freak out,
		
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			the landlord is gonna kick me out. No.
		
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			You have a gifted kid right there. You
		
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			have an artist in their house. Buy them
		
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			sketchbooks,
		
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			and give them, you know, buy them the
		
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			pens and the colors and stuff, and give
		
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			them to draw. Tisha, draw mashallah, you can
		
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			draw, but this is not the right place.
		
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			You don't draw on the wall or the
		
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			floor, but, you know, draw on these kitchens
		
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			and make something nice. Draw flowers,
		
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			whatever, you know. So you direct,
		
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			and you develop this talent they have.
		
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			So they keep jumping from a couch to
		
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			another, so you have an athlete, right there.
		
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			Your son, your daughter, they talk too much.
		
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			You have a politician right there. Right? So
		
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			you develop, you develop this, this talent. My
		
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			son and my daughter, they talk all the
		
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			time.
		
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			So you have a comedian right there.
		
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			My son, my daughter, they are glued to
		
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			their iPad or their computer. You got a
		
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			computer geek right there.
		
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			And I always advise the parents, 1 hour
		
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			computers every day is enough, not more than
		
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			1 hour.
		
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			And I know the young ones right here,
		
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			you are saying, you are ruining my life
		
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			right now. No. Because you are young, this
		
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			is the time to learn, explore.
		
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			There has to be time to play, pray,
		
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			eat, enjoy life with your family, and so
		
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			on and so forth. 1 hour
		
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			computer, electronics is good enough every day.
		
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			So if your son is attached to their
		
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			iPad or computer,
		
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			okay, sorry, Aniluk, but we you can't just
		
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			play every day, you're wasting hours of your
		
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			life. You like this
		
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			game? Can you learn to create 1, a
		
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			Muslim video game?
		
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			Can you learn coding?
		
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			Can you learn typing? Something relevant? Can you
		
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			learn video editing?
		
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			You know, you channel
		
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			their passion and their gift in a way
		
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			that is beneficial to the community, inshallah wah
		
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			ta'ala.
		
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			And if you look at the Quran, the
		
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			the ambiya and the ranches, they look for
		
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			the gifts. And Muhammad
		
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			gave us some most amazing examples.
		
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			So in the story of Musa alaihis salam,
		
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			he found the gift in his brother, Harun.
		
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			And he said to Allah, when Allah told
		
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			Musa alaihis salam, your prophet,
		
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			go, teach. And he said, wait a minute.
		
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			My brother, Harun, is gifted.
		
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			My brother Harun has this gift of eloquence,
		
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			he can talk.
		
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			So send him as a problem with me.
		
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			So Allah
		
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			said, okay, take him with you, he's a
		
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			Prophet now.
		
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			In the story of Yusuf alaihis salam, the
		
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			King of Egypt
		
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			saw the gift and Yusuf alaihis salam,
		
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			I want to employ him in my special,
		
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			service,
		
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			because
		
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			so Yusuf alaihis salam was qualified, knowledgeable, qualified.
		
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			So the king said, okay, you're gifted, you're
		
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			talented, now save the country. Become the minister
		
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			of the treasury, and so on and so
		
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			forth.
		
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			And if you read the Islamic history, you
		
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			see the example of Imam Shafi'i, how his
		
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			mother
		
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			found the gift in him, the intelligence. Imam
		
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			Abu Hanifa, how his mother saw the gift
		
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			in him.
		
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			Muhammad al Fat, how his parents saw the
		
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			leadership gift in him. And this is the
		
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			the way they, you know, they made,
		
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			sure that he got the training to utilize
		
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			this gift the Allah
		
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			gave him, and the prophet
		
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			did the same thing with the za'aba.
		
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			Khalib Nwaliif, you have the leadership skills, you
		
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			become the leader.
		
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			Halib Nabi Talib, you are brave. You have
		
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			the bravery. This is how you serve the
		
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			community.
		
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			You have the voice.
		
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			Abu Bakr, you have the sincerity. You have
		
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			the wisdom. Abu Bakr, you Omar, you have
		
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			the wisdom and the talent. Uthman, you have
		
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			the money. So everyone was serving the community
		
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			the way they were able to serve, in
		
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			their own talent.
		
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			But now imagine if Khaled
		
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			came and the prophet
		
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			said, Masha Allah, you have this military leadership
		
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			skills.
		
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			Sit
		
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			here, memorize Quran, hadith,
		
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			no leadership.
		
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			Abu Huraira, Masha Allah, you can memorize hadith.
		
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			5,700
		
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			hadith you memorize in 3 years. Now leave
		
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			this alone, you become the leader, of the
		
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			army, go fight.
		
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			No. The prophet
		
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			used the gift. He didn't force to do
		
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			things they couldn't do. They have to have
		
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			the ability and the desire.
		
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			And guess what? Some of us we do
		
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			the same thing.
		
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			So basically, we come from Egypt, we come
		
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			from Pakistan, other countries,
		
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			and your son has either to become a
		
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			doctor or engineer, or you're not my son.
		
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			Seriously, I've seen cases.
		
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			Like, the father would tell the son, if
		
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			you don't become an engineer like my cousin,
		
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			you will get 0 inheritance from me. When
		
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			I die, don't come to my janaza.
		
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			And the wife will say, don't listen to
		
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			your dad. If you don't become a doctor
		
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			like my uncle, you're not my son.
		
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			DNA gun. You're not my son. Right?
		
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			No. If they want to do something, they
		
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			want to be a TV host,
		
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			they want to be a Muslim comedian, they
		
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			want to become a teacher, they want to
		
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			become an inventor,
		
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			They want to become the next prime minister.
		
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			Why not?
		
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			Why not? If you have the ability and
		
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			the desire, and they want to do something
		
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			halal,
		
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			not haram, I want to become a black
		
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			magician.
		
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			No. If you want to do something haram
		
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			with a good intention, we should support them,
		
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			and Allah will be creative. If you force
		
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			them to become what you want,
		
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			not what they want, they will not succeed.
		
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			And, InshaAllah, in the second football, I'm gonna
		
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			give you one of the most
		
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			As he said, every one of us, including
		
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			kids,
		
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			they are gifted in a way or another.
		
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			So our job is to look for the
		
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			gift, find it, extract it, just like we
		
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			extract gold from the ground,
		
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			and develop it, and help your kids improve.
		
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			And in many cases, when the gift is
		
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			not discovered,
		
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			then the gift is lost.
		
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			Right? The gift is lost.
		
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			And the point about Muhammad SAW, he had
		
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			this gift of finding talents in the community
		
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			and using them for the service of the
		
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			community.
		
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			So one of the most amazing hadith that
		
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			I came across of finding gifts and talents
		
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			in the community,
		
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			and they had the the story is narrated
		
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			by the person himself in the hadith, in
		
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			al Nasai, Abidawood,
		
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			and also a Sahih Muslim, so it's an
		
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			authentic hadith. It has been authenticated.
		
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			So basically, Abu Mahdura
		
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			Abu Mahdura was a young man,
		
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			and basically in this hadith, he said, when
		
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			the prophet
		
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			was coming from Hunayn,
		
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			and he was camping outside Mecca, Abu Mahdura
		
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			was not Muslim. He was a young man,
		
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			not Muslim. So when he heard about the
		
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			camp of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
		
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			he took 9 of his friends, and they
		
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			went to the camp to watch them from
		
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			outside.
		
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			So he said Bilal was making a van,
		
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			and we were making fun of Bilal.
		
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			Ashar alu allah. And he was saying, oh,
		
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			no, no, no, no, to make fun of
		
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			the ad ban. That's what it says in
		
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			this authentic hadith, nasi, the word, sign Muslim.
		
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			So he said, we were making fun of
		
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			Bilal, all of us, the 10 of us.
		
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			The voice of Abu Mahdura in this in
		
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			these 10 peep 10 young people.
		
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			He brought them there. And Abu Mahdura said,
		
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			my knees were knocking together. I'm a dead
		
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			man. I'm making fun of Muhammad sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wa sallam and Bilal and the Sahaba. They
		
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			brought me there, and the prophet sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wa sallam said to each one of them,
		
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			make adan.
		
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			So they went on, 1 by 1, they
		
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			made adan.
		
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			And eventually, Abu Ma'adura was the last one.
		
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			He made the adan amazing voice.
		
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			Maybe he missed a few words in the
		
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			adan. He didn't know it properly, but his
		
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			voice was amazing.
		
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			So the prophet
		
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			said, take off your turban. He took off
		
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			his turban and the prophet
		
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			put his hand on his head and he
		
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			made dua for him. Allahu lalaba'ariqlahu
		
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			wahdiheelib Islam. You Allah bless him and guide
		
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			him to Islam. So he took shahar.
		
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			And Nabi salalahu alaihi wa sallam said to
		
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			him, now you are the Imam of Makkah.
		
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			Go to the haram.
		
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			You are the official imam now. And he
		
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			said, but I don't know the imam properly.
		
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			Teach me. And the prophet
		
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			said, okay. This is the adhan. He taught
		
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			him how to say adhan, and this is
		
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			what you say for Fajr salatul Khairul minun
		
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			now. And he taught him the iqamah the
		
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			Hanafi way. The way the Ahna do their
		
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			Yakama,
		
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			4 times and 2 times. This we get
		
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			from a hadith of, Sahih Muslim from Abu
		
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			Mahdura.
		
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			And Abu Mahdura said, because the prophet
		
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			put his hand on his head, on his
		
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			hair and made the offering three times, he
		
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			says, wallahi,
		
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			I will never shave the hair that has
		
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			been touched by Muhammad
		
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			So they say in the narrations,
		
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			Sir Alam bin Nubalaal al Nizawi, that he
		
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			left his hair, he never shaved his hair
		
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			after. From the young age till he died.
		
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			He said the his hair grew all the
		
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			way to his knee. He never shaved it.
		
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			He used to tie it and, you know,
		
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			braids braids, whatever.
		
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			He said, I I will never shave it
		
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			Out of love for Muhammad
		
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			he became the Muadhan of the Haram. His
		
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			son became the Muadhan, his grandchildren became the
		
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			Muadhan of the Haram all the way to
		
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			the time of Imam al Shafi'i because of
		
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			the barakah of the dua of Muhammad
		
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			So now imagine
		
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			if Muhammad the most important man on earth,
		
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			and these little kids, these young men are
		
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			making fun of him, and he's Mu'azim, and
		
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			he will say, kill them.
		
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			Khalaas. Bye bye.
		
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			No. He found the gift. They are young,
		
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			they are ignorant, they don't know nothing.
		
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			Yeah. So we forgive him and we teach
		
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			him to listen, and we use their gift
		
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			for something beneficial to the community. So we
		
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			need to look for the gifts in our
		
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			kids
		
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			and use it in a way that is
		
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			beneficial to the community. To
		
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			give us the best in this life and
		
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			the best in the long to come. You
		
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			have sincerity in everything we'll say and do.
		
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			Forgive our sins. Accept our good deeds according
		
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			to the best of our ability.