Musleh Khan – Too much invested, so I can’t break up because…

			So I'm already Kumara to Lahore Baraka, two brothers and sisters, my engagement is messed up. Here's
part two, you've invested so much time, so much money, so much efforts. The wedding has been planned
the nikka has said all the invitations have been sent out. But there's only one problem. One of you
or both of you are not happy. The relationship just doesn't feel right. But because all of the plans
have been put in place, the families are happy, everything is set, the wedding dresses bought, he's
bought his tuxedo or whatever it is that he's going to wear. You realize that there's so much
pressure, there's so many pieces that are put together that you can break up at this point. Even
		

			though you don't get along, you disagree all the time, things don't feel right. There's no molad
dead, there's no rush. There's no love and mercy in that relationship. You decide to go through with
it anyway. Because it becomes something symbolic. It becomes something that look, what are people
going to say? What are people going to talk about? Even the parents, they put this pressure on you
that? What are people going to think about that you guys are breaking up one month before the
wedding day, just because you guys can't get along? Don't worry insha Allah when the wedding
happens, things will work its way out. Now this again, is a very, very difficult position to be in.
		

			And quite frankly, it's very immature for you to think this way. Because at the end of the day,
Allah subhanho wa Taala told us that the two main ingredients for a relationship to work is Allah
puts mocha and Rama and he tells you why the test school la ha, so that you can both find Sakina and
tranquil tranquility, especially within her, you need to find this in that relationship or it's just
simply not going to work. These are not things that just suddenly sprout out of nowhere once the
marriage happens. And we've seen so many marriages fall apart, because they began in this particular
way, just pressure from every corner to get married. So they do they do get married. And there is
		

			problems and turmoil right from day one. And they have to live with this. And then things get more
complicated because children start to fall in fall into the picture, and it becomes even more of a
mess. My brothers and sisters and especially those of you who are engaged, pay attention to the
signs, pay attention to all of the disagreements that you have. How many times you guys disagree how
many times you guys are arguing how many times you guys get into these different arguments and
fights and can't seem to resolve them. And all those people that want you to stay together except
the both of you. These are important because Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us a mentality to
		

			consider and to think about sometimes in life, there are things that might appear pleasing to you,
but Allah azza wa jal has put great evil in them. I said unto him, bolshaya Well, who was shalom?
Allah azza wa jal says, then there are also things that you might love and Allah has put evil in
them or the opposite or the contrary is also also true, that there are things that you might hate,
but Allah has as silverdale has put great in them, while La Jolla RLM one and two, let alone Allah
subhanho wa Taala has complete knowledge of everything and you don't at the end of the day, what
this teaches you is that at the end of the day, you need to have something tangible to work with,
		

			you need to have signs that things are going okay insha, Allah hotelera Allah so that that way you
can see potential in the marriage in sha Allah hotelera so again, brothers and sisters, food for
thought, something to think about, really assess the your relationship, don't get caught up in all
of the fantasy, all of the love and the emotion and really stick to this as maturely as you can and
really pay attention to one another. Pay attention to each other's personalities. Pay attention to
even the tone of voice how things are being addressed. When you get upset when there's an argument
how you address each other, what kind of tone and language you use, you use with one another. These
		

			are the things that are going to paint the picture that when the real problems happen in the
marriage, how they're going to be dealt with. So May Allah subhanho wa Taala put Baraka in your
relationship and May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for all of you was set up monokuma
Rahmatullahi wa barakato