Musleh Khan – Why Cant We Be Friends

Musleh Khan

This talk/lecture was given at the One Ummah Conference 2016 (The Contemporary Muslim)

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The speakers discuss the "unsure" concept of identity and how it leads to unity. They also talk about the "immigrant culture" of Muslims where individuals try to avoid negative behavior and focus on "our". The importance of avoiding "istic" and avoiding being too critical of others' actions is emphasized. The segment also touches on the struggles of victims of the Middle East conflict and the importance of waking up others to avoid similar struggles.

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			And therefore reminding us that
		
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			a super ordinate goal, a goal that we all can agree on, is what leads to the outcome of unity. We
can't just say, We're gonna do a unity talk. It's all about action. Thank you for reminding us. You
see, they recently came up with this concept called with the North. Anybody heard of it? Show of
hands. You're all basketball fans, right? But it didn't start off as a basketball thing. It started
off as a unity project to unite people in Canada on something specific we the North. Now if we want
to think about a united Canada, we have to we must take what the shift spoke about into the
sincerest of considerations. If it's going to be a united Canada, what do we need to be doing?
		
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			Because there's a difference between being marginalized and being isolated. If you don't want to
have anything to do with your own people, and nothing to do with society? That's marginalization.
But integration is, as he said, maintaining your identity fully,
		
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			and participating in society. So thank you, Chef. The chef will be out in the back for speaker's
corner. If you have any questions, he'll be there for about 20 minutes inshallah. Now,
		
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			our next speaker,
		
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			we know very well, we've seen him in Calgary multiple times. He's the type of Imam that parents say
you should be more like him.
		
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			And he's the type of Imam that you say to their parents, you should listen to him.
		
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			He's a bridge between the two. And not because of Masha Allah has extensive knowledge, but it's his
experience. He has over 10 years of process to lead to this outcome.
		
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			He
		
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			is more than credible when it comes to the Quran and the Hadith.
		
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			After studying, he came back to Canada, after studying into Medina, he came back to Canada to start
what I believe is a lifelong trajectory of answering the difficult questions. My son the other day
asks me how old is Allah?
		
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			Now what do I do? I put on my most intellectual mindset. And I said, You know what?
		
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			Allah doesn't have an age.
		
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			So he says to me, so he's zero.
		
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			Now, how am I supposed to define infinity? No beginning no end to a five year old, cognitively,
psychologically, cannot process abstract things. Much like so many of us who received those
questions from community members, from leaders, from friends from colleagues from children
themselves, and we cannot answer it. Thank God for asked Muslim
		
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			because any question you have can be forwarded to him through his video series. So he's a martial
and hamdulillah valuable resource. Now.
		
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			If you're wondering how to answer any question, a child asks that you get frustrated and flustered
with simple four words that any counselor will tell you is perhaps the most powerful four words when
he says how old is Allah?
		
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			Now, some of us would say, well, you should tell him in a wonderful robot, but he doesn't understand
a word and he doesn't understand first and last
		
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			doesn't understand no age. So I said these four powerful words that I hope you can take away with
you they are, what do you think?
		
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			So I get to understand his thought process shift. Muslim, Han,
		
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			youngest one of the youngest imams in Canada,
		
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			perhaps. And again, I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable or anything or pressure but the
pressure is on because I do believe even the elderly imams are looking to him for answers. Our youth
are looking to him for answers. Please welcome with sincere our share, Muslim Han.
		
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			Solo model equal model. Allahu wa barakatuh.
		
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			Shallow sounds like all of you are hungrier than me.
		
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			So I'm Wiley Kumara, to Lahore barakatuh.
		
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			Allah.
		
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			I'm going to begin with a very short recitation in shalom Tara
		
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			Are you being like hey Nina Shame on you Raji me this mean like, Man, you're wrong he
		
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			well my lawn You moron. Jane here
		
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			Tony yopu Lumia Leighton tomorrow soon is me.
		
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			Danny lamb,
		
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			Folan and Holly
		
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			Lowe couldn't have been any I think any Baron is
		
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			any what can shame on owning in sunny halls.
		
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			walk or run soon we'll be in pomi
		
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			in Kung
		
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			Fu,
		
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			Judo
		
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			hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen
		
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			wa Salatu was salam wa ala to manually acmella Ania Hydra hulten la he was early he was Herbie he
urged Marian Allahumma eliminare be million foreigner one foreigner Bhima alum Tina was in our in
mania Kareem or beshara. His surgery was silly. Emery was the Tommy Lee Cerny of Cabo Kohli, some
buried my brothers and sisters. So I have just recited selected verses from suitable for upon and my
title for you, I believe it's called why we can't be friends.
		
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			And this title is extremely important not just for the young people, for anybody, especially if you
call yourself a believer, from a spiritual aspect, it is just as important and as any other
practical or logical aspect. But what I'm going to do is I want to address with you some of the
spiritual bankruptcies when we're choosing friends. So there are going to be two areas that I would
look at in sha Allah. Number one is the whole concept of gender interaction. So can guys be friends
with girls vice versa. And then the second aspect of the topic really is the kinds of friends that
we choose. So we see or want to see good in them. But the reality is, they can disrupt your entire
		
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			life as the messenger RNA is Salatu was Salam once told us that you are upon the dean upon the path
of your friends, my mother always used to tell me the same thing. Show me your friends, and I'll
tell you who you are. And this is actually one of the ways that I learned to, to choose proper
friends. I actually learned that discipline from my mother. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to
begin by talking to you a little bit about how Muslims approached the religion of Islam.
		
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			Usually when it comes to us, wanting to practice our Deen many Muslims fall into under two major
categories in terms of their approach to the religion. You have what I call the first category which
are the conservative Muslims. These are the Muslims that are in Islam for all the acts of worship,
they pray, they fast they go and make Hajj they're always in the masjid, they grow their beards.
They were there hijabs, they are in Islam, and they're in it to stay. There's just one problem with
that. Look at some of their friends. Some of their friends are terrible. Look at the way they treat
their families. The guy can't give his wife, her mom a hug, and he's been married to her for 25
		
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			years. There's all these bankruptcies in their lifestyle, aside from the spiritual aspect, so they
are amazing Muslims, but they're struggling to be good people. They're not patient, they lose their
anger. You can trust them, you can do business with them. So that's the first category. Then you
have the second category of Muslims. When I say this, I say this again, it's a generalization. Not
every single Muslim is like this, which is what I call the ultra liberal Muslims. These are the
Muslims that Masha Allah they are amazing people. You can trust them. You can handle
		
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			them the keys to your house, you can give them everything in this world and know that they will
carry it or return it back to you just the way they've received it. The only problem is is they say
to themselves, well, I'm a good person. So why do I need to pray five times a day? Why do I need to
practice all of these things? Why do I have to fast? It's summertime? Why am I gonna do all of that
I'm a good person. So they are amazing people struggling to be good Muslims. Now, having said that,
always remember that our religion causes the individual or cause an individual to be both of these
things. You can't be one without the other. You need both to be a complete Muslim. Where am I
		
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			getting this from? Do you remember who the messenger alayhi salatu was Salam was, before he was a
prophet.
		
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			Do you remember and read all the stories of what kind of individual he was when he interacted with
people, you could do business with him, you could trust him. I mean, subpanel law, one of the most
famous titles given to him before Prophethood was the trustworthy one, I mean, he was also called a
solid. And I'm kind of proud that he was also called a Muslim. So he had all of these wonderful
titles attached to him, before he started that deep spiritual journey of becoming a prophet. This is
when Allah subhanho wa Taala completed him as a human being. And so the first lesson for all of us,
when you're going to approach this topic, or this practice in life called friendship, then you first
		
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			need to know and need to understand where you stand as a Muslim. Because when you know that, then
you know what you're going to look for and want to achieve out of that friendship, you're not just
going to be an individual, that anybody who gives you a little bit of attention, you're like, Oh, my
God, I can I be your friend, you're not going to do those things.
		
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			You're always going to be critical of yourself, because you want to surround yourself with people
who are better than you better than you, in what sense intellectually, socially, whatever the case
is, somehow there are a couple extra pluses on their side. And that's beneficial to you. And then as
the friendship progresses, then they realize that, Mashallah you also have some qualities that I
want to work on as well. So you begin to inspire each other, one of the first and most critical ways
that you will learn and know you have a good friend, is that both of you can inspire each other to
feel good about yourselves, you inspire one another that regardless of what your state is, you can
		
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			still be better. So you don't point fingers and call each other idiots all day and point out each
other's mistake. But even if the other person is lagging in something they should be strong in. The
other friend is always there and say, Bro, I know you're not like them. And Come on, is that how you
talk to your parents? I never heard you talk to them that way. And you're always looking out for one
another. Now, having said that, our topic is why we can't be friends. So let's start with the first
troublesome point of this topic, which is friendship between guys and girls, men and women.
		
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			I don't know how else to say it, but it's just simply not going to happen.
		
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			Okay, that's enough for me to finish with this point and move on. But I'm supposed to elaborate
further.
		
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			There are literally dozens and dozens of experiments and articles written on this topic. I mean, you
can Google it, you can YouTube it. So many that psychologists and therapists have discussed of
whether or not opposite genders can actually remain as friends. They can actually remain acquainted
with one another. And I'm sure a lot of you here, you've seen some of these videos of guys going on
college campuses and doing social experiments, asking people and students, if you have a guy, friend
or a girlfriend, can you remain best friends with them? And I think like 90% of them said, No, I
can't actually, whenever I'm with my best friend who's a girl. I always think of her as more than
		
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			that, but I'm never going to tell her that.
		
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			And you see this is the problem. Because one of the issues that come about of this opposite gender
friendship, is that you put your E men at risk. And the problem with that is Allah subhanho wa Taala
told us what as an A A that is absolutely one of the most powerful verses in the whole quarter end
		
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			was Takara buzina. Inna who can afer hisher tomasa Sabina
		
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			This is an area that's usually quoted for extreme cases. But what this a is telling you an AI is
Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Don't get close to Xena. He didn't say what ASEAN. He says don't get
close to it, which means that there are surrounding factors that lead somebody to commit the
spiritual crime of Xena. And then Allah azza wa jal doesn't have to, because if he says couldn't
say, a coup that's sufficient for us, but Allah azza wa jal now tells us why you shouldn't get close
to Xena
		
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			in Canada, was set as sebelah two things you always have to remember. Number one, that path that
you're about to take that's reminding you and causing your brain and your imagination to be
stimulated in the hot arm way. All of us know what we're taught what i'm talking but I don't want to
elaborate that any further. Allah azza wa jal says, this path that you're taking, what it's going to
do is number one, it's going to cause you to become fat fish and fat is generally a term used to
describe shame. You're going to develop this level of shame amongst people, that this is where the
attitude begins, where people start judging each other, by the way they look by how big their noses
		
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			how kind of lips they have, and they start losing this content that Allah had blessed them with the
lust because of the choice of friends and company they surrounded themselves with. And then Allah
azza wa jal continues and says, Well, if that's not the case, if you don't develop shamelessness in
that friendship, okay, fine, because a lot of people would argue that for the most I'm just
acquainted with her. She's just my colleague, she's just my classmate like, what's the big deal?
Okay, fine. What's a sebelah? Set? From the word say it, it's an ugly path, don't take it. Now,
having said that, I know including myself, everyone, most of us sitting in this audience, we have
		
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			acquaintances or friendships with the opposite gender. So what is brother Muslim telling you to do
right now? Now, here are some guidelines in sha Allah huhtala that you can use. Understand. Number
one, nowhere in the Shetty era, are you prohibited to talk to the opposite gender. This is the
general principle. Any students of knowledge knows this, how you engage and how you talk to the
opposite gender is where the problems begin. It can either run smoothly for you or it's going to be
a disaster, but that interaction with the opposite gender is never cut off or prohibited in and of
itself. Having said that, all of that comes from one verse or actually two verses and Sudeten nor
		
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			Allah azza wa jal says in verse number 30, and 31 just the introduction, I'm going to give you a lot
so a Genesis poorly meaning your whole domain absorbing him why follow Fujifilm, that's verse number
30, verse number 31 starts off the exact same way except it's addressing the females will call the
minute you're done. I mean, I'm sorry hin or foreigner Farrugia one for you. Both of these is or a
attain are calling to the to the following number one, they are calling to believers, the A doesn't
say poorly muslimeen. It says meaning, say to believing men say to believing women, it doesn't say
say to Muslim men and Muslim women. So the first lesson that you can test your acquaintance or your
		
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			relationship with the opposite gender is
		
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			where's your amen? in that relationship? Do you find that your mn is unstable in the sense that when
you're not with that person, you can focus you can do all the right things. You're disciplined in
your deen. But as soon as that person comes into your life, whether they come via WhatsApp via
Facebook, or they're actually standing in front of you, do you forget your priorities and your
discipline in front of Allah? So instead of the conversation starting off Salaam wa Alaykum Do you
have the assignment ready or are you going to be at work can you take over for me instead of the
conversation remaining upon subject something that is permissible it starts going like this Sally
		
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			come Oh my god I saw the bio your today Allahu Akbar.
		
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			Then he's saying the same thing our she's saying the same thing. The way you recited core and today
Oh my god.
		
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			If
		
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			It starts going in that direction, you have a problem not with her. You have a problem not with him,
you have a problem with your Amen.
		
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			This is why you will find yourself. Parents Here you will find yourself when you try to have these
conversations with your children. You tell them about, you know, it's you, I don't want you to have
a girlfriend or a boyfriend and not even a friendship in that manner. I want you to be careful. And
you give them all the yet and Heidi's you can imagine. And when they're done, they go and they pick
up their phone and they call their girlfriend and be like, you're the only one that gets me. My dad
always lectures me.
		
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			My mom, same thing, but you you never do that.
		
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			This is a problem with your child's Amen.
		
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			There's a bankruptcy there's a cut of there's a problem with their connection, and how they connect
with Allah. They don't understand these rules, these principles they don't understand. They are not
grounded with with why these rules and principles are set in stone for them. So how do you solve
that, you're going to have to go back and start over again. And how you start over use the template
of lokman arley, who seldom use the advice of lokman early he said him to his son. All I'm going to
mention to you is how he began his advice. What's the first thing look man it Salaam said to his
son? He calls his son Yeah, boo nay. So he respects him. So the first thing you have to do is what
		
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			this is the biggest problem that keeps someone like me very busy in my office is so many parents. I
know they have good intentions. I'm not picking on them. I'm one of them as well. So I know you have
good intentions that when you try to address these issues with your children, that sometimes you
might scream and yell or be like, Are you crazy? I never did that. When your your grandparents never
did that where we grew up. We never did that. What's wrong with you? And you put your child down
without knowing the consequence without knowing the consequences of your choice of words, because
remember, you're their hero. At the end of the day, they're supposed to be inspired by the same
		
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			people that's putting them down. It's not gonna work. Look, man, either his son called his son Yeah,
boo, nay. Oh, my beloved son. So you can translate whatever Oh, my beloved child means in your
language. And the first thing that he tells his son is to Shrek bill. Don't you dare commit any
shotoku with Allah? Why does he start off with the this is not just a lesson on our payda sciences
or belief in Allah subhanho wa Taala. It's also a discipline. Look, man, he said I'm is telling his
son, what I'm about to say is all going back to who's in charge.
		
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			It's a laws rules, not mine.
		
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			You know, if we had our way.
		
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			And I'm only speaking like this once upon a time I couldn't. When I became a parent, then I realized
why parents give their child everything.
		
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			And if we had it in our control, whatever your child is happy with, you'd want to give it to him or
her my correct. You remember when, at least for myself back in the early 1800s. When I was a kid, I
remember a lot does that qualify your system?
		
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			anyway.
		
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			So back in the days when I was a kid, the whole world and for all of us as well, back then, the
whole world was all about us. It was all about what we want. When we were teenagers, what made us
happy, we didn't care about no one else. But then when you became a parent, your whole life is all
about your children. You stopped with what you want. Now, you'll do anything to make your children
happy. Sometimes, if you're not under control, what tends to happen is you start to give them more
than what they deserve, or what they need without realizing the consequence. So the first point in
understanding why you can't have this kind of friendship with the opposite gender. If you don't see
		
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			it today, you'll see it later on the consequence of that choice. Because shaitaan is evil.
		
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			And show your time loves that relationship, no matter how dignified or civilized you think it can
be. And so what scholars teach us is when you have relationships or friendships with the opposite
gender, keep it business related, whatever that business is, you have to be extremely cautious
because in our culture in 2016 This concept is one of the most difficult ones for people to swallow
today. It's just like
		
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			Being good to parents, mothers and fathers. You remember back in the days when your dad told you to
do something you just send me or now what altana even if he told you to marry someone, you just
accepted it and did it. But in today, when you tell a child to do something, why
		
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			he never did anything for me. I shouldn't listen to him.
		
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			So what used to be the most straightforward, simplest command is now one of the most difficult ones.
		
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			So this is the same idea. I know that when I'm saying this to you, generally as an audience, for
some of you, it's strange. For some of you, it's almost impossible for some of you might come up to
me and argue with me and see, you know, rather than say, this is Canada. This is the culture we need
to be with each other. I get it. I live here too. I work here too. I go to ski school here as well.
I know it I'm in the same Battlezone as you are, but I'm saying to you is when you can control how
you think and what you look at, then you will control what you do.
		
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			It all starts off with your eyes. If he or she is more than a friend through your eyes, then this is
an indication you need to slow down or you need to stop you need to take a break from that kind of
friendship. It's not going to go away. So I'm not going to give you these unrealistic goals and say
to you, you cannot have friendships with the opposite gender, you cannot interact with the opposite
gender, I'm simply not going to do that. And as a matter of fact, our Shetty our or our religion has
never done the the messenger Allah His Salatu was Salam. He spoke to women. And as a matter of fact,
he addressed them face to face with some of the most intimate issues. They would come up to him and
		
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			ask him yada Sula, how do I pure my purify myself after my menstrual? How do I do that? And they're
looking at him face to face. You know how awkward that can be. And you know what the messenger
alayhi salaatu? Wa Salaam did? He answered her?
		
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			He answered her he gave he didn't say Don't. Don't you have any shame? I'm the Prophet of Allah.
What are you doing? didn't do any of that? He answered her question. So clearly there is interaction
permissible, but there's a limit. Because that same Hadith narrated in Bahati. This woman didn't
understand his answer. So she said yado Sunil Latif, how how do I clean, clean, more purify myself.
So he repeats himself a second time telling her you need to do A, B and C. But she said Yato, sola
Kaif, she asked the third time because she still didn't get it. That's when he said, Go siasia.
		
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			Go ask my wife, she'll explain it to you further, clearly, there was a limit. That's your key to
this kind of friendship. Otherwise, you can't be friends, it's not for you. You're not ready for
that. So that's why having said that point, the verses that I chosen suitable for Pon kind of gives
you a glimpse of the consequence of why people fall into trouble with these kinds of friendship. And
it also introduces the second category, which is why we can't be friends with anybody we want to or
desire to call a friend, you have to look for certain qualities in an individual before they qualify
to be your friend. You can't be friends with just anyone. We know that just by sheer common sense.
		
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			So these verses here, give us a glimpse of how to do that, and the consequences. So now we're going
to go into a journey to the hereafter. And that's where we'll end and shout Allahu taala
		
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			in reality, but also in the lecture as well. Okay?
		
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			A lot. So Joel says, Well, you only are Abdullah Limor, either your day on the Day of Judgment. This
man is gonna come. You know, when you're nervous, or some people in the nervous like, Oh, my God, oh
my God, my interview is gonna come up, oh my god, it's my turn to go speak. And they're nervous, and
they start chewing on their nails. Well, on the day of judgment, this one individual, whoever they
are, is going to actually chew on their knuckles. So this is the most severe of severe. That's the
image Allah puts in front of you to start thinking about and look at how this discussion continues.
So that's the image that I put in front of you. It's pretty scary. So Allah azza wa jal continues.
		
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			Yoku lujah Layton Isla de
		
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			kulu. Yes, yeah. Later neelum attack with morogoro suli sebelah. look at why this individual is
chewing away at their knuckles. He says, yo, Layton? Yeah, Layton. It has tomorrow. rasuluh sebelah.
He says, Oh, how I wish, how I wish and how I desire that I had taken this other individual, Mount
rasuluh
		
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			Sabina who was with the Prophet Sall, Allahu Allah was send them on on his path. In other words, how
I wish I chose good friends, friends that respected me, respected my way of life, respected my
choices as a Muslim, respected who I was how I wish I chose those friends. Because now on this day,
I can see why I needed them. The problem with choosing friends, is people who are careless in that
process, don't think about the consequences of their choices. They don't think, well, five or 10
years, what kind of friend is this going to be for me? How am I going to interact with this
individual, I need to see some potential in my relationship with this individual. Listen to what I'm
		
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			saying. It sounds so foreign, especially in our culture, because we're taught to anybody who gives
you a little bit of tension, just go with the flow. It's all good. But Islam, or at least our
religion taught us No, no, no, you have to be more critical than that. This is why Allah says
philanthropy Don't, don't you think don't you reflect? And he doesn't say that. Just in one
circumstance. He says that as a general rule, the Muslim is an intelligent individual. I bet you if
I put a chair on this stage, and I said to all of you look at the chair, I can guarantee that some
of you in this audience is going to find that very beneficial. You're going to find some fat eater?
		
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			Well, let's see. Let's see, what what do I find out of this chair, some of you will get the best
sleep of your life, I'm sure. But others, you'll find your look and you'll find those benefits. If
you wash your car, you'll find benefited the, if you take calculus or Shakespeare and shot alone,
they will find benefit in that right. So the point is, is that all the things you think might be
useless. A Muslims intellect causes them because they are thinkers, because their brain never
sleeps. They always find good and beneficial things in everything. So the first step or guidelines
that we have to take from verses like this is you have to stop men and look around you and the
		
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			company that you have, what kind of companies then this is for adults as well. Don't think this is a
talk just for the young people. The biggest crime I can commit right now is speaking to you. And the
adults aren't taking this seriously. Don't do that to yourself. As a matter of fact, this topic was
actually inspired to me by adults. They're the ones that came up with this whole concept of Okay,
Who should we choose as friends and why can't we be friends with certain individuals? You think
young people came up with this topic? Young people are trying to avoid this topic. They don't want
to listen to this. They don't want to hear that reality. So that's the first lesson. Now listen to
		
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			what happens. The regret and the remorse is already there. So it's kind of over. But then look what
happens next, Allah azza wa jal continues. Yo whaler, Layton, Isla Duffy, phoolan and Halima. Now
this individual is so disappointing, he starts cursing at himself, Arabs use the term whale and wild
means to really put yourself down and you're shamed. Like how could you allow yourself to do such a
thing? So on that day, the same person because of the choice of friends they had, they say to
themselves, how could I do this? So they're chewing on their knuckles? And at the same time, there's
they're talking to themselves? What kind of life did I have men?
		
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			Every time I was saw that time, my boys used to tell me no, no, no, forget that, bro. Let's just go
just tell your parents who did it. Every time my mom would tell me that I need to put that hijab on.
I did until I got to school.
		
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			until it got to my friend's house. Every time my parents sent me to the masjid for my evening
madrasa.
		
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			Little did they know, I never made it to one session, because I was going somewhere else and doing
my own thing. Ramadan is around the corner. Parents, your responsibility in Ramadan, and the mature
young people here.
		
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			Watch out for your children who are not praying either near you, or literally beside you. If you
can't see them. Then be critical of yourself. Be honest with yourself. Don't say yourself, Well,
he's probably in a corner somewhere being tattooed by himself. Don't do that.
		
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			Because Don't be surprised that they're standing outside with timmies with a bunch of their boys and
then when tarawih is done, they sneak in for Salatu Witter. Don't, don't be surprised so many kids
do that. And if you go to tarawih you'll see you'll see who's hanging outside when taraweeh is
happening. So be very responsible and you young people, this is the problem.
		
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			For you young people sitting in this audience, you got to take this stuff seriously, man, you got to
take this stuff seriously. Because you always an every one of us, the adults understand is what for
the young people, you have to constantly be reminded and that's okay.
		
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			You're going to die.
		
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			And you don't know when and you don't know how Allah azza wa jal says, well, while at mo tuna, Illa
one and two Muslim mon, don't you dare die or leave this world unless you are in the state of
Muslim. You know what that verse is really saying? If you're sitting outside with your boys, and
they're all smoking and drinking or doing whatever and having a good time, or you keep clicking that
mouse and watching the thing you're not supposed to watch, or you keep doing just complete, how long
defined to your parents? That moment? If death comes to you, it's not gonna say, Oh, wait, you're
having an argument with your parents. I'll come back when you're in good mood. Oh, wait, you're
		
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			watching a horror movie. I'll come back when it's poor and time.
		
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			That reality is always watching and if you still aren't convinced, go to a cemetery and look at some
of the dates on some of those graves. They'll they'll say the person was born in 1950 and die 2016
but then decided there's somebody who was born 2015 and die 2016. One year, Allah gave them in this
world. How long do you have? And so these verses here and I conclude in sha Allah who tarla
		
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			the person eventually admits Laughlin although learning on it victory BARDA his journey what Karina
shave pontal in San Jose Lula, they said this friend, all they ever did was misguide me steered me
in the wrong path, made me live a path of shame, made me make all the wrong choices destroyed my
relationship with my wife, with my husband, with my children, with my parents, with my community,
with my Imam with my teachers, all of those people were lost, because I chose these kinds of friends
to be around who just told me, bro, do whatever you want. feels right, just do it. So it's like a
bunch of sprite cans, just rot walking around, you just do whatever feels right. quench your thirst
		
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			the way you want to quench it, just do it. That's the kind of company and so the biggest regret on
that day and this is what I conclude with my brothers and sisters. The messenger Allah, his Salatu
was Salam is going to complain to Allah and say, well called Rasulullah Robbie, he will say, Oh, my
master, in nakoma Tohoku, my people, they took this Porter and has Al Quran, Emma Judah, they took
this photo. And now the word that's used is the head though, which means something right in front of
you. The Quarter end is right here. It's right in this auditorium. But it's coming to you in a
lecture form. It's coming to you through other forms of reminders. The Quran is right in front of
		
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			you. But what happened is some of those individuals they made hegira away from that quarter and they
made it they didn't just turn their back, they actually walked away from it. And then they try to
make a hedge row back to it. When Ramadan came when Friday prayers came when something else came.
And at that point, it was too late. Because Allah subhanho wa Taala, as he told us in like a caddy
home a lot of BK Callaghan from Ola p, you're on a conveyor belt, and you're moving forward, no
matter how you twist and turn your destiny, it still keeps going forward. There's nothing you can
do.
		
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			That's why we can't be friends with just anybody we want. We have an ultimate goal and an ultimate
reality that we're preparing for. I just want to conclude with something aside from my talk and my
topic for you today. And I just want to quickly for the last 30 seconds or so
		
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			address and put my heart out for those victims and those those people those passengers on the Egypt
Air Flight. And this is well lucky one of the most heartbreaking things because I just arrived from
India last night. And I got that news whilst I was sitting in the hotel room in India. Can you
imagine what I was thinking now that I'm going to get on a plane and fly almost 20 hours here? This
is all that's going through my mind. And I started saying farewell I have to do it. Just for my own
sanity. I had to start saying goodbyes to my family and to my children. I asked all of them to pray
for me I started what sapping everybody I knew just make dua for me pray for me that I get there and
		
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			I get there safely. Because it really woke me up as a person who lives on a plane and I travel so
often. I have to be up there and all I can depend on is Meryem sequel 111
		
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			Rockman nothing is holding this thing in the sky except to a Roman, those people on that plane, they
weren't on the wrong flight or on the wrong airline or the wrong place at the wrong time. That was a
lot harder upon them. But it's still so sad.
		
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			And so shocking, that that quickly, they were 45 minutes away from landing at their destination,
that quickly, whatever they said, and whatever they were doing, that was the last thing they could
submit to Allah, and it's time for them to go on trial. And the second and the final thing is you
all know what's happening in Fort Mac. Brothers and sisters, the reason why I'm concluding this way
is life is extremely short.
		
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			And it's too short to be stuck in problems and issues with families and grudges and hating one
another and all of these issues. Because at the end of the day, that same problem in fourth Mac, why
isn't it coming here or coming to Toronto? Why did it happen here, a love sparked a fire in that
part of the world. Why not here is because Allah has mercy and he's saving us for something else,
our time will come, but maybe not through that route. It's going to come somewhere else. So what I
want all of us to take as a lesson why these tragedies are happening is if you're still sleeping,
it's time for you to wake up. If you're still sleeping, start waking up and wake yourself up with
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala his book, and if that is not waking you up, you have the best alarm clock of
the year just around the corner. Take advantage of it and set your life on a proper alarm clock that
is disciplined and obedient to Allah. Life is too short. And we simply don't know when Allah
subhanho wa Taala will take our life and we're finished. So I want to conclude that metalized
switchel reward and bless us for our sacrifice in our effort. May Allah azza wa jal make it easy for
the families of that flight. I don't know what it feels like. I can't even imagine when that plane
is going down on those passengers who were probably drinking water. One of them is sleeping, one of
		
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			them is on their iPad, and everything in a split second turns into a chaos. What was happening in
those last few seconds before that plane went into the sea. What is happening when those people who
built their lives and their homes in that area in Fort Mac, knowing that there was a fire bigger
than mountains coming their way and there was nothing that they could do. They were people just like
you and I and now they have to start all over again. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for
them and ease their pain and their suffering alone. I mean, just come along halen was Salam alaykum
warahmatullahi wabarakatuh