Musleh Khan – Ask Musleh – Stop Leading Them On!

			Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Brothers and sisters, welcome to Ask Muslims. Today
we're talking about stop leading them on what exactly is this about? Basically, you will have a
brother and a sister talking to each other. And one party if you'd like, is saying all the right
things, and giving all the right indications that they're interested in that person but deep down
inside, they're really not that interested or they're not too sure if you are Mr. or Mrs. Right. So
how do you deal with a situation like this number one for the people who do this, any of the
brothers and sisters or Muslims out there, if you're in several relationships, if you'd like or
		

			talking to several people, and you're not too sure which one you're interested in? The first thing
is, you need to fear Allah azza wa jal, because remember that these individuals, they are human
beings, they have feelings, and part of being a Muslim isn't you consider and you think about those
feelings. You put yourself in that person's shoes, and just ask yourself how you would feel if you
were being led on to thinking that something was really there. And before you know it, they stopped
the relationship and everything comes falling down, everything's comes crashing down. And as a
result, it's not very good. It's not part of the etiquettes of the believer. It's not part of the
		

			sea fat of the battle rock man, the characteristics of a true slave of Allah azza wa jal. Secondly,
this is also a type of dishonesty or level of dishonesty towards you and that person, because you're
not being completely direct with them, you're not telling them to complete truth, you're either
telling them a half truth, or you're not telling them the truth at all. And this is something that's
dynamic. In our religion, at any level, you always try to be, especially towards a potential spouse,
you always try to be honest with everything as much as possible. Just want to conclude with one
point. So we have the foundation there is how do you react to a situation like this? Once you figure
		

			this out? First thing that you do is you confront that person. So if you find out that that
potential is leading you on and they're really not interested, then the first thing is you confront
him? Get your answers, because that's what you deserve. You deserve clarity, you deserve to know
where you stand with that individual. And once that's determined, that will lead you to your second
option, which is, at that point you did you decide whether or not this person is for you, you decide
if you want to continue a relationship with them or not, because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam did tell us that an engagement is something that can be broken at any time. So when you
		

			both are engaged, just realize and understand that that's something that can be stopped by both
parties at any time, they desire. So having said that, brothers and sisters, for everyone out there,
if you're in this kind of relationship with the person who's doing this have Taqwa of Allah azza wa
jal and know that Allah azza wa jal is watching you and listening to you. We're in the whole
mathematical era gamma Illa. Allah has the keys to the unseen and he has that knowledge, the
knowledge of the unseen which no one else has. So many Allah subhana wa tada make this easy for all
of you was set up why they called
		

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