Muhammad West – Youth Khutbah 2

			We live in a sheetala rajim Bismillah R Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam
ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala early he was such a big man. I beloved brothers and sisters in Islam
assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh or praise me Unto Allah subhana wa Tada and a shadow
Allah Allah Allah Allah would be witnessed that none has the right to be worshipped besides Allah
subhanaw taala and we send our love greetings and salutations so beloved Nabina Muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam to his pious and pure family to his companions and the Ummah, those who follow his
sunnah until the end of time. May Allah bless us to be steadfast and the Sunnah of Nabina Muhammad
		

			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam May Allah grant us to be in his sunnah and this dunya and in his
companionship in the life after death, I mean, we continue our series on on our youth and
Subhanallah the prophets of Allah made a special emphasis on looking at his community and focusing
on different demographics in in the in the OMA. So there's not one message for everyone. There's a
message for the aunties and uncles there's a message for the children. There's a message for the
youth and a big segment of the very important segments in the community that we depend on as an
ummah, our young people, and not only that Avital Salem but even the Quran and we find Allah
		

			subhanaw taala himself, he honors young people. When young people do good, it is more beloved in the
sight of Allah than an old person. So we know if a young man 18 Young woman 18 And they're on the
deen we see a young man in the masjid five times a day and he's 18 years old, so much more, so much
better than an 80 year old man that's in the masjid five times a day. This is just how it is. This
is why Allah subhanaw taala gives young people who are conscious of Allah in the youth, especially
would especial honor mention than those who are older. And the baraka that comes from young people
when they do good, is so much more. And if you look throughout the history of the about Diem, the
		

			Ambia many of them were youngsters, the Sahaba many of the Sahaba were younger than the prophets of
salaam Genovesa. Lamb was the most senior in terms of age amongst all the Sahaba is very seldom you
find a companion that was older than an epistle salaam, everyone you mentioned any companions name,
and you'd find that they were younger junior to the NABI SallAllahu sallam. And this is where there
is the strength and the honor in Islam, that change when you look at the Ummah, the problems that we
have in the Ummah, a big, big part of the solution is to activate our youth, our youth needs to our
young people need to become active, the talents, the skills, the energy needs to be brought forward.
		

			While we said that when we look last week, we said South Africa has a major youth crisis. So as
Muslims, we have a crisis in the ummah. And in South Africa, it's even more acute, that our youth
seem to be unfortunately statistically doing worse than the rest of the world, unemployed,
unskilled, no direction, our young people, many of them in this country are actually a problem to
our society. And why Why should South Africa, why should we have this crisis? What is the root cause
through this crisis? And one of the reasons behind it, if not, the main reason is because it lies
with parenting. The problem lies with the parents or the lack, they have good parents. I showed you
		

			that statistic, very scary statistic, where we said only about 30 foot between 30 and 40% of the
kids in this country know what it's like to have two parents in the house. The majority, the
majority of the kids in this country grow up either with one or no parents. They're raised by
grandparents. They're raised by step fathers are stepmothers, I come from a broken home. And
naturally, this is going to cause long term damage to these children. And when they grow up societal
problems. That's why our society is a bit abnormal. So a lot of good beautiful things in this
country. But there's a lot of shocking things, the level of violent crime, the level of crime
		

			against children and women. These things are unique to South Africa, South Africa stands out. Only
countries that are in the midst of a civil war usually have the kind of horrifying statistics that
we have. So how do we fix it? And as I mentioned, the GEMA Yeah, most of you on Hamdulillah. Our
parents, most of you here are very few youngsters are from Ghana. We see a few young faces today,
but most of you are dads. So what can we do as fathers and a few mothers? Yeah, of course. What can
we do to fix this because our deen is not just about the Masjid. Our deen is not just about our
worship to Allah subhanaw taala as you know, Monet, as you know when he was here, he mentioned that
		

			one of the things that will be specifically asked and particularly the Father's will be about how we
raised our family. But even if you will hamdulillah so you sought your own yourself. You make your
Salah you fostered you gave all the hack Allah deserves in your personal capacity, you earn Halal
money, but you and I we failed as parents
		

			as husbands as fathers, then that's going to be a problem for us on the Day of Qiyamah. One of the
reasons you find in Surah Abba, where Allah says Yo my a federal mother will mean he will only he
will be able to have any the Allah says in that day you will find the father running away from his
children. Why? Because the children will be the ones that will be the reason why interest Janna use
a good man, but it was a bad father. And so then that is the one that is going to be the
complication on the day of Kiama. So this is one of those areas which we have to we have to get
right. And from study after study. It mentions that good parenting in the formative years, if we
		

			can, you know, apply ourselves and be good dads and moms, when our kids are still young before they
become McCullough really, we can inculcate in them good lessons that the rest of their life will
bring about success or bring about success. And Allah subhana wa Tada blesses the children through
the parents, if parents are good, ALLAH SubhanA wa, tada will grant them success in the dunya. And
in the Ophira. in ways they cannot experience this past weekend, lot of conversations about people
		

			talking, you know, they listen to the lecture, and they will say, you know, it struck a chord
because I have I had wherever father, or grandfather or someone who had passed away, and you're only
appreciate a good parent, when you become a parent, you realize how difficult it is, or when your
parents are no longer the to ask them for assistance to ask them for guidance. Only then you
realize, you know, what a big impact your father, your mother, your grandfather, your grandparents
had in your life, how the lessons they taught you it wasn't about the material things they gave you.
But it was the guidance that didn't make sense at that time. It didn't make sense to you. But for
		

			the rest of your life, you actually benefit from that, or how Subhanallah people tell me, you know,
I was in a predicament. And then someone I mentioned that my grandfather is so and so and the door
open Subhanallah said, Oh, that's your grandfather? No, no, your grandfather did something for me
2030 years ago. So now I'm going to do something for you. This is how Allah works. This is how Allah
opens the door for the children because the father, the mother, what they will pious. And again, you
don't know how the good deeds you do today, you might do something good for somebody, and you won't
see the benefit in your life. But your kids might benefit 20 years later, your kids might actually
		

			have Baraka because you did something good for someone else. So Allah subhanaw taala will either
bless you or even and we are more happy, we're happier when Allah actually gives it to our children,
long after we are gone. We take it like one of the things that we mentioned this the story of Nabi
Phaedra, and Abby Musa is some Allah looked after those orphans, because those orphans, the parents,
the father, took care of Allah meaning was conscious of Allah. So even when he was gone, Allah
looked after his children, we will not be able to be there for our kids all the time. And the world
we live in our kids, we have to give them over to the dunya dunya is not a safe place is a scary
		

			place. You and I we can watch just to that extent and then we have to put them in the hands of Allah
subhanaw taala. The best we can do is we look after what is due to Allah am entrusted Allah will
look after our children and in the end, that is one of the lessons we learn. So then we took a
snapshot of some of the one of the super dads of the Quran, and very seldom lead when we look at the
Quran. When we talk about the Gambia, we usually talk about them in terms of preaching and teaching
to a community building a society, but seldomly do we look at them as fathers and mothers, most of
us are not going to be duat give Dawa in the streets and, you know, be leaders or, you know, we
		

			shouldn't be trying to be all leaders, but more more relevant to you. You're all dads, you're all
parents or children, all of us are children and all of you may be parents, you are parents and for
those of you are not your parents, may Allah grant you to be parents. I mean,
		

			we look at the Gambia How were they as fathers and mothers, as you know, how are they How did they
raise their children? In addition to doing all the things that didn't have yes to do, worshiping
Allah, more than normal people being in charge of a community, how did they make time for family and
how you know what, what kind of relationships they have with the children. So we spoke about Nabhi
Yaqoob last week, and Elisa Sudan and we're going to mention some other super fathers and mothers as
mentioned in the Quran, and lessons we learned from them. Today, we begin with Nabil Brahim Nabi
Ibrahim alayhis. Salam, he had two wives, and your two families, one in Palestine, and one in
		

			Makkah. And it's complicated, it's complicated today. It was complicated back then, of course, the
Gambia something to understand about the Gambia, who they marry, when they get married, how they
should interact. They don't have a choice in this matter. Allah subhana wa Tada commands them even
the personal life is not in my hands. So Allah subhanaw taala blessed me Brahim with two wives and
two sons from the different wives. And from those two sons, great nations would come the bunnies
that are in from the one for an obese Hawk
		

			and the Arabs and Nabil Mohammed Al Salam from NaVi smile. Now Nabil smile was in Makkah, he didn't
get to spend much time with his dad. So some of us, we work in some of us. I even know some people
in the Jamaat for some time of the year, they're not at home to three months because they have to
work you have to search for your risk. Part of your obligation as a dad is you have to first make
sure that there's food on the table, there's a roof over your head, and to search for your music
might take you physically away from your kids, you might work extensive hours, and you can't spend
the quality time as you would like. Now be Brahim is the same. He's not there. He's not there to see
		

			in a peace of mind he'll grow up each and every day of his life. But yet he was an amazing father.
And you can see the byproduct, the kind of son and the relationship they had. One of the things that
we find them to be Brahim the little time that he had with his mind was quality time. That that
moments he had with his son he made it relevant he made about Nabil smile. So this time for Tao this
time for Salah and when you make that Salah you know when we come for Salah we understand this is
exclusively to Allah Now the shock must close. Now the work must leave now the cricket must leave
your mind everything must leave your mind. This is Allah then when you do work, you should be
		

			focused on work. Now when you get to your family, it's the time I am preaching to myself more than
anything. I can see my wife pointing the finger Yes, you should take that listen with the cell phone
down that fatwa that masala that the crisis that is going to come the word Christ it it will be the
tomorrow this is time for your family and that's what we should do give everyone the hug Libra him
gifts quality time with a big smile that little moments that he had with him and they did things
together father and son moment and what a great father and son moment they did is that they built
the Kaaba together now the Brahim got the it was his responsibility to build the Cava not gonna be
		

			smile is my assume he's still young boy. He's gonna be but now we Brahim says I want to bring my son
as well involved. I want my son to help me build the Kaaba we're going to do this together a father
and son team. Now maybe you don't know gonna build the cabinet with your son by the three houses or
a project or something, make some quality time with your children. And in fact the psychologists
they say each child needs to have something unique with the dead. So maybe you have a son, the two
of you your thing is, you watch cricket together you watch soccer together, your daughter you play
chess with her together or you have something special that's your personal time with that child. If
		

			this is what the psychologists say that every child should feel that with my father or my mom, we
had our own quality time together. Sometimes we don't want to share the limelight with our siblings.
That was our thing we got through that. Maybe your thing is we go out for first you know when the
rest of the family sleeping we you take the one child out he's the he wakes up early, so we will go
out for breakfast. The other one is quite late so we will do something in the evening whatever it
might be. Now you Brahim use this Allah says what is the edify Brahim will Kaleido male Beatty what
is married Robin at Taco Bell Mina in Nikolas. I mean Eileen. So Allah says that when Habib Rahim
		

			raised the foundation of the Kaaba along with him was he smiled at me smile was the word not be
smile, do still a young boy, his job was to fetch the stones. And Ibrahim is telling him the
solubles this is the way this must be. This is how it's going to be. He's teaching his son through
this do it. You know this father and son project. So make unique time special time with each child.
Each child should have a special bond with a dad. And then as the baby is my child grows up. The
Beast now goes up. Nabil Brahim is the greatest man on earth after loving Mohammed Al Salam, perhaps
the greatest creation of Allah often I mean, Mohamed Salah Salem, yet he asks his son for advice.
		

			How often do we ask our kids when we have a problem? When we have an issue? What do you think I
should do?
		

			Just think about that for a second. You might have now obviously, they're not going to solve your
work problems, or they're not going to, but any issue you have in life, and you actually consult
them and say, What do you think I should do in this? What would you do if you were in my shoes? Now
we Brahim does this. Now be Brahim Allah says and when he received a WinAVI smile grew up now. So
now it's my ILAs gone grown up. He's of a certain age. He's not a child anymore. is a little older
is a bit mature. And maybe Ibrahim sees in his dream that Allah wants is commanding him to sacrifice
a smile and Sunnah be Ibrahim says fondue mother Tara?
		

			He says to me is right. What do you think about this? This is a command from Allah. And Habib Rahim
is asking you son, what do you think I should do? If you were me, what would you do? I'm giving you
now Nabi Brahim is going to obey the commandment nonetheless. But just having that discussion with
the smile, just having that matura with him is a big deal. It's something amazing. Remember, this is
not a dunya a fee this from Allah when it comes to Allah. There's no matura you just accepted Allah
commands you to do. Now what about Lissa issues? What should we do? What do you want? There are many
areas in
		

			If we can actually consult our kids, and as they get older in life, they are going to have their own
opinions as they become teenagers, they might become very opinionated. 99% of those opinions might
be incorrect or invalid, but it's about actually listening to them, asking them what is your
opinion, and it's a safe zone. If you said, there's no way you're going to sacrifice me, if he said
to his father, no ways this is madness. If that's how he feels, then O'Brien has to address that
now. bibra He must have consulted because it's in his mind, he has to fix it. Yes to explain to him,
my son, Allah will never command us with evil and Allah will never leave us. Look at our history.
		

			He's always been there for us as a test. Allah is gonna be there for us. If our kids don't think the
way we want them to, we have to first ask them understand and then address it if it's wrong. And if
Alhamdulillah we've raised them correctly and to the best of our ability, they will respond like
Nabil smile responded. And this is called a Liberty Oh, my IP is for these Yeah, birdie. You my dear
father, my dear father, if Allah to do what Allah has commanded you to do, you will find me in sha
Allah sabe and I will do my best to be patient I trust you. And I trust Allah subhana wa Tada. He
knew and again, it's amazing. Now be Brahim is not the day in day out. He's the moments in his
		

			maquilas life, maybe months would go by you wouldn't see is that when he saw him, you are such an
amazing father in those moments that NaVi smile trusted, whatever you say that I know you are my
hero, whatever, you know, it's fine Allah, we all started as the heroes of our kids, my kids 100 are
still on that stage, we, they think I can be part of the Avengers. They're gonna grow up and they're
gonna realize it doesn't work that way. So our kids grow up seeing us as the heroes, and then
somewhere along the line, you know, they don't want it, they become embarrassed, they don't want us
they don't want to be seen what US dropped me, I don't need my friend see you something changes
		

			along the way. But we should continuously they should always know. And usually if you sort of come
back in your later age in life, when you go through, when you grow up, you become more mature, you
know, really a moment that you still might use whatever I need in life. You guys have been the
you've seen it, I didn't fully appreciate it. Now I can understand what you've achieved. So we
should have and it begins with having this dialogue. What do you think it's not a one way street?
And the old fathers, maybe the the parents of my parents, so you might get our grandparents age, it
was with dance, it was never caught this conversation. You know, it's one way dialogue you do what I
		

			tell you to do. You don't disturb me. It was sort of that kind of parenting? The MBR we're not like
that. You look at the Ambia you said the Masonic and strict of people. They were not like that. They
actually spoke to the kids. What do you think we should do? In this matter of Allah? What do you
think the best course of action is? And the reason why you'll see is I trust you and I trust Allah
subhanaw taala even more than that, Subhan Allah even a better example than that isn't me that would
be that would have a Salam is a king. And like me, King is constantly getting, you know, questions,
people coming in, coming to him, there's a problem. This one is fighting with that one, my brother,
		

			my mother in law, whatever it might be, obviously, he's getting a lot of factors, a lot of
questions. And he needs to give judgment. He's a judge, he has to give judgment. And from a very
young age, he asks his son to be Sulaiman young boy, sit with me in the court. And when I give
judgment, I want you to sit there and listen. And if you have an opinion, raise that opinion also
has a king
		

			and a king ARB. And he allows his young son who isn't here yet, why don't you sit here and get
involved, maybe you're a family business, get your kids involved. Look at the quality and the skills
is only going to come out when you expose them to it. So Allah says, and mentioned, Nevada wouldn't
be Sulaiman when they judge concerning the field, when the sheep of a people over ran it at night,
and we were witnessed, and Allah says Allah was witness to the judgment. And we gave the
understanding of the case suit to suit a man, and to teach them we gave judgment and knowledge. So
and to each of them to each of them with two nebulae man, and every doubt, we gave them knowledge,
		

			but now we Sulaiman understood the case better. So what was the case? Basically, there was a there
were two farmers living side by side, the one had sheep and the other one had no whatever field
crops and so the sheep of the one farmer went over into the crops, and he ate up all the crops of
the neighbor's field. So now they come to us today, man, and are we gonna be dealt with? He's the
judge, look at this, what are we supposed to do should not be diluted, okay, because your sheep
completely destroyed the crops of your neighbor, you will have to give all your sheep to him, give
the sheep to him by its fate. You lost it, so you need to compensate it with your sheep. So the
		

			beast is dead. I have a second opinion and be done with it. Okay, what's your view? So he says that
you're giving the sheep to the farmer. Next year his crops will will revive. His crops will grow.
Then he will have sheep and the field. Where's this man?
		

			left nothing or other, he should have the sheep and benefit from the sheep until his crops recover.
And then the sheep should go back. And so Allah says maybe Sulaiman understood the case. Even
better, maybe Suleiman's judgment was better, he's still a young boy. But this Subhanallah, the fact
that nobody now would included him, allowed him to voice it. In fact, the widow is saying that you
got it wrong. And I'd be doubt is, what you're doing is correct. Allah says, this is this was
better. It's an amazing thing to think about. We have another example of an issue, I have to assume
that this is an issue I've now be Musas father in law, and yet you have a unique situation of an old
		

			father, raising daughters in a very tough society, raising daughters in an immoral society. Now,
that's a very diff This is more complicated. raising sons is easy. But raising daughters is a bit
tricky. Because on the one side, you need to inculcate in our daughters that modesty that Hyah, that
is part of Islam, Islamic tradition, in a very westernized open society. At the same time, they
shouldn't limit them in terms of the skills and the confidence. Now be sure he does this. He's got
two daughters, these are old men, they are the ones that must run the family business, because he
can't do it. They still have to be modest. They still have to, you know, be ladylike, but they also
		

			need to go out and do the job when it comes to the work so that we know the story now being Nabi
Musa, he leaves Egypt and he comes to the town of meridian. And he sees these two girls standing one
side and they're waiting for everyone to water the sheep. And then he goes to them and this is why
you girls waiting out by yourselves. And they say, look, these farmers, the shepherds are bad guys.
If we go and water our sheep, they're gonna touch us, they're gonna make comments, they're gonna
brush up against us. So we let them finish their business. And when they are done, then we will walk
our sheep and the reason why we're doing basically a man's job because our dad is an old man, he
		

			can't do this anymore. So we're doing it for him. So Nabi Musa alayhis salam, the kind of chivalrous
person he is he doesn't ask them any questions he just grabs the sheep from them before they can
even say anything and he waters the sheep for them and then he takes gives it back and they go home.
Then after a while now be sure I've invited him to the house. So what do we learn from this long
story is now issue a raise his daughters so when they will when they were asked about when they came
to business, when they'll be Musa ask them about what is the story, they're very confident they're
very strong. So these guys are bad guys, and we will we are helping a father. Few minutes later off
		

			an hour later, when the situation became more informal, and the inviting Nabi Musa over for supper.
Now Allah says she walked shyly. So in the Quick example, in the corporate world, our daughters
should have the confidence in school to raise their voice to give their opinions to go forward. When
it comes to business and work. Islam doesn't say that they should be so shy and so modest, that they
can't voice the concerns in a respectful manner. But when it comes to outside of work, when it comes
to informal relationships, now Allah says she walked in Abu Musa stay here, now she comes to shyly,
basically, we inviting you for supper. This is now in a more social setting. Nowadays that hoodoo
		

			that we raise and this Subhan Allah is an amazing thing. And it's a difficult thing to balance,
confidence when it counts, but higher and modesty when it counts. You don't have to be modest
modesty doesn't mean you have to be meek and mild. The wives are gonna be so solemn, with the
highest level of higher, Allah had given the wives going to be Salam, the highest levels of modesty.
But when you look at Aisha, she was someone who's very confident, she was someone that gave speeches
that led an army that if she heard someone making a mistake in the masjid said, what you said there
was wrong. I have a second opinion. Modesty doesn't mean that you meek, mild, you can't do anything.
		

			And this is the balance and the NAB show as a good example of this. And then also often invites Nabi
Musa into the house, and we Musa tells his whole life story. Now be sure you've asked his daughters,
what do you think of this guy? One of them basically says, I like him, this is a murderer. He
doesn't have a job. He's a refugee. I like him, I'd like to marry him. And so maybe she goes to W
Musa and says, What do you think? Would you like to work here, and you can marry one of my
daughters. And it's very difficult in some of us hamdullah my daughter's not at that level. But some
of you, your daughters are getting the, to have the confidence to choose their own partner, to come
		

			to you just having that ability. And a snappy show is an OB of the Gambia of Allah. And we're not
that level of Sally. But now the daughter is coming to him and saying, I like this guy, you know, I
want him will you be able to make that proposal on my behalf? Have that relationship that when you
do this grow up, because they're human beings, they're also going to they also have desires, that
dialogue should be open with respect and with modesty.
		

			Time is going one super dead, very sad story. A super father that didn't turn out so well maybe
know. Somebody we can learn from the view
		

			that we know we know spent almost 1000 years who needs people to Islam, and ultimately his people
rejected so Allah destroyed them. And of those who rejected him was his wife of those who rejected
him.
		

			What was his son?
		

			And so when I say how is nobody know how are you? Am I giving them a new honey son as an example of
our good father son relationship should be. When we take from Urbino, his son rejected him for
almost 1000 years, his son was over those who insulted Lebanon, who belittled him who was against
him. And when he saw his son in danger, we didn't have enough time. And Allah says, and the ship the
Ark sailed through waves that were like mountain to the storm was so big that it was like mountains
and the ship was on it, and then there'd be no, so he sang in the water. And he said to his son, oh,
my son, come on board with us and be not of the disbelievers. Now, how quickly are we do we give up
		

			on our kids? How quickly if our kids make mistakes, we say that's it, I'm done. We cut you off. Why
don't you chose the wrong partner, you marry the wrong person, you're not doing well in school. And
that's it. That's a deal breaker for us. This child did the worst of since Sheikh, he rejected
Allah. And he is basically telling everyone My dad is a madman. My dad is wrong one, you know, He's
insulting his father. And now his father is not giving up on him 950 years and he still says, My
son, come with Come with me. You are welcome. Whenever you already come with, you know, even
something more controversial. We have the issue of equity Democrats, people that either reject the
		

			Dean Amala protect our kids from Allah protect us from that, they turn away. And we have this
concept that we cut them off. There is a place and time for shunning. But many times that don't
inspect what we learned from the Sharia that don't have return should never be closed. And we should
always let them know that yes, I can't condone what you're doing this lifestyle you're doing, I
can't condone it, and I won't be part of it. But I will always be there for you, the minute you want
to come back, the door is open for that, as parents, they should know that we will never give up on
them. And this is Subhanallah our relationship with Allah, no matter how many times we sin, how bad
		

			life is, Allah is giving us a guarantee, so long as you still alive, you can always return back no
matter how far you strayed, there's always a way home for you, as parents to elicit degree, we
should do the same thing. How bad things are in life, and some of our kids made mistakes in life on
drugs, wrong decisions. We're just human beings. But that dwarf parents should always say come back
and if nobody knew who do this often Island 50 years, you and I can do that. Yes. Even even to that
extent, let me know when you've been overwhelmed. It's just being a father. It's just being a
father, where he says to Allah after his son had drowned off the Senate chosen, he says, Yeah,
		

			Allah, this is my son. Yeah, Allah, please. So Allah says, No, he's not your son anymore. He has
ultimately made the choice. And yes, this also is a sad reality that you and I might be good
parents. But at the end of the day, our kids, they will choose their own way. We can only guide to a
certain degree, we can only assist them to a certain degree, we can only have the door open for
them. Ultimately, the Father, the Son, each one carries their own burdens. No one carries the burden
to someone else. Everyone must make that choice. But as long as we are here, we continue to invite
our kids they should No, no suddenly is too big, that we stop being their parents, no son is so bad
		

			that we cut them off. That is a message that and if Subhanallah as I said, this is an OB of the
Gambia of Allah. This is an abbey of the Gambia of Allah and his kid did worse than any of your kids
have done. And yet, that door is always open.
		

			I can't only talk about fathers because the minute you talk too much about one's gender, then this
is gender unbiased. We always have to balance it and they are great moms as well in the Quran and
outside of the Quran. Great mothers won't get to all of them. But it's something interesting to
think about the Google as the asthma the five highest Ambia that we know and be Brahim Nabi Musa and
Isa Naveen Mohamed salah, so of the of the Gambia, they're the best of people and of those prophets.
They are five that are very, very special, the five best of them, and four of the five. In fact, it
might be oh five, we don't know. Nobody knew his parents whenever you brought him. He didn't have a
		

			good father figure is that was actually his big opponent. He didn't have a father figure in his
life. That'd be Musa. We don't have his dad. And in fact, he grew up in the house of Iran are the
worst father figure if you want the worst man, that he is, I didn't have a father. Let me Mohamed
Salem didn't have a father either grew up an orphan. So these are the greatest people were really
raised by women only. And in our society. More kids grew up in South Africa, just through a single
mother than a mother and a father. I see it again, statistically, most children's of Africa being
raised by single women. And even in that it's a very difficult job being mum and dad and worrying
		

			about bills, but even a single mum, with all that going against the Kennedys and amazing child can
raise an amazing person and we see this from the Quran. You have have the full Imams, the 40 Imams,
you have a Chevy Malibu Hanifa Imam Muhammad Malik, three of the four of them. They were inspired by
the mothers
		

			Musharraf he didn't know his dead father passed away before he was born. Even Muhammad as well,
father passed away two of the Imams. They even had a father, Imam Malik Rahimullah. His dad was a
Molana Shia, and he's dead. Put a lot of pressure on him a lot of pressure on Imam Malik to become a
chef. And in my mind, it didn't work. It actually pushed him away. He says, I don't want this Dean
stuff, not for me. You want to be a singer, as they say because they're a beautiful voice. And he
was his mom that encouraged him. And it's in a very soft way. She drinks the sun up in the clothing
of the Imams and says, You know what, just go to the madrasa and He's a chef today I want you to sit
		

			with him. And if you like it, you can stay if you don't like it, I won't pressurize you. But it was
because his mom gave him that, you know, space he needed because he was he was a child that was yet
to express himself very strong personality. Mom understood that. And this is what inspired him even
more than that. Imam Bukhari Rahim Allah Subhan Allah, disabled child being raised by single mother
didn't give up on him. And we know what the human body becomes you blind as a young boy father
passed away a mother I mean, imagine a single mother those days no welfare, no those kinds of stuff.
Having a disabled child blind child and still inspiring that this child is gonna grow up to
		

			something amazing, never giving up hope. We'll talk more about the supermoms next week in sha Allah
will talk about from the Quran and from the Sunnah about single mothers that did great things. But
in summary, for our dads for us, you and me, the last two three weeks we spoke about points that we
can take inculcate in our life. And just to summarize these 10 points, when you and I can do as
parents as fathers. Number one, what's amazing, every single Nabhi that you I've mentioned, you find
that they making dua. Now Zachary is making dua before he has a child. Miriam's grandmother will get
to know she's making dua to Allah, you've given me a child, I'm pregnant, this is going to be and
		

			she thought was a boy, this boy is going to become an OB and she's making dua this is going to be
you know, someone in your service. Of course, it became a goal, but that dua is the end she said,
Yeah, Allah make dua for this child. And that child's offspring. Now who's the offspring of Maryam
isa means this grannies do is so powerful that even the grandchildren benefited from it. We
shouldn't underestimate the power of dua.
		

			Make making dua for your kids, your family, part of your life, that very special dua Robina habarana
mean as wodgina was the reaction of Kurata Yoon with Jana limita Tina Imam make this part of your
daily do as I see that you can make this to our insider fettled Salah before the Salim brother OS
even in the fourth Surah yes you can you can in the funnel sada before you say salam alaikum before
he says that I'm gonna come that's a monster job time to make dua and you can so long as it's Arabic
you make the DUA in Arabic and this is a Quranic dua Robina habla Dominus wodgina We're literally
yet in a Kurata ano Jana muta Canaanite you mama, Oh Allah, let my children my wives My husband
		

			always be the coolness of my eyes, meaning that they only bring happiness to us and it has to be
Imam and it means to be the best of people in goodness. So inculcate dua for your family in your
life. Don't just only make dua for the dunya make dua for the family. Number two from all the Ambia
the all the examples we've shown some of the MBI had bad kids. But what they gave for it before they
asked him for to do this and do that. There was love and prediction. They should they always knew my
my father, and I focuses on dads because we have a big problem about dads in our country that my dad
is loves me that my dad will always love me. No matter how bad things get, and we all do and we
		

			fight but I should know a child should always know that the Father loves them that the parents love
them. Naturally the mother instinctively you know, even though mom sometimes he says more than that,
right? Mom is smooth. Many guys smile a lot more from the mom than the dead. But at times we
actually feel does my dad did he love me was this masculine thing about showing your love is not
sometimes encouraged the Gambia were very open about the love, very open about the love with the
children very affectionate towards the children. So be affection, especially in those young age
those young days. Be loving, and even be physically loving with your children without a visa salaam
		

			would kiss his children. You'd carry them if you'd be like he couldn't resist when you would see
them you would just like grabbed him and kiss them peace Hassan and Hussein and the young children
that he that was in his household that this show your affection and your love.
		

			Number three be present and give quality time for speaking about the Rahim Allah Imam the previous
imam of His Mercy my money
		

			what to do with Duke money in the family may Allah bless the the new addition to the family and like
to know about Imams routine is a very busy man had a full time job and an imam of the masjid many
times went out and you know doing the things I struggle with the mom at work going to visit people
in the houses you know without WhatsApp and emails and those these devices send me an email I'll
respond email
		

			How'd you do that? And then especially for the family, because you won't know, I just know a little
bit about it, but how much patience the family must have when someone does community work. Because
there's a lot of things that you must. You're not there when everyone else is at home, you're not
there for your own kids. And I wanted to find out how, you know, someone so busy spends time, and it
wasn't about quantity didn't get many hours, but each one had 510 20 minutes. You have your
discussion each night, they will sit time you tell me about your day we talk. And that's it. And
there was 20 minutes made more than 20 hours, because it was quality time. It was genuine time about
		

			each one. I know where you are at life. I know what is concerning you. Whether it's the youngest one
talking about whatever it is in Serbians or B, whether it's the oldest one talking about, you know,
friends and high school things. But I know we each of you are in life, and I can give input in your
life. And I can give advice, and I won't judge you whatever it is that you're doing. I can give
advice without judgment. It's very important that quality time with each child. And we sometimes
believe that we are the busiest people in the world, right? We always believe we tell the wife, I'm
so busy you don't know how it what it's like at work. It's part of the Gambia made sure they were
		

			the busiest people, but they made sure that everyone felt that quality time. Number four, teach our
children.
		

			What's important is being a good person. It's not about easily report card, we're sometimes more
focused on the academic results, we measure the success of our kids in terms of the report card,
yes, it's important that we encourage them to, to learn and to study. But more important than that
is to be good people that if your child is the one that shares his brain with someone that doesn't
have even if he doesn't pass the exam, but he does something like that, then your child really is a
special child. And if your child is the one that will see if someone is being bullied, he stands up
for the child being bullied even if they can't pass all the sums on the exam. But hamdulillah Allah
		

			has blessed you with a good child. Sometimes we have lost what is important and and explain to our
kids what is life what what really makes what makes you a good person. And they will only learn that
through our example. So you teach them through your example of what is good teacher what failure
teach you about your problems, the MBR shade they know that even shade the sorrows where the kids
now be cool blue Ibrahim is telling the sons there's a very difficult thing Allah has put before me
to test. What do you think I should do? Share that vulnerability with your kids so that they when
they become vulnerable. They will not have to deal with it. Sometimes we need to show the ugliness
		

			of the dunya it's real, it's real. It's out the window to talk to them about these difficult
conversations especially during the teenage years. This is the reality of life.
		

			Make them feel special because they feel they are special. The Gambia did this very well. You know
when they may do ah
		

			it's amazing how many Gambia the sons were Ambia
		

			visa Korea now we are here maybe that wouldn't be Brahim Nabi smila The sons were Ambia because when
they see their Allah know your stone over burden, don't put so much weight of expectations on your
kids that it breaks them, but also aspire that you're not going to just be any child, you have the
potential to be an A B of the envy of Allah, you have the potential to be an ally of the only of
Allah, you have the potential to be happy to Quran you have the potential to be top of your class.
If you focus you can do that. If you don't get there, and you tried Well, Hamdulillah we don't we
always love you. But it is that you have the potential The Gambia did this, why shouldn't you and I
		

			do this when it comes to our kids, a spy inspiring them to be the best. Listen to them. They fears
the concerns, they should always feel safe to tell you. And if you feel and if you especially have a
teenage child, and you think well my teenage shell tells me about problems in their life. Tell them
about the rejection about bullying. Do they feel like they can tell if they can't miss a problem.
And you should have the dialogue even this evening. Discuss what is what's happening in school, our
job as parents to advise and click them if they make mistakes. We can't always only be the friend,
you and I have to correct them when they make mistakes with love and affection, the way the MBR
		

			predicted. They corrected without judgment. So for me to judge Allah judges, I don't know in your
situation, or what I can tell you that's not appropriate. empower them. Trust him. At times, part of
being like in Abu Dhabi, the example we gave, you can't just make NaVi Suleiman sit here in court
but the minute he wants to say some things, you know, keep quiet. What do you know about this? I
really love when I see for example, in our organizations, fathers being the kids, their sons, their
daughters, and you sit at this committee meeting, big old senior Buddhists, Buddhists that I've seen
done so many things, highly qualified people, but at that same committee, you have young sister in
		

			varsity, very green around the years, but still, they can get around the years and they still can
give an amazingly give input. We should give that platform that a visa Salam was never scared to
give young people opportunity. He in fact got criticized so many times the reasons are more
criticized when you give the flag of the military expedition to youngster Sahaba How can you
		

			Give it to him. He's only 1890 How can he be the leader of the army when it came to the Quran? Zaid,
we said young men, but in his teens, you will be the custodian of the Quran. We should not feel shy
to give our kids empower them. And sometimes Farhatullah when we treat them, like children, they say
children. Well, when you tell them, Okay, here's a budget for you. You decide what we're going to do
I leave it to you. Yes, they'll mess up, I guarantee they will mess up, we'll be there. But also
they will learn a lot more than us, you know, preaching to them. This is something in leadership and
and hamdulillah at the masjid, for example, something that we we see we see the benefit, I'm telling
		

			you, I've seen the benefit. We've had many years of hamdulillah senior people doing good things in
the masjid. But once we had few youngsters on board, we can see a big jump forward in many, many
areas. That energy that idea is something that we don't have. I'm not speaking like an old person
that it is fun Allah.
		

			So don't be shy to give your kids
		

			empower them to make choices. Be there for them when they mess up. Don't judge them. And they said
at the end like be like no be no, never give up. No matter if your relationship right now some of
you might even have estranged relationships. You're not speaking to your kids. Be like no be no pick
up the phone. So you know what, I'm always your dad. I will always be your dad. No matter what you
did that I love you. Come over let's talk. You're always welcome back on the ark no matter how bad
things are. The Ark is always open for you may Allah bless you, bless me, bless our children, Allah
grant him to grow up to be better than us, grant them to be successful, wonderful people in this
		

			dunya and akhira. Just a few announcements, the class continues on Monday, the caliphate will end
with the death of Nabil with C NET Omar on the line this Monday in sha Allah and as soon as we can
we'll send that back to basics. Any questions concerns was prominent gmail.com shukran so much so
don't worry