Muhammad West – The Women Around the Messenger SAW – Episode 28

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			Allah hi and thank you so much for joining us this episode 28 of our series the bliss of women
around the messenger sallallahu sallam. In this episode we'll continue talking about a mother Xena
being dejection rhodiola. And her will talk about her life with the prophets of Salaam as his wife,
interaction with the other wives of the Prophet SAW Allah and her death in sha Allah. And just
again, let us quickly go through our list of our mothers. We spoke about Khadija jolanda. We spoke
about soda. We spoke about Ayesha, we spoke about soft we spoke about Xena being hoceima we spoke
about Oussama Yolanda. And now we're speaking about another Xena being dejection. We spoke about how
		

			we mentioned how she became the wife of the Prophet also lump following the divorce of by zayde,
adopted son of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. We mentioned the controversies around this marriage,
and how Allah subhanho wa Taala used this marriage to sort of complete the lows of adoption, the
lowest between an orphan and his adopted foster parents. And then we also spoke about our mother's
lineup. In terms of her personality. We said that she was a very independent woman, she had a high
self worth self opinion, which at times might have even boarded along vanity. We spoke about how she
was a crafts woman, she was good with her hands and she had a business. She was a very passionate
		

			woman, a woman that would be very intense in her emotions. She would be someone that was not scared
to mention what she believed in what she wanted. And even if it could turn into conflict with
someone else, you didn't mind voicing her opinion, a very strong, strong woman. And of course, we
said she was a deeply devoted pious worshipper of a lot. She was extremely given to Salah she would
spend the night in a bar up to the point where she would become tired, and she would cling on to a
rope to keep her from falling asleep during tahajud. You spend the day in fasting. And of course,
the thing that she really excelled in was that she was extremely generous, her personality.
		

			Naturally, we said we'd come into conflict and clash in particular with someone very similar to her
mother, Ilana, and I said what the law says in
		

			Zainab was my equal in beauty and in the prophets love for her. So the problem was, I liked her a
lot. And cinema also says that the Messenger of Allah wa sallam liked Zainab very much, but he also
became very frustrated with her at times. So at times, you know, she would annoy him even, but he
enjoyed spending time with her. Ayesha also says that Xena was very proud of her time with the
prophets of Salaam, she was very given to spending time with him and to be romantic with him and to
be passionate with him. And she wasn't afraid to show this and even if it meant that it sometimes
sit on the toes of the other lives, she would do this. So last week, we spoke about how it was a
		

			clash. And there'll be a number of classes today that will speak about between her and I shadowed
Yolanda. So we found that when it was last night, and the Prophet Tomas was with Ayesha, Xena came
over, and the professor extended his hand, and this obviously upset Ayesha, because it was a night
and there was a confrontation and Xena raised the voice and I should raise the voice. And there was
an argument. Another incident that comes to mind is that the prophet SAW Salem, it says that the
prophecy was with me the evening and he was having supper with her and she had prepared a meal. And
so you know, we said Ayesha was not the most domestic of women. So for her to prepare a meal was was
		

			quite difficult. And she said now like we can imagine all day in the kitchen, preparing this meal,
and the getting down the two of them. Maybe you could call it romantic moment. She's been waiting
for him for maybe a week and the spin this time was her time with him. And now they're about to eat
and then the gift, you could say a knock at the door, someone has come to the door. So in comes this
person is given permission, and it's one of the servants of signup. And Zainab rhodiola and her
servant comes with a bowl of food, Xena cooked something and sent it to the prophets of Salaam. Now,
final law, this naturally will frustrate our mother. I hear she just spent all day and here comes
		

			this plate of food. And as the servant is about to put the plate down, Ayesha strikes the plate and
he falls on the floor and he breaks and this is awkward silence we can imagine you know, people are
watching this is now in public and the prophets of Salaam. He sees these beautiful words I shall
vccc did something wrong and the problem diffuses this awkward moment and he says you have made your
mother jealous. You upset your mom. So you basically says you upset your mother. I say your mother,
you've upset her. And then the professor picks up the plate and he picks up the food and he says go
ahead you can eat there's nothing wrong with it. We even from the small incident. We learned that
		

			when food falls on the floor. It's hot out to eat there's nothing wrong with it. And you can go and
eat it and when when the when the meal was done. The profit wasn't SR I show you Oh Zainab edition
you owe her plenty you broke the plate. So you owe her a new plate and so he took one of those
plates and he gave it to the servant to give the sign up. Another main
		

			The clash between our mother and Xena was a story that we had left on pause. Remember, I take your
mind back to Osama. When we said that the prophet SAW Selim, he would receive gifts from the Sahaba.
And the Sahaba would make a point to bring these gifts during the day of Ayesha. So I shared with
her in her house, she would benefit from these gifts, and the other wives naturally became upset
about this and so they began to complain. So they told him Salma you go and speak to the professor's
on them, and you ask him to tell the Sahaba to be fee if we could say in giving in distributing of
gifts, and Salah approaches at one time two times three times and the province of alum doesn't
		

			respond to her and basically says to her, don't upset me in this regard, you know, don't do this.
And inshallah we said, the mature, diplomatic, elegant lady that she was when the province for lumps
she could see she was annoying him she lifted her that she didn't argue with him. Then we said the
lives when to Fatima, his daughter, and they say to Fatima, go and speak to your dad, and tell him
about this issue of Ayesha. And so Fatima comes to the prophets of Salaam and she speaks to him and
the prophets. Allah says to her basically, oh, Fatima, don't you love who I love and I love Ayesha.
So love Ayesha don't upset me. So Fatima also leaves the meta and she says to the boss, and then I
		

			went to love who you love. And so she goes to the other wives and she says to them, I want nothing
to do with this matter. I don't want to upset my dad. So don't don't involve me, I'm not going to
get involved. Again, the wives are not satisfied. They still upset about this. And then Xena Beatty
jack, she was now one of the wives. And she basically said Well, then, if I'm Santa, you're not
going to do the job and Fatima you can do the job, then I will do the job. And I'm not basically
scared to bring this issue up, and I will address the matter. So she walks and she doesn't even wait
for the prophet SAW Salem to come to her house and to speak to him privately. She goes to Ayesha's
		

			house when the problem is with her. And she asked for permission and she's given permission. So now
the property is sold. I'm sitting with Ayesha Ayesha today. And she talks to the prophets of Salaam
and Ayesha again, this hadith is needed from Russia. So Russia says so Xena began to complain. He
basically said things about me that were hurtful. She said hurtful things, but I didn't respond. And
she was saying, basically, we have the wives want you to be fee in the way that these gifts are
distributed between us and the and the and the daughter of abubaker. She doesn't even say I just
named her sister, the daughter of a worker. And she goes overboard actually. And she says things
		

			that hurt Ayesha, and I guess I didn't say anything. But I looked at the eyes of the professors. And
I'm looking basically give me permission to respond and waiting for him to give me permission to
respond. And when when Xena went to a certain level, and she we don't know what you see. But she
said something. And then the professor basically gave Ayesha permission. So I should have been
responded to sign up. And I should say I responded to her so fiercely, that Xena was completely
quiet, she couldn't see anything. I basically put her in a place. And when Xena was now quiet, and
we sit when no one makes enough quiet. And I said I did that. So when the professor smiles and he
		

			says to Aisha, you really are Abubakar, his daughter, because abubaker Golan when you learn his
biography, that you had a very eloquent way of talking, when he came to a company, and especially
with your students, he had a way of making his voice heard. And at times, he even had a bit of a
sharp tongue that basically kept other people quiet. There's more incidents between Ayesha and Xena.
So the V famous incident of the honey, the very famous incident of the honey, which is the reason as
most of them have a city and mentioned the reason why the first verse of sort of the first verse of
the hymn was revealed because of this, this incident, we mentioned how the Prophet peace upon him
		

			would visit all his wives during the day, and he would go and check up on all of them. And I would
always say that because she was the youngest, he would visit her last. And so we imagine on my
shoulder, I'm always anticipating and excited for him to come to visit us, even if it's not too much
time, but he's going to come and visit her. And she got to know his routine. So even though he never
watches she obviously would estimate around this time of day, he's due to come and come home. And
she found that a few days now he's coming later and later. And he's not as on time as he usually
was. So I shadowed a lot on her. us hafsa why what's happening? Why is he delaying? Why is he coming
		

			late? And so they found out that the professor was staying a bit longer by Zayn up in Joshua, when
he when he was visiting Xena, he stayed longer than normal. And why would he stay longer than
normal? Because Zainab Ludhiana had just purchased some very nice honey, we see that she obviously
had this business, she had a little bit more than the other wives, and she bought this nice honey.
So when the professor would come, she would feed him some honey and the Prophet peace upon him had a
sweet tooth. And so obviously, he enjoyed this and we spend some time and this now delayed him. And
we can only imagine he delayed him for a few minutes, 510 minutes at most, but this obviously for
		

			the lives of the person was something which upsets him
		

			So they decided what are we going to do we can't allow is enough to keep taking that extra 10
minutes, we need to do something about this. So Zainab, Ayesha and soda and we see the three of them
were sort of a click, they agreed amongst themselves. Look when he visits you, and he kisses you.
And this obviously, again, side note here, it shows you a number of things. Number one, it shows you
the prophets of Salaam, when he would come to his wives, he would come home, he would greet them,
you would actually kiss them on the mouth, this was used you sooner. So they would say that when he
comes to you, and he kisses you on the mouth, ask him what is this bad smell on your breath? Because
		

			the professor was extremely concerned about his hygiene, very strict for his hygiene, at least five
or more times a day, he would use the miswak is like brushing his teeth five times a day. So for him
any bad odors, was deeply offensive to him. And him of all people was very strict on hygiene. So to
have a bad smell coming from his mouth was very embarrassing for him. So they agreed when it comes
to you have so many kisses, you asked him, Why does your breath smell so bad? And he would say,
look, the only thing I ate was this honey from Zainab and then they said we will agree to tell him
that maybe the honey was made from some kind of butter SAP and therefore it's giving a bad smell.
		

			And then when you go to soda soda, when he kisses you say the same thing when it comes to HSA the
same thing, eventually, this is gonna happen, this will frustrate him. And this will basically get
back and say no. So it also side note, it shows us as brothers as husbands, that our lives if they
are at home, for example, and we have to come home at a certain time. I know I'm guilty of this at
times, our wives are anticipated excited to see us all day. They haven't seen us. And therefore if
we are maybe 510 minutes late, any woman, every woman would naturally get a little frustrated. She's
excited and to see you. And if we don't delay the process on them, encouraged us as men that when
		

			it's time to go, don't delay, don't spend even if in the masjid. Don't spend longer than you need to
be because your wives are looking forward to you. Maybe you the only adult conversation she could
have all day all she's only people she's speaking to other kids. And now she wants to spend time
with with a husband. And even if it's 10 minutes, 15 minutes for our lives, it might seem like a
very long time and they will get impatient. This is the case even with the best of women. And the
prophet SAW Selim. He's the most busiest of men, you know, ever there was no man busier than him. If
anybody had an excuse to say, Elijah, why are you stressing me out? Why are you hassling me? I've
		

			got the concerns of the entire room on my head. Surely you can be paid if I come late, I come late,
you know, I'm busy. This isn't the attitude of the prophets of Salaam. And if that's the prophets of
Salaam, then for us really, and I speak to myself first. We should not get frustrated that that time
is her time it's our Huck and she wants us to come home at this time. So we should make an effort
not to infringe on that time. So I should have saw and soda agree to this. So the problem when you
went to them, and they said your breath smells bad. So the professor seldom said look this. This is
from the honey and now today I've made honey haram for me I have prohibited myself I'll never eat
		

			honey again. And now Allah subhanho wa Taala reveals the verses in the Quran Allah says Allah Allah
yeah you and maybe even to hardly mama Allah Allahu la casa de Matata as watching, oh prophet of
Allah only of Allah. Why make haram what Allah has made Hello? Why do you make honey haram always
meditate on turbidity metadata as well, so that you can for the purpose of pleasing your wives.
Again, this is a verse in the Quran, which is a slight reprimand to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam.
And again, this is something which the prophets of Salaam is it's kind of embarrassing for the
professor number Allah has to intervene because his wives are bothering him his wives are
		

			conspiring. So again, this is another incident where the wives liberal salon basically stepped out
of line. And this was something wrong from Ayesha and hafsa and soda. So we see this tension between
Russia and Xena and they will this intense arrivals when they will one another at times we don't
even find that these nice words. But when you see to piety of these women that it never got in the
way of the taqwa and these two incidents that comes to mind. So we spoke about the, the cylinder of
Ayesha salon de vida when she was accused of committing Zina, we know that this was the most
difficult time in her life and in fact, she was separated from the prophets of Salaam. And during
		

			this time, the prophet Allah was not sure if the rumors of Ayesha's infidelity was true. And he seek
advice. He spoke to his aid. He spoke to Sonali even then went to Zainab. Now he knew he
specifically went to Xena why, because Xena was the one wife that didn't get along with Russia. And
she was the one wife that argued with her the most. So if he wanted to gauge from Xena what Zeynep
says about this matter, and I she says I shouldn't read this hadith. So in spite of the rivalry, I
should say is that you know what a pious woman Zainab was because when the promiseland went to her
and asked her about what do you say about I share an incident? So basically saying upset to the
		

			problem. I know nothing.
		

			Have Ayesha exceed good. I cannot say one fault about Allah Subhana Allah. This shows you that
through taqwa of our mother Zina, and to make it even more the level of Xena. Her sister Zainab own
sister was one of the founders of the if they were one of the people that began spreading the
rumors, and when we asked her why did you do this? So she said, I wanted to bring Ayesha down to
give my sister Zainab to make her the one that all the love of the problem was I wanted to get out
of the picture for the sake of my sister's aina but name Xena obviously, she was the one that came
to defend Ayesha to the prophets of Salaam and said look, I don't know anything about I should
		

			except good. This is something which is not possible for our mother, I shadowed Yolanda and this
went both ways. at a time. When Xena was in trouble you found our mother I shared with you a lot on
how standing up for her. So I should tells us that it so happened that towards the end of the life
of the Prophet Salaam, the Prophet peace upon him went to perform these Hajj and all the wives of
the Prophet SAW Selim join him so they're all within it all traveling together from Medina to
Makkah. Now one of the wife Sophia will get to speak to her in coming weeks in sha Allah. She wasn't
a very good rider. And she began to fall behind, and her camel got lame. And as she falls behind,
		

			she begins to cry. And she you know, tears are rolling. So the problem stops the entire caravan.
100,000 Sahaba. He stops them. He turns around and he goes to get Sophia and he makes the camel
kneel and he takes Sophia. Sophia was very short. She was very petite, very delicate. We'll come to
know that she's the only wife that was originally a Jewish lady, which means she came from a much
more cultured civilization. The Arabs were a lot more rough. So she was a very pampered girl. And
for her This was very difficult for so the problem takes her off and she's bursting. She's crying
and the promises and we mentioned this he takes off the camera and he wipes away her tears with his
		

			with his thumbs. And Sophia says the more he wipes away my tears, the more he makes me cry, and now
she blames him and she says, You gave me a bad camel is because of you. My camel is behind and I'm
I'm behind and she's inconsolable. So then the prophecy says, oh, Xena, Xena. I've had many camels
because she was again we said she was the wealthiest of all the wives. So he says to Zainab, Zainab
shame, give Sophia one of your camels you've got extra camels given one of them. So Zeynep said
something to them. So she said and publicly, she says, me give my camera to that Jewish that Jewish
lady never, I will never give her one of my camels. So the professor was extremely annoyed with us.
		

			He just he kept quiet and say anything, but this upsets him deeply. And so Sophia is crying. So the
problem says, guys, look, let's just stop everything and we'll campea and it's Sofia, calm down and
login for his wife. He makes the entire Hodge Gemma slip so that his wife can calm down, but he was
really upset with Xena. So he says, I should tell us the story. Because of that the Prophet
basically so Salim basically ignored signup for a number of months to such an extent that I've had a
special mattress for the profits of them. She had a special beating that when he would come she
would take that beating out so that when he slipped in our house that he had a you know, a nice
		

			place to sleep. She actually packed that beating away. She said, call us the processor will never
ever come to me again. And then he says I was with him one day, and she thought about Zeynep and
obviously she felt bad was enough sake. So she began to talk about Xena like you know, forgive I
haven't you know pardon her. She spoke out of turn It's been three months now. She's so broken up
she's so sad go and visitor so he says it was he remembers the day the professor winked and he went
to go visit sign up. And you know, sign up took this beating out again and he was so happy. So in a
saddest moments, I should actually stood up for this relationship as we said, it was that they were
		

			rivals. They fought with one another they argued with one another dishes and plates flew sometimes,
but when it came down to it, do you know when one was really in a bad spot, they taekwon never
allowed him to harm each other. They stood up for one another and they there was this mutual arrival
that He has for this mutual respect. And after the profitsystem died, the Cena Of course continued
to be such he continued to to be a businesswoman he continued to charity. And of all the wives of
the profs alum, she excelled in terms of her generosity. And I should tell us that after the death
of Sonam, it became a standard the wives of the Prophet SAW Selim, they will receive a salary they
		

			will receive a salary from the government see Norma was the halifa the Muslim woman expanded so he
gave each of the wives of the professor a stipend, like a little salary. And when Xena received her
salary, she was very disturbed about this. She didn't like it. And she gave every cent of that money
away she gave the charity wynnstay not only heard about this, and he says what a blessing to human
this lady's a nappies and he gave him more money and she gave every cent of that money away. And she
made it throughout that year a lot pick me not see this money again next year. I don't want to see
this happening. Again. I don't want the salary again. And it's
		

			happened that our mother's a neighbor of Yolanda, she passed away 10 years after the death of the
officer lamp. And she was in fact, the first wife to die after the Prophet sallallahu sallam. And
now the wives of the Prophet SAW Selim understood something we remind ourselves back to, so that we
see that so that was the biggest largest of the wives. And then the prophet SAW him and told him,
and again, picture this, probably somebody said, his wives, and perhaps this was when he was ill.
And they asked him, Who of us who will be the first to be with you in general. And he said to them,
the one with the biggest hands the longest, or the longest hands, she will be the one that will join
		

			me first. So they had like a competition annually, that they would get together all the wives and
they would measure the hands of the teeth, and every time so that would win, because her hands were
the biggest two was the biggest one of all. Then when Xena died first, they understood the lives
understood Ah, he wasn't talking about having the biggest hands physically. They mean the one who
was the most charitable and Xena was the one that gave the most charity as final Allah subhanaw
taala blister, that she would be the first that would die and be you and I were the prophet SAW
Salem. And it's no more befitting words to say about our mother Xena, that after she died, I shot
		

			all people and we said the relationship between Ayesha and Xena was perhaps not the best at times.
But when she died, I share basically said of her. Allah have mercy on her. The praise worthy woman
this praise worthy woman, the devout and sincere worship of Allah and the protector and the comfort
and the refuge of the orphan and the widow is now gone. May Allah have mercy on her? What a great
woman she was. Rahim Allah Amata Zeynep into jash she was the first to be reunited with a profit
salsola she passed away as we said, around 10 years often a visa Salaam she was about 53 years old
when she had passed away. We continue next episode with our next wife, our mother inshallah Habiba
		

			the daughter of Abu sufian insha Allah, Allah hi Salaam Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh counter