Muhammad West – The Women Around the Messenger SAW – Episode 26

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			just like a love fade. Thank you so much for joining us. This is Episode 26 of our series Blissett
women around the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And we'd like to thank those who joined us
this weekend for our marriage class well hamdulillah It was very well attended and Alhamdulillah we
hope in sha Allah for those who have expressed a desire to attend the marriage class, but we're not
able to do so because of exams or interview functions. And we hope to do another marriage class
inshallah, at Brunel Islam towards the mid December or perhaps even in the new year, but please
inform us if you're keen if you're able to attend which date you prefer, and inshallah we'll try to
		

			arrange something for you. I begin, assistant emailed me with regards to mistake that I've made. She
mentioned in one of the episodes, I said that the Prophet also lamb be married to Ayesha for eight
years. And then she continued to love another 60 years after his death, and she passed away at the
age of 66, of course, is an error. The prophet SAW some of the passed away, I shut the alarm on how
would live for another 46 years. So listening for 46 years she lived without the Prophet sallallahu
sallam, and they were married around 10 years Alhamdulillah. And we did say that these dates are
variable because there was no Islamic calendar at that time. We're not so sure about eischens age,
		

			as we are to about Abubakar age, we're not sure when the marriage happened. These dates we have a
broad understanding sort of within a year or two, give or take, and only once the Islamic calendar
actually was instituted in the fantasy normal with dates a lot more sure the dates were a lot more
accurate. Alhamdulillah so in our last episode, we completed our discussion with our mother, Osama
hint of the law. So now the Prophet of Allah, it's good for us to go through and keep this list in
our minds. And I encourage you that you keep this list where Khadija initially was his wife, and
then she passed away. Then we had soda and she's still alive. We have Ayesha and she's still alive.
		

			We have hopstop and she's still alive. Then we had Zane had been Hosea, the mother of the poor, and
she passed away and then the prophets of Allah married, Salama rhodiola. And so now the Prophet
peace around him has four wives, soda, I should have said Salama, and we know all the personalities,
so they're being very homely, I should have been brilliant and smart and romantic and dramatic, have
saw being educated and a little stubborn. husana being serene, being regal, being very elegant,
being diplomatic, we getting to know the personalities and the kind of women they are. So now today
inshallah we'll talk about the next wife of the Prophet sallallahu ala married and that is going to
		

			be our mother, Zainab, bein dejection. So we said the Prophet peace upon him, he married to Zane
abs. And in fact, if you ever get a question, as I said, with regards to the professor lamp and the
women around him, and the question comes, you know, maybe in who wants to win the million reals or
something like that, and they asked you name a name of a female and it was in the life of Salah,
just say Xena, because he had two wives. That was enough. He had a daughter that was enough, he had
a granddaughter that was enough. So the prophets of Salaam really was fond of the name, designer.
And in fact, he gave in fact our magazine up in a name initially was Bara, which means the perfect
		

			one, the one that is free of any kind of imperfection, and this is an appropriate name to have and
therefore he actually changed the name to Zane up so does the name but he was was fond of so the
Prophet peace when he would marry our mother, Zainab, and we'll talk about how come the prophets of
Salaam exceeded the limit of having four wives. This restriction, of course, was not the initially
before Islam, and as the Sharia was evolving, they were no limitations in terms of how many women
men could marry men had many, many wives, and then they were actually limited to four. So we need to
consider when this regulation came down, without a doubt, the promises of them exceeded that limit.
		

			And when he passed away, he had more than four wives, but this is a very controversial issue, and
we'll discuss that in detail towards the end of the series inshallah. So let's get to our mother
Zane. I've been to Jackson ash, before we talk about Zainab has already is very much intertwined
with a very famous companion, which we mentioned before, and that is aid. So we have Zaid and Zane
up. And these stories go together. So who was aid we see, these are the one who is at Haifa, this
very, very famous companion. He was the adopted son of the Prophet peace be upon him. We said that,
you know, as a young boy, he was stolen from his. He was on a journey with his mom, and some bandits
		

			attacked them and stole him so he was a little boy stolen from his family. He was made into a slave
and he was sold. And he found himself in Makkah, so the schedule boy in Makkah, and it was just
about the time when Khadija and the professor was getting married, and her DJ comes to the market
and she wants to buy a wedding present for her new husband and she sees this little boy
		

			She takes a liking to him and she purchases eight as a slave. And then she comes to the profits or
salon and she says, Oh Muhammad, as a wedding gift, this boy will be for you. You will be your
servant, you will help you and you will walk so he was constantly around the prophets of Salaam. And
we know that the Prophet peace upon him never kept slaves in the in the sense of using him as
servants. Rather, he treated Zaid with the kind of treatment that a father or big brother would
treat a son. So they grew up in the presence of the Prophet Salaam, and he grew up in the household
of the Nabi sallallahu sallam, and this bond between the two of them was so deep and so loving that
		

			many years later, when Zaid was a young man or maybe any schemes, Z's father actually comes and
finds him in Makkah. And Z's father who loved his son so much. I mean, he was I mean, think of it
Olam, Allah protect us. There's nothing worse than losing a child. Imagine as a parent, you've been
looking for years for your long lost son. And yeah, you find him and so he comes with an abyssal
Salaam and again, we said the Prophet was not an abbey, he was just before the Buddha. And the man
says, Look, this is my boys aid. Name, your price, oh, Mohammed, and I'll purchase him from you
anything you want. I want my son back. So Prophet sallallahu Sallam looks at is not here. As my
		

			prisoner was my slave. He's free Zaid, you can go you can whatever you want to do is add up to you.
And Zaid says, Please don't let me leave. I don't know of any father other than you. I want to stay
with you and I want to be with you. Oh, Mohamed, again, he wasn't an abbey. So then the Prophet was
so moved in so moved by this incident observed that he took laid by the hand and he stood in front
of all the people of Makkah, and he said, Oh, koresh, I want you to be a witness. But as of today, I
have taken this boy as my son, he's my son, and his name from henceforward is not zedi niharika but
he is a the son of Muhammad. And this was something which Allah subhana wa Taala would rectify
		

			before Islam or before the lows of orphans. When you adopted an orphan, they became like your
biological children. This is a you take the name of your adopted parents, and so therefore many
Junior Sahaba they would say we never knew Zanesville name. We only knew him as add Mohammed Zaid
them son of Mohamed Salah Salam that was his name, and his nickname was gonna be the Beloved of the
Ibiza or Salah. So that was very, very dear to the NaVi salsa lamb. When the Prophet receives no boy
becomes an abbey, ladies of the very first people maybe even before abubaker the alarm that he
embraces some of the first four people of the Hydra ID and zayde and abubaker, the four of them very
		

			first for people to embrace Islam, so very senior men. And I showed the analysis that listen to this
amazing Heidi, she says that whenever there was a campaign, and Zaid was involved, he would be a
leader in that campaign, he was made a general or he would be given a leadership position. And in
fact, he says that if he was alive, when the prophet SAW someone passed away, crusade would pass
away before then it is also very, very tragic. But she said if he was alive, he would have been the
halifa Now remember, ISIS dead abubaker becomes the halifa and she says if Zaid was alive, my dad
wouldn't be the halifa zager would have been the halifa. So this is an amazing, you know, point to
		

			mention of who this man is a man who was And on top of all of that he has an honor, that not a
single companion not abubaker Nazionale rhodiola not Ayesha natalija no companion has the honor the
date has and what is that honor, that he is mentioned by name in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala
actually mentioned his name in the Quran. And in the course of our discussion around Zainab and Zaid
will talk about how he's mentioned. So how does a feature in the story of Xena so who is aina
another Zainab rhodiola Anna, she was about 25 years younger than the Prophet salallahu Salam. So
she was 30 years old at the hegira. She was a first cousin of the Prophet Salam. She was a cousin of
		

			his, and she was described as being a perfect woman. In fact, her name Barbara pietism, that she was
regarded as almost the most sought after woman in Makkah. She is described as being perfect in terms
of her appearance, she was told, elegant, and she was beautiful. She was shapely. She was, you know,
both lovely. And the main designer. On top of all of that she had a high lineage on top of all that
she was extremely educated. She was a crafts woman, so she was good with her hands. And she actually
had her own leather tanning business, she would make things with her hands, and she would sell this
and she became quite wealthy on this. She had a fiery personality. She was extremely independent.
		

			And even up until the age of 30, she had not married anybody. So this is quite strange that even in
our day and age, if you're 30 and you're not married, it's sort of like you know, you're getting on
now in time while you're not married in the context. She should have been married like 15 years
already. So why was she not married because she never felt that anyone was good enough for her. One
could say she had a little degree of self
		

			herself. vanity in terms of her attitude many men proposed to her, she said, none of you are good
enough for me, I made for a much better husband. Some have even said that some scholars have even
said she secretly desire that the only man that it was really suited for her would be Prophet
sallallahu Sallam himself, no man was good enough for her. So she was a very independent, and she
would speak her mind, like many of the words of the porcelain. And she had a very dramatic side to
her eyeshadow to learn how to tangle with quite a bit and would come to see, and she would say, of
Xena, that Xena was a lady that would quickly have a temper. She had a temper and she became very
		

			angry, she sort of explode. But then she would come down very quickly as well. She was very quick to
forgive. She would say that the prophets are seldom, he was fond of her a lot. He loved her very
much. He was very passionate with her because she was passionate, and she frustrated him a lot as
well, which we'll come to know. On top of all of these things, though, Xena was a deeply religious
woman that she was a very, very charitable woman, the thing that really stands out about her as
we'll come to see, if she excelled above any woman of her time in terms of charity, she continued to
operate this business not to become wealthy, but to give it in terms of charity. She was a very
		

			loving person for the poor. And when Islam came on the scene, she immediately embraced Islam. She
was the very first companions to embrace Islam. She went through the persecution with her brother,
and she immigrated to Medina. So now here we have this wonderful single woman that is known in the
community for having all these wonderful qualities. She's not married. The problem is someone loves
it as a cousin, he loves her as one of his own matches, and he loves very much his son. So he felt,
look, this is a perfect match. And he suggested to say, you should marry sign up, and he tells you,
you should marry Zane, I think the two of you would be a good match. And when the prophet SAW Selim
		

			suggests this, both of them are not very happy. Both of them are not too keen on this marriage. From
Zeno's perspective, she felt that she was entitled to a much better husband in zayde. Now, even
though she understood and she knew that he was a great companion, and he was a man of that was very
close to the prophets of Salaam, she was still human. And from her perspective, and from her natural
instinct, she believed that he was not suitable for her. She felt that look, ultimately he was a
slave. He was a man that was a slave at one point in time, he was bought, he was sold, that he is
not, he doesn't have a great lineage. He The only, you know, she felt that as a husband, I can't
		

			respect him as I should, that this is not a good match. And she was the fool. She actually sent her
brother to protest to tell the officer look sign up is interested inside. They also with all of the
nups qualities, and she's this sort of the woman. This basically tells the problem I'm not keen on
marrying her, because I can see there's going to be problems. We're not on the same page. She is,
you know, a well to do, lady, that's not I don't want to be I feel inferior in front of her and
shows you the Sahaba they are human, the Sahaba are not angels, they're not perfect. And in terms of
marriage, Allah subhanaw taala allows you to choose your partner that you feel will bring the most
		

			happiness that you feel is best for you. So say there's not really keen on Xena, Xena doesn't want
to meditate, and they both petitioned the prophets of Allah. Now Allah subhana wa Taala actually
reveals verses in the Quran which is quite strange. Allah subhanaw taala never before would tell two
people that you must get married because marriage is something that you are allowed to choose. Yet
Allah sees these verses of Surah
		

			Surah number 33 verse 36, Allah says woman can only mean one minute in either cada Allahu wa Sulu
Imran a akuna Rahman Fiera mean a marry him or maxilla hora Sula, hufa de la vida Medina. So Allah
says it is not befitting is not appropriate for a believing man or believing woman, that when Allah
and His Messenger so all of a sudden lamb have decreed a matter that they have any option or choice
in that decision. And whenever this believes in Allah and His Messenger has indeed strayed into play
era Subhana Allah, Allah is saying that when he decides on something, and when the prophets also
decides on something, then we as Muslims mean we have no choice. If the Prophet of Islam says to us
		

			jump, we jump if he says go, here we go, right we go, right. So the Prophet Solomon says to you, oh,
Zaid, oh, Xena, the two of you should get married Hollis, you have no further decision you don't
have a choice you have to obey His Word is no side note. Today you find a group of people who call
themselves could Annie you and we are the fathers of the Quran. And they will say we'll follow the
Quran because we obey Allah. But when it comes to the sooner when it comes to the laws, or the
commandments of the prophets of Salaam. Well yeah, this is the opinion of Mohammed we don't really
have to follow him as such that we can we don't have to follow the Hadith we only follow the Quran.
		

			While the Quran tells you very explicitly in this ayah that when the prophets of Salaam says
something, it is as binding on you as if Allah himself had said it. If the Prophet was Adam commands
you or forbids you, then you have to obey that
		

			You might find a law that is not in the Quran, but is commanded by the prophets of Salaam, for
example you will not find in the Quran, that Muslim is three rockers you will not find in the Quran.
That tawaf is seven rounds. The prophets of Salaam told you these things and therefore we obey
Allah. So we cannot say, Well, this is only his opinion, it's not a loss decision. When the Prophet
says something, a loss, it becomes a law. And here is a classic example the choice of choosing a
spouse. The Prophet says the two of them should get married, so they need to get married. So
grudgingly if we could say, you know, almost in protest, the two of them, they are believers, they
		

			submit they obey Allah and they obey His law suit. So they get married. And this marriage is rocky
from the start. Both people are keen on marriage, both people are not happy. And as the into the
marriage Sunni find that this lots and lots of conflicts, Zaynab and they can't get along, is
constant fighting and arguing and Suhana law. These are the two greatest I mean, of the best of
Maine, the best of women, the most pious of people, people giving charity people making Jihad
people, you know, standing up with the hedges, yet when they together, there's just no happiness
between them. And these, you know, constant fighting and arguing, there's no tenderness, there's no
		

			love that shows you also that just because someone is you know, the two people are good people, they
could still be an element missing in terms of love. This is something different. So they now
continuously complained to the professor numbers, lack of chemistry, this unhappiness that they find
Zeynep constantly sort of belittling, he makes me feel inferior. So he would complain to the prophet
SAW Salem about Xena and every time that he would complain to the prophets of Salaam, I don't want
to be with her I want to divorce. The Prophet commandment say keep your wife You keep her you're not
allowed to divorce her. And then Allah subhana wa tada would show shows the prophets of Salaam,
		

			something which really bothered him or disturbed him. The prophets also lamb came to know about a
law's revelation that Zainab and Zaid would ultimately divorce one another, and then he would marry
her. So this is one of the most controversial areas in terms of the Syrah in terms of the the
understanding of this matter. In fact, of all these marriages, the prophets of Psalms most
controversial marriage would be this marriage designer in his lifetime. No one question that he
married when she was young, nobody questioned that he would marry Sophia and Julia and they were
prisoners of war. No one worried about no one could decisive about this. But the message which he
		

			was criticized about in his lifetime, was his marriage to Xena. And in fact, from the eye of the
Quran, which we'll come to know in our next episode, I should say is that if even the prophets of
Salaam were to hide or conceal a verse of the Quran, it would be this verse commanding him to marry
Xena because it will be very, very taboo for him to marry her. Why is it terrible? Why is there an
issue? Because to marry your son's ex wife, your daughter in law is insist it's haram to do that
it's haram for a for a father to marry a woman that was with his son, and vice versa. A son cannot
marry stepmom. If his dad passes away with their divorces or So for the purposes of them too many
		

			dates ex wife, it would appear that he's marrying his son's ex wife, of course, ladies, not his son.
Now in the Arab context, they saw adopted children as biological children, and Allah subhanho wa
Taala wanted to set a precedent with regards to orphans and adoption. So in our next episode, we'll
come to know how zaidan Xena separated what caused them to separate and how it was the problem
actually ended up marrying her. And what was it like for Zeynep to be the wife of the prophet SAW
Selim, and to be around other wives with her feast on personality? There'll be a lot of action
between her and Ayesha rhodiola Anna so in the next episode, we hope to see you then for any
		

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