Muhammad West – The Women Around the Messenger SAW – Episode 10

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			Sayidina Muhammad Ali he was a beloved brothers and sisters in Islam salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah
wa barakato. sokola. Hey, thank you so much for joining us this episode 10 of our CDs, the blizzard
women around the messenger sallallahu wasallam. And for those who've been with us from the beginning
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well, or you could message us directly and inshallah we'll forward you those those those lectures
such as Aquila, hateful for spending your time with us. In our last discussion, we spoke about the
marriage of the prophets of Salaam to Ayesha, we mentioned how the Prophet peace be upon him was
married to so that he was in his early 50s had married soda. And then after a few years, he got
engaged, I shadowed Yolanda. And they did not live together initially or they had Rica and they did
not love to give it initially three years or so would pass. And then in the second year after about
		

			eight years or so before the death of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. He's about 55 when he would
when I shall have the language join him and she would live with him. So the Prophet peace upon him
at this point in time he has soda as his wife and he has eyeshadow Yolanda as his wife. And that's
why we mentioned this beautiful relationship between Ayesha and soda. Yesterday was about 50 years
gap between them. Yes, they were very different in the personalities. There was a beautiful
relationship of love and common support between these two women. And that's why she would always say
that if she could emulate any woman, she would love to be like our mother soda rhodiola Marine. So
		

			let's talk a little bit more about Aisha as the wife of the prophet SAW salon, and we said that I
share we've got a she's got such a special place in our area and why we love her so much is because
of her personality. Because she was of all the lives of the province of GM. She was the most
intelligent, she was the most confident she was the most outspoken. She learned the most when it
came to the learning from the Prophet asylum. She was not afraid to speak her mind and the Prophet
peace be upon him. If you look at his wives Pinilla. He must have you know, if you look at the women
that really came close to his heart are women that are very strong and passionate women that were
		

			not weak women that spoke their minds women like Khadija like Aisha like Zainab, like Kusama, when
you speak about these mothers, as we go up, go further, we'll see what strong characters, these
women, the women are on the mission trips, also lungworm. And I shared a lot on how what made a very
special was that she would learn so much about the prophets of Salaam, and she had the confidence
she had the courage to share that with the oma. And if we get a very, very unique insight as to what
happened between the province of Salem in his private capacity. So things that even her father would
not know, things that even say normally would not know, only Ayesha and the other fellow wives have
		

			the problem. They would need to see that aspect of him than a B as a husband sallallahu sallam, and
it was our mother Ayesha that gave this to us. So let's take a peek into the household of the
Prophet sallallahu sallam, the prophet peace be upon him today if we are fortunate we go to the
Muslim number we will find the grave of the prophets of Salaam, buried inside the masjid, the
eastern side of the masjid. So if we are if you can close your eyes and imagine for a minute, you're
facing the Qibla, the Qibla is south of Medina, to your left hand side. And this is basically the
eastern side of the masjid. This is where the houses of the wives of the person comes. It wasn't
		

			just I shows house the the all the wives of the properties, they would be this way they would stay
in there was a little compound a little complex, we only the prophets of Salaam and his wives, and
very, very intimate members of the elevate very special people got an opportunity to go into that
area. Of course, the sanctity of the whys of the purpose of them is something which is highly sacred
as mentioned in the Quran. So I shall dwell on how she took up residence in this area. And this is
the way the Prophet Salam is buried. have the honor and virtue of Ayesha she says that the Prophet
peace upon him died in her arms, and he's buried in her house. And this is an alarm, it makes one
		

			think that this man is a killer. He's the greatest and the best of occasion of Allah. And he's the
greatest man that ever walked on this earth. And when he died, he was basically a king. He ruled all
of the Arabian Peninsula. You know, hundreds of 1000s of people were following him, yet his house if
only three graves, only three people could lie side by side. And that was the extent of his house.
sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Maybe we'll get the opportunity to visit the Blissett message of the
Prophet sallallahu Sallam and to be in proximity of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam I mean so this
house that
		

			The prophets of Salaam had built for I shall Yolanda, it was very modest. It was very simple. There
wasn't much in it, I would say, months would go by sometimes three months would go by. And they
wouldn't be anything in the house besides the two black things, meaning the two meaning dates and
water, that no fire would be made for months, meaning I think, to be cooked, the Prophet peace upon
him would wake up, or he would come during the middle of the day, maybe 10 o'clock, 11 o'clock
morning, and he would say Ayesha, I'm feeling a little hungry, what is the to eat? And she would
say, rasulillah we have nothing to eat. salatu salam, and she and he would say in that case, I'm
		

			fasting, don't worry about it. Even you know, Subhan Allah, whenever you hear about the prophets of
Salaam, you'll find that he's always in an optimistic mood, always positive, no matter how bad
things are going, he's always confident. He's always, you know, looking at the bright side of
things, or hamdulillah always things are good. So we don't have food. Alhamdulillah today is an
opportunity to fast when they asked the lives of the prophets, Allah, What was he like, at home?
What was he like when we didn't get to see him? They would say he was you know, like a walking
around. And in the household, he would do things himself, he would come and he would spend time with
		

			us. He would make them the center. So even those viola, he's dealing with the the issues of the oma,
he's dealing with revelation from Allah, he's dealing with enemies from across the world. When it
comes down to his wives, his attention was fully on them. They were the center now they got all his
attention. His whole demeanor was to please them was to make them happy was to speak to them about
the day. And when he came in there, he didn't come in and say, you know what a miserable day I had,
how difficult it was do this for me do that for me. He would do his own domestic chores, he would
fish his own things. He would even prepare his own food. He would even saw his own clothing. When if
		

			there was a hole he would so he didn't ask one of his wives to do this. He would do it himself. So a
lot of it was lm. Yet it was in this simple house that he had with Russia, that we see how much love
and light and beauty there was between them. And he made an effort to, to to bring happiness the
prophets of Salaam would say between my pulpit my member and my house, the house we had lived
basically with the grave of the problem is today is an older term in reality man that is a garden
from the gardens of Jenna. And Pamela we know that this is perhaps the most sacred place of measured
another week is the place between the member the pulpit of the prophets of Salaam and the house of
		

			Ayesha. So if you come to visit in Abba, when you're facing the table again, this area between the
with the Imam would stand and we the house of Isaiah is a garden from the gardens of Jenna, as the
prophets of Salaam explained. And if we were to go into the house of Ayesha, what was it like?
Sorry, she would tell us that the Prophet peace be upon him was fond of giving not just her but his
wives. In general, cute nicknames. He wouldn't call them on the name. he would he would give Ayesha
for example, His nickname for her would be homemade, homemade Amin's The one who turns eight,
because she would blush often. And he would like to watch her when she was eating. And she becomes
		

			blushing, you know, because she becomes shy. She turns it in? And he would say yeah, how am I wrong?
And he would say actually, Shakira means the lady with beautiful colored hair, like kind of a, you
would call her on these names. So it's like saying, Oh, sweetie, oh, cutie lovely. How are you? This
is how you wouldn't address them on the names. And in fact, some of his wives as we'll come to know,
they were actually the birth names are horrible names, or the names, and he will change them to the
name like Xena, which means beautiful, someone who is, you know, very attractive. That's what he
would give his wives. I share with you a lot on how I would say that he was an affectionate man, you
		

			know, he loves to hold his wives, he would love to kiss them. He would like love to be in physical
contact with them. There's not just what I share with all these wives. I should even say the
prophets of Salaam would recite Quran while resting his head in the laps of his wives, they would be
sitting cross legged, and he would he would lie with his head in the laps, and he would recite Quran
and they would even be in the maintenance behind Allah you find some people. This is incorrect
notion that when a woman is in her means she's dirty, that everything she touches is dirty, but even
the angels of mercy, don't visit the house because she's in her menses, you find this inner critic
		

			notion that when a person has passed away, the lady in a hate is not allowed to, you know, kiss her
husband or her father, because the angels of mercy would be disturbed by this upon a lot of thought
from this the problem so solemn, would recite Quran in the labs, and it would be in the head, I
shall would say that the Prophet peace be upon him. He would be fun when he would come into the
house, he would kiss his wives, and he would even kiss them on the lips while he was fasting, but
she won't. This is not a practice that we should try to emulate because the prophets of Salaam was
the strongest of men when it came to, you know, abstaining from what is haram. So, if you're
		

			fasting, especially in the month of Ramadan, try not to kiss your wife on the lips but the Prophet
Salaam actually did this this hadith you find Muslim. The prophet SAW Selim, when you would have a
meal with these wives Ayesha would say that he would let his wife eat first. And when they would put
the utensil down, maybe she would drink from a cup. He would pick the cup up, and he wouldn't just
drink from the same cup. He would do.
		

			Look, we was her lips, and then he would put his lips on that same spot, or she was eating some kind
of meat and she took a bite, you take that piece of meat, and he would eat from the exact same spot
as her mouth was on just to show that extra emphasis of love and affection. We find this hard even
sooner and necessity. It is reported by an astrologer that the prophets of Salaam once he would he
would stay into Ayesha's eyes and he would say how beautiful How lovely they look, he would just
look at his wives and he would mention how attractive they are, how beautiful they are, you know, he
prefers a solemn says, when you approach your wife in intimacy, start with beautiful words, you
		

			know, they preceded it begin with with beautiful, beautiful words.
		

			I used to ask him, how he would describe the relationship. And she would ask, how would you describe
the relationship between us? What is our love, like? And you would say, Our love is like a knot, you
know, like a like a not like you tie something. And then she would check on him now and again and
say, how is the knot doing? And he will say, as strong as ever. It's as strong as evil even stronger
than before.
		

			On occasion, the prophet Salam would, you know, he would come home, and we would check on them. He
would ask about the day, he would listen to the complaints, he would listen to the concerns, and he
would make it all about them. Once I shut off the lawn mentions that, you know, the professor lamb
came home, and she was sitting in his lap and they were talking and she was in a good mood. And she
was smiling. And she said, Yeah, Rasulullah you know, a big deal for me. And you know, on a side
note, here we find eyeshadow is very dramatic. She's a woman that loves romance Omen that is very
sentimental. So she would find a lot of drama from her and a lot of excitement. That's beautiful,
		

			because it shows to our Muslim sisters, that this is nothing an Islamic that as part of being a
Muslim, is to show you a fiction to show that romance was the one that is halal for you, your
husband, your wife, this is a good thing. So she's sitting to imagine that she's sitting in the lap
of the professor lamb is holding her, and she has a lot to offer me. So the process of selling that
makes it to alpha is Oh ALLAH forgive Ayesha for all her sins, those that were done in the past,
those were done in the future. Those were public, those that were private, and she was she so moved
by this duality. She lost she feel so good that she actually falls out of his lap. And in the
		

			prophecies to her, you may do it, you really make you that happy? So she said, Of course why
wouldn't you do it make me feel this way? So he says, Do you know that this is a do I make for all
of the people I've met in every single solar solar system? Imagine that long before we're born 1400
years ago, the prophet Salaam was making a new app for you and for me, that Allah forgive us,
forgive all our sun Sol Allahu alayhi wa sallam, the prophets of Salaam, you know, we imagine when
we think of Nevada, and there was no one that was more stricter and more devout in the sense of
worship in the province of them. But when we think of Nevada, we almost imagined someone that is
		

			almost cold, that he's only focused on the afterlife, and he doesn't think of any human contact.
He's just in the masjid 24 seven. He says, Do you know that when the prophets of Salaam would be
nice in the masjid magic number, we need decaf. And obviously his house was next to the masjid. And
there was just a curtain or so separating the masjid and his house. And he would sometimes speak to
Ayesha across this curtain, and then he would tell her, you know, could you do my hair, so the
proper piece of wood would put his head into the house, while the capsule only is Hades in the
house. And he would also share with you comb my hair, or you even wash my hair. And she said I would
		

			do this for him. And at times I would be in my head and there would be no issue that his body would
be in emerging magnetic, but his head was in my lap and I was doing is he I don't know spinal these
as soon as how many of us have asked our wives, brush my hair or wash my hair sooner that is easy to
practice, but bring so much love and Baraka in our marriage. I should again and this this this is
somebody who had mentioned how the professor lamp would put his head in a housewarming teacup and
she would do is here Subhan Allah, one of the great you know great things about marriage and the
things which Allah subhanaw taala encourages, is the intimacy between husband and wife and Swan
		

			Allah we find in this this complete perfect Deen that Allah has not only encouraged us for husband
wives to be intimate to have * with one another, but even rewards us for that as a hobby.
We're complaining the poor Sahaba were complaining about the rich companions, not because they
wanted more money, they said Yeah. Rasulullah Sanam, how can we compete with our brothers that are
wealthy, you find that our brothers that are wealthy, they make Salah we make Salah, they fought and
we fought, but they give charity and we can't give charity so obviously they're going to get a
higher place in Ghana than us so the prophets are sometimes they always have charity other than
		

			giving money. Every Suhana wise charity every every little light is a charity, even smiling with
someone is a sadhaka is a charity events.
		

			Spending intimate time with your wife having * with your husband with your wife is a
charity Sahaba was shocked.
		

			Well, Allah subhanho wa Taala that he would mean for sleeping, having making love to my wife, I'm
enjoying myself and I was going to give me the word profit of course, will you not punish you if you
did? Haram, you committed Zina. So obviously, if you do, hallelujah, you being rewarded, so the
prophets of Salaam and our Sharia encourages husbands and wives to make this form of ibadah. It's
good for us in our marriage, and the prophets, Allah gives us complete guidelines in terms of
intimacy, telling us reminding us that both husband and wife has needs and both of us need to, we
need to look after the needs of our partner profitsystem says to the husband, you know, when you are
		

			intimate with your wife, do not withdraw yourself until she has fulfilled her desires Subhanallah
that a wife when the husband is in need, you know, put everything aside if you can, anything that
is, you know, not, at this moment, see to the needs of your husband see to the needs of your wife,
because the spinnings Baraka, and of course, it's good for your marriage, it's good for society. So
the problem seldom was very open about about intimacy. And Ayesha would say that when they when they
had had *, and they will universal, once we have been intimate we know that also becomes
compulsory, then she would say we would make a hustle from the same bowl, they would go out together
		

			to a place outside of Medina when they were alone. And they will take a shower together and not a
shower. Obviously, they would use a bucket or a jug. And she would say we would have one chunk and
we would hustle from that same chunk. And even even in that moment, they would be playful, she would
mention how the hands would patch and rub against each other. And they would splash each other with
water, they would compete and then she would say leave me some water don't use all of it because I
need to also and he would say to her, leave me some water we find this mentioned both inside Buhari
and NSA sort of Lord Himself What a wonderful husband he was the prophets of Salaam. He understood
		

			his wife's and he knew that in Asia, there was this playfulness for there was this youth This was
inquisitive nature about that she needed to be entertained, that she would love to see new things
and experience new things. So when he wasn't a journey, as we said before, he would throw lots
amongst his wives, you know, they would all do a lot. And he would take the lucky one that pull the
the straw basically. So I share would come along on some of these Jain journeys. And she was very,
very happy and excited to go on his journeys. And these journeys were not for any reason. They were
not like, trips for, for for sightseeing. This was sometimes in jihad, you'd bring these wives with
		

			along with him during jihad. And it was during one of these journeys after the Jihad had been
completed. And they were on their way back home to Medina. So the province of Lem along with his
along with Russia and the entire Muslim army, they on the way back home, they passing through the
desert, and he says to his Sahaba Guys, look, why don't you go ahead, why don't you go back to
Medina and leave me behind. I'd like to spend some time alone with my wife speidel. I had spent, you
know, the past few days maybe in the middle of in the middle of battle, he was focused on the Jihad
he was focused on, on you know, spending a lot of time into our now he realizes I need to give some
		

			time to my wife. I had seen to the needs of the oma, Now it's the time for my wife. So he says to
the army guys, leave me alone, I shall I would like to spend some time here in the desert by
ourselves. And when the army had left, and they were alone, and now I shadowed a lot on how could
could basically come out of her hijab. He says to her, Come, let's take a race. And they began and
the race up and down. And I should say at that point in time, I was still young, I was still
basically slender and skinny, and I could run much faster. And we took a race and he said I beat him
and will lie in my heart of hearts. I believe he later we'd like any good husband, when you're
		

			playing a game. Maybe it's on the Xbox today. So behind Allah or if you are jogging with your wife,
you playing table tennis or cards or whatever it might be sooner play games with your wife,
literally, this is from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. And so he no she wasn't. She
was very happy about this. This she would say many years would go by, she completely forgot about
this incident. And they found themselves on another one of these journeys. And all of a sudden he
again, he tells us Ahava, leave me alone. We'd like to be here in the desert. And she forgot about
the city, Elijah, I want that image. Remember, you beat me all those years ago. So I would like a
		

			rematch. And this time she says I was a little bit heavier. And I was when I was older. So we took a
race and this time, he beat me and he sees and then and they laugh together. And he says to her,
this is makes up for that meaning it's one one, the score now is one one and Subhanallah that's how
is how it ended. The past salon passed away soon after that will continue next in our next session
more on the relationship between Asia and the profitable salon to keep this very unique insight as
to the prophets of Salaam as a husband. Just one announcement for those inshallah who would like to
participate in our Muharram program yet Bonanno Islam as soon as
		

			We come into the new year 1440 and we wish all of us in the oma a blizzard Mubarak neuem Allah
subhanaw taala grant all of us goodness, Allah grant all the success for the oma across the world
success in this coming New Year. May Allah make it easy for the mothers going through hardship in
Syria and Palestine, in Yemen, in Burma throughout the world. My 1440 bring goodness to this oma so
as it's the customary Islam to commemorate the the new year we invite our youngsters, our kids from
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