Muhammad Salah – Gardens Of The Pious #128 Mar 23rd 2015

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The Prophet of Islam is known as Islam, and its historical significance is discussed. The speaker discusses various narratives and their meaning in the context of Islam, including the use of words like "will" and "will" to describe emotions and behavior. The emotional aspect of women is also discussed, along with the importance of not giving love to women and showing the face of the woman in a way that is meant to be emotional. The importance of not acknowledging people's actions and not giving too much information to others is emphasized. The segment also touches on the negative impact of divorce cases and the importance of women being treated with respect.

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			Salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala
NaVi almost a first ad and I'm Muhammad in while early he will be women who Allah or bad brothers
and sisters will come to another new live edition of your program Guardians of the pious by the
Grace of Allah today insha Allah is going to be an episode number 151.
		
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			And that is going to be the second episode in explaining the 34th chapter in the series. The chapter
which is known as Babel or CLTV, Nisa all the recommendations with regard to women.
		
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			In the remaining few in the remaining last minutes
		
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			before the end of the last episode, we tackled the beginning of the chapter. And mmm I know we
listed two if both of them are of sort any set. And of course, if we're talking about
recommendations with regard to women, there is a whole chapter which does not exist in any other
book, which Allah subhanaw taala named it Surah An Nisa that is the fourth chapter of the Quran. And
it doesn't mean that Allah subhanaw taala only dealt with women rights, and how to treat women and
commendations with regard to women only in the Shabbat know. In Surah Al Baqarah. There are many
ayat in Surah to Tala which means divorce regulating the process of divorce. And what follows
		
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			divorce. In many, eight Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			dedicated
		
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			many are yet to tackle the rights of women, something which humanity we're not aware of before, as
will also mentioned, the condition of women before Islam. The two I had was a number 19 And so
number 129 of Surah tennis and number 19 Allah subhanaw taala said why she ruhuna Bill mouth, why
she wouldn't have in my roof and live with them in kindness deal with them with gentleness
		
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			and also in Surah Al Baqarah 228 Allah subhanaw taala says, well I'm gonna miss lady Allah Hina will
mouth this idea is a doctrine is like a cornerstone when it comes to the rights of the spouses.
Whenever a husband asks for his rights, and a woman, meanwhile asked for her rights, they will
present this idea while 100 Mr. Liddy Allah Hina Bill maruf Yanni for them, for women, for the wives
that are right, similar to those who charge you upon them. This is like you know, a balanced
equation,
		
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			rights and duties. There are no rights without duties, and there are no duties without rights. Then
the first Hadith we have in this segment, and in this chapter recommendation with regards to women,
many people misuse this hadith.
		
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			And I would render that to basically ignorance, lack of understanding and prejudice. Of course.
Let's learn about the Hadith which is Hadith number 273 Hadith 273. In the series, a hadith is
agreed upon its authenticity collected by both Bukhari and Muslim, narrated by the gate companion,
Abu Hurayrah, Radi Allahu Allah. And I want all women before men to pay attention to this hadith.
And I want non Muslims as well as Muslims to pay attention to this hadith and see how the Prophet of
Islam, the prophet of humanity, the Prophet, whom Allah sin, as mercy to the wolves, have dealt with
the rights of women.
		
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			To the point that in the remaining few moments in his life, the Prophet sallahu wa salam still give
advices to men to be kind in dealing with women. And Ebihara irata Radi Allahu Anhu
		
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			the meaning of this hadith and it's different aerations A rated Abu Hurayrah may Allah be pleased
with him, that the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him said Take my advice with regard to women is
also I enjoy upon you. I recommend to you that you should be kind to women act kindly towards women,
for the will created from a rib and most curved part of a rib is uppermost part
		
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			and if you attempt to straighten it, you will break it and if you leave it alone, it will remain
curved. So add kindly to word women.
		
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			In another narration, also collected by both an imam Bukhari and Muslim Allah have mercy on him. The
Prophet sallallahu sallam said a woman is like him and if you attempt to straighten it, you will
break it. But if you benefit from her, you will do so. While Corvinus remains in her.
		
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			There is another narration which is collected Malema Muslim.
		
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			And in this narration, the Prophet peace be upon him said
		
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			women has been created for merit.
		
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			And in no way will be Satan for you. So if you want to benefit from her, you will benefit from her
while the Corvinus remains in her if you attempt to straighten her up Baker and break in her is
divorcing her. Okay, what kind of
		
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			curve
		
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			or been some people even say crookedness, that is meant in this hadith, what is the similarity
between the woman and direct
		
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			and Mara to holier cut men Villa create it for Mary. And there it is, Ben is curved. And Maura
Tocopilla in another narration that Amara is similar a woman is similar to the rep
		
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			I think we do have some images to the reps and the curve nature of the reps to serve best the
purpose for which it was created to protect the lungs.
		
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			And if you can show the images I will appreciate that if it is possible.
		
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			I want you to imagine there is also this is one single rip if you can
		
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			show another one which have all the ribs together
		
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			okay.
		
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			This is an image to the left side of the screen, all the reps and sample of two reps. I want you to
imagine if
		
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			the ribs instead of being curved, or crooked or bent, rather they were made straight.
		
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			Sorry, they will not serve the purpose. They will not create it for the season.
		
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			They are giving a hug to the lungs, protecting its contents. Accordingly, the best stature for the
reps to be curved
		
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			and the best condition of a woman to be herself the same way that she used to create it. She was
created with more emotions than a man. She was created with more mercy than a man loving caring than
a man and that's why we say women are more emotional. Is this like a discredit is something like
		
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			combs when it comes to women know, imagine if a woman behaves like a man.
		
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			And she says, You know, I buried my emotions. I don't have feeling I know I have no mercy. I'm very
powerful. And they call such woman, the iron woman. I don't want to marry an iron woman.
		
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			I want to marry a delicate, peaceful, loving, caring, and emotionally sensitive woman.
		
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			So this is what is meant by Julio Mandela. We're in our the mirfield will Allah look at the
uppermost part of that rib. It is the most curved part of the rib. Why
		
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			this curve in there
		
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			is actually a sign of perfection. Not a sign of weakness, not a sign of crookedness, because it was
meant to be this way.
		
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			If it was rather a straight, it would not serve the purpose. It would my hand. But because it is
curved this way, and the uppermost part is the most curved part.
		
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			That is called L KML. Perfection.
		
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			When a couple have the son who's having fever at night, in most cases, it will be the mother will
stay up, changing the pads, giving him the medication, maybe, you know,
		
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			means to reduce the temperature, that she will stay up next to him all night. But for the man who
wants to go to work, who has earned a living, you know, he entrusted already his wife to look after
the child. Each one has a role to play
		
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			the mother she conceives for nine months. Then she breastfeeds for another two years, Lehmann Arada
and UT Maraba will have new who will fill Soylu fairly soon Ashara total altogether, about 30
months, you know, 30 months, and she's experiencing the pain with pleasure.
		
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			She's happy, she's expecting her baby, she's expecting the child, whether it's a boy or a girl or
twins SubhanAllah. And if there is any thing wrong with the baby, normal women do not say I don't
want him thrown away, or just get rid of him or her know, now the dedicate the rest of the lives to
look after them.
		
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			It is known that the man goes out earn their living to support the family, and he doesn't encounter
a fraction of what the woman encounters. So this emotional part in her was meant she was created
this way. That is the meaning of you gotta be careful. You gotta be gentle. When you deal with
women, it is different than dealing with men. Because she's like a ramp. Okay, you're a straight
man, you're very tough.
		
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			You're very serious. But this is not gonna work. If you want to enjoy the rib, you yourself have to
turn around it to curve yourself around the the same way. You don't give a person a hug with your
open hands like that, or state with a frown face. You know, you want to hug your neck guess you have
to cooperate. You yourself wrap your arms around the person whom you love.
		
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			Why in order to show emotions, similarly is a woman and the mother particularly. That's why those
who investigate the ayat in the Quran, and also the Hadith, when the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam
was asked Dr. Rasool Allah, Min happen Naseby, Hosni Sahaba, T, O Prophet of Allah, who have more
rights upon me, said omok, your mother. And the Kushner said, Then whom he said, your mother, then
he said, Then whom he said, your mother.
		
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			Then he said, Then whom he said your father, three times, a few days ago, you know, many parts of
the world were celebrating Mother's Day.
		
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			You know, we consider this a sign of
		
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			weakness, and a sign of shortcoming that only one day per year to commemorate the remembrance of the
mother.
		
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			That means you're not taking care of your responsibility and you're not fulfilling your duties
throughout the rest of the year. As much as this year.
		
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			For every Muslim Mother's Day is an every single day.
		
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			Not only once a year to visit her in the nursing home, to give her some gifts. She's not expecting
that for me.
		
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			So anyway, I don't want to divert from the subject, which is the similarity what will Shebaa
		
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			the similarity between a woman and a curved rep will say, from an ethical point of view, that the
best position and the best shape of the reps and the reps to serve the purpose is to be curved like
that. And the most curved part is the topmost part. The the more the emotional the woman is, the
better towards raising her kids be in kind of loving to her husband and so on. When some people pick
on women and take advantage of, you know, the obvious, the apparent meaning of the word, Kabbalah in
our doula, Allah etcetera and say what can I do? Your curve like?
		
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			This was like twisting the truth, not realizing not understanding that it's a praise, not a
discredit.
		
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			It's a praise, not a discredit. This is what we understand from the Hadith that is tells will be
Nisei higher And subhanAllah look at the beginning of the Hadith the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
introduced to the statement of a woman is like * or created from her by saying, Be kind to women,
take my advice, act upon my recommendation be kind to women deal with women gently because there are
gentle they are soft. Of course there are some exceptions. That's why have you salatu salam learn or
rasool Allah He is Allah La Jolla Salama or Raji that Amin n is
		
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			a woman who will be used like she's a man. She dresses up like a man. She acts like a man she talks
like a man she behaves like a man. I don't think you know, a couple of whom
		
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			they are married. And the woman or the wife behaves like a man this marriage life will continue.
		
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			Because a man is interested in Marion a woman an emotionally loving, caring, delicate, soft woman.
		
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			Not somebody that they can wrestle against each other. And it says one word and she says 10 You
know, every every job, every business every shop, every factory, every vehicle has only one driver
and an assistant. Sometimes the driver rest so the system takes over. But the driver is the one
who's in charge do not disturb me.
		
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			He's not a dictator, though. But he is the one who's taken the lead. So the other person should be
assisting hand in over the mean so that the driver the controller, the reader manages to achieve
success in their business. They are helping one another, not competing against each other.
		
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			That is the first Hadith and Nabil Salah sallam said in the first thing.
		
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			You can look at the Arabic text. He began by saying it's also been decided by Allah that is the
first statement. Then after you say whatever you wanted to say and explain the similarity between
the woman and the read. He said again festivals have been decided to hire like this is more worthy
that it should be kind into in your treatment to women. May peace and blessings be upon Prophet
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			the following hadith is Hadith number 274. The rated R bla igneous ama are all the Allahu Akbar
Abdullah in his ama is almost Elena's nephew, Allah who lives with him and who sent me on NaVi
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to work on NACA Nakata Lydia Cara Sakala Rasool allah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam is in the US skaha in Bath Allah ha Rajan as he is on I had him on many on fear after two
Medaka Nisa for Wow Buffy Hina Sakala Yeah, me do a how to come. So usually do Murata who gel the
lovely fella Allahu La Giro ham in theory Oma. So now our home field will Hickey MinnowBoard Tati
will Carla, lineal Paco haidakhan Minaya file Matata Khan, Ali, Abdullah hedonism, ah, may Allah be
		
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			pleased with him.
		
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			narrated that he heard the Prophet peace be upon him giving a speech. When he mentioned the she
camel, the she camel, which was given to Prophet Saleh peace be upon him as a miracle when his
people demanded soap and the man would kill her. The Messenger of Allah peace be upon him
		
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			Say, when the most wicked man amongst them when forced to kill the sheep camel. Then in Surah
Hashem, of course, Allah subhanaw taala says in a number 12 is embedded as QA, which means signifies
that a distinguished, wicked and most powerful chief of the people jumped up to kill her to kill the
sheep camp. Then the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam made mention of women, and said, some of you
beat his wife, as if she was a slave. Then he sleeps with her by the end of the day. Then the
Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam admonished them against laughing at another's passing wind,
saying, Why does any of you laugh at another doing what he does himself?
		
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			This hadith deals with many aspects. But we're only concerned about the middle one. The first aspect
is concerning. In the speech, the Prophet sallallahu sallam was sharing with them the story of
Samos, the people of Prophet sila, peace be upon him, when they demand it from the prophet that if
you present to us a miracle, we will believe in you and will follow you. And they demanded that a
specific miracle that they wanted Allah to produce for them, or Salah to produce for them as she
camel pregnant chi camel from a dead rock, in front of them, they said, this dead rock. If your Lord
can produce
		
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			a pregnant chi camel, they were actually being sarcastic.
		
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			And they couldn't imagine that Allah is Able to do all things. So, Saleh Ali Salam
		
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			took the covenants from them that if Allah subhanaw taala were to deliver the sign that they will
believe him and will follow on him. And they agree, but there was a condition that Allah subhanaw
taala said, I will bring it from this the drug provided that they should let her drink from the
water will for the whole day.
		
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			And every other day, they can drink and on the day that they will not be able to drink from the
water will and instead they will get the milk sufficient for everybody in town. enough milk for
everyone. So instead of drinking water, you simply drink milk. And they agreed. And subhanAllah
Allah subhanaw taala made it happen. He goes the dead rock to split and a pregnant beautiful she
camel came out of it and give birth afterward. And it was going fine. Of course those who disbelieve
they continue to disbelieve, until one day one of them the worst and the most wicked one of them
slaying the sheep camp in Bath Sakala home rasool Allah Nakata Allah He was so clear focus Abu Farka
		
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			who have fed them them Allah you him, or boom be them beam. First of all I have walkabout then Allah
subhanaw taala pool upon them his punishment. This is a story which was not dealt with in detail and
this hadith, and it is not our subject but just for the sake of sharing with you. The main subject
that the Prophet sallallahu sallam was talking to the Companions about the story of the she camel
then
		
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			he mentioned women.
		
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			In many occasions Prophet Mohammed Salah Salem took advantage like in Hydra tallada in the farewell
speech during 100, Rhoda he again said it's also been nice that you hire while he's given hope by
here and there is also when you set your hierarchy on your deathbed Estelle so beneath your
hierarchy. I advise you to be kind and gentle to women. Let it be your mother, your sister, your
daughter or your wife. Here are Nabi sallallahu alayhi salam assayed.
		
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			The current news for our fee Hannah. So he preached men to be kind towards women, and he reminded
them to be kind to their wives. In this particular Hadith, he is talking about the wife. So Medaka
Anissa Sawa Fie, Han. And he said, sallallahu alayhi salam after he advised the husbands to be kind
and gentle in their dealing with their wives. He condemned
		
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			an evil act that some people use to do before Islam, and some people continue to do after Islam. It
was common before Islam that if anyone beat his wife hit her or kill her. No one would say a thing.
She's a woman.
		
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			But in Islam Hola Hola, Mr. Lady, Allah enable my roof to 28th to the second chapter of the Quran
Surah Al Baqarah for them that are right similar to those which are due upon them. So in the video
Salallahu Alaihe Salam condemn the misbehavior of some who do what? Yeah. Hello configures, Lido,
Murata who gel de la VD, Farah Allah Who yo, yo, Hammond? How could a person how could a sane
husband beat his wife as if she was a slave? Then by the end of the day, he demands her to share bed
with him and sleep with him and have an intimate relationship with him. What kind of person is this
person? Because the sexual relationship is not just, you know, to satisfy your desire. It's about
		
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			emotions. It's about love. It's about compassion, intimacy. So how do you accept somebody who lays
his hand upon his wife, and in by the end of the day, his leaves with her this is how the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam logically reason that it doesn't make any sense for a person who mistreats his
wife, then he wants her he demands her to love him to share a bed with him and to satisfy him. That
doesn't make any sense. So no other home then he preached them with regards to another aspect. It is
not our subject, but since it is in the hadith is just shed some light on it in a minute. Where are
the homefield Hickey, Mina, Bertha, he advised him concerning
		
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			laughing at another's passing one when somebody breaks when, or passes when some people would laugh.
He said, What are you laughing at? Isn't it something that you guys do? But it doesn't mean that
this is an encouragement to people to pass when out loud, know what he's saying? Number one, he
taught us the etiquette concerning what to do in public. Can you imagine that somebody was burping
in the presence of the Prophet Salla semicircle Fana Do
		
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			you know, this is no sense to BB in public, in front of people are in the prayer.
		
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			Then he said,
		
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			Why do you laugh at somebody who will pass wind?
		
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			And this is something that you all do. So number one, if you are under pressure, that by accident,
you broke when? Because you're not expected no one is expected to pass when while sitting with
people or pass gas. And he's acting like it is not him, especially if you mix it with sound. I came
across some you know, non Muslim colleagues at work. And they will do that. You know, they think
this is like natural, normal bourbon, you know, passing wind and all of that. No, this is not right.
This is not polite whatsoever. When he said if somebody did so and he's embarrassed because it was
by accident, people would laugh at him. Why don't you do the same? So stop laughing at that. These
		
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			are some of the beautiful teachings that we learn from this hadith. Let's take a short break and
inshallah we'll be back in a couple of minutes please stay tuned
		
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			Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh and welcome back. Our phone numbers beginning with the area
code 0020 Double 01 Double 024645 a three. Alternatively I equals 0020 Double 125 Double 08679 and
the email address is [email protected]. Without any further ado,
		
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			if any of you would like to give us a call, or Ask a question concerning the subject that we're
addressing, that is a priority or otherwise inshallah we'll be more than happy also. To take
whatever question that you have.
		
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			The following hadith is Hadith number
		
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			275 Hadith number 275. Narrated also by Abu Hurayrah Radi Allahu wa Ebihara titled The Allahu Anhu
called Carla Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam Leia for fluc minute minute and in Cary Hammond
Hello Hello Can everybody Amin ha ha. Carla, via who? Our Muslim a holo camera who whare may Allah
be pleased with him
		
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			rated that the messenger of ALLAH HAFIZ be upon him said a believer must not hate his wife was a
believing woman. Simply if he dislikes one of her characteristics. You
		
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			He will be pleased with another. It's as simple as that. This is a Hadith, which is narrated white
Muslim. May Allah have mercy on him. No one is perfect.
		
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			You're not perfect.
		
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			So why do you expect people to be perfect when dealing with you? It would be nice if they are
perfect. But no one is perfect.
		
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			No one is complete. And this is the reality of the human nature. One ovary OFC in enough Salah a
marathon de su Illa Mara hemraj al in San Lucia is forgetfulness, and Inserm act falesha. Injure,
della is very argumentative and insane mankind is created with this human nature have been inclined
into singing shortcomings. We are full of shortcomings. That's why when when a young man is looking
forward to get married, and he spends a year two, three and four and five, and he says chef pay for
me to get married. Why don't you get married, I've been looking for the past four and five years, I
can't find a single woman.
		
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			Because he's looking for a perfect woman. I say if you are perfect yourself, you have all the right
to look for a perfect woman but you're not perfect either.
		
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			You're not perfect either. infallibility died with the death of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam.
So when you marry a woman, and when a woman marries a man, we have to compromise. There are some
errors that we have to overlook some drawbacks that we have to deliberately neglect smartness and
intelligence is not to show your partner that, hey, I'm fully aware of all what you do. But actually
being intelligent sometimes is
		
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			you overlook your partner's faults. You pretend as if you haven't seen him or you haven't seen her,
you neglect their minor errors, do not make a big deal out of it, so that the life would keep
rolling. You know, and the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam in this very diplomatic,
		
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			very wise advice. He says, a husband should not simply hate his wife because he objects or he does
not like one of our attitudes. If you don't like this characteristic, there are other things that
you can enjoy other good traits and characteristics. You know, it is not the end of the world to be
continued after this call insha Allah Salaam Alaikum.
		
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			Suppose your idea from organda Santa Monica, Wellington Salam Sheikh, thank you for the programming
another word you mean Same to you. Thank you sister jewelry. I would like to ask that Sheikh, is it
permissible for a man to marry a woman when they say the women they don't know? Any? Like a man is
not telling the parents because the woman
		
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			she's the woman he's going to marry is like they don't support him to marry the woman. So he decided
to marry a woman without the parent is conceived. Is that marriage? Hello? Are
		
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			you asking about his parents consent, not her
		
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			parents so the parents Sophie oh man they agree but the side of the mind they don't agree.
		
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			So their mind decides to marry a woman and is that marriage? Galilean? Yes, this marriage is lawful.
But is it proper? Can you imagine? The happiest moment for the parents and in their entire lives is
to see the son or the daughter getting married? So imagine if the person marries without notifying
his parents? Is that how you become beautiful to your parents? But whether the marriage is valid or
not? Yes, it is valid. Because interview solenoid SlMs aid lanica interview Iligan the guardian of
the woman will share who they are added to just witnesses. So it is not required for the parents of
the groom to agree to give their consent. But notifying them inviting them seeking their prayers for
		
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			blessings is very essential. Of course. Santa Monica Mercado Libre cat
		
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			sister Asya Santa Monica valley to miss Ramadan DeLand you were in fact
		
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			how do you shake on phone hamdulillah thank you for asking sister SML is you and your family deserve
to laugh It's been teaching
		
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			these initial visits from Malaysia. sha Allah Day After Tomorrow we're heading to Malaysia
inshallah. Inshallah shake my son you
		
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			Then he inshallah he's in the group of heroes, and inshallah he is there he organized the lecture
for the show. I just wanted your contact number so that my son can contact you there in Asia and in
Malaysia. I don't I don't know how can I contact you? If you send it on a Facebook habit and my
husband because I'm not connected to the Facebook. My husband can collect it from the Facebook deck
so
		
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			I'm very happy that my son will meet you in Santa Barbara, California. I'm happy as well. You know,
it's always lovely to visit Malaysia I love Malaysia and its people of hamdulillah and whenever I
pray in the masjid, in any of the massages of Malaysia I feel like peace of mind. Masha Allah,
Allah, Allah Allah very nice and sweet people.
		
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			The conference will be straight pass, Mufti Menk and mother hen green.
		
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			And say Drago and myself in sha Allah will be there. The contact can be collected from the control
or simply my page having page me on my page on the Facebook and send his number and I will contact
him Inshallah, just like Mahara and Salaam Alaikum
		
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			sister had had the from Chad Salam aleikum, Sister Hadiya.
		
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			Allah
		
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			it's just an idea. Just create your TV, please.
		
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			Awesome.
		
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			I know you can talk Go ahead.
		
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			muted? Yeah, I got two questions. The first one, I'd like to know the real meaning of 5g and How
Long Island
		
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			because some of men are saying that
		
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			Qalamoun aniline meaning that the men are superior. And the second one is not about the topic, but
like to know different people to
		
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			learn English and the way they need it.
		
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			And some people advised me to keep on listening to the music. And I would like to know
		
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			from on holiday, because for me, it's always to improve my English. And sometimes I saw that my
friends who are watching
		
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			and listening to the music
		
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			and English and I would like to, I would like you to advise me, because
		
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			my conscience is not allow me to be listening to sometimes this Yes, but
		
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			I'm not satisfied with
		
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			the fact that people are saying that. For me, it is not Coughlan in mind
		
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			saying that is only for learning English.
		
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			Okay, I got your question.
		
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			How do you Yeah, thank you. Exactly.
		
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			I did explain before this area, a regional local Ramona island he said and the interpreters and the
commentators of the Quran say Alquimia here means the guardianship, the protection, not necessarily
the superiority because the Prophet sallallahu SlMs said there is no superiority for an Arab over an
Arab or for a wide over a black visors no for a man over a woman except through righteousness and
good deed.
		
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			The determining factor of superiority is righteousness. And I am number 18 sortal Herat a lot of
mighty said in a coma coma and the light apoco then you find another aim and Pamela Sally Hammond
Zachary owns Minun fellow here now hire Tom play button while energy Xia gnome at home, cinema can
we are maroon whosoever does good deeds whether a male or a female while being a Muslim, there is no
distinction between people based on the gender but there is as I just mentioned an earlier example.
There is a driver, there is a leader, there is somebody in charge and there is an assistant. If at
home we have two leaders and the man is a leader and a woman is a leader in a sense that they
		
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			compete with each other speciality that will lead to chaos but to
		
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			And each one is a garden and is a leader in their field and in their territories. This is how their
marriage survives. And this is how they raise their kids properly, and they enjoy their lives. And
this is all in line with what we just mentioned earlier.
		
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			So, it does not mean that a particular creature because of the gender or because of the complexion,
or because of the whatever is better before Allah than another, the determining factor is
righteousness, and you fulfill your duties to Allah subhanaw taala. As in the Hadith, if a woman
offers her five daily prayers, and if she fails during the month of Ramadan,
		
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			if She obeys her husband,
		
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			in whatever commandment which Allah subhanaw taala has commanded as well. And she goes himself, she
goes him in his absence in her chastity and in his worth,
		
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			it would be say to her on the Day of Judgment, not just into paradise, rather, into Paradise from
whichever gate you choose, choose, you want to enter from this gate from this gate, and there are
eight gates for heaven, Barack Allah,
		
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			or whoever told you that, you know, listening to music is a means of education or a means of
improving or whatever, we do not recognize it this way. We recognize it as this is the instrument of
Satan. This is the instrument of Satan. And there are tons of other ways to improve your language or
education or whatever, other than just listening to music as users mentioned earlier, because
according to the vast majority of the Muslim scholars, and based on sound references, that it is not
permissible to listen to music, with the exception of some musical instruments such as the roof on
certain occasions such as weddings and festivals and these kind of celebrations. BarakAllahu
		
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			okay, I had another phone but it was cut off please try again.
		
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			Brother Akbar from organda. Feigin, insha, Allah
		
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			Akbar Salam alikoum.
		
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			Oh, let's confirm
		
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			that issue mining the data to display whether or not it is running or not. Akbar basically just
asked the question from the middle if you can start overall appreciate it.
		
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			Can you repeat your question? Please?
		
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			Sir,
		
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			can you hear me? Hello? Can you hear me?
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Let me send
		
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			you a question please.
		
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			Yeah, I would like to confirm whether it
		
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			is I would like to confirm whether it's Chanel, if you marry that people tie with their wife we have
married his his wedding or not, according to profit seeking
		
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			to marry the wife of your brother, you mean a one who's divorced? Like your husband divorced her.
		
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			Okay, obviously, you cannot hear me. But in any case, if you're asking about who is permitted for
you to marry and who's not good to Salatin is number 23. It would answer your question in detail in
sha Allah Baraka Luffy.
		
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			Back to the beautiful Hadith in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, lay a fork
minute minute and in carry him in her hula con, or the admin her, her her.
		
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			A whole appeal does not just refer to certain characteristic, but also refers to habits, traditions,
or actions. Like you know, somebody who enjoys his wife's cooking all the time. He came home once
and the food was not well done. It was not cooked properly. It did not take this thing. Or some
people make big deals out of that. And I know that many divorce cases took place over the food. The
food was not warm enough. The food did not taste good. The food was very salty. No, he did not do
your homework properly. I worked very hard in things of this nature. You know when one person asked
me that he divorced his wife and he said to her you are for me haram like my own mother.
		
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			And he said I regret and I want to take her back. I said what was the problem when he
		
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			He went home from work. And he saw something at home which he did not like. Okay. He was very angry
at her. And he started chatting, without even asking her. What happened.
		
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			Later on, he told me that was really making him feel remorse and so is because she was not at home.
She's been helping my sister at the hospital all day long. And she just walked in before me. And I
wronged her. Look.
		
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			This is the greatest achievement of Shaitan to separate the cup of Muslim cup. Especially to add to
that when you make your wife haram to you like your own mother. This is very complicated. So now my
		
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			sister Maria Anna Salam Alikum from de que se
		
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			le from Sonoma rahmatullah wa barakato.
		
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			I want
		
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			to somebody told me
		
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			if the woman left, marry her
		
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			if the woman not married, didn't
		
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			notice this is not true. This is not true sister, Marie, and because, you know, sometimes it's not
up to you, you know, that normally, women count is greater than means count. Like, you know, women
outnumber men. And, you know, many women cannot find a man cannot find a husband. We have many
countries and many localities ministers who are looking for men to marry. She wants to get married,
but a man too who wants to get married, if they can't find does it mean that they're their faith is
incomplete? No, it doesn't mean that marriage completes face. And it helps a great deal to become a
better Muslim, a better believer, but it doesn't mean that if somebody is not married, their faith
		
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			is is short. Go ahead.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Brothers and sisters, unfortunately we run out of time, but before we wrap it up, remember that
		
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			the Prophet sallallahu Sallam discuss with his companions on obviously with all of us, in many
narrations in many a hadith in many locations, and in many occasions, the rights of the women and
the command of treating kindly one's wife, being gentle with her being kind to her. Inshallah, in
the following episodes, we will deal with some of the very interesting Hadith in this regard. Until
then, I leave you all in the care of Allah. Apolo Kohli had our stuff for Allahu Allah calm or Salah
Allahu ala Sayidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam, Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi
Wabarakatuh
		
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			have a
		
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			love of God is the greatest
		
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			glory to Him. He
		
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			has to be the best and gave his best religion to allah God has been greatest
		
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			glory to Him.
		
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			It used to be the best and gave his religion to them so why did they know that forgiving God about
and in paradise? We're shipping comes fire and stones sending letters to the cheapest
		
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			day ignore that forgetting all about bad guys are shipping cars fire and stoves selling their best
were the cheapest