Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari – Seven Important Advices for University Students

Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari
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The importance of learning and pursuing education in Islam is emphasized, along with the need to change one's intentions to serve humanity and create a love for humanity. The segment also touches on the natural value of time and the natural war of words of lust. The importance of maintaining good etiquette and finding passionate individuals to help others become good Muslims is emphasized, along with the need to act in a way that represents the true Islamic teachings and not be a Muslim.

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			especially two brothers and sisters, first of all, hamdulillah all praise is for our Lord and our
Creator. Allahu Allah subhanho data. It's an honor to be here today with you.
		
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			at Liverpool University, I just realized that there are two major both a major right to major
universities in Liverpool.
		
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			For me, Liverpool, I've hardly been here. It's really far. I'm from Leicester, you guys are talking
about Liverpool, Manchester, there's a place called Leicester as well if by the way.
		
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			For me, Liverpool, I haven't been here much. I think once before. This is the first time I should
have speaking here anywhere in Liverpool.
		
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			I've known Liverpool for like during the brothers said for the famous football club. Well two famous
football teams. They say there's two major football teams in Liverpool one is Liverpool and the
other is Liverpool reserves. So
		
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			it's good to be here and it's quite ironic that I've come to Liverpool on a day where the football
club is at the High Court in London
		
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			for a battle on ownership affairs or whatever but anyway, inshallah I'm I want to time is very short
with you, I want to what I want to do is just share 123467 points that I thought might be beneficial
for all of us here today for students who are beginners who have just come and the older students as
well. Six, seven points. These are just random points. So I don't have a specific topic or a theme
that I'm going to follow. These are seven random points and topics that I think are very important
in sha Allah and Allah grant me that oh feel the ability, the divine tofield to say that which is
beneficial for myself on board a few inshallah Tada Hamdulillah, all of us and all of you you've
		
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			come here for a purpose. You have come here to study, you've come here to seek some knowledge.
You've come here to seek education and knowledge and we as Muslims, right and even non Muslims but
Muslims in Islam, Allah Allah subhanho wa Taala the Quran and Sunnah places a great deal of emphasis
on education on knowledge, religious knowledge, sacred knowledge as well as secular knowledge. When
Allah says in the Quran, called HAL yesterday Latina yada, yada yada moon can those who have
knowledge be equal to those who do not have knowledge. The scholars explained the commentators of
the Quran that this is not restricted to sacred knowledge. This also includes in it secular
		
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			knowledge, so Islam greatly emphasizes greatly emphasizes and encourages Muslims to educate
themselves to seek knowledge to do something worthwhile in their lives and serve humanity and serve
human beings. Medicine is one of the greatest of sciences that Muslims have considered to be one of
the greatest of sciences, one of the great Imams and I just discovered as well that many of you are
medics or studying medicine, Imam Masha Allah, the Allahu anhu, one of the great Imams of this
ummah, he said, I rarely more element element appealing at the end while Matabeleland done. Sciences
worth studying are really only two he said irlam will fulfill at the end the science of religion,
		
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			the science of faith, which deals with your next life and will remotely believed to be done and the
science of medicine which is which caters for your body. So Islam places a great deal of emphasis on
medicine on on wherever you're studying in sha Allah. But the first point that I want to share with
you here is that in order for our studying in order for our coming to the University on a on a
regular basis, in order for us to gain the reward from our Lord and our Creator, Allah subhanaw
taala in order for us to be doing something that's rewarding
		
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			Woody in the sight of Allah we have to do something which is very important, which is does he who
need and that's the first point and I really urge you if you can make note of make note of these few
points which are Allah as a reminder for the future Imam Shafi also said a little more side on Al
Kitab to piden knowledge is something that you hunt for and then to to to capture that knowledge you
have to write it down. So, first point is this Hey, hernia correcting correction of one's intention.
Correcting one's intention is actually very important Islam one of the greatest thing a Muslim has a
weapon. If you look at the Hadith books, if you look at all the collections of Hadith started in
		
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			from sahih al Bukhari and most of them the majority of them, they start with a famous Hadith, the
saying the tradition of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam peace and blessings be
upon him. He says, enamel armor lupini Roubini. Yet, very early indeed, actions are by the
intention, if somebody has a righteous intention behind a worldly act, then he gains or she gains
the reward of that, which means that you see whatever we do in this life, even regular mundane
activities for a Muslim eating, drinking, sleeping, conversing, interacting, studying, coming to the
university also becomes an act of very birder becomes an act of worship, you actually getting a
		
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			reward for coming and studying here, but the condition is, your intention has to be correct. You
have to change your perspective. You have to change your intention. You're gonna come here on study
anyway, for a Muslim getting a career pursuing a career, and having a career and getting a job and
earning money and having some wealth is a secondary objective. It's not it's nevertheless it is a
objective. I'm not saying completely overlook that, but it's a secondary, secondary objective. The
first and foremost objective for a Muslim is to please his or her Lord Allah subhana wa Tada. And
what intention should you have like the brother mentioned the Hadith, man I read, I think you
		
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			mentioned it, I read it in in that program. Note that you have students guide manifester, there's a
hadith of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa salam in Asahiyama Muslim manifesto and Muslim
in corbetta Min corabi duniya Cara nafas Allahu Anhu corbetta and for yarmulke, Yama whoever
alleviates whoever removes a difficulty a hardship for from a Muslim and this does not mean only
Muslims it's not restricted to only Muslims. In this particular Hadith Muslim has been mentioned.
But if you look at Islamic literature, all the scholars say generally all the Hadith, unless
otherwise proven when the messenger of Allah peace and blessings be upon you when he says whoever
		
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			does not harm a Muslim, Muslim Muslim, it's because at that time, he was only discussing and talking
and focusing on the Muslims and they had the Muslim community and Muslims amongst themselves. Right
so this is not restricted to the Muslims only whoever alleviates anything from anyone any hardship,
any difficulty. Well, Allah houfy O'Neill.
		
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			This is another Hadith wala houfy O'Neill, McKenna argh to VR O'Neill, He, Allah remains in the
assistance of his slave as long as the slave is in the assistance of his fellow brother or sister.
So this is the intention. You will come here and study anyway change your perspective. You're
studying medicine, why am I studying medicine or whatever you're studying, I want to serve humanity.
I want to do something positive in the community. I want to help the creation of Allah who subhanaw
taala in the mental health and this only happens brothers and sisters, this only comes about if we
have mercy in our hearts, love and mercy only happens and we have to have mercy that hadith in the
		
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			Sunnah enough, remember, Buddha would a Rashi Moon your hammer homearama hammelmann will order your
Henkelman for summer have mercy on this hadith is quite ironic because it doesn't say Have mercy on
the Muslims Iroha movement will erode have mercy on the people on the earth, the one in the heavens
which Allah subhanaw taala not literally speaking, Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala will have mercy on
you. So this is what we need to create that love that affection. And with that it will result in us
wanting to serve humanity wanting to do something for the creation of Allah, Be positive, do
something positive in the society in the community. So you have to change your intention. That's the
		
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			first point and those of you who have not, Inshallah, I hope everybody has that kind of intention.
But if you don't, then right now, at this moment in time, look down in your hearts and say okay,
from this minute, what time is it? A 31 in my
		
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			My clock you're watching right now make intention that okay oh Allah. Remember, intention is so
easy. It doesn't require any role for any money. You don't have to spend anything. It's a near to
armor, caliber, you don't even have to say it verbally, it's in the heart. It's in the heart, you
don't have to even speak it and say it verbally. Just think to yourself that my perspective is I
want to please Allah, I want to become a medic, a doctor, for example. Why? Because in sha Allah, I
want to help and assist if i As long as I am in the assistance and help of others, Allah will help
me and this is a Muslim, a Muslim duty does not end with his duty towards his Lord. It goes far
		
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			beyond that a Muslims duty and responsibility is that he fulfills the rights of his Lord, and also
the he fulfills or she fulfills the rights of his fellow human beings. So change your perspective,
change your intention. And wherever you will do even coming everyday traveling, and commuting
weekly, daily, to the university will become an act of arriba that just imagine, just imagine you
take you catch the train,
		
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			and you're traveling. And that's an act of Obeida Subhanallah or a beautiful religion. You take a
taxi you've taken you've paid some money, you've taken a taxi, you've come here, that spending of
money will be an act of very bad, it's charity, just because of that perspective, that you've
changed the intention that you've corrected. The spirit who near Imam Abdullah who rubato one of the
great Imams of the Ummah, he said Obama in Saline, took a bit of who Nia were Obama in Kabir into a
little Nia, sometimes an action outwardly it sounds it seems very minut very small, robot marine
civilian, but the intention behind it makes it huge in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala we're up
		
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			the armor incubating. And the opposite is also true. Sometimes we outwardly externally an act may be
a great act of murder, you probably spending 60,000 pounds and giving a donation of 50,000 pounds to
a charity. But the intention behind it, it's small. So Allah will make that act extremely small. On
the Day of Judgment, the armor the near the intention has a great role to play. So that's the first
point to Sharla. Point number two these are remember seven, seven, as I said seven random points.
		
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			Point number two.
		
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			What's the first point
		
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			going speak? What's the first point you already forgotten? First point was first point.
		
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			I'll ask you at the end, inshallah. That's easy to remember correction of intention. Point number
two.
		
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			Don't come here and waste your time and I'm sure you won't be wasting your time you need to work
hard Islamically again, a Muslim wherever she or he does, right. A Muslim a believer has to put in
the effort work hard, try their best and become an expert in the field that they are in. You have to
be an expert you need to try to work hard you need to try to aim for the best you know number two is
is not good enough. And this is very important. Like there's a hadith and this is a sound Hadith in
the Sunnah for Imam Abu Dawood and this is specifically relating to medics, but you can generalize
it the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he actually said a Umar Julian Baba Baba, any
		
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			person any individual who like studied and he became a medic, and he
		
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			got a bit of education in terms of medicine. Baba Baba, he is not really a Khabib he's not really
qualified. He's not really someone who's an expert in his field. But yeah, he studied medicine. He
didn't really work hard. He's not qualified enough. He's not a good enough doctor because every time
you go to him he's giving you a paracetamol. You know, every time some doctors the only thing you've
got paracetamol, paracetamol
		
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			okay. I mean, we used to have a doctor that just got fired, by the way, but anyway, he's a qualified
doctor. And so this this hadith is saying someone originally in Baba Baba, he's not really
qualified, he didn't work hard. And then for another for who will bomb in this is a sound Hadith and
he starts practicing medicine and he starts prescribing medicine and then if he makes a mistake for
another, for who alarming he will be held responsible, not just in the next life, even in this life
in a norm in Muslim country in when you have Islamic laws. There's actually laws that govern the
practice the malpractice of offer a doctor that you have to there's compensation, there's penalty,
		
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			there's expiation, so you have to work hard, you become experts in whatever
		
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			field you're in you need to help and serve the Muslim community you need to serve the general wider
community. So be experts work hard, put in the effort in sha Allah, Allah. Number three point number
three and this is relating to point number two is to value your time time is precious, especially at
this age. Halla. It's just it's unique, it's the most important time for a human being when they are
in their late teens, early 20s, mid 20s from about 18 to 30. It's the prime time of your life it's
make or break of your life. You know value time the Hadith in Sahih al Bukhari the messenger of God
sal Allahu Allahu wa salam, peace and blessings be upon him. What did he say? He said, Now I'm
		
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			attorney Maha Boone and female cathedral Mina NUS there are two bounties two gifts that Allah
bestows upon every human but more Boone Fiamma cathedral Mina nurse most of the most people, the
majority of the people, they are deluded, they are deceived, they are deluded, they neglect these
two, while they overlook them. They take them for granted. Number one, health health is a great
network right now Al Hamdulillah we all help you a walking you don't realize the importance of
health unless ALLAH forbid something goes wrong.
		
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			Right and number two alpha time when you when you have time, we don't appreciate the great Nerima
time is so precious for a Muslim Allah takes old by the time in the Quran well acid hold surah you
know in the last juice of the Quran, the last chapter will last only in an insert and a few horsell
by time very humanities in last time when Allah takes a oath buy something this means that that
particular thing or item is great in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala so value time time is like
gold locked together like this got some of them said time is like gold but the one who actually
appreciates it. Don't waste time don't spend you know your evenings just going to a shisha coffee
		
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			and having shirts for three hours. Come on, you know your students don't do that. It's another
debate whether it's halal or haram, I don't want to talk about that. But students don't do that. You
know, you have a you have a
		
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			you have an objective in life, you have a purpose in life, you're not one of those, we are not one
of those who waste our precious time in futile activities. Every minute, it's like spend a minute
you know, some of the scholars like one of my teachers used to say chakra with murder used to say
that, you know, when you time spend it, like at least one pound one minute is like a pound. So if
you want to give somebody one minute, you know, think one pound out how careful Are we one pound, we
won't just throw one pound away just like that we'll think is it really worthwhile giving us pound
for this thing in return? Likewise, is it worthwhile doing this particular form of action or
		
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			activity in this particular minute, every minute, every minute should be valuable. So appreciate
time, value it and utilize it in the best of ways. Number four, and this is very important. I'm
going to be frank on this point, but you know, has to be said
		
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			point number four. We are studying in a university Alhamdulillah there's no it's great.
		
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			But
		
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			the challenges in studying in a place like this are great for sisters and four brothers. Allah Allah
subhanho wa Taala our Lord and our Creator has created us with natural ones, natural desires,
natural desires, you know we have all human beings have been created with natural characteristics,
attributes and desires and these natural
		
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			desires within ourselves. We have anger Allah created anger, right anger, anger, the messenger
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, a companion came soon and said O Messenger of Allah rasool Allah oseni
whoa just give me advice give me see how making short is a lotta hold up. Don't get angry. Second
time he came and he asked him the question is Allah Takada third time so don't get angry. Now anger
as you know, it's evil and we should not be angry we should try to control our anger. But yet Allah
subhanaw taala still created anger within us. Why? There is a wisdom that is a Hekmat there's a
reason for everything because there are certain times where you need to be angry. You have to be
		
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			angry certain times. You can't be a pacifist all the time. So there's a reason there's a wisdom
there's a Hikmah behind Allah creating these natural forces within ourselves. Likewise, there is a
very natural force a natural desire within the heart which is called lust.
		
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			It's natural. There's nothing wrong. There's nothing to be ashamed of, you know, someone has the
sexual desire or lust within herself or himself. You don't have to be shy. It's natural. It's just
like anger. Right? It's nothing absolutely sinful. And this is the Islamic approach. You see Islam
is a modern religion. Jana, come Omata Masato. It teaches everything in moderation. We have two
extremes. We have extreme to the right. And we have extreme to the left in certain faith communities
and classically And historically, they had this
		
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			approach that lust is evil, dirty, sinful, full stop. One of the deadliest sins, there is no right
way of fulfilling that lustful nature human being has, you can't get married, or you have this
bernia It's in the Quran, Allah says in surah bernia 30.
		
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			This is celibacy, or monoesters ism. With that, they marketed Nahata him they invented it, they
invented it, and introduced it upon themselves. We did not prescribe it on them. The hadith says
Lazzaro rota for Islam in the Sunnah Halima Budo. There is no celibacy in Islam. So Islam takes the
middle approach in certain faith communities, the extreme to the right is that see in order to
procreate in order to attain proximity to God Unto Allah, to become a righteous, devout saintly
human being to be a good person, you have to sacrifice everything which means control that's it,
there is no way of fulfilment of one's sexual desires, there is no way even eating should not be
		
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			like you're going to enjoy food right now in some communities, they had this understanding that you
can't even enjoy food eat only just for the basic need enjoyment is actually against the struggle
the muda the struggle that a human being does in order to gain proximity to his God. Whereas we have
another extreme on the other hand, which is in the present danger here that we see in terms of
fulfilling one's desire in any way shape or form, right there are no restrictions no conditions just
in any way shape or form you can fulfill this is a natural desire in any way shape, or form. When I
mean when I say in any way shape or form which means with whenever with whoever, I'm with whatever.
		
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			Nowadays it's whatever as well. It doesn't even have to be human being. But anyway, that's another
story. So in Islam, Islam takes a middle approach Islam says look, it's naturals brother it's
natural. You say you come to your university Islam paces rules. Allah says Allah Quran surah meno.
But if Lohan minuman Alladhina, homefield, Salah to him, her sheer own will Latina whom I allow him,
what are you doing? Well, Lavina, Whom does karate for you learn? And then Allah says, He's saying,
These are the individuals who are successful in this life on the next slide, even in this life
seriously, even in this life. It's McLaughlin's arm, a flat moon they are successful because if
		
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			someone controls and does what Allah Allah is saying right now, he has a steady life in this world
as well. And the next life of course, Alladhina homily for Raja him half moon, those who protect
preserve God, their modesty, the private parts, and generally the body from fulfilling the lustful
desires in an unlawful manner. And then Allah says, Illa Allah as regime only through marriage. This
is the middle approach that Islam takes Islam places laws, that outside of marriage, anything
lustful fulfillment, and the gratification of one's sexual desires and lustful desires is
prohibited. And lawful, sinful I know you say, you come here, you know, they this is a university
		
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			Come on. There's so much fitna here it's difficult How can you control this is what Islam says
control it. Allah says that look, anger is natural control it channel it used in the right place,
sexual lust and desire passion, it's natural, it's normal controller channel it, utilize it in the
halal way. The Halal way is through marriage and nothing else. Islam places, restrictions Allah says
Allah Takara boo Zina don't even come close to fornication, let alone fornication itself. La Takara
muezzin I don't even come close to it in the whole gun affair he show because it's evil, and was
Sybilla it opens the doors to other sins. This is the only middle way. So as I was saying, you say
		
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			you might say that it's there's so much fitna but seriously a brother and sister listen to this
carefully. Last is a dangerous it's a dangerous spiritual disease. You know, once a human being man
or woman. As I said, lust is not natural normal, but once they become the slaves of their lust, they
don't control it.
		
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			They don't channel it, they don't protect the modesty and God the modesty, then what happens? It's a
never ending. It's a never ending disease, you can never be satisfied. And this has been proven
		
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			medically as well. And it's proven through through research Islamically. Of course, it's a never
ending. One thing leads to another anyone who has this habit of fulfilling and gratifying their
sexual needs and urges in any way without any
		
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			Islamic legal moral restrictions. When they start becoming slaves to the lustful nature. There are
two important natures in the human being that contribute to a man committing crimes and sinning and
violating the obligations of his Lord. One is an auto Sherwani or the other is a quarter of adobea
the angry soul and the last full soul. I just couple of weeks ago had a whole course on the lustful
soul.
		
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			It's very important to learn about these things. Now once we become slaves, then this never ending
you might think, okay, you know, right now I'm young, let me just mess around when I get married,
when I'm 2829 when I'll get to know when I'll graduate and then I'll buy a property I'll get three
keys, job, car house, you know, and then when my family is ready, family will never be ready. I
mean, that's another problem with the families. Islam says marriage Yeah, Mushara Shabaab, no
messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Oh, young people get married because our God no little
buzzer it protects preserves your eyesight from from placing lustful gazes and God's your modesty.
		
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			But we live unfortunately, and this is for the parents we live unfortunately a time where marriages
are so difficult, the more we make marriage difficult to and it's not anything Islamic Islam says
marriage is so simple. One of the most simplest of activities you can do in Islam is marriage. It
literally takes seven seconds. You know, I counted the seconds once, seven seconds, even the whole
sermon is sunnah. You say I give myself to you. I accept you done? Anyone ready? No.
		
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			It's very simple. Seriously, it's it's so simple. It's the most and it's one of the most beautiful
acts. It's an act of very birder. Even the sexual relations between the spouses is an act of a bird
or a booty or honeycomb sadhaka. But we make it difficult for ourselves, our parents, our will, and
these old self imposed cultural customs, who says you can't marry while studying a university who
says 18 is too too young to get married, who says 21 is too young to get married. These are cultural
practices and customs until he this doesn't happen. That doesn't happen until my great granddad
doesn't come from Bangladesh or Pakistan or somewhere and they have to come and he has to come and
		
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			she has to come and until this is not done, he's restrictions and that's why the more we close the
doors for haram, the doors are halal. The more we do close the doors for halal, the doors of haram
open up. So we have to remember brothers. Look, you might say at the university, it's very
difficult. It's not a fitna, but as I was saying, once we become slaves to our lust, it becomes a
habit. And there are people who had I know personally who came to me and mentioned the situation
that they had
		
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			lustful desires before they were married, they had certain habits, it becomes a disease, it becomes
an addiction. And that's why recently in the wake of all these, you know, famous celebrities having
affairs, like you know, one was a footballer from here, but now it's gone to Manchester, you know.
And they're married. There are footballers and people who are married to have wives who, but still
they can't stop. Why is anything wrong with a wife? The wife is probably a mortal. They might be the
best looking woman in the world. Is there anything they need? They've got money, everything. Why? I
mean, in America, there was an there was a research done, that the most * was done in America, in
		
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			a country where sexual relations by consent, it's, it's, you know, if somebody wants to have sexual
relations with someone have a boyfriend, girlfriend, it's very easy. But the rate of * is far
greater than those countries where it's difficult to have an fornication and unlawful sexual
relations. Why? Because once you become addicted to this whole lustful area of your life, then
having * through consent no longer is enjoyable. You become bored now you want to try *, that
becomes boring. Visit prostitution, prostitutes, that becomes boring. And that's why people get into
this lustful diseases. And I'll tell you one thing brothers and sisters, once you get a habit, don't
		
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			think oh, I'm young. I sewed myself out once you get married because seriously, you
		
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			If you have habits before marriage, you will be 69 years old and that habit will still still remain
with you. I personally know an old man came to me and sorry for being frank I know it's brothers and
sisters here. I won't mention the the problem he had but it said it's a disease he said I started
this evil habit at the age of 16. And I'm 66 and I'm still trying to stop but I cannot stop and I'm
married have children I have grandchildren. So don't think before marriage Yes, you know it's okay
you know what's once you get this habit of one girl and this next girlfriend, one boyfriend next
boyfriend, it just carries on and sisters as well don't take it for granted. You know? Oh brother
		
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			comes to you. He looks nice smart. He's He's like a bit like a share whatever. Or he's very
distressed well and everything. And he promises your marriage because you know what? 99% of the
time, he's not going to marry you. He's going to leave you in the loop. Are you going to be your
your feelings will be hurt. It's just it's a it's a you know, it's a bad situation. So don't think
about marriage because relationships before marriage do not work. The Hadith. Lung thoroughly
limiter have been a myth. Monica, Allah places baraka and blessings in a union that is through
marriage before marriage, it's not going to work. And remember another thing as well that if you
		
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			think that, okay, we want to marry all the behavior before marriage is artificial. The brother is
going to dress well and see you Okay, I'll see you on Friday. Okay, we'll go to the restaurant. I
don't know if you have any good restaurants here. You may do. And then he'll take you there and
Okay, you go into the taxi, and then it's raining ticket, you feeling cold and cookie, take his
jacket off, and he insists to being cold. And you go into the restaurant. And you know, he'll pull
the chair out sit down system and this and that. After six years of marriage is going to do the same
thing. I doubt it.
		
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			Seriously, it's all artificial. It's not artificial behavior. Once you get accustomed to that, and
then you get married. And if it's not like that anymore, then it's going to hit you hard. So don't
go through because it's just artificial dating before marriage never works. You know, you say you
want to get to know someone you can never get to know someone because you're not living with them.
You're not paying the bills together. You're not changing the nappies of your babies. You're not
going to Asda and Tesco and Sainsbury's with them. There are no responsibilities. It's just
artificial. It's just one of you can never get to know anybody do it right fully properly.
		
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			Islamically find out everything about the person potential spouse, then do hello Annika and and then
you shall Allah bless you. And if you say it's very difficult, I'll tell you one thing if if you
think it's very difficult because there's so much faith in Islam says, even protect your eyes,
lustful gazes even not just in Islam, even in Christianity, read the Bible. Jesus peace be upon him.
He said. Casting lustful gazes are the opposite gender is one of the greatest of evils and sins can
lustful gazes. I'm not talking about just normal gays, lust with lust with sexual desire. It's a sin
in Christianity and maybe in Judaism as well. And in Islam, Allah says in the Quran, meaning your
		
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			old domain of sorry him pulling them up minute here, although determined upside hinder, tell the
believing men and women. Lower your gazes. Do not cast lustful gazes are the opposite gender. For
sisters Allah said in the Quran, Farah Tadanobu Cole, don't be soft in your conversation. You know
when you talk with someone of the opposite gender This is specifically directly directed to the
sister Allah says in the Quran for the Tahoe Darna will code Don't be seductive and soft in the tone
in the manner that you speak with someone don't say Is brother Hello, I don't know do all that kind
of stuff for
		
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			him, because the one who's got diseases in his heart will be inclined. When this verse of the Quran
was revealed some of the female companions of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
they used to intentionally deliberately roughened their voices they should speak in a rough tone.
Yeah, brother What's wrong
		
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			so that he doesn't get attracted. This is important this is these are all rules because remember,
sight aside the way you talk flirtatious Phillip flirtatious a conversation, one thing leads to
another one thing leads to another then before you know it, you'll end up somewhere between you're
not supposed to be ending up. So anyway, these are some things even if this fitna, you have to
control it. This is a test. You know there are sisters that are brothers we live in a community but
we have to test who could a story of use of Joseph peace be upon him out of his Salah to have done
it asleep. In the Quran. Allah says he was seduced. What I wanted to let you who have EBT or not say
		
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			she blocked the doors, you know the story, there's no time and he What did he do? He controlled and
he protected himself. He ran to the doors. The doors were bolted unlocked, he still ran because what
was in his capacity was to run to the doors. The doors even though he knew were locked, but it was
then Allah Who opened the doors for him so we have to control ourselves. Just imagine
		
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			You know, we say Oh, I can't control my eyes I like looking at beautiful you know, look at the
lights look at the creation of Allah look at you know there are only two restrictions on the eyes
okay and I know time is short I'm going to try to conclude in the next 10 minutes
		
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			there's only two conditions on the two restrictions in Islam on the eyes only to Allah has blessed
us this is a near ama imagine for one moment
		
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			you know just close your eyes and think sometimes you should think like that close your eyes and
think, imagine Allah forbid if I never had a sight. Imagine Allah took away Allah forbid nakodar
Allah if Allah took away the eyesight, and then he said to us, I'll give your eyesight back one
condition Don't look at anyone lustfully wouldn't you be would you say Oh, it's too much vitznau No
Allah, you know, it's too difficult.
		
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			There's no excuse. Think of it like that. There's no excuse. So
		
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			this is very important. There's only two restrictions on the eyes. Allah has blessed us this man
with these beautiful eyes. You know, it's an amazing Nirma you can utilize these eyes in any way
shape or form. Look at the beautiful scenery. Look at the heavens, look at the skies. Look at
everything around you use your eyes to help you in your life but two conditions. One is do not look
at anyone less fully simple, just two conditions and the other one is do not look at anyone with
contempt. That's another rule that you look down upon someone and you think yourself to be superior
and others to be inferior. Anyway, moving quickly. So that that was number three point number sorry,
		
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			number
		
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			1234. What number was that? Four, five number five. Okay, again we live we are studying at the
university. We have Muslims around us we have non Muslims around at Islam places a lot of importance
on maintaining general etiquettes and other being courteous and cordial in one's relationship with
others. The Messenger of Allah again in a hadith sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, the Muslim
movement Saleemul Muslim owned me Listen, he waited to hit the believer. The perfect believer is the
one from whose hands and his mouth others are preserved, safeguarded and protected. Which means that
we must live a life inside University outside university in a way that no one and I mean when I say
		
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			no one, no Muslim, non Muslim human being and or even an animal is harmed by what we do, or what we
say, physically or verbally. That's the meaning of this hadith. We have to ensure when we're
studying here, we don't we don't hurt other people. We don't harm any people. The way we talk. It's
full of etiquettes. It's either we have the perfect example for us in the messenger of allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, lumea Cooney, Nabil sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for Hishon what would
have a Haitian Wallah? Sahaba and Phyllis swap with a footman, whatever illegal the messenger
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was never fouled mouth he was new would never curse anyone. He would
		
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			never be harsh hearted. He would never be aggressive. He would be kind of alien, a nurse who had his
own body he was the most he was the softest of individuals, the most tender of individuals gonna
summon the Hulk and he was he would always smile, he would always laugh, the hadith of our Dadar of
the Allahu Anhu or the Hadith of Jellybean Abdullah Al bedgebury, where he says, Maharaja Bernier
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Mundo Islam to wallarah Ernie Electabuzz some of you watch he
never did the messenger. SallAllahu Allinson see me Never did I greet him, except that he had a
smile in his face. It's a sunnah of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi salam so maintain good
		
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			Islamic etiquette. It's very important. Seriously Brothers is very important and we you know, the
messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sent by Allah Azza Rama has a mercy warmer or Salah que la
Rahmatullah al Amin. And this is the Quran and there's a hadith where the messenger SallAllahu Allah
it's a beautiful he's one of my favorite Hadith the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in
one Hadith, he says boo to mutton move the dirt. I have been sent to you as a mercy
		
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			as a gift I've been sent as a Mercy given as a gift to you. Amazing Hadith which means that there is
a gift that Allah is the worship Allah is the giver of the gift. We are the recipients of the gift,
the Messenger of God sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam is the gift, this is his his full of mercy and we
have a responsibility brothers and sisters to to
		
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			spread that Rama and and mercy of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to the rest of humanity,
our actions unfortunately, you know sometimes some of the non Muslims they are not to blame. They
see our actions and they are pulled away from Islam because they see Islam through the Muslims.
		
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			For many of the non Muslims, they will not turn straight away to the Quran. Let me read the book,
the Quran or the Hadith Buhari. What does Islam say for them Islam is what Muslims are. For them
Islam is what we do. So it's our responsibilities or duties specifically in universities, it's a
great duty, that we act in a way that represents the true Islamic teachings, the character of the
messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa early he was, he was salam. You know, in the Quran, Allah
says, that be good, cordial and courteous to
		
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			Jerusalem, Jerry, the
		
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			Asahi, Belgium, that there are three types of people, Allah says, your next door neighbor, be
extremely careful of his rights, or Sahibi bill, jump
		
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			your next door neighbor, and the neighbor in your community. And the third person is the one with
whom you have occasional companionship, your use, you're standing in a line, the one above ahead of
you, the one behind you, their rights, don't do anything that will harm them. You're studying at the
university, your fellow student don't do anything that will harm them. Show the good character of
Islam. You know, there was a chef who was saying that once he he met a person who had recently this
is quite unfortunate, recently accepted Islam, a river brother and he asked him he said, what
brought you to Islam? What was the reason? Why did you into what had a war impacted you? What was
		
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			the main cause that contributed to your embracing and acceptance of Islam? Was it your Islamic
society? Was it the brothers or the Islamic society who mashallah, you know, did a lot of good and
presented the true nature of Islam to you? And were you impressed by the Muslims at your university?
You know what his response was? And this is really serious, because we need to think about this. You
know what he said? He said, Alhamdulillah, all thanks to Allah that I met Islam before I met the
Muslims. Had I met the Muslims before Islam, I wouldn't have been a Muslim today.
		
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			Imagine how serious this is. We are becoming barriers for people coming into this beautiful religion
of Allah. We have to we have to show the true nature of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam be
like the Companions be like the followers of the companions, one of the great Imams of this ummah
and I'm concluding his name was Imam Mohammed Abdullah Hassan che Bernie, a great Imam of this ummah
may Allah be pleased with them he was living in a neighborhood where there were a lot of non Muslims
he
		
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			he was living next to a Jewish person his next door neighbor was a Jew when that Jew
		
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			in intended to leave the locality and the community he put his house on sale somebody came to view
the property and he wanted to purchase this property the price was double says What's wrong what's
what's up with you you know the price it's double said yes double one price for the property the
second price is because of living next to this great Muslim Imam Muhammad Abdul Hassan This is how
Muslims should be this is how Muslims are. Now when you when you leave the university, even the non
Muslims people around you, they think to themselves you know we're missing we're gonna miss you, you
know you will a source of great good in, in, in our community in our society. So really try to try
		
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			to maintain the Islamic etiquettes and there are numerous advocates of how to converse with people
that are books written in terms of conversation, how to listen attentively how to have a
compensation, how to meet, how to greet How to Host how to be a guest how to visit the ill and sick
how to go and alleviate someone's distress and difficulty how to offer your condolences. There are
rules study them in sha Allah. Point number six and seven very short number six is try to have good
company stay in good company remain in good company Allah says yeah, you're letting me know Takala
well Kulu Masada can try to remain with the righteous people, especially if you yourself you're not
		
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			sound and grounded in your personal Islamic practice. Then try to be around those people in sha
Allah who will help you who will make you a better human being who will make you a better Muslim.
		
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			And number seven, and the last point is very important as well and was alluded to by the one of the
brothers is and you have a lot of courses here seek sacred Islamic knowledge, the messenger of allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the hadith of sunnah Halima Bienvenue Murgia he says, Follow me for
your birthstone at Aquila Muslim in seeking of knowledge as an obligation upon every Muslim which
means
		
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			means that basic knowledge, basic knowledge is an obligation you have, you have the extensive
knowledge which is followed Keifa, which is the knowledge that is deep. And that's the
responsibility of the scholars but you have basic knowledge, every Muslim, male or female must
obtain the basic knowledge of Islam. You must learn how to pray, how to purify yourselves, you know,
you can have any degree in the world you can be the greatest of doctors in the world. But if you
have not learned how to pray, then it's of no consequence in the sight of Allah. Really, you know, I
talked about intention, you can have the greatest of intention, and you could do a world of good in
		
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			the world but for a Muslim, if you don't know how to pray, you don't know how to perform will do.
You don't know how to perform to mom also, you don't know the rules of Tahara, of purification of
zakat of of the other aspects of Islam, then it's of no consequence in the sight of Allah seek
knowledge. You have a lot of classes here taking place like the brother, Chef Ibrahim, one of my
good friends, may Allah preserve him and give him a good rank and higher rank and may Allah give you
the ability to take benefit from him and the others who come here study the Religious Sciences, not
don't study to argue and have debates, study to be become better Muslims to worship Allah to
		
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			recognize Allah to fulfill the rights of Allah and fulfill the rights of fellow human beings in sha
Allah Who to add and learn specifically Lastly, finally, finally, it says absolute final, and learn
the laws related to your particular area of expertise. If you are a medic, learn the laws of Islam
and medicine. Because Islam has laws in every area, every field, there are laws, right? And I mean
and Hamdulillah I know in London, there's actually
		
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			some of the university students have actually set up a an organization where they will focus
primarily on medical students to
		
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			offer courses in terms of them learning about the various Islamic laws relating to all the medical
issues like because there are laws connected to birth control, abortion, cosmetic surgery, organ
transplantation blood transfusion about life support machines, about euthanasia There are loads so
if you're in medicine, learn about all of these things because you can't be a practicing Muslim
Doctor unless you know the laws of Islam relating to your field if you're becoming a lawyer or a
barrister or a solicitor the learn the laws of Islam relating to your particular field and your
particular area in sha Allah Tada so these are seven points and I apologize for going over time but
		
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			before I finish I want somebody to mention all the seven points to me go on fire away.
		
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			Okay, all of you point number one
		
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			correcting of intention number two
		
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			number two
		
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			okay, don't waste time value your time I mentioned that three but Hi no problem no problem no
problem that's number two number three
		
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			sorry
		
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			yeah work hard be experts excel in your studies number three number four
		
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			sorry
		
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			some kind of you're sorry
		
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			yeah control your passions your desires and you know ensure you avoid sins generally all sins number
five
		
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			C'mon should have a better memory than that number five.
		
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			Anyone?
		
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			Sorry
		
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			Look, no that was part of number four. Yeah be Jazak Allah hi to be courteous mashallah maintain
edit number six
		
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			remain in good company I'll help you remain in good company. surround yourselves with good people
inshallah that is a mean by the way not to have any sort of interaction connection with a sinful
people or someone who's not practicing Islam. How will the villa Villa that's not what Islam says
this is actually a very important point. That doesn't mean that I don't mean that for one moment. We
have to try to help others to become good human beings and good Muslims. But if you're not grounded
in your practice on Islam, it always helps to have good companies so that your support to for one
another and number seven, the last point
		
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			learn about Inshallah, seek knowledge seek sacred Islamic knowledge, learn about the rules of Islam
Inshallah, specifically relating to your particular area of expertise in sha Allah. And with this I
pray Allah grant me that tofield all of inshallah Kula Korea that was tougher Allah wa sallahu wa
salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.