Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari – Marriage – Deen Vs Culture Part 4

			The most beautiful religion, the most peaceful religion you find inner peace within yourself. You'll
be away from all the depressions and all the distractions of the world that doesn't mean that you
won't go through any trials and tribulations of course you would. That's part of being a human
being. Even the messengers of Allah peace be upon them all of them they went through more trials and
tribulations than us. But there'll be some other type of inner peace that you will gain that you
cannot get there in any money. You could have the best job and the best car but you won't get that
peace arena arena arena knifes the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Lisa loreena and
		

			Catherine, autumn, Rena, and real richness. being wealthy is not with a lot of objects and items and
wealth, you know, physical wealth in number Lavina when enough's real richness, and being wealthy is
the arena, the wealth of the heart, the richness of the heart, you could have a lot in terms of
		

			materialistic things, but if you don't have that peace and contentment of the heart, then there's no
no benefit. And there are people that are mega rich, no peace whatsoever, they don't have time to
eat, we sometimes eat you know, better food than them and relax. There are people who, you know,
have been, you know, just a few things to make ends meet but the type of sleep they go through. The
multimillionaire can have that kind of stuff. He's taking tablets, he has he's using his millions to
to take medication to sleep because he's got so much pressure on his head. And this person is just
got a house on rent and a small job there and he sleeps and snores like you know, never gonna wake
		

			up. wakes up 10 o'clock. That's what you want. That's what relaxation is in this world.
		

			That's that's the real peace. We have a simple life. You know where you you can pray your prayers
and, and you have a small house. It doesn't matter who wants the mansion is 670 years of life. You
want to spend all day and night set for 70 years of life. The next life is eternal. How many years
600 years 600 million years eternity, you're going to be there. The messenger sallallahu anusim said
Mr. leetonia could be called rebbeca ecovia wireman a heretic will be called rebbeca ecovia work for
you this life as long for as long as you're going to live here and work for your next life for as
long as you can live there. Look at the comparison 70 years now it is average 6065 ask the doctor
		

			few doctors medical experts so what's the average now is about 60 if you over 30 you're going
downhill I've said it a few times as long as you're going up like a log flume you know you know the
log from boat 2930 now it's going down and that's going to take a leap and when you become 31 you
don't become 31 you actually 29 you going back 2920 820-710-9876 54320 you get gone 60 years and it
goes like this
		

			you know people will talk about Millennium coming Do you remember some of you man email messages
coming you know there's somebody
		

			people like to get fascinated about these kind of things. You know that's another topic you know our
communities they love you know to thrive on you know like simple Oba Gina was named coming out from
it and you know sending text messages and some YouTube videos a woman's turned to lizard or Ebola. I
mean most of it's all hoax anyway. Seriously, we need to work doesn't make for us. Our Islam is so
strong that it will you know you can actually find 10 origins with hundreds of names of allies not
gonna change anything for me. That's how it emerged should be. Quran says Allah DNA the Toyota
Aileen hooser. To me mana minor, your Eman is increased by the recitation of the Quran not by seeing
		

			what was given and Obuchi.
		

			Don't get too fascinated about these things you know these things Okay, I'm gonna reserve is not
gonna make a difference too. Because tomorrow a Hindu might compensate or turn around in the
		

			Jews on this could happen. Anything could you know, like, you can allow you can just figure Anyway,
you know, it's like one brother See, I can see a lot on the cloud. I said I can see Chevron as well.
If you look at it this way.
		

			Yeah, if you looked at it that way you could actually live by it. So don't get too fascinated about
these things. Real for us. Islam is Quran and Sunnah line is no blood, blood messengers and a lower
incidence statements and practicing them. We are punctual in our prayers, they will make a
difference to us. So the first point to bring back
		

			that we become active Muslims. We make sure that Islam is not cultural. We're more Islamic than
being you know, practicing in our culture. Islam comes before over and above our own cultures. It's
we we practice Islam in a total way in a total manner. And we enter into Islam completely, totally,
as you know is there is no separation of church and state in Islam. This is the beauty of Islam.
There is no Islam is everywhere, at your workplace marriages at home
		

			You know you're walking on the road, or even driving a car, there are rules of Islam. Even when you
drive a car when you when you take a bus,
		

			you're a Muslim, you are a Muslim, when you are home, you're a Muslim. When you when you are working
in a factory, you're a Muslim, where you went, if you're at the school or college, or university
campus, you're a Muslim, you're a father, you're a Muslim. When you're, you know, mother, you're a
Muslim, when you're a son or a daughter, you're a Muslim, outside, inside, when you're driving a
car, you're on the London Underground tube network, wherever you are, you have to realize that I am
a Muslim. Islam doesn't stop once you come out of the masjid. Even at home, even when you're driving
a car, you're a Muslim. Okay, so we need to really realize this, and we need to enter Islam totally,
		

			completely. Now, in terms of marriage, you know, this is us thinking this guy's going and talking
about marriage. What's happening? Listen, this this topic is all about marriage. You know?
		

			What do you think things I really like this machine was beautiful love hearts and all sorts of
stuff. Though the brothers here probably I don't know,
		

			ancestors as well, maybe I don't come to find some potential spouses or what but
		

			marriage I mean, there are certain things in marriage. You know, I, as I said, I gave a talk and I
had made certain notes of that some some things that we have in you know, I just want to talk about
just three, four points
		

			about marriage and divorce.
		

			The first point,
		

			which is related to what I was just talking about this, what I just talked about right now was an
introduction really. Now, this first point regarding marriage is connected to the introduction. It
follows on from the introduction, which is that is in Islam, marriage is considered to be an act of
a bird.
		

			It's an act of a bird. It's an act of worshiping Allah,
		

			we have to realize marriage is not a normal, mundane worldly act. It's not like you know, I mean,
everything really becomes a bird if you do the right intention anyway, even driving a car can be an
act of a burden. But there are differences you know, you know, if historically there's there's two
types of actions, some things are act of a burden in of themselves, fee that you have enough car,
you know, you have you that in of itself, like Salah itself, it's an act of a burden,
		

			fasting itself, act of a bird, Zakat,
		

			in itself is an act of obedience. And yet there are two types of actions that a human being does.
		

			A Muslim does, some things are a bird, in of themselves, by nature, direct acts of a bird.
		

			And there are others. Other activities that we do, that can be potentially acts of a bird, but they
are not directly or they're not designed specifically exclusively, as I burdah but with your good
intention, Allah will make it into an active agbada so everything else in the world drinking you
know, drinking is right now. Water, I make intention. I'm drinking this water because this is the
bounty and gift a NEMA from Allah, I would thank Allah the energy you know and I will get in Sharla
speak more and inshallah I will benefit you benefit in a lot of waters. And so with that intention,
		

			Gauri would hamdulillah
		

			it's an activity but
		

			in a celerity, whoo Suki, Rama, Murthy, the letter of the item in everything we do, everything we do
is for Allah subhanho wa Taala. This is this is the nature of Islam. So everything you do in this
world, potentially even going and studying at the University, even taking a degree in law and
medicine. Medicine is a very good area to take a degree in. I mean, the Mr. Michel fear of the law
has to say an element element calculated here when we're done. Muslim is used to give a lot of
importance to medicine, and whatever degrees everything can potentially become an act of a bird.
Right? With the right intention, but there are two types of things some things they needed good
		

			intention to be made an act of ABA, they're not exclusively designed like this, drinking of water,
or driving a car or doing something while you're eating, drinking, things like that. But there are
other activities which are specifically exclusively designed as act of a bird. Like for example, I
just said some examples like Salah, Zakat, Hajj, Umrah, Torah, we emulate the herds Allah, things
like that.